I think gay people hear that you can never find a monogamous relationship and they hear the stereotypes of gay people being whorey i guess so people are afraid to commit and stay in a relationship, its like they want to prove the people right after hearing the same things over and over. Thats what it could be i could be wrong though...
I think we just get so stressed about people liking us for being gay and our rights and all of that so we turn to sex, just to get our minds off of it
The only reason this sexual insatiability is attributed to homosexuals is because straight men can't just walk up to a girl and ask her if she wants to fuck. Women don't really like that. Ask ANY straight guy what he would do if a girl asked for sex, and you'll see that probably none would decline. Straight men have it harder, and adjust their behavior to fit the expectations of women. Gay men don't have hurdle. We like to think of ourselves and loving monogamous beings, but we aren't.
whats wrong with only having sex a person you loved carl? being cute, famous and or rich can be a curse. how can you tell if friends like you for the person you are or because yr rich, famous, or cute? if yr ugly, poor and have no freinds, that too can be a curse in that a person will lower their morals to get friends or do other illegal things to become rich and popular. e g. drug dealer.
I agree with u, but those are only a select few in the gay community like you said there are the good sides of the gay community. and thus what you should be looking for XD
@kennethklkk There are only two sides of the gay community - the dark side, and the make believe delusional side...it's clear which one you reside in.
Am I'm a lesbian & don't agree with the flaunting of people's bodies. Also I have to let you know that is isn't just the gay community that sleeps around. Straight people do too. Tiger Woods & Arnold Schwartzenager may i remind you that they are straight. I have been faithful & with my partner for 11 years. I'm a person who suffers from not being able to marry my girl because there are people out there that ruin the reputation of the gay community.
What drives the "scene"? I think that for most homosexuals growing up and feeling integrated into society is very, very difficult. Whether it be parents, friends as a child, etc. that oppress them... I think the behavior stems from a desire of wanting to be loved and not having that from the ones that should have given them love in the first place.
@jpagtalunan I think the behavior stems from a desire of wanting to be loved and not having that from the ones that should have given them love in the first place.
You are so correct. But it applies to everyone. Very good perception!
Not that I am condoning it, but there are some old school activists that say we shouldn't base our newfound freedom and relationships after straight heteronormative (and oppressive) models. That being said, I prefer the straight model.
Don't fall for the gay hype, life isn't a revolving bed. Take an interest in a career and stay out of promiscuous sex. Better to be celibate than to waste your life on the fast track to middle age. Those gays all lose their charms when they find out that sex only makes you look old sooner, rather than later. Of course, if you meet Mr. Right, then you make your own choices.
I feel like there is nothing wrong, you are just young and wait there will be some amazing people as you said, that wont cheat, and once everyone grows up a bit things will start to sort of make more sense, and people will be less slutty
U Go Dude..Ugh tell Me about it im getting freaking tired of all those bad things that people think about the gay community.. not al of them are sluts and whores.. I hate all those kind of guys.. they have no self respect and just give the Gays a bad reputation... as like you.. i have met the good side of the gay community.. the ones who you can actually call friends.. Im not afraid to let anyone know im gay lol im gay and im proud :D
You are a wonderful exception ... however, it IS Jan. 2011, and by now you may be a slut as well. ;( Men, in general, were designed by nature to roam from person to person and "plant" their seed in as many places as they can. The idea of monogamy is not as 'natural' to males as is non-monogamy. And yes, most who frequent clubs are not looking for a 'relationship', they're looking for use-you and use-me, meaningless sex! You're beautiful ;)
Ahh. You are confusing the gay community with the gay 'scene'. The 'scene' accounts for perhaps 20% of the total gay community; of that 20%, probably 7/10 are complete ass-hats. But, overall they represent less than 15% of gays out there. Don't expect anything from the scene and you'll be fine ;) Hope you find yourself a man as charming as your good self.
I'm fortunate I lived a very hetero life, fully aware I had that Gay Gene. I liked the that life. I was a womanizer but copped hetero morals. I was pretty good at being honest. 7 yrs back I decided to make the switch. I did it with vengeance. After 3 yrs of hitting it hard I chilled and reflected. I saw very little "Gay Pride". I saw an abundance of Lying, Cheating and "hot and cold". Friendship is non existent. I have 4 Gay TRUE friends. I mess with 1.17 when we met, 24 now. I observe Im 46
I'm sorry for the late comments on your vids but...........I think our problem (this is just me thinking on the page lol.) is that we're stuck in the pidgeon hole that people from our communities in the past created. But "we", the more current, community have to break away from that stigma holding us in to the stereotype that gay, bi, lesb, are loose..........idk...........oh well.
I'm sorry for the late comments on your vids but...........I think our problem (this is just me thinking on the page lol.) it that we're stuck in the pidgeon hole that people from our communities in the past created. But "we", the more current, community have to break away from that stigma holding us in to the stereotype that gay, bi, lesb, are loose..........idk...........oh well.
umm I dont think theres anything wrong with gay guys being all slutty and showing off their bodies, the fact is that there r more gay guys that do that now a days, u cant change people. I personally am not like that and am so tire of my ex trying to get back with me... hate love
I couldn't help but feel your sorrow about the gay relationships. All I can tell you is, don't ever think you have to change how you feel and what you want in a relationship because you see the community is not that way. I am so NOT for cheating so there you have, now you're not the only one trying to avoid it. I was feeling pretty lonely too but now that I met you I know I can still find a trustworthy monogamous relationship for me and I should hope for my partner-to-be to work for the same.
If You choose to be Gay, GET USED TO IT & JUST ACCEPT IT!...That IS the Gay "Lifestyle" . It is saturated with messages of Sex, Youth, Promiscuity and Superficiality...Look at any "Gay" magazine and notice that all the guys over 30 are airbrushed out. Once You hit 30 in the Gay "Lifestyle" it is almost like You are inducted into the "EWW It's a UGLY OLD TROLL" club. Every year hundreds of younger and better looking guys "come out". Meanwhile, Your reservation in the TROLLS CLUB is 1 Year closer!
The pretty boys come out year after year thinking they are going to change the lifestyle and set a different path from everyone else and find a monogamous relationship.Then BANG!!! they hit 30 and still no lasting relationship, then BOOM 40 hits and settling for whatever they can get (drug addicts, promiscuity, alcoholics, lazy bum, etc,etc,) and You sit back one day after the meth-head boyfriend you "settled" for all of the sudden up and leaves (with 90% of Your stuff) and wonder? WTF HAPPENED?
I am authentic and honest about the ugly truth of it all! Too many examples out there to prove these facts. Finding a lasting relationship is NOT THE NORM!!.This is what You need to understand. Expect a world of hurt! This is why most older gay guys (A.K.A. TROLLS) get dogs or cats and are VERY attached to them almost like children. The Gay lifestyle is scattered with the disacards of once optimistic pretty boys who never thought that the OLD UGLY TROLL propped at the bar was them in the future!
It's not just the gay community, that's just a perspective. I'm gay and most if not almost all my friend's are straight and most of them cheat on their girlfriends, date people with the intend of dumping them shortly after sex, and are pretty willing to have sex with a girl confirmed to have a history of sleeping around and such. I don't understand how they can have such a casually shallow view towards women and relationships but that's just how it is for some. It sucks.
I encounter the same things in the gay community and I find it discouraging, however, the root of this is a fairly simple combination of biological and behavioral patterns. Firstly, men, by nature, are more sexual. That is only a fact. Whereas women only produce one egg a month, men produce sperm every day, which triggers much more sexual impulse. However, this alone does not explain the promiscuity found so much in the gay community, the larger problem here is behavioral.
do you think maybe because very young gay people don't often see other gay monogamous couples when they're young and their only outlet to show affection for another guy is very rare so it's over the top and not practical. Or maybe after not having any relationships for ages whilst gays grow up and then they're suddenly in a club with loads of other people their age they just want to go for it.
I think its a genetic thing. men are evolutionary predisposed to desire sex with many differnt partners as thats how therir genes whould be passed on more. So when you put to men in a relationship together unless their bond is extreamly strong, odds are one of thems gonna sleep around or get bored.
Absolutely nothing is wrong. At least I don't see anything wrong. I have many gay friends and I love them more than my straight friends. I understand there are some people out there that just try to sleep around in the gay community, but Carl, there are just as many if not more of those types that are straight.
PS: I love your videos and my ex-boyfriend/gay best friend thinks you're hot LOL and he said your videos helped him a lot become more comfortable with who he is :)
There's nothing wrong with you. Men have hyper sex drives. So gay men tend to have no problem finding sex. We straight women tend to make straight men jump through hoops to get in our pants. We limit their sexual behavior. Common straight man complaint is a wife who won't put out or does so rarely and only in the most vanilla fashion. Then, of course, there's the other end entirely where you have what lesbians call "Bed Death." Nobody has it made. It's always work.
Poor boy, you are such beautiful and pretty inocent angel and all this horny bastards just wana f..k you. And than you cant know when sombody like to know you like a person or just wana have sex. So I was always thinking that I am in better situation like pretty boys like you because I am not so good looking. But now I know tha I was wrong. I was thinking that I'M not good looking just because I was fustrated. And that many men just want sex from me.
ya it's mostly just because of immature non gay people, and some gays are ashamed because they are ridiculed for it by these types of people . So it's not what's wrong with gays, it mostly other people.
i agree, its gross. but youllfind someone, theres guys who constantly go after my boyfriend and im glad he respects me and only wants me. so if i can find someone, you deffinatly can :) try people out and go slow.
@novaklaszlo56 i agree! i kinda think its that men are more sexual beings, and its sad, its like, love is so hard to come by. its scary. i find that most the people who are slutty are broken and afraid of love because of experiance. tho thats not everyone haha
I hear what your saying bud, but I must tell you most guys don't want a relationship that lasts more than one night....... it's been a sruggle I had to deal with well all of my life......anyone who really what's something more is kicked in the ditch.
I hope that it's better for you.... I mean there's a 1000 and 1 dating sites where do you start?
I am a TEENY TINY bit older than you. In the gay community, we are SO repressed, that we need to have an outlet because we are still living in a society that we are still trying to blend in with. People need to feel attractive wether it is for 15 minutes or one night. People will do whatever they feel like they need to do to feel loved- attractive and appreciated. It is not just in the gay community, it is EVERYWHERE! I am 41 going on 21 and I am so glad I don't have to go thru this life again.
Its not wierd or bad its just human behavior right..Everyone plays the flirt game with everyone. And we live in a ( i cant stress this enough) C-O-S-U-M-E-R society. Getting a fix- in anyway feeling good about ourselves makes us feel better about being ina society that doesn't allow "normal" (define this however u want) acceptance and contentment.Our society changes and changes so fast. Its not how it has been for a very long time.and well...its hard~! just dont b sad lol thats life rite now!
Can i just add...me and my bf are both good looking young happy and ~normal like you Carl. We go clubs for dancing friends and drunk fun. I can tell you that alot of straight peeps think the same when they go out- alot of people cant drink, and they feel sick, alot off peeps don't like 10,000 people standing around them, alot don't like that to be top of social game sex has to always be on the plate ( in some sense) I can tell you that this behavior has a reason.
You cant change the whole world ( if what yr trying to convey in this vid is that its wrong to be slutty and sleep around) You can only do your part to change to what you think is right, fortunately or unfortunately its a free world, but its also a constantly changing world so don't dispare, just think that in 100 years- everyone will be dead- and a new ( new thinking) generation will be here-in your house, and fav club..your an example of this change... feel better? :)
Hi, Carl. You bring up a good topic. Here is my "food for thought." When the gay community has more full-blown non-pay-tv prime time sitcoms and dramas, much like hetrosexuals have enjoyed (i.e. The Cosby Show, Rosanne, Desperate Housewives, etc.), which depict gay relationships and circumstances fairly and on par (i.e. QAF)... then the vast mindset will change among us gays. Until then, the critical & hypocritical conservative view on homosexuality will be unfairly focused on the club scene
Clubs are pretty much made for hook ups so it is normal to see the promiscuity of it, on the other hand pride day is far different its not just some giant hook up fest.
@Carlkr I have found men think with there dicks not there head most of the time since they want want to show off there young bodies and also men want to experiance life and show themselves that they can have a good time and that they are able to show love... Most men I have found only know love as sex...
@Carlkr I like you because you are guided by love and not by passion and lust. You need a companion to relie on and to love him and to be loved by him, not a sexual object just to fulfill your appetite, I totaly understand you.
I think that a lot of the less slutty gays are still in the closet. I'm gay and I am still in the closet. I want to come out because I want a long time boyfriend. I don't want to go around having sex with different men just because I'm horny. I completely understand your point of view.
Oh, and one more quick thing. You have good taste in music. I LOVE Feist and 1234 is my favorite song, and yes, her video is UBER amazing. It's the Snickers Bar of the music world; sweet, unique, satisfying, and just a little nuts : ).
I think you have expressed exacltly my views on this matter. I was beginning to think I was the only one who really felt this way. Part of our problem is so many people feel such negativity towards the gay community that they start accepting the negative stereotypes of it. You made me feel so much better to know there are people like you out there who feel the same way I do. You seem to share many of my opinions on different topics, and seem like a very interesting and quality person.
Nothing supposed to be wrong with you, cause you're so cute and very intelligent. But the problem nowadays is that people wanna try everything at the same time. It's very hard to find someone serious. I have the same problem here in my country.
its not they gay community, its guys in general like sex and anything related to it, im gay i have a boyfriend and i would never cheat on him or hurt him in anyway. i know some slutty people but thats not cause they are gay, its cuz their slutty lol
I agree 100% with cokanex, actually I don't have a boyfriend now, I hope I'll have one soon, I wanna have someone to take care and share my life with. On my former relationship I haven't cheated and I know, I won't on the next one.
I live in Liverpool, England and in my opinion it's slightly different here. In Liverpool it's a slight running joke that for heterosexual individuals there are 6 degrees of separation. Though for Liverpool LGBT, there's only 1. Everyone LGBT in Liverpool knows everyone else. No joke. It's really comforting. In Liverpool people get on better I think. You'll never walk alone not only applies to our Liverpool football team, but also to our LGBT community.
The city I`m living at (Chita, Russia) is not big, as well as a local gay community. But still, most of the gay guys are promiscius. Even those living in pairs are cheating on each other.
hey i live in nyc to. the gays i know are not slutty at all. u just have to find the good gays out there!! also nyc has a lot of people so its harder to find the good ones out there!
dude, don't give up yet, finding a genuine person takes time. and the club is not the best place to find the one. some people get lucky and find there love young but many takes years..not to discourage you, but im 23 not bad looking, and still have not found my mr. or mrs. right. my point dont get in a hurry, enjoy being single while you can, be patient and you will one day find your mr. right. but it comes with time.. not overnight.
The inconvenient TRUTH to your question "what is wrong with us?" is that we are all sinners... ALL OF US, both heterosexual and homosexual. We turn our backs on God and do all sorts of immoral things that are in clear, direct violation of His Word. And we pay the price because of it. But God loves us so much that He gave us a way out... His name is Jesus. It's only through Him that we find the One True way out of the problem of sin that we all struggle with. Ask Jesus into your life and heart.
It's not "us". It's not correct to say "us". Because every person is different, and believe me when you go to a straight club the 90% of the people there is there because the same thing: to get laid. So it's actually not a gay problem, it's a global human-problem (if this is a correct expression) The tendency may be more noticeable by gay people because gay people who came out are more open than straight people, and obviously much more open than those gay people who are still in the closet.
Naught wrong with the group, only with the individuals. I don't believe in monogamy, but I also don't believe in keeping multiple partners unless they know about one another. Gay or straight makes no difference, btw.
The biggest problems for gays is trying to identify before approaching so as not to offend or have to defend; then you would have many other places available to interact, and the outcome would seem no different than in any community.
i'm from Canada and i'm not straight. It depends what kind of people you associate with, down here we have the "sluttty" gays and from there on we have the normal people lol! Btw I love how you say "us" (refering to gays). Stay in high spirits =) I'm 18 and I've seeen alot of the gay world!
I don't know what it is about you, but I just think you're so... dreamy. Corny, right? But that's the only word I can think of to describe you. Anyway, I can't speak for the community, considering I have no experience, but it does get a rather bad rap... but maybe it's for a reason, like you said. I hope there's hope though, considering that I'm in it for a relationship... not random sex.
gay men tend to sleep around and be more promiscuous than lesbian women, it is actually a proven statistic which doesn't seem like a coincidence. men are just wired differently than women and i think that transfers over whether you're a male who likes men or women
Get rid of your NC mentallity and show us some skin. Why settle for one lonely urban cowboy when you can keep 100 guys happy. A cute guy like you sleeping alone, is a waste of good your genes
If we can't get married then there is not very much insentive.. Ive never had sex but i can understand why other gay guys have. There's no reason to abstain if we cant have a union.
Carl, You need to hang out with a better crowd of people. There are heaps of guys who would love to love you but would never call themselves "gay" or hang out in places where "gays go."
Expand your horizons. You are beautiful. It's a shame to waste yourself on the "gay crowd."
Look up! There are better people out there. Go to the university library. Don't be put off if a guy tells you that he's straight or has a girlfriend. If you like him, let him know. See where it goes...
Just for the record it is the same with straight people.if you look straight clubs have nice people turned whores as well then they regret it in the morning. i wouldn't generalize it to just Gays and gay clubs.
The problem with the gay community is that it is filled with people who, in lack of a better statement, "think with there penises". I didnt mean to insult you with that. In the general hetero society there are men, who are the hunters and women who are the hunted. Now imagine if women were removed and men just ran around hunting eachother? That's the gay community. Same goes with lesbo's. It's just a canabilistic societey without any rule. Watch my Vlog about bisexual men.
Yeah well. You kn what I just realized? I totally agree! I think that is taking it too far. But really I think the main reason gay people may seem that way is because most gay people are represented that way, so maybe it makes other gay people like that? Well I am gay but, i'm not good with relationship stuff cuz it seems to me that no one takes relationships seriously):
bah, straight people got the same problem, i am gay but i of course know straight people and to tell you the truth it just depends, some people are ok with having a purly sexual relationship while other are geared more towards a long term relationship, just gotta remember that different people are just that, different.
Here in Holland the scene is dying cause of gays going to normal clubs nowadays. Imo a good thing however I got to like the scene cause it's sort of a big family :)
Well if gays would only go to regular clubs there would be less competing and showing of. And the thing is: men together hit of to soon before getting to know eachother and after that's done it's of to the next... When I first went to a gay club I cried a river of disappointment but after that I sort of accepted and figured gay clubs are just a laugh and there's no more to it
There's nothing wrong with gay people! They're amazazing! Honestly, how terrible would society be without gays? I mean, come on, who wants a world of all heterosexual people? (Except for orthodox catholic people)
Trust me dude, the straight community is the same way. The only thing holding a lot of straight guys back is the fear that their girlfriend will scratch their eyes out. Or it doesn't and they sleep around anyway. Straight and gay girls do the same thing. Go to a straight club. You'll find basically the same level of sluttyness there. If you're looking for more serious people, maybe you should try going to a gay youth group or get involved with some sort of LGBT organization and volunteer.
First, you are unique. Please stay that way no matter what come up to your life. Second, the reason it's act on such matter is they are looking for sex and not partnership, or don't want to have responsabilities or should say commitment. Don't aloud this to give up and by no reason change your heart. You are one in a million as they are others, but one day if you stay in that thought you will be able to find the right one for you. I did went through that ones.
I think fooling around and cheating is not a gay thing, but a male thing. I've always said the difference between a str8 couple and a gay couple is that the girl imposes limits in a str8 couple but in gay couples very often both want the same thing and they won't limit themselves. Gay couple can share their inteersts in men and understand each other's needs. str8 couple can't since they don't liek the same thing.
This has been my little equation when it comes to gay men:
*GIVEN: Gay Man = Horndog.
*Man+Man=expectancy of sex from both ends.
And, unfortunately, because both men are willing to dish it out with each other (Because that's what they both want), that's what becomes expected from the relationship. Because if this, it's hard for a relationship to progress further than sex.
Go online. Listen to those who seem to have views like yours. Get to know them via email, chat, im and phone. Build trust, talk, go on a friend date a few times and see where that leads. There has to be someone out there.
i think as gays we dont belong yet and so when other non gay ppl say stuff like gays r sluts , some gays try to fit in as best they can by becoming wat society says we are, instead of being wat WE say we are. its the same w/ the "gay Lisp"
it seems to be the same problem all around the world. wether in the us or in small austria, if you are visiting gayclubs or staff like that, you will struggle to find a serious person.
that´s why i think it´s just so damn difficult to find a proper partner, not because of the limited quantity but becuase of the lack of quality.
we are kind of different, but not inferior.i totally understand u, carl, it´s just so frustrating.
I full heartedly agree! Even in the great city of Tulsa Oklahoma most of the gays are for a night of sex and don't realy want a relationship which sucks for those of us seeking a relationship of love. It saddens me deeply. But I'm a Nerd an even if I was streight couldn't get a girl arrrrggghhh! I hate life sometimes.
Yeah I think younger people tend more to be promiscuous. The best time to try and experience verything is youth, then after like 25-30 you can settle down and not regret not having done all you wanted to do while you were young. Plus, I dont believe in deciding to be in a serious relationship. You need to know someone very well and know that you get along etc before starting a relationship. You need to explore many things before something stands out and evolves.
Let's just say that these promiscuous behaviours are their choice in a way, and that brings a stain upon everyone else sometimes... it is hard to find someone but clubs and other places like those aren't always the best place to find someone, and there's nothing wrong with us,we're not all like that, I've had a boyfriend for over a year, a monogamous relationship that actually has been working out, so there's still hope, I know a lot of other gay couples who've lasted, so just give it time :)
Okay personally i have never been to a club because im too young but it sounds like the we think we are viewed as that so they think they should do it and personally i think anyone who cheats or sleeps around has no respect for themselves or there boyfriend/girlfriend...ive personally been cheated on and ill tell you that it sucks
u are in new york. like the city of raunchiness. but there are lots of people who are not slutty. but it also is due to the repression we faced for a while, and then in the 70s sex became very liberalized and free flowing in new york especially to show they were gay and proud. and i feel like a lot of those stigmas and ideas stuck for a while. there is nothing wrong for us. there are plenty of sleazy people in the straight community as well
some guys that are young like around your age do not want to be in serious relationships just wait it out a bit and i am sure u will find the right guy to be w :)
well...nightlife in general carries a "slutty" stigma.
i don't even know where to begin dating.
i've only been out since february of this year. Haven't been with a guy or anything. and i'm mad nervous about it.
all the guys i've met (except for my friends) seemed to only want a sexual relationship right off the bat.....personally i'd like to take things slower.
but thats just been so far. hopefully that will change
I thought I was the only one who noticed this in my fellow gay men, too. My friends all know me now as that "gay guy that hates gay people" because I can't stand the way so many are. Thanks for not being that, Carl!
Carl , You are right, be carefull and be safe, it is hard to find the right person , but that happens to every body , guy or strait, try other places not clubs. I just wish I have met you , because you are perfect , the right head over those shoulders, be safe. Ed
I personally used to generalize in regards to the "gay community". Interestingly enough, when you generalize you include yourself.
I was once told by an incredible couple who I used to dog sit for that, the gay comunity is NOT limited to bars, clubs, coffee shops. The things that may be very much a part of your life at this point in your life and the things that are most widley common place for you maybe? I would encourage you to look outside of what is uncomfortalbe 4 u
I understand fully what you're saying. That why I don't like going to parties in fact I have only been to 3 in my 23 yrs of life. I mostly just chill and hang with my friends who think like me. I try to tell my mom that the whole gay community is not slutty but after all its history that all she sees
Ok, my thoughts are that it's a historical thing. For the most part in the past gays just weren't accepted and therefore lots didn't come out. So when they would go to clubs they just want some quick satisfaction because, hey we can't get married anyway. So ya I think it's just history's inertia. But realize, I'm only 16 so I haven't been to clubs so maybe I'm missing something, but I think that my ideas probably have some merit.
You're so right on the mark. I know many guys that are in a relationship, but some of them don't care if they "sleep around" with somebody other than their boyfriend. I don't know if they think their partner is inadequate in bed or they see physical attributes in others, which turn them on. Whatever the reason, it's sad. I find you very attractive, but that doesn't mean I would cheat on my BF if I had a chance to sleep with you. I guess some people just don't care about monogamy and love.
Carl, you have honestly just restored my faith in my fellow gay man. I honestly thought I was the ONLY one who had noticed this in the gay community, the supreme sense of shallowness. It's not my thing either, and the fact that there are genuine sensitive, insightful guys out there like you looking for *actual love* does give me hope. Here's hoping we both find that someone special.
The kid is just having some problems dealing with his homosexual counterparts--plenty of sluts in the straight world too.
pulp7theman 3 weeks ago
why put this on youtube this should be privete
scottso241 1 month ago
wait..so r u gay???r u saying the good side to it???KIDDING!!u CHOSSE WAT U WANT TO BE IM NOT GOING TO JUGE U!!!
TheArtist9908 1 month ago
Hate is the cancer of the world. And both always end up destroying themselves.
darrenholcomb42 1 month ago
fags are cancer of the world!!!
BosnianTerminator 2 months ago
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syyylvo 2 months ago
"I can see into your soul" thats better than "use the force luke"
randomcheese45 3 months ago
I think gay people hear that you can never find a monogamous relationship and they hear the stereotypes of gay people being whorey i guess so people are afraid to commit and stay in a relationship, its like they want to prove the people right after hearing the same things over and over. Thats what it could be i could be wrong though...
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I think we just get so stressed about people liking us for being gay and our rights and all of that so we turn to sex, just to get our minds off of it
lovegaga4ever98 4 months ago
The only reason this sexual insatiability is attributed to homosexuals is because straight men can't just walk up to a girl and ask her if she wants to fuck. Women don't really like that. Ask ANY straight guy what he would do if a girl asked for sex, and you'll see that probably none would decline. Straight men have it harder, and adjust their behavior to fit the expectations of women. Gay men don't have hurdle. We like to think of ourselves and loving monogamous beings, but we aren't.
ncPsychosis 4 months ago
omg when we said you were gay we werent serious!!! but you are a slut!
moizaphenom 5 months ago
whats wrong with only having sex a person you loved carl? being cute, famous and or rich can be a curse. how can you tell if friends like you for the person you are or because yr rich, famous, or cute? if yr ugly, poor and have no freinds, that too can be a curse in that a person will lower their morals to get friends or do other illegal things to become rich and popular. e g. drug dealer.
mikeomaha11 5 months ago
I agree with u, but those are only a select few in the gay community like you said there are the good sides of the gay community. and thus what you should be looking for XD
KiaroXD 6 months ago
My mom is a PI and i will make her track you
coolguy2253 6 months ago
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QuilavaKing 6 months ago
@QuilavaKing he's not real lol
BananaSandwich1 4 months ago
So what's your point :o
idanielkim94 7 months ago
i agree and i love gay people i just think theyre so amazing and all the hot guys i see are gay so sucksfor me....and honestly your one of them....
seleenaluvsu 8 months ago
me and my bf start 2007. its almost 4years till now. you only seeing the dark side of the gay community.
kennethklkk 8 months ago
@kennethklkk There are only two sides of the gay community - the dark side, and the make believe delusional side...it's clear which one you reside in.
ncPsychosis 4 months ago
Am I'm a lesbian & don't agree with the flaunting of people's bodies. Also I have to let you know that is isn't just the gay community that sleeps around. Straight people do too. Tiger Woods & Arnold Schwartzenager may i remind you that they are straight. I have been faithful & with my partner for 11 years. I'm a person who suffers from not being able to marry my girl because there are people out there that ruin the reputation of the gay community.
3West1 9 months ago
there is difference between being gay and a fagget.
the other therm represents the worst and most shallow platform of people in the world.
unfortunately there are more of those than normal ones,i hope you all the best as you look like one nice,pretty and smart young man.
all the best :)
Deksi89 9 months ago
What drives the "scene"? I think that for most homosexuals growing up and feeling integrated into society is very, very difficult. Whether it be parents, friends as a child, etc. that oppress them... I think the behavior stems from a desire of wanting to be loved and not having that from the ones that should have given them love in the first place.
jpagtalunan 9 months ago
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@jpagtalunan I think the behavior stems from a desire of wanting to be loved and not having that from the ones that should have given them love in the first place.
You are so correct. But it applies to everyone. Very good perception!
nathanj06 6 months ago
just fell in love with him after this video.
PencilFull0fLead 10 months ago
I feel the exact same way :/
slyed15 10 months ago
Not that I am condoning it, but there are some old school activists that say we shouldn't base our newfound freedom and relationships after straight heteronormative (and oppressive) models. That being said, I prefer the straight model.
Cerulean0987 11 months ago
Don't fall for the gay hype, life isn't a revolving bed. Take an interest in a career and stay out of promiscuous sex. Better to be celibate than to waste your life on the fast track to middle age. Those gays all lose their charms when they find out that sex only makes you look old sooner, rather than later. Of course, if you meet Mr. Right, then you make your own choices.
JBC814 1 year ago
why do u keep saying "people"... when what u mean is men or guys... its confusing...
sarddo 1 year ago
I feel like there is nothing wrong, you are just young and wait there will be some amazing people as you said, that wont cheat, and once everyone grows up a bit things will start to sort of make more sense, and people will be less slutty
JGIRL2296 1 year ago
U Go Dude..Ugh tell Me about it im getting freaking tired of all those bad things that people think about the gay community.. not al of them are sluts and whores.. I hate all those kind of guys.. they have no self respect and just give the Gays a bad reputation... as like you.. i have met the good side of the gay community.. the ones who you can actually call friends.. Im not afraid to let anyone know im gay lol im gay and im proud :D
ThePikaPals 1 year ago
ha i figured you were gay. cheating is never ok slutting around is fine as long as you are responsible but cheating.... that is a no no
nmstric9 1 year ago
You are a wonderful exception ... however, it IS Jan. 2011, and by now you may be a slut as well. ;( Men, in general, were designed by nature to roam from person to person and "plant" their seed in as many places as they can. The idea of monogamy is not as 'natural' to males as is non-monogamy. And yes, most who frequent clubs are not looking for a 'relationship', they're looking for use-you and use-me, meaningless sex! You're beautiful ;)
justanote7 1 year ago
Ahh. You are confusing the gay community with the gay 'scene'. The 'scene' accounts for perhaps 20% of the total gay community; of that 20%, probably 7/10 are complete ass-hats. But, overall they represent less than 15% of gays out there. Don't expect anything from the scene and you'll be fine ;) Hope you find yourself a man as charming as your good self.
fmcd02 1 year ago
I'm fortunate I lived a very hetero life, fully aware I had that Gay Gene. I liked the that life. I was a womanizer but copped hetero morals. I was pretty good at being honest. 7 yrs back I decided to make the switch. I did it with vengeance. After 3 yrs of hitting it hard I chilled and reflected. I saw very little "Gay Pride". I saw an abundance of Lying, Cheating and "hot and cold". Friendship is non existent. I have 4 Gay TRUE friends. I mess with 1.17 when we met, 24 now. I observe Im 46
fritzr128 1 year ago
WoW faggot
TheMrLemonfizz 1 year ago
@TheMrLemonfizz moron
milkyway531 1 year ago
dude your such a fagget
ladysman511 1 year ago
IT S OK TO BE GAY!... PEOPLE STRAIGHT OR GAY ARE THE SAME. GOOD AND BAD...
eleonora1730 1 year ago
IT S OK TO BE GAY!...
eleonora1730 1 year ago
@eleonora1730 I can tell your goin to hell!
supermariobubba 9 months ago
GAYS ARE FUCKING FAGGET ASS MOTHER FUCKERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SageMassey 1 year ago
@SageMassey Then why are you watching this in the first place.
Dumbass
cathyrin34 1 year ago
Gay.
wesselbennink 1 year ago
I'm sorry for the late comments on your vids but...........I think our problem (this is just me thinking on the page lol.) is that we're stuck in the pidgeon hole that people from our communities in the past created. But "we", the more current, community have to break away from that stigma holding us in to the stereotype that gay, bi, lesb, are loose..........idk...........oh well.
squirrelbuddi 1 year ago
I'm sorry for the late comments on your vids but...........I think our problem (this is just me thinking on the page lol.) it that we're stuck in the pidgeon hole that people from our communities in the past created. But "we", the more current, community have to break away from that stigma holding us in to the stereotype that gay, bi, lesb, are loose..........idk...........oh well.
squirrelbuddi 1 year ago
O knew u were!!! But I have nothing rong with u
candycoated113 1 year ago
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gays are not good
christaffffa 1 year ago
umm I dont think theres anything wrong with gay guys being all slutty and showing off their bodies, the fact is that there r more gay guys that do that now a days, u cant change people. I personally am not like that and am so tire of my ex trying to get back with me... hate love
FIy019 1 year ago
I couldn't help but feel your sorrow about the gay relationships. All I can tell you is, don't ever think you have to change how you feel and what you want in a relationship because you see the community is not that way. I am so NOT for cheating so there you have, now you're not the only one trying to avoid it. I was feeling pretty lonely too but now that I met you I know I can still find a trustworthy monogamous relationship for me and I should hope for my partner-to-be to work for the same.
jlocoxx 1 year ago
If You choose to be Gay, GET USED TO IT & JUST ACCEPT IT!...That IS the Gay "Lifestyle" . It is saturated with messages of Sex, Youth, Promiscuity and Superficiality...Look at any "Gay" magazine and notice that all the guys over 30 are airbrushed out. Once You hit 30 in the Gay "Lifestyle" it is almost like You are inducted into the "EWW It's a UGLY OLD TROLL" club. Every year hundreds of younger and better looking guys "come out". Meanwhile, Your reservation in the TROLLS CLUB is 1 Year closer!
skrimps99 1 year ago
The pretty boys come out year after year thinking they are going to change the lifestyle and set a different path from everyone else and find a monogamous relationship.Then BANG!!! they hit 30 and still no lasting relationship, then BOOM 40 hits and settling for whatever they can get (drug addicts, promiscuity, alcoholics, lazy bum, etc,etc,) and You sit back one day after the meth-head boyfriend you "settled" for all of the sudden up and leaves (with 90% of Your stuff) and wonder? WTF HAPPENED?
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skrimps99 1 year ago
I am authentic and honest about the ugly truth of it all! Too many examples out there to prove these facts. Finding a lasting relationship is NOT THE NORM!!.This is what You need to understand. Expect a world of hurt! This is why most older gay guys (A.K.A. TROLLS) get dogs or cats and are VERY attached to them almost like children. The Gay lifestyle is scattered with the disacards of once optimistic pretty boys who never thought that the OLD UGLY TROLL propped at the bar was them in the future!
skrimps99 1 year ago
i dont understand gay sexuality
but i dont wish persecute you guys :/
lovellae 1 year ago
WTH this the gayest thing I've seen In my life!!!!!! Gay communists!!!
USUfreak09 1 year ago
It's not just the gay community, that's just a perspective. I'm gay and most if not almost all my friend's are straight and most of them cheat on their girlfriends, date people with the intend of dumping them shortly after sex, and are pretty willing to have sex with a girl confirmed to have a history of sleeping around and such. I don't understand how they can have such a casually shallow view towards women and relationships but that's just how it is for some. It sucks.
LZ11271978 1 year ago
I encounter the same things in the gay community and I find it discouraging, however, the root of this is a fairly simple combination of biological and behavioral patterns. Firstly, men, by nature, are more sexual. That is only a fact. Whereas women only produce one egg a month, men produce sperm every day, which triggers much more sexual impulse. However, this alone does not explain the promiscuity found so much in the gay community, the larger problem here is behavioral.
MandaLaJusto 1 year ago
goodd your hawt! why are all hawt guys gay! :?
emobabee09 1 year ago
do you think maybe because very young gay people don't often see other gay monogamous couples when they're young and their only outlet to show affection for another guy is very rare so it's over the top and not practical. Or maybe after not having any relationships for ages whilst gays grow up and then they're suddenly in a club with loads of other people their age they just want to go for it.
I don't know :S
elliotf282 1 year ago
same here...and hes so fuckin sexy im a guy text me 516.708.7315 i wanna get to kno u u seem pretty kool
MrSexyLatino1 1 year ago
I knew u were gay!!!!! Ew!!!!!
xburritox1 1 year ago
What the crap? lolfail, he's hot and so what? lol
tbjsamich12 1 year ago
shit, u r pretty.
steviejongh 1 year ago
I think its a genetic thing. men are evolutionary predisposed to desire sex with many differnt partners as thats how therir genes whould be passed on more. So when you put to men in a relationship together unless their bond is extreamly strong, odds are one of thems gonna sleep around or get bored.
Mattgt128 1 year ago
Absolutely nothing is wrong. At least I don't see anything wrong. I have many gay friends and I love them more than my straight friends. I understand there are some people out there that just try to sleep around in the gay community, but Carl, there are just as many if not more of those types that are straight.
PS: I love your videos and my ex-boyfriend/gay best friend thinks you're hot LOL and he said your videos helped him a lot become more comfortable with who he is :)
horselover1127 1 year ago
There's nothing wrong with you. Men have hyper sex drives. So gay men tend to have no problem finding sex. We straight women tend to make straight men jump through hoops to get in our pants. We limit their sexual behavior. Common straight man complaint is a wife who won't put out or does so rarely and only in the most vanilla fashion. Then, of course, there's the other end entirely where you have what lesbians call "Bed Death." Nobody has it made. It's always work.
YodanboogerLives 1 year ago
Poor boy, you are such beautiful and pretty inocent angel and all this horny bastards just wana f..k you. And than you cant know when sombody like to know you like a person or just wana have sex. So I was always thinking that I am in better situation like pretty boys like you because I am not so good looking. But now I know tha I was wrong. I was thinking that I'M not good looking just because I was fustrated. And that many men just want sex from me.
ri4get 1 year ago 15
So str8 or gay doesn't matter, mens are bastards(not all, you have exceptions).
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novaklaszlo56 1 year ago
@ri4get Yes, I agree. But there are regular guys too. E.g. men in love are exceptions, as a rule, wether they are "straight" or gay. :)
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novaklaszlo56 1 year ago
you'll find somewone, that person will be super lucky
ryan5678901 1 year ago
ya it's mostly just because of immature non gay people, and some gays are ashamed because they are ridiculed for it by these types of people . So it's not what's wrong with gays, it mostly other people.
ryan5678901 1 year ago
fucking gay!
IAmStaka 1 year ago
@IAmStaka Can hate speech bring you joy or relief? If so, why...? Explore yourself! Get well! :)
novaklaszlo56 1 year ago
i agree, its gross. but youllfind someone, theres guys who constantly go after my boyfriend and im glad he respects me and only wants me. so if i can find someone, you deffinatly can :) try people out and go slow.
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novaklaszlo56 1 year ago
@novaklaszlo56 i agree! i kinda think its that men are more sexual beings, and its sad, its like, love is so hard to come by. its scary. i find that most the people who are slutty are broken and afraid of love because of experiance. tho thats not everyone haha
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novaklaszlo56 1 year ago
Nothing wrong.
The only thing that's maybe wrong, is that way off slutty-ness, but you see that too it in the hetero/straight community !!! Maybe even MORE!!!
It's the superficial way of going around/behave with eachother. It's empty, that's all. But we need sincerity much more than that, to get happy.
Well, that is what I think.
Sorry for my bad english.
xx
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novaklaszlo56 1 year ago
I hear what your saying bud, but I must tell you most guys don't want a relationship that lasts more than one night....... it's been a sruggle I had to deal with well all of my life......anyone who really what's something more is kicked in the ditch.
I hope that it's better for you.... I mean there's a 1000 and 1 dating sites where do you start?
Uphere4u 1 year ago
I would not go to the clubs if you are in or trying to be in a relationship. Clubs can harm a good relationship if relationship is not SOLID!!!
mtfune 1 year ago
I am a TEENY TINY bit older than you. In the gay community, we are SO repressed, that we need to have an outlet because we are still living in a society that we are still trying to blend in with. People need to feel attractive wether it is for 15 minutes or one night. People will do whatever they feel like they need to do to feel loved- attractive and appreciated. It is not just in the gay community, it is EVERYWHERE! I am 41 going on 21 and I am so glad I don't have to go thru this life again.
mtfune 1 year ago
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Its not wierd or bad its just human behavior right..Everyone plays the flirt game with everyone. And we live in a ( i cant stress this enough) C-O-S-U-M-E-R society. Getting a fix- in anyway feeling good about ourselves makes us feel better about being ina society that doesn't allow "normal" (define this however u want) acceptance and contentment.Our society changes and changes so fast. Its not how it has been for a very long time.and well...its hard~! just dont b sad lol thats life rite now!
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Antim0rbit 1 year ago
Can i just add...me and my bf are both good looking young happy and ~normal like you Carl. We go clubs for dancing friends and drunk fun. I can tell you that alot of straight peeps think the same when they go out- alot of people cant drink, and they feel sick, alot off peeps don't like 10,000 people standing around them, alot don't like that to be top of social game sex has to always be on the plate ( in some sense) I can tell you that this behavior has a reason.
Antim0rbit 1 year ago
You cant change the whole world ( if what yr trying to convey in this vid is that its wrong to be slutty and sleep around) You can only do your part to change to what you think is right, fortunately or unfortunately its a free world, but its also a constantly changing world so don't dispare, just think that in 100 years- everyone will be dead- and a new ( new thinking) generation will be here-in your house, and fav club..your an example of this change... feel better? :)
Antim0rbit 1 year ago
I am so upset that your gay....why are all the gay guys so hot :(
x0Tatianaaa 2 years ago
Tell me Carl. Do you watch (gay) porn?? If yes, then you are no different than the person you are describing.
Just because a person may be promiscuous, that doesn't make him any bad. Please don't judge people like that.
I am also personally in favor of having a long term relationship, though.
add20000 2 years ago
Hi, Carl. You bring up a good topic. Here is my "food for thought." When the gay community has more full-blown non-pay-tv prime time sitcoms and dramas, much like hetrosexuals have enjoyed (i.e. The Cosby Show, Rosanne, Desperate Housewives, etc.), which depict gay relationships and circumstances fairly and on par (i.e. QAF)... then the vast mindset will change among us gays. Until then, the critical & hypocritical conservative view on homosexuality will be unfairly focused on the club scene
andrewdv3 2 years ago
you're too good of a person to be going into clubs carl. your better than that.
AdamMahieddine333 2 years ago
Clubs are pretty much made for hook ups so it is normal to see the promiscuity of it, on the other hand pride day is far different its not just some giant hook up fest.
scoobyut 2 years ago
i believe this guy it is so true............
damian922006 2 years ago
This is true for any culture gay or otherwise. Go to a "straight" club and you'll see the same thing. You don't judge people based on a person.
OrangeStar407 2 years ago
wow am I seriously wearing ed hardy.
Carlkr 2 years ago 17
@Carlkr I have found men think with there dicks not there head most of the time since they want want to show off there young bodies and also men want to experiance life and show themselves that they can have a good time and that they are able to show love... Most men I have found only know love as sex...
adambeatty1985 1 year ago
@Carlkr I like you because you are guided by love and not by passion and lust. You need a companion to relie on and to love him and to be loved by him, not a sexual object just to fulfill your appetite, I totaly understand you.
Andonovmil 6 months ago 2
You're so repressed.
brainjesus 2 years ago
So why can't gay people hold a manogamos (I can't spell) like true love like strait peple. So thats it
ilikeitman100 2 years ago
it's great to know that there r still people out there that r just looking for a stable monogamous relationship. :) good luck to u n me...
bendamaddog 2 years ago
I think that a lot of the less slutty gays are still in the closet. I'm gay and I am still in the closet. I want to come out because I want a long time boyfriend. I don't want to go around having sex with different men just because I'm horny. I completely understand your point of view.
jeremyblue5555 2 years ago
Oh, and one more quick thing. You have good taste in music. I LOVE Feist and 1234 is my favorite song, and yes, her video is UBER amazing. It's the Snickers Bar of the music world; sweet, unique, satisfying, and just a little nuts : ).
zthesaxplayer 2 years ago
I think you have expressed exacltly my views on this matter. I was beginning to think I was the only one who really felt this way. Part of our problem is so many people feel such negativity towards the gay community that they start accepting the negative stereotypes of it. You made me feel so much better to know there are people like you out there who feel the same way I do. You seem to share many of my opinions on different topics, and seem like a very interesting and quality person.
zthesaxplayer 2 years ago
Nothing supposed to be wrong with you, cause you're so cute and very intelligent. But the problem nowadays is that people wanna try everything at the same time. It's very hard to find someone serious. I have the same problem here in my country.
MegaFluffyguy 2 years ago
its not they gay community, its guys in general like sex and anything related to it, im gay i have a boyfriend and i would never cheat on him or hurt him in anyway. i know some slutty people but thats not cause they are gay, its cuz their slutty lol
cokanex 2 years ago
I agree 100% with cokanex, actually I don't have a boyfriend now, I hope I'll have one soon, I wanna have someone to take care and share my life with. On my former relationship I haven't cheated and I know, I won't on the next one.
MegaFluffyguy 2 years ago
i cant stand slutty gays. that's all it seems is on my university campus.
idfkandrew 2 years ago
I live in Liverpool, England and in my opinion it's slightly different here. In Liverpool it's a slight running joke that for heterosexual individuals there are 6 degrees of separation. Though for Liverpool LGBT, there's only 1. Everyone LGBT in Liverpool knows everyone else. No joke. It's really comforting. In Liverpool people get on better I think. You'll never walk alone not only applies to our Liverpool football team, but also to our LGBT community.
LeighXIII 2 years ago
In Russia it is the same.
The city I`m living at (Chita, Russia) is not big, as well as a local gay community. But still, most of the gay guys are promiscius. Even those living in pairs are cheating on each other.
Straights are the same, no big difference.
hotaru5an 2 years ago
hey i live in nyc to. the gays i know are not slutty at all. u just have to find the good gays out there!! also nyc has a lot of people so its harder to find the good ones out there!
uglydoll224 2 years ago
It not just us Its straight ppl too that does stuff like: stays with a partner and boyfriend at same time as long as they don't find out
>:(
vrejl 2 years ago
dude, don't give up yet, finding a genuine person takes time. and the club is not the best place to find the one. some people get lucky and find there love young but many takes years..not to discourage you, but im 23 not bad looking, and still have not found my mr. or mrs. right. my point dont get in a hurry, enjoy being single while you can, be patient and you will one day find your mr. right. but it comes with time.. not overnight.
jmaine1998 2 years ago
So I was wondering what is your type of guy?
Phillipzhayne1 2 years ago
honey it's not just gay community. welcome to the cosmopolitan
lovelion2001 2 years ago
The inconvenient TRUTH to your question "what is wrong with us?" is that we are all sinners... ALL OF US, both heterosexual and homosexual. We turn our backs on God and do all sorts of immoral things that are in clear, direct violation of His Word. And we pay the price because of it. But God loves us so much that He gave us a way out... His name is Jesus. It's only through Him that we find the One True way out of the problem of sin that we all struggle with. Ask Jesus into your life and heart.
konakevin777 2 years ago
It's not "us". It's not correct to say "us". Because every person is different, and believe me when you go to a straight club the 90% of the people there is there because the same thing: to get laid. So it's actually not a gay problem, it's a global human-problem (if this is a correct expression) The tendency may be more noticeable by gay people because gay people who came out are more open than straight people, and obviously much more open than those gay people who are still in the closet.
zsoly 2 years ago
Naught wrong with the group, only with the individuals. I don't believe in monogamy, but I also don't believe in keeping multiple partners unless they know about one another. Gay or straight makes no difference, btw.
The biggest problems for gays is trying to identify before approaching so as not to offend or have to defend; then you would have many other places available to interact, and the outcome would seem no different than in any community.
saglek 2 years ago
im scared now...i totally wanted to go to gay bars in nyc....eh...what to do, what to do....
williambeckettlove 2 years ago
i'm from Canada and i'm not straight. It depends what kind of people you associate with, down here we have the "sluttty" gays and from there on we have the normal people lol! Btw I love how you say "us" (refering to gays). Stay in high spirits =) I'm 18 and I've seeen alot of the gay world!
Ravidassan 2 years ago
I don't know what it is about you, but I just think you're so... dreamy. Corny, right? But that's the only word I can think of to describe you. Anyway, I can't speak for the community, considering I have no experience, but it does get a rather bad rap... but maybe it's for a reason, like you said. I hope there's hope though, considering that I'm in it for a relationship... not random sex.
bfrazer2008 2 years ago 2
gay men tend to sleep around and be more promiscuous than lesbian women, it is actually a proven statistic which doesn't seem like a coincidence. men are just wired differently than women and i think that transfers over whether you're a male who likes men or women
3L0K1N 2 years ago
Get rid of your NC mentallity and show us some skin. Why settle for one lonely urban cowboy when you can keep 100 guys happy. A cute guy like you sleeping alone, is a waste of good your genes
vike554572229 2 years ago
If you could say this in a more idk...nice way I'd totally agree with u -- he's hot and I'm pretty sure everyone wants to see more of him. lol
cytkiddtyler 2 years ago
Whats wrong with gay people
1. uh
2 um
3 o yeah
4 NOTHING!
people now a days just spread horrible rumers
TheFelixWolf 2 years ago 14
If we can't get married then there is not very much insentive.. Ive never had sex but i can understand why other gay guys have. There's no reason to abstain if we cant have a union.
SalemsPlayDay 2 years ago
Carl, You need to hang out with a better crowd of people. There are heaps of guys who would love to love you but would never call themselves "gay" or hang out in places where "gays go."
Expand your horizons. You are beautiful. It's a shame to waste yourself on the "gay crowd."
Look up! There are better people out there. Go to the university library. Don't be put off if a guy tells you that he's straight or has a girlfriend. If you like him, let him know. See where it goes...
Steve
nodesnetwork 2 years ago 11
Just for the record it is the same with straight people.if you look straight clubs have nice people turned whores as well then they regret it in the morning. i wouldn't generalize it to just Gays and gay clubs.
maldonvic 2 years ago
The problem with the gay community is that it is filled with people who, in lack of a better statement, "think with there penises". I didnt mean to insult you with that. In the general hetero society there are men, who are the hunters and women who are the hunted. Now imagine if women were removed and men just ran around hunting eachother? That's the gay community. Same goes with lesbo's. It's just a canabilistic societey without any rule. Watch my Vlog about bisexual men.
MrAutogynephilia 2 years ago
Yeah well. You kn what I just realized? I totally agree! I think that is taking it too far. But really I think the main reason gay people may seem that way is because most gay people are represented that way, so maybe it makes other gay people like that? Well I am gay but, i'm not good with relationship stuff cuz it seems to me that no one takes relationships seriously):
YesItsJoey 2 years ago
bah, straight people got the same problem, i am gay but i of course know straight people and to tell you the truth it just depends, some people are ok with having a purly sexual relationship while other are geared more towards a long term relationship, just gotta remember that different people are just that, different.
ScarlettRomanceJAH 2 years ago
I've been to a pride parade but they are nastyyyy!
most fags are shameless!
and
it's more like a slut Parade!
Good thing i don't care about gay marriage no mo.
pointless!
zuluis007 2 years ago
Here in Holland the scene is dying cause of gays going to normal clubs nowadays. Imo a good thing however I got to like the scene cause it's sort of a big family :)
DutchTimmie 2 years ago
Well if gays would only go to regular clubs there would be less competing and showing of. And the thing is: men together hit of to soon before getting to know eachother and after that's done it's of to the next... When I first went to a gay club I cried a river of disappointment but after that I sort of accepted and figured gay clubs are just a laugh and there's no more to it
DutchTimmie 2 years ago
There's nothing wrong with gay people! They're amazazing! Honestly, how terrible would society be without gays? I mean, come on, who wants a world of all heterosexual people? (Except for orthodox catholic people)
EvanJBest 2 years ago
Trust me dude, the straight community is the same way. The only thing holding a lot of straight guys back is the fear that their girlfriend will scratch their eyes out. Or it doesn't and they sleep around anyway. Straight and gay girls do the same thing. Go to a straight club. You'll find basically the same level of sluttyness there. If you're looking for more serious people, maybe you should try going to a gay youth group or get involved with some sort of LGBT organization and volunteer.
CanadianQueer 2 years ago
First, you are unique. Please stay that way no matter what come up to your life. Second, the reason it's act on such matter is they are looking for sex and not partnership, or don't want to have responsabilities or should say commitment. Don't aloud this to give up and by no reason change your heart. You are one in a million as they are others, but one day if you stay in that thought you will be able to find the right one for you. I did went through that ones.
Only that mine past away.
PRMichael59 2 years ago
i completely agree!
MarcusHBP7 2 years ago
I think fooling around and cheating is not a gay thing, but a male thing. I've always said the difference between a str8 couple and a gay couple is that the girl imposes limits in a str8 couple but in gay couples very often both want the same thing and they won't limit themselves. Gay couple can share their inteersts in men and understand each other's needs. str8 couple can't since they don't liek the same thing.
ElFif 2 years ago
What's wrong with us? Let me tell you!
This has been my little equation when it comes to gay men:
*GIVEN: Gay Man = Horndog.
*Man+Man=expectancy of sex from both ends.
And, unfortunately, because both men are willing to dish it out with each other (Because that's what they both want), that's what becomes expected from the relationship. Because if this, it's hard for a relationship to progress further than sex.
That's what's wrong with us.
We're just sleazy. ;)
ctmajka 2 years ago
Go online. Listen to those who seem to have views like yours. Get to know them via email, chat, im and phone. Build trust, talk, go on a friend date a few times and see where that leads. There has to be someone out there.
Eat, have fun and be happy
Thelacychef
lacychef 2 years ago
i think as gays we dont belong yet and so when other non gay ppl say stuff like gays r sluts , some gays try to fit in as best they can by becoming wat society says we are, instead of being wat WE say we are. its the same w/ the "gay Lisp"
sergiom151 2 years ago
aww you're scaring me about ny gay night life =(. I turn 18 in january i hope i have a good time. I just have to say i agree with you 100%!
alecito323 2 years ago
it seems to be the same problem all around the world. wether in the us or in small austria, if you are visiting gayclubs or staff like that, you will struggle to find a serious person.
that´s why i think it´s just so damn difficult to find a proper partner, not because of the limited quantity but becuase of the lack of quality.
we are kind of different, but not inferior.i totally understand u, carl, it´s just so frustrating.
let´s hold on hoping
Laukota 2 years ago
nothing is or should be wrong with gay people at all :(
KimPimSlim 2 years ago
I full heartedly agree! Even in the great city of Tulsa Oklahoma most of the gays are for a night of sex and don't realy want a relationship which sucks for those of us seeking a relationship of love. It saddens me deeply. But I'm a Nerd an even if I was streight couldn't get a girl arrrrggghhh! I hate life sometimes.
lacychef 2 years ago
Yeah I think younger people tend more to be promiscuous. The best time to try and experience verything is youth, then after like 25-30 you can settle down and not regret not having done all you wanted to do while you were young. Plus, I dont believe in deciding to be in a serious relationship. You need to know someone very well and know that you get along etc before starting a relationship. You need to explore many things before something stands out and evolves.
ElFif 2 years ago
Let's just say that these promiscuous behaviours are their choice in a way, and that brings a stain upon everyone else sometimes... it is hard to find someone but clubs and other places like those aren't always the best place to find someone, and there's nothing wrong with us,we're not all like that, I've had a boyfriend for over a year, a monogamous relationship that actually has been working out, so there's still hope, I know a lot of other gay couples who've lasted, so just give it time :)
schmooo15 2 years ago
Okay personally i have never been to a club because im too young but it sounds like the we think we are viewed as that so they think they should do it and personally i think anyone who cheats or sleeps around has no respect for themselves or there boyfriend/girlfriend...ive personally been cheated on and ill tell you that it sucks
77dirtbikedude 2 years ago
u are in new york. like the city of raunchiness. but there are lots of people who are not slutty. but it also is due to the repression we faced for a while, and then in the 70s sex became very liberalized and free flowing in new york especially to show they were gay and proud. and i feel like a lot of those stigmas and ideas stuck for a while. there is nothing wrong for us. there are plenty of sleazy people in the straight community as well
kaziaa0717 2 years ago
some guys that are young like around your age do not want to be in serious relationships just wait it out a bit and i am sure u will find the right guy to be w :)
xstrawberry86x 2 years ago
well...nightlife in general carries a "slutty" stigma.
i don't even know where to begin dating.
i've only been out since february of this year. Haven't been with a guy or anything. and i'm mad nervous about it.
all the guys i've met (except for my friends) seemed to only want a sexual relationship right off the bat.....personally i'd like to take things slower.
but thats just been so far. hopefully that will change
cosmosman 2 years ago
I thought I was the only one who noticed this in my fellow gay men, too. My friends all know me now as that "gay guy that hates gay people" because I can't stand the way so many are. Thanks for not being that, Carl!
Mlowery85 2 years ago
Carl , You are right, be carefull and be safe, it is hard to find the right person , but that happens to every body , guy or strait, try other places not clubs. I just wish I have met you , because you are perfect , the right head over those shoulders, be safe. Ed
emontev 2 years ago
Good Morning!
I personally used to generalize in regards to the "gay community". Interestingly enough, when you generalize you include yourself.
I was once told by an incredible couple who I used to dog sit for that, the gay comunity is NOT limited to bars, clubs, coffee shops. The things that may be very much a part of your life at this point in your life and the things that are most widley common place for you maybe? I would encourage you to look outside of what is uncomfortalbe 4 u
jsvio7 2 years ago
Aw D:
iLobaa 2 years ago
I understand fully what you're saying. That why I don't like going to parties in fact I have only been to 3 in my 23 yrs of life. I mostly just chill and hang with my friends who think like me. I try to tell my mom that the whole gay community is not slutty but after all its history that all she sees
I think most men are just afraid of commitment.
blkluster1986 2 years ago
Ok, my thoughts are that it's a historical thing. For the most part in the past gays just weren't accepted and therefore lots didn't come out. So when they would go to clubs they just want some quick satisfaction because, hey we can't get married anyway. So ya I think it's just history's inertia. But realize, I'm only 16 so I haven't been to clubs so maybe I'm missing something, but I think that my ideas probably have some merit.
thefiremancoming 2 years ago
You're so right on the mark. I know many guys that are in a relationship, but some of them don't care if they "sleep around" with somebody other than their boyfriend. I don't know if they think their partner is inadequate in bed or they see physical attributes in others, which turn them on. Whatever the reason, it's sad. I find you very attractive, but that doesn't mean I would cheat on my BF if I had a chance to sleep with you. I guess some people just don't care about monogamy and love.
ScienceRulesWithFact 2 years ago
Carl, you have honestly just restored my faith in my fellow gay man. I honestly thought I was the ONLY one who had noticed this in the gay community, the supreme sense of shallowness. It's not my thing either, and the fact that there are genuine sensitive, insightful guys out there like you looking for *actual love* does give me hope. Here's hoping we both find that someone special.
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