I was in tears while watching this and I know for sure that PAS takes pace here in the uk as well. My dear son, Elliott, is being alienated from me and it breaks my heart. I am a good dad and to be powerless to stop the slow destruction of our realtionship by a mother who is hell bent on evil is hard to live with. Cecile if you see this film perhaps it will make you think again, but I doubt it will, because you feel only know spite, hate and selfishness in your heart, you are hurting Elliott.
Thanks for posting this video. Not only have I gone through this with my own children, I'm currently going through it with my step-daughter. It amazes me that this has become such an epidemic and there is so very little we can do for these children. Because I thought it was such an important issue I've made it the topic for my research paper. I'd love to talk to you more to find out what other resources are out there.
Thanks for posting this video. Not only have I gone through this with my own children, I'm currently going through it with my step-daughter. It amazes me that this has become such an epidemic and there is so very little we can do for these children. Because I thought it was such an important issue I've made it the topic for my research paper. I'd love to talk to you more to find out what other resources are out there.
I am so sorry to hear that and just know you are not alone.. I have been living in that pain for close to 3 years... I call all the time and never get to talk to him.. I use youtube!! He sees me, they are dated, he knows Im healthy and missing him and loving him and that I am proud of him! The videos do not lie, she does. Watch them please and consider reaching out like that!!! Chris Belanger to Weston Belanger on google or on youtube.. God Bless..
This makes me cry, for you, for me and other parents going through this, and most of all, for the children who are permanently scarred from parental alienation. I am suffering through this right now, and feel so lost. The thing I have always wanted the most, to be a mom, is being stripped away from me over an old vendetta. And my beautiful boys are getting the brunt of the emotional and psychological damage. I miss and love my baby boys so much, thank you for sharing this.
I have a close friend whose ex is alientating him from his son. She uses him only when she has to because she doesnt have the money for daycare. Other then that she finds every reason why he cannot see his son. Instead of helping find a solution to keep him in his son's life, she tries to control him by saying he is not getting to see his son anymore. What does a parent who has no money do so they can see their child. He was never married to her..it was never a divorce issue..Civil cases cost $
Most attorneys & women's supporters advise moms to make False Abuse Allegations as normal, primary means to win custody & divorce, winner takes all. 3/4 of divorced DADS in my area experience false allegations PLUS parental alienation.
Most parental alienation accompanies HER false allegations resulting in mothers having sole custody with most dads alienated from their kids.
Most GAL's & other court hangers-on support the rot lest they lose their seat at this banquet on children's flesh.
It has been 4 years 9 months and 25 days since I have seen or held my boys and still the courts do nothing my boys were taken from my home in Mi by their mother to Texas and I have't seen them since except in pics I get of the internet (FB) I just want my Boys back !
Can i just say that this is not gender specific. It happens to just as many mothers as fathers. The only common denominator is that the alienating parent is mentally disfunctional.
My mom had *so many* reasons TO do this to my dad but God bless her in her strength she never said ONE word against my dad. We all figured him out on our owna and came to our own conclusions about him. I am so thankful for my mom and how she handled everything that she went through with my dad. I have dealt with all the other issues of not really having a dad around but the Lord has redeemed what relationship we had a chance for and I can now say at 32 years old that my dad and I hav somethin
Hey... my husband has been going through the same thing... I dont get how alienators can delude themselves into thinking theyre not hurting their own children. the selfishness is sickening. I do wish you could post a video of just from 4:09 on... I think its a perfect explination for exactly what happens.
How to stop Parent Alienation? Solution: Unite and speak with one voice! All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing. Edmund Burke
Here I am at 15 years old, I usually keep my emotions under control but at about 4-5 minutes into the video I just broke down crying. I just realized that my mom put me through the same thing. She put a restraining order against my dad, she wouldn't let me talk to him, and she told me that she'll get me a dad who will love me. All of that has passed now, thankfully. I'm not the emotional type, but like I said, this video made me cry. I hope things settle out for you.
it's so difficult to watch your children being put in this position. my ex (a psychologist) made abuse allegations over a dime-size bruise documented to have occurred at daycare.. the coaching of my son was amazing (and disturbing). "I'M afraid of [my first name]." [my first name] hits me." Funny thing - just a few days prior, my son was freaking when I left him at daycare, begging me not to leave him - but when "daddy's" standing there, he's suddenly afraid? It's called COACHING. so sick
I am so sorry to see and learn of this great atrocity! I am a Father as well and an Alien! I recently lost legal rights to my son and I refuse to take this bruatily from the gender bias court system and or vindictive mothers. I will continue to figtht for this dad in this video as well as all others.
I totally feel you man... Sometimes i feel lost with the hold thing... My son and talk about this all the time... Feels like there nothing you can do... Just take the father out the picture,,, No Rights...
What a sweet and touching video, it bring to mind a favorite fantasy of mine. In the future, when I am very old. I am sitting one day in living room and a little girl, about 6 or 7 come in and say " Grandpa, it is true that they used to take kids away from their daddies, I say, why yes dear they did. She responds in the same serious but confused look says to me" Didn't they know that was wrong?
with a smile on my face and tears in my eye I say "they do now"!!!
I am extremely sorry for your temporay loss. It is hard to be without your children. At age 14 they may legally chose who they live with and they may choose you because children are usually tired of the parent they are with by that age. You should be happy that they are healthy and alive. You should also be glad that some psychiatrist some where hasn't gotten them into psychotherapy, played cruel mindgames with them, put them drugs, or experimented on them. DHS is not the answer.
Now that your children are teens, they can help you and vindicate you. You can turn the table on their mother and make her pay for her past behavior. When she suffer from the consequences of her own acts and lose the children, she will have nothing but tears to defend herself.
Abusers, women and men, should pay for their misdeeds.
Enough of this Hollywood " women are protectors of children's" crap.
Thanks for sharing it with us. I am a mother of two precious daughters who will be in my heart forever. For four and a halve year we haven't seen eachother. There is no contect at all due to PAS. I wish you all the best and I I hope that one day your sons will know the truth about their father. The loss of all those years will never be faded away however. Do you also often here the frase: 'one they they will surch for you for sure!' As if you may not be sad to have no contact for now!!
you did a great job on this video.I have posted it on my websight because here family court is so corrupt. They have illegaly terminated my sons rights to his child.It was based on lies and they did not follow family court laws.Her mother is a US Marshall and has plenty of money.They cheated us out of the truth.I had my grandchild living with me until he was 2.I havn't seen him in a year1/2.My heart and my families has been broken.I'm protesting here in SC.
IF a parent isn't doing anything wrong to thier kids why would a judge allow a child to be without one of his/her parents. kids need both parents in thier ;ives. This video makes me mad. I couldn't imagine me taking my daughter away from her father even if i didnt want to be with him anymore. She is a mommies girl but she loves her daddy. Your kids are precious and If the mother of your children thinks she is protecting them she is only hurting them and herself in the long run. Keep your head up
mischalke just remeber as soon as they turn 11 they have full rights in the choice of where to live and no parnet can say no which mean the mother can go **** and the courts cant stop him from living with you
it happend to me too ... but after 15 months I had chose a different path.
courts failed me and my child, society and friends failed us too. they act like a herd of wildebeest when attacked by a lion, abandon the fallen one and continue to "pasture" while the raptor is devouring the prey.
woman always act a little like "black widow" but only few are walking the whole nine yards.
I cried the entire video. This is what I live everyday! I have been alienatedfor the better part of four years. The last two I have not seen my son at all. I live in PA and my ex has been in contempt of our custody order five times. He has never gotten in trouble! My son is almost 14 1/2 now and I think we are very close to reuniting.
No ladies...THANK YOU! Papa misses you every second and think of you every second in between. Ohayo gozaimashta & oyasumi nasaii Takon & Kurikito! I love you.
This is a beautiful Video. I can't imagine why a judge would allow this to happen. I wish there. Kids need their father. I am a mom and I am going through a custody battle myself but I would never to this to my child. Never. This video makes me cry and I wish I could do something to help you.
I am truly sorry fthat you are in the midst of a custody battle yourself. It's very sad to realize how many families have been decimated by divorce and Parental Alienation.
It's the parents that Truly love their children, that would never rip their little hearts out by viciously destroying their relationship with the other parent.
Thank you so much for those words of encouragement and kindness...
I agree that someday there will be that day when God himself will sort out the absolute truth about everything.
Those that hide their lies and acts of sin and abuse now, will have nowhere to run and nowhere to hide on that day. If they hadn't destroyed so many others I would almost feel compassion for them. How very sad.
Thank you. We went through a terrible separation because of the mothers ignoring access orders. Thank God we're now reunited on Facebook. Please drop by and say hello. I'm Chris J. Slater from Vancouver. I thought I would die of a broken heart because of the vile and evil court system that "awards" the children 90% of the time to the mother. I believe and pray the day will come when there will be class action suits against "Family Courts". I love you Cathy, Ken, Chris, Tina and Sarah.
I am very sorry that you and your children have suffered so much.
My experience with the courts has been the same as most of the targeted parents that I have met and spoken to. The system is horribly broken and biased.
I wish you and your children the very best! Never stop loving them or reaching out to them Chris...
How old are yours sons now? Do you know where they live? When they are old enough have you ever considered contacting the tv show called the Locator.
I have been estranged from my 3 grandchildren for almost 5 years. I never stop crying. The pain is so great everyday. My son and dil are doing this to me. I have a myspace account and also hope to set up a website in my grandsons name so that maybe some day he will google his own name.
They are 18 & 14 years old. I know where they live but they have been taught for many years to view me as the enemy. Hopefully they are getting to the age that they will be able to figure out the truth of what has happened soon.
As for setting up a site for your grandchildren, go to Google and type in "Keeping Families Connected".
There is a whole section that has complete instructions on setting up a site for the children.
Please do not give up if you are the dad in this situation. I am 21 years old, I am bitter and angry at my father for his lack of effort during my childhood. Not for what anybody told me about him. It will all come out in the wash and your children will appreciate and love you more if they know you tried! My dad didn't send me ANYTHING, not even a birthday card for 10years...it's a long story, but don't give up! my dad and I are sort of getting to know each other now. I think he is ok.
My dear friend, I am so sorry that you have experienced this type of a relationship with your father. He has no idea what a blessing he has missed by not making you a priority in his life. I am sorry that you have lost so much because of his issues (whatever they may be). I pray for your continued healing. So much has already been lost, please don't let the past determine your future.
You are special and worthy of his love, whether he ever figures it out or not.
@rnischalke thank you very much.Although I did miss out on a dad I do feel like a better person who would nver put my own through this. Something good comes from every situation, I find
I hope that you will have a good relationship with your sons dont worry in time your children will see what you have done.I meet someone and they said that their mom told them he was bad but after 10+ yrs they realize it was the moms fault because she cheated on dad and now they hate her.Basically what I am saying hold strong and in time your sons will see they got a father that cares about them and will ask the mother why she done what she did.I know it will hurt but it will be worth it someday
Thank you for your encouragement & kindness. It is much appreciated.
Unfortunately, I have heard many similar stories of children despising and walking away from a parent that has alienated them from one of their parents after they learn the truth of what really happened.
I don't wish that on my sons, or even my ex. I just want my sons to be healthy and whole and to know that I never abandoned them or stopped loving them.
Why are the men not getting credit for rising the child? Like I am not hating on women but I think Men just are not giving that much credit on being a good dad. There are dads out there that sometimes go to greater pain just to be with their child I hate this society trash that you only need 1 parent when you know a child needs both parents it's just women now use it as a profi how terrible using a child as a paycheck, only a handful of good women out there same for men no one wants a child now
You are getting credit for being a great dad and there are great moms too. I'm a mom and i was alienated from my two sons for 20 years and now i'm with one of my sons and i'm just so happy for my son and I. And yes i'm sure there are dad's out there and also moms. Mom's don't have custody for whatever reasons too.
I am certainly aware that there are many fine mothers as well as fathers that have been alienated from their children.
It doesn't matter who the perpetrator is, what gender they are, or whether they are the custodial or noncustodial parent. ANY parent that would destroy their own child to hurt and control their ex-spouse is sick. And they are abusing their children.
And your right it doesn't matter who the perpetrator is. My other son won't even talk to me about anything that happened in the last 20 years only because he was alienated from me all these years. I will always love him and will always try to keep contact with him but i know it's going to take a longer time with him and if ever. I will always leave the lines of communication open.
Hi this is a great video and the truth. I lost my daughter year ago to this abuse. I still fight however and do see her occasionally but my daughter is withdrawn and damaged. One day they will come back.
I'm really sorry to hear about your daughter. It's hard for me to even hear you describing her as withdrawn and damaged. Because I know the truth of that statement for so many precious children that have been damaged by their own parents.
Keep the faith. Stay strong and always pray for her and be there in any way that you can.
I have tried but it impossible for me to watch the full ten minutes of this video . I haven't spoken to my twin sons in ten years. We had our childen late in life, and I was married for 22 years before I finally left. If I had known the terrible cost of that choice I would have stayed, at least until the children were fully grown. I just never imagined this terrible aftermath. I wish I had my sons in my life. I don't. I don't believe I ever will. I pray you do not suffer the same fate.
Thank you for your words of kindness regarding my sons.
I am very sorry to hear your story of pain and heart break. Like most of us targeted parents, you are learning that your ex will do whatever it takes to destroy you through your children.
It amounts to them taking a spear and shoving through your child's heart to get to you, but they still don't get it.
The saddest part is that I'm not sure it would make a difference even if they did get it...
Be a part of the movement to change courts to do what is in the best interest of the children. Kids can handle a lot in life, but without BOTH parents, they will always grow with an empty feeling. Respect what a man is and what a woman is, they are both different and look at surcumbstances differently. Men are not feminine and woman are not masculine. Don't fall to feminist propoganda. Understand our differences. Google Family Rights and VAWA fraud if you really care.
I am disturbed by this video, mostly by the title. THIS IS NOT THE CHILDS PERSPECTIVE. Though it is touching, provacative and even beautiful in many ways it is still a parent "screaming" for his side and his pain to be heard not the childs. Children can communicate if we just slow down and listen to THEM.
Great video, just please change the title so the whole body of work rings true and truth
Obviously you've never been subjected to these tactics or you would easily recognize them being from a child's perpective.
And I understand that intellectually it may seem valid to question if it is just a parent's perpective and not the child's IF you have never been there.
If you read through the comments on this video. You will find children that have been subjected to this abuse validating that it is a child's perspective
I did lose the only woman in the world I ever loved and continue to love through all this pain. 20 years, 3 kids one soulmate. I understand loss, I understand pain.
I only disagree with the title. Not to sound negative but it is just a bit arogant for lack of a better word. I do not want to belabor this point as it has simply been stated and maybe youtube wont let you change a title. I do hope your road ahead leads to healing and fun days.
Focus on the Family has a community page where you can create discussions about parenting and other issues. To get them on board with PAS if more people wrote to them, maybe they would understand.
Your site is wonderful. I feel a connection to you because my daughter is 17, just yesterday I mentioned that same Bible story to the counselor and I have read many of the books that you have shown on the site. I wonder ihow many kids see the truth and how long that takes. Thank you for spending so much time on this. I have bben sending out a power point I created to all who want it. Also I hope Focus on the Family will get on board. If I can help, let me know please!
If you are at the point that you mentioned that same story to your counselor, and have been forced to make that heart-rending decision, then my heart aches for you.
I remember the pain of doing what needed to be done to protect my sons, because it was the right thing to do, even though it forced me to give up any hope of them learning the truth for many years to come.
I am a mother of a 17 year old daughter whose has been alienated by her father and stepmother. On the 19th of Sept. the stepmother backed her body into me on purpose and yelled that I hit her. What I saw when I looked at her was Sayan and felt sad that my daughter has been influenced by this and her father for so long. I wish it was different. I am easy to get along with and try hard to be a good person and parent. My daughter has a lot of misdirected anger and will have a hard time in life.
I was able to get court ordered counseling for my daughter at a mediation but time was taken away from me due to a letter her father took with him that she wrote. My child has not had a childhood. She has spent hers on a campaign against me for them. The counselor asked my why I continue to allow my daughter to abuse me? It is hard to find someone who has been through this as a counselor. For this I am grateful. Prayers for all abused in this way!
Please read my comment to kenneyhoff37 (below this one).
Also, although Parental Alienation is a horrible form of child abuse, it is not only mothers that are the perpetrators of this crime.
I am contacted daily by fathers AND mothers around the globe that are victimized by this type of attack. Although statistically more mothers may initiate PA tactics, there are many excellent mothers that are on the recieving end of this abuse as well.
Parents that do this type of thing to a child for there own personal satisfaction should be beat on -- to tell a parent their kid is "sick" when there is supposed to be a visit is disgusting, it is not the kids who need a Dr , its the person lying.
Although I agree with your sentiments 100%, I wouldn't go right to "beating" them. These people may be selfish and even evil, but most of them are already damaged or sick and what they really need is help and accountability.
Our court system is a joke and makes the problem worse not better. But if we resort to striking out at the alienators then we aren't any better than them.
They destroy everyone around them including their own children. And ultimately their own life...
My partner (daughter's father) and I watched this....we are both crying! I can't understand how so many people who go through divorce/separation use the kids as pawns to get back at eachother. Just because a child's mind is so easy to manipulate. They will HATE the person who does these things when they are old enough to realize. Not to mention ruin their lives.
I know it seems inconceivable that anyone could do such an evil thing to a child, and yet this problem is global in scope.
My wife and I started a small ministry 1 1/2 years ago. Since that time we have been visited or contacted by over 22,000 people in 112 different countries.
The people that alienate their children are so concerned with meeting their own sick needs, they don't really care about the life changing impact on the precious children invloved.
I can relate. As an adult I see clearly how easy it was for my mother to brainwash us against our father who was truly a good parent. He was always patient and never got angry or beat us. He loved us unconditionally. I feel so hurt by her enjoyment at our pain. She rewarded us when we spoke bad of him and painted herself as the hero who had made sacrifices. After his death we found documents of old old custody papers, where he had made legal moves to get us.
I have read your profile. I am so very sorry for all that has been done to you. I wept for you when I read the note to your mom. That one line speaks volumes...
I wish I could help you to forgive her. Not because she desrves it (she doesn't) but for your sake. She has destroyed so much of your life all ready, PLEASE don't let her actions and selfishness consume your heart with bitterness and pain.
Contact me anytime and I'll help you in any way I can.
I am sorry that you have experienced this. My daughter is going through this now but it is her father and stepmother abusing her. I do not think she can handle the pressure so I may have to let her go. If you were her (17) how would you like me to keep contact? About your own mother, I hope you find healing. If we do not have God and His boundaries for living evil can take root.
Keep your head and hopes up. These boys of yours will one day realize the truth and who really loves them. Never stop trying and remaining there for them. All the strength to you!
I sit here and see so many of these videos of familes being torn apart so heartbreaking I myself have been without my children and this pain just eats up inside me... and my children are confused they are older now teenagers one 18 now and says she dont want children and has no respect for family courts.... my youngest said to cps workers you all have destroyed my life my other one is lost. God bless our children
This video makes me cry all along. I read all the comments and I cannot believe so many fathers or mother are going thru this. My brother is going thru the same experience. His wife abandone him and left with their 3 daughters. He is devastated. He used to spend a lot of time with the girls. Now he only sees them one or two days a week but he notices that they are changing towards him and he is very sad about it. I will pray for all.
I am very sorry to hear about your brother and his beautiful children.
Anyone that takes the time to read all of the comments on the videos I have posted, can never come away doubting that parental alienation exists.
Sadly, between our website and videos, we have been visited by families from over 112 countries around the world. You have no idea just how rampant this type of abuse is...
Parental Alienation isn't recognized in the UK, still this child abuse is allowed to happen every day to 10's of thousands of our children. Well done on making this video, but we all know what goes on, unfortunatly too many people turn a blind eye, these weak minded people are as sick as the perpratrator in my book!!
I have a lot of things I have written that represent my situation and many others. If you would like copies, let me know. They are too large to post here. I have always sent copies to the custody office as well. They need education too!
That is how it happens, unfortunately. I am a mom who has suffered through watching my daughter be alienated by her father, stepmother and their family. It is sickening. It feels like I have been watching my daughter sink in quick sand but I can not help save her because my hands are tied. Please pray for her. Her name is MacKennah
One of the most traumatic parts of parental alienation is watching children that you love and would gladly give your life for, be subjected to such cruel abuse by the very people that should be protecting them.
Alienators are predators. And the courts promote and enforce all of it.
Google "Keeping Families Connected" and you will find resorces to help.
I don't know about you, but I believe that there will be a final judgement day one day.
This time itt will be at the hands of an eternal and powerful God that has heard every lie and seen every tear. No one will be able to hide behind rhetoric or political shields.
I would not trade places with anyone involved in separating loving parents and children on that day...
It is so nice to see that I am not alone. I miss my children so much and am getting nowhere with the courts. I worry so much about my children's future emotional health...
Our website and videos have now been viewed by well over 20,000 people in all 50 states and 109 countries to date!
The courts are guilty as can be in their part of this abuse and travesty of justice.
Unfortunately, the sane parent is the only one concerned about these precious children. The alienator and the courts both use these children for their own sick gain.
I am very sorry. God bless you and your children...
Congratulations on a wonderful video and your openess to share your grief. This aweful sickness has to stop. Look after yourself and don't stiop een if it does take years. I am starting the parenta alienation syndrome & child realignment association of australia (PASCRAA)
The courts and my ex-wife may be able to keep me from being with my sons, but no one can change the fact that I am their father, and I will never stop loving them.
Well in my situation fighting for custody, im fortunate to have my ex's diarys, her past history of abductions of children from babysitters and her countless blog entries, not to mention her ex husband who went through the same thing as what this woman is putting me through, as well as many other huge pieces of evidence. All that being said i still have to fight toothe and nail to get custody. The system of so far one sided that you need to pretty much marry an axe murderer to get real custody
I wish you the very best in your fight to protect your children from your ex and the courts.
I'm not sure who is more vicious or controlling, an out-of-control anlienator or an unaccountable court system!
Thank God that you have some evidence to support that she has major issues as you fight for the children's safety.
In my case, the evidence didn't make a difference. The tyrant that I had for a judge simply refused to hear the evidence (in an evidentiary hearing)...
Excellent video! All your videos are great. I haven't seen my 5 kids in nearly 2 years too. Your two boys will come back to you someday and they will bring their kids to see the grandparent that truly loves his children. The crooked judges and magistrates and "special advocates" and attorneys will all be judged soon by the One that ordained their positions here on Earth. All of them that participated in the plundering of our families will enter a hell much worse than we went through. God Bless.
I am very sorry to hear of the pain and loss that both you and your children have been subjected to.
I know that it doesnt seem possible that any parent would use their own children as a pawn to attack the other parent, yet the sad truth is that it occurs on a daily basis around the world. There are an awful lot of sick people out there.
Some day the truth will be known to all. No more lies, pretense, court charades or evil. Many of us look forward to that day!
This an amazing, but very sad insight into todays society. My heart goes out to you and any other parents shaing our painful excistance. I have not seen my three darling children for a year, i have missed first words, first school days, birthdays, and christmas. I delivered each one in turn and enjoyed the most beautiful bond. Sadly, i have been failed by the court system. please listen to my song : alan sawyer missing my babies. good luck my friend.
Your video could not be more exact.I found out about PAS while searching alienation on the web when I started to notice changes in my children.I've tried everything to stop the progression to no avail.Now they barely speak to me-won't eat anything I make or buy.Any gift is shoved in a corner or gone.And nobody in the system helps or listens.I am looked at as the crazy one.But your perseverance inspires me-TY. The mom now called "she"
It has now been 4.5 months from the date my husband realized I was serious about the divorce and he went into action. It has now been 2 months since I have seen my children other then them getting off the bus into 1 of his family members cars. He sent a letter to his attorney that the children were afraid of me + also threatened to call the police on me. I had no choice but to leave before he could set something up. Plan now is to get the kids through this mentally ok + a relationship somehow.
I am sorry to hear that the alienation tactics are increasing.
The sad reality is that an alienator will stop at nothing to destroy your children's relationship with you. You will never play by the same rules because you actually put your children's welfare first.
It apprears that like so many others, your husband is incapable of loving anyone more than himself. He is willing to destroy his own children in order to strike back at you.
My ex-wife is alianating 8 children from three fathers with false allegations of abuse and even though she continues to get caught lying in court no one seems to give a darn this country is SICK!
I am so sorry for what has happened to your children and you.I found out about PAS while searching the web for tips on how to counteract alienation when I started to see changes in my children.I have been fighting in every way I can find as I watch them slip away more and more each day.The thought of the turmoil going on inside them rips me apart.I won't stop fighting,but sadly neither will an obsessed alienator.
I am so sorry for your pain. Especially for your children.
Some days I can not fathom the depravity of mankind. Who would torture a child in such an Insidious way?
I know that it doesnt seem possible that any parent would use their own child as a pawn to attack the other parent, yet the sad truth is that it occurs on a daily basis around the world. There are an awful lot of sick people out there.
May God bless & heal both you and your children...
Thank you for posting such a touching video. My boyfriend forwarded this to me and I watched it as long as I could before crying. He is the father of 3 boys with his ex-wife that he loves dearly. His time spent with them has decreased over the last 2 years to where he only sees them once or twice a week for only a few hours at a time. His ex uses any angle to her advantage to keep them away. Courts do not want to listen. My apologies to you for having to be affected by your ex's actions...
You are most welcome. I hope that it will help everyone that watches it to realize just how insidious and real this form of abuse is.
PAS is VERY real, and those that abuse their children (and those that support them in this effort) are destroying these precious ones.
I feel for you and your boyfriend but most of all for the children. No child deserves to be manipulated and used as a pawn to make a depraved parent feel better about themselves...
I can't thank you enough. I'm slowly finding out why my daughter doesn't want to see me anymore; A loving,caring father who was always there-teaching, learning, imagining, creating.I thought I was in pain-I can't imagine what she's going through. Every lawyer, judge, and mediator involved in family court should see this.Best wishes to you and your future..and most of all to your children. All the children. May just one alienating parent see this and recognize and have the courage to change
I don't have to try to describe the pain that an alienated parent is in from this form of abuse, you live with it every day just as I do. But you are right, our pain is NOTHING compared to theirs. The repercussions of this evil will affect many generations to come. All to make some sad and sick "parent" feel better about themselves.
I'm not sure who I pity more the alienated parent or the pathetic alienator in their sickness
It was very telling to watch that video. It is never normal or healthy for two children that age (especially siblings) to interact that way.
You don't need to be a professional to figure that out. Anyone who has ever been a parent can attest to that. The older sister has obviously been "programed" not to respond to her younger sister.
I think the term "mentally disturbed" to describe a parent that would do such a thing is a bit mild...
I guess society have forced that definition upon us. If some one does something particularly good then they are Saint, however, if it's evil then they are mentally disturbed.
I last saw my dad as a child when I was 6 y/o. I made sure my son would know both parents by any means necessary. My son's father has been terrible and was never a true parent for our son. Yet, he saw him more than the court ordered. He owed over 16 thous in child support and still saw him..and continued to make life a living hell for me and our son. Today, Dad successfully turned our son against me since I allowed for a trial custody for 1 year only in 2006. Another generation failed.
Thanks for doing everything you could to protect and make a difference in your son's life.
Thanks for being the PARENT that he needed, instead of the selfish, twisted needy parent that "used" him to meet their own selfish needs.
It may not be soon, and it may not even be in this life, but judgement day will come for each and every abuser out there. And that includes those that work in our court system...
Thanks for the encouragement because I often feel like giving up completely...but I will not. I pray, cry and talk about my situation to remain sane. My son was my life, my world..but I had to stop allowing his father to keep drama and division even if it meant to stop seeing my son..Dad told him he didn't have to see me so once a month, my son acts like it's wrong that I'm "making" him see me. He's 16 and lived with Dad since 13. Sadly, Dad lived up to my expectations of keeping drama going.
You are welcome. I am sorry that the attack is relentless. The abuser is never satisfied until they completely destroy the relationship the children have with the healthy parent.
The worst part is, they usually pretend that they are "protecting" the child. In reality, they are simply using the children to accomplish their sad and twisted goals.
Some day your son will recognize the difference between his father and you. He can still love his father without becoming like him.
He can still love his father without becoming like him.
That is what I pray all the time. My son is the most charming, loving son I could have asked for. Without the drama from his dad, my son would have had a great childhood...having both families and a step parent and her family. But Dad is so consumed with evilness...he doesn't see the blessings. Children are blessings! But I'm not going to dwell on it any longer. I must move on. Thanks again for giving me hope.
My children were also "kidnapped" by a cruel and arrogant judge and legal system.
I will continue to sound the alarm to unsuspecting parents and children around the world. The governments that supposedly serve us have become our master. They take our children daily and get away with it.
Hang in there. I can relate because I never wanted to be here as a child and as an Adult going through this pain with my son, I wish I wasn't here. Last year he's father kept him away from me for 9 months..no communication, no hearing his voice. His father just knew that would break me and send me away. I began doing things to help me cope - art and talked to a therapist on a regular. Yes, it would have killed me if I didn't try to help myself. Stay strong, it has to get better one day.
Thanks for the encouragement. I have noticed many times now when working with a parent that has been alienated from their child,that same parent had been alienated from one of their own parents as a child as well.
In my opinion, it has a lot to do with you being vulnerable with a spouse that later turns on you to destroy you. They know just how to hurt you because of what you shared about your own experience and the desire you had that this would NEVER happen to your child...
That makes a lot of sense. He knew exactly how I felt about not having a father growing up. But..sadly, my son's father and I grew up together and his mom was/IS very dominant. She destroyed his relationship with his father so I believe, he thinks this is normal behavior. I can't allow his issues to continue to be mine. It stopped when I began viewing this blog. Thank you :-)
It's really sad when you see the sins of one generation being passed onto the next isn't it?
Sometimes, the very thing we despise is the thing we become. Look around and observe the aftermath of children of divorce, alcoholics, PA and every other imaginable sickness perpetrated on them. The effects are staggering and far-reaching.
One of the saddest things is that most of the time the perpetrator is clueless or could care less, as long as they get their way and agenda...
I am a resident parent and my son's father continously tries to turn him against me and my husband by lying to the child and constantly denigrating me. Supporters of the PAS Theory constantly assert that only non resident parents can be a victim of PAS - this is not the case.
Please be assured that there are MANY of us that know Parental Alienation is not gender specific, nor is it dictated by custody.
An alienating parent will employ these tactics every chance they get, regardless of the situation.
I don't think it does any of us that have experienced PA to fight about how & when it happens MOST of the time. The point is this. It is wrong EVERY single time!
This is about the children, not some needy, sick parent that has to "win" their love.
Excellent video, tear jerker for sure! I'm in a similar-ish situation, seperated by 4,000 miles by a hateful & controlling mother & so-called grandmother. The grandmother is physically and mentally abusive to the children, yet she instilled paranoia in my ex-wife, to the point when my Mother was dying, I couldn't even bring 'our' daughter over to see her - just once.
I haven't held my daughter in nearly 2 years now...
Watching a video like this is all too real for those of us that live with the pain every day isn't it?
I can relate to what kind of a negative influence a grandmother can have on their grandchildren.
Yet there are also countless other excellent and loving grandparents that have been alienated and kept from grandchildren that they love with all their hearts.
It comes down to this, parent or grandparent, will you love or destroy these children in your care?
Absolutely. I know from experience that the vast majority of grandmothers' (grandparents) are excellent.
The grandmother in my situation was the poorest representative of a group (grandparents) one could wish for.
believe me, I don't assume all grandparents to be 'evil' just because one (maternal) grandmother happened to be a nut case with a supremacy complex and need to dominate her grandchildren, and daughter's marriage.
The thing is this people, parental alienation is very real and very sad. My son is a invitro baby. It took us 3 years to create him and close to $50,000.00.
He was a twin, the twin died when i was 20 weeks pregnant. My son is the love of my life and I would die for him today!!!
And now he hates me because his dad tells him to hate me.
I dont have the money to fight his dad in court. Anyone who says parental alienation isnt real needs to kiss thier children and thank god its not YOU.
Yes, parental alienation is all too real. But only to the parents and children that have been decimated by it's poison.
Most judges and attorneys, and EVERY Alienating parent, pretends that it doesn't exist. In spite of overwhelming evidence and pain to the contrary, they continue to deny it's existence or deadly effects.
Some day the truth will be known and there will be hell to pay...
So very much of what the titles said hit me hard! I have had to suffer many of the things - and still do - over and over again...the children cannot be happy about me whilst their Mother is around. She smothers their love for me and everything I do, say or think is wrong in her mind. Even to cutting down the minutes when the kids want to stay longer - she takes every last minute away form us in her little not book, it's so sad and distressing. She even goes to church and forces them to...
Unfortunately, I understand all too well the tactics that a selfish parent will employ to destroy your relationship with your children.
It is sickening to realize just how evil a parent can get in an effort attack the other parent. These parents need professional help. They also need to be held accountable for their abusive actions.
Keep loving your children no matter what. Some day they will realize that she has been poisoning them to achieve her own sick goals.
I miss and love my sons and pray that GOD will reunite us one day....words wont express the tears of Joy I will cry ...this is indeed a hate crime but if parents can only see the damage they cause these innocent loving children. Never give up one day the clouds will clear, for the love of our children never give up the fight no matter how hard it getsthey are innocent in this whole thing called PAS.
I really feel for you hun,you have beautiful boys bless you, i was brought up both parents and step parents hating everyone. Being a child its so hard to speak out when theres hate, i then went through abuse at the hands of these adults!
It must be especially hard for you to hear the rhetoric by those in denial that this abuse even exists.
I am sorry for all that you have been through. Especially at the hands of those that should have been mature and loving enough to protect you instead of harm you for their own selfish purposes...
Your video brought tears to my eyes. It is almost exactly what my children (4 and 7) have gone through. With one major exception - my relationship with them is strong. Why my ex did not succeed? Shower the children with love and gifts, celebrate every minute with them, be your best. React swiftly to any wrong comments about you. Ask children to repeat what she told them in front of witnesses and camera. Take it to court and make it difficult for the clowns in court to ignore it. It worked.
I am very pleased to hear that you've been able to maintain a loving relationship with your children!
And yes, your way of dealing with the situation can be very effective, when the sane and caring parent isn't cut out of the children's life.
Unfortunately, a biased judge with no accountability, almost unlimited power, and an agenda of her own is hard to stop. The truth and what is really best for the children doesn't matter to an arrogant judge with no conscience...
It amazes me that even in the face of thousands of testimonies just like yours,from spouses that have married a "targeted" parent,adult children of alienation, targeted parents, court cases, and psychological data with verifiable facts, that there is still this propaganda machine in place that swears PA doesn't exist!
It's funny, no one denies that hatred, control issues, bias and retribution exist in any other area do they?
damn the high payed high power rotten judges!!Thet shall pay when they meet their maker in the end for all the rotten things theyve done to hurt our kids and go home like nothin happened.
I know the other way around their Father never looked at them again although I tryed God know's
From the age of three years and still I do'nt speak bad about him just to protect my children
My son specialy cryed himself to sleep and made songs trying to sleep mostly in the beginning later they ask themselfs and to me if their Father is not liking them and so on
Now they want to meet him look for him and I think that's good it must be like that
It is sad to hear about the pain and loss your children have suffered because of a father that didn't care.
It is wonderful to hear about a mother that loves her children enough to put their well-being above her own pain and emotions.
For what it's worth, I am very proud of you for doing the right thing by your children. It would have been easy to strike out at the father for his lack of care and concern for you and his children.
Iam not wonderful, I love them and I loved him and they are the children that came out of love at least on my side, so it is not that I am wonderful I try to be to give them the best and hope that they wil be happy and try to teach them how to make a good life for themselfs. Because what many people forget,.. they ( children ) are not your possesion they are people on their own and you just have them for a short time .. so enjoy and be good to them
Again,this is a wonderful video!I am a Mother who is going through this too!I too know 1st hand that it took almost NOTHING for my lying ex to convince the Judge and others to eat up his lies hook, line and sinker to take away my kids and force me to have NO contact with my 5 boys!! I am a righteous mother and my crime is that I turned my life over to God and my EX (atheist)controller FLIPPED out. He told me in my face he would destroy my kids. Judges DO take kids with NO proof!
I was in tears while watching this and I know for sure that PAS takes pace here in the uk as well. My dear son, Elliott, is being alienated from me and it breaks my heart. I am a good dad and to be powerless to stop the slow destruction of our realtionship by a mother who is hell bent on evil is hard to live with. Cecile if you see this film perhaps it will make you think again, but I doubt it will, because you feel only know spite, hate and selfishness in your heart, you are hurting Elliott.
onlylexus 6 days ago
Thanks for posting this video. Not only have I gone through this with my own children, I'm currently going through it with my step-daughter. It amazes me that this has become such an epidemic and there is so very little we can do for these children. Because I thought it was such an important issue I've made it the topic for my research paper. I'd love to talk to you more to find out what other resources are out there.
Michelle
prettywinters 1 month ago
Thanks for posting this video. Not only have I gone through this with my own children, I'm currently going through it with my step-daughter. It amazes me that this has become such an epidemic and there is so very little we can do for these children. Because I thought it was such an important issue I've made it the topic for my research paper. I'd love to talk to you more to find out what other resources are out there.
Michelle
prettywinters 1 month ago
I am so sorry to hear that and just know you are not alone.. I have been living in that pain for close to 3 years... I call all the time and never get to talk to him.. I use youtube!! He sees me, they are dated, he knows Im healthy and missing him and loving him and that I am proud of him! The videos do not lie, she does. Watch them please and consider reaching out like that!!! Chris Belanger to Weston Belanger on google or on youtube.. God Bless..
xpro77 2 months ago
This makes me cry, for you, for me and other parents going through this, and most of all, for the children who are permanently scarred from parental alienation. I am suffering through this right now, and feel so lost. The thing I have always wanted the most, to be a mom, is being stripped away from me over an old vendetta. And my beautiful boys are getting the brunt of the emotional and psychological damage. I miss and love my baby boys so much, thank you for sharing this.
springdaletraining 2 months ago
I have a close friend whose ex is alientating him from his son. She uses him only when she has to because she doesnt have the money for daycare. Other then that she finds every reason why he cannot see his son. Instead of helping find a solution to keep him in his son's life, she tries to control him by saying he is not getting to see his son anymore. What does a parent who has no money do so they can see their child. He was never married to her..it was never a divorce issue..Civil cases cost $
Laelasmom 4 months ago
Most attorneys & women's supporters advise moms to make False Abuse Allegations as normal, primary means to win custody & divorce, winner takes all. 3/4 of divorced DADS in my area experience false allegations PLUS parental alienation.
Most parental alienation accompanies HER false allegations resulting in mothers having sole custody with most dads alienated from their kids.
Most GAL's & other court hangers-on support the rot lest they lose their seat at this banquet on children's flesh.
addvoc8 7 months ago
It has been 4 years 9 months and 25 days since I have seen or held my boys and still the courts do nothing my boys were taken from my home in Mi by their mother to Texas and I have't seen them since except in pics I get of the internet (FB) I just want my Boys back !
bartenderbill40 7 months ago
Can i just say that this is not gender specific. It happens to just as many mothers as fathers. The only common denominator is that the alienating parent is mentally disfunctional.
CaptainJackdaw 7 months ago
My mom had *so many* reasons TO do this to my dad but God bless her in her strength she never said ONE word against my dad. We all figured him out on our owna and came to our own conclusions about him. I am so thankful for my mom and how she handled everything that she went through with my dad. I have dealt with all the other issues of not really having a dad around but the Lord has redeemed what relationship we had a chance for and I can now say at 32 years old that my dad and I hav somethin
roansi1234 10 months ago
Hey... my husband has been going through the same thing... I dont get how alienators can delude themselves into thinking theyre not hurting their own children. the selfishness is sickening. I do wish you could post a video of just from 4:09 on... I think its a perfect explination for exactly what happens.
michellev7676 10 months ago
How to stop Parent Alienation? Solution: Unite and speak with one voice! All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing. Edmund Burke
FatherCanadian 11 months ago
Here I am at 15 years old, I usually keep my emotions under control but at about 4-5 minutes into the video I just broke down crying. I just realized that my mom put me through the same thing. She put a restraining order against my dad, she wouldn't let me talk to him, and she told me that she'll get me a dad who will love me. All of that has passed now, thankfully. I'm not the emotional type, but like I said, this video made me cry. I hope things settle out for you.
dragonmorpheus1 1 year ago 4
it's so difficult to watch your children being put in this position. my ex (a psychologist) made abuse allegations over a dime-size bruise documented to have occurred at daycare.. the coaching of my son was amazing (and disturbing). "I'M afraid of [my first name]." [my first name] hits me." Funny thing - just a few days prior, my son was freaking when I left him at daycare, begging me not to leave him - but when "daddy's" standing there, he's suddenly afraid? It's called COACHING. so sick
tbrcbcac 1 year ago
I am so sorry to see and learn of this great atrocity! I am a Father as well and an Alien! I recently lost legal rights to my son and I refuse to take this bruatily from the gender bias court system and or vindictive mothers. I will continue to figtht for this dad in this video as well as all others.
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bigtonymac 1 year ago
I cried while watching this..
doraemon184 1 year ago
I totally feel you man... Sometimes i feel lost with the hold thing... My son and talk about this all the time... Feels like there nothing you can do... Just take the father out the picture,,, No Rights...
Haha145 1 year ago
Rick, o Rick. I feel your pain. I know exactly what you, Josh and Nick are going through. I know who is the ones that voted unlike.
w1e2s3s4 1 year ago
What a sweet and touching video, it bring to mind a favorite fantasy of mine. In the future, when I am very old. I am sitting one day in living room and a little girl, about 6 or 7 come in and say " Grandpa, it is true that they used to take kids away from their daddies, I say, why yes dear they did. She responds in the same serious but confused look says to me" Didn't they know that was wrong?
with a smile on my face and tears in my eye I say "they do now"!!!
unclefixer 1 year ago
I am extremely sorry for your temporay loss. It is hard to be without your children. At age 14 they may legally chose who they live with and they may choose you because children are usually tired of the parent they are with by that age. You should be happy that they are healthy and alive. You should also be glad that some psychiatrist some where hasn't gotten them into psychotherapy, played cruel mindgames with them, put them drugs, or experimented on them. DHS is not the answer.
IAmbivalanceI 1 year ago
Beautifully Torturous.
I lost my Daughter to her mother and her family as well.
Last time I was with my Daughter was when she was 11. She is now 14.
She hasn't confided with her Brother for the same amount of time.
Why! Because my Son loves me dearly and continues on seeing me . Only comm. that arises are insults and fighting.
My Daughter was neglected by the mother and her family until she ceased to see me anymore.
You can change a mind-but a heart?
I miss you Quinn.
mpesik 1 year ago
Now that your children are teens, they can help you and vindicate you. You can turn the table on their mother and make her pay for her past behavior. When she suffer from the consequences of her own acts and lose the children, she will have nothing but tears to defend herself.
Abusers, women and men, should pay for their misdeeds.
Enough of this Hollywood " women are protectors of children's" crap.
alfalfafalafelmafia 1 year ago
Thanks for sharing it with us. I am a mother of two precious daughters who will be in my heart forever. For four and a halve year we haven't seen eachother. There is no contect at all due to PAS. I wish you all the best and I I hope that one day your sons will know the truth about their father. The loss of all those years will never be faded away however. Do you also often here the frase: 'one they they will surch for you for sure!' As if you may not be sad to have no contact for now!!
Denaderoode 1 year ago
you did a great job on this video.I have posted it on my websight because here family court is so corrupt. They have illegaly terminated my sons rights to his child.It was based on lies and they did not follow family court laws.Her mother is a US Marshall and has plenty of money.They cheated us out of the truth.I had my grandchild living with me until he was 2.I havn't seen him in a year1/2.My heart and my families has been broken.I'm protesting here in SC.
Myredeemeriscoming 1 year ago
IF a parent isn't doing anything wrong to thier kids why would a judge allow a child to be without one of his/her parents. kids need both parents in thier ;ives. This video makes me mad. I couldn't imagine me taking my daughter away from her father even if i didnt want to be with him anymore. She is a mommies girl but she loves her daddy. Your kids are precious and If the mother of your children thinks she is protecting them she is only hurting them and herself in the long run. Keep your head up
Ajasmine20B 1 year ago
mischalke just remeber as soon as they turn 11 they have full rights in the choice of where to live and no parnet can say no which mean the mother can go **** and the courts cant stop him from living with you
shorty7022 1 year ago
You Tube is having problems and I am unable to respond to any comments.
I have notified them, supposdely they are working on the issue.
rnischalke 1 year ago
folks,
it happend to me too ... but after 15 months I had chose a different path.
courts failed me and my child, society and friends failed us too. they act like a herd of wildebeest when attacked by a lion, abandon the fallen one and continue to "pasture" while the raptor is devouring the prey.
woman always act a little like "black widow" but only few are walking the whole nine yards.
mariamarculescu 1 year ago
I cried the entire video. This is what I live everyday! I have been alienatedfor the better part of four years. The last two I have not seen my son at all. I live in PA and my ex has been in contempt of our custody order five times. He has never gotten in trouble! My son is almost 14 1/2 now and I think we are very close to reuniting.
TheKristie111 1 year ago
No ladies...THANK YOU! Papa misses you every second and think of you every second in between. Ohayo gozaimashta & oyasumi nasaii Takon & Kurikito! I love you.
inklove878 1 year ago
@inklove878,
Sorry brother, I know your pain.
I constantly pray for all of the tortured the children that have lost loving parents to this kind of sickness and abuse.
Some day your children will know the truth...
rnischalke 1 year ago
This is a beautiful Video. I can't imagine why a judge would allow this to happen. I wish there. Kids need their father. I am a mom and I am going through a custody battle myself but I would never to this to my child. Never. This video makes me cry and I wish I could do something to help you.
mmckenziec21 1 year ago 4
@mmckenziec21,
Dear Friend,
Thank you for your kindness and compassion .
I am truly sorry fthat you are in the midst of a custody battle yourself. It's very sad to realize how many families have been decimated by divorce and Parental Alienation.
It's the parents that Truly love their children, that would never rip their little hearts out by viciously destroying their relationship with the other parent.
This video makes me cry too...
Bless you.
rnischalke 1 year ago
Your a beautiful dad so don't give up because it'll be your day in court in the future and you will be looking pretty.
dancewheels 1 year ago
dancewheels,
Thank you so much for those words of encouragement and kindness...
I agree that someday there will be that day when God himself will sort out the absolute truth about everything.
Those that hide their lies and acts of sin and abuse now, will have nowhere to run and nowhere to hide on that day. If they hadn't destroyed so many others I would almost feel compassion for them. How very sad.
rnischalke 1 year ago
Thank you. We went through a terrible separation because of the mothers ignoring access orders. Thank God we're now reunited on Facebook. Please drop by and say hello. I'm Chris J. Slater from Vancouver. I thought I would die of a broken heart because of the vile and evil court system that "awards" the children 90% of the time to the mother. I believe and pray the day will come when there will be class action suits against "Family Courts". I love you Cathy, Ken, Chris, Tina and Sarah.
DoItYourselfGuy 1 year ago
DoItYourselfGuy,
I am very sorry that you and your children have suffered so much.
My experience with the courts has been the same as most of the targeted parents that I have met and spoken to. The system is horribly broken and biased.
I wish you and your children the very best! Never stop loving them or reaching out to them Chris...
rnischalke 1 year ago
How old are yours sons now? Do you know where they live? When they are old enough have you ever considered contacting the tv show called the Locator.
I have been estranged from my 3 grandchildren for almost 5 years. I never stop crying. The pain is so great everyday. My son and dil are doing this to me. I have a myspace account and also hope to set up a website in my grandsons name so that maybe some day he will google his own name.
I hope you are reunited with yours sons soon.
joycelmft 1 year ago
joycelmft,
They are 18 & 14 years old. I know where they live but they have been taught for many years to view me as the enemy. Hopefully they are getting to the age that they will be able to figure out the truth of what has happened soon.
As for setting up a site for your grandchildren, go to Google and type in "Keeping Families Connected".
There is a whole section that has complete instructions on setting up a site for the children.
rnischalke 1 year ago
Please do not give up if you are the dad in this situation. I am 21 years old, I am bitter and angry at my father for his lack of effort during my childhood. Not for what anybody told me about him. It will all come out in the wash and your children will appreciate and love you more if they know you tried! My dad didn't send me ANYTHING, not even a birthday card for 10years...it's a long story, but don't give up! my dad and I are sort of getting to know each other now. I think he is ok.
mandi1marie89 2 years ago
mandi1marie89,
My dear friend, I am so sorry that you have experienced this type of a relationship with your father. He has no idea what a blessing he has missed by not making you a priority in his life. I am sorry that you have lost so much because of his issues (whatever they may be). I pray for your continued healing. So much has already been lost, please don't let the past determine your future.
You are special and worthy of his love, whether he ever figures it out or not.
God bless you
rnischalke 2 years ago
@rnischalke thank you very much.Although I did miss out on a dad I do feel like a better person who would nver put my own through this. Something good comes from every situation, I find
mandi1marie89 2 years ago
mandi1marie89,
You have learned so much already. Good for you!
Continue your journey to healing, and as you said, you will be stronger and wiser for your own children.
Thanks for taking the time to comment on my sons videos. I wish you the very best!
rnischalke 1 year ago
I hope that you will have a good relationship with your sons dont worry in time your children will see what you have done.I meet someone and they said that their mom told them he was bad but after 10+ yrs they realize it was the moms fault because she cheated on dad and now they hate her.Basically what I am saying hold strong and in time your sons will see they got a father that cares about them and will ask the mother why she done what she did.I know it will hurt but it will be worth it someday
BraveCoward01 2 years ago
BraveCoward01,
Thank you for your encouragement & kindness. It is much appreciated.
Unfortunately, I have heard many similar stories of children despising and walking away from a parent that has alienated them from one of their parents after they learn the truth of what really happened.
I don't wish that on my sons, or even my ex. I just want my sons to be healthy and whole and to know that I never abandoned them or stopped loving them.
My ex will be accountable to the Lord some day.
rnischalke 2 years ago
Why are the men not getting credit for rising the child? Like I am not hating on women but I think Men just are not giving that much credit on being a good dad. There are dads out there that sometimes go to greater pain just to be with their child I hate this society trash that you only need 1 parent when you know a child needs both parents it's just women now use it as a profi how terrible using a child as a paycheck, only a handful of good women out there same for men no one wants a child now
BraveCoward01 2 years ago
BraveCoward01,
I know many fathers that are better parents than their ex will ever be.
The "agenda" is to de-value a mans worth in the family. How sick is that! Feminist propoganda and garbage.
Having said that, there are many wonderful, well balanced and sane women out there that have been just as abused as men.
They have lost children to the same twisted alienation tactics that fathers experience on a daily basis.
Parental Alienation is the crime, and it's not gender specific.
rnischalke 2 years ago
I know I wish though America wakes up
BraveCoward01 2 years ago
You are getting credit for being a great dad and there are great moms too. I'm a mom and i was alienated from my two sons for 20 years and now i'm with one of my sons and i'm just so happy for my son and I. And yes i'm sure there are dad's out there and also moms. Mom's don't have custody for whatever reasons too.
dancewheels 2 years ago
dancewheels,
Thank you for your kindness.
I am certainly aware that there are many fine mothers as well as fathers that have been alienated from their children.
It doesn't matter who the perpetrator is, what gender they are, or whether they are the custodial or noncustodial parent. ANY parent that would destroy their own child to hurt and control their ex-spouse is sick. And they are abusing their children.
rnischalke 2 years ago
rnischalke,
Your so welcome.
And your right it doesn't matter who the perpetrator is. My other son won't even talk to me about anything that happened in the last 20 years only because he was alienated from me all these years. I will always love him and will always try to keep contact with him but i know it's going to take a longer time with him and if ever. I will always leave the lines of communication open.
dancewheels 2 years ago
dancewheels,
I am still waiting for both of my sons. I will never give up on them. My love for them will never die...
rnischalke 2 years ago
Hi this is a great video and the truth. I lost my daughter year ago to this abuse. I still fight however and do see her occasionally but my daughter is withdrawn and damaged. One day they will come back.
woozilmusic 2 years ago
woozilmusic,
Thanks for your comment and encouragement.
I'm really sorry to hear about your daughter. It's hard for me to even hear you describing her as withdrawn and damaged. Because I know the truth of that statement for so many precious children that have been damaged by their own parents.
Keep the faith. Stay strong and always pray for her and be there in any way that you can.
Some day, you will be her hero again...
Bless you my friend.
rnischalke 2 years ago
I have tried but it impossible for me to watch the full ten minutes of this video . I haven't spoken to my twin sons in ten years. We had our childen late in life, and I was married for 22 years before I finally left. If I had known the terrible cost of that choice I would have stayed, at least until the children were fully grown. I just never imagined this terrible aftermath. I wish I had my sons in my life. I don't. I don't believe I ever will. I pray you do not suffer the same fate.
conquerall59 2 years ago
conquerall59,
Thank you for your words of kindness regarding my sons.
I am very sorry to hear your story of pain and heart break. Like most of us targeted parents, you are learning that your ex will do whatever it takes to destroy you through your children.
It amounts to them taking a spear and shoving through your child's heart to get to you, but they still don't get it.
The saddest part is that I'm not sure it would make a difference even if they did get it...
rnischalke 2 years ago
Be a part of the movement to change courts to do what is in the best interest of the children. Kids can handle a lot in life, but without BOTH parents, they will always grow with an empty feeling. Respect what a man is and what a woman is, they are both different and look at surcumbstances differently. Men are not feminine and woman are not masculine. Don't fall to feminist propoganda. Understand our differences. Google Family Rights and VAWA fraud if you really care.
filez2012 2 years ago
filez2012,
Thanks for your comment. I do agree, children need and eserve both of their parents.
rnischalke 2 years ago
I am disturbed by this video, mostly by the title. THIS IS NOT THE CHILDS PERSPECTIVE. Though it is touching, provacative and even beautiful in many ways it is still a parent "screaming" for his side and his pain to be heard not the childs. Children can communicate if we just slow down and listen to THEM.
Great video, just please change the title so the whole body of work rings true and truth
MrBruceBrothers 2 years ago
MrBruceBrothers,
Thanks for your input and concern.
Obviously you've never been subjected to these tactics or you would easily recognize them being from a child's perpective.
And I understand that intellectually it may seem valid to question if it is just a parent's perpective and not the child's IF you have never been there.
If you read through the comments on this video. You will find children that have been subjected to this abuse validating that it is a child's perspective
rnischalke 2 years ago
Thank you for posting my comment.
I did lose the only woman in the world I ever loved and continue to love through all this pain. 20 years, 3 kids one soulmate. I understand loss, I understand pain.
I only disagree with the title. Not to sound negative but it is just a bit arogant for lack of a better word. I do not want to belabor this point as it has simply been stated and maybe youtube wont let you change a title. I do hope your road ahead leads to healing and fun days.
MrBruceBrothers 2 years ago
Focus on the Family has a community page where you can create discussions about parenting and other issues. To get them on board with PAS if more people wrote to them, maybe they would understand.
pasisabuse 2 years ago
pasisabuse,
Perhaps there will come a day that the Christian community will awake from it's apathy and denial of this form of abuse and call it what it is, sin.
Even in the secular world it is still wrong and abuse no matter how you package it.
It amazes me that so many good people (both secular and Christian) are blind to the truth and effects of this evil.
rnischalke 2 years ago
Your site is wonderful. I feel a connection to you because my daughter is 17, just yesterday I mentioned that same Bible story to the counselor and I have read many of the books that you have shown on the site. I wonder ihow many kids see the truth and how long that takes. Thank you for spending so much time on this. I have bben sending out a power point I created to all who want it. Also I hope Focus on the Family will get on board. If I can help, let me know please!
pasisabuse 2 years ago
pasisabuse,
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words.
If you are at the point that you mentioned that same story to your counselor, and have been forced to make that heart-rending decision, then my heart aches for you.
I remember the pain of doing what needed to be done to protect my sons, because it was the right thing to do, even though it forced me to give up any hope of them learning the truth for many years to come.
You are in my prayers friend...
rnischalke 2 years ago
I am a mother of a 17 year old daughter whose has been alienated by her father and stepmother. On the 19th of Sept. the stepmother backed her body into me on purpose and yelled that I hit her. What I saw when I looked at her was Sayan and felt sad that my daughter has been influenced by this and her father for so long. I wish it was different. I am easy to get along with and try hard to be a good person and parent. My daughter has a lot of misdirected anger and will have a hard time in life.
pasisabuse 2 years ago
pasisabuse,
I am very sorry to hear about how this type of abuse is affecting your daughter. She is the real victim here even though you are the targeted parent.
It is truly amazing the lengths that the alienating parent (and their supporters) will go to in an effort to attack and destroy you isn't it?
Very sick and sad...
rnischalke 2 years ago
I was able to get court ordered counseling for my daughter at a mediation but time was taken away from me due to a letter her father took with him that she wrote. My child has not had a childhood. She has spent hers on a campaign against me for them. The counselor asked my why I continue to allow my daughter to abuse me? It is hard to find someone who has been through this as a counselor. For this I am grateful. Prayers for all abused in this way!
pasisabuse 2 years ago
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trickyourwhip 2 years ago
Its awful what women can get away with, Its the kids who suffer the most. Mothers who do this type of thing should be lined up and shot!
DUmfk2 2 years ago
DUmfk2,
Please read my comment to kenneyhoff37 (below this one).
Also, although Parental Alienation is a horrible form of child abuse, it is not only mothers that are the perpetrators of this crime.
I am contacted daily by fathers AND mothers around the globe that are victimized by this type of attack. Although statistically more mothers may initiate PA tactics, there are many excellent mothers that are on the recieving end of this abuse as well.
rnischalke 2 years ago
maybe shooting them is not the answer then.
Labotomising them may be the answer.
Male or Female, the alienators are sick in the mind!
Its mind cancer.
DUmfk2 2 years ago
Parents that do this type of thing to a child for there own personal satisfaction should be beat on -- to tell a parent their kid is "sick" when there is supposed to be a visit is disgusting, it is not the kids who need a Dr , its the person lying.
kenneyhoff37 2 years ago
kenneyhoff37,
Although I agree with your sentiments 100%, I wouldn't go right to "beating" them. These people may be selfish and even evil, but most of them are already damaged or sick and what they really need is help and accountability.
Our court system is a joke and makes the problem worse not better. But if we resort to striking out at the alienators then we aren't any better than them.
They destroy everyone around them including their own children. And ultimately their own life...
rnischalke 2 years ago
My partner (daughter's father) and I watched this....we are both crying! I can't understand how so many people who go through divorce/separation use the kids as pawns to get back at eachother. Just because a child's mind is so easy to manipulate. They will HATE the person who does these things when they are old enough to realize. Not to mention ruin their lives.
palmina77italiana 2 years ago
palmina77italiana,
I know it seems inconceivable that anyone could do such an evil thing to a child, and yet this problem is global in scope.
My wife and I started a small ministry 1 1/2 years ago. Since that time we have been visited or contacted by over 22,000 people in 112 different countries.
The people that alienate their children are so concerned with meeting their own sick needs, they don't really care about the life changing impact on the precious children invloved.
rnischalke 2 years ago
I can relate. As an adult I see clearly how easy it was for my mother to brainwash us against our father who was truly a good parent. He was always patient and never got angry or beat us. He loved us unconditionally. I feel so hurt by her enjoyment at our pain. She rewarded us when we spoke bad of him and painted herself as the hero who had made sacrifices. After his death we found documents of old old custody papers, where he had made legal moves to get us.
theangrydaughter2 2 years ago
theangrydaughter2,
Dear friend,
I have read your profile. I am so very sorry for all that has been done to you. I wept for you when I read the note to your mom. That one line speaks volumes...
I wish I could help you to forgive her. Not because she desrves it (she doesn't) but for your sake. She has destroyed so much of your life all ready, PLEASE don't let her actions and selfishness consume your heart with bitterness and pain.
Contact me anytime and I'll help you in any way I can.
rnischalke 2 years ago
I am sorry that you have experienced this. My daughter is going through this now but it is her father and stepmother abusing her. I do not think she can handle the pressure so I may have to let her go. If you were her (17) how would you like me to keep contact? About your own mother, I hope you find healing. If we do not have God and His boundaries for living evil can take root.
pasisabuse 2 years ago
pasisabuse,
Go to our ministry website: Google "Keeping Families Connected". We are ranked #1 on the frst page.
You will find a plethura of Parental Alienation resources including a great way to express your love to your daughter when you can't be there.
I was forced to walk away from counseling from my sons because of the pressure they were under from their mother.
We created a website just for them. You can see the site if you go there...
rnischalke 2 years ago
Keep your head and hopes up. These boys of yours will one day realize the truth and who really loves them. Never stop trying and remaining there for them. All the strength to you!
zalmankazor 2 years ago
zalmankazor,
Bless you my friend. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I wish you the best in your journey as well.
rnischalke 2 years ago
HI
I sit here and see so many of these videos of familes being torn apart so heartbreaking I myself have been without my children and this pain just eats up inside me... and my children are confused they are older now teenagers one 18 now and says she dont want children and has no respect for family courts.... my youngest said to cps workers you all have destroyed my life my other one is lost. God bless our children
cocaaaacolaaaa 2 years ago
cocaaaacolaaaa,
I am so sorry to hear about your family and how deeply each of you have been hurt.
I gave up any hope of intelligence in our court system the first time I met with a case worker.
I gave up any hope of justice or of them doing anything that was truly in the best interest of my children the day that I met the judge.
I will add you and your children to the list of people that I pray for. Please don't ever give up...
rnischalke 2 years ago
This video makes me cry all along. I read all the comments and I cannot believe so many fathers or mother are going thru this. My brother is going thru the same experience. His wife abandone him and left with their 3 daughters. He is devastated. He used to spend a lot of time with the girls. Now he only sees them one or two days a week but he notices that they are changing towards him and he is very sad about it. I will pray for all.
geezer061 2 years ago
geezer061,
Thank you for your kind words.
I am very sorry to hear about your brother and his beautiful children.
Anyone that takes the time to read all of the comments on the videos I have posted, can never come away doubting that parental alienation exists.
Sadly, between our website and videos, we have been visited by families from over 112 countries around the world. You have no idea just how rampant this type of abuse is...
rnischalke 2 years ago
Parental Alienation isn't recognized in the UK, still this child abuse is allowed to happen every day to 10's of thousands of our children. Well done on making this video, but we all know what goes on, unfortunatly too many people turn a blind eye, these weak minded people are as sick as the perpratrator in my book!!
mirinanyasdad 2 years ago
mirinanyasdad,
It may not be recognized by those in power, but it is fully recognized by the parents and children that have suffered because of this type of abuse.
I agree, those that stand by and say or do nothing, are endorsing and enabling this type of vile behavior.
rnischalke 2 years ago
I have a lot of things I have written that represent my situation and many others. If you would like copies, let me know. They are too large to post here. I have always sent copies to the custody office as well. They need education too!
pasisabuse 2 years ago
pasisabuse,
go ahead and send them by private message.
rnischalke 2 years ago
That is how it happens, unfortunately. I am a mom who has suffered through watching my daughter be alienated by her father, stepmother and their family. It is sickening. It feels like I have been watching my daughter sink in quick sand but I can not help save her because my hands are tied. Please pray for her. Her name is MacKennah
pasisabuse 2 years ago
pasisabuse,
I am so sorry. We will pray.
One of the most traumatic parts of parental alienation is watching children that you love and would gladly give your life for, be subjected to such cruel abuse by the very people that should be protecting them.
Alienators are predators. And the courts promote and enforce all of it.
Google "Keeping Families Connected" and you will find resorces to help.
rnischalke 2 years ago
very sad mate, its the same in the uk, the dam courts are stealing children for adoption here.
maqam4000 2 years ago
maqam4000,
I don't know about you, but I believe that there will be a final judgement day one day.
This time itt will be at the hands of an eternal and powerful God that has heard every lie and seen every tear. No one will be able to hide behind rhetoric or political shields.
I would not trade places with anyone involved in separating loving parents and children on that day...
rnischalke 2 years ago
It is so nice to see that I am not alone. I miss my children so much and am getting nowhere with the courts. I worry so much about my children's future emotional health...
twinsx2plusone 2 years ago
twinsx2plusone,
Believe me when I say that you are not alone.
Our website and videos have now been viewed by well over 20,000 people in all 50 states and 109 countries to date!
The courts are guilty as can be in their part of this abuse and travesty of justice.
Unfortunately, the sane parent is the only one concerned about these precious children. The alienator and the courts both use these children for their own sick gain.
I am very sorry. God bless you and your children...
rnischalke 2 years ago
PASCRAA,
Thanks for your kind words about the video.
I pray every day for their safety and that we will be reunited.
rnischalke 2 years ago
Brilliant this brought up feelings in me. i hope that one day you and your children can re-establish your relationship.
PASCRAA 2 years ago
Congratulations on a wonderful video and your openess to share your grief. This aweful sickness has to stop. Look after yourself and don't stiop een if it does take years. I am starting the parenta alienation syndrome & child realignment association of australia (PASCRAA)
look out for information and web site soon
you are a good man
Steve
PASCRAA 2 years ago
Steve,
Thank you.
I look forward to looking at your site when it is up. Thanks for your efforts to stop this abuse.
rnischalke 2 years ago
All I can say is never never ever give up being their Daddy, your children will thank you later.
1pillsbury1 2 years ago
1pillsbury1,
Thank you for your kindness and encouragement.
The courts and my ex-wife may be able to keep me from being with my sons, but no one can change the fact that I am their father, and I will never stop loving them.
rnischalke 2 years ago
Well in my situation fighting for custody, im fortunate to have my ex's diarys, her past history of abductions of children from babysitters and her countless blog entries, not to mention her ex husband who went through the same thing as what this woman is putting me through, as well as many other huge pieces of evidence. All that being said i still have to fight toothe and nail to get custody. The system of so far one sided that you need to pretty much marry an axe murderer to get real custody
1pillsbury1 2 years ago
1pillsbury1,
I wish you the very best in your fight to protect your children from your ex and the courts.
I'm not sure who is more vicious or controlling, an out-of-control anlienator or an unaccountable court system!
Thank God that you have some evidence to support that she has major issues as you fight for the children's safety.
In my case, the evidence didn't make a difference. The tyrant that I had for a judge simply refused to hear the evidence (in an evidentiary hearing)...
rnischalke 2 years ago
Excellent video! All your videos are great. I haven't seen my 5 kids in nearly 2 years too. Your two boys will come back to you someday and they will bring their kids to see the grandparent that truly loves his children. The crooked judges and magistrates and "special advocates" and attorneys will all be judged soon by the One that ordained their positions here on Earth. All of them that participated in the plundering of our families will enter a hell much worse than we went through. God Bless.
forfatherlessfive 2 years ago
So similar to what my kids are going through it's unbelievable
jesusislordj 3 years ago
jesusislordj,
I am very sorry to hear of the pain and loss that both you and your children have been subjected to.
I know that it doesnt seem possible that any parent would use their own children as a pawn to attack the other parent, yet the sad truth is that it occurs on a daily basis around the world. There are an awful lot of sick people out there.
Some day the truth will be known to all. No more lies, pretense, court charades or evil. Many of us look forward to that day!
rnischalke 2 years ago
This an amazing, but very sad insight into todays society. My heart goes out to you and any other parents shaing our painful excistance. I have not seen my three darling children for a year, i have missed first words, first school days, birthdays, and christmas. I delivered each one in turn and enjoyed the most beautiful bond. Sadly, i have been failed by the court system. please listen to my song : alan sawyer missing my babies. good luck my friend.
alansawyer500 3 years ago
alansawyer500,
Thanks for your kindness.
I agree, this is an extremely sad insight to our society, country and government.
Someday there will be a day of accountability that not even those in a position of power will escape. They will reap what they have sown.
I can't help but feel the pain in your heart and words. I am sorry my brother...
rnischalke 2 years ago
Your video could not be more exact.I found out about PAS while searching alienation on the web when I started to notice changes in my children.I've tried everything to stop the progression to no avail.Now they barely speak to me-won't eat anything I make or buy.Any gift is shoved in a corner or gone.And nobody in the system helps or listens.I am looked at as the crazy one.But your perseverance inspires me-TY. The mom now called "she"
1969Daremo 3 years ago
1969Daremo,
Thank you for your kind words.
I am glad that my videos help others to realize that they are not alone in this bitter struggle.
I would not wish the hell that you and others like us on anyone. Not even the alienator.
We pray for the children...
rnischalke 2 years ago
It has now been 4.5 months from the date my husband realized I was serious about the divorce and he went into action. It has now been 2 months since I have seen my children other then them getting off the bus into 1 of his family members cars. He sent a letter to his attorney that the children were afraid of me + also threatened to call the police on me. I had no choice but to leave before he could set something up. Plan now is to get the kids through this mentally ok + a relationship somehow.
1969Daremo 2 years ago
1969Daremo,
I am sorry to hear that the alienation tactics are increasing.
The sad reality is that an alienator will stop at nothing to destroy your children's relationship with you. You will never play by the same rules because you actually put your children's welfare first.
It apprears that like so many others, your husband is incapable of loving anyone more than himself. He is willing to destroy his own children in order to strike back at you.
How incredibly sad.
rnischalke 2 years ago
My ex-wife is alianating 8 children from three fathers with false allegations of abuse and even though she continues to get caught lying in court no one seems to give a darn this country is SICK!
1pillsbury1 3 years ago
1pillsbury1,
Just think of the money she is making the courts. Of course no one is holding her accountable!
They reserve their threats of violence and incarceration for the healthy parent, not the alienator!
rnischalke 2 years ago
this struggle is hard my daughter is one month old her mom still haven't let me see her i never met my daughter
shawn8177 2 years ago
shawn8177,
I am sorry.
It's sad. It's all about intimacy and love when the child is conceived but all about hate and control when the emotions change...
rnischalke 2 years ago
yes it is sad..i dont know what to do
shawn8177 2 years ago
I am so sorry for what has happened to your children and you.I found out about PAS while searching the web for tips on how to counteract alienation when I started to see changes in my children.I have been fighting in every way I can find as I watch them slip away more and more each day.The thought of the turmoil going on inside them rips me apart.I won't stop fighting,but sadly neither will an obsessed alienator.
1969Daremo 3 years ago
1969Daremo,
I am so sorry for your pain. Especially for your children.
Some days I can not fathom the depravity of mankind. Who would torture a child in such an Insidious way?
I know that it doesnt seem possible that any parent would use their own child as a pawn to attack the other parent, yet the sad truth is that it occurs on a daily basis around the world. There are an awful lot of sick people out there.
May God bless & heal both you and your children...
rnischalke 2 years ago
Thank you for posting such a touching video. My boyfriend forwarded this to me and I watched it as long as I could before crying. He is the father of 3 boys with his ex-wife that he loves dearly. His time spent with them has decreased over the last 2 years to where he only sees them once or twice a week for only a few hours at a time. His ex uses any angle to her advantage to keep them away. Courts do not want to listen. My apologies to you for having to be affected by your ex's actions...
palavocat 3 years ago
palavocat,
You are most welcome. I hope that it will help everyone that watches it to realize just how insidious and real this form of abuse is.
PAS is VERY real, and those that abuse their children (and those that support them in this effort) are destroying these precious ones.
I feel for you and your boyfriend but most of all for the children. No child deserves to be manipulated and used as a pawn to make a depraved parent feel better about themselves...
rnischalke 3 years ago
OMG thats horrible!!
she is abusing your children!!
isnt there any justice in this world?
what are they thinking?
Honestly im crying right now
i wish i can help...
praying everything goes well and get your precious children back full time
xxx
sarofan 3 years ago
sarofan,
Yes it is abuse.
No, there isn't any justice. Our system is horribly corrupt and has it's own agenda.
Thank you for your prayers and tears.
Someday there will be a day of accountability that not even those in a position of power will escape. They will reap what they have sown.
I pray for their sakes that they will turn from their evil ways and get right with the Lord before it is to late.
rnischalke 3 years ago
I can't thank you enough. I'm slowly finding out why my daughter doesn't want to see me anymore; A loving,caring father who was always there-teaching, learning, imagining, creating.I thought I was in pain-I can't imagine what she's going through. Every lawyer, judge, and mediator involved in family court should see this.Best wishes to you and your future..and most of all to your children. All the children. May just one alienating parent see this and recognize and have the courage to change
lampoonatic 3 years ago
lampoonatic,
I'm sorry to hear about your beautiful daughter.
I don't have to try to describe the pain that an alienated parent is in from this form of abuse, you live with it every day just as I do. But you are right, our pain is NOTHING compared to theirs. The repercussions of this evil will affect many generations to come. All to make some sad and sick "parent" feel better about themselves.
I'm not sure who I pity more the alienated parent or the pathetic alienator in their sickness
rnischalke 3 years ago
The perpetrators of Parental Alienation are simply mentally disturbed.
I've uploaded a home video that actually shows how PAS can turn a child against her baby half-sister.
Infiltrator2K 3 years ago
Infiltrator2K,
It was very telling to watch that video. It is never normal or healthy for two children that age (especially siblings) to interact that way.
You don't need to be a professional to figure that out. Anyone who has ever been a parent can attest to that. The older sister has obviously been "programed" not to respond to her younger sister.
I think the term "mentally disturbed" to describe a parent that would do such a thing is a bit mild...
rnischalke 3 years ago
I guess society have forced that definition upon us. If some one does something particularly good then they are Saint, however, if it's evil then they are mentally disturbed.
Infiltrator2K 3 years ago
No excuses, just evil...
rnischalke 3 years ago
Beautiful and moving video. I hope and trust you will see them again. Love and peace.
jpsmpsn 3 years ago
jpsmpsn,
Thanks. I appreciate your kind words very much...
rnischalke 3 years ago
I have sent this video to my friends, no child should be used as a weapon by any
Parent, its the child that feels the hurt the most, I know that only to well.
childlostdad xx
childlostdad 3 years ago
childlostdad,
Thank you for sharing the message in this video with others.
You are right, n child should suffer such horrible abuse. I am sorry that you have suffered on both ends of this tragic crime.
rnischalke 3 years ago
I last saw my dad as a child when I was 6 y/o. I made sure my son would know both parents by any means necessary. My son's father has been terrible and was never a true parent for our son. Yet, he saw him more than the court ordered. He owed over 16 thous in child support and still saw him..and continued to make life a living hell for me and our son. Today, Dad successfully turned our son against me since I allowed for a trial custody for 1 year only in 2006. Another generation failed.
MHMovingON 3 years ago
MHMovingON,
Thanks for doing everything you could to protect and make a difference in your son's life.
Thanks for being the PARENT that he needed, instead of the selfish, twisted needy parent that "used" him to meet their own selfish needs.
It may not be soon, and it may not even be in this life, but judgement day will come for each and every abuser out there. And that includes those that work in our court system...
rnischalke 3 years ago
Thanks for the encouragement because I often feel like giving up completely...but I will not. I pray, cry and talk about my situation to remain sane. My son was my life, my world..but I had to stop allowing his father to keep drama and division even if it meant to stop seeing my son..Dad told him he didn't have to see me so once a month, my son acts like it's wrong that I'm "making" him see me. He's 16 and lived with Dad since 13. Sadly, Dad lived up to my expectations of keeping drama going.
MHMovingON 3 years ago
MHMovingON,
You are welcome. I am sorry that the attack is relentless. The abuser is never satisfied until they completely destroy the relationship the children have with the healthy parent.
The worst part is, they usually pretend that they are "protecting" the child. In reality, they are simply using the children to accomplish their sad and twisted goals.
Some day your son will recognize the difference between his father and you. He can still love his father without becoming like him.
rnischalke 3 years ago
He can still love his father without becoming like him.
That is what I pray all the time. My son is the most charming, loving son I could have asked for. Without the drama from his dad, my son would have had a great childhood...having both families and a step parent and her family. But Dad is so consumed with evilness...he doesn't see the blessings. Children are blessings! But I'm not going to dwell on it any longer. I must move on. Thanks again for giving me hope.
MHMovingON 3 years ago
apekatter,
I am so sorry.
My children were also "kidnapped" by a cruel and arrogant judge and legal system.
I will continue to sound the alarm to unsuspecting parents and children around the world. The governments that supposedly serve us have become our master. They take our children daily and get away with it.
It needs to end...
rnischalke 3 years ago
hi I am an Adult Survivor of Parental Alienation Syndrome & a Lost Father. this is very real very painfull...its killing me.
jupitergimstruedad 3 years ago
jupitergimstruedad,
I am so sorry. Sometimes I wonder if we as a people will ever get it.
No matter how you justify it, abusing a child to make yourself feel better is wrong every time.
Standing by and watching others destroy their children and not saying or doing anything to hold them accountable is almost as bad.
I am really sorry that you experienced this abuse as a child first and now as an adult. My prayers go out to you and your family.
rnischalke 3 years ago
Hang in there. I can relate because I never wanted to be here as a child and as an Adult going through this pain with my son, I wish I wasn't here. Last year he's father kept him away from me for 9 months..no communication, no hearing his voice. His father just knew that would break me and send me away. I began doing things to help me cope - art and talked to a therapist on a regular. Yes, it would have killed me if I didn't try to help myself. Stay strong, it has to get better one day.
MHMovingON 3 years ago
MHMovingON,
Thanks for the encouragement. I have noticed many times now when working with a parent that has been alienated from their child,that same parent had been alienated from one of their own parents as a child as well.
In my opinion, it has a lot to do with you being vulnerable with a spouse that later turns on you to destroy you. They know just how to hurt you because of what you shared about your own experience and the desire you had that this would NEVER happen to your child...
rnischalke 3 years ago
That makes a lot of sense. He knew exactly how I felt about not having a father growing up. But..sadly, my son's father and I grew up together and his mom was/IS very dominant. She destroyed his relationship with his father so I believe, he thinks this is normal behavior. I can't allow his issues to continue to be mine. It stopped when I began viewing this blog. Thank you :-)
MHMovingON 3 years ago
MHMovingON,
It's really sad when you see the sins of one generation being passed onto the next isn't it?
Sometimes, the very thing we despise is the thing we become. Look around and observe the aftermath of children of divorce, alcoholics, PA and every other imaginable sickness perpetrated on them. The effects are staggering and far-reaching.
One of the saddest things is that most of the time the perpetrator is clueless or could care less, as long as they get their way and agenda...
rnischalke 3 years ago
I am a resident parent and my son's father continously tries to turn him against me and my husband by lying to the child and constantly denigrating me. Supporters of the PAS Theory constantly assert that only non resident parents can be a victim of PAS - this is not the case.
atomicsnowflake 3 years ago
atomicsnowflake,
Please be assured that there are MANY of us that know Parental Alienation is not gender specific, nor is it dictated by custody.
An alienating parent will employ these tactics every chance they get, regardless of the situation.
I don't think it does any of us that have experienced PA to fight about how & when it happens MOST of the time. The point is this. It is wrong EVERY single time!
This is about the children, not some needy, sick parent that has to "win" their love.
rnischalke 3 years ago
Excellent video, tear jerker for sure! I'm in a similar-ish situation, seperated by 4,000 miles by a hateful & controlling mother & so-called grandmother. The grandmother is physically and mentally abusive to the children, yet she instilled paranoia in my ex-wife, to the point when my Mother was dying, I couldn't even bring 'our' daughter over to see her - just once.
I haven't held my daughter in nearly 2 years now...
mathewskarl 3 years ago
mathewkarl,
Watching a video like this is all too real for those of us that live with the pain every day isn't it?
I can relate to what kind of a negative influence a grandmother can have on their grandchildren.
Yet there are also countless other excellent and loving grandparents that have been alienated and kept from grandchildren that they love with all their hearts.
It comes down to this, parent or grandparent, will you love or destroy these children in your care?
rnischalke 3 years ago
Absolutely. I know from experience that the vast majority of grandmothers' (grandparents) are excellent.
The grandmother in my situation was the poorest representative of a group (grandparents) one could wish for.
believe me, I don't assume all grandparents to be 'evil' just because one (maternal) grandmother happened to be a nut case with a supremacy complex and need to dominate her grandchildren, and daughter's marriage.
mathewskarl 3 years ago
The thing is this people, parental alienation is very real and very sad. My son is a invitro baby. It took us 3 years to create him and close to $50,000.00.
He was a twin, the twin died when i was 20 weeks pregnant. My son is the love of my life and I would die for him today!!!
And now he hates me because his dad tells him to hate me.
I dont have the money to fight his dad in court. Anyone who says parental alienation isnt real needs to kiss thier children and thank god its not YOU.
JJZeune 3 years ago
JJZeune,
Yes, parental alienation is all too real. But only to the parents and children that have been decimated by it's poison.
Most judges and attorneys, and EVERY Alienating parent, pretends that it doesn't exist. In spite of overwhelming evidence and pain to the contrary, they continue to deny it's existence or deadly effects.
Some day the truth will be known and there will be hell to pay...
I am sorry for your pain.
rnischalke 3 years ago
So very much of what the titles said hit me hard! I have had to suffer many of the things - and still do - over and over again...the children cannot be happy about me whilst their Mother is around. She smothers their love for me and everything I do, say or think is wrong in her mind. Even to cutting down the minutes when the kids want to stay longer - she takes every last minute away form us in her little not book, it's so sad and distressing. She even goes to church and forces them to...
avonrangemaster 3 years ago
avonrangemaster,
Unfortunately, I understand all too well the tactics that a selfish parent will employ to destroy your relationship with your children.
It is sickening to realize just how evil a parent can get in an effort attack the other parent. These parents need professional help. They also need to be held accountable for their abusive actions.
Keep loving your children no matter what. Some day they will realize that she has been poisoning them to achieve her own sick goals.
rnischalke 3 years ago
I miss and love my sons and pray that GOD will reunite us one day....words wont express the tears of Joy I will cry ...this is indeed a hate crime but if parents can only see the damage they cause these innocent loving children. Never give up one day the clouds will clear, for the love of our children never give up the fight no matter how hard it getsthey are innocent in this whole thing called PAS.
zemrat9297 3 years ago
zemrat9297,
I am so sorry for you and your sons. I pray that you will get to cry those "tears of joy" very soon...
rnischalke 3 years ago
I really feel for you hun,you have beautiful boys bless you, i was brought up both parents and step parents hating everyone. Being a child its so hard to speak out when theres hate, i then went through abuse at the hands of these adults!
alimags123 3 years ago
alimags123,
Thank you for your kindness.
It must be especially hard for you to hear the rhetoric by those in denial that this abuse even exists.
I am sorry for all that you have been through. Especially at the hands of those that should have been mature and loving enough to protect you instead of harm you for their own selfish purposes...
rnischalke 3 years ago
Your video brought tears to my eyes. It is almost exactly what my children (4 and 7) have gone through. With one major exception - my relationship with them is strong. Why my ex did not succeed? Shower the children with love and gifts, celebrate every minute with them, be your best. React swiftly to any wrong comments about you. Ask children to repeat what she told them in front of witnesses and camera. Take it to court and make it difficult for the clowns in court to ignore it. It worked.
AugustusAlfa 3 years ago
AugustusAlfa,
I am very pleased to hear that you've been able to maintain a loving relationship with your children!
And yes, your way of dealing with the situation can be very effective, when the sane and caring parent isn't cut out of the children's life.
Unfortunately, a biased judge with no accountability, almost unlimited power, and an agenda of her own is hard to stop. The truth and what is really best for the children doesn't matter to an arrogant judge with no conscience...
rnischalke 3 years ago
I feel for you sweetie, My hubbys exwife did that with my hubby's kid, his son is so brainwashed we haven't seen him in 5 years...
great video!!
bentleygirl22 3 years ago
bentleygirl22,
Thanks for taking the time to comment and share.
It amazes me that even in the face of thousands of testimonies just like yours,from spouses that have married a "targeted" parent,adult children of alienation, targeted parents, court cases, and psychological data with verifiable facts, that there is still this propaganda machine in place that swears PA doesn't exist!
It's funny, no one denies that hatred, control issues, bias and retribution exist in any other area do they?
rnischalke 3 years ago
damn the high payed high power rotten judges!!Thet shall pay when they meet their maker in the end for all the rotten things theyve done to hurt our kids and go home like nothin happened.
pea8vey 3 years ago
I know the other way around their Father never looked at them again although I tryed God know's
From the age of three years and still I do'nt speak bad about him just to protect my children
My son specialy cryed himself to sleep and made songs trying to sleep mostly in the beginning later they ask themselfs and to me if their Father is not liking them and so on
Now they want to meet him look for him and I think that's good it must be like that
never speak bad about the parent who is not there
fatsoela 3 years ago
fatsoela,
It is sad to hear about the pain and loss your children have suffered because of a father that didn't care.
It is wonderful to hear about a mother that loves her children enough to put their well-being above her own pain and emotions.
For what it's worth, I am very proud of you for doing the right thing by your children. It would have been easy to strike out at the father for his lack of care and concern for you and his children.
Bless you, you are a wonderful parent...
rnischalke 3 years ago
Iam not wonderful, I love them and I loved him and they are the children that came out of love at least on my side, so it is not that I am wonderful I try to be to give them the best and hope that they wil be happy and try to teach them how to make a good life for themselfs. Because what many people forget,.. they ( children ) are not your possesion they are people on their own and you just have them for a short time .. so enjoy and be good to them
fatsoela 3 years ago
Again,this is a wonderful video!I am a Mother who is going through this too!I too know 1st hand that it took almost NOTHING for my lying ex to convince the Judge and others to eat up his lies hook, line and sinker to take away my kids and force me to have NO contact with my 5 boys!! I am a righteous mother and my crime is that I turned my life over to God and my EX (atheist)controller FLIPPED out. He told me in my face he would destroy my kids. Judges DO take kids with NO proof!
lisahere123 3 years ago