A warning : Once you care AT ALL about a narcissist, you are already in deeper trouble than you realize. Any feelings, positive or negative towards them or about them are evidence that you have bought into their illusion. Their illusion has but ONE singular purpose. To expolit and manipulate others. This is achieved primarily through one means: convincing others to believe they are genuine people and open the door by treating them as such. Don't open the door.
@SovereignBeing understandable but I think it's best to remember that it makes no difference what particular role the narcissist/abuser/mentally ill person happens to play in your life. That doesn't change what they are. The closer the bond, the greater the danger because they feed off the vulnerability created through a perceived emotional connection and exploit it. Don't see them as their ROLE (parent, significant other, etc.) and simply see them as a broken PERSON.
@SovereignBeing Removing them from your life no matter how painful it may seem and no matter what role they play is worth it. There's no justifiable reason to have a connection to anyone who is poison. They're broken and they can't be fixed, but once I managed to realize this and realized I was the only one suffering while providing a source of pleasure to the abuser and they weren't changing and never would, I realized removing them was the ONLY option.
@SovereignBeing all the reasons to keep them in my life were garbage. Created by the abuser or created because of the nature of the relationship. In the end, it's all garbage from the mind of a mentally ill person. The truth is they have no right to treat people the way they do, and no amount of rationalization changes that fact. They aren't superior, they only convince others they are inferior. Once I saw that, I realized what a load of crap I'd been swallowing. Good luck:)
One final advice. Most people get entangled with narcissists in some capacity because they let them in (assuming they were "normal") The solution is to be careful. There are obvious signs if you know what you are looking for. Narcissists don't actually prey on weak people. They prey on uninformed people. They prey on people's assumption that everyone has empathy, and that it is a universal human quality. It isn't. Once a person realizes this truth, it's easy to realize this person is bad news.
interesting comments & they are so good at emulation, they copy your own empathy and reinact your own emotions, as they are incapable of feeling as they have no empathy. Using the love/hate. kiss/smack dualistic programming, so you never know where you are with them and always questioning if they are really nasty or nice, they have you totally confused - which is of course their prime motive. Try getting away from a mother like this, constantly re hooking ties and claiming you as her property...
@SovereignBeing yes it's like you are dealing with an actor, they know how to copy the feelings of a person, but they don't know how to have any real ones. My best advice to anyone is once you suspect this, trust your instincts. It's a feeling you're being conned, like there is a script running through their head and your only purpose is to play a role in it. You'll never prove your suspicions, because they are mentally ill and that is their reality and they'll defend it at all costs.
@MsCartman74 would be good if there were specialist councelors for victims of the narcissist. Thanks for your comments, it's helped understand now I have to accept.
@HolyBreeze37 Narcissists are like a drug, it's easy to get sucked into their "reality," so counseling is like detoxing/withdrawl. But honestly I was confused/fooled for a long time until I grasped and accepted one simple concept. It's not that narcissists love themselves, but rather that they ARE self-love. Where in healthy people love of self is a positive component of a total personality, a narcissist has no core self to love, self-love IS their personality. They're completely out of balance.
@HolyBreeze37 And what keeps people involved with them is the mistaken belief that there is a core self in there somewhere. There isn't. That's the definition of the disorder/evil. It's not that they care only about themselves, caring about themselves is WHO they are. Period. They are always looking into a mirror, they only see others in relation to themselves, and they don't actually "exist." That's why being around one long enough you feel like they are literally draining you.
@HolyBreeze37 There is no good reason on earth to have any interaction with a narcissist, ever. They are extremely toxic, they will simply behave always and only according the principle of self-interest, and always and only to the detriment of anyone around them. No action or behavior is ever done by them except to maximize their self-interest, and any interpretation of their behavior contrary to this maxim is a mistake. Don't drink the Kool-Aid. Good luck:)
@lovemyselfforever86 yeah unfortunately life isn't a movie. I think though, to anyone still dealing with one, that the drug analogy works well. Getting rid of a narcissist is wonderful. It's like being a miserable alcoholic and then finally finding sobriety. You wake wondering why the heck you bothered dealing with this pathetic jerk so long, and suddenly they seem very small. And you realize their importance to you was always just another illusion, another facet of their disorder.
@SovereignBeing final thought. While others are living life for real, they can and frequently do simply walk off the set or change the script. If you've been unfortunate enough to have believed them, trusted them, or in any manner entangled your affairs with them, you’re screwed when the script changes and the floor drops out from under you. The damage they inflict can come in various forms, but remember, to them, it’s meaningless. Do you really care what happens to a character in a movie?
In summary, narcissists are evil or disordered, depending on your definition. Either way, you end up in the same place. Because they lack empathy, they lack the ability to relate to anyone. Can I be evil to a sponge? A narcissist sees other people as a reflection of herself. Lacking empathy, or remorse, or guilt, the notion of morality itself is meaningless. There is only ME to the narcissist. And hence, all interaction with one is pointless.
Although the reasons WHY people behave a certain way are important, they don't matter much. It's less important to know why a narcissist behaves like a selfish jerk, than it is to know that there's no reason to put up with it. A complicit victim is essential to a narcissist and that is the key to understanding their criminal mentality. They don't take responsibility for their behavior, they blame their victims. The old, "I wouldn't rape her if she hadn't been wearing a short dress" excuse.
Abusers are dependent on a dysfunctional relationship. Once you learn someone is a true narcissist, the solution is simple. Remove yourself from them. period. You will begin to see how weak and empty they are, and they also will begin to see this. A narcissist cannot face this reality, not truly, because by definition their disorder renders them incapable of self-examination. The narcissist will seek supply elsewhere, they have no choice. Move on and realize they are now someone else's problem.
Awesome video. I have been gaslighted so fucking bad by my boyfriend that it drove me into psychosis. I feel trapped and I don't know how to get rid of him. He always finds a way back into my life. I wish he would just disappear. This video made me cry because it made me realize how fucking secretly evil and disgusting he really is.
I have lived this and more for 24 years with my mother and now i feel completly lost, i have a huge question mark over everything and i dont know what to do...Any advice?Anyone????? plzzz
It is 12 yrs. of repeated abuse of lying for no reason, making things up, silent treatment, and punishing me for things that have happened to him. I know now, through you, that I 'm in love with a persona and am holding onto that idea but it wasn't real it never existed. Since we both work in medicine he is already telling colleagues that I am crazy, etc. I have said nothing. I'm ready to stand up for myself and not sure if silence is the answer I filed for divorce.
Thank-you so much for you insights. I am married to a narcissist, and he has left me for the last time "to punish me" for getting himself fired. He magnanimously told me in his 5 minute speech that I did nothing wrong and do not call him. We are both in medicine and I have recent confirmation that he is having ANOTHER affair with a patient of his. If I begged him to come home he would, because it is his "dope" to have 2 women fawning over who will "win" I filed for divorce FINALLY!!
The "constant and unnecessary lying" is so true. Even in minor things, the Narcissist I knew would lie, or make contradictory statements. I thought I was going crazy, or that I had mis-heard his prior statements. What was funny? The Narcissist often told me that he found me "intimidating." So I'm wondering if this was his attempt to break me down and "foster dependence."
@handsintheair4you run away! theres practically NO way to get someone to believe what u say because of how the narcissist puts on their mask in front of people and bewitches them completely. most of the time you will look like th crazy one just like sam says in this vid. u will probably just feel more and more frustrated with people because they'll usually support the other person because they cant see it so they assume ure exaggerating..
@samvaknin Cool. I'm going to buy your book. As for gaslighting, I know there is an old movie with that title, which some on the internet point to as an example of a type of abuse, but I haven't seen it, so I don't know if they are correct. Thanks!
@tammymism I saw the movie and then invented - or thought I had invented - the term gaslighting. Apparently other people had the same idea. Anyhow: the movie is available online for free (for instance in archive dot org).
my husband does all of these, especialy when he is worried people will find out about his affairs, he is violent to me, then calls the police tells them he is scared of me, (6'3) 20 stone 5'2 8 stone and scared to death of him, he recently bit my hands badly , he said that i was trying to strangle him!!! now he is telling every one that i am sleeping with men and on dating sites , none are true, all this because i have proved he is , i hate him and wont go back this time, evil man
@mysweetangelbunny "Anchoring" Wow! The NPD I deal with makes sounds of disgust when you are talking and then denies it was directed at you. They love to shout at inappropriate times, horrifying their victims. He also aggressively slam things if they are not getting enough attention.
Multiple surveillance camera caught gaslighting by my ex-gf.The whole neighborhood thinks I'm crazy and violent because she told them.The truth of reality and what my neighbors don't know is that she does this only when she is MANIC and her mania fuels it.She has bipolar disorder and I suspect some other type of personality and obsessive disorder but not that sure which.I love her and I don't ever want to expose her diagnosis to neighbors because that would just break her.
my mom used personal information to talk about me behind my back to my relatives. Today I am alienated from them. They believed her, even though we all grew up together. She then of course denies everything. I was the invisibile little girl, and a scapegoat when things got stressful. All the time I never knew she was doing this. She still denies it. My brother has told me not to talk too much to her. but he refuses to stand up for me. too.
My last ex had this down to an art. I had 2 actual mental breakdowns, where I got to the point that I was totally unable to function in the most simple ways. Thank God for the internet, and YOU Mr. Vaknin. I have escaped him and am a really strong person now because of it. My previous relationships were overtly abusive, but the narcissist? A whole 'nother ball game.
...taking over chores she used to skillfully perform....WOW!! When you know something is wrong, but just can't articulate what it is....Everything I used to do as a hobby, or any interest I had, he would suddenly take over and become an expert at whatever it was, buying all the newest and best equipment, and of course, he would lose interest as soon as he "won". Disgusting.
@JuvieFirst I meant to state it is true how we as "the victims" can actually feel the eerie and sinister air of ambient abuse. It is like they walk around surrounded with an evil aura and most eerie is that it is contagious. I've seen these narcissistic leaders poison the minds of people in universities and workplaces all the while claiming their leadership is perfect and in alignment with policy.
One more technique used by the narcissist and his proxies: anchoring. He takes particular perverse pleasure in trying to associate a stimulus such as gestures, sounds etc. with a negative reinforcement. He enjoys the 'power' he derives from the atmosphere of dread and anticipation he instills in the victim from a mere every day gesture. If the victim calls his bluff he gaslights her, tell her she is imagining things. He thinks his Machiavellian traits are a sign of intellectual superiority.
@mysweetangelbunny I hate their insulting gestures too; like abruptly sticking their arm and hand out to make you feel offended or giving you prolonged agitated stares as if you smell foul. Hate it! I had a college roommate like this and several professors and counselors were like this. Narcissists and ambient abuse seems to be popular phenomenons in institutions. But it's very rarely discussed. The code of silence keeps the evil working smoothly and effectively :(
Your clips are excellent. I think one thing that can be added in the internet age is that the narcissist employs the internet to slander and socially engineer punishment for the victim. This is a very powerful and dangerous tool which can destroy a victim's life. Psychiatrists need to be aware of the internet and technologies such as hacking, using mobile phones for GPS, cyberstalking, harassment by strangers, street theater etc which are the modern tools twisted to suit their purposes.
"provokes the victim into socially unacceptable behavior and then uses society to punish the victim" ...... I can see that happening in a classroom, an office, sports, a church or any other organized social group. This makes them quite a manipulator.
Thank you ever so much for revealing information about this subject. I am trying to figure out if my friend represents gasliighting. I believe she does based on your findings. I respect your views.
A warning : Once you care AT ALL about a narcissist, you are already in deeper trouble than you realize. Any feelings, positive or negative towards them or about them are evidence that you have bought into their illusion. Their illusion has but ONE singular purpose. To expolit and manipulate others. This is achieved primarily through one means: convincing others to believe they are genuine people and open the door by treating them as such. Don't open the door.
MsCartman74 2 weeks ago
@MsCartman74 thanks, its tough not to when the narcissist is a parent. They have claimed their rights over you from birth.
SovereignBeing 2 weeks ago
@SovereignBeing understandable but I think it's best to remember that it makes no difference what particular role the narcissist/abuser/mentally ill person happens to play in your life. That doesn't change what they are. The closer the bond, the greater the danger because they feed off the vulnerability created through a perceived emotional connection and exploit it. Don't see them as their ROLE (parent, significant other, etc.) and simply see them as a broken PERSON.
MsCartman74 2 weeks ago
@SovereignBeing Removing them from your life no matter how painful it may seem and no matter what role they play is worth it. There's no justifiable reason to have a connection to anyone who is poison. They're broken and they can't be fixed, but once I managed to realize this and realized I was the only one suffering while providing a source of pleasure to the abuser and they weren't changing and never would, I realized removing them was the ONLY option.
MsCartman74 2 weeks ago
@SovereignBeing all the reasons to keep them in my life were garbage. Created by the abuser or created because of the nature of the relationship. In the end, it's all garbage from the mind of a mentally ill person. The truth is they have no right to treat people the way they do, and no amount of rationalization changes that fact. They aren't superior, they only convince others they are inferior. Once I saw that, I realized what a load of crap I'd been swallowing. Good luck:)
MsCartman74 2 weeks ago
Awesome diagnosis. Very helpful. Thank you so much..;-)
BuchholzerIn1 1 month ago
What you describe sounds very much like "gangstalking" or "organized stalking." Have you heard of these terms?
XQzix 1 month ago
One final advice. Most people get entangled with narcissists in some capacity because they let them in (assuming they were "normal") The solution is to be careful. There are obvious signs if you know what you are looking for. Narcissists don't actually prey on weak people. They prey on uninformed people. They prey on people's assumption that everyone has empathy, and that it is a universal human quality. It isn't. Once a person realizes this truth, it's easy to realize this person is bad news.
MsCartman74 1 month ago
interesting comments & they are so good at emulation, they copy your own empathy and reinact your own emotions, as they are incapable of feeling as they have no empathy. Using the love/hate. kiss/smack dualistic programming, so you never know where you are with them and always questioning if they are really nasty or nice, they have you totally confused - which is of course their prime motive. Try getting away from a mother like this, constantly re hooking ties and claiming you as her property...
SovereignBeing 2 weeks ago
@SovereignBeing yes it's like you are dealing with an actor, they know how to copy the feelings of a person, but they don't know how to have any real ones. My best advice to anyone is once you suspect this, trust your instincts. It's a feeling you're being conned, like there is a script running through their head and your only purpose is to play a role in it. You'll never prove your suspicions, because they are mentally ill and that is their reality and they'll defend it at all costs.
MsCartman74 2 weeks ago
@MsCartman74 would be good if there were specialist councelors for victims of the narcissist. Thanks for your comments, it's helped understand now I have to accept.
HolyBreeze37 3 days ago
@HolyBreeze37 Narcissists are like a drug, it's easy to get sucked into their "reality," so counseling is like detoxing/withdrawl. But honestly I was confused/fooled for a long time until I grasped and accepted one simple concept. It's not that narcissists love themselves, but rather that they ARE self-love. Where in healthy people love of self is a positive component of a total personality, a narcissist has no core self to love, self-love IS their personality. They're completely out of balance.
MsCartman74 2 days ago
@HolyBreeze37 And what keeps people involved with them is the mistaken belief that there is a core self in there somewhere. There isn't. That's the definition of the disorder/evil. It's not that they care only about themselves, caring about themselves is WHO they are. Period. They are always looking into a mirror, they only see others in relation to themselves, and they don't actually "exist." That's why being around one long enough you feel like they are literally draining you.
MsCartman74 2 days ago
@HolyBreeze37 There is no good reason on earth to have any interaction with a narcissist, ever. They are extremely toxic, they will simply behave always and only according the principle of self-interest, and always and only to the detriment of anyone around them. No action or behavior is ever done by them except to maximize their self-interest, and any interpretation of their behavior contrary to this maxim is a mistake. Don't drink the Kool-Aid. Good luck:)
MsCartman74 2 days ago
@MsCartman74 Thank you so much :).
HolyBreeze37 1 day ago
@MsCartman74 true and ironically, my brother who is a narc is an actor, no wonder
lovemyselfforever86 2 days ago
@lovemyselfforever86 yeah unfortunately life isn't a movie. I think though, to anyone still dealing with one, that the drug analogy works well. Getting rid of a narcissist is wonderful. It's like being a miserable alcoholic and then finally finding sobriety. You wake wondering why the heck you bothered dealing with this pathetic jerk so long, and suddenly they seem very small. And you realize their importance to you was always just another illusion, another facet of their disorder.
MsCartman74 2 days ago
@SovereignBeing final thought. While others are living life for real, they can and frequently do simply walk off the set or change the script. If you've been unfortunate enough to have believed them, trusted them, or in any manner entangled your affairs with them, you’re screwed when the script changes and the floor drops out from under you. The damage they inflict can come in various forms, but remember, to them, it’s meaningless. Do you really care what happens to a character in a movie?
MsCartman74 2 weeks ago
@MsCartman74 I wish i would have never let him in, your comments are correct.
lovemyselfforever86 2 days ago
In summary, narcissists are evil or disordered, depending on your definition. Either way, you end up in the same place. Because they lack empathy, they lack the ability to relate to anyone. Can I be evil to a sponge? A narcissist sees other people as a reflection of herself. Lacking empathy, or remorse, or guilt, the notion of morality itself is meaningless. There is only ME to the narcissist. And hence, all interaction with one is pointless.
MsCartman74 1 month ago
Although the reasons WHY people behave a certain way are important, they don't matter much. It's less important to know why a narcissist behaves like a selfish jerk, than it is to know that there's no reason to put up with it. A complicit victim is essential to a narcissist and that is the key to understanding their criminal mentality. They don't take responsibility for their behavior, they blame their victims. The old, "I wouldn't rape her if she hadn't been wearing a short dress" excuse.
MsCartman74 1 month ago
Abusers are dependent on a dysfunctional relationship. Once you learn someone is a true narcissist, the solution is simple. Remove yourself from them. period. You will begin to see how weak and empty they are, and they also will begin to see this. A narcissist cannot face this reality, not truly, because by definition their disorder renders them incapable of self-examination. The narcissist will seek supply elsewhere, they have no choice. Move on and realize they are now someone else's problem.
MsCartman74 1 month ago
Awesome video. I have been gaslighted so fucking bad by my boyfriend that it drove me into psychosis. I feel trapped and I don't know how to get rid of him. He always finds a way back into my life. I wish he would just disappear. This video made me cry because it made me realize how fucking secretly evil and disgusting he really is.
MissJeanette69 1 month ago
I have lived this and more for 24 years with my mother and now i feel completly lost, i have a huge question mark over everything and i dont know what to do...Any advice?Anyone????? plzzz
Imanpan 2 months ago
Im stressed by this.If I move,will it die off
Cindycllns 2 months ago
Dam,
Cindycllns 2 months ago
Why do so many people help
Cindycllns 2 months ago
Well,its pretty difficult to go anywhere since My car was destroyed by perps
Cindycllns 2 months ago
It is 12 yrs. of repeated abuse of lying for no reason, making things up, silent treatment, and punishing me for things that have happened to him. I know now, through you, that I 'm in love with a persona and am holding onto that idea but it wasn't real it never existed. Since we both work in medicine he is already telling colleagues that I am crazy, etc. I have said nothing. I'm ready to stand up for myself and not sure if silence is the answer I filed for divorce.
mayberryangel 3 months ago 2
Thank-you so much for you insights. I am married to a narcissist, and he has left me for the last time "to punish me" for getting himself fired. He magnanimously told me in his 5 minute speech that I did nothing wrong and do not call him. We are both in medicine and I have recent confirmation that he is having ANOTHER affair with a patient of his. If I begged him to come home he would, because it is his "dope" to have 2 women fawning over who will "win" I filed for divorce FINALLY!!
mayberryangel 3 months ago
The "constant and unnecessary lying" is so true. Even in minor things, the Narcissist I knew would lie, or make contradictory statements. I thought I was going crazy, or that I had mis-heard his prior statements. What was funny? The Narcissist often told me that he found me "intimidating." So I'm wondering if this was his attempt to break me down and "foster dependence."
bluestmarble 3 months ago 3
What can a victim do about gaslighting? since no one believes her.
handsintheair4you 3 months ago
@handsintheair4you run away! theres practically NO way to get someone to believe what u say because of how the narcissist puts on their mask in front of people and bewitches them completely. most of the time you will look like th crazy one just like sam says in this vid. u will probably just feel more and more frustrated with people because they'll usually support the other person because they cant see it so they assume ure exaggerating..
patriciacarrasco 2 months ago
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handsintheair4you 3 months ago
Did you coin the term "ambient abuse"?
tammymism 4 months ago
@tammymism Yes, I did. I thought I also coined "gaslighting" in 1995, but now I am not so sure.
samvaknin 4 months ago
@samvaknin Cool. I'm going to buy your book. As for gaslighting, I know there is an old movie with that title, which some on the internet point to as an example of a type of abuse, but I haven't seen it, so I don't know if they are correct. Thanks!
tammymism 4 months ago
@tammymism I saw the movie and then invented - or thought I had invented - the term gaslighting. Apparently other people had the same idea. Anyhow: the movie is available online for free (for instance in archive dot org).
samvaknin 4 months ago
Thank you so much for all the hard work you did to get this information to us. Powerful stuff
jiggywiggywoowa1 4 months ago
organized stalking. com
TheJbach 4 months ago
my husband does all of these, especialy when he is worried people will find out about his affairs, he is violent to me, then calls the police tells them he is scared of me, (6'3) 20 stone 5'2 8 stone and scared to death of him, he recently bit my hands badly , he said that i was trying to strangle him!!! now he is telling every one that i am sleeping with men and on dating sites , none are true, all this because i have proved he is , i hate him and wont go back this time, evil man
debbiemensforth 5 months ago
@mysweetangelbunny "Anchoring" Wow! The NPD I deal with makes sounds of disgust when you are talking and then denies it was directed at you. They love to shout at inappropriate times, horrifying their victims. He also aggressively slam things if they are not getting enough attention.
blueguise23 5 months ago
Multiple surveillance camera caught gaslighting by my ex-gf.The whole neighborhood thinks I'm crazy and violent because she told them.The truth of reality and what my neighbors don't know is that she does this only when she is MANIC and her mania fuels it.She has bipolar disorder and I suspect some other type of personality and obsessive disorder but not that sure which.I love her and I don't ever want to expose her diagnosis to neighbors because that would just break her.
tkathryyn 5 months ago
my mom used personal information to talk about me behind my back to my relatives. Today I am alienated from them. They believed her, even though we all grew up together. She then of course denies everything. I was the invisibile little girl, and a scapegoat when things got stressful. All the time I never knew she was doing this. She still denies it. My brother has told me not to talk too much to her. but he refuses to stand up for me. too.
kellycat2552 6 months ago
My last ex had this down to an art. I had 2 actual mental breakdowns, where I got to the point that I was totally unable to function in the most simple ways. Thank God for the internet, and YOU Mr. Vaknin. I have escaped him and am a really strong person now because of it. My previous relationships were overtly abusive, but the narcissist? A whole 'nother ball game.
God bless you.
jklxn 6 months ago 2
And its really annoying to hear these smug women who say, " If it was me, I would have left a long time ago". Really, you would have?
DrZuli 7 months ago 5
That was your best video EVER.
DrZuli 7 months ago
...taking over chores she used to skillfully perform....WOW!! When you know something is wrong, but just can't articulate what it is....Everything I used to do as a hobby, or any interest I had, he would suddenly take over and become an expert at whatever it was, buying all the newest and best equipment, and of course, he would lose interest as soon as he "won". Disgusting.
DrZuli 7 months ago
That's absolutely right! It's "in the air"!!! How eerily accurate!
JuvieFirst 9 months ago 12
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dutytocareforothers 7 months ago
@JuvieFirst I meant to state it is true how we as "the victims" can actually feel the eerie and sinister air of ambient abuse. It is like they walk around surrounded with an evil aura and most eerie is that it is contagious. I've seen these narcissistic leaders poison the minds of people in universities and workplaces all the while claiming their leadership is perfect and in alignment with policy.
dutytocareforothers 7 months ago
@JuvieFirst its because its demonic
patriciacarrasco 2 months ago
@patriciacarrasco Exactly!
JuvieFirst 2 months ago
Great insight. Thank you.
samvaknin 10 months ago 3
One more technique used by the narcissist and his proxies: anchoring. He takes particular perverse pleasure in trying to associate a stimulus such as gestures, sounds etc. with a negative reinforcement. He enjoys the 'power' he derives from the atmosphere of dread and anticipation he instills in the victim from a mere every day gesture. If the victim calls his bluff he gaslights her, tell her she is imagining things. He thinks his Machiavellian traits are a sign of intellectual superiority.
mysweetangelbunny 10 months ago 28
@mysweetangelbunny I hate their insulting gestures too; like abruptly sticking their arm and hand out to make you feel offended or giving you prolonged agitated stares as if you smell foul. Hate it! I had a college roommate like this and several professors and counselors were like this. Narcissists and ambient abuse seems to be popular phenomenons in institutions. But it's very rarely discussed. The code of silence keeps the evil working smoothly and effectively :(
dutytocareforothers 7 months ago 4
@mysweetangelbunny Exactly...they are evil to core.
lovemyselfforever86 2 days ago
Your clips are excellent. I think one thing that can be added in the internet age is that the narcissist employs the internet to slander and socially engineer punishment for the victim. This is a very powerful and dangerous tool which can destroy a victim's life. Psychiatrists need to be aware of the internet and technologies such as hacking, using mobile phones for GPS, cyberstalking, harassment by strangers, street theater etc which are the modern tools twisted to suit their purposes.
mysweetangelbunny 10 months ago 25
ok i get the idea cant watch all of it. I getting sick.
911investigator 11 months ago 2
This has been flagged as spam show
this is very interesting.
TargetedIndividual1 11 months ago 2
Listen closely to a Pre-Arizona shooting copy of the movie Inception.
TargetedIndividual1 11 months ago
Everything you just said reminds me of the culture as a whole, everybody made depentant
garmurinn 11 months ago 3
Very informative video. I was wondering ,Sam, if you also made videos about other psychological problems ? You are really good at explaining ..Thanks
MultiSunflower2 1 year ago 2
I really love your videos. thank you for the words to express what I've experienced.
marissagoettling 1 year ago 8
excellent analysis of narcissistic abuse!
5671Karolina 1 year ago 6
"provokes the victim into socially unacceptable behavior and then uses society to punish the victim" ...... I can see that happening in a classroom, an office, sports, a church or any other organized social group. This makes them quite a manipulator.
HatRatt 1 year ago 5
my mom does this and she has Borderline PD...
HerrSpieldose 1 year ago 4
Thank you ever so much for revealing information about this subject. I am trying to figure out if my friend represents gasliighting. I believe she does based on your findings. I respect your views.
javajunkie101 1 year ago 5