i think we are naturally drawn towards people like ourselves... because we naturally love ourselves... but if we are chemically imbalanced and we find someone else that is tooo then we are setting up for disaster.. we need to find someone opposite.. so that we can bring some bounce to anothers somewhat stable lifestyle.
I believe that lust is a strong emotional drive programmed into us, to trick us that it is love, to make men and women have sex, so that babies are born.....
The mothers love towards her baby is also so that she will look after it and take care of it because it needs her.
the only kinds of love that arn't brain tricks is when we chose to do the love, like when we have money and we chose to share it with a poor person even though we don't want to thats love!
After reading your comments I think you have sorted out what you really meant ...that being in lust is the energy that is not 'real' - not being in love.
Is lust merely a craving or intense urge for self-gratification - or is it natural and (in the biological sense) necessary for procreation of species? Therefore not a waste maybe. Is it still considered a deadly sin?
I believe lust is a beginning emotion in the ever-changing and evolving cycle of human love. Sometimes it just never gets past that, but when it does move on to a deeper level, it's a beautiful thing.
Maybe compassion is the broader, selfless love we feel for anything or anyone.
Lesley, I should have known that you would get my thought process reeling with the biological implications of lust that I hadn't even considered. 1. It feels good 2. it sometimes leads to true love If it leads to a deeper level of love, it is a catalyst for one of the major reasons that many say is the learning lesson for our existence - to LOVE
3. it sometimes leads to babies If it's an urge that continues humanity it has a purpose. If it leads to copulation, it is a catalyst for another one of the major reasons for our existence - to procreate. I'm learning a lot here.
cool and interesting video. i believe that being in love is real and it's beautiful, even if it is fleeting. what i call "brotherly love" and compassion kind of go hand in hand. no doubt that they are positive forces for making change. whereas criticism is negative but also just as necessary as compassion. yin + yang
Others here have pointed out here the beautiful, positive reality that being in love can bring. I'm still not 100% convinced but am willing to consider that I may have confused being in love with being in lust.
Disagree -- I can be compassionate towards a stranger -- doesn't mean I love or understand them. But do agree that people need compassion (which means to me 'being sympathetic to their situation')
Comparing love and/or being in love in the context of compassion is mixing apples and oranges. Your conclusions don't fit your premise. My 2 cents. Don't hate me.
I could never hate you, Danny. You sent me to the dictionary, though, and I see you're right about the word compassion. I meant loving someone without judgement because you have an understanding of how what they've been through effects who they are and what they do. You may not approve but you see them from a loving view. I thought that was compassion. Is there a word for that?
I just kind of record as I babble and realized when I was viewing it later that I went off track and that the three didn't related but as I told someone recently, I've been called the stereotypical blonde with brown hair so I just thought, oh that's the type of thing they must be referring to. Case in point, I let it stand as is.
I think the word you're looking for maybe "empathetic" Yes? And I disagree with you (sorry - again) on the stereotypical blonde thing because your vlogs are very thought provoking.
Empathetic is the word for what I described but not just understanding. It has to include loving like the Christ type love - the type that transcends enemies. It's like seeing people with the eyes of God. Maybe there isn't a word that gets that big, I don't know.
buuttttttt....it being a waste of time and energy, well im not agreeing with that...bc how could something that brings you so much joy be a "waste"?..compassion is definately a TYPE of love with understanding or a part of being in love...and when we get that it makes SUCH a HUGE difference...gotta know the bad to know truely how good the good really is :)
with ALL that being said.... being in Love .... being a distraction so too speak or an addiction, or an escape from reality... being in Love saved my life...and woke me outof a deep depression to see that not everything is as bad as i thought..so in my case, being in love awoke me to reality :)..acted as sort of a medicine when all the other prescribedjust didnt work :) thanks for the video tho!
You were fortunate as was Dancingwithabroom was with his wife. It worked in a real and positive way for both of you. Maybe I've confused being in love with being in lust. I'll have to think about it.
this was a great video :) ...love a chemical imbalance...totally agree..our bodies act in such different ways when there is love as does our attitudes and releases pheromones just like a smile does..strange huh lol...
I think you're quite right: "Being in love" is like experiencing an alcohol "high." Hopefully, after either high, one wakes up with someone with compassion (love with understanding.) But I remember falling in love with my wife countless times during our marriage. Meanwhile, I like the contrast you make between "worry" and "prayer." Interesting and helpful view.
no being in Love is not a chemical imbancle, God is Love God loves is so no its not
Felisha23luv 9 months ago
Why the hell are you telling us personal stuff on the web ..........?
Scum71succer 1 year ago
Blah blah blah ...where's the skatenigs?
Scum71succer 1 year ago
i think we are naturally drawn towards people like ourselves... because we naturally love ourselves... but if we are chemically imbalanced and we find someone else that is tooo then we are setting up for disaster.. we need to find someone opposite.. so that we can bring some bounce to anothers somewhat stable lifestyle.
Aloxic 2 years ago
yes, I had a boyfriend once whose therapist told him that because we were so opposite.
alphaba2 2 years ago
I believe that lust is a strong emotional drive programmed into us, to trick us that it is love, to make men and women have sex, so that babies are born.....
The mothers love towards her baby is also so that she will look after it and take care of it because it needs her.
the only kinds of love that arn't brain tricks is when we chose to do the love, like when we have money and we chose to share it with a poor person even though we don't want to thats love!
Grapejuice22 2 years ago
maybe. Sometimes good deeds aren't an act of love as much as an act of validation that we are essentially good.
alphaba2 2 years ago
What does this have to do with the Skatenigs?
BungholioDoug 3 years ago 2
Pushing G.W. Bush in a pile of horse shit...is that compassion or critism.. :) love your latest vids V
manque15 4 years ago
yikes! I don't think that qualifies as compassion but it wouldn't make it an act without merit, either.
alphaba2 4 years ago
After reading your comments I think you have sorted out what you really meant ...that being in lust is the energy that is not 'real' - not being in love.
Is lust merely a craving or intense urge for self-gratification - or is it natural and (in the biological sense) necessary for procreation of species? Therefore not a waste maybe. Is it still considered a deadly sin?
LeSaMilano 4 years ago
I believe lust is a beginning emotion in the ever-changing and evolving cycle of human love. Sometimes it just never gets past that, but when it does move on to a deeper level, it's a beautiful thing.
Maybe compassion is the broader, selfless love we feel for anything or anyone.
LeSaMilano 4 years ago
Lesley, I should have known that you would get my thought process reeling with the biological implications of lust that I hadn't even considered. 1. It feels good 2. it sometimes leads to true love If it leads to a deeper level of love, it is a catalyst for one of the major reasons that many say is the learning lesson for our existence - to LOVE
alphaba2 4 years ago
3. it sometimes leads to babies If it's an urge that continues humanity it has a purpose. If it leads to copulation, it is a catalyst for another one of the major reasons for our existence - to procreate. I'm learning a lot here.
alphaba2 4 years ago
cool and interesting video. i believe that being in love is real and it's beautiful, even if it is fleeting. what i call "brotherly love" and compassion kind of go hand in hand. no doubt that they are positive forces for making change. whereas criticism is negative but also just as necessary as compassion. yin + yang
superfrodies 4 years ago
Others here have pointed out here the beautiful, positive reality that being in love can bring. I'm still not 100% convinced but am willing to consider that I may have confused being in love with being in lust.
alphaba2 4 years ago
Disagree -- I can be compassionate towards a stranger -- doesn't mean I love or understand them. But do agree that people need compassion (which means to me 'being sympathetic to their situation')
Comparing love and/or being in love in the context of compassion is mixing apples and oranges. Your conclusions don't fit your premise. My 2 cents. Don't hate me.
dl737 4 years ago
I could never hate you, Danny. You sent me to the dictionary, though, and I see you're right about the word compassion. I meant loving someone without judgement because you have an understanding of how what they've been through effects who they are and what they do. You may not approve but you see them from a loving view. I thought that was compassion. Is there a word for that?
alphaba2 4 years ago
I just kind of record as I babble and realized when I was viewing it later that I went off track and that the three didn't related but as I told someone recently, I've been called the stereotypical blonde with brown hair so I just thought, oh that's the type of thing they must be referring to. Case in point, I let it stand as is.
alphaba2 4 years ago
people tell you that? don't let them.
superfrodies 4 years ago
Thanks, Sean. I'll work on that : )
alphaba2 4 years ago
I think the word you're looking for maybe "empathetic" Yes? And I disagree with you (sorry - again) on the stereotypical blonde thing because your vlogs are very thought provoking.
dl737 4 years ago
Empathetic is the word for what I described but not just understanding. It has to include loving like the Christ type love - the type that transcends enemies. It's like seeing people with the eyes of God. Maybe there isn't a word that gets that big, I don't know.
alphaba2 4 years ago
buuttttttt....it being a waste of time and energy, well im not agreeing with that...bc how could something that brings you so much joy be a "waste"?..compassion is definately a TYPE of love with understanding or a part of being in love...and when we get that it makes SUCH a HUGE difference...gotta know the bad to know truely how good the good really is :)
KeriLovesMAtty 4 years ago
with ALL that being said.... being in Love .... being a distraction so too speak or an addiction, or an escape from reality... being in Love saved my life...and woke me outof a deep depression to see that not everything is as bad as i thought..so in my case, being in love awoke me to reality :)..acted as sort of a medicine when all the other prescribedjust didnt work :) thanks for the video tho!
KeriLovesMAtty 4 years ago
You were fortunate as was Dancingwithabroom was with his wife. It worked in a real and positive way for both of you. Maybe I've confused being in love with being in lust. I'll have to think about it.
alphaba2 4 years ago
ok, Keri, I have to give it to you that "waste of time" may have been strong. I appreciate you sharing this.
alphaba2 4 years ago
this was a great video :) ...love a chemical imbalance...totally agree..our bodies act in such different ways when there is love as does our attitudes and releases pheromones just like a smile does..strange huh lol...
KeriLovesMAtty 4 years ago
Oh I love your analogy here. The world definitely needs more compassion! I like to refer to being "in love" as, "The Dance of the Pheromones".
daligoddess2006 4 years ago
Great phrase for it, Kim. It really captures the essensce.
alphaba2 4 years ago
I think you're quite right: "Being in love" is like experiencing an alcohol "high." Hopefully, after either high, one wakes up with someone with compassion (love with understanding.) But I remember falling in love with my wife countless times during our marriage. Meanwhile, I like the contrast you make between "worry" and "prayer." Interesting and helpful view.
dancingwithabroom 4 years ago
Your relationship with Annie, Mark, was beautiful. Wow. To fall in love countless times with your wife. I find this so romantic.
alphaba2 4 years ago