Yes it is everyone's personal choice, BUT as for me I know that I want to follow God's word and do as He commands. I know the consequences I will reap if I stray from His word so I've chosen to save myself for marriage.
Some people act as if it is dangerous, as if we have to do it!
Premarital sex is bad.
The problem with saying that everyone can have their own views on it is, do you think it is spiritually safe? If it is not, then surely you would want to warn them.
@goldilocksgirly - I agree, I am a Christian, although my beliefs tend to coincide more with yours than a typical Christian, even if I was an atheist I would still wait until I was married.
I am 26, a man, and also a virgin. It's been my experience that a lot of people are 'offended' for want of a better word when the subject of virginity comes up. Especially women, though I don't know why. The response always seems to be, "Well, that doesn't make you better than anyone."
for those of you, that say "man wrote the bible" , yes you may be correct however, that is what God intended, everything that happens on earth and everywhere in this universe, is what God intended even when bad things happen to you, and as for temptations, they are all tests, tests that will enable us to see the strength of our character and soul, please people, there arent that many anymore, but we must all spread the word of God, God bless
just so he can get in my pants & probably disapear the next day.if he can wait until marriage then i know he's with me for ME. although i'm not a christian, i do believe in god. i have many veiws on god. but my decision to be abstinant, that i made for myself.
I totally think you have a point here! Saving yourself for marriage is about RESPECT: About true love and affection, not just about a physical pleasure. I am a Christian now, but there was a point in my life when I wasn't involved in any religious groups. I believed in God as well and I do believe in Him even more now. But even before I became a Christian I had my convictions about pre-marital sex, like you do.
i know, saving urself for marriage is most definately about respect. u know, one thing that really saddens me about the whole concept of respect & sexuality is how utterly backwards some ppl seem to percieve it. i've known ppl who attempt in vain to have pre-marital sex in order to GAIN respect. of course they have it backwards & never get it, 'cause if ur partner won't respect u until u sleep with him, he's just doing it for nookie & faking it. second the sexual mood's gone, so is his respect.
you are so RIGHT! I'm happy that there still are people like you in this world. We may be few, but nevertheless we exist! And it is important to hold on to that which is of more worth! You are lucky to have a decent boyfriend. True love waits! :) Keep on staying strong!
any guy worthy of any woman's affections will already respect her before she sleeps with him. i know my boyfriend sure does.( he's gorgeous & has a job, too. i'm so lucky. tee hee.) keep holding, out, girls!!! there are decent guys out there u can get without selling urselves short!!!
Yes! You are a very wise young lady! don't buy into the Feminist Lie that ladies want the same kind of nasty premarital things that their husbands-to-be want. All young ladies really want to say NO, they just believe the liberals who say that they want to offer themselves up to men like a piece of meat. I thank the Lord every day for the priveledge of raising children to follow Him.
ma'am, while i respect ur views, my sexuality is a personal decision, not a political or religious debate. furthermore, I have already stated in a previous comment--the first one i ever made on this particular vid--that god had nothing to do with my decision to abstain from sex, but rather personal self respect & my desire for respect rather than lust from the fellas. & just for the record, i consider that a very feminist statement.
i think that God decided he wants us to wait for the same reasons we choose. for respect and for real love and for all the bad things that can happen if we dnt. a long time ago ppl waited but they didnt know why we were waiting, they just did it. now we understand and we can make our decission. i am gonna try my best to wait because i wanna find somebody special and i dnt wanna waste my time.
have seduced him!!! how on earth would a 4yr old know how to seduce anyone!?! anyway, i got no relief until he moved away when i was about 6. it took me a while to recover, but when i finally did, at about the age of 8, i made a promise to myself not to do anything sexual with a guy again if i could help it until the day i get married. it's not about god for me, it's about respect. it's about wanting my first time to be with someone who loves me & who can respect my decision without being pushy,
u mentioned god & christianity a lot in this vid. i have to say that i agree with the girl in this vid who says that it's a choice every individual has to make, except i'm taking it from a non-christian point of veiw. personally, i was a victim of sexual molestation when i was 4yrs old. my then neighbor, who was 16 at the time, would volunteer to babysit me, then come into my room, pull down my pants, & touch me. when i told my parents, they said he wouldn't do that & even suggested that i might
Honestly I'm saving myself because its what God's word tells me to do and I want to. But even if you don't want to put God in the picture, wouldn't you want to marry someone who hasn't slept around with other people? I want to be able to give something to whoever I marry not the leftovers from what I already gave to someone else...that may sound bad but its true. And even if you have sex with your "true love" I think that "true love waits".
That's wonderful I'm proud of all of you ;) The issue with premarital sex is that it is very often misunderstand that sex=marriage (or oneness), and vice versa, marriage is consummated through sex! In God's eyes, once you have intercourse with a person you have just made a lifelong commitment with them (See Matthew 19:3-6). Okay, yes it is good to do it with someone who you love, but you probably won't end up marrying that person if you weren't married before you had sex. That's just how it is.
Great! do that you will benefit from it. No one is ready for sex at a young age. You will be greatly disappointed if you have sex without marriage i promise you that. My nephew is 10 and he said he is ready to drive a car now if I let him drive he will cause a wreck. Yes he has all the body parts he needs to drive but he is not mature enough but he think he is. And when a person thinks they are ready for sex outside of marriage they will do just like a child wanting to drive..WRECK! Wait pleze
but y? its not natural to repress natural urges and doing so can lead to problems with sex. its a choice, if u want to wait until marriage then thats something that suits u and thats great. but waitin to give urself to that right person is just as good. theres nothin wrong with premarital if u are in a caring and loving relationship and u are the legal age and of course using the pill or condoms.
premarital sex is wrong because it says in the holy bible that it's something to be done with your wife. God the supreme authority never meant for it to be done before marriage. pointblank.
the bible also says being gay is a sin. do u believe that to??? i'm a catholic, i go to mass. but the bible is the word of man under the inspiration of God. and man hes a bad habit of twistin words for his own benefit. sorry but premarital sex is ok
well i'm, for it. i believe saving yourself is great to. but losing your viginity to someone u care for and respect its ok. as long as ye are both legal age and having safe sex. i was once against premarital sex, not anymore. and i don't regert my choice for a second.
I wish that people would understand, your virginity is so precious and sacred that you can only lose it once (I don't think that people see how important that is)..don't you think that something so special should be something shared with the person your going to spend the rest of your life with? When you marry your husband/wife what will you have to give them if you decided to have premarital sex? honestly..nothing. And when you talk about "repressing natural urges" I call that self-control.
yes it is percious and scared, but its up to you when you lose it. i had no pressure to lose mine, my boyfriend waited a very long time for me. and in this day and age, you be hard pushed to find a husband/wife who isn't a virgin. in the end, its my body and i made the right choice for me. and actually great sex can lead to a healthy marriage, marrying the wrong sex partner can ruin a marriage, i know that sounds vain but its basic psychology.
well you should know that your body is not yours its Gods. and forget about psychology...i think that in waiting God will reward you for waiting. but like i said what will you have special to give your husband when you marry him?
well since my boyfriend doesn't believe in marriage and i don't have a lot of belief into religion or the bible, i guess i won't get married. i do believe in God but don't believe the bible as his word, after all... it was written by man.
and if i do marry, i marry for love, marriage isn't about virginity. and i'll b giving my husband the best thing ever, my love.
well if you believe in God but not his word then what exactly are you believing in?
nobody said marriage was about virginity..like ive been saying for the millionth time true love would be showing that you saved yourself for him, i mean okay your going to give him love..what are you telling him when you've already given yourself to someone else? where is the love in that?
erm i never said i don't believe in his word, i don't recongise the bible as his word. and your making it sound like virginity equals love, it doesn't and i'm happy i lost my virginity and it was good!!!!!!!!!!! and can't wait to get it on tonite!!!! now, i can't keep fighting against a closed mind. good bye
Hey sweetie..the bible IS God's word. I thought you would know that. And I sure do have a closed mind..when it comes to sin. I don't twist around what I know is wrong.
And your going to get it on tonight?? you really should do better for yourself..I hope you know that in the end the physical things really don't matter.
no it isn't. it wasn't faxed down from heaven, it was written by a pen wit a mans hand. and do better for myself, well u don't my boyfriend and the wonderful man he is, don't insult him coz u don't him or the wonderful things he did for me when i felt most down.
and physical things don't matter, then y make such a big deal abo virginity?
in the end its a choice, i made the right choice for me.
Okay then..if you think the bible isn't God's word(and you seem pretty convinced)then you can keep thinking of a logical reason you think that it so. I'm not insulting your boyfriend or saying he is bad..I'm sure he is a good person, he did wonderful things for you but is that why you gave your virginity to him? When I say the physical things don't matter I mean that your relationships should not be based on the physical, but the emotional. Okay you made a choice,you can still choose to wait.
ho the bible is says being gay is wrong, it isn't, the catholic bible says goin to the toilet is evil, i mean come on like. i lost it to my boyfriend coz i love him and i didn't want to wait, y should i? its my body and he was the right guy to sleep with. i didn't take my virginity lightly, it was a very special thing to me, its more special to me now coz i lost it to the right man
mmmhmmm.."i love him and i didn't want to wait, y should i?" oh gee! maybe it's what ive been saying this ENTIRE time 1.its called self control..whats the rush to lose it? and 2.you should wait because thats showing that your waiting to give your virginity to your husband...are you not reading?
Okay the bible says being gay is wrong..I'm not seeing the horrible part. I believe in that bible (and I'm not catholic so I don't know what thats about).
oh believe me i know self control, i was worth him for two yrs before i lost it. i'm not some sex crazy manic. and y should i give my virginity to my husband? ITS MY CHOICE, MY BODY, NOT MY HUSBANDS TO CLAIM.
i repsect peoples choice in waiting until their married, if its the right choice for them.
but if u decide to lose it before marriage, and ye are both legal age and having safe sex, then thats ok to, thats a right a choice aswell.
and yes the catholic bible says doing a no. 2 is a sin
no, i wasn't yelling, i just making my point clear that is my body and my choice.
and my husband well get something very special, he'll get to spend the rest of his life with me, he'll have my love. sex has very little to do with it.
anyway as i told u, i don't really have much interset in marriage, if it happens, it happens.
and incase you ever wondered, chocolate is better then sex anyway
"A person can actually love their spouse with their body before they even meet them."
That's the concept of virginity. Regardless of what anyone says, and you made your choice and you can still change it. But I'm deciding to love my husband with my body even though I don't know who he is. Nothing will change that.
well..sorry to say im not big on choice because i stand firmly on what i believe. so yeah you made your choice but (not insulting you) i can't respect the choice you made...but i can respect you, with that being said im finished.
the girl in the vid. didn't say anything about wanting to have sex before marriage, she said she was planning to abstain UNLESS she had a good reason not to in the future. and that she trusted herself enough to know that if she changed her mind about it, it wouldn't just be on a whim, it'd be a decision that she'd think about and could feel good about.
well if you doubt the Bible you doubt God. And secondly I didn't know it was you and I was making a reply to something you said to someone else and if i have something to say I'll say it. Good day ma'am.
I dont understand that. If you doubt the bible then you doubt God. Psh, the bible was written by man. I believe in God, I have faith in God, but I do not have faith in man. I dont think that doubting something written by man, should have any correlation to a spiritual and divine entity. Why is the Holy Bible so holy? Because we made it that way.
P.S. You should really read next time because I never insulted your boyfriend and when I said the physical things don't matter you need to think a bit deeper.
b/c God clearly stated that He did not want the same sex to be together. He intended sexual relationships to be between man and women. Husband and wife.
oh of course being gay is a sin. DUH! everyone knows that. but how can you say your a catholic also known as christian if you sit here and bad mouth God. I have my faith and i stand on God's holy word and his word tells me not to fornicate. I'm 22 yrs old and a virgin and will be marrying a man that i waited for in two weeks. I'm sorry anything that is not Christlike and goes against the bible is WRONG!
well first well done for saving urself if that was the right thing for u. i'm not bad mouthin God in anyway just religion. and religion and God ARE NOT THE SAME THING. it is not evil to b gay, even gay preists in england are allowed to marry and most of my friends are openly gay and are well come to sit down and pray with me in chruch.
u gotta open ur eyes. i believ in a loving God who made me to be myself, well this who i am and the bible conflicts with that.
and it is the influence of the devil that causes one to become a homosexual. it's totally not natural to be gay. now is it? it's not natural cause ppl of the same sex can't procreate and they have to find different means to pleasure each other. the devil can make anyone believe that there's nothing wrong with being gay...well guess what...there is.
and also, we have no idea what Gods opinion is on anything coz he has yet to spoke to us and thats because we can't hear his voice and angels deliver his messages.
and don't say its in th bible, the bible is good way to follow the christian faith, it is also written by mans pen.
in the end we are animals and its not natural to repress sexual urges but healthy to explore them and your body in away you are comfortable with.
well you may doubt the bible. but i don't. I know God's opinion on the matter of premarital sex and he thinks it is wrong therefore I do. Not all of us have urges to have sex that bad and if we do there is a thing called masturbation. Now you may not have faith in God's holy word but i do. I think premarital sex is wrong. It's just a matter of opinion. Bye.
Finaly a group of individuals who are not tellling others what to think, but in one case, even encourageing free choice. I noticed only once was the plural 'you' used, but it was after an 'i belive'. No moral blackmail. No claiming other's views are wrong. Take a 10 for tghat, it is well deserved.
I myself do not attach such high emotional ties to the act, I feel for me it is just a very enjoyable act, and emotional ties, love could and would exist through a 10 foot pole as much as through sex.
I dont understand the God view. Us humans socially created marriage. To me it's wait untill you find someone who loves and respects you. Or not, whateve you want. Just dont be socially forcced or religiously forced into things. Be rational and you should make good desicions.
I'm saving myself and i dont think i have a choice, im after God's own heart and I've made it this far and I have faith that i'll save it for marriage. Why wouldn't you want to give your husband such a wonderful and pricelss gift on your honeymoon?
I'm saving myself and i dont think i have a choice, im after God's own heart and I've made it this far and I have faith that i'll save it for marriage. Why wouldn't you want to give your husband such a wonderful and pricelss gift on your honeymoon?
I COMPLETELY agree with the 2nd girl's opinion. It's a personal choice, and if it happens before marriage, then it happens. I'm not going to beat myself up for it. In the end I'll still be the same person I am. I'm trying to save myself for marriage, but if it happens then that's okay too. I know who I am and I know what I'm worth. That's all that counts!
I am saving myself not only because the bible says to but I want to share that closeness and beautiful night with the man I am madly in love with which will be my husband.
I'm saving myself for someone that I love with all my heart and respect, and vice versa. So I may have premarital sex. But I definetly will not give it up at a one night stand. I don't think its right that people be forced to be abstinent before marriage. If they want to wait, that should be their choice. But I definetly respect those peoples' comments, you all seem to be very intelligent people.
I myself gave it away and i am still with the same girl that i lost it too. When it comes down to asking the question, Is sex before marrige right? The only answer is "If you think it is". I'm 15 i gave it up to my Gf Carolina(16) ever since we have been going out we knew that we were the ones for each other. We both lost "it" to each other and are still together.
AMEN!
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I don't really believe in that god/bible bullshit, and I know I'm not fit for marriage, so what's wrong with enjoying myself?
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elbagermaine 1 year ago
Yes it is everyone's personal choice, BUT as for me I know that I want to follow God's word and do as He commands. I know the consequences I will reap if I stray from His word so I've chosen to save myself for marriage.
dmckin4054 1 year ago 5
pre-marital sex is ALL bad !! unwanted pregnancy,std's,abortions,etc....atleast when your married all those risks go down !!!
chutubeme 1 year ago 3
Exactly! It's not worth it!
Some people act as if it is dangerous, as if we have to do it!
Premarital sex is bad.
The problem with saying that everyone can have their own views on it is, do you think it is spiritually safe? If it is not, then surely you would want to warn them.
Jorbz150 1 year ago
@goldilocksgirly - I agree, I am a Christian, although my beliefs tend to coincide more with yours than a typical Christian, even if I was an atheist I would still wait until I was married.
charismaticace 1 year ago
i think if you want to save yourself then that is your choice and if its right for them its right.
however if you are of legal age taking birth control and decide to have sex then thats a choice that is right for them.
fifijojo69 2 years ago
I am 26, a man, and also a virgin. It's been my experience that a lot of people are 'offended' for want of a better word when the subject of virginity comes up. Especially women, though I don't know why. The response always seems to be, "Well, that doesn't make you better than anyone."
charismaticace 2 years ago 2
@charismaticace I get that too..why are people offended by this?
patriciacarrasco 1 year ago
you sure have a lot of respect for yourself, i encourage you in your walk of purity :)
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03alexp 2 years ago
for those of you, that say "man wrote the bible" , yes you may be correct however, that is what God intended, everything that happens on earth and everywhere in this universe, is what God intended even when bad things happen to you, and as for temptations, they are all tests, tests that will enable us to see the strength of our character and soul, please people, there arent that many anymore, but we must all spread the word of God, God bless
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The Bible is a pagan/astrological/mythological book. You Christians know nothing.
MrlynMac 2 years ago
Go smoke your pot morron.
skydreamerXIII 2 years ago
look at all the paragraph long responses LOL
p52ntwrk 2 years ago
just so he can get in my pants & probably disapear the next day.if he can wait until marriage then i know he's with me for ME. although i'm not a christian, i do believe in god. i have many veiws on god. but my decision to be abstinant, that i made for myself.
goldilocksgirly 2 years ago
I totally think you have a point here! Saving yourself for marriage is about RESPECT: About true love and affection, not just about a physical pleasure. I am a Christian now, but there was a point in my life when I wasn't involved in any religious groups. I believed in God as well and I do believe in Him even more now. But even before I became a Christian I had my convictions about pre-marital sex, like you do.
ainoBear 2 years ago
i know, saving urself for marriage is most definately about respect. u know, one thing that really saddens me about the whole concept of respect & sexuality is how utterly backwards some ppl seem to percieve it. i've known ppl who attempt in vain to have pre-marital sex in order to GAIN respect. of course they have it backwards & never get it, 'cause if ur partner won't respect u until u sleep with him, he's just doing it for nookie & faking it. second the sexual mood's gone, so is his respect.
goldilocksgirly 2 years ago
you are so RIGHT! I'm happy that there still are people like you in this world. We may be few, but nevertheless we exist! And it is important to hold on to that which is of more worth! You are lucky to have a decent boyfriend. True love waits! :) Keep on staying strong!
ainoBear 2 years ago
any guy worthy of any woman's affections will already respect her before she sleeps with him. i know my boyfriend sure does.( he's gorgeous & has a job, too. i'm so lucky. tee hee.) keep holding, out, girls!!! there are decent guys out there u can get without selling urselves short!!!
goldilocksgirly 2 years ago
Yes! You are a very wise young lady! don't buy into the Feminist Lie that ladies want the same kind of nasty premarital things that their husbands-to-be want. All young ladies really want to say NO, they just believe the liberals who say that they want to offer themselves up to men like a piece of meat. I thank the Lord every day for the priveledge of raising children to follow Him.
MrsGWright 2 years ago
ma'am, while i respect ur views, my sexuality is a personal decision, not a political or religious debate. furthermore, I have already stated in a previous comment--the first one i ever made on this particular vid--that god had nothing to do with my decision to abstain from sex, but rather personal self respect & my desire for respect rather than lust from the fellas. & just for the record, i consider that a very feminist statement.
goldilocksgirly 2 years ago
i think that God decided he wants us to wait for the same reasons we choose. for respect and for real love and for all the bad things that can happen if we dnt. a long time ago ppl waited but they didnt know why we were waiting, they just did it. now we understand and we can make our decission. i am gonna try my best to wait because i wanna find somebody special and i dnt wanna waste my time.
sk8rgrl3303 2 years ago 4
@goldilocksgirly thank u goldilocksgirly! ure so right!
patriciacarrasco 1 year ago
have seduced him!!! how on earth would a 4yr old know how to seduce anyone!?! anyway, i got no relief until he moved away when i was about 6. it took me a while to recover, but when i finally did, at about the age of 8, i made a promise to myself not to do anything sexual with a guy again if i could help it until the day i get married. it's not about god for me, it's about respect. it's about wanting my first time to be with someone who loves me & who can respect my decision without being pushy,
goldilocksgirly 2 years ago
u mentioned god & christianity a lot in this vid. i have to say that i agree with the girl in this vid who says that it's a choice every individual has to make, except i'm taking it from a non-christian point of veiw. personally, i was a victim of sexual molestation when i was 4yrs old. my then neighbor, who was 16 at the time, would volunteer to babysit me, then come into my room, pull down my pants, & touch me. when i told my parents, they said he wouldn't do that & even suggested that i might
goldilocksgirly 2 years ago
I don't think it's a good idea to have sex with someone you do not wish to share a child with.
ZJEENR 3 years ago
Honestly I'm saving myself because its what God's word tells me to do and I want to. But even if you don't want to put God in the picture, wouldn't you want to marry someone who hasn't slept around with other people? I want to be able to give something to whoever I marry not the leftovers from what I already gave to someone else...that may sound bad but its true. And even if you have sex with your "true love" I think that "true love waits".
joibugx3 3 years ago
Let me ask you a question, if God tells you to kill yourself. Would you do it?
snackz91 3 years ago
the reason Christians r Christians is because we like our religion. its fairly easy and the message is beautiful and it actually makes sense.
sk8rgrl3303 2 years ago 2
@snackz91 K, God would never ask that sooo...irrelevant
MidnihtAngel 1 year ago
That's wonderful I'm proud of all of you ;) The issue with premarital sex is that it is very often misunderstand that sex=marriage (or oneness), and vice versa, marriage is consummated through sex! In God's eyes, once you have intercourse with a person you have just made a lifelong commitment with them (See Matthew 19:3-6). Okay, yes it is good to do it with someone who you love, but you probably won't end up marrying that person if you weren't married before you had sex. That's just how it is.
silverpooh24 3 years ago
Great! do that you will benefit from it. No one is ready for sex at a young age. You will be greatly disappointed if you have sex without marriage i promise you that. My nephew is 10 and he said he is ready to drive a car now if I let him drive he will cause a wreck. Yes he has all the body parts he needs to drive but he is not mature enough but he think he is. And when a person thinks they are ready for sex outside of marriage they will do just like a child wanting to drive..WRECK! Wait pleze
livinmybestlife 3 years ago
I think that premarital sex is wrong pointblank period. God made sex to be done in the sanctity of marriage
stoptalkinsmack 3 years ago
but y? its not natural to repress natural urges and doing so can lead to problems with sex. its a choice, if u want to wait until marriage then thats something that suits u and thats great. but waitin to give urself to that right person is just as good. theres nothin wrong with premarital if u are in a caring and loving relationship and u are the legal age and of course using the pill or condoms.
fifijojo69 3 years ago 2
premarital sex is wrong because it says in the holy bible that it's something to be done with your wife. God the supreme authority never meant for it to be done before marriage. pointblank.
stoptalkinsmack 3 years ago
the bible also says being gay is a sin. do u believe that to??? i'm a catholic, i go to mass. but the bible is the word of man under the inspiration of God. and man hes a bad habit of twistin words for his own benefit. sorry but premarital sex is ok
fifijojo69 3 years ago
premarital sex is not ok....what the heck??
joibugx3 3 years ago
i know crazy people. :)
fifijojo69 3 years ago
maybe you read that wrong...im against premarital sex
joibugx3 3 years ago
well i'm, for it. i believe saving yourself is great to. but losing your viginity to someone u care for and respect its ok. as long as ye are both legal age and having safe sex. i was once against premarital sex, not anymore. and i don't regert my choice for a second.
fifijojo69 3 years ago
I wish that people would understand, your virginity is so precious and sacred that you can only lose it once (I don't think that people see how important that is)..don't you think that something so special should be something shared with the person your going to spend the rest of your life with? When you marry your husband/wife what will you have to give them if you decided to have premarital sex? honestly..nothing. And when you talk about "repressing natural urges" I call that self-control.
joibugx3 3 years ago
yes it is percious and scared, but its up to you when you lose it. i had no pressure to lose mine, my boyfriend waited a very long time for me. and in this day and age, you be hard pushed to find a husband/wife who isn't a virgin. in the end, its my body and i made the right choice for me. and actually great sex can lead to a healthy marriage, marrying the wrong sex partner can ruin a marriage, i know that sounds vain but its basic psychology.
fifijojo69 3 years ago
well you should know that your body is not yours its Gods. and forget about psychology...i think that in waiting God will reward you for waiting. but like i said what will you have special to give your husband when you marry him?
joibugx3 3 years ago
well since my boyfriend doesn't believe in marriage and i don't have a lot of belief into religion or the bible, i guess i won't get married. i do believe in God but don't believe the bible as his word, after all... it was written by man.
and if i do marry, i marry for love, marriage isn't about virginity. and i'll b giving my husband the best thing ever, my love.
fifijojo69 3 years ago 2
well if you believe in God but not his word then what exactly are you believing in?
nobody said marriage was about virginity..like ive been saying for the millionth time true love would be showing that you saved yourself for him, i mean okay your going to give him love..what are you telling him when you've already given yourself to someone else? where is the love in that?
joibugx3 3 years ago
erm i never said i don't believe in his word, i don't recongise the bible as his word. and your making it sound like virginity equals love, it doesn't and i'm happy i lost my virginity and it was good!!!!!!!!!!! and can't wait to get it on tonite!!!! now, i can't keep fighting against a closed mind. good bye
fifijojo69 3 years ago 2
hahahaha!
Hey sweetie..the bible IS God's word. I thought you would know that. And I sure do have a closed mind..when it comes to sin. I don't twist around what I know is wrong.
And your going to get it on tonight?? you really should do better for yourself..I hope you know that in the end the physical things really don't matter.
God Bless
joibugx3 3 years ago
no it isn't. it wasn't faxed down from heaven, it was written by a pen wit a mans hand. and do better for myself, well u don't my boyfriend and the wonderful man he is, don't insult him coz u don't him or the wonderful things he did for me when i felt most down.
and physical things don't matter, then y make such a big deal abo virginity?
in the end its a choice, i made the right choice for me.
fifijojo69 3 years ago
Okay then..if you think the bible isn't God's word(and you seem pretty convinced)then you can keep thinking of a logical reason you think that it so. I'm not insulting your boyfriend or saying he is bad..I'm sure he is a good person, he did wonderful things for you but is that why you gave your virginity to him? When I say the physical things don't matter I mean that your relationships should not be based on the physical, but the emotional. Okay you made a choice,you can still choose to wait.
joibugx3 3 years ago
ho the bible is says being gay is wrong, it isn't, the catholic bible says goin to the toilet is evil, i mean come on like. i lost it to my boyfriend coz i love him and i didn't want to wait, y should i? its my body and he was the right guy to sleep with. i didn't take my virginity lightly, it was a very special thing to me, its more special to me now coz i lost it to the right man
fifijojo69 3 years ago
mmmhmmm.."i love him and i didn't want to wait, y should i?" oh gee! maybe it's what ive been saying this ENTIRE time 1.its called self control..whats the rush to lose it? and 2.you should wait because thats showing that your waiting to give your virginity to your husband...are you not reading?
Okay the bible says being gay is wrong..I'm not seeing the horrible part. I believe in that bible (and I'm not catholic so I don't know what thats about).
joibugx3 3 years ago
oh believe me i know self control, i was worth him for two yrs before i lost it. i'm not some sex crazy manic. and y should i give my virginity to my husband? ITS MY CHOICE, MY BODY, NOT MY HUSBANDS TO CLAIM.
i repsect peoples choice in waiting until their married, if its the right choice for them.
but if u decide to lose it before marriage, and ye are both legal age and having safe sex, then thats ok to, thats a right a choice aswell.
and yes the catholic bible says doing a no. 2 is a sin
fifijojo69 3 years ago
2 years..that really doesn't change anything to me.
"and y should i give my virginity to my husband? ITS MY CHOICE, MY BODY, NOT MY HUSBANDS TO CLAIM."
Why wouldn't you want to give something that special to your husband?! hello? thats the real question.
Your capitalizing implies that your yelling and there is no need to yell. Chill
joibugx3 3 years ago
no, i wasn't yelling, i just making my point clear that is my body and my choice.
and my husband well get something very special, he'll get to spend the rest of his life with me, he'll have my love. sex has very little to do with it.
anyway as i told u, i don't really have much interset in marriage, if it happens, it happens.
and incase you ever wondered, chocolate is better then sex anyway
fifijojo69 3 years ago
I will make this short:
"A person can actually love their spouse with their body before they even meet them."
That's the concept of virginity. Regardless of what anyone says, and you made your choice and you can still change it. But I'm deciding to love my husband with my body even though I don't know who he is. Nothing will change that.
joibugx3 3 years ago
thats the religious concept of virginity, the other one is simply not have embraced in sex yet. and i decided to love my boyfriend with my body.
and your saving your virginity for your husband and i think thats great. because its your choice and i respect that.
i lost mine to my boyfriend, and thats my choice that i made, my choice should b respected to.
fifijojo69 3 years ago
well..sorry to say im not big on choice because i stand firmly on what i believe. so yeah you made your choice but (not insulting you) i can't respect the choice you made...but i can respect you, with that being said im finished.
joibugx3 3 years ago
how can respect her as a person but not her choice to live her life the way she wants to. fifi sounds pretty level headed to me
biatchisback 3 years ago
i can respect her as a person but im not going to respect the fact that she wants to have sex before marraige.
simple as that.
its really not that complicated
xoxoglamorous 3 years ago
the girl in the vid. didn't say anything about wanting to have sex before marriage, she said she was planning to abstain UNLESS she had a good reason not to in the future. and that she trusted herself enough to know that if she changed her mind about it, it wouldn't just be on a whim, it'd be a decision that she'd think about and could feel good about.
hinakuu 3 years ago
1 Corinthians says the body if not made for fornication and that if you taint your body which is the temple of the Lord, He will destroy it.
stoptalkinsmack 3 years ago
what are u on abo, i have not replied to u in like 3 months, and the Bible was written by man, so whatever. i'm not really bothered like
fifijojo69 3 years ago
well if you doubt the Bible you doubt God. And secondly I didn't know it was you and I was making a reply to something you said to someone else and if i have something to say I'll say it. Good day ma'am.
stoptalkinsmack 3 years ago
I dont understand that. If you doubt the bible then you doubt God. Psh, the bible was written by man. I believe in God, I have faith in God, but I do not have faith in man. I dont think that doubting something written by man, should have any correlation to a spiritual and divine entity. Why is the Holy Bible so holy? Because we made it that way.
svendust23 3 years ago
you believe what you believe. I believe that the Bible is His Word. Pointblank Period.
stoptalkinsmack 3 years ago
Not true
uraine7626 3 years ago
P.S. You should really read next time because I never insulted your boyfriend and when I said the physical things don't matter you need to think a bit deeper.
joibugx3 3 years ago
yes being gay is a sin just like lying is.
asianpersuasion08 2 years ago 2
being gay is no a sin. u can't help who you love, whats sinful about love?
fifijojo69 2 years ago
b/c God clearly stated that He did not want the same sex to be together. He intended sexual relationships to be between man and women. Husband and wife.
asianpersuasion08 2 years ago 2
and when did God clearly state that excatly? other then in the MAN written Bible...
fifijojo69 2 years ago
God inspired men to write the Bible.
asianpersuasion08 2 years ago
and man twist word to suit their own beliefs. the Bible is not turely God's word and it never can be.
fifijojo69 2 years ago
sure man twist the word of God just like he did when he wrote lying, murder, and stealing was a sin. so yeah we can't trust anything man says.
asianpersuasion08 2 years ago
oh of course being gay is a sin. DUH! everyone knows that. but how can you say your a catholic also known as christian if you sit here and bad mouth God. I have my faith and i stand on God's holy word and his word tells me not to fornicate. I'm 22 yrs old and a virgin and will be marrying a man that i waited for in two weeks. I'm sorry anything that is not Christlike and goes against the bible is WRONG!
stoptalkinsmack 3 years ago
well first well done for saving urself if that was the right thing for u. i'm not bad mouthin God in anyway just religion. and religion and God ARE NOT THE SAME THING. it is not evil to b gay, even gay preists in england are allowed to marry and most of my friends are openly gay and are well come to sit down and pray with me in chruch.
u gotta open ur eyes. i believ in a loving God who made me to be myself, well this who i am and the bible conflicts with that.
fifijojo69 3 years ago
and it is the influence of the devil that causes one to become a homosexual. it's totally not natural to be gay. now is it? it's not natural cause ppl of the same sex can't procreate and they have to find different means to pleasure each other. the devil can make anyone believe that there's nothing wrong with being gay...well guess what...there is.
stoptalkinsmack 3 years ago
and also, we have no idea what Gods opinion is on anything coz he has yet to spoke to us and thats because we can't hear his voice and angels deliver his messages.
and don't say its in th bible, the bible is good way to follow the christian faith, it is also written by mans pen.
in the end we are animals and its not natural to repress sexual urges but healthy to explore them and your body in away you are comfortable with.
fifijojo69 3 years ago
well you may doubt the bible. but i don't. I know God's opinion on the matter of premarital sex and he thinks it is wrong therefore I do. Not all of us have urges to have sex that bad and if we do there is a thing called masturbation. Now you may not have faith in God's holy word but i do. I think premarital sex is wrong. It's just a matter of opinion. Bye.
stoptalkinsmack 3 years ago
masturbation is a sin in the bible to
biatchisback 3 years ago
masturbation is not a sin as long as your not lusting over an image of another person as your doing it.
stoptalkinsmack 3 years ago
how in the hell do you do that?
whwsjackfrost 3 years ago
what?
stoptalkinsmack 3 years ago
Finaly a group of individuals who are not tellling others what to think, but in one case, even encourageing free choice. I noticed only once was the plural 'you' used, but it was after an 'i belive'. No moral blackmail. No claiming other's views are wrong. Take a 10 for tghat, it is well deserved.
I myself do not attach such high emotional ties to the act, I feel for me it is just a very enjoyable act, and emotional ties, love could and would exist through a 10 foot pole as much as through sex.
Alkem258 3 years ago 2
That's it! Wait until after marriage to have sex. I'm very proud of all of you!
IntegrityLivesOn 3 years ago 2
GO ON!!!
tifbuy 3 years ago
You girls rock, God bless you.
Scotchpker 4 years ago 3
I dont understand the God view. Us humans socially created marriage. To me it's wait untill you find someone who loves and respects you. Or not, whateve you want. Just dont be socially forcced or religiously forced into things. Be rational and you should make good desicions.
burntsoup 4 years ago
Actually the Bible says that God views marriage as a union in heaven.
It is a spiritual thing.
Scotchpker 4 years ago 3
SO TRUE!
BlablaBeulah 3 years ago
I'm saving myself and i dont think i have a choice, im after God's own heart and I've made it this far and I have faith that i'll save it for marriage. Why wouldn't you want to give your husband such a wonderful and pricelss gift on your honeymoon?
missterrikay 4 years ago
I'm saving myself and i dont think i have a choice, im after God's own heart and I've made it this far and I have faith that i'll save it for marriage. Why wouldn't you want to give your husband such a wonderful and pricelss gift on your honeymoon?
missterrikay 4 years ago
I COMPLETELY agree with the 2nd girl's opinion. It's a personal choice, and if it happens before marriage, then it happens. I'm not going to beat myself up for it. In the end I'll still be the same person I am. I'm trying to save myself for marriage, but if it happens then that's okay too. I know who I am and I know what I'm worth. That's all that counts!
eighteenandlove 4 years ago
i respect your opinion but sex is just to fun to wait till mariage
greenlight345 4 years ago
this is difficult
dilliot2k 4 years ago
Yes, it may be difficult; but it can be done if you have the determination to do so.
IntegrityLivesOn 3 years ago 3
i know thats right im saving myself also !!!!!!!!!!!!
missterrikay 4 years ago 3
I am saving myself not only because the bible says to but I want to share that closeness and beautiful night with the man I am madly in love with which will be my husband.
kindell1 4 years ago 7
Yep I'm savin myself too ^_^
veebabi123 4 years ago 4
I'm saving myself for someone that I love with all my heart and respect, and vice versa. So I may have premarital sex. But I definetly will not give it up at a one night stand. I don't think its right that people be forced to be abstinent before marriage. If they want to wait, that should be their choice. But I definetly respect those peoples' comments, you all seem to be very intelligent people.
titansfangrl 5 years ago
Remember kids, Dont be a fool wrap your tool.
rexthebarker 5 years ago
I myself gave it away and i am still with the same girl that i lost it too. When it comes down to asking the question, Is sex before marrige right? The only answer is "If you think it is". I'm 15 i gave it up to my Gf Carolina(16) ever since we have been going out we knew that we were the ones for each other. We both lost "it" to each other and are still together.
"Always Be Smart Always Use Protection"
EliteChief376 5 years ago