Polyandry, and Other Thoughts on Marriage, Relationships, et cetera

[EWOKCAD]

Your wit is refreshing

[CuteCatFaith]

@EWOKCAD Thanks! I am a sit-down comedienne!

[kaledon6]

@CuteCatFaith I´m a man and I Think you are an amazing woman...First ,you say that the tradicional male responsability to provide for their families is unfair to men...Second, you sound so romantic when you stated you won´t give up that relationship by saying "You´re gonna have to kill me"..Third, you are so smart by separating each relationship between moments and bedrooms, which preservs people from the excess of intimacy..Last, there are no threesomes, which I think is only for bi-sexual men

[CuteCatFaith]

@kaledon6 I think you got some of my messages here, which I know are criss crossed and complex. I think it is unrealistic to expect any man to be the prince charming breadwinner for his entire lifetime. What are the odds on that happening? Very slim. People are too ready to bash men. What if they did a great job for ten years and then got tired or slowed down? Does that make him a bad person? No, only human. Any additional lovers is a delicate issue indeed.

[CuteCatFaith]

@kaledon6 I only marry for love, which I realize is a losing game, but it just feels right because the daily grind, if you don't have that basic love, loyalty, you cannot get through the boring crud which is so necessary, such as really wanting to make sure they are okay and keep some humor in it all. This video has gotten very good responses from men. I love that. I do put them down sometimes but try to not project my frustration TOO much.

[EWOKCAD]

Arranged marriages are wonderful. I wish I cuold get an arranged marriage with a lovely phillipina or asian girl.

[TheSheChef]

definitely food for thought

[pastryparrot1]

I have to admit I had to look up the word 'polyandry'! I had never heard of it. I am nit sure I could handle a situation like that. Two husbands. I think you need to have such an open mind in order to keep from feeling things like jealousy and envy when you are one of the two! I am sure the same goes for polygamy. Marriage is hard but - at least in my case - well worth the work. Pete and I have been married for 20 years, after dating flr 3 weeks, and we are solid as a rock. Thanks!

[VilleMagique]

Arrange marriages are the most successful marriages statistically. Let's face it, marriage isn't just between two people. The stupid families get involved, too. It's dumbasses who think love/lust is going to sustain a lifetime together. My biggest problem is actually seeing the same fucking person 24/7. I'm going to make a response vid to this. A lot to talk about!

[CuteCatFaith]

@VilleMagique The people who keep separate bedrooms are the smartest. I bought my 2nd husband his own apartment! People get along better when they have their own space. Current spouse has his own room, that was always the deal. He can sleep in there or hole up in there all he wants, doesn't bother me.

[slobomotion]

@VilleMagique I never did see your response to this.

[MrsNewAmericaNow]

I agree with most but love itself is not bad or a sin....lust is not love and love is not lust. Lust is something different all together, it's pheromones a chemical reaction and it doesn't mean that there is any care or love for the other person. Lust is basically two compatible people in heat or you lust after materials objects because you have been trained since birth you need certain things to be happy...which is a huge lie that drives our economy.

[CuteCatFaith]

@MrsNewAmericaNow I essentially agree with you on all points here.

[pendermann54]

I agree,we as men can't give women anything(like you said at the start of your vid)but arranged marriages are just fine.

[CuteCatFaith]

@pendermann54 Men do want to be Prince Charming, most, anyway, but it is just not something fair to ask them to keep going for a lifetime. I hope you see the movie VALMONT by Forman, the one with Annette Bening. It is the "other" DANGEROUS LIAISONS. There are some good lines in there about arranged marriages. I feel sorry that I have become rather bitter after all the men who let me down. I am a woman of valor. I know I was wrong for expecting to be appreciated, tho.

[CuteCatFaith]

@pendermann54 A lot depends also on supportive extended family & community. I am pretty surprised how my views have changed & I hope broadened in my 50-some years this time 'round. I am trying to keep channels open with my current spouse but be firm and say I am totally isolated and my feelings count, I will not be the useful furniture, such as a doormat. Lately I am getting a lot of nasty comments from men who are really just cads. It's as though I am not, what, submissive enough for them?

[bonesmccoy1]

my grandfather TRIED to arrange a marriage for me when i was a kid (yes he tried to "old world" me)....i was 7 the kid was 9 needless to say....COOOTIES lol i remember yelling that...and my grandfather was MORTIFIED lol...needless to say...no marriage lol

[CuteCatFaith]

@bonesmccoy1 That is cute! I mean, when kids are teens, they should have calm talk (possibly not directly from the family) about the real facts of life and marriage. I used to sort of hope a spouse would be selected for me. I know this sounds nuts. I want to make it clear, however, I feel that forced marriage is HORRIFIC! I have what I THINK is a fairly evolved take on marriage. But it does not sit well with many, to be sure!

[SSArt98]

I can't get past :37 secs,don't know if it's the video or my connection/PC.

What you said in the first few seconds hit me hard.To hear that from a woman, I was shocked & thank you for understanding the stresses put upon men.

(Wish I could hear the rest of this talk)

Refreshing for the 3rd time (the charm?) :)

Truth~Peace~Love2U

James (SSArt98)

[CuteCatFaith]

@SSArt98 Hope you got it to play! I think men WANT to be "prince charming," but to ask them to be "Mr. Do It All" for a whole friggin' LIFETIME, who can manage that? My own current spouse is going through mid-life crisis big time, also. I DO LOVE HIM and I refuse to be the doormat at the same time. People who have stayed with us are amazed at how patient and supportive I am. And the sex drive thing between men and women is often very uneven. As women age, most need more sex.

[SSArt98]

@CuteCatFaith I can tell your very patient & supportive,your husband (spouse) is lucky to have someone like you.

My most recent "ex" of 4 years was very controlling & had no patience at all.She did care for me quite a bit as I care about her but the controlling part was one reason I couldn't get much closer to her & being I lost trust in a prior 14 year relationship I shut her out & others in my life.Also,you are right on the sex part,her sex drive is unbelievably hungry at the age of 45.

[CuteCatFaith]

@SSArt98 It is likely to keep on increasing with her and not really settle down much for another 10 to 20 years. If someone needs to control you, they are insecure that they will lose you, or you are just a thing to them and they have no respect for you. I don't mind strong personalities. I can be terribly bossy myself. But quite daily, I really have to have a heart to heart with the person and we have to "faire le point" as they say over here. I am TOO protective at times!

[MUSLIMSareCHOMOS]

@SSArt98 just saw you complaining about this vid not playing, and had to jump in with this advice... when the video pauses, click on the bar a few seconds ahead of where its at and press play. if you want, you can then rewind to catch the few seconds you skipped over.either way it will play just fine after that