march 22, 2010: advice to adoptive parents

[027daisy]

thanks for sharing, we are looking to adopt

[gikcp34]

I am korean adopted too older than you, for me is too late this advice!!! but is quite good well done

[zabe1977]

Thanks so much for sharing!

[parkerlewisrocks]

any updates on finding your birth mom or sister?

[OfficialGetGln]

I'm not adopted and my parents lied to me about how they met. They met in a "one flew over the coo-coo's nest hospital". I'm serious.

[OfficialGetGln]

"Korean babies are the fattest and happiest!" omg lol I wonder if she really thought that or she made a better commission when adopting Korean babies. I have no idea. I'm just wondering.

[upcycle]

it is nice that your adoptive parents had such supportive extended family.

I think you are right about the adoptive parents have a responsibility to be honest to the child when the child asks. Lieing to the child, IMHO, will harm feelings of trust in the relationship the child has for the parent.

[BrKT85]

Word of advice: Show a little skin, you will have more views.

just saying.

[agusislost]

Really like your thoughts, thanks for sharing!

[starfruit1986]

By the way, thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts and feelings, it helps other adoptees like me feel less alone with our adoption related problems.

[jeni582200]

how do you figure you aren't an expert on adoption? you lived it.

[ktchong]

78% of Asian kids adopted by white parents consider themselves as white.

In addition, Asian women have an easier time than Asian men in assimilating and being accepted into America.

So, for the sake of the children, it's better to adopt Asian girls rather than boys.

[SuperiorJG]

Thank you Stephanie.... out of all the resources out there for adoptive parents your videos have been the most valuable.

[greenpuma59]

hey! I really like your videos, my adoptive parents were kinda like yours as you described. what is that adoption workshop?

[danogus01]

Steph, being an adoptee myself, I agree that adoptive parents need to just be parents and ignore the "adoptive" stigma or categorizing. You are the parents that are raising the child, act like that, love your child, and be the best parent (period). My adoptive parents are amazing as well, and like yours have been supportive, not pushy, and willing to do whatever I need when it came to exploring my Korean background. I also went to Korea, but it was when I was ready. Thanks for the video!