im straight and male trust in you hart to all people in this video but to buck i need help how do i ask out she is hot and popular i fat poor and look like a neard how con i ask her out
Hey Alex, I was in the exact same situation at your age. I came out to my parents as an FTM, changed schools and lived as a boy for over a year. While it felt right to be seen as a male, I still missed being pretty and glamorous. Now I change back and forth and identify as gender fluid. When people ask if I'm a boy or a girl I say "no". I'm not a boy or a girl, I'm both, or neither. I'm androgynous, I'm a person. If you want you can PM me and we can talk.
i got bullied at the beginning of my school year i punched the kid in the stomach (cuz i was less likely to get caught that way) and now hes scared of me ^_^
I have a problem with a girl that has been bullying me since 3rd grade. Everyday, since we've met, she recules me in front of everyone. She's even stooped low enough to ask how my girlfriend was doing in front of a very attractive sophomore. Everyone knows that I'm straight & that I love everyone equally. She's dragged 2 friends that I've been close with since kindergarten and has turn them against me. We hate each other very much & she's taking my best friend too. Help me peron75! :(
@laurensharps1313 Hey! I had a huge bully problem through middle to high school. When it comes to turning friends against you, I had to realize that if friends will turn they werent true in the 1st place. Sometimes standing up helps. I usually ignored people & that was a very hard thing to do. I will tell you, I'm in college now & multiple times I have run into old bullies. Never can they look me in the eye cause Im doing well & Im happy. So succeed! Hope that helps a bit
@snickerdoodle Absolutely contact the authorities. Abuse is NEVER o.k. . I understand that you love your parents and want your family to work,but from what you have said my opinion is that it is not the healthiest environment for you to grow up in. Please keep us all updated
heh, if they start a fight with you, you can sue them for Battery. Just have to word it right, I was minding my own business when person A came aloong and shoved me forcefully and hit me with a fist *fight ensues* I was hereby required to defend myself and had my personal space violated. and yada yada I sued a total jerk like that.
SNICKERDOODLE: I lived w/ abusive parents as well (1 physically abusive & 1 emotionally abusive). At one point, I was homeless because I had to run away. However, I'm one of the lucky few: 1 parent left the country & was able to witness a few changes w/ my emotionally abusive parent. I agree w/ Buck—go to foster care. It's bettter than where you're at now. Go before you turn 18 because there's legal crap you'll have to jump through that's horrible for a kid to handle. I wish you strength!
I hang out with guys all the time. I am friends with all of them exept jerky ones. I am also in co-hoots with the girls becaue i get guys to like them for them. The problem is is they see me as one of the guys who isnt a dating option. This gets me mad. Wat do i do?
Robin-
P.s. I am not doubting my sexuality or gender. I am straight and female, and i want to be that way
@meowsock well first of all dont care or listen to what they say then try to hang out with them more in a group IMPORTANT NOTE dont give up friends that you have good luck
I was in the same position when i was in grammar school. i went through it for 5 years and then i was sick and tired of it. i went to a teacher that i trust and then she tried to make it clear that they should stop. but being the bratty girls they are, they didnt listen.
so finally by 8th grade, i brought up the courage to tell the girls "really. theres no reason for you to be saying those things. stop being immature" and they stopped
@videogirl9487 I think maybe you need to tell a teacher or your parents that he is doing this to you your only 11 I am 12 and that's not much older but just try and tell your parents and for this "love" feeling I'm pretty sure it's just a crush xoxo Aneliese :)
I am a sophomore and highs school and for Cindy...
I think Buck is right, you need to quickly develop a positive opinion of yourself. Then, seriously, stand up to those girls!
My advice is, if you hear someone saying something mean about you, say 'what makes you think you can talk to/about me that way? you should be ashamed of yourself.'
Dear Buck or Anyone!!!! i'm ELEVEN and theres this boy named nathan, and i feel like i'm in love with him. But latley, he has taken me down to the licker rooms, asking to kiss me or touch my boobs,i tell him no, and that we arent even dating, but he keeps persisting. He came over and said to me "I still have something for you." he put his arm around me and tried to play footsie but i didn't do anything. I try and tell my friends bu they dont believe me. PLEASE PLEASE HELP! I NEED SOMEONE!!!!
@sidney well, im in 7th grade and get bullied, too. the most 2 rlly do is ignore them. if u feel any anger w/the bullyig, convert the anger towards boxing and working out. if it gets worse and they try 2 physically hurt u then, fight back. if u wish not 2 fight, tell a trusted teacher
Look girl I'm in 11th grade and had the same problem. I just ignored them and told them it's against my beliefs. Eventually they will back off and if they don't you shouldn't be friends with them. Also tell them I'm to young to have a boyfriend and I'm just protecting my purity. I got a good 4 years before I even need to start think about dating. I got other thongs to worry about right now like homework and succeeding in life.
dear buck people always make fun of me for not having or had a boyfriend im am only in 7th grade i have alot people crush on me but i never feel the same ways i have high standards and i aint gonna lower them but i want everyone i know to just shut up ill get a f when i want they always try to make me act more decent im a tomboy and why should i be with a guy who doesnt like me for me they try to sent me up on blind dates im not 30 this isnt e-harmony ill get a bf when im ready what do i do
i found my mini-me! Little Alex, i know how difficult it can be to be anything but 'normal'. i didn't come out as bi until i was 20 and had nothing to lose (i'd already lost it all). however, most of my friends and family knew i was... off..? the majority of people i knew thought i was a hardcore lesbian, but i really wasn't. at heart, i'm the exact same thing as you: born a girl, wants to be a boy, but still loves girlie stuff. i even wear glitter. it's just a... thing.
Cindy- What I do is tell them to leave me alone REALLY LOUD in front of the teacher. At my school, they find it funny that the bullies get caught by the teachers.
DO NOT under any circumstances tell a teacher first! kids are vicious and will pick on you more for being a snitch, tell them to fuck off or something instead
snickerdoodle pt2: pls understand that your parents are just not fit to be good parents, & this is the best they know how to do. fostercare could be a good option, look up fostering agencies, call them to ask questions.
Someone thinking you're not good enough, even your parents, doesn't mean you're not good enough. Unconditional love is loving & accepting your child no matter what. Their opinion of you has no bearing on your worth as a human being. You get to decide your worth. No one else! <3
Snickerdoodle: your father is abusing you. This is emotional abuse, the kind that's harder to prove & harder to take people to jail over. No loving father uses the word slut to refer to their daughter.
Imagine if 2 of your classmates got together & decided to raise a 13 year old. You think they'd know how to raise an emotionally healthy child, making sure the kid's needs are met? No. This is your parents. They don't have their own shit together well enough to have leftover energy for a kid too.
For Cindy-- I was always bullied in grade school and I had similar problems in gym. I found that the best way to deal with it-for me anyway-was to just be nice or to point out the obvious. If they say your shorts look stupid say something like "well you're wearing the same ones so that doesnt make any sense". If they throw something at you just turn to them and politely ask them to please stop and that you would appriciate if they could leave you alone.
Amber I know this is late but to anyone who has this problem. Live in the moment. You're in high school. Chances are he knows about the college problem and you might be able to establish a long distance relationship but even if you don't at least you won't have to ask yourself "What if..."
foster parents would definately be the best thing your parents arent good for you. you are good enough and you do deserve different parents, tell someone <3
My friend is in the same situation as you, but worse. She has been in foster care for a while becuase her father was abusive and her mother died in 2006. she has cut herself before and she is very moody. Trust me, you need to talk to someone, even if you have to go into foster care, its for the best :)
Alex- I think, at your age, experimentation is key. If you identify as male, you're male. However, since you say you feel 'girly' sometimes I think it would be good for you to experiment with Androgyny. It seems obvious that you are transgendered but you need to figure out where you fit; it's like a Kinsey scale but for gender rather than sexual orientation.
I'm 19 and I've been in college for a few months, and there is this boy how drives me carzy giddy, i feel like i'm 12 again. We're in several classes together and my best friend here is really good friends with him and i everytime i'm around him she is also around. I have problems being myself around him, i tend to just shut up and ce awkward. anyways how do i stand out around him with her around as well. And one drunken nite i kissed his room mate! What do I do?
@Snickerdoodle oh my, i feel so bad for your situation <3 is always going to be there for you see if you can move in with a friend, let them know what your situation is :) I LOVE YOU <3 Gabrielle Howard
@narutofox180 um i dont know if he still does them, but watch all of the past vids cause in a few he posts the email adress for the questions. its like dearbuck@gmail.com or something.
I like this girl in my school shes very quiet I talk to her occasionally on facebook dont talk to her in real life because I get scared but never have I once wrought anything about her but 'I ♥ (her name)' but nothing like that other guy
Just responding to Alex's question. Look, I'm a transguy, meaning i was born biologically female but now live, identify and am a guy. Most transguys I know are quite faggy. When I started living as a guy, even before hormore replacement therapy and top surgery, I immediately became alright with wearing platforms and fur jackets and being into other guys . You're not the only one. And yes, I do know transguys who do drag.
My advice to you is just look up ftm on youtube. You'll get answers.
Snickerdoodle: im am amazed that somone would survive such abuse. Stand strong. Keep up the good work. Your parents arent worth it. If somone has loved you you know you could be loved again. But somone besides your parents. There not worth your time. Trust me ive delt with cruel people and they never change. They think of themselves. Start with a new slate.
@Snickerdoodle - I hope I spelled your name right sweetheart. You need to do whatever you can to get well, for starters. Being with your father will not help. Reach out to other family members, maybe an aunt/uncle or your grandparents, if they're still with us, but no matter what you need to get away from your father, he is toxic.
I think you should try to stick it out as long as you has to! You could try to be with your friends most of the time, and try not to spend as much time with your father. I don't think you should try to gert your mother back, because it's clearly that she woun't have anything to do with you, ore she might not be mentaly cleaar to deal with other than her self. When your old enogh you could try to "divorse" your parents. I meen, taking awey their parents caustedie.
I use to be picked on by people who were suppose to be my friends then I stopped hanging out with them because what kind of friends pick on you? But they still picked on me I ended up getting pissed of and flipped out cursing at them in front of the teacher.lol I got in trouble but they stopped :)
I was bullied in school when I was a kid-cause I was smarter and just "a good girl"-until I snapped one day and got into a fight (Phisically) with a guy twice my size;
he was so shocked that he didn't have a chance to do much and I gave him a black eye that day...sure to say NOBODY EVER PICKED ON ME EVER AGAIN!!! :)
For the prom girl, like Buck said, just go with it now, but if you have these concerns, in the future you may want to talk to him about it, what if he will go to the same college? What if he's planning to be closer to where you're going than you thought? So, have fun and good luck!
I have a friend with a similar situation and she was considering moving in with her aunt that she is close with so if you have a older sibling who lives elsewhere or a relative that could take you in that is less abusive maybe you could move in with them or a close friend that has a good family. I'm sorry about your situation.
i was thinking about breaking up with my boy friend of 5 year & just to tell u my bro. messed up my channle and my real age is 12... my boy f.'s dad has canser this rare one that starts at the leg and moves up to lungs and hes ben throught losts of things in my opinyon... hes real nice and he makes me lol and we have kissed but it just feels like we r just good friends NOT including the KISS
i am so confused and i cant think of a good way to break up with him
@Yoshiegg11 I have the same problem (minues the cancer and the kiss). We've been dating for 5 or 6 years, and I even tried breaking up with him, but we decided to try to stay together, but I can tell it's not going to last long. My bf lives in a different city about 2 or 3 hours away.
to sydney.. i think you should tell some of your actual friends who are in your gym class to sort of stay with you so that if you get picked you have saftey in numbers...
Hi Buck, hers my problem (don't say I'm being dramatic because I'm realy not) I connet with my friends and family but on way different levels. Its like I'm a totally different person depending on who I hang out with, anthen there's a hole nother part of me that nobody nose about. anyway because of this I don't have any realy close friends that I can talk to about (there's a reason I can't talk to my parents but youtube only alous 500 karekters. its geting hard and annoying to keep it up. ps im13
foster care is actually not as bad as a lot of people make it out to be. i was in fostercare myself for a temporary placement of six months because of promblems i was having in school. foster parents are very supportive and kind and they are always there to listen to you and talk to you. foster care also provides a lot of recreational activities that you can choose from and you are always provided with money for clothes. i think foster care is you best bet.
We as a human species sometimes develop strong male and/or female archetypes (despite our born gender). The persona we find ourselves most comfortable with is the one we most idealize ourselves as. This is part of gender identity and personal growth/self identification.
Sometimes we are fine switching between male/female archetypes, or keeping both persona types (M & F) together as one persona.
Discussing your feelings/future desires with a professional will bring further enlightenment.
i have depression too, and i feel terrible that her dad is treating her that way. but she shouldn't feel bad about being a bad daughter because she's not being a bad daughter at all. i think you should seek outside help, thats what i did. it doesn't matter about you parents, i know you care but i agree with buck you should get help. i was very close to dying, and i needed help so i got it. i sure hope everything gets better. much love alex <3
@ Gender question - Too many people these days think just because they like more things of the opposite gender means they are the opposite gender.. um NO! There is no set way a boy or a girl should act other than what society/peer pressure tries to say. if you like masculine things and girl things, ok, you can still be a girl and like those things. Girls can be dominant and aggressive, doesnt mean theyre supposed to be a boy. Sheesh. If you were really a boy you wouldnt even have to ask
To Snickerdoodle: Get into foster care! Help is what you need, and that is what you will get with foster care. If that idea is still not an option, reach out to your relatives or even friends. Do not try to aggravate your father in the mean time, and reach out and be open in order to get help. You can be successful outside of them.
To Alex: Being openly gay is FINE. Having your personality is NORMAL! Try socializing with more boys, so you can accept their ways and see girls the same way they do.
snickerdoodle get a realtive that you kan trust and tell them about your abusive father. ask them to kall the police and report the situation. foster care is probably better than get abused at home. you are not worthless and you deserve a so much better life than this. get out of that situation and seek out to loved ones that you can trust or the police. you are better daughter than you know because you love two parents who do not deserve your love
"is there some type of girl code?" such an imature way to speak, i feel worried for this person. maybe theyre not mature enough to have a serious relationship. dont judge me because the way what i just said sounds judgemental, i just want some of my ideas to be heard.
In seventh grade I was bullied a lot in PE, too, by a group of girls. PE teachers usually have to deal with classes of about fifty kids, so it was impossible for them to always watch me. When it started to get dangerous, my mom called the school and the "leader" was called in. While we certainly never got along, and through middle school she still considered me a freak, we stayed mostly out of each other's way from there on out, even when we ended up sharing a class the next year.
Snickerdootle, go into foster care! it will help you. NO ONE should be in that situation! Your parents are in no mental condition to care for you. your father is abusive, and your mother is not sane enough to help you. I have been in councling for years and one thing i know is that people only want to help you. my good friend has a foster-sister and she is so sweet! nothing but positive things have come out of that good luck!
Y'know a cute way to ask someone to the prom is u get then flowers of something w/e aslong as u have a card that reads "will u go to the prom with me?" "?em hitw morp eht ot og u lliw" and u put a little mirror and sooner or later they figure out to put the card near the mirror so the reflection reads "Will you go to the prom with me?" XD isnt that cute? i just thought it up and thought it'd be a funny thing to do.
Miranda-Please don't wait and be light handed with this guy. I made that mistake in high school with a self destructive and violent boy that I used to date. It got so bad that the police got involved which completely took my piece of mind. Nip it in the bub right now! Tell your parents,someone at school, or someone that you trust anyone.
To Cindy- Could I possibly have your email address? I also had that problem, and 500 characters isn't nearly enough for this. If you want, you can just send me a message at EmileeDGAF@aim.com and I'll write back..whatever floats your boat :)
@Psalms149, don't go spreading your anti-transgendered propaganda where it isn't needed, take it back to whatever christian forum you crawled out of.
The bit about people changing and regretting it, they LIED to counselors because they learned how to talk to them. Don't listen to psalms149, heck don't even listen to me, go look at many of the TS help forums out there or speak to a doctor.
Dear Buck, I'm a girl 15 yrs old, I hang out with a couple of other girls, but when I'm with them i seems like they really don't want me there. I've tried to bring it up with them but they just ignore it, what shold I do to make them take me seriously?
Am I a boy or a girl? If you can not be true to yourself then how can you be true to anyone else. Just do as you do and don't stress over the opinions of others.
Am I a boy or a girls? Many people whom get operations to become a different sexual appearance wish they had not done so after wards. I think you should be happy with yourself and live life and if others find fault, you need to know that is in all of life among all people and people whom seek to do as others wish them to do, and do not do as they want to or need to do according to their own desires and needs are very unhappy people.
Am I a girl or a boy? I think it does not mater what you do or what you like. I think you are growing in mind and body and have many years to live and grow and just as a plant starts out growing it changes in looks and in size and it is beautiful in the eyes of those whom find beauty in it and some would call it a weed or an eyesore. I think you should simply live your life in the body you have and enjoy life.
My mom is an alcoholic and bad things happened. I was only 10 and terrifyed of foster care. I had my dad though, im sorry about all this. Message me because i wanna help you.
Hey guys, if buck doesn't address your problem, please send them my way! I will personally address each problem in my next video. Please comment on my video, or message me. Thank you!
Hey guys, if buck doesn't address your problem, please send them my way! I will personally address each problem in my next video. Please comment on my video, or message me. Thank you!
i was bullied for years which turned to an eventual eating disorder and telling teachers wont do anything. ignore it. it isnt about you its pettyness. plus i saw the ring leader a few months ago and shes a shlag! she does drugs and has not blossomed well so it will all work out!
@Jammyjimjams i saw a girl that used to bully me like 2 weeks ago! she's gotten really fat and has a baby. she was looking rough. i laughed at her when she walked by me.
Thanks, Michael, for answering Cindy's question. I have a similar problem with bullies in school (I too am a 7th grader, but a boy) and after watching this video I have to say that when I look at it from your prespective, it's not so bad. I feel like this video helped me get a more mature and better view on it, and it feels like it's not going to bother me next time.
Cindy- If the girls ever say anything mean to you, come right back to them. Don't them beat you down without a fight. Now literally, but you know, don't be a pushover. If they say something mean, even in front of a teacher, you have the right to say something back.
if ur not those people who can ttly pwn someone, then just look at them in like a "uh huh" sort of way and walk away. or if u cant walk away just go: uh huh, and not do anything.
Alex- give yourself time... Play up the sporty dyke, you can mix it up (gender roles) until you are 99% sure how you feel. Def get a therapist who is specializes on LGBT issues. Hugs!!
for the girl whos being teased my advice is to do something the teasers arent expecting.... bullies nowadays expect people to ignore them and so it usually doesnt get them to stop but doing something they dont expect (like asking extremely blunt questions) you usually put them in a dear in headlights position and then its uncomfortable for them instead of you so theyll leave you alone
Cindy, I have a problem with a girl at school and she started really picking on me in P.E, i dealt with it by ignoring it, but at home i would bitch about her to my mum, because i know she'll always be there when i need her. I suggest you continue to ignore it and talk to someone you trust and know they wont tell anyone.
SnikerDoodle, is there a friend you can stay with? Maybe another family member? Deffinately DO NOT stay with an abusive father, you are better off without him, trust me. If you think you can handle it, there's always emancipation. If nothing else, talk to somebody in your guidance office at school. They can, and will help you.
I had the same problem in grade 6/7/8, and I did nothing. Depending on how many more years you have to spend with these girls really is the deciding factor on what to do. I'm in highschool now, and don't ever have to see these girls again, so if you won't have to see them after a little with, ignoring them will probably help.
Cindy, if there is a teacher you really trust, tell them. Just tell them. Or write a note to your PE teacher (anonymously) and tell him what is going on
Snickerdoodle I suggest that you talk to your guidance counselor or to a police officer or someone who will help you out. Your parents sound like they are unhealthy people that wouldn't do you any good so I would suggest getting the heck away from them if you can manage.
It's normal for trans people to say "I'm a boy/man, but I still love girly things" and vice versa. Trans people are stereotyped as being hypermasculine trans men and hyperfeminine trans women, but those are just stereotypes: You can transition and still be yourself. You don't have to give up girly things, and you can certainly be a drag queen if you want.
Some psychs might think this means you're not trans. Be careful when look into transitioning.
It's normal for trans people to say "I'm a boy/man, but I still love girly things" and vice versa. Trans people are stereotyped as being hypermasculine trans men and hyperfeminine trans women, but those are just stereotypes: You can transition and still be yourself. You don't have to give up girly things, and you can certainly be a drag queen if you want.
Some psychs might think this means you're not trans. Be careful when look into transitioning.
Dear Buck, I recently broke up with my boyfriend. I'm long over him, but all of my friends and even people who just aren't fond of him are picking on him and making fun of him. I have seen him crying about me and about him getting picked on. I know what it's like to be picked on. I hate to see him cry, but every time people pick on him and I say back off, they say that I still like him and I never really got over him. How do I get these people off his nuts and mine? Please help! From Maggie.
@snickerdoodle. Well, my parents are the same way. I'm 17 and I don't advise you to make this your first choise but, I got amasapatied. That's pretty much devoricing your parents. What you need is proof that both parents are abusing you and take it to court and say hey, I want amasapatied.
Well I don't hate p.e but there a group of girls who are like it. Well what games do u play in P.E what do u do because when they were playing floor hockey puck so high it hit the high concer of the gym and they did not say anything to me.
Hey Buck. Thanks for doing a really good job of tackling the teen's question about gender dysphoria. There is a huge transgender community here on Youtube. Many teenagers even. Ze might be interested in those videos. I'm a female to male transsexual (I posted a video response) and I'm also a mentor for teenagers who are trans in my town. Ze should seek out the local transgroup in hir area. There are also many resources available online if ze Googles FTM resources.
In response to Cindy in 7th grade: talk to your parent(s). Nobody has to go through abuse and humiliation, which PE is a breeding ground. I was bullied as were many other boys and girls, and if I had to live through that again, I would refuse to participate in any activity where I was feeling threatened.
About the abusive parent case, first, call a hotline. Go online, find the confidential hotline for domestic abuse in your region, and call them. Make sure that they are not obligated to report abuse. There, get suggestions on what you want to do ultimately, whether you want to report your father or you want to try to establish a relationship. If you want to leave the situation behind, talk to your school counselor. She should be able to report the authorities and try to advocate for you.
im straight and male trust in you hart to all people in this video but to buck i need help how do i ask out she is hot and popular i fat poor and look like a neard how con i ask her out
TheJcdarkness2000 6 days ago
Hey Alex, I was in the exact same situation at your age. I came out to my parents as an FTM, changed schools and lived as a boy for over a year. While it felt right to be seen as a male, I still missed being pretty and glamorous. Now I change back and forth and identify as gender fluid. When people ask if I'm a boy or a girl I say "no". I'm not a boy or a girl, I'm both, or neither. I'm androgynous, I'm a person. If you want you can PM me and we can talk.
-Jay
buegreenwater 1 week ago
if he got you flowers he wants you, nuff said
Blondedude1986 1 month ago
its illegal to get a sex change w/o a LOT of talking to proffesionals.
iloveplad 2 months ago in playlist Dear Buck
i got bullied at the beginning of my school year i punched the kid in the stomach (cuz i was less likely to get caught that way) and now hes scared of me ^_^
EHEHEHEOIL 2 months ago
Girls like Boys WHO LIKE BOYS! Think about it...
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Snickerdoodle, I know you're scared of foster care but if you do it you can see what your parents SHOULD be doing. Trust me it will be good for you.
-Molly
XXXTheHOPEprojectXXX 3 months ago
i have no problem with gay people i think gay guys are hott <3
ShaneDawsonFan2054 4 months ago in playlist Dear Buck
Dear Buck,
I have a problem with a girl that has been bullying me since 3rd grade. Everyday, since we've met, she recules me in front of everyone. She's even stooped low enough to ask how my girlfriend was doing in front of a very attractive sophomore. Everyone knows that I'm straight & that I love everyone equally. She's dragged 2 friends that I've been close with since kindergarten and has turn them against me. We hate each other very much & she's taking my best friend too. Help me peron75! :(
laurensharps1313 4 months ago
@laurensharps1313 Hey! I had a huge bully problem through middle to high school. When it comes to turning friends against you, I had to realize that if friends will turn they werent true in the 1st place. Sometimes standing up helps. I usually ignored people & that was a very hard thing to do. I will tell you, I'm in college now & multiple times I have run into old bullies. Never can they look me in the eye cause Im doing well & Im happy. So succeed! Hope that helps a bit
guitarz928 2 months ago in playlist Dear Buck
Cindy,
I'm in seventh grade too,
yeah gym is super awkward!
you just have to act as confident as possible.
its just like dude, i am who i am, deal with it!
so just be assertive and confident.
NYEmilyVlogs 4 months ago 2
@snickerdoodle Absolutely contact the authorities. Abuse is NEVER o.k. . I understand that you love your parents and want your family to work,but from what you have said my opinion is that it is not the healthiest environment for you to grow up in. Please keep us all updated
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MrPatranthony 6 months ago
u give cyber hugs too =D !
quackimadinosawr 6 months ago
I'm 11 and if people ever bullied me, i'd tell 'em off
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heh, if they start a fight with you, you can sue them for Battery. Just have to word it right, I was minding my own business when person A came aloong and shoved me forcefully and hit me with a fist *fight ensues* I was hereby required to defend myself and had my personal space violated. and yada yada I sued a total jerk like that.
IllyriadKurfist 7 months ago
SNICKERDOODLE: I lived w/ abusive parents as well (1 physically abusive & 1 emotionally abusive). At one point, I was homeless because I had to run away. However, I'm one of the lucky few: 1 parent left the country & was able to witness a few changes w/ my emotionally abusive parent. I agree w/ Buck—go to foster care. It's bettter than where you're at now. Go before you turn 18 because there's legal crap you'll have to jump through that's horrible for a kid to handle. I wish you strength!
munkymp3 7 months ago 5
Dear buckly
Please read i really need u to.
I hang out with guys all the time. I am friends with all of them exept jerky ones. I am also in co-hoots with the girls becaue i get guys to like them for them. The problem is is they see me as one of the guys who isnt a dating option. This gets me mad. Wat do i do?
Robin-
P.s. I am not doubting my sexuality or gender. I am straight and female, and i want to be that way
meowsock 7 months ago
@meowsock well first of all dont care or listen to what they say then try to hang out with them more in a group IMPORTANT NOTE dont give up friends that you have good luck
aphroditeboleyn 6 months ago
hey Cindy!
I was in the same position when i was in grammar school. i went through it for 5 years and then i was sick and tired of it. i went to a teacher that i trust and then she tried to make it clear that they should stop. but being the bratty girls they are, they didnt listen.
so finally by 8th grade, i brought up the courage to tell the girls "really. theres no reason for you to be saying those things. stop being immature" and they stopped
so i hope my experience helps you. good luck!
broadwaybabysjt 8 months ago
@videogirl9487 I think maybe you need to tell a teacher or your parents that he is doing this to you your only 11 I am 12 and that's not much older but just try and tell your parents and for this "love" feeling I'm pretty sure it's just a crush xoxo Aneliese :)
TheDebbyGurl 8 months ago
i think the 21 year old girl should ask that friend of hers if its ok if she wants to date her ex and if she says yes then she should go for it
rockstargirl891 8 months ago in playlist Dear Buck
I am a sophomore and highs school and for Cindy...
I think Buck is right, you need to quickly develop a positive opinion of yourself. Then, seriously, stand up to those girls!
My advice is, if you hear someone saying something mean about you, say 'what makes you think you can talk to/about me that way? you should be ashamed of yourself.'
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Dear Buck or Anyone!!!! i'm ELEVEN and theres this boy named nathan, and i feel like i'm in love with him. But latley, he has taken me down to the licker rooms, asking to kiss me or touch my boobs,i tell him no, and that we arent even dating, but he keeps persisting. He came over and said to me "I still have something for you." he put his arm around me and tried to play footsie but i didn't do anything. I try and tell my friends bu they dont believe me. PLEASE PLEASE HELP! I NEED SOMEONE!!!!
videogirl9487 9 months ago
she is genderqueer it means u identify as both a girl and a boy and sometimes neither :)
Alicialikesurmuffin 9 months ago
@sidney well, im in 7th grade and get bullied, too. the most 2 rlly do is ignore them. if u feel any anger w/the bullyig, convert the anger towards boxing and working out. if it gets worse and they try 2 physically hurt u then, fight back. if u wish not 2 fight, tell a trusted teacher
KilljoysRise13B 9 months ago
@KilljoysRise13B - Same with me! A hobby never hurts, too... I started doing YouTube videos, and it helped a lot :)
Sloppyjoemess 9 months ago
IF YOU NEED ADVICE SEND AN EMAIL TO: thereforyou239@aol.com
atstewtewt 9 months ago
@Snikerdoodle
i'd move in with one of my close family friends,uncle/aunt, or granparents
TheLaisama 9 months ago
can anyone tell me buck's email?
teachmehowtozombie 9 months ago
u can date our friends x" es a few months after the break up as long as they no longer have feeling for each other
TheContainLetters 9 months ago
haha pause at 8:32 :P and 8:33 is funny too xD
hardboiledgummybear 10 months ago
haha pause at 8:32 :P
hardboiledgummybear 10 months ago
and you see them in those shorts and you're like NEEEEH
hahahahhahahahahahaha roflmao
gillespieunit213 11 months ago
dear buck,yur fucking amazing :D!
liltrobblez123 11 months ago
*things
A lesbian because I wouldn't date anyone just ignore them and they will eventually go away
karenaiscrazy 11 months ago
Look girl I'm in 11th grade and had the same problem. I just ignored them and told them it's against my beliefs. Eventually they will back off and if they don't you shouldn't be friends with them. Also tell them I'm to young to have a boyfriend and I'm just protecting my purity. I got a good 4 years before I even need to start think about dating. I got other thongs to worry about right now like homework and succeeding in life.
:D hope this helped
Katyln
P.S. Im a tomboy to and people called me
karenaiscrazy 11 months ago
dear buck people always make fun of me for not having or had a boyfriend im am only in 7th grade i have alot people crush on me but i never feel the same ways i have high standards and i aint gonna lower them but i want everyone i know to just shut up ill get a f when i want they always try to make me act more decent im a tomboy and why should i be with a guy who doesnt like me for me they try to sent me up on blind dates im not 30 this isnt e-harmony ill get a bf when im ready what do i do
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5starchiccccca 1 year ago
Hi Buck! I had a long question so I sent it to your youtube messages. I hope you reply on you show! -Raven
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peanutme2 1 year ago 3
i found my mini-me! Little Alex, i know how difficult it can be to be anything but 'normal'. i didn't come out as bi until i was 20 and had nothing to lose (i'd already lost it all). however, most of my friends and family knew i was... off..? the majority of people i knew thought i was a hardcore lesbian, but i really wasn't. at heart, i'm the exact same thing as you: born a girl, wants to be a boy, but still loves girlie stuff. i even wear glitter. it's just a... thing.
alixinthemiddle 1 year ago
Cindy- What I do is tell them to leave me alone REALLY LOUD in front of the teacher. At my school, they find it funny that the bullies get caught by the teachers.
thewarriorhuntress 1 year ago
DO NOT under any circumstances tell a teacher first! kids are vicious and will pick on you more for being a snitch, tell them to fuck off or something instead
Annamator94 1 year ago
snickerdoodle pt2: pls understand that your parents are just not fit to be good parents, & this is the best they know how to do. fostercare could be a good option, look up fostering agencies, call them to ask questions.
Someone thinking you're not good enough, even your parents, doesn't mean you're not good enough. Unconditional love is loving & accepting your child no matter what. Their opinion of you has no bearing on your worth as a human being. You get to decide your worth. No one else! <3
oceanwonders 1 year ago 3
Snickerdoodle: your father is abusing you. This is emotional abuse, the kind that's harder to prove & harder to take people to jail over. No loving father uses the word slut to refer to their daughter.
Imagine if 2 of your classmates got together & decided to raise a 13 year old. You think they'd know how to raise an emotionally healthy child, making sure the kid's needs are met? No. This is your parents. They don't have their own shit together well enough to have leftover energy for a kid too.
oceanwonders 1 year ago
snickerdoodle: i love you:)
hopeyable 1 year ago
For Cindy-- I was always bullied in grade school and I had similar problems in gym. I found that the best way to deal with it-for me anyway-was to just be nice or to point out the obvious. If they say your shorts look stupid say something like "well you're wearing the same ones so that doesnt make any sense". If they throw something at you just turn to them and politely ask them to please stop and that you would appriciate if they could leave you alone.
PurpleDinosaury 1 year ago
the first story made me crie
DTGducttapegirl 1 year ago
Amber I know this is late but to anyone who has this problem. Live in the moment. You're in high school. Chances are he knows about the college problem and you might be able to establish a long distance relationship but even if you don't at least you won't have to ask yourself "What if..."
CreativeArtistic10 1 year ago
foster parents would definately be the best thing your parents arent good for you. you are good enough and you do deserve different parents, tell someone <3
dottidee427 1 year ago
hey snickerdoodle if i was u i would probaly go live with a relitive like ur god parents or ur granny or gramps...
BAMiTsAmber321 1 year ago
Tell a teacher thats the best thing to do. Because sometimes what they say can bring you down. So tell on them.. There jerks
rachel15151 1 year ago
boy lol
SuperLasska 1 year ago
Snickerdoodle:
My friend is in the same situation as you, but worse. She has been in foster care for a while becuase her father was abusive and her mother died in 2006. she has cut herself before and she is very moody. Trust me, you need to talk to someone, even if you have to go into foster care, its for the best :)
TheAussieBrooke 1 year ago
is a fart and a sneeze a sneeze fart or a fart sneeze?
IshaBeauty11 1 year ago
@IshaBeauty11 oh my god, best comment ever
xoxokatynxoxox 1 year ago
dear buck,
im 13 and i like this boy he likes me too i think and im scared of him hes really cute and i just broke up with my boyfriend what should i do?
17angelface 1 year ago
and you see those shorts and your like "NAHH"
17angelface 1 year ago
YOU HAVE A P.H. D. IN DEGRASSI TOO?!! =DDD
ThatAwesomeElyse 1 year ago 72
Alex- I think, at your age, experimentation is key. If you identify as male, you're male. However, since you say you feel 'girly' sometimes I think it would be good for you to experiment with Androgyny. It seems obvious that you are transgendered but you need to figure out where you fit; it's like a Kinsey scale but for gender rather than sexual orientation.
Xx Rhianna
gumtreewallow 1 year ago 2
cindy take the higher ground and tell them to grow up
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adriekebriy 1 year ago
i want to know WHY people are picking on cindy. is she being mean? is she ugly? is she a nerd? WHY?! :-)
MissMuffinToYou 1 year ago
Dear buck,
I'm 19 and I've been in college for a few months, and there is this boy how drives me carzy giddy, i feel like i'm 12 again. We're in several classes together and my best friend here is really good friends with him and i everytime i'm around him she is also around. I have problems being myself around him, i tend to just shut up and ce awkward. anyways how do i stand out around him with her around as well. And one drunken nite i kissed his room mate! What do I do?
GringaVsNapoleon 1 year ago 2
@Snickerdoodle oh my, i feel so bad for your situation <3 is always going to be there for you see if you can move in with a friend, let them know what your situation is :) I LOVE YOU <3 Gabrielle Howard
EternalDreamCloud 1 year ago
Hi Alex :)
you should find a cute bisexual girl so you can do what you want and she would still love you. ^.^ it's a win win! :D
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AdviceFromDevin 1 year ago
Does buck still do these videos? And if so how do I contact him besides commenting on his video?
narutofox180 1 year ago
@narutofox180 his channel has a little box that lets you add questions, just click on the name and you can see it right beneath!
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@narutofox180 um i dont know if he still does them, but watch all of the past vids cause in a few he posts the email adress for the questions. its like dearbuck@gmail.com or something.
MissMuffinToYou 1 year ago
I am here for you snicker
jewallover 1 year ago
Buck is there anyway I can contact snickerdoodle I think I can talk to her.
xxnearlydeadnitaxx 1 year ago
omg i have a PHD in degrassi too!
alissataylorhighway 1 year ago
basically, I think that this Alex girls gender is male, but her SEX is female. Gender is then way you act, sex is what you're sexual organ is.
theAlchemistfox 1 year ago
cindy i was the same
P.E the worst to get builled
u should tell sumone cos if leave it they may start to hit u cos they no u wont tell
thats wat happend to me
heatherzhere 1 year ago
I like this girl in my school shes very quiet I talk to her occasionally on facebook dont talk to her in real life because I get scared but never have I once wrought anything about her but 'I ♥ (her name)' but nothing like that other guy
bradkal 1 year ago
The first story was terrible!
ImOverlyObsessed 1 year ago 2
Turnon captions and go to around 06:51 "Helping subscribers" turns into ukraine drivers lol!!! XD
Blomsterberg94 1 year ago
to cindy..... get a couple of your friends in your gym class to and just have them back you up. if theyre really your friends theyll support you.
metrofrancaischick 1 year ago
HES USEING U FOR SEX. TELL HIM TO BACK THE FUKK OFF B4 I CALL THE COPS
MrTwinkleDouche 1 year ago
Just responding to Alex's question. Look, I'm a transguy, meaning i was born biologically female but now live, identify and am a guy. Most transguys I know are quite faggy. When I started living as a guy, even before hormore replacement therapy and top surgery, I immediately became alright with wearing platforms and fur jackets and being into other guys . You're not the only one. And yes, I do know transguys who do drag.
My advice to you is just look up ftm on youtube. You'll get answers.
molkomolkomolkomolko 1 year ago 2
ur a person?
Nimesh89pwns 1 year ago
1:48 That Guy is a total Dick!
LegoFanatic1377 1 year ago
Snickerdoodle: im am amazed that somone would survive such abuse. Stand strong. Keep up the good work. Your parents arent worth it. If somone has loved you you know you could be loved again. But somone besides your parents. There not worth your time. Trust me ive delt with cruel people and they never change. They think of themselves. Start with a new slate.
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Tinaloveheart 1 year ago
ur so funny
jessisgirl101 1 year ago
I LOVE YOU BUCK. You make everything seem so easy.
TheLiliT13 1 year ago 3
@Snickerdoodle - I hope I spelled your name right sweetheart. You need to do whatever you can to get well, for starters. Being with your father will not help. Reach out to other family members, maybe an aunt/uncle or your grandparents, if they're still with us, but no matter what you need to get away from your father, he is toxic.
Harusakichan 1 year ago
Answear to Snickerdoodle:
I think you should try to stick it out as long as you has to! You could try to be with your friends most of the time, and try not to spend as much time with your father. I don't think you should try to gert your mother back, because it's clearly that she woun't have anything to do with you, ore she might not be mentaly cleaar to deal with other than her self. When your old enogh you could try to "divorse" your parents. I meen, taking awey their parents caustedie.
HarryPottermysteriet 1 year ago
I use to be picked on by people who were suppose to be my friends then I stopped hanging out with them because what kind of friends pick on you? But they still picked on me I ended up getting pissed of and flipped out cursing at them in front of the teacher.lol I got in trouble but they stopped :)
incognitocalculator 1 year ago
I was bullied in school when I was a kid-cause I was smarter and just "a good girl"-until I snapped one day and got into a fight (Phisically) with a guy twice my size;
he was so shocked that he didn't have a chance to do much and I gave him a black eye that day...sure to say NOBODY EVER PICKED ON ME EVER AGAIN!!! :)
blacklidya 1 year ago 3
For the prom girl, like Buck said, just go with it now, but if you have these concerns, in the future you may want to talk to him about it, what if he will go to the same college? What if he's planning to be closer to where you're going than you thought? So, have fun and good luck!
ntcssj 1 year ago
Snickerdoodle:
I have a friend with a similar situation and she was considering moving in with her aunt that she is close with so if you have a older sibling who lives elsewhere or a relative that could take you in that is less abusive maybe you could move in with them or a close friend that has a good family. I'm sorry about your situation.
actingXchick23 1 year ago 139
@actingXchick23 I agree with you thats really good advice =). I hope Snickerdoodle reads your comment.
hala4haters 1 year ago
@actingXchick23 or Snickerdoodle should contact the Steve Wilkos show
xgirlxinsidex 7 months ago
dear buck
i was thinking about breaking up with my boy friend of 5 year & just to tell u my bro. messed up my channle and my real age is 12... my boy f.'s dad has canser this rare one that starts at the leg and moves up to lungs and hes ben throught losts of things in my opinyon... hes real nice and he makes me lol and we have kissed but it just feels like we r just good friends NOT including the KISS
i am so confused and i cant think of a good way to break up with him
HELP BUCK PLZ !!
Yoshiegg11 1 year ago
@Yoshiegg11 I have the same problem (minues the cancer and the kiss). We've been dating for 5 or 6 years, and I even tried breaking up with him, but we decided to try to stay together, but I can tell it's not going to last long. My bf lives in a different city about 2 or 3 hours away.
IssyRedbird 1 year ago
to sydney.. i think you should tell some of your actual friends who are in your gym class to sort of stay with you so that if you get picked you have saftey in numbers...
basketcase734 1 year ago
I dread PE too! haha i love ya buck♥
lauraslovestories 1 year ago
Also the last one. The creepy story person. Simple get a restraining order on him. If he doesn't respect your requests.
lmordro 1 year ago
Snickerdodle It's not you. It's simple talk with the police. IE call the cops.
lmordro 1 year ago
Hi Buck, hers my problem (don't say I'm being dramatic because I'm realy not) I connet with my friends and family but on way different levels. Its like I'm a totally different person depending on who I hang out with, anthen there's a hole nother part of me that nobody nose about. anyway because of this I don't have any realy close friends that I can talk to about (there's a reason I can't talk to my parents but youtube only alous 500 karekters. its geting hard and annoying to keep it up. ps im13
youtubopolis 1 year ago
to snickerdoodle,
foster care is actually not as bad as a lot of people make it out to be. i was in fostercare myself for a temporary placement of six months because of promblems i was having in school. foster parents are very supportive and kind and they are always there to listen to you and talk to you. foster care also provides a lot of recreational activities that you can choose from and you are always provided with money for clothes. i think foster care is you best bet.
much love :)
twistedslip1 1 year ago
We as a human species sometimes develop strong male and/or female archetypes (despite our born gender). The persona we find ourselves most comfortable with is the one we most idealize ourselves as. This is part of gender identity and personal growth/self identification.
Sometimes we are fine switching between male/female archetypes, or keeping both persona types (M & F) together as one persona.
Discussing your feelings/future desires with a professional will bring further enlightenment.
nohophil 1 year ago
i have depression too, and i feel terrible that her dad is treating her that way. but she shouldn't feel bad about being a bad daughter because she's not being a bad daughter at all. i think you should seek outside help, thats what i did. it doesn't matter about you parents, i know you care but i agree with buck you should get help. i was very close to dying, and i needed help so i got it. i sure hope everything gets better. much love alex <3
alexloser475 1 year ago
@ Gender question - Too many people these days think just because they like more things of the opposite gender means they are the opposite gender.. um NO! There is no set way a boy or a girl should act other than what society/peer pressure tries to say. if you like masculine things and girl things, ok, you can still be a girl and like those things. Girls can be dominant and aggressive, doesnt mean theyre supposed to be a boy. Sheesh. If you were really a boy you wouldnt even have to ask
mynamekeisha 1 year ago
To Snickerdoodle: Get into foster care! Help is what you need, and that is what you will get with foster care. If that idea is still not an option, reach out to your relatives or even friends. Do not try to aggravate your father in the mean time, and reach out and be open in order to get help. You can be successful outside of them.
To Alex: Being openly gay is FINE. Having your personality is NORMAL! Try socializing with more boys, so you can accept their ways and see girls the same way they do.
peaceluvjonas4eva 1 year ago
snickerdoodle get a realtive that you kan trust and tell them about your abusive father. ask them to kall the police and report the situation. foster care is probably better than get abused at home. you are not worthless and you deserve a so much better life than this. get out of that situation and seek out to loved ones that you can trust or the police. you are better daughter than you know because you love two parents who do not deserve your love
MzMinny2011 1 year ago
"is there some type of girl code?" such an imature way to speak, i feel worried for this person. maybe theyre not mature enough to have a serious relationship. dont judge me because the way what i just said sounds judgemental, i just want some of my ideas to be heard.
Sparta729 1 year ago
In seventh grade I was bullied a lot in PE, too, by a group of girls. PE teachers usually have to deal with classes of about fifty kids, so it was impossible for them to always watch me. When it started to get dangerous, my mom called the school and the "leader" was called in. While we certainly never got along, and through middle school she still considered me a freak, we stayed mostly out of each other's way from there on out, even when we ended up sharing a class the next year.
Sandra0Argentium 1 year ago
2 the girl being picked on: u can deffinately stick up 2 them. as long as u kno who u r, its yur right/job 2 let others kno too
Kidstar31 1 year ago
Snickerdootle, go into foster care! it will help you. NO ONE should be in that situation! Your parents are in no mental condition to care for you. your father is abusive, and your mother is not sane enough to help you. I have been in councling for years and one thing i know is that people only want to help you. my good friend has a foster-sister and she is so sweet! nothing but positive things have come out of that good luck!
xoxoSmilexoxo8D 1 year ago 2
@snickerdoodle wow they are both idiots i suggest u live with ethier a friend or aunt uncle grandma grandpa cousin foster care you know what i mean
koreanzombie1 1 year ago 2
Is it creepy to write a story inspired by a crush on a guy...That hasn't got a sexual nature?
gabagabby 1 year ago
@gabagabby no unless u are publishing it
koreanzombie1 1 year ago
Y'know a cute way to ask someone to the prom is u get then flowers of something w/e aslong as u have a card that reads "will u go to the prom with me?" "?em hitw morp eht ot og u lliw" and u put a little mirror and sooner or later they figure out to put the card near the mirror so the reflection reads "Will you go to the prom with me?" XD isnt that cute? i just thought it up and thought it'd be a funny thing to do.
crossman456 1 year ago 96
@crossman456
no unless u ask a dumb girl (really hot girls) to the prom xD
silva123451 1 year ago
Miranda-Please don't wait and be light handed with this guy. I made that mistake in high school with a self destructive and violent boy that I used to date. It got so bad that the police got involved which completely took my piece of mind. Nip it in the bub right now! Tell your parents,someone at school, or someone that you trust anyone.
RobotCore26 1 year ago 2
To Cindy- Could I possibly have your email address? I also had that problem, and 500 characters isn't nearly enough for this. If you want, you can just send me a message at EmileeDGAF@aim.com and I'll write back..whatever floats your boat :)
EmileeDGAF 1 year ago
@Psalms149, don't go spreading your anti-transgendered propaganda where it isn't needed, take it back to whatever christian forum you crawled out of.
The bit about people changing and regretting it, they LIED to counselors because they learned how to talk to them. Don't listen to psalms149, heck don't even listen to me, go look at many of the TS help forums out there or speak to a doctor.
FMVhero 1 year ago
Dear Buck, I'm a girl 15 yrs old, I hang out with a couple of other girls, but when I'm with them i seems like they really don't want me there. I've tried to bring it up with them but they just ignore it, what shold I do to make them take me seriously?
xThisGirl95x 1 year ago
Am I a boy or a girl? If you can not be true to yourself then how can you be true to anyone else. Just do as you do and don't stress over the opinions of others.
Psalms149 1 year ago
Am I a boy or a girls? Many people whom get operations to become a different sexual appearance wish they had not done so after wards. I think you should be happy with yourself and live life and if others find fault, you need to know that is in all of life among all people and people whom seek to do as others wish them to do, and do not do as they want to or need to do according to their own desires and needs are very unhappy people.
Psalms149 1 year ago
Am I a girl or a boy? I think it does not mater what you do or what you like. I think you are growing in mind and body and have many years to live and grow and just as a plant starts out growing it changes in looks and in size and it is beautiful in the eyes of those whom find beauty in it and some would call it a weed or an eyesore. I think you should simply live your life in the body you have and enjoy life.
Psalms149 1 year ago
SnickerDoodle:
My mom is an alcoholic and bad things happened. I was only 10 and terrifyed of foster care. I had my dad though, im sorry about all this. Message me because i wanna help you.
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xoxofrancie 1 year ago
i was bullied for years which turned to an eventual eating disorder and telling teachers wont do anything. ignore it. it isnt about you its pettyness. plus i saw the ring leader a few months ago and shes a shlag! she does drugs and has not blossomed well so it will all work out!
Jammyjimjams 1 year ago
@Jammyjimjams i saw a girl that used to bully me like 2 weeks ago! she's gotten really fat and has a baby. she was looking rough. i laughed at her when she walked by me.
1crazydoll 1 year ago
Thanks, Michael, for answering Cindy's question. I have a similar problem with bullies in school (I too am a 7th grader, but a boy) and after watching this video I have to say that when I look at it from your prespective, it's not so bad. I feel like this video helped me get a more mature and better view on it, and it feels like it's not going to bother me next time.
Tattas999 1 year ago
i stand up for myself everyday with the stupid bullies at my school!!
idkmybffem 1 year ago
Cindy- If the girls ever say anything mean to you, come right back to them. Don't them beat you down without a fight. Now literally, but you know, don't be a pushover. If they say something mean, even in front of a teacher, you have the right to say something back.
livsbuddypatty 1 year ago
if ur not those people who can ttly pwn someone, then just look at them in like a "uh huh" sort of way and walk away. or if u cant walk away just go: uh huh, and not do anything.
mo0lie 1 year ago
she should get away from her mom and dad they both have lots of problems
MrTayt22 1 year ago
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DirectorGirl411 1 year ago
Miranda, he's a creeper and RUN away.
---Good advice? I don't know. Be really careful about this.
beagle4864 1 year ago
I would write stories of a "sexual nature" for my girlfriend, but that's completely different from someone who barely knows you...
NewCancerNat 1 year ago
Alex- give yourself time... Play up the sporty dyke, you can mix it up (gender roles) until you are 99% sure how you feel. Def get a therapist who is specializes on LGBT issues. Hugs!!
emmerised 1 year ago
for the girl whos being teased my advice is to do something the teasers arent expecting.... bullies nowadays expect people to ignore them and so it usually doesnt get them to stop but doing something they dont expect (like asking extremely blunt questions) you usually put them in a dear in headlights position and then its uncomfortable for them instead of you so theyll leave you alone
uhpanduh 1 year ago
for the pe girl, talk to teacher and ask to transfer to a different class
likethestatega 1 year ago
Cindy, I have a problem with a girl at school and she started really picking on me in P.E, i dealt with it by ignoring it, but at home i would bitch about her to my mum, because i know she'll always be there when i need her. I suggest you continue to ignore it and talk to someone you trust and know they wont tell anyone.
BethanyAnneJane 1 year ago
CYBER HUGS !!!
hebronG13 1 year ago
Snickerdoodle: I`ve lived in foster homes before and you shouldn`t be afraid of that option. Foster families are wonderful people.
RorenLikesCake 1 year ago
SnikerDoodle, is there a friend you can stay with? Maybe another family member? Deffinately DO NOT stay with an abusive father, you are better off without him, trust me. If you think you can handle it, there's always emancipation. If nothing else, talk to somebody in your guidance office at school. They can, and will help you.
sierrahmist 1 year ago
ASERRT SID ASERRT
shadowhunterfighter 1 year ago
Snikerdoddle, Talk to your Counselor at school. They can help you a lot :)
ncohi 1 year ago
Cindi,
I had the same problem in grade 6/7/8, and I did nothing. Depending on how many more years you have to spend with these girls really is the deciding factor on what to do. I'm in highschool now, and don't ever have to see these girls again, so if you won't have to see them after a little with, ignoring them will probably help.
yellowdaisycat 1 year ago
Cindy, if there is a teacher you really trust, tell them. Just tell them. Or write a note to your PE teacher (anonymously) and tell him what is going on
cloebaby97 1 year ago
Snickerdoodle I suggest that you talk to your guidance counselor or to a police officer or someone who will help you out. Your parents sound like they are unhealthy people that wouldn't do you any good so I would suggest getting the heck away from them if you can manage.
sekushinonyanko 1 year ago
to cindy: u should go up to them when you're sure they picked on u and ask them WTF their prob is or say that in a polite way
it should help coz then ure showing them that u wont let them pick on u
always argue back and be the last one to say somethin even if thats hard
anyways good luck
KaKa4lifeDarkGold 1 year ago
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In response to Alex about being a boy:
It's normal for trans people to say "I'm a boy/man, but I still love girly things" and vice versa. Trans people are stereotyped as being hypermasculine trans men and hyperfeminine trans women, but those are just stereotypes: You can transition and still be yourself. You don't have to give up girly things, and you can certainly be a drag queen if you want.
Some psychs might think this means you're not trans. Be careful when look into transitioning.
lisaquestions 1 year ago
In response to Alex about being a boy:
It's normal for trans people to say "I'm a boy/man, but I still love girly things" and vice versa. Trans people are stereotyped as being hypermasculine trans men and hyperfeminine trans women, but those are just stereotypes: You can transition and still be yourself. You don't have to give up girly things, and you can certainly be a drag queen if you want.
Some psychs might think this means you're not trans. Be careful when look into transitioning.
lisaquestions 1 year ago
Dear Buck, I recently broke up with my boyfriend. I'm long over him, but all of my friends and even people who just aren't fond of him are picking on him and making fun of him. I have seen him crying about me and about him getting picked on. I know what it's like to be picked on. I hate to see him cry, but every time people pick on him and I say back off, they say that I still like him and I never really got over him. How do I get these people off his nuts and mine? Please help! From Maggie.
MaggieConnellanMusic 1 year ago
@snickerdoodle. Well, my parents are the same way. I'm 17 and I don't advise you to make this your first choise but, I got amasapatied. That's pretty much devoricing your parents. What you need is proof that both parents are abusing you and take it to court and say hey, I want amasapatied.
LizzAnarchy 1 year ago
@ALeRae18 thanks! I'll be sure that I'm ready! Thanks for the advice!
lydsterlovesjonas 1 year ago
@elmostaco Thank-you for the great advice!!! It really helped!!!
lydsterlovesjonas 1 year ago
to the 7th grader who dread P.E
Well I don't hate p.e but there a group of girls who are like it. Well what games do u play in P.E what do u do because when they were playing floor hockey puck so high it hit the high concer of the gym and they did not say anything to me.
PrincessFirefly1 1 year ago
13 year old mania on dis show IM 13!
MikeIceProductions 1 year ago
Cindy should take a gun and go: "Which one of ya'll motha'a fucka's want to pick on me now?!?
AndreyZidaneTM 1 year ago
Hey Buck. Thanks for doing a really good job of tackling the teen's question about gender dysphoria. There is a huge transgender community here on Youtube. Many teenagers even. Ze might be interested in those videos. I'm a female to male transsexual (I posted a video response) and I'm also a mentor for teenagers who are trans in my town. Ze should seek out the local transgroup in hir area. There are also many resources available online if ze Googles FTM resources.
sillyyetsuccinct 1 year ago
In response to Cindy in 7th grade: talk to your parent(s). Nobody has to go through abuse and humiliation, which PE is a breeding ground. I was bullied as were many other boys and girls, and if I had to live through that again, I would refuse to participate in any activity where I was feeling threatened.
psyseth 1 year ago
About the abusive parent case, first, call a hotline. Go online, find the confidential hotline for domestic abuse in your region, and call them. Make sure that they are not obligated to report abuse. There, get suggestions on what you want to do ultimately, whether you want to report your father or you want to try to establish a relationship. If you want to leave the situation behind, talk to your school counselor. She should be able to report the authorities and try to advocate for you.
saracross123 1 year ago
~cyber hug~
DianaH18 1 year ago