Love Addiction: Is My Relationship Healthy?

[chemical93girl]

I liked this, there are some true points.

[K0ttinK0b]

the trouble is, not many people try to find things out themselves, or try to find things out ABOUT themselves. They watch, read, generally research their questions, and then just leave the answers as they are. They take the answers and apply them, but the answers they're using are in the very most basic form. They do not attempt to build on them with their own understanding or wisdom.

[K0ttinK0b]

@K0ttinK0b Your life is formed by what you believe and how you construct your universe. Wanting to be one entity with another half does not make you love obsessed. The situation you put yourself in, and the horrible dilapidation emotions that you feel, are not because wanting to be one with someone is destructive. They are because humans are imperfect, and they're emotions are chaotic, our brains constantly go into circles.

[K0ttinK0b]

@K0ttinK0b

If you wish to be one with someone, you may. You must make a solemn vow to be committed, and you must trust the other person, and they must trust you. The relationship is not to be founded on unstable feelings, or the fireworks you feel in your chest. That is not a suitable foundation. After this is done, and all kinds of love are incorporated into your relationship [Agape, Philia, Eros, and Storge], there is nothing that can bring it down.

[K0ttinK0b]

@K0ttinK0b

Although, this is all what MY universe is founded on. You may create whatever universe you desire. This basic foundation I just gave is one of the most stable FOR ME, because it's universal, I've kept believing it as to make it part of myself, and make it part of my story. If you do the same, it will work for you, but only if your entire universe is in sync with it. It will not work if you're universe is founded on different grounds. Go and find yourself on your own.

[flameingdaethfearies]

And y'know I did have a girl call me daddy during a beej once, but hey. A beej is a beej.

[flameingdaethfearies]

Wow. It's METAPH-O-RAMA!!!! Aw hell. WTF is he even talking about? His metaphors go around in circles and he ends it not only without explanation of a solution, but so abruptly you'd think he ran out of YouTube time. He's right. We should all disregard love and attraction, and grow a fucking moustache.

[zorro3201]

Ok so whats the solution?? He is 100% right. I am a pursuer.. I need to correct this.

[theman4130]

Try going to sex and love addict anonymous. They deal with co-dependence as well.

[GothicTrioOfEdwards]

I knew there was something wrong with me.

[thiscenturynow]

so then...what IS love?

[FALCO64125]

It's when the baby don't hurt me, don't hurt, me, no more... come to think of it, that song doesn't actually define love at all!

[theman4130]

Try looking for "Attachment and Love" from Omniheals channel here on Youtube. He has a good explanation for what love is and isn't. His video certainly altered my perception of love. You must see if his explanation fits with you. Thank you.

[MrXSpeaks]

its a good video because I think people are in denial and don't understand why their relationships don't work.

the only thing is he doesn't say how to heal the abandonment issues.

[rricci2000]

LOL this guy doesn't look like he gets much love or even Sex in his life, What he says is true ONLY if you believe it!! and you are only going to match with a person who has seen the same video and BELIEVES the same thing... so if you are comfortable calling your mate Daddy, WHY THE HELL NOT!! There are no "Systems" in life love comes and goes, so does sexual attraction, people learn from each relationship, we move on we can all be happy if we just stop trying to "Change" what we FEEL is right!

[VelociralexBojarzin]

220 billion people? uh...

[newdayoldnews44]

an awesome video!

[yungjunkie]

OMG he hit it on the nail. I had this girfriend who would often ask (while making love) "Am i your little girl? Do you love fucking your little girl?" whew! gave me the creeps... Damn i miss that woman.

[baby94dream]

@yungjunkie lol yur funni

[sidthinker]

wow, that's a great model of how things work in these types of relationships, never heard those aspects articulated quite like that. It must be a bit of a challenge to reduce concepts like this to a few minutes in length. Nice graphics, but a bit more explanation of them and focus on them would be nice...color is nice too.

[solemnvole]

I-Thou. People (myself included) often need reminding of this. Thanks. Great series of vids.

[cutelovelylisa]

I unfortunately have suffered from love addiction my entire life. while I believe I have loved, a lot of my relationships were based on an addiction. It can totally take over you. It's almost like a disease.

[IamLouder]

did you say 220 billion people? There are 7 billion on earth...

[not4resale]

lol, yeh heard that too, all credibility has just fizzled away.

[DawnPhx]

I think they probably meant 220 million, which I think is the number of people in the US today. But regardless, the inherent point being made-that believing in some magical "soul mate" is going to make you whole sets us up for failure in relationships-that point is extremely valid and useful. Why not focus on the essential points of the video rather than inconsequential misspeaking?

[not4resale]

I would argue with you for the sake of arguments sake but unfortunately I agree.

and stfu for poking holes in my logic! :P

[seekinnertruth]

6 billion +

[xjih78]

this was great! :) thank you! i'm glad i found it.

[flybenji]

I know all about love addiction!

[tinosvblog]

IN europe begis already with 13...even with the law