Teen Girls - How to be Confident and Attract the Right Guy

[speechless00]

Completely agree

[timthecyclistable]

shouldn't a guy b givin advice on what other guys are atttracted in, in a woman, cause it is simply easier and i would say more truthfull.

[TheSmilez101]

@Cooludeful Agreed!

And Great Video I sent it to ALOT of friends and they said they are alot happier now from your advice! So am I! Thanks :D

[pklinh97]

I can only be confident when I have an academic presentation but when I go to a party with my friends or meet a guy,I always feel lonely and embarassed... Anyway,thank you for your advice:)

[RochelleBernil]

@pklinh97 I know how you feel:)

[blueflame53]

something tells me you don't have to put too much work into "attracting " teenage boys.....i know, I used to be one. =P

[loverayxx]

thank you for the advice but it dident work :(

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

@loverayxx

There is an expression: Don't quit five minutes before the miracle happens. The reason why most people don't succeed with their goals is that they judged something as not working and decided that it wasn't going to work. That becomes their dominant thought and vibration and the universe delivers to them the exact manifestation of those thoughts...

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

@loverayxx

Imagine that you were given an assignment in life - to dig a path down a hill so the river up the hill would flow down and create a lake in the valley. Day one you started digging and nothing happened. Day two you dug a little more and you got a little trickle of water. Would you throw your shovel down and say "That's no lake! This is not working!"? Don't judge it - you have to trust. Thoughts become things... stay focused on what you want.

[samisama98]

Wow, really knowledgable advice, thank you.

[Janasheen91]

Thank you for ur advice

[dogghockey54]

Ur pretty

[redfoxy321]

wow, ur advic is really helpful, u look pretty and wise!

[Theowlcitygirl]

I LOVE YOU.

[TimeofPain]

Confidence coach?lol

[HillaryLouise1996]

Oh my gosh your videos are amazing!(: I love them! :D

[tOiNkZ18KizHin]

how can i Email to u... i want to share my thoughts 2 u... and please give me advices.. tnx...

[iNicoTECH]

Attention all GIRLS

Quick simple tip if you want a guy just go up and to to him and start any conversation. After the next day if you see him they will say hi and maybe start talking to you

[MrKeukenvork]

wanna know what so funny?

- The boys are trying to get enough confidence to face a girl.

- The girls are trying to get enough confidence to face a boy.

FAIL =)

[minigrl12]

I think all girls are pretty the only thing is how society views people that determine if they are or not

I guess the only thing u can do is to take care of yourself :)

[hofstragals118]

heyy my name is isabelle!!!! but i didnt send her the thing lol. i cnt belive tht im not the only girl thinking about tis stuff

[lilybo726]

im going to the beach.... i hope this works :)

[jliciousdiwikenyy]

thank u :)

[xTheGirlNextDoor34x]

omg thank you so much!!

[RabbitDance]

I want to run with wolves. :-)

[xxhorne101]

You have really inspired me and I am 17 and have a boyfriend but has a good friend that is overweight. She crys to me all the time saying I am beautiful and skinny and have a perfect life. I feel really bad for her and don't know what to do. Help me!

[Polarminea]

i have tried so many things to make a guy like me, but there is always a problem... i am not the skinniest, i have a fat face, big large nose, .... idk but PLEASE help me

[madmarchie94]

hi ms. kathleen hassan, my name is marcella, and by watching this you really made me realize that im not trying to make a boy like what they think im like, but who i am. The only problem i have is that i just want to feel like someone likes me, so i try too hard, and end up pushing them away. I don't have the confidence to talk to them normally. Anyway, thank you so much for helping me!

[lovekarenpisigan]

ms, kathleen hassan, hi :) i am karen. a filipino. i would just like to say thank you so much for your wonderful tips. i am a 17 year-old girl and i am a very shy type of person. this video made me realize that confidence`is what makes a girl sexy. :)) again, thank you. and more power to you! :)

[XCourtneyAnne123X]

Veryy helpful. you have alot of insight, but i suggest you focus more on overwieght teens, they have the hardest time. I, myself, am skinny, good body, etc. and i hate when overwieght girls cry to me saying how they only wish they could have a nice petite body, not trying to sound concieted, but you should really focus on that(:

[fluffyhuny]

I'm 17 (nearly 18) and have never had a boyfriend. is that weird and pathetic?

it just seems that the guys i like never like me back, and the ones who like me, i don't like back that way.

but i also have very few guy friends (i'm in an all girls school and can't afford to do clubs and sports etc outside of school) so i don't have many to choose from!

how can i meet new guys and possible boyfriends?

[slushechomoo]

@fluffyhuny im in the same boat as you!

[supermagical101]

not a big help! but thx!

[Fangirl967]

thankyou for saying this. I don't know how I got here(crazy youtube!) but every word has blessed me. thank you. :]

[gtirboy1]

hi teen girls

[wanacook1]

same i cant understand that and i think i am so fat because i want to have that body

[Toozip09]

Your advice is SO inspiring! thank you so much! :)

[VlinderBanaan]

You're amazing!

[holatayl0r]

love this! im sixteen and have never dated anyone. i realized I have more fun being confident in myself than trying to catch a guy. plus, you will know when the right one comes along this way because he will be attracted to the genuine you!!

[un4got10dream]

You are seriously the best. :) I realized you are quoting the amazing book "The Secret" Everrrrything you said was soooooooooooooooo trueeee.

[coolschoolygirl260]

my mom always talks about the "law of attraction"...

[xcharlotte100]

also i would like to add :L ... i have to say, that i dont have 'loads' of friends, but i dont need alot of friends, i dont have to put on more make up, or a different outfit, because i know they love who i am inside. i get judged alot! but thats ONE persons opinion, they dont know who you are, or anything about you do they?

[xcharlotte100]

i used to get bullied, and everytme i looked in the mirror, i hated myself.

but then i realised, thats not the point. lifes too short to feel negative about yourself. 'the people that mind dont matter and the people that matter dont mind'

[isawacat21]

thanks, i think you helped me

[alfalgebra]

most of the guys in my school likes talking about video games, robots and stuff like that. i don't play those stuff, some guyes doesn't really mind about girls. =(. i like this guy, but he never talk to girls and he ignore girls. and i like him, how can i attract him? please help me

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

Sorry for all the comments from me below - I was replying to comments that others had left, but for some reason, they all showed up in a big clump all from me!! LOL It looks like I'm trying to win - most comments on YouTube award or something!!

[ElleOhElleHilarious]

this is so true, i bought these pants that i didnt think my friend would like, i wore them he said they were ugly and i literally said "i dont need to please you, im wearing these because i like the," later that night he called me sexy... while i was wearing those same ugly pants :>

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

This is one of the best comments I've ever received!! Those could be the lyrics of a song "while I was wearing those same ugly pants" - just priceless!! Thank you for sharing that!

[ElleOhElleHilarious]

haha no problem :> keep up the videos, they really help

[PuNkPrInCeSsOo1]

hey umm i do have a boyfriend but im still kinda in love with my ex. what shoul i do. i also want to kiss my boyfriend, but i have no clue when to kiss him. oh ya im mariah and im 13, i kno im young but itsz true this is a time when boys are my top priortity.. so can you help me cuz i really like my boyfriend and i really want to kiss him so email me or comment me back, tellin me what i should do. God Bless Have a good life to all.

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

Make a list of all the qualities you're looking for in a boyfriend and don't settle until you find someone who has those qualities. Too many girls settle for any guy that comes along. It's really OK to not have a boyfriend at 13. You have all the time in the world to fall in love... but make sure he's worth it.

[milkshakeslover]

changing the way i 've thought all my life (which tends to be negative) is gonna be really, really hard. i don't know if i'm gonna make it, but i actually want to try. thanks for helping out by giving me that small push ;)

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

All of our power lies in this very moment and within this moment lies all of our power to choose a better thought. I believe in YOU!! Keep returning and you'll begin to strengthen those mental muscles and learn how to stay focused on what you want instead of being drawn into all the negative drama.

[maya105]

thankz alot for helping out

[sheil17]

oh this is so true!!i think i should start dress for myself instead of pleasing others...

[PirateSmoothie]

i wish my mom was like that...-_-....

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

Your mom is doing the very best that she can. There are no guidebooks on how to be a good mom - it has to come from the heart. But what I do know is that she is being everything she's supposed to be in order for you to become all that you were born to be. She's creating strong desires in you for change and that is the fuel that propels dreams!

[bigbitchification]

OMG I have the same insecurites as Isabelle! That letter nailed it!

[KiaTheRisingStar]

Your like the mom I never had.

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

Oh sweetie - that is like music to my ears. I lost my mom when I was 16 and I am always looking for mother figures in other women. I'm glad I could be that for you. Giant hugs and lots of blessings.

[Kitteh195]

@KiaTheRisingStar ditto

[micio7]

idk if this guy likes me he looks at me sometimes during brunch but i look at him more i want him to like me but i think i might be obsevive i mean i look at him alot during band and we make jokes now and then but i want to be more than friends with him can you help me

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

I say, what the heck... go for it. Stop worrying so much what he's gonna think and just be yourself and let it unfold the way it's supposed to - or not. But you've got to be true to yourself.

[MusicaChick666]

You offer really helpful advice regarding matters of low self esteem, a problem many teenage girls have hard time dealing with. Often, teenagers commit regretful and bad choices because of a lack of self confidence. I think you're doing a wonderful thing by trying to help them. You seem like a cool mom I would like to talk to about my troubles and issues with. :)

[aSonnetToScience]

ha i love her face at 1:09! that's quite a reaction.

[jajapalomo]

hi ms.kathleen hassan:)i'm janine ..i am filipino you really made me smile:)) ..u put possitive ideas in my mind:)) u really help us:) GODBLESS YOU:)

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

God bless you too Janine... you made my day :)

[RochelleBernil]

@jajapalomo hello there Im Filipino aswell :DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

[lawnak73]

amazing!

ver helpfull indeed!

[ECMON3]

thz....this helps..!

[xoxome100]

thankx soso much u helpd me a lots thnx!!!

[FanvidProductions]

Great advise, this helped me a lot =]

[LauraWhelan2K8]

Wow Thanks!

Your video really helped

=]

[iluvpridenprejudice]

This is great!!!!! You are awesome :)

[chasleshea92]

WOW! i have googled over and over how to become more confident, and you are the best confidence coach ever just this one video gave me a confidence boost that i have been searching for a really long time. THANK YOU SOOO MUCH.

[sexyla4491]

Thank You so much!

Wow, That was grat advice!

You are truely my confidence coach!

God Bless You.

[1fredluver]

you really know how to talk to young and teenage girls you have this down to earth vibe that still understands what its like to be a teenager.even if u are a stranger people feel like they can open up to you. great job, wish that some parents can be more like u. some parents act like they dont know what were going through. thankyou

[13marilyn14]

good advice

[PenelopeAndYou]

thank you very much :) this really helped ;)

[firefern321]

the best tip i can give to a girl, as a teen boy, be aggresive in conversation many boys are extremely frightened to be around girls dont be over aggresive and push them into conversations all the time or wear clothes that are too revealing and last always be nice never make fun of that boy even if it is banter stay clear of it, it is the biggest turn off i have ever encountered

[carlyxcouture]

i didn't write that, but it sure sounds like i did..

[heatherheronia]

Good advice :P xxxx

[sleshie]

can u answer this please.. what if im so shy to get into him and we DONT absolutely even KNOW each other. of course i dont want to introduce myself first coz that would be look like ridiculous. i like him so much. he look at me and i look at him too with a matter of split second. we go in the same school. please respond to this what is the best thing i will have to do to be with him, and if ever to DAte with him. THANK YOU SO MUCH

[Cottonwind]

i love this video so much !

thanks for boosting me confidence

[Florencethomas405]

good video I will remember that. When I was growing up I was taught men are dangerous, men are bad and I ended up rejecting all the nice guys and attracting all the unhealthy ones because thats just how I thought they were. I am too trying to change my mindset, looking at this video has helped me clarify and understand what im doing more. thanks. Florence, 21.

[BLuEsHayZee]

I am a man, and what believe is that women should know how to dress! Breasts and you bum bum hanging out is only good for bed. NOT, in public. Think what you want, but a man that does care, bother them. tats and piercings, are a preference but all it shows in my eyes, is that you been there and done that. Kinda like me saying, "I see a USED rag and not a new one. I want to shop somewhere else." in a grocery store.

In general I am just trying to say, represent yourself as a person. Not a item.

[solq4]

I just want to add that nothing is more beautiful than a girl with a good heart :) That is the most beautiful thing in the whole world.

[terrific012]

ye but u dont exactly wanna go out with an ugly person do u cus in school this is what they think of me they say im quiet pretty n im relly nice but im not exactly gorgeous

[solq4]

Be in a good mood and smile- that makes most people

much more attractive.

[solq4]

I am a guy. And I will say to you girls is that nothing is more attractive than a girl who is nice to everyone. That means care about other people. That is feminine.

A girl who is treating people bad is the worst thing in the world. No guy wants a bitch ( in a long term relationship) , so do not look up to those girls who believe they are so cool and better than everyone.

Just smile and be nice to the guy and he will probably like you.

[Murphator]

Amen to that brother, especially ESPECIALLY the part about the bitch (in a long term relationship)

[dadadadadadadada7]

That is not feminine! That is something that everyone in this world should do, be nice!

[PeriiBunny0x]

errrrrr im 13 and theres this one boy i really like, he knows that i fancy him but i dont know how to make him like me.. i harldy talk to him at school and only talk to him on msn. he did tell me i was good looking though.. theres this girl which everyone thinks he fancies, i think it aswell... he says he doesnt.. and she says he doesnt but i dont know, and i dont want her to get him. i dont know what to do. i have fancied him for atleast half a year. helpppppppp ! thanks =)

[KrazyKelsey62]

if he's said "ur good looking" u shud ask "in wat way?"

maybe u cud try flirting with him

e.g. wink at him, give a sweet smile

[animatermasterz]

if a girl said that to me I would walk away... Its a MAJOR turn off. You dont wanna sound like a perv but you dont wanna say something that would make them feel bad about themselves.

[lakota246]

well i have some advice i guess, this got me a boyfriend in 8th grade, i was talking to the guy on msn and hinting about who i liked starting out with asking him who he liked then saying i might like someone and leave him guessing and give a vague descriiption, he figured it out i guess and asked me out. but if ur guy is smart enough he will prob figure it out and then he'll either make a move or if he doesnt like you move on

[EmzyWOTEVA]

I'm known in my class for being one of the quiet ones! There are loads of girls that aren't neccersarily super-model like but make themselves something there not just to impress boys. Other girls can see straight through it (the ones that have a brain) but all the wrong boys go after the over confiedent ones. But at least they get attention. But the wrong attention. And shyness is such a hard image to change! Thanks for the info! xxx

[ChellseeaChoo]

I am 13 now and I havn't had a boyfriend in ages. I think that people get judged too much by the way they look. Life is about being yourself not trying to be perfect with every step you can find.!

It's about time we got some proper advise aswell as I am lacking alot of confidense. As I like a lad now, i can't seem to find a way to see if he likes me too. I don't want to make a fool of myself..Any advise..?

Thanx.. x x

[irep954305]

omg this advice

is really helpful

thank you kathleen

[Victorian9322]

I am 15 and I have the same problem and I feel so unconfident.

[crygirl93]

I'm a goth and I love the style.I'm don't want to be the average girl.I just want to be me.And I'm funny,nice,a great friend,not a wicked witch as ppl think i am.Ppl just judje me by my clothes,by my looks.I can't change who I am.I haven't kissed a guy for 2 years.That was my first and obviously last kiss.There is this guy(I'm 15 years old,so is he) in my school.He is such a good kid,and i love him.I would like to talk to him for once.I'm afraid to be rejected.any advice?

[lakota246]

i feel bad cuz i judge peole tht are goth, u could say im popular i mean im on the sports teams and stuff but wat i dont get is how you feel tht is attractive? im sorry if this comment offends you i just am very curious to know

[MusicaChick666]

Like Isabel said, half of the people will hate you and the other will love you. In this case, you're in the hating half (let's just use the term dislike). Maybe to other people's perspective, they find popular people unattractive. It really varies and depends on perception and everybody's perception is different.

[bodylines11]

I'm a guy, and I was surprised to hear these things. Girls have a Huge advantage in dating. Guys are concerned with looks. But that just means we want someone who is normal. Certainly not just the perfect 10. And an avg girl will always be more attractive than an avg guy. Girls are beautiful no matter what they wear and guys love to talk to you. All I'm looking for is a nice girl I can snuggle up with and talk to. Not how fast I can "bang" someone. BTW I'm not a weirdo. I just had to say it.

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

Rock on Dude!! Thank you sooo much for sharing a guy's point of view. If girls only knew how much a guy wants to have a regular girl in his life as you put it "to snuggle up with" they'd drop all that drama for sure!!

Listen up girls!! You do have the advantage... guys are just as nervous as you are and want the same thing - someone to love them for who they are - just the way they are.

[bots4life]

I agree to an extent, but it seems like shes really pushing a New Age train of thought.

Also you cant compare a 14 year old male to a 22 year old male. the brain doesn't fully develop until 18 not to mention that testosterone production peeks between 14 and 16.

I 100% agree that women are solely judged by their appearance, but both sex's have their equal burdens. You just don't hear men's problems because their suppose to be tough and handle everything themselves.

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

I hesitated to respond to this because of the reference to "New Age train of thought" comment. There is nothing "new" about enlightenment or finding your power within. Jesus taught it, Buddha taught it along with hundreds of philosophers and teachers.

I will agree that there is a "new" understanding of universal laws and truth and that more and more people are waking up and discovering their own spirituality.

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

Lastly, I am not "pushing" any train of thought or agenda, but merely sharing the lessons that took me most of my life to learn.

I wish someone had told me these things when I was a teen and perhaps it would've saved me years and years of pain and therapy and drama.

If I can help one girl find her power and voice and help her to know who she is and accept herself - just the way she is, then I will have been of service to God. That is my only agenda.

[putikat]

i am also 14 and i have the same problem... thanks for your helpful advice. you're right i must stop being too pessimistic about those who surround me... thanks!

[2k7flirtz2k7]

woww that actually really did help. thankyouu =) x

[buttafli5]

VERYYYYYY helpful:) and insparational. you should start writing for a magazine about confidence and guy advice or something. i think it would be very succesful!(:

[xTiberx]

I found this video truly helpful and confidence-boosting! I think that we should all stand by the belief that there /are/ nice guys out there. I love your advice on dressing for yourself, and being yourself, those people who don't like you for you can take a hike, they're not even worth knowing.

Such an inspirational video should have at least another three 0's on the end of the number of views in my opinion!

(: x

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

Dear xTiberx -

You wrote:

"Such an inspirational video should have at least another three 0's on the end of the number of views in my opinion!

Thank YOU so much and I couldn't agree more!

So how can we make this happen? I want YOU on my team. If Paris Hilton can have millions watching her stupid campaign spoof, don't real girl issues deserve that much attention?

Change will only happen when we change what we value. So forward this video to all your friends!

[xXKIMMYkatastropheXx]

this video actually helped alot :)

thank you.

i'm 14 too and i think alot of what she thought is what i think also about how guys think about me

so thank you so much about this advice :)

it has helped me as well

[guitarchick615k]

I really like how you presented your advice, it really made me want to listen. Im Krystal and my true age is 16 years old. And i 100 percent agree with your advice. I found even with making friends i was more liked just because i like myself. I really think people are attracted to confidance, because it gives them a great feeling as well. im happy to say i have a great boyfriend, and he is a great guy, i couldnt want better. and i kno he likes me more then the thin girl on the street! thanks!!

[KathleenHassanDotCom]

Krystal - thanks so much for taking the time to post a comment. You deserve to be loved - just for being you. I'm so proud of you for daring to be who you are instead of pretending to be "all that" and trying so hard to be just like everybody else. It is truly the secret to success and I'm on fire to help other girls get it. A gazillion blessings to you my friend!! Love, Kathleen

[guitarchick615k]

thank you. :) and good luck helping other teens!