sorry i will never understand how you can put videos online having this issue, i mean i went from hiding avoidant to chatting weird guy and i still can't picture myself doing that...
I have problems like yours, I've taken many medications, plus my biggest problem and anxiety, I would like to get in touch with you, I really wanted to talk to you about it, I think we have much in common.charlezfuz@gmail.com
Have you seen a physician? Do you eat good food, sleep properly and get good physical exercise ? These 3 things can affect mood naturally for the better.. Discuss this with a physician, before they "diagnose' and put you on meds. Im not a doctor but i do know a lot of md.s are to quick to put people on meds these days. Thanks for sharing,
You have no idea what SAD, GAD Agoraphobia is. I see 'these' videos of young white trash boo whooing about how hard life is. The fact that you can record you're "experience" exemplifies how minor your anxiety is. Try abusing your xanax 2mg bars for years. 12+ a day. I have shut off every avenue of contact to a few family members. Don't use a phone or 'friend collector' er facebook. My situation is the ultimate BOY WHO CRIED WOLF . I'm never looked at by the medical profession objectively
@hydrodwarf YOU have no idea about my life. What u think u know everything about me from watching 1 video? Good work jerk off. U have no idea to what extremes my anxiety gets to. SO keep ur mouth shut..and go complain somewhere else. No wonder ur not looked at objectively. U think ur the only one who's had an addiction problem to xanax. Try again dumb ass.. sorry but u know nothin about me. Just cause I suffered through God knows how many panic attacks to make videos don't mean SHIT!
@scotiism You're right man. I gave an honest apology for my rant and have found some success in 'treatment' for dabilitating mental conditions such as Nayomee eluded to. Peace and slow, deap breathing to all.
@4illegalalien today's half-wit society? god, you're clearly the most close minded fag in the world. its people like you that contribute to a 'half-wit society', from judging everyone on how they look and how they act, get the fuck out you dirty slug fetus. haha 'i would recommend you got rid of them', like you have any authority, go back to wanking infront of the mirror.
@yoshii88 this is the greatest comment of all. I know because I remember it. I can no longer talk to you, your channel has been removed. I got things to say.
i have autism, social phobia and a pychopathic personality i find that hitting a punching bag helps me fire off some emotion your very pretty love the accent
I totally understand..it is so frustrating..I've had this my whole life and I am much older than you. It can be overcome some though but it takes lots of effort and determination. One thing is pills that promise they will help do not. Nothing helps me except I pray alot and plunge forward but sometimes that doesn't either. We are simply this way...accept yourself and cope with it...life is still good...everyone has uncomfortable things to overcome. So, know that, ok?
Sweetheart, You are a very beautiful young lady, this is why you get all the attention. As for your problems they are all caused by Demons...they talk talk talk in your spiritual ear non stop...Find Jesus, Confess your sins to him and believe he died on the cross and shed his blood for your sins. Find a real christian church...read the bible,
Finally someone who SA who blushes. I have the same problem, and I'm scared people will judge me of my blushing, and I start panicking. And turn even more red. I blacked out in front of my class (I'm 14) because I was holding a Notecard and I was scared everyone was looking at me.
@4illegalalien I don't care what u think about my piercings and if YOU think they make me look pretty or not! Oh like yeh ok.. I should take ur recommendation? lol I don't know u dude! And I'm not lowering myself to anyone's level.. I've had most of my piercings before they became "popular" with the world today. I like them.. I don't care if other ppl like them.. I got them for ME.. not for anyone else. Because I like them!!! I didn't get these piercings to "look pretty".
@4illegalalien ...and figure out why you’re incapable of observing people beyond face value. Secondly: natural beauty is a nice concept but if you really believed what you’re saying you would not shave, wear clothes, wash with synthetic soap...you wouldn’t look or smell good ever. The most subtle forms of body modification are nature-defying and EVERYONE in our society does it.
@4illegalalien Half-wit society? I don't see idiocy in body modification, I see it in generalising comments like yours. Two points: beauty is part objectivism/geometry and part subjective. There is truth in 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' when one considers cultural context as well as one's own history of subjective experience which leads to particular aesthetic opinions. So instead of attacking someone's aesthetic appearance based on half-baked societal connotations, I'd take a look...
@gglaw42 I have a PhD in psychology and I am working on a video series about how to overcome social anxiety. You should check out my channel. I think you will find it helpful.
You can teach a student a lesson for a day; but if you can teach him to learn by creating curiosity, he will continue the learning process as long as he lives. ~Clay P. Bedford
This quote above should be adhered to.
But see now, a prisoner must change his ways before he can be freed,realize you are free to change your ways.Don't voluntarily accept the admission you are powerless because of the voice in your head,everyone is master and fool of their own choice.The voice is a child
You are absolutely beautiful! I would love to get to know you, social anxiety or no. Don't listen to negative comments; people who make those are going nowhere in life. All the best, -Matt
@simplyStatic33 Thank u! :/ It's hard tho especially when the negative comments are coming from urself. It's a whole life time of stuff to try and reverse.
im gorgeous too i have a resemblance with young kiefer sutherland ewan mcgregor paul walker neil patrick harris simon baker but suffer SA and people family friends think im gay and i like women a lot
Aww sweety i wish i could be there for you hug you be ur friend and tell u everything is okay...dont be so shy ur beautiful and seem very nice and if anyone stares its because ur so damn pretty i wish the best for u.... :)
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but try n find a good Buddist teacher cos these people will let u be in fear and dont react too much...is of great help( and they will love u for what u r) 4. Practise daily buddist meditation..people with social phobias are really lucky compared to schiznophrenia as we can observe ourselves...i have not lied abt any of this...but i have just begun to follow this path...but i can guarantee u i have visited a buddist meditation teacher who showed me 3-4 cases hopeless for doctors but cured.
I donno if this is going to work or not but i have had the opportunity to meet a girl with suicidal tendencies , anxiety and she overcame it by following 4 steps. 1. logging on in a diary about the intensity , the negatives and the positives that happen every hour(helps u to see the reality, anxiety keeps incresing n decreasing and its a good lesson) 2. having a good doctor who can help u with small dosage of good medicine 3. Having company of a peaceful meditator(is a little difficult to find)
yo tambien tengo la f.s. y es feo cuando no puedes hablarle a una mujer y compartir varias cosas pero ahora me propongo hablarle a una chica y tambien quiero hacer un video contando mi caso y quiero saber si tomas pastillas yo tambien quiero hacerlo por un tiempo hasta q pueda desemvolverme sin miedo a hacer el ridiculo por que si no lo hago voy a perder mis habilidades q tengo
espero contactarme con tigo por que uno se siente bien cuando se siente escuchado y .
So sorry nayome77. I am shy, lonely, and depressed about my life. And yes people look at me also; and it's definitely not because I'm beautiful because I am not. You are very pretty, btw. Just wanted to say that. I wish I was pretty because then I'd have a chance to have a man in my life. I am destined to be alone forever. And before any nay sayers on here disagree. What MAN would even LOOK at an UGLY female? It was different for Quasimoto - he was male. Again sorry about your sociophobia.
@ihatemylife3150 well im sure my life is just as fucked up as yours.i consider myself so-so looking but i have a lot of girls hit on me , mostly when i use to go out. but because of S.A. i couldnt talk to them. i would talk soft spoken and stutter and mumble,then they look at me like im just fucked! im 41 now and ive had S.A. since i was 14,so since that age ive had a gf for maybe 5-6 yrs in 27 years. so ive lived a pretty lonley life too. i can get a gf i just cant get comfortable around them.
@ihatemylife3150 :( I understand. And while u think i'm pretty.. I don't see myself that way. + don't matter what I look like.. it's the inside that scares everyone away eventually. Don't keep telling urself that ur destined for something when u don't really know for sure. I know it's not easy.. but u should try and challenge ur negative comments that u are telling urself. I have to do the same thing.
I think that if people are looking at you that they just find you attractive. It's good thing when people are looking at you. If you blush, its nothing to worry about, most people won't even notice, and even if they do then they wont think much of it. It's nothing to worry about, having red cheeks is even attractive as its a sign of a healthy person. Enjoy the little thing and they will turn into something big.
my favorite parts is when you go to scratch your head and you momentarily show your strong, gorgeous arms. It KILLS me that you have decided to be depressed. All you have to do is just DROP it. You are SO CLOSE. Your "therapist" is an idiot. There IS no "social phobia". It's NOT A THING. It's simply something you allow yourself to dwell on.
@sevenonpaper1 Your ignorance is astounding. Please do some research instead of spouting antiquated beliefs about "choosing" to be depressed. Mental disorders have concrete biological footprints in the brain, and with the amount of knowledge available today you have no excuse to keep your head buried in the sand, popping out for an occasional bootstrap rant.
@FrozenRev ??? who rattled your chain? And are you really astounded? How does that manifest? Did you fall back on your ass and come in your pants? I hope you weren't delivering a lecture on Theodore Morel. Eh, doesn't matter. You would have been talking to an empty hall.
By the way, I realize that the reason you're dissing me is because you HOPE this babe sees your defense of her and seeks you out to grace you with the longest blowjob of your life. It ain't gonna happen. Talk to the hand.
You know what, i have "failed" alot in life im 32yo male, but I love life and i dont g.a f. what people think of me...have they been in my shoues? eh....no........i have a disorder that made my life a living hell, but now way a stupid m.f. gonna judge me, well judge all you can i still dont g.a.f. -to busy surviving my desease and my life overall.......good luck to you all that struggles with mental issues.....DONT GIVE UP!
You know what, i have "failed" alot in life im 32yo male, but I love life and i dont g.a f. what people think of me...have they been in my shoues? eh....no........i have a disorder that made my life a living hell, but now way a stupid m.f. gonna judge, well judge all you can i still dont g.a.f. to busy surviving my desease and my life overall.......good luck to you all that struggles with mental issues.....DONT GIVE UP!
Im better at going out the house now. I remember the longest i didnt go out was 3 months. It was horrible and i felt awful, cramped, bored, like i couldnt breathe.
Finally one day i had enough and ventured outside. I began to feel really dizzy and everyone was blurred i was sweating it was awful.
Now i can go outside, its just the people i meet. I cant even go to a clothes shop and pay for an item without getting nervous. THATS how bad its gotten for me.
This is very sad situation, peoples cant live there lives. U want to do so many things but u cant becuz of the fear. It makes u feel uncomfortable and weak. I have social phobia. This is keeping me away from wanting to be a dj and having a girlfriend. I took days off from work becuz of this I get sweaty and nervous around new people.
This is very sad situation, peoples cant live there lives. U want to do so many things but u cant becuz of the fear. It makes u feel uncomfortable and weak. I have social phobia. This is keeping me away from wanting to be a dj and having a girlfriend. I took days off from work becuz of this I get sweaty and nervous around new people.
I think you have a social phobia because you weren't put into social situations when you were younger. If you didn't experience interacting with others at a younger age, classic "shyness" can escalate and prolong into your mid life. In your case it isn't the same as social phobics who have insecurites about their appearance. Idk what you should do other than stepping out of your comfort zone.
social phobia can be very in the way to function. I have the same problem as well. It'sbeen like over 15 years now. I went even to therapy but that didn't really helped. It only helped me not to think for people what they are thinking about me. At work it's a problem for me as well. Always feeling watched and judged!
i get what you mean completely , when i sit around have a smoke with some dudes i go really introvert, no eye contact basically, i have to force it, and its so unnatural... I try to stick it out and wait for some happy times but the whole situation usually gets more and more awkward to the point where i stand up and leave, being socially retarded is fucked. Start getting some awful vibes, its basically torture trying to hang in there when your acting like a zombie. feel bad with nothing to say.
@z3ak999 oo man i had the exact same things happen to me, smoking with my friends.. some friends ive know all my life, but i would get introvert, looking at the floor, no eye contact.. then my mind would say " u better look up at them or theyre gunna think ur acting weird" then id look at them all un natural waiting for them to say something like .. FUCKK u lookin sketchy are you ok ? lol its just torture.. u can feel urself being swallowed up into a pit of negative thoughts & social awkwardness
Yeah i have this too.Its hard, but at least we are not alone. Did you know fear of public speaking is the #1 fear... death is 2nd and thats pll without S.P. Btw i love your accent,I like how you say social phober :)
Thank you bunches for uploading this. I too struggle with social anxiety whenever I'm outside of the house, and most people seem to think that it's something you can just "get over"; which isn't the case. Social phobia DOESN'T go away on its own! You need to take medication, see a therapist, etc. I've had this same problem since grade fucking 3 and it just gets worse if you ignore it. One of the best ways to overcome this disorder is to educate yourself, and the rest is seeking help. (:
its okay girl i was a popular guy at my school i dont fear any man or 1 ladie i am confident in that way i fight and no problem in rings i zoneout but the cafeteria up till now sometimes still happens when i feel put on spot few people are as coolminded as they seem not being cheesy they probably look because youre pretty but i know what you mean feel the eyes on you if you want to know what helps me focus on what youre doing and breath not the people and try to start with small crowds no Rxs
I have the same affliction but i wonder...why would such an intelligent and beautiful woman be worried about what people think of her? It's out of your control i know but holy crap!!!....take a trip across the 'big pond' to see me and we'll never have to go outside again! lol
I have the same thing I think.I also attract a lot of attention because I have to piercings in my face and a mowhawk lol but I like it.I recommend to listen to hypnosis go to bed with that and it helps so much.I read books about and I practice breathing techniques
Ive got the same problem. Its started since I was 15 years old. Now Im 30 Im my life has been so difficult . There have not been a single nigth in wich I dont ask God for a med that could give me a normal life. I admire how even with SP you have piercings in your nose and mouth.... I dont like people looking at me and those things call too much the attention over here. Good you are married ... maybe one day I could get married too. It would be great to have contact with a person like you
I am so confused because when i feel great, i love the attention and when i am not then usually sober SAD will kick my ass and appear retarted because ill try to fight it.
I'm 25 and I have social phobia and some anger issues.People at work think bad things about me.I'm not using drugs anymore.I tried to be a happy person but when you are alone life still sucks.All I enjoy doing in this life is painting.
i think ur hot & i love ur brown eyes & piercings, i also have SAD & i start group sessions on 2nd Dec so i going to make sum videos maybe itl help me, take it easy & hope u are doing great :-)
you know whats the best thing to do? is try to do things you're afraid to do. For example if you're afraid to talk to a stranger, go up to him or her and just small talk for about five minutes. Another example is ask a question in class. You'll find out that is not as you think it is.
@trakomako Ive pretty much been forcing myself back into the world. Its hard but once i get comfortable everything goes away. I just breathe, and relax myself and keep telling myself that everything is going to be alright. I still get a lump in my throat feeling which is a massive pain in the ass, but ive learned different ways to get rid of it. Now im just slowly working my way up through bigger and bigger situations until im fully comfortable around anything and anyone.
I know exactly how you feel. Ive always been a little bit shy but once i started going out to parties and drinking/smoking weed (roughly 16) everything was pretty much suppressed. Now im 22 and had a panic attack about 3 weeks ago and I have been avoiding everything. Everything that Ive suppressed for 6 years has now come back to haunt me, but I'm beginning to cope with this. Ive slowly worked myself back into public and social events but its been hard. Its like learning to walk again.
Once you've tried out a social situation, you're thinking: This wasn't really dangerous actually and then you challenge yourself on an even harder social situation. Just small steps each day and always be so positive as you can when you wake up in the morning. You just have to overcome your fear yourself because there's no one else who's gonna. I know It's tough all the time sweety, but it's a thing that just have to be done. i think You're a very beautiful atractive woman. Good luck to you :)
But trust me you are the one who can help yourself best. Sounds hard, but it's true because there ain't no god damn people in the world that can help you overcome this. You have to try out a social situation. It was terrifying for me when i did and the only thing that prevented me from walking away, was that i thought about my future if i didn't do something now. And now i've found out that it's not dangerous anymore, but there's still long way for me still. Good luck sweety :)
But it's you who can help yourself most. You just have to challenge yourself in social situations even though it's soo hard :( First step could be talking to just one person. Then another one and then try talking with one with the opposite sex wich is the hardest thing ever imo. If a girl looks at me and smile i go panic in myself, wich is soo sad because there's a lot of girls in my life, that i had a chance to get to know and you'll regret a lot of things later in life :( (Continued...)
You're beautiful, Saomi :) Anyway i know exactly how you feel sweety. I have extreme social phobia myself and have been isolating myself for 2 years. Just 2 weeks ago my social phobia was at it's highest, but it's better now, that i've started on a school 2 weeks ago wich was the hardest day in my life. First step is to admit you have a problem (wich took me a very long time) and then seek help anywhere you can. People can help you on the right track (continued...)
Just to say it is possible to get special makeup to hide blushing. I had a friend who had a problem with this and she used it. I think it has a slightly greenish tinge but that counteracts any redness - it doesn't look green when it's applied!
Just to say it is possible to get specia makeup to hide blushing. I had a friend who had a problem with this and she used it. I think it has a slightly greenish tinge but that counteracts any redness - it doesn't look green when it's applied!
i want to let you know that you are not alone....every description you have gave describes me exactly.......my face turns red all the time when i feel like people are judging me or im giving a speech and it looks like i have a disease because my face gets completely dark red and blotchy.....i actually have to give a speech in front of like 40 people for a college class in like 3 weeks and my face gets red from even thinking about it...
You re a beautiful attractive young woman and i think if people were really thinking or talking about you they would definitely be saying " who's this attractive woman over there, I really wish i could have a chance to talk to her." :)
Its nice to know that i am not alone.. But believe me, its not your fault and the first thing you should do is to not hate yourself for being like that because its perfectly normal. Once you accept it, you then start learning to be, how do i say it, "selfish". Meaning, you should focus on what you want, what you like, what you want to be, who do you want to be with, where do you want to go to feel better, etc.
Hello, my name is Ana, I am a filmmaker from Spain and I'm developing a documentary about social phobia, is an issue that concerns me and I care deeplyabout. I wonder if you're interested in helping me. My mail is: a.fernandezsaiz @ gmail.com
You should try taking a medicine called "zoloft" but it must be done with doctor's prescription and consultation, you will feel much better but it could take months; first you might feel sleepy. But you will adjust to it. I also take it with Busbar, zoloft starts at 25-50mg and could go up to 200 or over but must be with doctor's supervision. I have taken numerous medicine but this one much better. However it took about several months for me to feel much better.
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I sweat so much from being afraid to write in front of people that I could be taking notes in geography,That I can put one hand on the paper,and one hand on the pencil,Start writing,5 minutes in,my hand mark is left in sweat on the paper. I hate it so much.
I used to have social anxiety because I already know what they are thinking. That's "not right" but you probably know what I mean, even though they aren't looking at your writing. Most people like if people are weary, "humble." So it's difficult to break the habit of submission. Eventually, it becomes survival, so you get over it. I blush at the wrong times. I think that's because I have so many inappropriate advances that I'm trying to ward off or submit enough to not be attacked.
hey up,i wrote to you before,just wondered how you were,im not too bad alattley,ive seen a man who i like but i dont know how itll go,he seems to like me,but he doesnt know that im so bad social phobic wise,youve been on my mind since i wrote to you a while back,i hope that your ok,ive been worried about you and how your handling stuff,you take care now ok,and dont forget that your in my thoughts ok,all the best,be good to yourself
i have the same problem....and it's not that i dont like people, i do like the interraction and having fun, but when it comes to exchanging ideas and really expressing myself about things or when i see people dont quite get what i'm saying, i shut up, i say forget it, and the anxiety begins.... i had an outburst in class today, i started crying and i didnt even know why....oh yeah, i couldnt read outloud the words in front of me properly and frustrated, i cried like a child....it's frustrating
Doctors should go and help them approaching their targets. Like going on Meetings, Events on the Street and confront them with their fear. Seriously i think that's more helpful when the person knows their is someone behind them.
I think it is definitely something wrong with therapy "ok let's talk.."
whatever your saying or do isnt stupid. i know social phobia very well, i know it sucks bad, i feel lonely sometimes but in a way im content with the way everything is right now....if u ever wanna talk u can messege me.my name is Janet
noones perfect, infact everyone i met and got to know has some sort of problems, ever since ive been taking Tramadol for 2 years, (not sayin you should try it but it works for me, but be warned once your on it you are hooked for life, if you run out you will get withdrawls, but i never run out since ive found a good online pharmacy but ive been happy and thats all that matters for me, I just stopped caring about all the bad things that happen and just keep trying and if i fail oh well try again.
I use to have social anxiety really bad to the point where i didn't wanna go out anywhere. You just have to realize its not a big deal and you have to be mentally strong. There are people out there with worst problems like cancer who really have something to be worried about. Not everyone will like you and yea people are always going to judge thats just reality but who gives a fuck, its not like it will kill you. All your doing is depressing yourself!!!
I've never been diagnosed with Social Anxiety, but I think I might have it. I have an ongoing paranoia that everyone secretly hates me and is talking about me behind my back. I notice the smallest details in the demeanor of those around me; that person never walks up to me, I always go up to him/her. Or, that person never says hi to me. After hanging out with someone, I go over every moment of our time together and beat myself up for talking too much, or not enough or not being funny enough.
@sinning15 I did'nt say spend your entire life in your room i just ment things like coming straight home from work and dont take relationships to seriously. Also i can handle lonely, it's fun not having to share my TV time.
You have described everything i m feeling, especially eating in front of people....I think your great for doing this video. Im always on the edge and even the thought of putting a video of me talking on it would cause me to have palputations..... Thanks!! much love from ireland
Hi, I feel its important to realise that you are not a victim, but have strengths as well as weakness's. You said you were like this from young as if this is some sort of disability - its not - your just surrounded by people who encourage you to focus on your 'problem'. Nothing you have said makes me think you are anything less than normal, your video makes you sound like a compassionate sensitive warm person, who just needs the space and love to realise her potential
well there is a good reason for you to fear people, because people are evil and aggressive, violent and sadistic, pervert and dirty, and they love to crush your ego the first chance they get without feeling any guilt or remorse, in fact they blame all of their shitty behaviors on you who is shy and hates her own self. so dont be shy and self-loathing with such evil pervert creatures called "humans".
well there is a good reason for you to fear people, because people are evil and aggressive, violent and sadistic, pervert and dirty, and they love to crush your ego the first chance they get without feeling any guilt or remorse, in fact they blame all of their shitty behaviors on you who is shy and hates her own self. so dont be shy and self-loathing with such evil pervert creatures called "humans".
People don't focus on you all the time and think oooh, what a strange person, they have better things to do. That is what i've come to realise. Think of it this way, do you focus on 1 specific person all the time? i don't think so, you way too busy with your own fears. I hope this helps. I have social anxiety and evasive personality disorder and it has been very disruptive for my entire life. Have all the symptons you dicribe. Good luck to us both and all the rest with that.
People don't focus on you all the time and think oooh, what a strange person, they have better things to do. That is what i've come to realise. Think of it this way, do you focus on 1 specific person all the time? i don't think so, you way too busy with your own fears. I hope this helps. I have social anxiety and evasive personality disorder and it has been very disruptive for my entire life. Have all the symptons you dicribe. Good luck to us both and all the rest with that.
I wish I could meet someone with SAD because I have it too and we can help each other get through it. I think being friends with someone with the same problem is easier too.
I've suffered since 17. It happened when I moved to europe. I'm asian. I'm not sure whether it's the "cultural shock", however I was not treated properly, being oblivious of what this symptom was, and this literally destroyed my personality, even my family. Just I want to tell everyone who share the same symptoms, never take tablets, quitting it is like quitting drugs.
I totally feel that I'm the one talking on the video. all the same symptoms people like us suffer. maybe subtle difference however...people like us must in a way keep on going to the crowd. I'm actually heading 30, I feel less nervous, maybe aging in a way that you don't really get to care about your feature, you know. we are not different from normal. just being a little too extreme than others.
I ask the people with social phobia which want get professional help to message me.
You might ask WHY?
I was a guy who had social phobia, and I helped my self out of this problem. When i see those video's i get sad because i know very well how those people feel.
Beside that i studied psychology and developed my self to humanity psychology.
I'm about : Everyone has to right to be happy some need help I'm for them.
I don';t want money or anything i just get satisfied by helping human
I can't understand why talking to more than three people suddenly makes me sweat. A few minutes into the conversation their eyes begin to stare at my forehead. And I'm like, "oh no, they are going to notice...here comes the sweatness".
And then my words begin to stumble and before I know it I'm blushing.
And...its one of those things that the more you fight, the more its like hitting a wall or chasing your shadow. It just keeps happening.
I can relate to the writing in front of someone as well as having to cross the street at a busy intersection. You're very brave for posting this , and very pretty too.
I HATE crossing the street at a busy intersection. I'm 30 yrs old and have had social phobia as long as I can remember. only in the last couple of years did I start trying to battle it, but everytime I see one of these videos it reminds me how hopeless it is. cognitive behavioral therapy anybody?
How do you know if you have this condition?? I think i do.. here are some of my symptoms.. 1. Going into a crowded place like a supermarket/shopping centre and thinking people are juding/looking/thinking bad things about me 2. Freezing up in some circumstances when people are talking to me, such as at checkouts. 3. Constantly mucking up my words when i say sentences, and get annoyed at it when i do, as i try and make a conscious effort not to. 4. Not saying what i really want to say to peeps
@aussieMMApro 5. trying to talk to someone who is talking to you, but mucking up sentences/getting frustrated that you just can't talk freely 6. A feeling of not knowing what to say in some circumstances when convo should just run smoothly.
Appart from all that, i also suffer from anxiety and depression which sucks
My anxiety has at times gotten to the point I was afraid to leave the house, but now I think the some damage has been done as I do not seem to know how to socialize and may appear eccentric to others. Sometimes I'm even afraid to hear my own voice because it seems like I have an odd voice and I mumble my words severely. You mention stumbling you words, I would give anything to speak at least as clearly as you can.
I have social phobia also. I had my first panic attack when I took my school picture at the age of 6. I just remember sweating, fearful, frozen, and scared. My second one was in the sixth grade I started to sweat like crazy. It looked like someone poured water on me. Anyway i know how you feel. Your pretty girl u shouldnt have any worries.
People are NOT looking at you. You are probably just a NICE person that has NO OUTLET for being mean. You need to have a good fight with someone so you can get your heart racing for A GOOD REASON! This has worked for me. I have no qualms about being a jerk sometimes. Knowing I can do this practically erases the anxiety. And, most importantly, I DON'T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT! Very important! You must learn to do this. Stop being a NICE GIRL and be a REAL PERSON! You can do it, nayomee!
is there any pills to cure this,,hynosis,maybe..i have this prblem,i am overly shy,i try to avoid social stuff..i make people uncomfortable bcause i am so quiet,i wish i there is cure..sometimes my axiety is so bad i have suicidal thoughts.but i wuldnt have the guts to do it because i am worried what peopel think of me if i did kill myself
hey guys i just wanted to say that in all honesty pick a close friend of yours and have a good fight with them, i mean a real good fight, and after you will not feel as shy i am not kidding i do this weekly and i think it is very therapeutic
People dont realize what a person goes through with social phobia and fear unless they have it themselves. I'm in my thirty's and single because of this. It is a terrible way to live, know first hand. I pray this goes away one day and your a very beautiful lady and one day you'll meet someone nice. Email me any time if you want to talk about it. :)
Your not alone trust me I get the same problems. I even get worried sometimes of making an order at a restaurant. I get it all the time its really frustrating at times. I also freeze up a lot which I hate.
Has anyone else experience or experienced these problems that I have?
@izumizaki1 Yes, i freeze up a lot, and its hard to keep conversation flowing when that happens, and i always mumble up my sentences and have to repeat them, sucks :(
I get nervous when im going out sometimes, but after a while i LOVE being the center of attencion, But i dont know why im so shy in the beginning? Do anyone have the same thing? sorry for my bad english
@aussieMMApro wouldnt that mean , the weed was the controlling factor? Surley if we give people who have anxiety joints first time , they would be paranoid , second third time it will be just right
sorry i will never understand how you can put videos online having this issue, i mean i went from hiding avoidant to chatting weird guy and i still can't picture myself doing that...
levilisko 2 weeks ago
u're exactly like me girl! :( especially writing infront of people, and feeling like im the centere of attention, sux dont it
careforsomehouse 2 weeks ago
Heya, ummm... how long did it take for you to get a diagnosis after getting help?
RandomRamenSaviours 2 weeks ago
I have problems like yours, I've taken many medications, plus my biggest problem and anxiety, I would like to get in touch with you, I really wanted to talk to you about it, I think we have much in common.charlezfuz@gmail.com
Carlos51748 1 month ago
Metal face
satraviany 1 month ago
Have you seen a physician? Do you eat good food, sleep properly and get good physical exercise ? These 3 things can affect mood naturally for the better.. Discuss this with a physician, before they "diagnose' and put you on meds. Im not a doctor but i do know a lot of md.s are to quick to put people on meds these days. Thanks for sharing,
regards
Gtrplyr1 2 months ago
Hi,I feel the same symptoms,most of the time and i hate it! :(
sucks not feeling ok to go out!
I had a post i typed up for you but it seems i cannot post comments that long,or pm you without friendship :( !!
would love to hear a reply :S,..
its hard talking to people for me! people dnt seem to understand! :(
xxeu4riaxx 2 months ago
You have no idea what SAD, GAD Agoraphobia is. I see 'these' videos of young white trash boo whooing about how hard life is. The fact that you can record you're "experience" exemplifies how minor your anxiety is. Try abusing your xanax 2mg bars for years. 12+ a day. I have shut off every avenue of contact to a few family members. Don't use a phone or 'friend collector' er facebook. My situation is the ultimate BOY WHO CRIED WOLF . I'm never looked at by the medical profession objectively
hydrodwarf 2 months ago
@hydrodwarf YOU have no idea about my life. What u think u know everything about me from watching 1 video? Good work jerk off. U have no idea to what extremes my anxiety gets to. SO keep ur mouth shut..and go complain somewhere else. No wonder ur not looked at objectively. U think ur the only one who's had an addiction problem to xanax. Try again dumb ass.. sorry but u know nothin about me. Just cause I suffered through God knows how many panic attacks to make videos don't mean SHIT!
nayomee77 1 month ago
@hydrodwarf You gotta calm down.
scotiism 1 month ago
@scotiism You're right man. I gave an honest apology for my rant and have found some success in 'treatment' for dabilitating mental conditions such as Nayomee eluded to. Peace and slow, deap breathing to all.
hydrodwarf 1 month ago
@4illegalalien today's half-wit society? god, you're clearly the most close minded fag in the world. its people like you that contribute to a 'half-wit society', from judging everyone on how they look and how they act, get the fuck out you dirty slug fetus. haha 'i would recommend you got rid of them', like you have any authority, go back to wanking infront of the mirror.
mattfreedom2002 2 months ago
thank you for sharing. What you describe is exactly what I have and a may sound weird but it is true. How are you able to speak in front of a camera?
X11HGseeker 2 months ago
@yoshii88 this is the greatest comment of all. I know because I remember it. I can no longer talk to you, your channel has been removed. I got things to say.
spiritring 3 months ago
i have autism, social phobia and a pychopathic personality i find that hitting a punching bag helps me fire off some emotion your very pretty love the accent
bloodyturkey123 3 months ago
i have social phobia too and i think your making a huge deal out of it just go along with and stop thinking about it
hoikevinhoi 4 months ago
@hoikevinhoi You can not stop thinking about it maybe for a bit but after so long the fear overrides our thoughts.
X11HGseeker 2 months ago
I totally understand..it is so frustrating..I've had this my whole life and I am much older than you. It can be overcome some though but it takes lots of effort and determination. One thing is pills that promise they will help do not. Nothing helps me except I pray alot and plunge forward but sometimes that doesn't either. We are simply this way...accept yourself and cope with it...life is still good...everyone has uncomfortable things to overcome. So, know that, ok?
prodigal1978 4 months ago
Sweetheart, You are a very beautiful young lady, this is why you get all the attention. As for your problems they are all caused by Demons...they talk talk talk in your spiritual ear non stop...Find Jesus, Confess your sins to him and believe he died on the cross and shed his blood for your sins. Find a real christian church...read the bible,
dogcomb47 4 months ago
dude it doesnt matter how good looking someone is,this crap can happen to anyone,Ive been this was for 17 yrs,it sucks
dragonslayerED30 5 months ago
you kinda look like juliette lewis i think, and that's a compliment :)
donnasummer1 5 months ago
Finally someone who SA who blushes. I have the same problem, and I'm scared people will judge me of my blushing, and I start panicking. And turn even more red. I blacked out in front of my class (I'm 14) because I was holding a Notecard and I was scared everyone was looking at me.
TheRealMusicVideo 6 months ago
be kool
JTO500 6 months ago
@4illegalalien I don't care what u think about my piercings and if YOU think they make me look pretty or not! Oh like yeh ok.. I should take ur recommendation? lol I don't know u dude! And I'm not lowering myself to anyone's level.. I've had most of my piercings before they became "popular" with the world today. I like them.. I don't care if other ppl like them.. I got them for ME.. not for anyone else. Because I like them!!! I didn't get these piercings to "look pretty".
nayomee77 6 months ago 6
@nayomee77 i think they look cute
ketsustyle 4 months ago
@4illegalalien ...and figure out why you’re incapable of observing people beyond face value. Secondly: natural beauty is a nice concept but if you really believed what you’re saying you would not shave, wear clothes, wash with synthetic soap...you wouldn’t look or smell good ever. The most subtle forms of body modification are nature-defying and EVERYONE in our society does it.
DeLightToDeLirium 6 months ago
@4illegalalien Half-wit society? I don't see idiocy in body modification, I see it in generalising comments like yours. Two points: beauty is part objectivism/geometry and part subjective. There is truth in 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' when one considers cultural context as well as one's own history of subjective experience which leads to particular aesthetic opinions. So instead of attacking someone's aesthetic appearance based on half-baked societal connotations, I'd take a look...
DeLightToDeLirium 6 months ago
I have waves of it in certain social situations, other times, I am fine. I have been dealing with this my entire damn life, since I was about 5.
gglaw42 7 months ago
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SocialAnxietyDr 6 months ago
you and i seem to have the same story....
lunarkat5554 7 months ago
nayomee77 is certainly pretty alright,i find the way you communicate quite attractive as well.Stay up with a presence of the mind..good luck
NightClubc 7 months ago
You can teach a student a lesson for a day; but if you can teach him to learn by creating curiosity, he will continue the learning process as long as he lives. ~Clay P. Bedford
This quote above should be adhered to.
But see now, a prisoner must change his ways before he can be freed,realize you are free to change your ways.Don't voluntarily accept the admission you are powerless because of the voice in your head,everyone is master and fool of their own choice.The voice is a child
NightClubc 7 months ago
You are absolutely beautiful! I would love to get to know you, social anxiety or no. Don't listen to negative comments; people who make those are going nowhere in life. All the best, -Matt
simplyStatic33 8 months ago
@simplyStatic33 Thank u! :/ It's hard tho especially when the negative comments are coming from urself. It's a whole life time of stuff to try and reverse.
nayomee77 7 months ago
nayomee ..are you still youtubing ? i want to share some private messages with you
NightClubc 8 months ago
@NightClubc I'm here still. I just haven't made a vid for a while. Still keep putting it off.
nayomee77 7 months ago
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NightClubc 7 months ago
im gorgeous too i have a resemblance with young kiefer sutherland ewan mcgregor paul walker neil patrick harris simon baker but suffer SA and people family friends think im gay and i like women a lot
celtic4ever18 8 months ago
How'd you get those piercings then?
Alaron251 9 months ago
@Alaron251 o_O
nayomee77 7 months ago
Aww sweety i wish i could be there for you hug you be ur friend and tell u everything is okay...dont be so shy ur beautiful and seem very nice and if anyone stares its because ur so damn pretty i wish the best for u.... :)
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AwwwMuffinz 10 months ago
but try n find a good Buddist teacher cos these people will let u be in fear and dont react too much...is of great help( and they will love u for what u r) 4. Practise daily buddist meditation..people with social phobias are really lucky compared to schiznophrenia as we can observe ourselves...i have not lied abt any of this...but i have just begun to follow this path...but i can guarantee u i have visited a buddist meditation teacher who showed me 3-4 cases hopeless for doctors but cured.
harsha205 10 months ago
I donno if this is going to work or not but i have had the opportunity to meet a girl with suicidal tendencies , anxiety and she overcame it by following 4 steps. 1. logging on in a diary about the intensity , the negatives and the positives that happen every hour(helps u to see the reality, anxiety keeps incresing n decreasing and its a good lesson) 2. having a good doctor who can help u with small dosage of good medicine 3. Having company of a peaceful meditator(is a little difficult to find)
harsha205 10 months ago
yo tambien tengo la f.s. y es feo cuando no puedes hablarle a una mujer y compartir varias cosas pero ahora me propongo hablarle a una chica y tambien quiero hacer un video contando mi caso y quiero saber si tomas pastillas yo tambien quiero hacerlo por un tiempo hasta q pueda desemvolverme sin miedo a hacer el ridiculo por que si no lo hago voy a perder mis habilidades q tengo
espero contactarme con tigo por que uno se siente bien cuando se siente escuchado y .
hasta pronto.
rugal70 10 months ago
So sorry nayome77. I am shy, lonely, and depressed about my life. And yes people look at me also; and it's definitely not because I'm beautiful because I am not. You are very pretty, btw. Just wanted to say that. I wish I was pretty because then I'd have a chance to have a man in my life. I am destined to be alone forever. And before any nay sayers on here disagree. What MAN would even LOOK at an UGLY female? It was different for Quasimoto - he was male. Again sorry about your sociophobia.
ihatemylife3150 10 months ago
@ihatemylife3150 well im sure my life is just as fucked up as yours.i consider myself so-so looking but i have a lot of girls hit on me , mostly when i use to go out. but because of S.A. i couldnt talk to them. i would talk soft spoken and stutter and mumble,then they look at me like im just fucked! im 41 now and ive had S.A. since i was 14,so since that age ive had a gf for maybe 5-6 yrs in 27 years. so ive lived a pretty lonley life too. i can get a gf i just cant get comfortable around them.
SucidalTendency 8 months ago 2
@ihatemylife3150 :( I understand. And while u think i'm pretty.. I don't see myself that way. + don't matter what I look like.. it's the inside that scares everyone away eventually. Don't keep telling urself that ur destined for something when u don't really know for sure. I know it's not easy.. but u should try and challenge ur negative comments that u are telling urself. I have to do the same thing.
nayomee77 7 months ago
I think that if people are looking at you that they just find you attractive. It's good thing when people are looking at you. If you blush, its nothing to worry about, most people won't even notice, and even if they do then they wont think much of it. It's nothing to worry about, having red cheeks is even attractive as its a sign of a healthy person. Enjoy the little thing and they will turn into something big.
Muscovite91 11 months ago
my favorite parts is when you go to scratch your head and you momentarily show your strong, gorgeous arms. It KILLS me that you have decided to be depressed. All you have to do is just DROP it. You are SO CLOSE. Your "therapist" is an idiot. There IS no "social phobia". It's NOT A THING. It's simply something you allow yourself to dwell on.
sevenonpaper1 11 months ago
@sevenonpaper1 Your ignorance is astounding. Please do some research instead of spouting antiquated beliefs about "choosing" to be depressed. Mental disorders have concrete biological footprints in the brain, and with the amount of knowledge available today you have no excuse to keep your head buried in the sand, popping out for an occasional bootstrap rant.
FrozenRev 11 months ago 3
@FrozenRev ??? who rattled your chain? And are you really astounded? How does that manifest? Did you fall back on your ass and come in your pants? I hope you weren't delivering a lecture on Theodore Morel. Eh, doesn't matter. You would have been talking to an empty hall.
By the way, I realize that the reason you're dissing me is because you HOPE this babe sees your defense of her and seeks you out to grace you with the longest blowjob of your life. It ain't gonna happen. Talk to the hand.
sevenonpaper1 11 months ago
I have added a video response for PSTEC (percussive suggestion technique) I developed it for just such issues and you can use it for free.
It's being used all over the world. Please give it a go. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
P5Tec 11 months ago
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You know what, i have "failed" alot in life im 32yo male, but I love life and i dont g.a f. what people think of me...have they been in my shoues? eh....no........i have a disorder that made my life a living hell, but now way a stupid m.f. gonna judge me, well judge all you can i still dont g.a.f. -to busy surviving my desease and my life overall.......good luck to you all that struggles with mental issues.....DONT GIVE UP!
GotOneLifeToLive 11 months ago
You know what, i have "failed" alot in life im 32yo male, but I love life and i dont g.a f. what people think of me...have they been in my shoues? eh....no........i have a disorder that made my life a living hell, but now way a stupid m.f. gonna judge, well judge all you can i still dont g.a.f. to busy surviving my desease and my life overall.......good luck to you all that struggles with mental issues.....DONT GIVE UP!
GotOneLifeToLive 11 months ago
Can i be your friend, i have a social phobia also.
chof0319 11 months ago 2
Check my channel for a documentary on S.A.D. called "Afraid of People: A Social Anxiety Disorder Documentary"
socialanxietydisable 11 months ago
Im better at going out the house now. I remember the longest i didnt go out was 3 months. It was horrible and i felt awful, cramped, bored, like i couldnt breathe.
Finally one day i had enough and ventured outside. I began to feel really dizzy and everyone was blurred i was sweating it was awful.
Now i can go outside, its just the people i meet. I cant even go to a clothes shop and pay for an item without getting nervous. THATS how bad its gotten for me.
mekissingyou 11 months ago
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This is very sad situation, peoples cant live there lives. U want to do so many things but u cant becuz of the fear. It makes u feel uncomfortable and weak. I have social phobia. This is keeping me away from wanting to be a dj and having a girlfriend. I took days off from work becuz of this I get sweaty and nervous around new people.
slangmet352 11 months ago
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This is very sad situation, peoples cant live there lives. U want to do so many things but u cant becuz of the fear. It makes u feel uncomfortable and weak. I have social phobia. This is keeping me away from wanting to be a dj and having a girlfriend. I took days off from work becuz of this I get sweaty and nervous around new people.
slangmet352 11 months ago
I think you have a social phobia because you weren't put into social situations when you were younger. If you didn't experience interacting with others at a younger age, classic "shyness" can escalate and prolong into your mid life. In your case it isn't the same as social phobics who have insecurites about their appearance. Idk what you should do other than stepping out of your comfort zone.
Deimos69r 1 year ago
You're so gorgeous!
TheCitymonster 1 year ago 23
social phobia can be very in the way to function. I have the same problem as well. It'sbeen like over 15 years now. I went even to therapy but that didn't really helped. It only helped me not to think for people what they are thinking about me. At work it's a problem for me as well. Always feeling watched and judged!
capcom23 1 year ago
You're extremely beautiful. I wish i knew you. BTW your accent is fantastic. So fucking cool.
FUCKYOUIAMOVER18 1 year ago
i get what you mean completely , when i sit around have a smoke with some dudes i go really introvert, no eye contact basically, i have to force it, and its so unnatural... I try to stick it out and wait for some happy times but the whole situation usually gets more and more awkward to the point where i stand up and leave, being socially retarded is fucked. Start getting some awful vibes, its basically torture trying to hang in there when your acting like a zombie. feel bad with nothing to say.
z3ak999 1 year ago
@z3ak999 oo man i had the exact same things happen to me, smoking with my friends.. some friends ive know all my life, but i would get introvert, looking at the floor, no eye contact.. then my mind would say " u better look up at them or theyre gunna think ur acting weird" then id look at them all un natural waiting for them to say something like .. FUCKK u lookin sketchy are you ok ? lol its just torture.. u can feel urself being swallowed up into a pit of negative thoughts & social awkwardness
TheVamp1res 1 year ago
Yeah i have this too.Its hard, but at least we are not alone. Did you know fear of public speaking is the #1 fear... death is 2nd and thats pll without S.P. Btw i love your accent,I like how you say social phober :)
Si11yShaman 1 year ago
you suck, you jackass! no just kidding, i know what you mean....
broadcastmyass4u 1 year ago
Thank you bunches for uploading this. I too struggle with social anxiety whenever I'm outside of the house, and most people seem to think that it's something you can just "get over"; which isn't the case. Social phobia DOESN'T go away on its own! You need to take medication, see a therapist, etc. I've had this same problem since grade fucking 3 and it just gets worse if you ignore it. One of the best ways to overcome this disorder is to educate yourself, and the rest is seeking help. (:
Lushdarkness 1 year ago
Sweetie I know exactly how you feel!
johnyzero2000 1 year ago
its okay girl i was a popular guy at my school i dont fear any man or 1 ladie i am confident in that way i fight and no problem in rings i zoneout but the cafeteria up till now sometimes still happens when i feel put on spot few people are as coolminded as they seem not being cheesy they probably look because youre pretty but i know what you mean feel the eyes on you if you want to know what helps me focus on what youre doing and breath not the people and try to start with small crowds no Rxs
champwagner 1 year ago
i like to dip my head in oil and rub it all over your body...
cirosuperiore 1 year ago
I have the same affliction but i wonder...why would such an intelligent and beautiful woman be worried about what people think of her? It's out of your control i know but holy crap!!!....take a trip across the 'big pond' to see me and we'll never have to go outside again! lol
mazdazm 1 year ago
I have the same thing I think.I also attract a lot of attention because I have to piercings in my face and a mowhawk lol but I like it.I recommend to listen to hypnosis go to bed with that and it helps so much.I read books about and I practice breathing techniques
CANADA321FUN 1 year ago
Ive got the same problem. Its started since I was 15 years old. Now Im 30 Im my life has been so difficult . There have not been a single nigth in wich I dont ask God for a med that could give me a normal life. I admire how even with SP you have piercings in your nose and mouth.... I dont like people looking at me and those things call too much the attention over here. Good you are married ... maybe one day I could get married too. It would be great to have contact with a person like you
tepiacapower 1 year ago
Great video. I subscribed. Check out some of the ones I got. They may help.
composer63 1 year ago
I am so confused because when i feel great, i love the attention and when i am not then usually sober SAD will kick my ass and appear retarted because ill try to fight it.
Redrumhydro 1 year ago
@shazzbot007 alcohol makes it much better for me and i tried xanax and i felt so good.
Redrumhydro 1 year ago
@Redrumhydro
Yeah, drinking is like a magic potion. I gets rid of the social anxiety and I am so outgoing and goofy I love it.
Evanstar1 1 year ago
@Redrumhydro
Yeah, it helps me too. It's like a magic potion that gets rid of all the social anxiety nerves and I can be myself around everyone :)
Evanstar1 1 year ago
@Evanstar1 oh yeah but alcohol and oxys are good too
Redrumhydro 5 months ago
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I'm 25 and I have social phobia and some anger issues.People at work think bad things about me.I'm not using drugs anymore.I tried to be a happy person but when you are alone life still sucks.All I enjoy doing in this life is painting.
bunji666 1 year ago
wow this is still up! Good for you. Hope you are better now.
AdlerChalk 1 year ago
i think ur hot & i love ur brown eyes & piercings, i also have SAD & i start group sessions on 2nd Dec so i going to make sum videos maybe itl help me, take it easy & hope u are doing great :-)
TheVamp1res 1 year ago
@TheVamp1res yeah she hots as hell ain't she. and it looks like i'am following you. lol
calculus345 1 year ago
why do you make youtube videos when people will/can criticize you? didn't you say you are afraid of people judging you? just asking, bye :)
cricri0895 1 year ago
i have SAD and its terrible..i am making videos on it now..i made my first one today.
HellRises2012 1 year ago
you know whats the best thing to do? is try to do things you're afraid to do. For example if you're afraid to talk to a stranger, go up to him or her and just small talk for about five minutes. Another example is ask a question in class. You'll find out that is not as you think it is.
Gabester64 1 year ago
@trakomako Ive pretty much been forcing myself back into the world. Its hard but once i get comfortable everything goes away. I just breathe, and relax myself and keep telling myself that everything is going to be alright. I still get a lump in my throat feeling which is a massive pain in the ass, but ive learned different ways to get rid of it. Now im just slowly working my way up through bigger and bigger situations until im fully comfortable around anything and anyone.
someday231 1 year ago
I know exactly how you feel. Ive always been a little bit shy but once i started going out to parties and drinking/smoking weed (roughly 16) everything was pretty much suppressed. Now im 22 and had a panic attack about 3 weeks ago and I have been avoiding everything. Everything that Ive suppressed for 6 years has now come back to haunt me, but I'm beginning to cope with this. Ive slowly worked myself back into public and social events but its been hard. Its like learning to walk again.
someday231 1 year ago
Once you've tried out a social situation, you're thinking: This wasn't really dangerous actually and then you challenge yourself on an even harder social situation. Just small steps each day and always be so positive as you can when you wake up in the morning. You just have to overcome your fear yourself because there's no one else who's gonna. I know It's tough all the time sweety, but it's a thing that just have to be done. i think You're a very beautiful atractive woman. Good luck to you :)
HipHop4alivin 1 year ago
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But trust me you are the one who can help yourself best. Sounds hard, but it's true because there ain't no god damn people in the world that can help you overcome this. You have to try out a social situation. It was terrifying for me when i did and the only thing that prevented me from walking away, was that i thought about my future if i didn't do something now. And now i've found out that it's not dangerous anymore, but there's still long way for me still. Good luck sweety :)
HipHop4alivin 1 year ago
But it's you who can help yourself most. You just have to challenge yourself in social situations even though it's soo hard :( First step could be talking to just one person. Then another one and then try talking with one with the opposite sex wich is the hardest thing ever imo. If a girl looks at me and smile i go panic in myself, wich is soo sad because there's a lot of girls in my life, that i had a chance to get to know and you'll regret a lot of things later in life :( (Continued...)
HipHop4alivin 1 year ago
You're beautiful, Saomi :) Anyway i know exactly how you feel sweety. I have extreme social phobia myself and have been isolating myself for 2 years. Just 2 weeks ago my social phobia was at it's highest, but it's better now, that i've started on a school 2 weeks ago wich was the hardest day in my life. First step is to admit you have a problem (wich took me a very long time) and then seek help anywhere you can. People can help you on the right track (continued...)
HipHop4alivin 1 year ago
Become stalked by people richer then Bill Gates and it will open your heart and mind to other dimensions. You can even test out virtual reality.
timelord5678 1 year ago
I also blush an awful lot, if I didn't things would be so much easier
simonm1991 1 year ago
Is your social phobia still going strong?
frogapple44 1 year ago
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Just to say it is possible to get special makeup to hide blushing. I had a friend who had a problem with this and she used it. I think it has a slightly greenish tinge but that counteracts any redness - it doesn't look green when it's applied!
Ptolemyfirst 1 year ago
Just to say it is possible to get specia makeup to hide blushing. I had a friend who had a problem with this and she used it. I think it has a slightly greenish tinge but that counteracts any redness - it doesn't look green when it's applied!
Ptolemyfirst 1 year ago
i want to let you know that you are not alone....every description you have gave describes me exactly.......my face turns red all the time when i feel like people are judging me or im giving a speech and it looks like i have a disease because my face gets completely dark red and blotchy.....i actually have to give a speech in front of like 40 people for a college class in like 3 weeks and my face gets red from even thinking about it...
ande6870 1 year ago
You re a beautiful attractive young woman and i think if people were really thinking or talking about you they would definitely be saying " who's this attractive woman over there, I really wish i could have a chance to talk to her." :)
garrette2010 1 year ago
Its nice to know that i am not alone.. But believe me, its not your fault and the first thing you should do is to not hate yourself for being like that because its perfectly normal. Once you accept it, you then start learning to be, how do i say it, "selfish". Meaning, you should focus on what you want, what you like, what you want to be, who do you want to be with, where do you want to go to feel better, etc.
garrette2010 1 year ago
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Hello, my name is Ana, I am a filmmaker from Spain and I'm developing a documentary about social phobia, is an issue that concerns me and I care deeplyabout. I wonder if you're interested in helping me. My mail is: a.fernandezsaiz @ gmail.com
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yoaneska 1 year ago
Always remember that you are not alone!
Andreana1 1 year ago
You should try taking a medicine called "zoloft" but it must be done with doctor's prescription and consultation, you will feel much better but it could take months; first you might feel sleepy. But you will adjust to it. I also take it with Busbar, zoloft starts at 25-50mg and could go up to 200 or over but must be with doctor's supervision. I have taken numerous medicine but this one much better. However it took about several months for me to feel much better.
handsometall28 1 year ago
sociophobic and still an attention whore
bitches and whores
TheVerySpecialThommy 1 year ago
A moneyless,classless,stateless communities of humanity expressing our freedom in creative harmonious cooperation for a world that is so POTENTIALLY AND ACTUALLY nourishing. Capitalism in any form, Statist or Corporatist is the denial of our common humanity in a politically manipulated,tyrannical armed MARKET SYSTEM of artificial scarcity that is designed to perpetuate the enslavement of immense humanity for material interest of the criminal ruling elite
arzoyan 1 year ago
I sweat so much from being afraid to write in front of people that I could be taking notes in geography,That I can put one hand on the paper,and one hand on the pencil,Start writing,5 minutes in,my hand mark is left in sweat on the paper. I hate it so much.
capefear56 1 year ago
I get SSI because of it lol.
3nderoX 1 year ago
I used to have social anxiety because I already know what they are thinking. That's "not right" but you probably know what I mean, even though they aren't looking at your writing. Most people like if people are weary, "humble." So it's difficult to break the habit of submission. Eventually, it becomes survival, so you get over it. I blush at the wrong times. I think that's because I have so many inappropriate advances that I'm trying to ward off or submit enough to not be attacked.
returnoftheramble3 1 year ago
hey up,i wrote to you before,just wondered how you were,im not too bad alattley,ive seen a man who i like but i dont know how itll go,he seems to like me,but he doesnt know that im so bad social phobic wise,youve been on my mind since i wrote to you a while back,i hope that your ok,ive been worried about you and how your handling stuff,you take care now ok,and dont forget that your in my thoughts ok,all the best,be good to yourself
ScrittiSparkle 1 year ago
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AimeebabyUK 1 year ago
i have the same problem....and it's not that i dont like people, i do like the interraction and having fun, but when it comes to exchanging ideas and really expressing myself about things or when i see people dont quite get what i'm saying, i shut up, i say forget it, and the anxiety begins.... i had an outburst in class today, i started crying and i didnt even know why....oh yeah, i couldnt read outloud the words in front of me properly and frustrated, i cried like a child....it's frustrating
tara8686 1 year ago
Doctors should go and help them approaching their targets. Like going on Meetings, Events on the Street and confront them with their fear. Seriously i think that's more helpful when the person knows their is someone behind them.
I think it is definitely something wrong with therapy "ok let's talk.."
i mean you can't do a job without doing it.
likelylike 1 year ago
If u have it why'd u make a youtube video...
Thelovelychristinaa 1 year ago
@Thelovelychristinaa you just talk to a camera, you dont feel the others watching you it's not the same thing....
tara8686 1 year ago
I have the same problem.
marter2006 1 year ago
whatever your saying or do isnt stupid. i know social phobia very well, i know it sucks bad, i feel lonely sometimes but in a way im content with the way everything is right now....if u ever wanna talk u can messege me.my name is Janet
BeautifulHyster1a 1 year ago
noones perfect, infact everyone i met and got to know has some sort of problems, ever since ive been taking Tramadol for 2 years, (not sayin you should try it but it works for me, but be warned once your on it you are hooked for life, if you run out you will get withdrawls, but i never run out since ive found a good online pharmacy but ive been happy and thats all that matters for me, I just stopped caring about all the bad things that happen and just keep trying and if i fail oh well try again.
Mopar4life440 1 year ago
I use to have social anxiety really bad to the point where i didn't wanna go out anywhere. You just have to realize its not a big deal and you have to be mentally strong. There are people out there with worst problems like cancer who really have something to be worried about. Not everyone will like you and yea people are always going to judge thats just reality but who gives a fuck, its not like it will kill you. All your doing is depressing yourself!!!
Ricknasty214 1 year ago
@Ricknasty214 it is not her who's doing this to herself, she cant help it
tara8686 1 year ago
@Ricknasty214 i have ocd and social anxiety whole my life and i didn't know it,i hate myself.
MrsBalkanman 1 year ago
@MrsBalkanman Hey try reading a book called "Mind over mood". It will atleast help you understand why you fell the way you do.
vincevince801 1 year ago
I've never been diagnosed with Social Anxiety, but I think I might have it. I have an ongoing paranoia that everyone secretly hates me and is talking about me behind my back. I notice the smallest details in the demeanor of those around me; that person never walks up to me, I always go up to him/her. Or, that person never says hi to me. After hanging out with someone, I go over every moment of our time together and beat myself up for talking too much, or not enough or not being funny enough.
sinning15 1 year ago
repeat these affirmations everyday.
i am loved and i am worthy
i am safe and i am free
i am powerfully protected
i am master of body and ruler of my mind
cannabisbisbisbisbis 1 year ago
Instead of being afraid of being rejected just be antisocial and hang out in your room all day it's much safer.
TheZa1994 1 year ago
@TheZa1994 You can't spend your entire life in your room. (What about bathroom breaks?) Also, you would get very lonley.
sinning15 1 year ago
@sinning15 I did'nt say spend your entire life in your room i just ment things like coming straight home from work and dont take relationships to seriously. Also i can handle lonely, it's fun not having to share my TV time.
TheZa1994 1 year ago
You have described everything i m feeling, especially eating in front of people....I think your great for doing this video. Im always on the edge and even the thought of putting a video of me talking on it would cause me to have palputations..... Thanks!! much love from ireland
jessica20ist 1 year ago
Hi, I feel its important to realise that you are not a victim, but have strengths as well as weakness's. You said you were like this from young as if this is some sort of disability - its not - your just surrounded by people who encourage you to focus on your 'problem'. Nothing you have said makes me think you are anything less than normal, your video makes you sound like a compassionate sensitive warm person, who just needs the space and love to realise her potential
txbtc2 1 year ago
In case someone actually does judge you, remember that all the world's greatest heroes have been judged and ostracized.
aaa333ify 1 year ago
I'm thinking I might have SAD.
aaa333ify 1 year ago
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well there is a good reason for you to fear people, because people are evil and aggressive, violent and sadistic, pervert and dirty, and they love to crush your ego the first chance they get without feeling any guilt or remorse, in fact they blame all of their shitty behaviors on you who is shy and hates her own self. so dont be shy and self-loathing with such evil pervert creatures called "humans".
utbord 1 year ago
well there is a good reason for you to fear people, because people are evil and aggressive, violent and sadistic, pervert and dirty, and they love to crush your ego the first chance they get without feeling any guilt or remorse, in fact they blame all of their shitty behaviors on you who is shy and hates her own self. so dont be shy and self-loathing with such evil pervert creatures called "humans".
utbord 1 year ago
@utbord agreed 100% thx for describing my feelings about humans
cht9178 1 year ago
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People don't focus on you all the time and think oooh, what a strange person, they have better things to do. That is what i've come to realise. Think of it this way, do you focus on 1 specific person all the time? i don't think so, you way too busy with your own fears. I hope this helps. I have social anxiety and evasive personality disorder and it has been very disruptive for my entire life. Have all the symptons you dicribe. Good luck to us both and all the rest with that.
gossegerard 1 year ago
People don't focus on you all the time and think oooh, what a strange person, they have better things to do. That is what i've come to realise. Think of it this way, do you focus on 1 specific person all the time? i don't think so, you way too busy with your own fears. I hope this helps. I have social anxiety and evasive personality disorder and it has been very disruptive for my entire life. Have all the symptons you dicribe. Good luck to us both and all the rest with that.
gossegerard 1 year ago
I wish I could meet someone with SAD because I have it too and we can help each other get through it. I think being friends with someone with the same problem is easier too.
savedbygracexoxo 1 year ago
I've suffered since 17. It happened when I moved to europe. I'm asian. I'm not sure whether it's the "cultural shock", however I was not treated properly, being oblivious of what this symptom was, and this literally destroyed my personality, even my family. Just I want to tell everyone who share the same symptoms, never take tablets, quitting it is like quitting drugs.
jisaw80 1 year ago
I totally feel that I'm the one talking on the video. all the same symptoms people like us suffer. maybe subtle difference however...people like us must in a way keep on going to the crowd. I'm actually heading 30, I feel less nervous, maybe aging in a way that you don't really get to care about your feature, you know. we are not different from normal. just being a little too extreme than others.
jisaw80 1 year ago
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jisaw80 1 year ago
Hello All,
I ask the people with social phobia which want get professional help to message me.
You might ask WHY?
I was a guy who had social phobia, and I helped my self out of this problem. When i see those video's i get sad because i know very well how those people feel.
Beside that i studied psychology and developed my self to humanity psychology.
I'm about : Everyone has to right to be happy some need help I'm for them.
I don';t want money or anything i just get satisfied by helping human
denizaya 1 year ago
Anyone who wants help message me. Im interested to help humans with social phobia. Just message me
denizaya 1 year ago
I can't understand why talking to more than three people suddenly makes me sweat. A few minutes into the conversation their eyes begin to stare at my forehead. And I'm like, "oh no, they are going to notice...here comes the sweatness".
And then my words begin to stumble and before I know it I'm blushing.
And...its one of those things that the more you fight, the more its like hitting a wall or chasing your shadow. It just keeps happening.
Michael272727 1 year ago
@Michael272727 same like me.
cht9178 1 year ago
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Catch a link on my video on my page that helped me a lot and might help you..Keep fighting on!
SouthernTunes 1 year ago
I can relate to the writing in front of someone as well as having to cross the street at a busy intersection. You're very brave for posting this , and very pretty too.
beggar81 1 year ago
congratulation for making the big step of talking about what you think.
You surely made a big step forward.
qqravagerqq 1 year ago
I have sp and I could never do a video. How do you do that? Mine must be severe. I'm a loser.
collindacorn 1 year ago
I HATE crossing the street at a busy intersection. I'm 30 yrs old and have had social phobia as long as I can remember. only in the last couple of years did I start trying to battle it, but everytime I see one of these videos it reminds me how hopeless it is. cognitive behavioral therapy anybody?
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UCantHandleTheTruth3 1 year ago
I hate crossing intersections.
suicidephukkem 1 year ago
How do you know if you have this condition?? I think i do.. here are some of my symptoms.. 1. Going into a crowded place like a supermarket/shopping centre and thinking people are juding/looking/thinking bad things about me 2. Freezing up in some circumstances when people are talking to me, such as at checkouts. 3. Constantly mucking up my words when i say sentences, and get annoyed at it when i do, as i try and make a conscious effort not to. 4. Not saying what i really want to say to peeps
aussieMMApro 1 year ago
@aussieMMApro 5. trying to talk to someone who is talking to you, but mucking up sentences/getting frustrated that you just can't talk freely 6. A feeling of not knowing what to say in some circumstances when convo should just run smoothly.
Appart from all that, i also suffer from anxiety and depression which sucks
aussieMMApro 1 year ago
My anxiety has at times gotten to the point I was afraid to leave the house, but now I think the some damage has been done as I do not seem to know how to socialize and may appear eccentric to others. Sometimes I'm even afraid to hear my own voice because it seems like I have an odd voice and I mumble my words severely. You mention stumbling you words, I would give anything to speak at least as clearly as you can.
RB902050 1 year ago
@RB902050 Yeah I'm the same :( At 24, I often feel its too late for me to gain the social skills that I should have to live a healthy social life
aussieMMApro 1 year ago
I have social phobia also. I had my first panic attack when I took my school picture at the age of 6. I just remember sweating, fearful, frozen, and scared. My second one was in the sixth grade I started to sweat like crazy. It looked like someone poured water on me. Anyway i know how you feel. Your pretty girl u shouldnt have any worries.
nhbmartialarts 1 year ago
People are NOT looking at you. You are probably just a NICE person that has NO OUTLET for being mean. You need to have a good fight with someone so you can get your heart racing for A GOOD REASON! This has worked for me. I have no qualms about being a jerk sometimes. Knowing I can do this practically erases the anxiety. And, most importantly, I DON'T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT! Very important! You must learn to do this. Stop being a NICE GIRL and be a REAL PERSON! You can do it, nayomee!
politicoochie09 1 year ago
is there any pills to cure this,,hynosis,maybe..i have this prblem,i am overly shy,i try to avoid social stuff..i make people uncomfortable bcause i am so quiet,i wish i there is cure..sometimes my axiety is so bad i have suicidal thoughts.but i wuldnt have the guts to do it because i am worried what peopel think of me if i did kill myself
mpa324 1 year ago
hey guys i just wanted to say that in all honesty pick a close friend of yours and have a good fight with them, i mean a real good fight, and after you will not feel as shy i am not kidding i do this weekly and i think it is very therapeutic
betthisonesfree 1 year ago
@betthisonesfree wow, as in an argument?? is your friend aware you're going to do this in advance??
aussieMMApro 1 year ago
@aussieMMApro ohh no, i mean a non- angry fight lol, just to get out stress. its cliche, but its exactly like that movie fight club.
betthisonesfree 1 year ago
you are so great and lovely!!! I have had the same problems like you for years..eating in front of people etc...I wish you all the best!!
kleinesc 1 year ago
People dont realize what a person goes through with social phobia and fear unless they have it themselves. I'm in my thirty's and single because of this. It is a terrible way to live, know first hand. I pray this goes away one day and your a very beautiful lady and one day you'll meet someone nice. Email me any time if you want to talk about it. :)
Flyingfast79 1 year ago
Your not alone trust me I get the same problems. I even get worried sometimes of making an order at a restaurant. I get it all the time its really frustrating at times. I also freeze up a lot which I hate.
Has anyone else experience or experienced these problems that I have?
izumizaki1 1 year ago
@izumizaki1 Yes, i freeze up a lot, and its hard to keep conversation flowing when that happens, and i always mumble up my sentences and have to repeat them, sucks :(
aussieMMApro 1 year ago
I get nervous when im going out sometimes, but after a while i LOVE being the center of attencion, But i dont know why im so shy in the beginning? Do anyone have the same thing? sorry for my bad english
brazzil02 1 year ago
Smoke a joint , and watch your anxiety suddenly become funny =)
yourboycal 1 year ago
@yourboycal yet ironically, weed will make your anxiety worse when u come off it
aussieMMApro 1 year ago
@aussieMMApro wouldnt that mean , the weed was the controlling factor? Surley if we give people who have anxiety joints first time , they would be paranoid , second third time it will be just right
yourboycal 1 year ago