Hmm then again I'm an ENFP male and It's hard being human in general so we should be grateful and aware that people got it worse than us. The perception of taking "anything" personal on an emotional level is the most self-deceiving belief that anyone could digest. And also ENFP the title itself comes from the outside-in which could be used as an identity enhancer we share the same kind of personality but not the same. So let's all use reasonable introspection to dig a little deeper. my 2cents
Thank you, thank you thank you! This was very enlightening. Specially the last part, about having to go in and out all of the time. That is exactly, 100% true. That's what made me think for some time I was an Introvert, since I need a lot of time alone to process and remain centered. Did you ever have the same issue? But I do get energized by being around people...if I spend a long time by myself I am tired all of the time. if I am out and about I feel my energy way up...
interesting, im an infj male(introverted intuition feeling judging) i feel that since i am introverted that i am confused as weird, and socially awkward(which im not) by the extroverts. so i think that us Fs have the ability to find the sensetivity and seriousness of an event or scenario. its stupid how us introverts are bullied by the Es because we are "different".
im an enfp male (only recently discovered this). currently trying to decide what to do with my life when i move back to england in 4 months time (have been teaching in japan)... really enjoyed this vid and gonna look at some of ur others... hopefully get an idea what to do next!!
I'm an ENTP and I find it hard discussing anything with an ENFP guy. No, wait, I find it excruciating and the argument will inevitably end with me calling him a hippie. An ENFP girl? Completely different. I love ENFP women and find them incredibly attractive and adorable, not to mention intelligent.
Yes, I did mention intelligent last and if you pretend like your offended by that, then all I ask is that you smack yourself or provide me your address so that I may do it for you. No charge. Anywho, great video hartpoet, and don't change that feeling part of you for anyone. It's a positive when you couple it with your intelligence and your beauty.
I'm glad that you posted these videoes. I was envious of ENFPs because I wished that I could be so charismatic and confident but I didn't bother to look deeper and I apologise to you guys for that. Your videos gave me a better insight into the ENFP personality. I didn't realise that you felt this way =( I apologise for just being envious and failingto understand that every type has their own insecurites and problems. Thank you for posting these :)
Hum. T and F are not strangers. While one seeks for correctness, the other seeks for fairness - and those oftenly overlap. For instance, in your example, you preferred to defer your judgement of someone in order to avoid being unfair. I experience the same, but because I might be incorrect.
@RafaelEnvoy Well, INTP and ENFP are both N's. For ENFPs usually the N-S difference feels more severe than the F-T because the dominant is intuition. hartpoet seems to be a strong F, though.
I'm an ENFP and I swear I live in my thoughts. I guess you could call me a day dreamer. I can't stand mundane tasks or conversations. I think this has been really hard for me to fit in with the "normal" moms but when I find people I can be myself around, I thrive and am the life of the party. What type of career field are you in? It's so hard to stick with just one!
Yeah careers can be tricky. Hehehe. I'm only 20 and I've had such diverse occupations; mostly where creativity and warmth merge: non franchised coffee shops, child care, special education, art, language, teaching. I hate the manipulation of retail and being a cog in a wheel. I would kill OVER if I was an accountant or bank teller. Especially because I have a weakness with numbers. You can't have it all for every strength there is a weakness! (Smile) I wish you the best my dear. :)
cheers for the sympathy for us ENFP guys (Y). it's weird cos sum of the stuff you say is the kind of stuff id pore out to my friends, and id be all confused when they didn't understand.
i went through 18 years of life not knowing about MBTI. it's so weird having people that i actually relate to. i almost don't know how to react cos im so used to keeping that part of me hidden.
@Tridentus thats it! That is what i was trying to put my finger on. I was saying in an earlier comment about how I feel that I never meet anyone like me and I can feel really alone because of this but then when I do meet another ENFP I don't really let them see me because its too much. Thanks for stating that.
Large groups are anathema to me, but I get the feeling we'd be able to start talking to each other as though we'd known each other for much longer, bypassing the bullshit - and I love that. I think the NF along with the E is great. ESxx, not so much (generalising).
But while you find it awkward to keep going in and out of yourself, I'm frustrated that I can't ever seem to GET out! ...despite caring for others and needing to stay true to myself etc. And being a male feeler. Heh. It's a fun life.
I have so much compassion for male nfs. I thought female INFPs were rare! Good gracious NF males are so incredibly rare I cannot find a fitting metaphor. So bravo that you are keeping yourself above water with knowledge and education about yourself. INFP guys really are magical in my opinion. Every guy I've fallen for hard has been an INFP and so rare that in all my extroverted excapades I only met two. They really are amazing to know and love.
Hey, I'm a male INFP, and the more I watch videos from people like yourselves, the more astonished I am both by our myriad similarities and our differences. One thing that's confusing for me, is that you say you are a party person, but you're also not one for social protocols and you're always in 'deep mode'. I must admit, I tend to think of partygoers as being somehow shallow, but it's great that people like you are out there.
Yeah, never assume. Life is critical with assumers. INFPs can come off as being a little ditsy because they immediatly are showing a weak side by external communication. I met a girl I thought was so ridiculously mindless but b/c she was in my faith I forced myself to associate with her. We got to her bf's house and we started talking and she BLEW ME AWAY. She was an INFP and she had a gift for writing that I couldn't touch!!! I was humbled. The mind will find what it wants so search and see.
Points well taken and I suppose I have already begun to realise that much myself. When people are just theories or stereotypes it's easy to to be too judgmental, but I usually treat people on an individual basis, anyway. I learnt a fair deal from an ENFP friend about how to maintain a social persona that still feels like myself.
I can be quite communicative, but feel that I still find it difficult to truly open up unless I feel an affinity with someone. It's too often that people aren't on my 'wavelength', or I theirs. I can also sound disillusioned or cynical, but my core remaints untainted. I think. Thanks for the kind words, and I hope you had a happy New Year. Head first into the future we shall plunge, it seems.
I've found the best way to use our emotions is to be open about them, and rely on them. A lot of ENFPs don't trust their intuition fully because of the abstractness. The more you trust your intuition though the more power you have as an ENFP. To truly unlock your power, trust what your intuition says even if it goes against logic and your present feelings, because experience will guess, but intuition knows!
I don't think Myers-Brigg relates to circumstancial depression or long term mental illness. Though it can be discouraging to feel misunderstood and unappreciated no matter what type you are.
I am a male ENFP and I understand what you are talking about. I was married and in love, but misunderstanding caused her leave me and I suffered 3 years of depression! It even led to a lot of physical illnesses. So I know what you mean, and thanks for this interesting video.
THANK YOU! You hit the nail on the head of EXACTLY why a big part of my life is so hard being around people..............i feel like i put too many hats on and sometimes forget my own identity but then i get really tired of relating to others cos it drains me
Lol thats true, I feel the same way sometimes. I don't really know how to put it but it's like I've got this pure and innocent person inside and this devilish person on the outside (probably because the dominant is N and the secondary is feel). I think also that the main thing an ENFP want is for people to like and love them and then they'll have a satisfying life. Barrack Obama, Richard Branson, Tom Cruise, Robin Williams, Freddie Mercury, Oprah Winfrey, Will Smith, Steven Spielberg, John Kerry
I am an INTJ and I really like your style and that of the ENFP. Even though the ENFP uses almost a completely different process than the INTJ I feel we both arrive at the same conclusions. In fact I agreed with everything you said about people. The funny thing is when I listen to you talk I start hearing something I might argue with and then your argument activates some random part of my brain and I am able to conclude it is true. Perhaps the ENFP ultimately values truth like the INTJ :)
Yes we're said to be natural partners. This is because our N functions in the same way. INTJs are great. A really good friend like a dad I love him so much is an INTJ and we can talk for hours it's great.
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Hmm then again I'm an ENFP male and It's hard being human in general so we should be grateful and aware that people got it worse than us. The perception of taking "anything" personal on an emotional level is the most self-deceiving belief that anyone could digest. And also ENFP the title itself comes from the outside-in which could be used as an identity enhancer we share the same kind of personality but not the same. So let's all use reasonable introspection to dig a little deeper. my 2cents
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Necromni 1 month ago
Goosebumps about the back in forth.
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As another enfp I feel your pain, but you coming out like this and explaining your feelings so clearly is very impressive. You are awsome!
Connectingdots100 2 months ago
Thank you, thank you thank you! This was very enlightening. Specially the last part, about having to go in and out all of the time. That is exactly, 100% true. That's what made me think for some time I was an Introvert, since I need a lot of time alone to process and remain centered. Did you ever have the same issue? But I do get energized by being around people...if I spend a long time by myself I am tired all of the time. if I am out and about I feel my energy way up...
Babiiii89 3 months ago
we can record for 15 mintues now
astrozier1 6 months ago
BRAVO...............
dynomitedaniel 7 months ago
5:11 - so true.
wyrwich 10 months ago
interesting, im an infj male(introverted intuition feeling judging) i feel that since i am introverted that i am confused as weird, and socially awkward(which im not) by the extroverts. so i think that us Fs have the ability to find the sensetivity and seriousness of an event or scenario. its stupid how us introverts are bullied by the Es because we are "different".
zombiekidcrazy 10 months ago
You think it's tough being called 'emotional' when that's what you actually are?
Try being a T. We get accused of being 'cold,' which we are not.
RBNightlinger 11 months ago
restless. i am. i am
18tastee 11 months ago
ОК!
197kart 1 year ago
Всей группе NF надо развивать рефлекс цели. Обязательно!
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197kart 1 year ago
@197kart Да, мы все должны. Я не говорю Россию сейчас, но спасибо.
hartpoet 1 year ago
Nice vid lots of truth stated
"Back in because i have to be true with what I'm doing"
This is sooooo bothersome at times. I used to think (or perhaps i actually was) an INFP and this dominated my life. Btw I'm INTP now.
asdunn2 1 year ago
im an enfp male (only recently discovered this). currently trying to decide what to do with my life when i move back to england in 4 months time (have been teaching in japan)... really enjoyed this vid and gonna look at some of ur others... hopefully get an idea what to do next!!
dancingbarman 1 year ago
I'm an ENTP and I find it hard discussing anything with an ENFP guy. No, wait, I find it excruciating and the argument will inevitably end with me calling him a hippie. An ENFP girl? Completely different. I love ENFP women and find them incredibly attractive and adorable, not to mention intelligent.
FreeCapital 1 year ago
Yes, I did mention intelligent last and if you pretend like your offended by that, then all I ask is that you smack yourself or provide me your address so that I may do it for you. No charge. Anywho, great video hartpoet, and don't change that feeling part of you for anyone. It's a positive when you couple it with your intelligence and your beauty.
Yes sir, loves me some chocolate.
FreeCapital 1 year ago
oh my god this is so well expressed. It is hard. But its so worth it.
emectar 1 year ago
you speak so well, i'm jealous! and by well, i mean you don't go off on constant tangents :P
belovebehappy 1 year ago
I'm glad that you posted these videoes. I was envious of ENFPs because I wished that I could be so charismatic and confident but I didn't bother to look deeper and I apologise to you guys for that. Your videos gave me a better insight into the ENFP personality. I didn't realise that you felt this way =( I apologise for just being envious and failingto understand that every type has their own insecurites and problems. Thank you for posting these :)
MissHollyGolightly91 1 year ago
Hum. T and F are not strangers. While one seeks for correctness, the other seeks for fairness - and those oftenly overlap. For instance, in your example, you preferred to defer your judgement of someone in order to avoid being unfair. I experience the same, but because I might be incorrect.
-INTP
RafaelEnvoy 1 year ago
@RafaelEnvoy Well, INTP and ENFP are both N's. For ENFPs usually the N-S difference feels more severe than the F-T because the dominant is intuition. hartpoet seems to be a strong F, though.
kentokhromatic 1 year ago
I'm an ENFP and I swear I live in my thoughts. I guess you could call me a day dreamer. I can't stand mundane tasks or conversations. I think this has been really hard for me to fit in with the "normal" moms but when I find people I can be myself around, I thrive and am the life of the party. What type of career field are you in? It's so hard to stick with just one!
missmeliss1124 2 years ago
Yeah careers can be tricky. Hehehe. I'm only 20 and I've had such diverse occupations; mostly where creativity and warmth merge: non franchised coffee shops, child care, special education, art, language, teaching. I hate the manipulation of retail and being a cog in a wheel. I would kill OVER if I was an accountant or bank teller. Especially because I have a weakness with numbers. You can't have it all for every strength there is a weakness! (Smile) I wish you the best my dear. :)
hartpoet 2 years ago
I am a male ENFP and yeah... I feel like there is NO ONE out there like me. All my friends are so different NT and ST.
DJTripleThreat78 2 years ago
Good for you. The fiancial "pay off" for honesty is great. And thank you.
hartpoet 2 years ago
cheers for the sympathy for us ENFP guys (Y). it's weird cos sum of the stuff you say is the kind of stuff id pore out to my friends, and id be all confused when they didn't understand.
i went through 18 years of life not knowing about MBTI. it's so weird having people that i actually relate to. i almost don't know how to react cos im so used to keeping that part of me hidden.
oh yeah and INFPs are awsum.. as are INFJs (Y)
Tridentus 2 years ago
@Tridentus thats it! That is what i was trying to put my finger on. I was saying in an earlier comment about how I feel that I never meet anyone like me and I can feel really alone because of this but then when I do meet another ENFP I don't really let them see me because its too much. Thanks for stating that.
DJTripleThreat78 2 years ago
Fellow ENFP here..
I can relate to all of what you are saying.. But i have to say, IMO i wouldnt wanna be anything other than enfp.
i do beat myself in the head when i did smething i shouldnt or being really pessimistic, which i am often..
BUT, the whole identity i think gets better the older you get.
Im 19, and i think ENFP are one of the most exciting of the types, if they can put it into good use.
Youre really pretty btw :)
Ceesayful 2 years ago
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damienvargas 2 years ago
Large groups are anathema to me, but I get the feeling we'd be able to start talking to each other as though we'd known each other for much longer, bypassing the bullshit - and I love that. I think the NF along with the E is great. ESxx, not so much (generalising).
But while you find it awkward to keep going in and out of yourself, I'm frustrated that I can't ever seem to GET out! ...despite caring for others and needing to stay true to myself etc. And being a male feeler. Heh. It's a fun life.
Harkz0r 2 years ago
I have so much compassion for male nfs. I thought female INFPs were rare! Good gracious NF males are so incredibly rare I cannot find a fitting metaphor. So bravo that you are keeping yourself above water with knowledge and education about yourself. INFP guys really are magical in my opinion. Every guy I've fallen for hard has been an INFP and so rare that in all my extroverted excapades I only met two. They really are amazing to know and love.
hartpoet 2 years ago
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damienvargas 2 years ago
Hey, I'm a male INFP, and the more I watch videos from people like yourselves, the more astonished I am both by our myriad similarities and our differences. One thing that's confusing for me, is that you say you are a party person, but you're also not one for social protocols and you're always in 'deep mode'. I must admit, I tend to think of partygoers as being somehow shallow, but it's great that people like you are out there.
Harkz0r 2 years ago
Yeah, never assume. Life is critical with assumers. INFPs can come off as being a little ditsy because they immediatly are showing a weak side by external communication. I met a girl I thought was so ridiculously mindless but b/c she was in my faith I forced myself to associate with her. We got to her bf's house and we started talking and she BLEW ME AWAY. She was an INFP and she had a gift for writing that I couldn't touch!!! I was humbled. The mind will find what it wants so search and see.
hartpoet 2 years ago
Points well taken and I suppose I have already begun to realise that much myself. When people are just theories or stereotypes it's easy to to be too judgmental, but I usually treat people on an individual basis, anyway. I learnt a fair deal from an ENFP friend about how to maintain a social persona that still feels like myself.
Harkz0r 2 years ago
I can be quite communicative, but feel that I still find it difficult to truly open up unless I feel an affinity with someone. It's too often that people aren't on my 'wavelength', or I theirs. I can also sound disillusioned or cynical, but my core remaints untainted. I think. Thanks for the kind words, and I hope you had a happy New Year. Head first into the future we shall plunge, it seems.
Harkz0r 2 years ago
I've found the best way to use our emotions is to be open about them, and rely on them. A lot of ENFPs don't trust their intuition fully because of the abstractness. The more you trust your intuition though the more power you have as an ENFP. To truly unlock your power, trust what your intuition says even if it goes against logic and your present feelings, because experience will guess, but intuition knows!
KainTheDragoon 2 years ago 2
Well stated!
hartpoet 2 years ago
Do you think ENFPs are more prone to become depressed?
somebody225 2 years ago
I don't think Myers-Brigg relates to circumstancial depression or long term mental illness. Though it can be discouraging to feel misunderstood and unappreciated no matter what type you are.
hartpoet 2 years ago
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somebody225 2 years ago
I am a male ENFP and I understand what you are talking about. I was married and in love, but misunderstanding caused her leave me and I suffered 3 years of depression! It even led to a lot of physical illnesses. So I know what you mean, and thanks for this interesting video.
somebody225 2 years ago
you're a beautiful girl!
im also an ENFP and i agree 100% with all the ways you feel.
our emotions are strong, so it for sure takes a tole on the body and mind!
sk84gs 2 years ago 2
Thank you, your insightful comments definitely helped me understand ENFPs better.
Keep up that great spirit.
INTP here btw
incommunicado2000 2 years ago
hey i'm ISTP and ISTP-ENFPs are companions ;)
jixmixfix 2 years ago
THANK YOU! You hit the nail on the head of EXACTLY why a big part of my life is so hard being around people..............i feel like i put too many hats on and sometimes forget my own identity but then i get really tired of relating to others cos it drains me
kerkido 2 years ago 3
in enfp too this sonds so like me
12connection 2 years ago
Lol thats true, I feel the same way sometimes. I don't really know how to put it but it's like I've got this pure and innocent person inside and this devilish person on the outside (probably because the dominant is N and the secondary is feel). I think also that the main thing an ENFP want is for people to like and love them and then they'll have a satisfying life. Barrack Obama, Richard Branson, Tom Cruise, Robin Williams, Freddie Mercury, Oprah Winfrey, Will Smith, Steven Spielberg, John Kerry
JohnMunroTV 2 years ago
I am an INTJ and I really like your style and that of the ENFP. Even though the ENFP uses almost a completely different process than the INTJ I feel we both arrive at the same conclusions. In fact I agreed with everything you said about people. The funny thing is when I listen to you talk I start hearing something I might argue with and then your argument activates some random part of my brain and I am able to conclude it is true. Perhaps the ENFP ultimately values truth like the INTJ :)
computerwguy 2 years ago
Yes we're said to be natural partners. This is because our N functions in the same way. INTJs are great. A really good friend like a dad I love him so much is an INTJ and we can talk for hours it's great.
hartpoet 2 years ago