N-word F-word D-word

[Plautus123]

I really like to learn english from you, I can teach you german, how you think about that?

[delu5i0n]

im not even watching this dumb fucking video , there is no f word and no D word wtf is that but there is a n word and lifes times of history behind it . a fagg is a fagg and whever that d word shit is. dont try and make less of blk slavery

[Justagameweplay]

`LOL..

I"m laughing....I can't figure out why people think to say the "N" word is any better than just saying the word itself...We all know what it means and can spell.

If I had walked into my home and told my Mother "so and so called me the "B" word. I'd have been in trouble.

I don't like the word nigger, nigga or any other term people want to use derived from the original.

Xenophobic people are cowards with a huge dose of megalomania.

I'm glad we're not all alike...flowers aren't!

[BlacKHebrewGod44]

notwhite people are the EDOMITES that the BIBLE speaks of

[Armymaniskool]

thank you this is exactly how I feel

[lordtroah]

Old vid but i thought it was pretty neat. I live in the Bronx, for the most part is pretty diverse (black, white, asian, spanish). Thing about it is that -everyone- says the nigger (no need to mask it) in one form or another. Although, if you are not black or sometimes spanish, it isnt a word you would say to people you do not know (more specifically, black or maybe spanish), it becomes a general term. I personally do not use it nor condone it. But my beef is when it becomes a racist term and

[lordtroah]

when it doesnt. There will never be a change as long as it is conditional (a long with fag, gay, etc.) It can be ok some of the times, but not other times. Hence the controversy. Thats where the confusion begins. Why can I say nigger and you can't? Why can my friend say fag and gay and i can't? Why are these words conditional? The people who should be offended are only offended when people who arent their "type" or "kind" or are "in." But its ok amongst themselves. Change starts from within.

[lehcar74]

I am the one Mooney tells to shut up on the show. Please take a look at my video and learn more about how I really feel

[historylady71]

The n-word is over used, and incorrectly used so often. I am white, teach in an inner city school and have been called the n-word many times, but black students. It never stops shocking me. Dr. Phil is a nerd, but sometimes he makes sense.

[blubutterfly07]

i agree 100 percent, it is how your are taught to treat others

"doctor" Phil does grate on my nerves though with his expressions and stupid sayings

[72161060463]

you are so such astupid person.(curiosity?)THOSE DUMB afro americans wonder if you change color. give me a break, take it from someone who was in a high school with a 50/50 mix who was beat up spit on and stolen from in the late 70s. you ask why are you racist ? they are animals and the good are few and far between.

[Ciaramonai]

Your the idot. You dont even know how to spell. It's actually African American... not Afro American. Your a racist.

[Treccorana]

Before you tell someone else they cannot spell, you need to proof-read your comments or better yet, learn proper grammar.

When you say "you are" it's not "your", it's "you're"

[ProtoCosmos]

The intl society of English word definitions(or whomever)should officially change the definition of the word to mean "white person".That way blacks would stop calling each other it,and whites wouldn't have an emotional attachment to it. Whites typically address one another by their names anyway,but they then could frolic about singing the word aloud to their hearts content. Or change the definition to mean "Daffodill". Then eventually,no one would say it,unless they were into horticulture.

[angie8675309]

I was raised poor in N.C. Several years of my childhood was spent living in the "projects". I was the only white child in my kindergarten class and that was just a fact of life. We were all the same...poor. I've heard the word spoken out of love and friendship and I've heard it spoken out of hatred and ignorance. The latter towards myself also because I was in a mixed marriage. It doesn't have a place in my vocabulary.

[krazytaru]

amen. the n-word peoples can be of any color.

[BEAST1EC]

UR an idiot Krazytaru n word is only blacks and hispanics wich where the most slaves, and very few of others, n word is remaind for those racises, and what i say is that words like spik ect racisim towards hispanics and the n word wich i am black and hispanic those only we can say and whites can say their own, so forth for koreens ect. and just have people who r not that race get fuckin arested cuz im tired of it.

[krazytaru]

no your just full of shit... only a racist would say shit like that.

[Treccorana]

Steph, you look like you SMELL

[SheilasHatersMates]

There are a lot of white people in Australia, I didn't realize until I started traveling and seeing the diversity that the rest of the world has.

[SheilasHatersMates]

I grew up knowing the N word was unacceptable, my g'ma was a tiny woman, less than 5' but I will always remember her kicking a 6'2" man out of her house for using it.

[Bikermom69]

great vid Steph!

[RadicalComedy]

In our culture we say that words can not hurt us. If I declared that words could not hurt us, then I must also declare that that words can not inspire us. I am sure lovers of literature from poetry to prose, would argue heavily against such thinking. I think in life, we just fight to be less injured through the understanding of the source of our injuries which is survival skill obtained often through suffering. We should never deny the power of language. ~RAven

[earlaweese]

steph thats so sad.. :( you're my favorite

[StephStance]

it was a positive ting in the end..:o)

[missdivinestalls]

You can't go to the Chinese buffet if there's no duck sauce! I love Phil-isms.

[dl737]

You've got to be taught to hate and fear You've got to be taught from year to year It's got to be drummed in your dear little ear You've got to be carefully taught You've got to be taught to be afraid Of people whose eyes are oddly made And people whose skin is a different shade You've got to be carefully taught You've got to be taught before it's too late Before you are six or seven or eight To hate all the people your relatives hate You've got to be carefully taught From South Pacific -

[LilCav68]

Danny, ironically a prof in an undergrad class a prof told us that South Pacific was a racist musical.

[dl737]

I had one tell me Fiddler On the Roof was anti-Semitic. Go figure.

[LilCav68]

BAHAHA.. well, you know me. I disagreed with him but I was the only one in the room who had seen it. The rest of the students were 19/20 yrs old. I also had a prof tell me a few yrs ago while I was taking a class at University of Dayton that it was not a Catholic college all the while a crucifix hung over the doorway. OHHHMYYYYGAWWDDDD. LOL

[StephStance]

woW,,, I can not imagine

[StephStance]

no way,,, I love that movie

[intensity1024]

So true.

[Treccorana]

You're a hypocrite. If you don't like people calling you names, but you think it's OK for those who know you to call you names, you should look up the term-DOUBLE STANDARD.

[emaaaa17]

i agree with what you said about people throwing around the word fag. I find it hard to stand up for myself, as a gay teenager its a constant struggle as where i live 'thats gay' is said frequently.

[StephStance]

yeah...I heard my nephew say "that's so gay" and I had to talk with him....

They should say stuff like "that's Rad,or cherry,or weak" and leave the offensive words out of it all.

[emaaaa17]

yeah but i hate how gay is used as to mean something thts shit.

[Treccorana]

Someone ought to have a talk with you.

[000dgtlkttn000]

Brilliant video! 5*

[StephStance]

Thanks

000dgtlkttn000

[Syndee68]

People assume you and I were raised red neck back woods style because we are white and from Texas.

[ohveryyoung]

I also think racists are a "dying breed"...seems like the older a person is, the more likely it is they are racist. of course you still have you frat boy preppy type pricks out there who are racist....it's just become less common i think. i hear ya on the dr. phil thing.." I don't cayer how flat ya make a payan-cake~ it's got two sides!!" duhhh....

[JaYnEsAyZ]

i love you steph :)

[AVSow08]

Yeah i don't like the word either.

But obviously being an 18 year old black girl

who grew up near detroit...i hear it all the time lol But even when i hear it passed between "friends" its hard not to feel disappointed, because that word represented a lot of pain and now it's just used as slang, but that presents problems for some people who also want to use it, then black people take it offensively, its just a pretty bad cycle

[lovie2000]

great Video...

I tend to think that it doesn't matter what color or race you are....if you're an asshole you're an ashole and so on.......

[xe1881]

Where i come from you have "Niggers" and you have "White Trash" or the "mexicans". i try to stray from these terms of racially based hate. i am no racist by any means. and i agree to what you said to an extent, but i do not think all of the blame goes on the parents. People pick things up from around the way, and develop their own habits as they grow older. anyways just my thought, love ya steph, keep doin what you are doing best.

Chris.

[LezVirgoBaby]

The ass hole remark is to limewire01

[LezVirgoBaby]

Oh my god! I'm a white, red headed lesbian. Kids made fun of because of my read hair and freckles. Often was shit on by different nationality of children. Just because my hair stood out like a sore thumb. Even my black teachers were hatefully towards me. That is something that stuck in my head. One of them made me bend over in class so that she could beet me with a thick wooden stick across my ass because I screemed in class due to a big black boy stomped on my foot hard!She did nothing to him.

[limewire01]

Dyke

[LezVirgoBaby]

YOUR AN ASS HOLE! :0)

[limewire01]

Your Mom Ripped You A New Asshole Last Night Night!

[LezVirgoBaby]

limewire01 you are a dick with no brains!

[limewire01]

Yes I Do Have A Dick,No,I Dont Have A Brain,Thank You Bitch!

[LezVirgoBaby]

limewire01, Your just a fart in the wind!!!!! LOL....

[FantasticPhotos]

you made five or more comments in a row (spammer) do you want steph's attention? it seems that you are wanting her attention so bad enough to make comment after comment...are you frusterated that she isnt answering you? let me ask you what is your purpose for thrashing her? is it that you are a racist or you are just mean?

[LoweliLalani]

If she is no dyke but I am.

[limewire01]

Good For You Dyke!

[LezVirgoBaby]

limewire01, why don't you go play with the other "little" boys and leave the mature alone! Or are you so board you just want to make a fool of your self. Or should I say an "Ass hole of your self".......

[limewire01]

Hahaha Mature,Not,And No,Im More Mature Then All You People Put Together!Why Dont You Jerk Off And Leave

[LezVirgoBaby]

Well first of all, I don't got the dick, but I do have the brains! What you are saying is very immature, and your words show who you really are. A young punk that has nothing better to do that to show how immature he truly is. So Sad! Go ahead and make a dick out of your shelf, this is all I will say. "You have a lot of growing up to do. Your words don't hurt me, they will in time hurt you....

[Treccorana]

Where's the "second of all"?

[MISSBEBEBLUE]

Now, yal STOP....limewire01 has no one in his life that loves him, they all gave up on him along time ago. You see, he was born with a very serious case of DUMBASS and constantly has to deal with relapses. It always brings tears to my eyes and pain to my heart when I think about it.

[StephStance]

lol...that's right...I hear it effects numerous people who have no idea that they are infected.

[limewire01]

Fuck You,And Your Dick,You Have A Dick!

[StephStance]

oh look at you little boy...are you that hungry for attention?

how about you be daring and make a video...lets hear what ya gotta say.

[limewire01]

Maybe I Will Make A Video.

Bitch Ass Dyke

[limewire01]

So Is Your Ass,Just A Bitch In The Wind!

[19andrew80]

You are not funny 'limewire01'.

[limewire01]

Hahahahahaha,Your Face Is Funny!

[Syndee68]

If you were my son I would bust your ass!

[limewire01]

If I was Your Son,I Would Kick Your Ass!

[OSA503]

Cont....Don't get me wrong we are still the BLACK SHEEP of the family, but considering where they were in their ignorance, they have came along way. My mom especially has come along way. I am trying my best to raise my children to be as open minded as possible.

[OHTXAZ]

When I was in high school, Yes, back when dinasaurs roamed, One of Our Teachers had Us put Our heads down, and asked who among Us would date a black person, and had Us raise Our hand if We would. I often wonder about the results. I know I raised My hand, then wondered how it would affect Me if others knew. I remember as a child hearing the Eeenie Meeenie Mineeey Mo thing with "Catch A N by His toes" I was actually surprised later when I heard "Tiger" used insted of "N". ;0)

Roberta

[OSA503]

I was raised in a racist home, my parents basically told us anybody different isn't as good. I always knew that the way they thought was wrong. I learned very young that people are people and you should judge them only on what kind of person they are. The good news is people can change the way they think. My family is accepting of my hispanic hubby and our children.

[selinauno]

I think my son was 7 yrs old before I told him anything about race...I had always homeschooled him ...but then in the 2nd grade I sent him to public school...the school was 77% black...He never knew the difference..He never said a word about all those kids being a different color. it just never occured to him that they were different. But the minute I heard a bunch of them at a teachers conference calling each other nigger..that's when I brought him home and told him about the difference. >>>

[selinauno]

continued...

I was afraid that he would start saying nigger and get his ass kicked because that is unacceptable to black people if a white person calls them nigger. they can say it, but we can't. He said that he never noticed the color difference. He just noticed that there were some kids he liked and some that he didn't . he said he didn't care what color they were. so that's good. :o)

[MISSBEBEBLUE]

you be a white people?

[StephStance]

Yes I am BUT when you are use to see so many verities of people,it is strange to see so much of one color...

[MISSBEBEBLUE]

I do understand, when I saw a picture of myself at a University of Hawaii gathering I realized that I was the only one in the picture that looked like white people. When you are emerged in such a diverse community like that, it never crosses your mind.

Jacque Cousteau said once that the USA should turn all the battleships into dormitories and send our young people to different parts of the World for a least a year. I will never forget that...I believe it would make for a better World!

[StephStance]

I would agree with That... I think ever person in the US should go abroad for one year after high school.They would learn so much.

[proudyke]

For me, what a person is taught only flies til they're 18. That's because (usually) they are still living at home or w/parents/guardians. So yes, I understand about toeing the line. After that, I expect people to experience real life. Question what they've been taught. Figure out the wrongs of life and not perpetuate them. As a 6 year old in Detroit,I was called a 'nigger lover' because a lot of my friends/neighbors were black.....

[proudyke]

...I was confused at the kids/people saying that, because for me, these friends were my friends-color was not a factor in determining that friendship. So much work put into negativity. That's why I try living my life as positively as possible. There is so much goodness in love, and love is infinite, pass it on!

[StephStance]

Color was never a factor with me or my friends.I think all of us pretty much represented the globe...

[Gemm73]

I don't like Dr Phil either. Things are black and white with him with. He doesn't seem to leave room for the uncertainty which is sometimes part of life.

[StephStance]

you are right... and some times things are a little more complicated...

[midnightmlk]

I will subcribe to your videos... they are very insightful,honest and real... i like hearing what you got to say .. thanks for your videos...

[StephStance]

any time

midnightmlk

[FantasticPhotos]

very well done...I cant even say the "N" word and it really bothers me to even hear it...and Im glad you grew up understaning the "curiosity" of that mean child..you were small...that must of been so tramatizing for you...but it is glad that you didnt carry it with you in a negative way..

[StephStance]

hearing it is hard for me as well...

[lestube001]

this is a very powerful video well done.

[StephStance]

thank you

lestube001

[ItalianStallionette]

Fantastic vlog... There isn't one thing you said that I didn't agree with. You're spot on. I like to word idiot too.. I say it all the time when I'm driving.. I'm sorry that happened to you when you were little... It's must have been very scary..

[StephStance]

yeah ...that word can apply to so many... love it,us it.... a lot!

"idiot" the best word

[msscience]

Yes when the hateful people are gone!! Love that! Cant wait! Missed the show.. these types of discussion is good for america so we realize that 'we live together as brothers, or perish together as fools,' MLK. Great vid Steph!

[StephStance]

If you ever come to Fort Worth..EVER...please let me meet you.... I would love that.

[msscience]

sure thing woman. time has a way of making the world smaller :)

[bearr7]

how many time do i have tell you how beauitful you are

[StephStance]

coming from you??? NEVER!

I like it to much for you to stop. :o)

[lthrdyke6]

DYKE! ;)

[StephStance]

mwahhhhh

[izzysmart]

the n word in the wrong way is bad, same as f word i agree with you. As far as me and my sexual preference i take no notice as i think its more the person problem who is saying it. I usually say if you dont like it dont talk to me lol,

[StephStance]

That's a good way to tackle it

izzysmart

[izzysmart]

it seems to work :)

[terriboi4]

Good Chat.

[mtamorphis]

How you were taught...you said it right there, Steph! Good talk, I enjoyed listening!

[StephStance]

I think people allow one experience to set the stage for the rest of their life... my mom told me that they only did that because they were curious..... and that made all the difference.

[twish1999]

Actually my parents generation were quite racist, but then they had lived through the war, but i made up my own mind that racism is just plain wrong and so i have never been racist

[Dlorezzz]

That is interesting Trish . I was raised in the south where all people are expected to be racist but I was not raised that way. As you know my family was very poor and we lived next door to black people and socialized with them. We had more in common with the poor black people in our area than we did with working class white people. Thanks God I was not raised to discriminate because of color.

[twish1999]

I always remember my Mothers disapproval if a black man married a white woman or a white man married a black woman because she would say their children would be 'pickaninny's'.

I think it was just their generations thinking though, because i do not think like that at all

[Dlorezzz]

Well now that you mention it, there were no interracial marriages back then where I lived. We interacted but both knew the boundaries. Thanks for pointing that out to me. I had forgotten.

[OHTXAZ]

My Mother, though She told Us not to discriminate, always said that if You have sex with a black person, You forever have the possibility of bearing a black baby. Of course, She told Us that if We had sex before marriage, We wouldn't enjoy it after. ;0)

Roberta

[StephStance]

I think that is because of what they experienced and they attached to a certain people.

[geroldkid]

Derogatory words don't offend him at all(I guess you can say I've been "densenitized"), but it's more of the way they think that bothers me more than anything. I don't think we should limit offensive words, but that's my opinion.

[StephStance]

but isn't what comes out of a person's mouth just a taste of what's in their head?

[thenudo]

Well said Steph, and I agree 100%. Racism is a big BIG problem. I see it unfortunatly every week in some form with news stories we do at work. I long for the day it will end - but don't really see it...and thats sad.

[StephStance]

I think that poverty plays a BIG roll in a lot of this.

[TrueBlueAustralian]

Well said ..!!! But i don't know if time is the answer, wont it just be passed down from generation to another.

[StephStance]

In today's world I think it is hard to be this way because of the work force... You come into contact with so many kinds of people.

[notsob75]

Great video Steph! I was raised in the same manner. It is a shame that so much hate still goes on in society today. We still have a long way to go.

Huggs

B-)

[StephStance]

unfortunately...  :o(

[mysteryglo]

You are right, it is all how you are taught, but then I think you can change if when you grow up, you realize what you were taught was just wrong!!

[StephStance]

surely... I had a friend in Hawaii who's parents could not stand Japanese people.... but she found it to be ridiculous and married a guy from Japan...LOL

[BarrettTV]

i didnt know u lived in hawaii

[StephStance]

I was in Tx until age 7yrs then from 8 to 28 I lived in Australia,Japan and Hawaii...

[karen32862]

I think derogatory words shouldnt be used by anybody in any context. I think it sounds just as awful when the N word is said by Rev Jackson, Chris Rock or P. Diddy as it sounds coming from a non-black person. I feel the same way about the words faggot, retard, and spick. If we are ever going to become a tolerant diverse country I think everyone needs to start to respect themselves before we can attempt to respect each other. Just MHO. Great Vid. Hope your stayin dry.

[StephStance]

it appeared to be a generational thing too.Like the younger people (20 somethings and lower) use it as slang for dude...

[karen32862]

I know, I hear my daughters friends use it. When my daughter turned about 13 I heard her try to be cool & use it. I had a talk with her. She kept trying to defend it saying she is just joking around. I told her it was no joke and eventually she was going to seriously offend someone. Now the big word among the kids is faggot. They call each other that "just kidding" of course. But I told my daughter, you never know which of your friends is gay, afraid to come out, & that word to them is hateful.

[cavejourney]

Karen - I think it's great that you are explaining that to your daughter. So many parents let it slide. You sound like a really good mom. As a gay man who hears "that's so gay" etc on a daily from kids on public transit I thank you.

[Angitia41]

I would never call someone the n word wether friend or not, It isnt nice, people sometimes dont think before they speak.

[StephStance]

I'm not sure if people really realize that words can be very offensive...