Watching Porn - How Do I Make My Lying Husband Come Clean?

[redpeterable]

Fuck, the car accident that you guys were in where your heads got severely pounded must have been even worse than I first thought. You both need to stop drinking the drain cleaning fluid in those cocktail glasses and get heavily medicated by a world class psychiatrist. Until then, stay well away from the computer.

[sydbristowwannab]

This is a bunch of bull....dude, there is greater harm...my husband of ONE year would rather watch porn than have sex.

[jessicakennon]

Here's my question? WTF did men do when there was no porn around? When we didn't even have camera???Obviously that proves that men don't need porn to be pleased, but porn has only made them need it... MEN NEED SEX NOT PORN!

[Lachdenan]

Wow, Jennifer! You're so smart on this response! This is really spot-on. You are light years ahead of most of the fairer sex, and you've clearly put some unselfish thought into it. Now, to just find a woman this smart myself...

[axewound2008]

my girlfriend says she thinks im emotionally cheating on her if i watch porn shes 7months pregnant and wont give me sexshe says i should be fantazing about her

[aojolaifjoa]

@axewound2008 tell her if she wont give you a bj or the old fashioned hj that she needs to put up with it

[Envy3x111]

just let the poor man watch porn

[slutagada]

I bet her husband watches gay porn..

[Racefreak1976]

part 2: My wife is not bothered by me watching porn, since she either doesn't know or doesn't care. I'd say it's the latter.

Tell me honestly, would you rather find out, your man is cheating on you with some crackasswhore or find out he's jacking off now and then? What's worse really?

I was apologizing for my english, because it's not my first language.

[pintobeans77]

...one thing they would change about their wives. A ton of male callers called in and said, I wish my wife would look like someone new everyday! I suppose that is just a reality for most men and most women will have to understand that.Honestly, I am not sure which I prefer: a man cheating on me physically or what I feel is disrespecting me with the porn esp. if I told him that it bothers me and I am always ready for sex. I'm very big on respect after my horrendous experience so it's equally bad

[pintobeans77]

Last part: I understand that everyone makes mistakes so it's not like I am going to cut off his penis if I found him watching porn. It's only if he continues to hide it from me that it then becomes a problem. Men need to understand that women are stronger mentally than they think; there is no need to hide or lie. I think most of the lies comes from male insecurity, shame, or the male fearing that the women would leave them.

[lissethlopez100]

@Racefreak1976 i watch with him and play with sexs toys and still he cheat on me ,so tell me what was the point to do all this in the first place? : (

[pintobeans77]

EW, after rewatching this video after 4 months, these two are still skeevy and weird-looking. Just hearing them speak about the weather would make me want to take a shower because I just vomited all over myself.

[Racefreak1976]

Plus they're not even giving advice. At all. They're just talking nonsense if you ask me.

[rok30]

porn is not the problem

The women is insecure, and has a very low esteem issues.

Men see women everyday and use there imagination regardless...

So does he have wear blinders all day...

[gongchangdang]

THERE ARE FAR MORE HOTTER GIRLS ON xvporn dotcom

[ilw121608]

And pornstars are nasty ass whores with aids and ugly ass faces they really need to fucking get a life then this world would be a better place.

[ilw121608]

you say let him cause you're probably a porn star and you look like one so you wont get low self esteem when you see him watching that shit you're not helping this girl at all.

[Deathstar931]

you all are missing the point, they said according to the letter that was sent to them, SHE KNEW he was watching porn, the girl in the letter said that SHE DOESN't want him to go off and watch porn by himself, point being is that women need to accept that most men(90%) watch porn, and if you women Don't want us to continue after we are boyfriend/girlfriend BIG HINT...... TELL US THAT YOU DON'T LIKE US WATCHING PORN UNLESS WE WANT YOU TO LEAVE US.

[tenloginjestzajety]

This is idiotic.. if its causing PROBLEMS that means its not healthy.. The advice is CRAP.

OF COURSE she's jealous! I'm jealous too! He is fantasising about other women! And most porn actresses are nasty monsters with huge boobs and horrid faces. How can I be ok with my man being turned on by them? And he's not single, he doesn't have to wack off to THAT. He has me. And I'm not a prude, or ugly. I am not and never will be ok with my guy waching those nasty sluts and getting a boner!

[ilw121608]

THANK YOU. that is my exact problem and it hurts me a lot that he does that and he said he stopped but i don't know whether to believe him or not...and it makes me feel ugly...my self esteem is completely ruined... and he dosent care

[pintobeans77]

ilw121608, I know how you feel. My ex was into porn of every kind, straight porn, gay porn, group porn, granny porn, bondage, animal porn, etc. etc.  Makes me laugh now haha Anyway, he also stripped me of my self esteem but the truth is, you WILL get your self esteem back :) First, you have to kick that loser out of your life. A man who thinks porn is so trivial and won't give it up obviously do not care a rat's a** about you. I mean, they say it's a "small" thing but obviously its not.

[Racefreak1976]

@pintobeans77 I know you wrote this 4 month ago, but a man watching porn doesn't nessecarily(?) ruin a womans self esteem on purpose. If you let that happen to yourself, it's your own fault. Naturally men are built for spreading their genes as much as they can to ensure the survival of their genes. You should be fucking grateful that he's only watching porn. He could be cheating on you every day instead. With REAL women.

[pintobeans77]

Always the woman's fault LOL I'm 110% sure that you're a nasty male. I also bet that if your gf told you to stop jerking off to ugly porn stars because it made her feel inadequate, you'd say, "Better than doing real life chicks!" Wake up A*hole, you're too ugly to get real chicks. Also, do you not live in the 21st century where its drilled into a woman's head that she should look a certain way? Quit fueling the fire and making it worse for your gf (that is, if you even have one).

[Racefreak1976]

I'm sorry if I offended you. Wasn't my intention, honestly. You're right though, I am an asshole, but I'm far from being ugly, otherwise chicks on the street wouldn't flirt with me so regulary. And you're also right about me not having a girlfriend, because that would pretty much make my wife upset. Thank you for your response.

[pintobeans77]

Sorry, I realized that I was harsh after the fact. The blame game always irks me. I'm not entirely against porn. It works for some relationships. I am mainly against porn when one party feels devastated by it and the other person don't care. For some men, porn is way more important than the feelings of a supposed loved one and that's not right. If your wife is indeed bothered by your porn-watching, I'd refrain from saying, "you should be f-ing grateful its only porn and not a real woman!"

[Racefreak1976]

I didn't take any offense in your reply. In fact I can very well understand your feelings on this subject. My point was, and maybe I didn't make it clear enough, that you shouldn't let porn mess up your self esteem. I mean YOU are the real thing! And I'd prefer the real thing 100 times out of 100. But, a man sometimes just needs a different thing. Let's take my wife for example, she's totally hot and sexy and I love her, but there's something inside me that wants more. Sorry for the bad english

[pintobeans77]

Telling someone to not let porn mess up your self esteem is easier said than done.For me, it wasn't just porn but a cocktail of mental and physical abuse so maybe I'm really not one to speak about porn/self esteem. Though I have gotten 95% of myself back, I will probably never see porn as healthy in a marriage. It's interesting that you say that your wife is hot, sexy, and you love her yet sometimes you feel you want more. I was listening to a radio program once and they were asking men what....

[FitnessGuru1988]

@tenloginjestzajety Oh please, whether it's fantasizing over some fabio-esque stud from a sultry romantic novel or secretly lusting over the Orlando Blooms or Jude Laws of Hollywood, you will never convince me that there's not someone you secretly fantasize over briefly. The only difference between you & him is that you caught him. It's funny women think censoring their husbands & bf's is a solution but the reality is all they're doing is burning any possible future bridges to communication.

[iluvpie1223]

worst advice ever. thats just encourgeing the dude

[titoferni29]

The point is to reach out and break all inhibitions together.

[ethan199303]

that was horrid advice...

[ilw121608]

you mean i love touching my fake boobs?

And you're a whore so put your porn videos on redtube not fuckin facebook where freakin 11 year olds can see it you retarded cunt.

[PunkinPoo2]

Been there done that after a few years, he is even more Addicted to it then ever.When we 1st met and started a relationship, I did more First`s" with him then his other 2 wives I was into some Kinky crap, but I just NEVER,Ever relized how DEEP his Addiction went.He is addicted to everything almost. Smoking Drinking& Porn. It has eroded our Marriage as he rather Jack-Off to Porn then have real SEX with a woman who isn`t a Prude in any way.

[cipiamon]

why they never drink?

[bheibykoh08]

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[adobo143]

slam this tight lil ass =]?

[ominuka]

Who gives a crap what Dan and Jennifer says, screw them? They aren't the relationship experts you think they are. They are just normal people who regulate everything and numb you to the problems you face. By the way, I hope that Dan watches porn alone Jen, let's see how you feel about that. (she's prob screwing other guys anyway). Nice butt there Jen (I like those thighs).

[youroldgrandmadebbie]

Thanks for answering, but I'd have to say that if we'd had good times to fall back on, that would be different. When the whole relationship was based on a lie, there's nothing. He's been watching porn for over 30 years and had other addictions along the way. I'm gone now, and have left both of us to heal in our own ways. Thanks for your response.

[youroldgrandmadebbie]

My ex knew I had a bad sex history and married me without telling me he was a porn addict.I found our 5 years later. What it really means is the objectification of women.He transferred that into our lives,screwed me out of everything & broke every marriage vow and commitment.Porn is NOT innocent fun.Men are hardwired visually for sex and can become addicted to porn in as little as 3 viewings. Real relationships don't need porn. I'm no prude, but porn can ruin lives. I'm proof of that.

[DanAndJenn]

It it sounds to me like dishonesty and control ruined your relationship. He should have been honest about watching porn. And you should have accepted him for who he is. Love is unconditional - not, I'll love you if you become the person I want you to be.

While I agree that 'true addiction' can be difficult. Many people think that just because a man watches porn even when his wife tells him not to, that he's addicted. That's not the definition of addiction.

[pintobeans77]

Dan and Jenn suck at giving advice. So if you (DanAndJenn) say that when a man watches porn and his wife tells him not to, but he does...it doesn't mean he is addicted. True, that's not the definition of addiction. It just means that the guy is being a jerk because he does not care about the woman's feelings but his own. Porn HAS destroyed many relationships and it has made women insecure. Maybe porn works for you, but you guys aren't the poster couple.

[AdeathAiden]

Same problem here except my husband and I were married for 11 years. I ignored his porn for years and now I'm in trouble with DSS for letting this slide. Also, no matter what I tried, NOTHING worked to improve our sex life. Too much to list. I am also not a prude but have found out the hard way how destructive porn can become.

[crimson1923]

Hey, I say you go girl and watch some porn sites made by men for ladies to enjoy. Believe me, your man's not going to want to watch those with you. These guys are just way too much to compete with. I mean they are hot and they show all the right moves. Your guy's gonna want you to watch the "girlie porn stuff with him," but don't do it. Watch the porn designed for women and do it for you. After that, you won't care what your guy whacks off to. You won't even care if he's in the house.

[ravemachin]

if he's hiding to watch porn it's probably for 2 reasons..

1 Dan said it...he feels like he's doin something bad so he's hiding

2 he just want's to masturbate and orgasm and thats it...doesnt want to have sex for 1hr...he wants a quick release and go on with his day

[PrettyDoctor]

Yes! Girls should start watching porn themselves and then their men would jump on them so fast it wouldn't be funny. Amen to Dan's comment "any straight guy would be right on that."

There is this guy I like at school. I accidently let it slip that I like watching porn. Now he is always looking at me with this BIG GRIN on his face =)

I hope he asks me out soon...so we can start watching some porn together ;-)

[DeadlyChinchilla]

Porn is nothing, its like a toy. Some people can use them with their partner... some simply prefer to use them alone, or are embarrassed to bring them in with couples activities. Personal limitations like this are often 'built in' from a persons upbringing, and nagging about it will only cause nerves to fray. A persons natural tendencies in their 'private' time are not going to change... but also most often do not impact 'together' time. Just IMO.

[PunkinPoo2]

You are really Young or never been with someone "Addicted" to Porn, not only can it ruin marriages , but cost the person who is addicted a lot of mental problems and a whole lot of MONEY...

[rebellovin1989]

Thing about it is though There is not just boring sex you dont need porn to learn new moves you dont need porn to get him hard and if you do then you need a new man same as with the female if you need porn to get wet because your man just aint cuttin it Hunny stop lying to yourself and find you a differet man..

[DeadlyChinchilla]

Yeah... all my DIVORCED friends agree with you.

Picking on petty little things like watching porn is not "lying to yourself," its being overly controlling, plain and simple. If a woman can't tolerate a man having a little innocent, private fun for himself, then she definitely needs to rethink her priorities. How sad, that you'd give up a whole relationship because of something so small.

[PunkinPoo2]

You are a very stupid and blinded person, a little Porn is one theing , but being highly addicted to it is a very real destroyer of relationships & marriages. Wake Up!

[pintobeans77]

"How sad, that you'd give up a whole relationship because of something so small."

How sad that you can't give up something "so small" for a whole REAL relationship.

[mrnoobzor]

The internet is for porn!

[SmartBurro]

Bull. Of course it is about her. If he needs any other excitment then he needs to ask his lady for some different programs. If you have a chick then leave the porn. Gosh. Real woman compared to watching others do it. These people suck at giving advice.

[ORCA4312]

Real woman who says no most of the time, expects a whole production (dinner, movie, gift) as prelude to a standard missionary session, or locks you out entirely because didn't say "no" fast enough when she asks if she's getting fat.

Porn is a better option for many married men.

Believe it or not, sometimes the problem in the relationship is the woman's fault.

[PumpkinSmash]

AGREED!!

[PunkinPoo2]

I do agree on you with that, they really SUCK on the advice crap.Worse then Jerry Springer shows.

[bigdfevrier]

this is bad addvice. He shouldnt watch it at all. He is not satisfied with her or she cant please him the way porn does

[nissanR92CP]

i find that regular sex can get stale very fast, you know with the same old ruitines and all. look to BDSM and BONDAGE. trust me, things will get VEEEERY intresting.

[tlndofa]

sorry-addon ,join a network that filters/stops porn then he will speak up.i do have this

[tlndofa]

i think men who watch porno aint satisfide with what there got,no porn since i was a kid.when inloveit is horrible to watch your partner looking at others fukin.yuk if i my say...all are perverts with no lovin.

[700016597]

There are many men who pronohalic!

It becomes a social disease.

Quite frankly, men spending so much hours on computer enjoying popping up zits and the same time watching prono.

Yours truly

Philosopher Mac

[Praxxus55712]

Very good video! Most definitely if she tosses in a video and breaks out the toy.......and he walks in and sees this, I'm willing to be money he doesn't leave the room. Many guys enjoy porn because it's a fantasy they can enjoy without working to please anyone other than themselves. Plan it secretly sometime to let him walk in on a "Fantasy" starring you and he's gonna love it. Don't tell him in advance.......make it spontaneuous. :)

[gumpydoood]

IT IS ABOUT YOU. You have a stinky pussy. He watches it without you so he can jack off peacefully. If you would clean that stinky damned pussy, he would watch it with you & he would pump your puss. Your pussy stinks!

[AnonAmEye]

lol...

[smokesmoke18]

I agree it has nothing to do wirh anything she is doing, and although she is causing the secrecy,its making her more insecure..

so before making her feel worse and saying it sounds like she is jelous, its a big call to make with out having all the information to asess the situation.. Maybe he needs to take her insecurities into account, the best advice would be to tel her 2 tell him how it is making her feel and why, then through the power of Good ol communication they can sort through the prob

[mlcha2sq]

sound like a great way to start a roll playing game! with her being the master or just in control.

[DanAndJenn]

Great idea!

[Gearsofwarplayer17]

Dude i love porn lol i like your videos by the way their rele bitchin

[stevewondering]

All i can say is that i know that someone is having a good sex life

SCOOP

[ManandWifeTV]

watch the porn together!!!!!!!

SCOOP

[ProductPlacer]

All I can say is Dan is a lucky man.

[DanAndJenn]

:-)

[brunoreo]

great topic, good info!