I am for whatever reason in the same place. I think it may be just a result of the long-term abuse, and hearing you and your friends' words helped me greatly!
Long term trauma is not understood by many people! You are courageous and helping many, many others by just talking. I don't believe the fatigue is your fault. We all get worn out by the abuse, and the freedom, relative as it may be, just brings out this other layer. Part of the healing.
For those that are in an abusive relationship, just get out. Divorce is the only solution. Men like this don't change. According to Lundy Bancroft's book, very few men change, and if they do go into counseling, it's because their wives have left them.
@FunnyBrit I agree. Been there, done that. Was involved with a verbal/emotional abuser. Tried to change him. Doesn't work folks!!! Get out while you have your sanity and spirit still intact.
To those in the same situation, get a copy of Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft and anything by Patricia Evans. I would suggest mentally divorce yourself from him, just tune him out. When he starts being verbally abusive, just walk away and go into another room. Get a diary and make a note of everything he does and says. Also, get in touch with yourself and do things, like hobbies, remember what you were like before you met him and get in touch with the woman you once were.
Years of abuse left me emotionally fatigued. Thought it was just me being lazy, although, really, like sweetly, I am full of life, deep within. Every now and then I make a pathetic attempt to live the life I was meant to live, but then lose hope, because I am too fatigued emotionally to work at regaining my health, emotionally, physically, as well as spiritually. Make sure you don't follow suit, ok? You are doing so well. I think you will break free pretty soon. Watch out World!
Please don't buy bamboo flutes from Das fantasyflutes on youtube, he verbally and emotionally abused me for two years..I feel just like this lady..pass it on
Thank you for your bravery and courage. I am lost in a marriage with a man who is in total denial regarding his explosive rage's and verbal abuse. I am to blame for everything, alway's complaining. Then when he is wonderful I love him. Then boom, the monster is back but I drove him too it! Feel very low and alone so thank you for being brave enough to reach out. God Bless
Keep sharing....keep sharing...and teaching....this is therapeutic for you...and for all of us...we all need to know and to learn with and from each other....this is me, as well, love...thank you, God, for having her share...
You know how much I appreciate hearing you talk. Im so glad that you are here. Im so confused and hurt right now and scared to say anything. I just wanted you to know that Im still here and waiting on you to give me the "right" answers as to handle all of this....
hey there, emotional fatigue is my prob right now.Just out of an abusive relationship. abuse causes fatigue without a doubt...all the I'll kill myself...why are you always wearing that, you don't give me enough sex blah blah blah...you made me do it. Awful to live with. My natural state is lively and energetic. Don't let him get to you....
you recorded this in 2009; so what has happened, did you leave him?
ptsaslkbali 2 months ago
@ptsaslkbali Yes. I left January 22, 2010 after a physically violent incident. Life is now so much easier and full of love :)
verbalabusejournal 1 month ago
@verbalabusejournal Brilliant glad to hear it. I left in 2004 and I just LOVE MY new life. All the best to you.
ptsaslkbali 1 month ago
Thank god for your videos x
soulgirl62 5 months ago
I am for whatever reason in the same place. I think it may be just a result of the long-term abuse, and hearing you and your friends' words helped me greatly!
Long term trauma is not understood by many people! You are courageous and helping many, many others by just talking. I don't believe the fatigue is your fault. We all get worn out by the abuse, and the freedom, relative as it may be, just brings out this other layer. Part of the healing.
Think of it like a long illness or injury!
tal5ara 8 months ago
For those that are in an abusive relationship, just get out. Divorce is the only solution. Men like this don't change. According to Lundy Bancroft's book, very few men change, and if they do go into counseling, it's because their wives have left them.
FunnyBrit 2 years ago
@FunnyBrit I agree. Been there, done that. Was involved with a verbal/emotional abuser. Tried to change him. Doesn't work folks!!! Get out while you have your sanity and spirit still intact.
auntstacey123 6 months ago
To those in the same situation, get a copy of Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft and anything by Patricia Evans. I would suggest mentally divorce yourself from him, just tune him out. When he starts being verbally abusive, just walk away and go into another room. Get a diary and make a note of everything he does and says. Also, get in touch with yourself and do things, like hobbies, remember what you were like before you met him and get in touch with the woman you once were.
FunnyBrit 2 years ago
Years of abuse left me emotionally fatigued. Thought it was just me being lazy, although, really, like sweetly, I am full of life, deep within. Every now and then I make a pathetic attempt to live the life I was meant to live, but then lose hope, because I am too fatigued emotionally to work at regaining my health, emotionally, physically, as well as spiritually. Make sure you don't follow suit, ok? You are doing so well. I think you will break free pretty soon. Watch out World!
littlekimvirginia 2 years ago
Please don't buy bamboo flutes from Das fantasyflutes on youtube, he verbally and emotionally abused me for two years..I feel just like this lady..pass it on
magnoliagoddess108 2 years ago
Thank you for your bravery and courage. I am lost in a marriage with a man who is in total denial regarding his explosive rage's and verbal abuse. I am to blame for everything, alway's complaining. Then when he is wonderful I love him. Then boom, the monster is back but I drove him too it! Feel very low and alone so thank you for being brave enough to reach out. God Bless
daddyrennie 2 years ago
Keep sharing....keep sharing...and teaching....this is therapeutic for you...and for all of us...we all need to know and to learn with and from each other....this is me, as well, love...thank you, God, for having her share...
csc55 2 years ago
You know how much I appreciate hearing you talk. Im so glad that you are here. Im so confused and hurt right now and scared to say anything. I just wanted you to know that Im still here and waiting on you to give me the "right" answers as to handle all of this....
Myra312 2 years ago
sweeetly, thank you :) I like your sound!
verbalabusejournal 2 years ago
17 years is a long time...maybe you can't remember what you felt like before you met your husband. Think back, remember..
sweeetly 2 years ago
hey there, emotional fatigue is my prob right now.Just out of an abusive relationship. abuse causes fatigue without a doubt...all the I'll kill myself...why are you always wearing that, you don't give me enough sex blah blah blah...you made me do it. Awful to live with. My natural state is lively and energetic. Don't let him get to you....
sweeetly 2 years ago