in my experience having an over-infatuation with a guy you just met always makes it harder to interact with him, and if something romantic does start, you might end up being too emotionally attached too fast. it's fail-fail. back off, get over both of them, and let it unfold as it will.
no you dumb bitch only some are complicated. and some girls are stupid dumb and complicated. ya you prob started the asrguements like girls usualy do. then blame the men for their dumb retarded ass.
Ok forgrt about the ex because the reason yall fought was because yall were at the end of your bridge. You need to tell the new guy how you feel upfront.
Hiya Scarlet, why don't you try playing the field a bit get out and date around more there are plenty of wonderful people out there, and try not to obsess over this guy
if you keep going after him and he shows no interest he is probably going to stop wanting to talk to you, your still young your going to meet so many people you like you have to be patient, the right guy will come along,just go out and enjoy yourself and enjoy life, go out and have fun .
the dating of someone you were frineds with at least you enjoy the company.hope it continues after the phsyical part starts.you know what i mean."doesnt like relationships" he says...what a prick.sorry nikki you dont need that.your adorable,smart and nice.you know what is right to do.anyway...yeah..unfortunatly dating sucks.i went from stripper wife to cop gf and STILL had problems.its an issue of humanity being mostly twisted...very very annoying.you deseve someone good.
he sounds like problems to me.i mean you need to be happy.dont know where things are now but yo,nikki,seriously .give up on both.find a new one.not saying anything bad about either but i can relate and ill say this.dont take it wrong please.if you like the new guy sleep with him and leave him cuz he doesnt care.string your ex along to emotionally support you to your next endevour.you seem like a nice girl.you WILL find someone.just go about your life.you want to date a freind. part 1
im a firm believer in cutting your losses. i say move forward, dont move backward. you broke up with the ex for a reason, if it happens once it will happen again. i say if a guy isnt chasing you, hes not worth it. flirt, have fun, be confident, and dont chase guys who arent interested. just let things happen for themselves.
Um.. Okay, it is an attraction, and you fantasize about this person. you fantasize about having a perfect life. Sure, your intuitions might be right, but if you genuinely got to know the guy for who he is, maybe you might consider twice about wedding him. Was it the physical attraction that drew you in? Of did you overheard some of his conversations that sparked your interest and fascination. Most girls have this misconception and this perfect walt disney dream of a perfect life.
You know... I have the same problem. It is kinda scary, I've known him less then a month, have hardly talked to him, he is not really into relationships and I like him way to much.
I find it hard to believe you are single me lady, you are very cute and I dont know you but from watching that video I think you probably take relationships way to seriously
do you actually love your ex bf or are you just used to him and fear change? believe me exes are exes for a reason, they didnt make it to ur present so they do not deserve your future...as for this guy crush thing it may be love at first sight...
however, it be unrequited OR he just has not "seen" you yet...cant really tell you which direction to go because human behavior is quite unpredictable but i will say that figuring things out for yourself is one of the greatest freedoms a human being can ever have
Take a Chance... Make a New Start... You never know what will happen... Its a path.. Who knows where it leads... If he's not The ONE then that path will surly lead you to The ONE.
I don't know if my comment is too late but...I would forget the ex-boyfriend...don't force yourself into something that is not a good fit. The new guy I would approach him, talk to him, and if you have to invite him out to a public place and spend some time together...relax and be yourself. If it does not work out and he does not click with you..you at least tried! I do not understand the messenger thing...if it is on Youtube I can't find where I can have that instant messenger.
If you think your relationship stands a reasonable chance then it's not too late to take a deep breath and throw yourself into it with everything you've got.
He might already be spoken for and not want to encourage your interest as he doesn't want to build your hopes up.Step back and don't pressurise him,if something is gonna connect between you let it happen naturally.Hope it helps but it is only my opinion after all!
hello there cupcake! personally i would just tell him the truth of things... then again.. i may just be as oblicvious as he is... idk... but i loffs u!!!
The reason you can probably have more fun with your ex now that you aren't dating is because relationships cause pressure, especially if they get serious. People tend to change personality under pressure and things that don't normally bother them irritate them to know ends.
Also, not trying to be an ass, but this made me laugh.
"If you play hard to get he'll forget you exist."
find someone who you will love and loves you ... i know its not that simple :) ... but wtf .. drooling for someone whom you can't understand is hard as well :|
a complicated boy? wtf is going on with the world today? as a boy, nay, AS A MAN, i feel it is my duty to inform you that if you've only just met this guy and seen yourself marrying him, then you've been struck more with infatuation than anything else and those feelings would dissipate sooner or later. Unless this guy is me which IM PRETTY SURE IT IS i say move on for now because if you like him that much, you'll still like him later and who knows what could peak him interest down the line
Do not go back to your ex, bad idea. This is advice from my mom, hehe, she said "never be with someone just because you are afraid to be alone." I think we've all been there, or at least will be someday.
Girls have things different from men, but you can still fuck things up too. But just be "light", don't get into feelings, ask him out casually and make sure you have a fun time. Give him some signs, the kiss me eyes work, yes we know what those are. good luck
If this guy is as much in his own world as you say he is, then he seems to be someone who is somewhat narcissistic. (I can use big words too.) I think being the type of guy he is, he really is looking out for number 1. A relationship needs and thrives off 2 people. You can't be the only one doing all the work. I've had 1 girl I've ever thought about marrying. Today, my friends now consider her & I to be enemies. I say be content with friendship, because I think that's all this guy can handle.
From what I've learned about him, he's rather in his own world because of past hurt and I suppose he doesn't quite know how to move on. Either way, though, you're right.
Personally I think you should just be honest and while talking to him say, "You know, I've realized resently that I'm actually attracted to you." See how he responds. Or be silly and say, "Have I told you you're damn sexy?" then add a wink wink and smile. Let him know because he may just be oblivious to all things.
I have spoken with one of our mutual friends who's known him for 4 years, and she highly dissuaded me from going this route. Apparently such a blatant expression of my feelings for him would freak him out and he'd never speak to me again.
He probaly doesn't notice most people around him, let alone lovely/humorous/wonderful personality females who are interested in him. He will NEVER 'woo' you, and don't waste your time on him. Again, he is in another world...so, get into his world. Recon from friends, find out his major interests, STUDY...then casually bring up, almost in the sense of talking to yourself but let him hear. His mind will add you to his world...and then, he will react to you. ... *WAVE* Ok, i have to goto work...
Eggstencilist? ... Like, he draws humpty dumpty? *snickers* My opinion... You are too smart. And most guys are dumb. Your brain processes things at levels that most can't pick up/understand. Reason you fought with your ex...he wasn't at 'your level'. As for the new guy, to be an existentialist you have to be very smart or very lazy. Think of him, make sure it's the former instead of the latter as your DNA is too precious to loose to a 'scrub'. He is probaly so much in his own world that...
in my experience having an over-infatuation with a guy you just met always makes it harder to interact with him, and if something romantic does start, you might end up being too emotionally attached too fast. it's fail-fail. back off, get over both of them, and let it unfold as it will.
outfitmadeofawesome 2 months ago
no you dumb bitch only some are complicated. and some girls are stupid dumb and complicated. ya you prob started the asrguements like girls usualy do. then blame the men for their dumb retarded ass.
tonymonopoly11 5 months ago
girls like a challenge, maybe he knows that...
uchiha420 6 months ago
Ok forgrt about the ex because the reason yall fought was because yall were at the end of your bridge. You need to tell the new guy how you feel upfront.
gDASHman7272 7 months ago
Hiya Scarlet, why don't you try playing the field a bit get out and date around more there are plenty of wonderful people out there, and try not to obsess over this guy
if you keep going after him and he shows no interest he is probably going to stop wanting to talk to you, your still young your going to meet so many people you like you have to be patient, the right guy will come along,just go out and enjoy yourself and enjoy life, go out and have fun .
TheNatureguy01 1 year ago
stop your wining and suck it up brittany. dont go near him cause your constant insecure rambling with make him vomit.
BOULDERDP 1 year ago
you have veary eyes hun :)
GABBYISBOMB101 1 year ago
Find someone els.
Isaacsac4 1 year ago
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Sit on his dick.
nlarscheid09 1 year ago
Youre in love with being in love and its much easier to be in love with someone we dont know.
FrozenEMT 2 years ago
well i think your really really beautiful no matter what they say .......
FxNitr0 2 years ago
@FxNitr0 STFU
tonymonopoly11 5 months ago
great honesty
heinkle1 2 years ago
the dating of someone you were frineds with at least you enjoy the company.hope it continues after the phsyical part starts.you know what i mean."doesnt like relationships" he says...what a prick.sorry nikki you dont need that.your adorable,smart and nice.you know what is right to do.anyway...yeah..unfortunatly dating sucks.i went from stripper wife to cop gf and STILL had problems.its an issue of humanity being mostly twisted...very very annoying.you deseve someone good.
thedigitalcollective 2 years ago
he sounds like problems to me.i mean you need to be happy.dont know where things are now but yo,nikki,seriously .give up on both.find a new one.not saying anything bad about either but i can relate and ill say this.dont take it wrong please.if you like the new guy sleep with him and leave him cuz he doesnt care.string your ex along to emotionally support you to your next endevour.you seem like a nice girl.you WILL find someone.just go about your life.you want to date a freind. part 1
thedigitalcollective 2 years ago
im a firm believer in cutting your losses. i say move forward, dont move backward. you broke up with the ex for a reason, if it happens once it will happen again. i say if a guy isnt chasing you, hes not worth it. flirt, have fun, be confident, and dont chase guys who arent interested. just let things happen for themselves.
Emmerbug143 2 years ago
i think it's just the game. wanting something you can't have is the attraction.
jaciemack 2 years ago
your so pretty :)
liiiilrappaOxx 2 years ago
Aw, thank you. :D
ScarletSkies 2 years ago
your not even fat btw.
liiiilrappaOxx 2 years ago
<3 :]
ScarletSkies 2 years ago
i know what you meann...
im there...
with my ex bf tho..
mwells92 3 years ago
Um.. Okay, it is an attraction, and you fantasize about this person. you fantasize about having a perfect life. Sure, your intuitions might be right, but if you genuinely got to know the guy for who he is, maybe you might consider twice about wedding him. Was it the physical attraction that drew you in? Of did you overheard some of his conversations that sparked your interest and fascination. Most girls have this misconception and this perfect walt disney dream of a perfect life.
lbolting 3 years ago
ummm.... are you at work?!
lmao!!
xxxno1caresxxx 3 years ago
Haha, no. That was my dorm room!
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
You know... I have the same problem. It is kinda scary, I've known him less then a month, have hardly talked to him, he is not really into relationships and I like him way to much.
AriaDragonfly 3 years ago
You are braver than I am, telling this to the world. Why am I still single? I am way too innocent for my own good. :P
HaleyMary 3 years ago
Being innocent isn't a bad thing!
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
You are braver than I am posting your insecurities to the world. I tend to just hide on the internet pretending to be cool and handsome.
Hirophant0 3 years ago
You mean you're not cool and handsome? Aw.
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
heh, yeah not so much.
Hirophant0 3 years ago
I find it hard to believe you are single me lady, you are very cute and I dont know you but from watching that video I think you probably take relationships way to seriously
billybobobaba 3 years ago
You'd be correct.
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
i know exactly wat your going through and wish more girls thought like you on the hard to get thing. good luck on your decisions
dirtmod83 3 years ago
do you actually love your ex bf or are you just used to him and fear change? believe me exes are exes for a reason, they didnt make it to ur present so they do not deserve your future...as for this guy crush thing it may be love at first sight...
thephonescaresme 3 years ago
however, it be unrequited OR he just has not "seen" you yet...cant really tell you which direction to go because human behavior is quite unpredictable but i will say that figuring things out for yourself is one of the greatest freedoms a human being can ever have
thephonescaresme 3 years ago
leave him alone - walk away
fixthejam 3 years ago
Take a Chance... Make a New Start... You never know what will happen... Its a path.. Who knows where it leads... If he's not The ONE then that path will surly lead you to The ONE.
ThrasherArt 3 years ago
I don't know if my comment is too late but...I would forget the ex-boyfriend...don't force yourself into something that is not a good fit. The new guy I would approach him, talk to him, and if you have to invite him out to a public place and spend some time together...relax and be yourself. If it does not work out and he does not click with you..you at least tried! I do not understand the messenger thing...if it is on Youtube I can't find where I can have that instant messenger.
LadyTressa 3 years ago
If you think your relationship stands a reasonable chance then it's not too late to take a deep breath and throw yourself into it with everything you've got.
GlassCurtain 3 years ago
As to why you have feelings without real reasons. It's called pharamones. After 5 years the receptors in your brain start to block them.
Why not just learn how to get along?
James92802 3 years ago
He might already be spoken for and not want to encourage your interest as he doesn't want to build your hopes up.Step back and don't pressurise him,if something is gonna connect between you let it happen naturally.Hope it helps but it is only my opinion after all!
philipsmovies 3 years ago
yeah I'm the queen of irrational infatuations :)
tonjesml 3 years ago
They're fun, right? lol.
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
Good. If he was chasing you you wouldn't like him at all. Break.
fixthejam 3 years ago
"IF" you like to sleep with stranger;
I will take you up on it since you are so beautiful.....
you are a great and wonderful person from what i have seen!
RantingGuru 3 years ago
hello there cupcake! personally i would just tell him the truth of things... then again.. i may just be as oblicvious as he is... idk... but i loffs u!!!
savagegnome10 3 years ago
find someone else all together and have fun !
onthegoodshiplollie 3 years ago
This...is a FABULOUS idea!
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
what was that SN again? for I am a simpleton and r vury dum. scarletskies_ytmnd?
Samuraimatt423 3 years ago
That is it exactly.
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
Thug him, Fuck him, love him, leave him, cause you don't fucking need him!
Samuraimatt423 3 years ago
The only advice my adviceless self can give.
The reason you can probably have more fun with your ex now that you aren't dating is because relationships cause pressure, especially if they get serious. People tend to change personality under pressure and things that don't normally bother them irritate them to know ends.
Also, not trying to be an ass, but this made me laugh.
"If you play hard to get he'll forget you exist."
bladedude101 3 years ago
You are very correct, sir. There is a lot less pressure now.
Glad you laughed. :]
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
find someone who you will love and loves you ... i know its not that simple :) ... but wtf .. drooling for someone whom you can't understand is hard as well :|
VanillaVendetta 3 years ago
Maybe I like the challenge!
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
tempting :> ....
VanillaVendetta 3 years ago
a complicated boy? wtf is going on with the world today? as a boy, nay, AS A MAN, i feel it is my duty to inform you that if you've only just met this guy and seen yourself marrying him, then you've been struck more with infatuation than anything else and those feelings would dissipate sooner or later. Unless this guy is me which IM PRETTY SURE IT IS i say move on for now because if you like him that much, you'll still like him later and who knows what could peak him interest down the line
thetoeMas 3 years ago
Oh, it's always you. Too bad you're taken already!
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
what can i say? im in high demand haha
thetoeMas 3 years ago
Haha, oh I know it.
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
Do not go back to your ex, bad idea. This is advice from my mom, hehe, she said "never be with someone just because you are afraid to be alone." I think we've all been there, or at least will be someday.
Girls have things different from men, but you can still fuck things up too. But just be "light", don't get into feelings, ask him out casually and make sure you have a fun time. Give him some signs, the kiss me eyes work, yes we know what those are. good luck
osiris2669 3 years ago
The 'kiss me' eyes, eh? I'll have to test my ability at doing such a thing.
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
If this guy is as much in his own world as you say he is, then he seems to be someone who is somewhat narcissistic. (I can use big words too.) I think being the type of guy he is, he really is looking out for number 1. A relationship needs and thrives off 2 people. You can't be the only one doing all the work. I've had 1 girl I've ever thought about marrying. Today, my friends now consider her & I to be enemies. I say be content with friendship, because I think that's all this guy can handle.
allennet1 3 years ago
From what I've learned about him, he's rather in his own world because of past hurt and I suppose he doesn't quite know how to move on. Either way, though, you're right.
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
Personally I think you should just be honest and while talking to him say, "You know, I've realized resently that I'm actually attracted to you." See how he responds. Or be silly and say, "Have I told you you're damn sexy?" then add a wink wink and smile. Let him know because he may just be oblivious to all things.
loadervideos 3 years ago
I have spoken with one of our mutual friends who's known him for 4 years, and she highly dissuaded me from going this route. Apparently such a blatant expression of my feelings for him would freak him out and he'd never speak to me again.
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
He probaly doesn't notice most people around him, let alone lovely/humorous/wonderful personality females who are interested in him. He will NEVER 'woo' you, and don't waste your time on him. Again, he is in another world...so, get into his world. Recon from friends, find out his major interests, STUDY...then casually bring up, almost in the sense of talking to yourself but let him hear. His mind will add you to his world...and then, he will react to you. ... *WAVE* Ok, i have to goto work...
nrfbtoystore 3 years ago
Oh yeah, he is definitely a smarty pants. This is actually really sage advice and I will probably take it. :] Thanks for the input!
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
Sage? I always thought of myself more garlicy... *wink*
nrfbtoystore 3 years ago
Oh psh. PSH!
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
Eggstencilist? ... Like, he draws humpty dumpty? *snickers* My opinion... You are too smart. And most guys are dumb. Your brain processes things at levels that most can't pick up/understand. Reason you fought with your ex...he wasn't at 'your level'. As for the new guy, to be an existentialist you have to be very smart or very lazy. Think of him, make sure it's the former instead of the latter as your DNA is too precious to loose to a 'scrub'. He is probaly so much in his own world that...
nrfbtoystore 3 years ago