Every family is different. Every culture has their own ways. It's really only abuse if you spank a child out of your own frustration. Spanking a child for their wrong doing is okay if you know they understand what they did wrong.
"Pay extra attention to mowing that grass. I want the whole are to be even. If you don't do it properly, there will be no supper for you, understand?" Just for NOT MOWING THE LAWN RIGHT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? If those two parents moved to America and did that, they would spend the rest of their LIVES in jail, which is where they should be.
There's a point where too much is too much, however I do not mind spanking- I was punished with spanks as a child...but to really close your kids off from their social life is not okay, but school does come first.
"I pile up the mistakes and then one day decide to hit them for everything they've done wrong". well maybe if you respectfully asked or told them they'd learn
Treat them with the respect you want to be treated with. I remember fixing a computer for my friend. I was at his house trying to sort out the wireless and one of his kids wandered in to see what we were doing. He told the child to "go away" in those exact words. No please, nothing, just go away! He later complained that his children often misbehave. Gee I wonder why?! My parents would never have treated me like that.
people not every child is an angel -.- sometimes the only way to make them listen is by spanking them. your children r probably snobby and disrespectful smhh
Spanking is usually needed to keep kids in line, teach them right and wrong and obedience for their parents. It should be enough to hurt, but not enough to injure. Better that they are spanked a few times when young than sent to jail when they're older.
It's ok to spank that ass now and then when your kid are acting bad or disrespectful, but these parents here are a little CRAZY. You should talk to your kids and give them warnings, FIRST! If they don't listen after that, then that's a green light to tap that ass! I"m also sick of you people saying Westerners don't spank or discipline their kid? I'm a Black Americans and ass whippings, where and still is, a common occurrence in the community.
Children do NOT need to be spanked, they need to be disciplined. That man obviously doesn't like children "I do not like the behavior of children in general"?? Really?!
I completely agree this form of teaching, but many people need to find a barrier they have can't pass! I don't believe in spanking your child because he has problems in understanding how to do something, or something accidental, like breaking a plate.
I think they are just using the word "hit" but they really mean "spank"...
People think cause they say the word "hit" or "Beat" they mean to abuse and leave black eyes and welts on their body.. that's not it at all.. Some cultures say "BEAT or HIT, but all responisible parents means "spanking on the buttocks"..
These people aren't stupid they are right... just different talk than us..
-i am a zambian -if its fine for the western world not to discipline your children -then thats fine for you according to your belief and your culture.as a modern zambian woman and parent-i believe that children should be disciplined!do not condemn a culture you do not understand just because it is different from wat u perceive as normal-such prejudice is at the root of all forms of hate!this is how we raise our children -u dont like it?!thats your own problem!
Hey, you know why those parents put emphasis on treating elderly respectfully so much? Because they don't want to be paid in the same coin of violence, when their children will be grown up and strong, and them - the parents - will be elderly and dependent.
There is a difference between spanking and beating. in my opinion, all of the examples you listed constitute abuse. When I was growing up, we got 1 to 3 swats with a hand on the bottom when we did something wrong, and none of us grew up traumatized or fearful of our parents. Spanking should never be used to harm a child, merely as a "tool" to let them know when they've done wrong. If you try explaining to a 4 year old what inappropriate behavior is, you really think that (continued...)
(continued...) they will care OR understand? No. Small children are not intelligent enough to understand "this behavior is inappropriate, I'm asking you to stop." All they care about is that they are not getting their way. As a parent of 2 kids (1 and 8 years old) I have spanked (my oldest) and she responds, I give her 3 swats, then sit her down and tell her why she got spanked, tell her what she did was wrong, that I love her and not to do it anymore. It all depends on how it is delivered.
@PahoranGirl516 That makes a difference of course but it´s still wrong to me. I always got told that violence doesn´t solve anything and it´s right. I believe in this! I wouldn´t understand it, if my parents hit me. Yes, I wasn´t a good child and my parents had alot of trouble with me. But they never really "punished" me for something. I think that whole "You deserved it" is manipulation. I think hitting a child on purpose is wrong and pointless but actually injuring it is cruel
I have to disagree, this generation is allowed to get away with everything because too many parents think that they can simply "talk" to their kids. If you tell a 4 year old they're being bad, they don't know or care about what you're saying, all they know is that they're not getting their way with you. And pre teens, 10 and 12 year olds these days NEED a good spanking and to be put in their place. Talking doesn't solve everything, and spanking is a warning, not an abusive act, in my opinion.
@PahoranGirl516 No they don´t. And the reason that children become bad or criminal or whatever is because their parents didn´t care for them enough. How can so many children in my country grow up to be good people, although they weren´t spanked? And it´s even scientifically proven that hitting a child can interfere their development. I´m not lying. There must be a reason it´s forbidden in so many countrys. And there is a thin line between spanking and abuse(like in the video)
I agree that there is a fine line there, and spanking is not abuse, if done right. I was spanked as a child and I didn't grow up fearful of my parents, or criminal. My parents spanked us either with a hand or with a wooden spoon, just 3-spanks maximum on the behind and then they explained to us why what we did was wrong. The hits never left marks and were meant to get our attention, not to harm us. And yes, this generation DOES need it, they are rude, mouthy and given too much leeway.
@PahoranGirl516 Okay I agree I wouldn´t consider THIS as abuse. But it still seems wrong to me to hit a child and then tell them how bad violence is. I used to think that everything my parents did was right. But that´s just wrong. Just because you grew up with spanking doesn´t mean it´s a panacea. Sure, beeing a parent is hard enough but no one expects something else.
@Schatteneidechse I just think that is wrong and feeble of people to think that they should have to reason with their kids. They aren't contributors to the home, they aren't intelligent enough to be their own "boss"/decide what's right and what's wrong, and if they aren't listening to you, its only because the parent hasn't done a good enough job enforcing boundaries. Sometimes a little spank is the only thing you can do, especially for kids who like to push the limits.
I was not an easy child and my parents were really patient with me. I´m thankful for that! I was never hit on purpose and neither spanked. I know that my parents love me(my mum at least) and I think before I do something that could hurt them. I don´t want to be traited with violence and unfairness and neither I do. I´m not scared of my parents. I love them and we are very close. I think most problems are because parents neglect their children, don´t give them enough love etc.
Thinking the only way to get children to listen is violence is retarded. Their are like 5 different nanny shows that never use violence and all the kids turn out perfect. I was never hit, and I was still respectful and a good kid. Are we really going to take parenting advice from people living in a third world country in a clay house?
And Talking donsnt work Teen for example you see them going round smoking doo you think talking would make them stop No! you have to take power and not abuse but spank them.
Now days children are starting to smoke and drink but then in the old days they didnt because they knew the consequences me as a child i would prefer to be spanked but i know they difference between spanking and abusing thats where people need to get that you do not abuse ANYONE!.
ok seriously i hate u people!!!u think this is right?oohhhhhhhh im these bitches i enjoy hitting my children and giving them pain it feels soooo goood yaaa!!well this is a message to everybody that spanks their children!!!four words for you:burn in fucking hell!!cunts
Any hit against a child is hitting humanity, I am proud to live in a country that has learned his lessons from the past (in contrast to some barbaric US-states) and banned corporal punishment by laws and constitution since years, at school as well as at home.
how about you talk to them deeply about why what they did was wrong, and if the kids still go on, then punish them differently, in a way of like black mail, like now you don't get this or now you can't do that, stuff that like. violence isn't good,
Sounds like good old American parenting from the 40's and 50's... try smarting off to any adult back then and you'd be counting your teeth as you picked them up. I think that the US would be a better country now if we'd not changed!
@angurisloud German parents don't spank and we have waaaaay less criminal teens and kids then the US ;) So does Sweden for example, so think about your words.
lmfao I feel so bad because when he says when they beg for me to stop I go faster Im like no way dude you are probably setting these kids up for a life of violence hes nuts
This is so disturbing to me as i remember i was being beaten everyday by my fucking mother until today this thoughts never gone away i have to seek for medication to be able to sleep and to live normal am mad in my head i was really abused i had to run away and prostitute my self to never go back in that horror show now i live in germany with my son and i love him to death till now i never understand such people i pray she has a very painfull death
My parents stopped spanking because they realized it pissed me off and made me do more bad things etc. So now they dint and we have waaaay less problems!
@TheLameJosh Like you said you were spanked. Had they beat your ass like this father does. You would either stop being pissed and live in fear of doing anything wrong or you'd be beat to nearly to death. Either way, you wouldn't be pissed.
@jemel2hodge1 Well, if you read my exhaustive comment below, you would know that it may well be a problem of grammar. For example 'child' has neutral grammatical gender in Russian and Polish, and so in those languages children are refered to logically as it (cars and houses are masculine and therefore 'he/him'. Grammar my friend. That's the key word. Another is semantics. And yet another is 'translation' (or rather 'poor translation - as most translations usually turn out to be).
A lot of people here are upset about the vocabulary used in this interview: beating, begging and 'it' instead of 'he/.she' etc. Remember: what you are reading is a TRANSLATION of old guy’s words. Translations can be good but are often poor. In many languages there is no difference between 'hit' or 'beat'. They’re covered by one word. In others 'beat' is less sever than 'hit'. It's a question of semantics and translation. I'm sure this man doesn't beat up on his kids or punch them senseless.
Those viewers who keep passing judgement should cool down, look at it from another of the many possible perspectives and GROW UP. Cultures, like languages, are different and not every parent who employs corporal punishment necessarily hates or abuses his kids.
As for the part about 'I don't like the behaviour of kids in general' - see may first comment on semantics. Perhaps he was really commenting on specific aspects such as lying, truancy or being cheeky to elders. What seems like a sweeping statement to us may, in the original, in fact be a very precise or culture/situation specific statement. Few watching this understand the langauge spoken why are they are so quick to dismiss and to judge. Ignorance is the highest form of arrogance it seems.
well, i can understand spanking, however if a child does a minor thing wrong like the boy was cutting his grass and the father threatend that there would be no supper for him, thats just weird and wrong but hey, those are his kids.....
and the mom looked like she was NAGGING her son to go to school,.. if he doesnt go then thats when the punishment should occur, but dont follow him out the damn door adn embarass him xD
These people know how to raise some kids. They are gonna grow up to be very responsible adults in the future and probably move to America teach all y'all pussies how to raise y'alls kids.
@Quack808 They are going to have problems because abuse always has a pernicious effect. Did you know that all criminals were mistreated as children? I fear not, because you seem to be a fool. I really hope you are sterile.
@hinatah89 Who told you that straight up lie? I was beat when I was small and I obviously turned out better than you in understanding how discipline works. Everybody needs to beat their kids. Thats the only way to make them act right when they're grown.
@Quack808 It is very clear to me the damage those beatings has caused in you. I really hope that one day you got one of those spanking you like to be dished out so quickly on children.
@Quack808 Well even if you ignore the long term psychological damage those children will have, you have to see they are so controlled they won't know how to use theirs own minds to make decisions or to have a relationship as they havent been shown love and respect only anger and rage. will they think they can treat people that way when they are older, probablybecause how would they know how to show anyone kindness and respect. its a terrible way to raise children and is abusive on so many levels
@felicia1980star People ain't about shit in the first place. I'm sure we all tell our kids to trust nobody. To control anger and rage is to stop spanking them when they look grown or starting to look grown, because theres nobody to spank them when they leave the house and mess up, but when you stop spanking them you have to find a substitute like going to church or just yelling.
@felicia1980star: And guess what? To see the truth, all you need to do is look around. Non-beaten, and hell, even non-spanked kids who grow up in stable and loving families hardly ever get in trouble for the most part. Most abused kids, and even a few of the spanked ones, on the other hand{although most of the latter usually have other underlying issues, related or not.}.........well, here's a study you might want to look at:
people may think its bad but I bet those kids do not disrespect adults like they do in western culture.People are made differently some more harsh then others and we cannot expect the entire world to be like us because we think its right when they think they are right as well...We need to mind our fucking business and let people live the way they see fit
Omg did he really just call his kids "it" ? smh and if you dont like "the behavior of children" then why even have kids?? its sadd to see how proud he is of hitting his kids
They aren't talking about spanking their kids, they're talking about BEATING them. A spanking and a beating are two totally different things. Using an open hand to spank your child's hand, bottom, whatever, versus using a closed fist is no contest. And, they talk about respect, but refer to their children as "its". Wtf?
@cutemidget09 lol i laughed my ass off when i heard "it" wtf. and he said he doesnt like the behavior of children in general. DAMN. im too americanized to be a teenager over there. id get the shit beat out of me right away for my strong will.
Beating your children is essential!! listen to the words of that man he knows wtf he is talking about and this goes to all countries no matter where u come from u SPOIL your children they will grow up to be piece of shits that have no respect for anyone. remind u of anywhere? cough cough america! dont believe me ask your kids teachers about spoiled children.
"I dont like the behavior of children in general";maybe you should'nt have had any to begin with. "Until "it" stops crying"? 4:45-If you lived here,honey,you'd go to jail. 5:15-I'm sure they'll look after you as well as you've looked after them. I've said it before,and will again;it should be a requirement for anyone who wants to be come a parent,to take parenting classes before hand,especially in countries like this.
@HUSKY57887 Just respect people's culture ! If they want a certain level of respect from their children and you don't want a same level of respect : what makes your level right!!!! These time out parents kill me!!!!!
@HUSKY57887 yeah u have absolutley NO idea what the fuck you are talking about. My parents beat the living shit out of me as a child and i still love them today. Not everyone is a Piece of shit like yourself. because it sounds like your speaking from your own experiences.
One thing parents fail to realise is that when they beat a child like that, they leave a hole in the heart of a child that creates fear which brings about distance between the parent and the child. So in other words the child will not respect you but fear you and then a time comes when they grow up and find their voice, then they will remind you of how you mistreated them. I`m a case of such......
@Detky You are a pansy. I took my beatings when I was a child. I am a grown man and my parents respect me and treat me like an adult, because I have earned it through experience and learning. I love my parents for making me who I am today. You should too! stop being a foolish Pussy.
@Marlboro391: "I love my parents for making me who I am today." Like this?
"Sorry White man, but the jew has taken over............Little by little this country will fall and crumble and the jew will prosper at the expense of all other races..........."
I happened to find this little comment while I was browsing your profile. If that's what your parents were like then they should've been castrated so they couldn't spawn losers such as yourself.
@Detky: Not from an abusive family myself, but definitely from a dysfunctional one.............I have enough issues to deal with myself{sorry you had to suffer, btw}. =(
beating their kids until they stop crying, not giving kids supper for not mowing the lawn correctly, beating them really hard for the mistakes they did that week; man, i can not wait until there is a law banning this crap for the whole world. that is not disapline beating, that is abusing and beating the crap out of their own children. i hate parents like that.
i like that shit :D :''i raise children the way my parents did'' lol and lok where have you got yourself... a farm dude with animal traditions :D hahahaha omg some people are just plain retarded, and most of those ''parents'' think wrong if thay think its al about how you raie your kid, kid is a person himslef he makes decisions, and makes his life, you just give life and show the basic patterns, thats it! :D hahahaah idiots!
"I won't be here to watch over them forever". Really, that's the only thing they have to look forward to in their lives. I hope he dies soon, for their sake
@drgregsgurl Please. I bet these children are more well-behaved than most American children! Children NEED to be spanked. This is the problem with all the delinquent American children nowadays, the parents chose not to spank them anymore! I got spanked and I respected and had a healthy fear of my parents and of authority in general.
@hardyharlol701 u think spanking is good?????really?cause this is a FACT!ok all spanking does is make ur children hate you!my parents dont spank me cause they know that if they do ill him them back twice as hard to show them how bad it hurts!my best bro is the same way matter of fact the second time my parents spanked me they said forget this shit cause they know how i am spanking is abuse and shit!the proper punishment is getting grounded!why the FUCK would u respect someone who just beat you??
@hardyharlol701 u think spanking is good?????really?cause this is a FACT!ok all spanking does is make ur children hate you!my parents dont spank me cause they know that if they do ill him them back twice as hard to show them how bad it hurts!my best bro is the same way matter of fact the second time my parents spanked me they said forget this shit cause they know how i am spanking is abuse and shit!the proper punishment is getting grounded!why the FUCK would u respect someone who just beat you?
@hardyharlol701 Children need to be raised by parents who give a shit. Hitting someone isn't a magical answer to problems. If it were, then I would smack the shit out of you to make my point. But that would be silly wouldn't it?
@hardyharlol701 you can raise you kids to be sussecful without spanking them me and my bros were never spanked and i think were doing pretty good,same with my son i dont hit him because im not that type of guy and never will
@hardyharlol701 Research from all over the world shows that children who are abused at a young age are more likely to repeat the aggression and violence directed towards them as they get older. You don't beat children out of love, you beat them out of frustration, and then try to justify it. It's not okay to beat women, but the same arguments used in defense of wife beating are still used against beating even more defenseless children. Children are human beings just like grown-ups.
@hardyharlol701 Spanking is a euphemism for hitting. If you saw a man at a grocery store suddenly grab his wife turn her over and start forcefully 'spanking' her against her will, what would you call it? Why are children not deserving of the same human value as grown women considering grown-ups are so much bigger than children who are even more defenseless? Are children less human and thus deserving of less rights? Hitting children is not out of love, it is out of frustration. It's a quick fix.
@hardyharlol701 Yes, and what would you say if you saw a man turn bend his wife over and start forcibly 'spanking' her? It's a barbaric system of child rearing, even if it doesn't leave a mark or scar on the outside, doesn't meant it wont on the inside. It is a statistical fact that children who do not grow up with 'spanking' or any other euphemistic for hitting, are more likely to be successful in life and not spank their children. 94% of black US mothers spank, yet it doesn't show improvement.
Every family is different. Every culture has their own ways. It's really only abuse if you spank a child out of your own frustration. Spanking a child for their wrong doing is okay if you know they understand what they did wrong.
Masaki4everDead 2 days ago
*area*
necelticsox 3 days ago
"Pay extra attention to mowing that grass. I want the whole are to be even. If you don't do it properly, there will be no supper for you, understand?" Just for NOT MOWING THE LAWN RIGHT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? If those two parents moved to America and did that, they would spend the rest of their LIVES in jail, which is where they should be.
necelticsox 3 days ago
There's a point where too much is too much, however I do not mind spanking- I was punished with spanks as a child...but to really close your kids off from their social life is not okay, but school does come first.
MsAsianNinja 1 week ago
"I pile up the mistakes and then one day decide to hit them for everything they've done wrong". well maybe if you respectfully asked or told them they'd learn
MsCutebrowneyedgirl 2 weeks ago
Hitting is proven to be INEFFECTIVE. Use your words. Hitting just scares them and doesn't solve anything. Idiots!
MsCutebrowneyedgirl 2 weeks ago
Treat them with the respect you want to be treated with. I remember fixing a computer for my friend. I was at his house trying to sort out the wireless and one of his kids wandered in to see what we were doing. He told the child to "go away" in those exact words. No please, nothing, just go away! He later complained that his children often misbehave. Gee I wonder why?! My parents would never have treated me like that.
mackat4ck 2 weeks ago
they keep referring to the child as "it"
28Lyss 3 weeks ago
sometimes using words is just not enough....beating really works
chihuahuabebi 1 month ago
So when black people discipline their kids, people still have a problem with them? GTFO -_-
KirbyPwnz13 1 month ago
if i were their child. id beat the shit our of THEM
goldenblade212 1 month ago
I don't mind spanking but if your beating them to where the child's tears have stopped and he's just begging there's something wrong with you.
Composedpianomusic 1 month ago
child spankers deserve to neutered. Plus I wouldn't mind if they get spanked and bullied whenever they make mistakes.
teawead 1 month ago
people not every child is an angel -.- sometimes the only way to make them listen is by spanking them. your children r probably snobby and disrespectful smhh
silentswan12 1 month ago
U black man ur very mean and violence I'm glad I'm not ur child I feel sorry for ur kids
zoomglue1994 1 month ago
lol and they say the "tiger mom" was bad....
YukiChinen 1 month ago
if i got a good spanking with the cane on my bare bottom i would enjoy it..,,
CharruaCampeon 1 month ago
Parents shouldn't hit children it's a one way ticket to he'll
StephenKingFanRyan 1 month ago
They call their children "it"
No love
Jammi1299 1 month ago
Spanking is usually needed to keep kids in line, teach them right and wrong and obedience for their parents. It should be enough to hurt, but not enough to injure. Better that they are spanked a few times when young than sent to jail when they're older.
eurasianchica 1 month ago
It's ok to spank that ass now and then when your kid are acting bad or disrespectful, but these parents here are a little CRAZY. You should talk to your kids and give them warnings, FIRST! If they don't listen after that, then that's a green light to tap that ass! I"m also sick of you people saying Westerners don't spank or discipline their kid? I'm a Black Americans and ass whippings, where and still is, a common occurrence in the community.
NORAK69 1 month ago
Children do NOT need to be spanked, they need to be disciplined. That man obviously doesn't like children "I do not like the behavior of children in general"?? Really?!
Nine00 2 months ago
I completely agree this form of teaching, but many people need to find a barrier they have can't pass! I don't believe in spanking your child because he has problems in understanding how to do something, or something accidental, like breaking a plate.
626awesome 2 months ago
I think they are just using the word "hit" but they really mean "spank"...
People think cause they say the word "hit" or "Beat" they mean to abuse and leave black eyes and welts on their body.. that's not it at all.. Some cultures say "BEAT or HIT, but all responisible parents means "spanking on the buttocks"..
These people aren't stupid they are right... just different talk than us..
mddale31 2 months ago
-i am a zambian -if its fine for the western world not to discipline your children -then thats fine for you according to your belief and your culture.as a modern zambian woman and parent-i believe that children should be disciplined!do not condemn a culture you do not understand just because it is different from wat u perceive as normal-such prejudice is at the root of all forms of hate!this is how we raise our children -u dont like it?!thats your own problem!
bwazi24 2 months ago
Video about spanking alternatives:
watch?v=LpIkVWAon6M&feature=feedu
...for those who think it's normal...
marketanarchist2011 2 months ago
Hey, you know why those parents put emphasis on treating elderly respectfully so much? Because they don't want to be paid in the same coin of violence, when their children will be grown up and strong, and them - the parents - will be elderly and dependent.
saldownik 3 months ago
Sadist!
ladybeautiful999 3 months ago
this isnt normal. this is over the top and abusive. fuck yall. 3rd world fucks
DfektRiskProductions 3 months ago
"I don´t like the behavior of children in general" < Why does he even have any?
"I do it really fast so the pain is intense" < That guy is a sadist...
"I hit them with an electricity cable" < WTF O_o
Okay we live in a really fucked up world...Why can´t that be forbidden in the whole world?
Schatteneidechse 3 months ago 6
There is a difference between spanking and beating. in my opinion, all of the examples you listed constitute abuse. When I was growing up, we got 1 to 3 swats with a hand on the bottom when we did something wrong, and none of us grew up traumatized or fearful of our parents. Spanking should never be used to harm a child, merely as a "tool" to let them know when they've done wrong. If you try explaining to a 4 year old what inappropriate behavior is, you really think that (continued...)
PahoranGirl516 1 month ago
(continued...) they will care OR understand? No. Small children are not intelligent enough to understand "this behavior is inappropriate, I'm asking you to stop." All they care about is that they are not getting their way. As a parent of 2 kids (1 and 8 years old) I have spanked (my oldest) and she responds, I give her 3 swats, then sit her down and tell her why she got spanked, tell her what she did was wrong, that I love her and not to do it anymore. It all depends on how it is delivered.
PahoranGirl516 1 month ago
@PahoranGirl516 That makes a difference of course but it´s still wrong to me. I always got told that violence doesn´t solve anything and it´s right. I believe in this! I wouldn´t understand it, if my parents hit me. Yes, I wasn´t a good child and my parents had alot of trouble with me. But they never really "punished" me for something. I think that whole "You deserved it" is manipulation. I think hitting a child on purpose is wrong and pointless but actually injuring it is cruel
Schatteneidechse 1 month ago
I have to disagree, this generation is allowed to get away with everything because too many parents think that they can simply "talk" to their kids. If you tell a 4 year old they're being bad, they don't know or care about what you're saying, all they know is that they're not getting their way with you. And pre teens, 10 and 12 year olds these days NEED a good spanking and to be put in their place. Talking doesn't solve everything, and spanking is a warning, not an abusive act, in my opinion.
PahoranGirl516 1 month ago
@PahoranGirl516 No they don´t. And the reason that children become bad or criminal or whatever is because their parents didn´t care for them enough. How can so many children in my country grow up to be good people, although they weren´t spanked? And it´s even scientifically proven that hitting a child can interfere their development. I´m not lying. There must be a reason it´s forbidden in so many countrys. And there is a thin line between spanking and abuse(like in the video)
Schatteneidechse 1 month ago
I agree that there is a fine line there, and spanking is not abuse, if done right. I was spanked as a child and I didn't grow up fearful of my parents, or criminal. My parents spanked us either with a hand or with a wooden spoon, just 3-spanks maximum on the behind and then they explained to us why what we did was wrong. The hits never left marks and were meant to get our attention, not to harm us. And yes, this generation DOES need it, they are rude, mouthy and given too much leeway.
PahoranGirl516 1 month ago
@PahoranGirl516 Okay I agree I wouldn´t consider THIS as abuse. But it still seems wrong to me to hit a child and then tell them how bad violence is. I used to think that everything my parents did was right. But that´s just wrong. Just because you grew up with spanking doesn´t mean it´s a panacea. Sure, beeing a parent is hard enough but no one expects something else.
Schatteneidechse 1 month ago
@Schatteneidechse I just think that is wrong and feeble of people to think that they should have to reason with their kids. They aren't contributors to the home, they aren't intelligent enough to be their own "boss"/decide what's right and what's wrong, and if they aren't listening to you, its only because the parent hasn't done a good enough job enforcing boundaries. Sometimes a little spank is the only thing you can do, especially for kids who like to push the limits.
PahoranGirl516 1 month ago
People who can't raise children without hitting them shouldn't be having them.
snaildragon 3 months ago
@snaildragon Exactly
Schatteneidechse 3 months ago
I´m german too.
I was not an easy child and my parents were really patient with me. I´m thankful for that! I was never hit on purpose and neither spanked. I know that my parents love me(my mum at least) and I think before I do something that could hurt them. I don´t want to be traited with violence and unfairness and neither I do. I´m not scared of my parents. I love them and we are very close. I think most problems are because parents neglect their children, don´t give them enough love etc.
Schatteneidechse 3 months ago
Thinking the only way to get children to listen is violence is retarded. Their are like 5 different nanny shows that never use violence and all the kids turn out perfect. I was never hit, and I was still respectful and a good kid. Are we really going to take parenting advice from people living in a third world country in a clay house?
animeindoorsir 3 months ago
And Talking donsnt work Teen for example you see them going round smoking doo you think talking would make them stop No! you have to take power and not abuse but spank them.
HarmonyMapiou1 4 months ago
Now days children are starting to smoke and drink but then in the old days they didnt because they knew the consequences me as a child i would prefer to be spanked but i know they difference between spanking and abusing thats where people need to get that you do not abuse ANYONE!.
HarmonyMapiou1 4 months ago
its not good hitting kids, they grow to be afraid of u and sometimes hate u.
adrianao69o 5 months ago
@adrianao69o Its good to hit them. You;re just weak.
dearestjen 3 months ago
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adrianao69o 3 months ago
ok seriously i hate u people!!!u think this is right?oohhhhhhhh im these bitches i enjoy hitting my children and giving them pain it feels soooo goood yaaa!!well this is a message to everybody that spanks their children!!!four words for you:burn in fucking hell!!cunts
sdannunzio 5 months ago
Any hit against a child is hitting humanity, I am proud to live in a country that has learned his lessons from the past (in contrast to some barbaric US-states) and banned corporal punishment by laws and constitution since years, at school as well as at home.
karlheinrichlange 5 months ago
@karlheinrichlange :) I am happy too. German children grow up without fear, without pain. And get to be more happy adults.
BlackRainbow1992 5 months ago
how about you talk to them deeply about why what they did was wrong, and if the kids still go on, then punish them differently, in a way of like black mail, like now you don't get this or now you can't do that, stuff that like. violence isn't good,
puggypugpug101 5 months ago
Sounds like the USA needs to learn a few things from Zambia.
SBGull88 6 months ago
Sounds like good old American parenting from the 40's and 50's... try smarting off to any adult back then and you'd be counting your teeth as you picked them up. I think that the US would be a better country now if we'd not changed!
angurisloud 6 months ago
@angurisloud German parents don't spank and we have waaaaay less criminal teens and kids then the US ;) So does Sweden for example, so think about your words.
BlackRainbow1992 5 months ago
I got whippings as a child too but I wouldnt want to get one from him hes kinds intense isnt he lmao
junwiz 6 months ago
lmfao I feel so bad because when he says when they beg for me to stop I go faster Im like no way dude you are probably setting these kids up for a life of violence hes nuts
junwiz 6 months ago
Interfering propaganda. We would do well to send some of spoilt brat school kids to Kenya on a family exchange system.
cliff01x 7 months ago
This is so disturbing to me as i remember i was being beaten everyday by my fucking mother until today this thoughts never gone away i have to seek for medication to be able to sleep and to live normal am mad in my head i was really abused i had to run away and prostitute my self to never go back in that horror show now i live in germany with my son and i love him to death till now i never understand such people i pray she has a very painfull death
12345678920563 7 months ago
My parents stopped spanking because they realized it pissed me off and made me do more bad things etc. So now they dint and we have waaaay less problems!
TheLameJosh 7 months ago
@TheLameJosh Like you said you were spanked. Had they beat your ass like this father does. You would either stop being pissed and live in fear of doing anything wrong or you'd be beat to nearly to death. Either way, you wouldn't be pissed.
junit483 5 months ago
while I don't condone beating children or punishing them for making a mistake, a little swat (not a beating) isn't going to kill them.
aspie1966 8 months ago
Thats abuse and also why are kids "it".Are they a "it"?
jemel2hodge1 8 months ago
@jemel2hodge1 Well, if you read my exhaustive comment below, you would know that it may well be a problem of grammar. For example 'child' has neutral grammatical gender in Russian and Polish, and so in those languages children are refered to logically as it (cars and houses are masculine and therefore 'he/him'. Grammar my friend. That's the key word. Another is semantics. And yet another is 'translation' (or rather 'poor translation - as most translations usually turn out to be).
Barnaulka 8 months ago
A lot of people here are upset about the vocabulary used in this interview: beating, begging and 'it' instead of 'he/.she' etc. Remember: what you are reading is a TRANSLATION of old guy’s words. Translations can be good but are often poor. In many languages there is no difference between 'hit' or 'beat'. They’re covered by one word. In others 'beat' is less sever than 'hit'. It's a question of semantics and translation. I'm sure this man doesn't beat up on his kids or punch them senseless.
Barnaulka 8 months ago
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Barnaulka 8 months ago
Those viewers who keep passing judgement should cool down, look at it from another of the many possible perspectives and GROW UP. Cultures, like languages, are different and not every parent who employs corporal punishment necessarily hates or abuses his kids.
Barnaulka 8 months ago
@Barnaulka Your so right !
cliff01x 7 months ago
As for the part about 'I don't like the behaviour of kids in general' - see may first comment on semantics. Perhaps he was really commenting on specific aspects such as lying, truancy or being cheeky to elders. What seems like a sweeping statement to us may, in the original, in fact be a very precise or culture/situation specific statement. Few watching this understand the langauge spoken why are they are so quick to dismiss and to judge. Ignorance is the highest form of arrogance it seems.
Barnaulka 8 months ago
I want to beat the shit out of that bitchy mother.
mankindhellraiser69 8 months ago
"I don't like the behaviour of children in general." Fucking hell.
mankindhellraiser69 8 months ago
well, i can understand spanking, however if a child does a minor thing wrong like the boy was cutting his grass and the father threatend that there would be no supper for him, thats just weird and wrong but hey, those are his kids.....
and the mom looked like she was NAGGING her son to go to school,.. if he doesnt go then thats when the punishment should occur, but dont follow him out the damn door adn embarass him xD
dreyaleesings 9 months ago
These parents are mental to beat ur child with an electricity cable is horrifying if u were my mum i would Batter u one day and u would be sorry
Jaybyrdxxx 10 months ago
@Jaybyrdxxx: But wouldn't any of us?
JDart1776 10 months ago
Well, it is clear to me too that you don't know what you're talking about.
Quack808 10 months ago
The only thing spanking teaches children is how to turn their back.
basilization1 10 months ago
These people know how to raise some kids. They are gonna grow up to be very responsible adults in the future and probably move to America teach all y'all pussies how to raise y'alls kids.
Quack808 11 months ago
@Quack808 They are going to have problems because abuse always has a pernicious effect. Did you know that all criminals were mistreated as children? I fear not, because you seem to be a fool. I really hope you are sterile.
hinatah89 10 months ago
@hinatah89 Who told you that straight up lie? I was beat when I was small and I obviously turned out better than you in understanding how discipline works. Everybody needs to beat their kids. Thats the only way to make them act right when they're grown.
Quack808 10 months ago
@Quack808 It is very clear to me the damage those beatings has caused in you. I really hope that one day you got one of those spanking you like to be dished out so quickly on children.
hinatah89 10 months ago
@Quack808 Well even if you ignore the long term psychological damage those children will have, you have to see they are so controlled they won't know how to use theirs own minds to make decisions or to have a relationship as they havent been shown love and respect only anger and rage. will they think they can treat people that way when they are older, probablybecause how would they know how to show anyone kindness and respect. its a terrible way to raise children and is abusive on so many levels
felicia1980star 10 months ago
@felicia1980star People ain't about shit in the first place. I'm sure we all tell our kids to trust nobody. To control anger and rage is to stop spanking them when they look grown or starting to look grown, because theres nobody to spank them when they leave the house and mess up, but when you stop spanking them you have to find a substitute like going to church or just yelling.
Quack808 10 months ago
@felicia1980star: And guess what? To see the truth, all you need to do is look around. Non-beaten, and hell, even non-spanked kids who grow up in stable and loving families hardly ever get in trouble for the most part. Most abused kids, and even a few of the spanked ones, on the other hand{although most of the latter usually have other underlying issues, related or not.}.........well, here's a study you might want to look at:
nospank{dot}net/maurer1{dot}htm
JDart1776 10 months ago
@hinatah89: Well, perhaps not all, but certainly the majority of criminals, yes, the violent ones in particular.
JDart1776 10 months ago
It was written..," spare the rod, spoil the child "
chizinjoro 11 months ago
people may think its bad but I bet those kids do not disrespect adults like they do in western culture.People are made differently some more harsh then others and we cannot expect the entire world to be like us because we think its right when they think they are right as well...We need to mind our fucking business and let people live the way they see fit
bignasxl 11 months ago
@bignasxl Of course child abuse is always bad. And of course it is our business to protect defendless people like the children.
hinatah89 10 months ago
and the cycle continues..
MercedesMerv 11 months ago
i do agreed lot parent do spoil their kid to much
spanker48 1 year ago
did u realize the word disipline and strict are English... interesting
jennieforthesox 1 year ago
Omg did he really just call his kids "it" ? smh and if you dont like "the behavior of children" then why even have kids?? its sadd to see how proud he is of hitting his kids
88belysa88 1 year ago 5
so they can't even make a mistake without him hitting them until they are begging him to stop? that's sad. it's beyond sad
boymagnet17 1 year ago
Well, I think this guy is absolutely right.
The children of today should be punished with beating much more often.
AradisCalaqendi 1 year ago
thats good parenting because your child will learn its leson and stop fucking doing that
frostedsnakes08 1 year ago
how to disiplin a child
1) curve your hand like a cup
2) put child on knee
3) wack the S*** out of its butt
4) Punch the child in the gut
5) take gun out and shoot it!
frostedsnakes08 1 year ago
@frostedsnakes08
Are...you retarded...?
xbox360ROCKS777 1 year ago
o.o oh hell to the naw! muthafuca i aint bout to mow no lawn like dat. his old ass crazy o.o
HorribleDynamix2010 1 year ago
They aren't talking about spanking their kids, they're talking about BEATING them. A spanking and a beating are two totally different things. Using an open hand to spank your child's hand, bottom, whatever, versus using a closed fist is no contest. And, they talk about respect, but refer to their children as "its". Wtf?
cutemidget09 1 year ago
@cutemidget09 lol i laughed my ass off when i heard "it" wtf. and he said he doesnt like the behavior of children in general. DAMN. im too americanized to be a teenager over there. id get the shit beat out of me right away for my strong will.
HorribleDynamix2010 1 year ago
@cutemidget09: I agree on that........perhaps in Zambia's case, it may go back to the Colonial Era...........
JDart1776 10 months ago
Beating your children is essential!! listen to the words of that man he knows wtf he is talking about and this goes to all countries no matter where u come from u SPOIL your children they will grow up to be piece of shits that have no respect for anyone. remind u of anywhere? cough cough america! dont believe me ask your kids teachers about spoiled children.
Hatebot123 1 year ago
"I dont like the behavior of children in general";maybe you should'nt have had any to begin with. "Until "it" stops crying"? 4:45-If you lived here,honey,you'd go to jail. 5:15-I'm sure they'll look after you as well as you've looked after them. I've said it before,and will again;it should be a requirement for anyone who wants to be come a parent,to take parenting classes before hand,especially in countries like this.
HUSKY57887 1 year ago
@HUSKY57887 Just respect people's culture ! If they want a certain level of respect from their children and you don't want a same level of respect : what makes your level right!!!! These time out parents kill me!!!!!
humblemyself 1 year ago
@HUSKY57887 yeah u have absolutley NO idea what the fuck you are talking about. My parents beat the living shit out of me as a child and i still love them today. Not everyone is a Piece of shit like yourself. because it sounds like your speaking from your own experiences.
Hatebot123 1 year ago
why do they call their children "it" ? do they even love their children at all? you wouldn't know it, the way they beat them.
fireflyinsanity 1 year ago 2
Then they expect their children to take care of them. Like I would if I were them.
AnnaConda1209 1 year ago
One thing parents fail to realise is that when they beat a child like that, they leave a hole in the heart of a child that creates fear which brings about distance between the parent and the child. So in other words the child will not respect you but fear you and then a time comes when they grow up and find their voice, then they will remind you of how you mistreated them. I`m a case of such......
Detky 1 year ago
@Detky You are a pansy. I took my beatings when I was a child. I am a grown man and my parents respect me and treat me like an adult, because I have earned it through experience and learning. I love my parents for making me who I am today. You should too! stop being a foolish Pussy.
Marlboro391 1 year ago
@Marlboro391: "I love my parents for making me who I am today." Like this?
"Sorry White man, but the jew has taken over............Little by little this country will fall and crumble and the jew will prosper at the expense of all other races..........."
I happened to find this little comment while I was browsing your profile. If that's what your parents were like then they should've been castrated so they couldn't spawn losers such as yourself.
JDart1776 10 months ago
@Detky: Not from an abusive family myself, but definitely from a dysfunctional one.............I have enough issues to deal with myself{sorry you had to suffer, btw}. =(
JDart1776 10 months ago
But their kids are far better behaved than western gross disrespectful yobs.
cliff01x 1 year ago
im zambian this is a custom to hit your kids wen they do wrong but these guys hit theyre kids for nothing and love it
imitating theyre kids screams fuking psycho
SEECH7 1 year ago
beating their kids until they stop crying, not giving kids supper for not mowing the lawn correctly, beating them really hard for the mistakes they did that week; man, i can not wait until there is a law banning this crap for the whole world. that is not disapline beating, that is abusing and beating the crap out of their own children. i hate parents like that.
saranauert 1 year ago
@saranauert: I agree with you all the way.
JDart1776 10 months ago
they use their children as their slaves !!so sad...
brasrica 1 year ago 2
@brasrica: Let's remember, though, that it was just 50 years ago, that most of Africa was still under the control of the Western powers............
JDart1776 10 months ago
traditions are the primitivities of humans
Aleque 1 year ago
i like that shit :D :''i raise children the way my parents did'' lol and lok where have you got yourself... a farm dude with animal traditions :D hahahaha omg some people are just plain retarded, and most of those ''parents'' think wrong if thay think its al about how you raie your kid, kid is a person himslef he makes decisions, and makes his life, you just give life and show the basic patterns, thats it! :D hahahaah idiots!
vaajpiens 1 year ago
"I won't be here to watch over them forever". Really, that's the only thing they have to look forward to in their lives. I hope he dies soon, for their sake
drgregsgurl 1 year ago 2
God, this is so sick. I can't believe there are places that still treat children this way.
drgregsgurl 1 year ago 2
@drgregsgurl You're western-centric view is sickening!
zumwane 9 months ago
@drgregsgurl Please. I bet these children are more well-behaved than most American children! Children NEED to be spanked. This is the problem with all the delinquent American children nowadays, the parents chose not to spank them anymore! I got spanked and I respected and had a healthy fear of my parents and of authority in general.
hardyharlol701 8 months ago 10
@hardyharlol701 ummmmm i wasn't spanked and i am a good person
devore504 5 months ago
@hardyharlol701 u think spanking is good?????really?cause this is a FACT!ok all spanking does is make ur children hate you!my parents dont spank me cause they know that if they do ill him them back twice as hard to show them how bad it hurts!my best bro is the same way matter of fact the second time my parents spanked me they said forget this shit cause they know how i am spanking is abuse and shit!the proper punishment is getting grounded!why the FUCK would u respect someone who just beat you??
sdannunzio 5 months ago
@hardyharlol701 u think spanking is good?????really?cause this is a FACT!ok all spanking does is make ur children hate you!my parents dont spank me cause they know that if they do ill him them back twice as hard to show them how bad it hurts!my best bro is the same way matter of fact the second time my parents spanked me they said forget this shit cause they know how i am spanking is abuse and shit!the proper punishment is getting grounded!why the FUCK would u respect someone who just beat you?
sdannunzio 5 months ago
@hardyharlol701 Children need to be raised by parents who give a shit. Hitting someone isn't a magical answer to problems. If it were, then I would smack the shit out of you to make my point. But that would be silly wouldn't it?
Xaymot 5 months ago
@hardyharlol701 Right, hiting children makes wonders for them. Jughashvili was hit severely as a child and as an adult he made an amazing career.
saldownik 3 months ago
They don't really spank their bottom. They beat their backs with an electrical cable which leaves marks.
crossoverkid12 2 months ago
@hardyharlol701 you can raise you kids to be sussecful without spanking them me and my bros were never spanked and i think were doing pretty good,same with my son i dont hit him because im not that type of guy and never will
cpms5151 2 months ago
@hardyharlol701 Excuse me? A healthy fear? Those are some deep psychological problems you have there. Have fun with that.
wogboy711 1 month ago
@hardyharlol701 Research from all over the world shows that children who are abused at a young age are more likely to repeat the aggression and violence directed towards them as they get older. You don't beat children out of love, you beat them out of frustration, and then try to justify it. It's not okay to beat women, but the same arguments used in defense of wife beating are still used against beating even more defenseless children. Children are human beings just like grown-ups.
SunBeamsan 2 weeks ago
@SunBeamsan Spanking is not abuse, period.
hardyharlol701 2 weeks ago
@hardyharlol701 Spanking is a euphemism for hitting. If you saw a man at a grocery store suddenly grab his wife turn her over and start forcefully 'spanking' her against her will, what would you call it? Why are children not deserving of the same human value as grown women considering grown-ups are so much bigger than children who are even more defenseless? Are children less human and thus deserving of less rights? Hitting children is not out of love, it is out of frustration. It's a quick fix.
SunBeamsan 2 weeks ago
@SunBeamsan Spanking refers to hitting on the buttocks only. I would never hit my children elsewhere.
hardyharlol701 2 weeks ago
@hardyharlol701 Yes, and what would you say if you saw a man turn bend his wife over and start forcibly 'spanking' her? It's a barbaric system of child rearing, even if it doesn't leave a mark or scar on the outside, doesn't meant it wont on the inside. It is a statistical fact that children who do not grow up with 'spanking' or any other euphemistic for hitting, are more likely to be successful in life and not spank their children. 94% of black US mothers spank, yet it doesn't show improvement.
SunBeamsan 2 weeks ago
Hmm. Mabye I will stop giving to Africa.
sammyboyman12333 1 year ago
@sammyboyman12333 if the g to jail, they gonna get beat there.
Berryflowers 1 year ago
i beat kids too it feels good
iamaGod357 1 year ago
your a bitch.
xxSoccerxxful 1 year ago