Child Abuse Survivors

[redpillow100]

at 25 yers old, i started getting inappropiate thought and feelings toward, basically everyone around me, now 9 years later and after 9 months of counsilling, i 've come to conclude what i was/do experience is an antisipation that something sexual will happen between me and the other person. sexual attraction never played any part, but the feeling were so strong they showed and i got labeled. i was about 4 or 5 when it happened to me. i thought what happened was normal, because no one reacted.

[ElunedLOTR]

@rainslave I am appalled to hear this - and any story of abuse. Part of us is frozen as if in amber at that time in our lives, but if we allow these people control of what we become, they have triumphed. You have done something here by posting this Rainslave.

It was my sister too, who told my mother, I had blocked it out, but it was a visceral memory, which made me shake to my bones if I was around men.

Hugs you.

[ALISONxxxxxx]

Thank you for sharing your story. It makes me feel less alone and less "crazy". You're very brave.

[ElunedLOTR]

@ALISONxxxxxx

We are definitely not alone.

Hugs

[FooChild]

is it normal to get body memories? my councellor said i get them but i dont know if its normal do other people who get abused get them too.

[ElunedLOTR]

I would say it is not unusual - nothing is when it comes to *remembering* abuse - the mind reacts in many different ways.

[littletanbear]

I have suffered from child abuse, I have went through emotional roller coaster, depression, anger, withdrawn, social phobia, my mom did not even know about it or my family, it started when I was 5.

What helped me overcome it is to decide that I need to live a normal life. YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL AND BRAVE. THanks for sharing.

[BRIGSTOCK]

You are a very brave, dignified, beautiful lady.

[ElunedLOTR]

There are many of us out there, I have come to realize.

Sorry for the delay! I get *no* notifications from YouTube on comments for some reason.

Thank-you.

[sufyaanravat1]

how do i get over this? It has been over 17 years since it happen to me.

[ElunedLOTR]

I don't think we get over it,we somehow live with it. I'm thinking of some-one I know through writing who is so brilliant and successful and confident I was totally floored when she said she was an abuse survivor. She said we " Won't let them win. " by refusing to live our lives as victims, as failures, as fearful people. I think that is some of the best advice I have heard. Feel free to message me if you want, as these comments have little space.

[thesmiths1013]

I can relate, I too was abused as a child

[ElunedLOTR]

I am so sorry, I think the abusers never have to suffer for their actions even their conscience apears to give them no trouble

[04004318123456789]

i always wonder if my abuser was awear of what he was doing when he was doing it.

[mrcan70]

Thank you so much for this video, I am also a survivor and this video helps. I was not only abused sexually, by a few different people, but I was also abused physically and emotionally. I still have no real idea to what extent it has impacked my life, but I go on from day to day. Thanks again.

[ElunedLOTR]

Mrcan70, that is truly dreadful :( we survive, but as you say, we know that it impacts on us forever, and often we never know the extent.

[ElunedLOTR]

You are welcome, Tyndarius, and I am very glad that you have been able to confront it and that you are living your life, I think in that way, the abusers have not triumphed

[tyndarius]

I was a very outspoken and confident and very happy go lucky as a child and then after my child abuse I became very anxious and shy and introverted. Ive just recently come to terms with it and can move on. Thanks for this!

[lanakb]

That is so true about not discussing it if your not ready; It has taken me many years to get to the stage where I am ready to discuss past events of my life.

You are a brave and watching your honesty gives me alot of hope; it is comforting to know there are people out there that know how I am feeling to some extent.

[ElunedLOTR]

I am so sorry Lana. I think if it is always a taboo subject then it will continue to go on and we will always be the victims.

Husg,

Sian

[lanakb]

Oh I agree, the more people that are open with it the more they can heal - aswell as helping others realize that they do not need to suffer in silence.

I myself have been abused 3 times and only my husband knows of every event. But just being able to share with someone was extremely relieving for the soul.

[ElunedLOTR]

One time is too much Lana. It's so great to see you with your little one, she's such a darling!

I think I did not have children since I was worried they might go through the same thing. I think it can be good to talk, not necessarily to go into every detail, but just say " I'm here, I survived, no-one is alone. "

It feels like you are at the time, though.