The after effect

[Clarachk]

What a beautiful video! I found you through Fehquig. Yes, an event such as this makes one pause & reflect. The past, present & future came back into perspective for me. It's about taking the cards dealt and playing them in a way that lets you bloom &grow even if you lose the hand. About masks, I agree. Even the people local to us don't always know all of our pieces. We're diamonds with many facets & flaws. We mould each other & take what we see fit. Hhopefully we have something to give back.

[Fringe111]

What a beautiful comment. Thank you and tell Fehguig hi for me. Thank you again

[Twirretwarre]

Thanks to Eddie I was looking at your channel and went looking at this video. I didn't know Roger, but I know the death of someone can effect your life highly! The greatest effect was with the death of my husband, 2 years ago. It changed me, it made me more conscious of so many things, and he has still his influence in my life.

( I made a tribute for him here at youtube).

About Roger, you talking about this, also has an effect towards at least me. I respect you very much!

Roeleke

[Fringe111]

Oh thank you and I'm so sorry for your loss. It does change you in the most profound way

Again, thank you

[mkuebler5]

I like your views Joy!I am sorry to say that i don't know of Roger but, he sounds like he was a very dear friend for you.The after affects are that who are left behind have to pick up the pieces and try to understand why as i had to after my partner died suddenly a few years ago

peace

[Fringe111]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. It's true what you just said. It's us who are left behind are the sufferers.

Thank you so much for watching

[MysterEy1BestofYT]

Added to my "BEST of" playlist - for DEATH.

[Fringe111]

It's really true when you say we make friendships beyond You Tube. I've made a few dear friends and will probably be life long friends. Rogers death got to me and I don't know why. Maybe because of his young age.

[MysterEy1]

you wanted o know if i was afected by TBDs death. not so much. I didnt see any reason to be affected by it. i didnt know how to be. I've encountered much death in my life and Im not that interested to make more out of it.

Also i didnt talk with him that much. I feel that we talked through other people to each other.

I was mean to him, because i felt he wasnt a nice guy to some others i was friends with.

thats it.

[Fringe111]

Alot of people didn't like Roger. He could be really caustic at times. I think I was able to see passed that.

[MysterEy1]

ah the mask. but it is how you use the mask. in youtube land there will always be the mask.

[Fringe111]

Oh yes the Mask thing. I have alittle game I play which is called. Can you see through that mask? I'm always looking

[MysterEy1BestofYT]

I like your "mask". But i'll take you up on that challenge. to see through the mask. Have you been using it on your more recent videos? ;7)

[Fringe111]

Nope, have you lol

[CLAYLAVLL]

I have a few friends from yt but in a way..yt is a masqurade party.

[Fringe111]

I know Clay it really is but I guess it's understandable. But I have made good friends from YT that went into real life, like above you'll see a vid from rwalker. We speak on the phone almost daily and we've been to his house many times. Ther's also one other like this. But it's rare

Thanks Clay

[LaiYouttitham]

I knew Roger but he didn't know me i loved the man and yes it effected me!!

[Fringe111]

Thank you so much for commenting

[thehyerchannel]

This was an awesome tribute

[Fringe111]

Wow thank you, that's awesome comming from you. I'm in the middle of the flu and I'm as weak as a kitten. That's why I havn't don any vids lately. Thank you Eddie

[phekwig]

Most excellent, and with editing! I still don't know what I felt about Roger's death. I had only seen a few of his videos. I just know that he was a lot younger than I am, and that I could go Pfffft! just like that. I'm becoming more thankful for every day I wake up...

[Fringe111]

I was surprised at how I felt about it. It probed yo me that we are a community of good friends

[fehquig]

You got that right, Joy!

[Urnkneekovaks]

Definitely a YouTube first...

feeling a sense of loss for a person I never met, with whom I had never held a conversation, knew practically nothing about, not even his last name. Yet when Roger died I felt a sense of loss. What is so strange about his death is I thought you didn't hurt if you don't know the person yet the Boring Dispatcher proved me wrong.

[Fringe111]

Oh you're so right. We do care about each other and that surprised me too. This is not just a video site. It seems that connections were made.

Thank you

[MadBadVoodo]

Five Stars Joy!

[Fringe111]

You're awesome

[tomken8d]

I didn't know Roger.

But we all wear masks. Always.

When we act and perfoirm, we wear masks that don't HIDE what's there, but, rather, allow us to bring out of ourselves.

I've been a hood, various types of jackasses, even a vampire.

NONE of those characters were affected.

They are all inside of me.

"Rise, vampire..."

btw, hope everyone is well :(

[Fringe111]

I love what you just said.

Micheal came home from the hospital last night and he's doing fine. I still have you on me important list

[DelisaProductions]

Roger must have been a beloved figure on youtube, he will be sorely missed.

[Fringe111]

Actually he was very controversial, sometimes even hated because he never held anything back. But there was just something about him that grabbed everyone who saw him. He didn't know who to wear a mask. He tried to but everyone saw right through it

Thanks Lisa

[dorotwhy]

It has affected me to a confusing degree. Also, regarding your comment about seeing beyond Roger's mask; I realized he was a wonderful person from the very first video I watched of his and by reading the comments and his replies to those comments. It is difficult mourning alone, so thank you, little by little I'm feeling less and less alone. (((HUG)))

[Rhonda9]

It is sad to hear about this person. I didn't watch his videos at all. I don't know why, but I just didn't seem to get over to his vids. I always heard people mentioning him though. It shows that people on youtube do have a heart and are interconnected.

Good to bring up people's masks.

[Fringe111]

It's really true. We are really a community after all and we're entwined through friendships. The outpouring after his death was amazing. I'm so glad you got to see this.

Say hello to Dave

[mia0899cs]

I didn't know Roger, however, I stopped and paused. For me, I'd rather keep my close friends on Youtube than have 35,000 subscribers who I don't know. My friends on Youtube, including you Joy, have inspired me in so many ways. You were there when my dog was hanging on for his life. I can't tell you how much that meant to me and the prayers that went out. Joy, I'm glad you are in the world!!!

[Fringe111]

Oh Cindy thank you so much, I feel the same about you top.

Alot of people didn't know him but it seemed to have effected so many people. He was very young, 30 with a small son.

How is your adorable dog doing?

[moomay11649]

IS THIS A PRANK?

[Fringe111]

Noooooo not at all. Roger TheBoringDispatcher has died.

[moomay11649]

OMG ~ I AM SO SORRY.

[moomay11649]

I DIDN'T KNOW ROGER.

[Fringe111]

I wish you had, he was very young when he died

[JustA11en]

Ironically,I had a video idea that spoke to some of the things you mentioned, before his passing. I feel even more compelled to make it now...

but in trying to do so, I realized I was still stuck on pause.

[Fringe111]

Oh please do it. I think it's time we take care of each other now.

[TropicalBuddha]

I have never known you to speak that fast. I guess I look beyond that and see the substance of what you say.

As for Roger, I agree with the earlier comment about masks. Sometimes we can never tell that its a mask, until its too late :(

[Fringe111]

I know that's why I made tis vid. Also because if I'm still being effected by it others probably are too. Grieving is part of getting well so I thouhgt other people would want to talk more about it

Thanks so much for your comment

[FeetAppreciation]

I agree about wearing a mask...some people outwardly project a positive image but inwardly can have troubles that build and build until something snaps....it's sad, but sometimes it happens.

[Fringe111]

I know, that's why I did this vid. Maybe we all need, as a community, to make some sense out of this whole thing

[Draklems]

Yes we all have masks, sooo true.

[Fringe111]

Yanno it's still upsetting me. I guess alot of us need to grieve as a community

[knifesedge]

I knew Roger only through a couple of videos and his reputation through youtube. His death has hit me in the same way, in that I couldn't get him out of my head and I found myself watching videos dedicated to him on my mobile, one the way to work, every day this week. It makes me regret I didn't know him more in life and most of all, it makes me wonder who will remember me when I'm gone.

[Fringe111]

I'm glad you understood what I was talking about. I think we have more impact on people that we really don't know about. So I really do believe in that six degrees of separation

saying.

Thank you so much for commenting

[30andout]

It's true about the mask, offline as well as online.

[Fringe111]

And it's normal. I was surprised at the response at Rogers passing. It taught me a big lesson

[PositiveLogic]

What a great compendium of thoughts and observations. I had an admiration for Roger's strength to assert himself on here, despite some obvious pains and less obvious scars. The pangs of mistakes and hurt, in our life, are one of the fuels that we propel ourselves through life with. Roger was MOTORING. "It's better to burn out, than it is to rust."

[Fringe111]

I love that last line, it's so true. Thanks for watching this. I was very personal to me. You're awesome

[Fringe111]

Thank you David for getting what I was trying to say. The funny thing is that if you know someone well enough you can see through those masks

Thank you for watching

[NaturalTwentyFilms]

Great vlog. You are so right on many points. You reminded me of a great song by Martin Sexton called "The Way I Am".

Again, gteat vlog.

[Fringe111]

I don't know that song but thank you, I appreciate it.

[capergirl1976]

what an eloquently done vlog Joy. I personally like said before didn't know Roger and only saw maybe 3 or 4 of his of vids at most but what did kind of shock me about it was the fact he was my age. Alot of times when you hear about somebody dying and they were older ya think well life happens like that. but when its someone who's your age it kinda puts things in perspective that life is sometimes unpredictable and we better make the most of it. :)

[Fringe111]

Thank you so much. Yanno that was also part of it. His age. Young people are not supposed to die. I get where you're comming from

[Gemm73]

You are a wise woman.

[Fringe111]

Oh wow thank you. It's just that his death really through me for a loop abd got me thinking of alot of things.

[Gemm73]

I know, me too. I'm making a major life change right now, which will ultimately result in my happiness.

[Fringe111]

Oh Gem that's wonderful, I'm really happy for you. Sometimes something like this makes us pause and think

[omglaserpewpewpew]

I'd do a video response but I did not know Roger so I felt it would be a little inappropriate. But my heart goes out to everyone who knew and misses him. He apparently was loved by many on here and when somebody dies this young, that makes it even more difficult and tragic. Life is precious and we all need to make the best of it and live every day like it is our last, cause you just don't know what's going to happen. This is just so sad.......

[Fringe111]

It's funny and that's what I was getting at. Even the people who didn't know Roger was effected by his death in some way. I was truly struck by the deep sorrow of his death and even from people who never knew him

Thanks for watching

[Tinkerlove13]

Life is so fragile.

[Fringe111]

I know, I thinl of you often

[Lewismadmax]

You are too sweet dear woman. Can I leave my mask on, I am way uglier without it. :)

[Fringe111]

You????? I saw right through your mask the moment we met hear on You Tube. You're one of those people who try to hide behinf a mask but it doesn't work for you. That's a compliment but don't let your head get to big lol

Lve ya kiddo

[Moonchimes]

What a very wise and well thought out video. We are a community here--no doubt about it. I've made so very many wonderful friends here. Hugs,~Moonchime

[Fringe111]

Thank you so much. I think that's just what I was trying to say. Roger was so young and I don't think he knew how people really cared for him.

Thanks so much for watching

[coffeedude65]

i keep singing Sweet Caroline for some reason. it's strange how a guy i didn't know, except from his vids can affect me as it has. peace.

[Fringe111]

I know, it's amazing. It looks like Roger had a long reach

[sandieblack]

btw- you don't have to talk fast, you are amazing!

[Fringe111]

lol, thanks Sandi, you know we all have our little insecurities.

PEACE

[sandieblack]

My channel is full of masks, because I'm a performer.

Don't know if I'd have the balls to take those off- maybe because I think it wouldn't be that interesting- or dare I say it might be boring. There, I give you some writing sans mask.

[sandieblack]

I thought TBD was remarkable in how much he did choose to share, despite many of the masks of pain, vulnerability, or even anger he chose to share.

To me, his death is a tragedy because he did not get the chance to fulfill all of his potential. Maybe he left YT because of this.

[Fringe111]

I also think he had deep pain. I could see it in his eye's. I used to tell him that he couldn't fool me because his eyes spoke volumes to me.

[sandieblack]

Very perceptive. One of my favorite films is I Vitelloni, by Fellini, precisely because it is about the masks we all wear in our lives.

Interesting that children, or those with developmental delay for instance,are least likely to wear masks.

[Fringe111]

You're so right about children, that's what we call their innocence. That's why I think we don't want them to grow up and lose it.

[Clarachk]

Your point on those who are less likely to wear a mask is a good on, Sandie. I think we develop masks because that's what society teaches us to do. We learn what is & is not acceptable to ourslves, and to others. If our conscience tells us it is inappropriate, unaccapetable, embarrassing, etc, we usually opt not to share... therefor outting the mask on. And then we are sometimes left with a whole to fill, b/c the outside world doesn't know the whole story. (BTW, Hello Sandie!)

[txnrobin]

good question, joy. i knew of the dispatcher, had seen a few of his videos, heard about him frequently. his passing was a shock because he was so young and such a prominent figure on yt. people either loved him or hated him, there wasn't any middle of the road. the pain of his death in the eyes and voices of my friends is what is affecting me the most. it's unbearable feeling so helpless.

[achampag]

i think that he impacted me more in life than in death. but late last night, i was watching some old stuff, and i realized i want to go to a gathering again for the first time in months.

[Fringe111]

Man so do I. I've never been to one. I'm wanting to meet all the people I love here on You Tube

[phaedress]

Hi Joy.

I didn't know TheDispacher, never gave him

a single thought.

Until I saw his passing reflected in Tim's eyes. And now yours.

Yes, it is possible to see beyond the masks and love someone on YouTube.

Thanks for being here.

Thanks for being my phrend.

[Fringe111]

Oh thank you phae. What you just said to me goes right back at you.

Hugs

[dhaffner101]

Hi Joy. Hope you are having a good day.

[Fringe111]

I am now. Thanks for watching