What Causes Irrational Fear of Sex?

[lovesnooker2010]

I am scared of having sex too!!!

[Ichliebemusikundybd]

I'm not afraid of the act itself I do however detest the way some people speak about sex making it into some type of game as a result am very wary of people in that respect.

[toytown72]

I'm afraid because ever since I accidentally came across a video of a these people havng sex in third grade. And it looked very painful to me, that is why I am afraid of doing anything past my waist with a male, same with female. I'm a big anime fan too and I end up seeing a lot of hentai drawings and I just feel all weird inside and hurry look away. It's hard to describe it but I get the same reaction of hearing someone scratch a chalk board to non annul sex.

[bennymick79]

I'm a 32 year old virgin. I was bullied by boys and girls since I was 10. I withdrew socially and when I discovered masturbation at 12 I found my only friend. I think the biggest turning point was when I found a hardcore porn magazine in a park. I became very addicted too young. I feel addicted to porn and would rather masturbate to it than go through the terrible nervousness and potential humiliation after rejection. Don't leave porn lying around!!! It killed me. Ben

[ajc0372]

I have never been with a women, when it comes to women i have panic attacks. They can be sever enough that i have had to go to the hospital.

[3669angel]

im in the same predicament, stems from having a massive fear of pain :(

[ANCHORSaweighMYboys]

every1 dressed nice and dan's just like, fuck you im chilling.

[MyBuGGLes]

i had sex when i was 11 :D

[bishonenboy]

Oh man, I have fear of sex because of pregnancy. That's a big one.

[shellsegura]

not too bad

just-turned-18.blogspot, C O M

[JazzAgeFlapperGirl]

the reasson i am scared of sex cuz i am a virgin and i am scared it will hurt first time!

[sci5fre]

this answered absolutely nothing? and dan and jenn side comments made it more unless. is ithge fear of sex really irrational...? nudity, vunerable, some weird seizures....

[nzq8]

and now i'm really sad coz i lost my virginity over something stupid and i say i wish i was more aware or someone could talk with me that time

so my advice to u all just be careful of what u do :)

[ibvalentin]

over something stupid? what do you mean? I think that if you thought that it's worth it, then you should be glad you did it. you couldn't have the mind and experience you are having now...

[nzq8]

i've always been told from my mom it's dirt and it's bla bla bla down there, but when i grew up i felt i wanna comfort my self but i didn't knew how now i'm 21 years old and not virgin coz of stupid things i've done to my self

[crazywilliamriveley]

im almost in my mid 20's and still a virgin. im just very nervous for my first time having sex

[caitilynx]

dan and jenn are good for sex id they made me comfortable before i lost mine and they should be able to help you if you have any questions for me ill answer them:) im very open :) so feel free

[MrKillerDuckful]

@caitilynx really?

[MrKillerDuckful]

@caitilynx would you really answer any questions?

[campcoskuro]

@crazywilliamriveley i'm turning 19 soon and i'm a virgin too. most ppl think i'm not normal. lol i'm not "average". kept thinking something was wrong with me. 

[kjun13]

@crazywilliamriveley Same here.

A LOT of people have told me "Your first time will be a humiliating disaster, no matter what you do or know."

That didn't help.

[MegaSub4Subber]

i seen this video on ill message you

[xXxDark91AngelxXx]

i have a friend. has her boyfriend. they r getting into the heat stage of their relationship but they dont do anything becusae she is 2 scared 2 pregnat & he is too scared of the same thing. on top of that, she is scared of what her parents might say & if anybody will notice or say anything, also of heartbreak. i say. once u do it. u´ll like it. and you´ll see its not so bad. the only u gotta do is conquer ur fear. and use proteccion our parents will get it. anybody else shouldn´t care.

[Rickehej95]

why is ther condomes that have tast?

isn´t it bad to have them in youre mouth?

and are you sepost to have a condom on when you get a blowjobb?

[CatMommy84]

So you don't have to taste latex, yuck.

No.

Yes, if you want protection from STDs.

[myoozikaddikt17]

wow you need some grammar lessons.........

[khagah]

I couldn't agree with you more!

[khagah]

Hi Dan and Jenn,

I wonder if you can make a video on big butts for women and how important they are to people and how big butts drive most men nuts!

[devilzreality93]

oh man you forgot something big butts small waist and big tits drive most men nutss

[Dragaurang]

We just need tons more of sexual education for all ages. Most of fears around sexuality come from imagination rather than knowing facts.

Education and communication are our heroes as always. :)

[mirkus21]

That´s a very complicated question... anyway it depends a lot on if you had parents or relevant people in your life who live sexuality as a normal thing... but the origin of this problems in humanity it´s something that has not a simple explanation.

[amoose412]

if you have sex you will get pregnant and get aids and you will die

thats what kids are being taught

[IAmBlackDragonX]

my friend is 18 yrs old, never had a girlfriend never had a date, hes going in to grade 12 and he said to me that he would like to get sexually active, but at the same time he says hes scared and afriad of exposing himself to another women and thus might have trouble trying to have sex with her. he says "it might not be big enough" of course he didn't give me what inch it is and i told him, "its what you do with 'it' that counts" but hes still not sure

and we're close friends btw

[LtKaraWade]

I have insecurities but no phobia connected to sex per se. However, I do wish to the list of things that can make us afraid of sex, especially in this day and age: diseases, STDs to be precise. I know that everytime I have any kind of sexual interaction with someone, even though I'm always safe, there's a moment when I think I might be putting my life on the line right here. The fear of getting AIDS surely also adds to the fear of sex in general. It only takes one moment. So be safe!!!

[tomprice494]

I'm not attracted to women, so I have zero interest in them sexually. I am attracted to guys, but even just thinking about gay sex literally makes me gag. It's all just so unappealing.

[jayshock89]

Its the darn catholics and evangelicals.

[angelvictoria6]

my mother told me that any man who asked me to perform oral sex was disgusting and didn't love me. of course i know better.

[DanAndJenn]

I'm sure she meant well and believed what she said. We have to remember that many of our parents grew up in a very different time, when information and knowledge wasn't as available to everyone as it is today.

Now it's our job and responsibility (I mean all of us) to help open minds and spread understanding and knowledge...

[searchingformoreify]

@angelvictoria6 Your mother was right. I guess I have this fear, but anyways, if someone asks you to do that for them, then to me that is selfish. To me, love is when someone makes you breakfast in bed in the morning, or hugs you before you fall asleep and tells you they love you. I dont know why, but I was just raised very religiously so I just feel like its wrong because that is how I was raised, that you would lose your purity if you did that.

[happyare]

I had one boyfriend who thought it was his duty to please me or something, so he could not enjoy himself. I'm pretty sure now it was a case of his parents totally avoiding the discussion of the suject and being cold towards him in general. I tried telling him that he could enjoy himself and we went to the university library together to check out some books on the subject. He opened up to me a little more (I never got his pants off) and shortly after that had a mental breakdown...

[vampluptuous]

I have a phobia of being pinned down during sex but it's because I get flashbacks of back when I got sexually assaulted. I think that's a good reason to be afraid of that though.

[KunoichiKira]

ah, also: sex ISNT for everybody. its up to the individual whether or not they decide theyd even like to have a partner or not, let alone worry about sexual performance.

[KunoichiKira]

What Causes Irrational Fear of Sex?

A) irrationality

B) early conditioning

C) ignorance

D) all of the above

...D.

[khagah]

After watching lots of your videos, this is the first time I see you queit and calm! No lots of laughong or whatsoever! That's great!

[b3astieboi2]

once my dad did weird things to me i cant get blowjobs because it freaks me out, if feels good but i just cant do it at all, reminds me of what happoned before, (love the shirt dan) if i had it i would ware it as much as you

[PrincessKLS]

Well I do have a slight fear of getting into a sexual or even a romantic relationshp that can lead to sex. I've tried to get over it. It's too expensive and difficult to find a good therapist in my area. And for me it was a combination of mixed opinions from my family and friends growing up and my mom wanted me to even wait until I was 16 to start dating and it's just really difficult and I was raised in a bible belt community with a very religious mother so it's confusing.

[SSanf]

If a person does not like or is uncomfortable with sex for any reason, celibacy is a perfectly reasonable option. People can have very happy and fulfilled lives with no sex at all.

[Brados87]

what sort of drugs you been smokin homes?

[The2DUDESsweet]

danes getting balder!

[kaisergrendel]

Friar Tuck comes to mind

[edgarbm95]

religion :(

god :)

[breeza44]

what do you mean? were u refering to something in the video?

[edgarbm95]

All i'm saying is believe in god

[eatenbyyou]

I used to have extreme pain during ejaculation but I went to the doctor and now its fixed.

[ncfwhitetigress]

I had an irrational fear of sex for two reasons:

1. fear of STDs

2. fear that it would be painful (though I've never been molested)

[AZbassist623]

I've always had the fear of sex from my overly religious up-bringing. It's been so hard to try overcome the years of indoctrination that I feel that's it's embedded in my subconscious.

I'm not even religious anymore and it still effects me.

[XiaoGui17]

I know so many people who have been scarred by religion like this. It makes me feel so very fortunate that I wasn't subjected to this... and it makes me so angry to think that this continues to happen.

Parents who indoctrinate their children will often speak of their rights to raise their children however they choose. What about the children themselves? Don't they have rights, too?

[PrincessKLS]

OMG, I converted to paganism and my upbringing still affects me and even my very pagan older sister had mixed feelings about the suggest. I could be a mainstream Christian, Jew, pagan, currently Christian-pagan, Buddhist, Hindu, Aethists, etc and I would still have trouble over coming it.

[milomaliciouz]

im scared of anal sex, i feel like the penis will tear my ass haha

[Eternalsky1982]

That's funny as hell.

[ncfwhitetigress]

i had that same fear about vaginal sex once

[Gtownprincess16]

I always love your videos...I was extremely afraid to have sex for the first time because the pastor's daughter at my church ended up becoming pregnant before she was married and they made a huge deal about it. This fear of becoming pregnant and dissappointing my parents would drive me to tears when i would think about losing my virginity. I realized that i just needed to trust my partner, take the proper precautions, and just enjoy the experience. My first time was the best time of my life.

[JonathanClement140]

Your first time was GOOD? That's nice to know! I've always heard it's awkward! *Feels uplifted*

[Gtownprincess16]

Yeah...and its only gotten better since! ;D

[BayleeClark]

my first time was good too, which was suprising to me because i thought it would hurt being a female and all and u hear that for alot of girls the first time hurts

[XXTheRealMcCoyXX]

It's depressing, people are fucked up! = (

[LadyArwenFC]

you guys help alot with your videos

[imeth]

very informative show...*****

[blainflame]

hey dan and jenn. recently i was about to have sex for the first time, but it didnt happen because i couldnt get an erection. i wasnt nervous or anything but now im a little worryed. is there something wrong with me or what?

[robinvan1983]

lol no.. you where just stressed out... i bet if you masturbate tomorrow you will get a hard on :)

but on the other side maybe you weren't turned on by your partner

[XXTheRealMcCoyXX]

yo Relax, How old are you?

Let your girlfriend make you hard... you should watch some porno to find out what turns you on first... no man can just get an erection on demand!

[DarknessILWD]

im sorry the doctor just gave me the news... your gay :O lol jking idk

[ThoughtlessO]

Dan you are one lucky man!

[postman666andrei]

nice show