You're showing an honest, beautiful soul. It's good to remember that what is often a slow process of self-acceptance will be mirrored when we tell others. Since we are likely to have a similar understanding (or mis-understanding) of sexuality as they do, our anxiety at telling them will often be based on our own journey of self-knowledge. You're a brave guy - time will bring many friends around, when they see that you are indeed the same person they knew.
Comin' from a straight dude, i have gay friends, and i've known them to be pretty damn cool dudes. From the sounds of it, you took all of the hatred pretty well. Keep your head up man, after highschool, and once you move out, it doesn't really matter. Nothing does. Just keep doing your thing and be as happy as you could possibly be.
Should have known, your too Cute to be straight :) . I'm sorry you has to go through this passage but it will be OK you have a great future ahead of you.
Should have known, your too Cute to be straight :) . I'm sorry you has to go through this passage but it will be OK you have a great future ahead of you.
Your 'friends' who don't accept you are NOT your friends. They were friends with somebody else that they thought you were. You real friends are the ones who love you regardless. You are so strong, it's incredible. Right on man! You will go far in life.
Hang in. I told my family I was gay and it did not go well. My mom goes to her religious place of worship more than times a week and so did I as well as the rest of family. I came out. It was hard. But worth it. Your life is going to have so much more love in it now. Because you love yourself first.
You are a lovely young man and so good because you are self-aware and you are clear in your communication. You will go far in life and you deserve great happiness. I hope you have a wonderful and successful life.
Wow. Best coming out video I've seen... and I've watched a ton of them. Stay strong and positive boi. You are courageous and fuck you are hot! But seriously, if your family cannot accept you for who you are, they're not worth the effort.
It has been a privelege to watch your video. More strength to you, Young Man. Salt water wells in my eyes. Be proud and strong and I hope the person you choose to share your life with is of the same high quality as you obviously are. And hugs from a silly old gay bugger.
For my 18th birthday my stepmother gave me a letter with scripture one of the lines was " that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, " I highlighted the word ADULTERERS and wrote "see you in Hell??" She was my father's secretary before my stepmother. It took you time to accept your homosexuality, it might take your family a while to FINALLY accept you.
I know you can not tell what a person is like from just watching a clip on YouTube but your family must be mad, have they lost sight of the world we live in, with all of the pit falls there are for young people today I would be overjoyed to have a son like you that seems to be an intelligent bright and a great human being, one day I really hope your family come to understand that they have no right to put conditions on there love, that you have the right to be you
Tell your family that love is not a sin.......if God is love then he would have to hate himself for your loving someone who makes you happy and just happens to be a guy...God cannot condemn love or else he would have to condemn himself, and a house divided cannot stand, just remember always this truth that "Love is not a sin" I hear the sadness in your voice and I know this is a ruff time for you, fill your life with friends that support you and love you. You have so much to offer this world..
@Jamietron666 Also can you please just come to New Zealand. No one even cares about me being a huge homo here. Oh and you could also read me bedtime stories in your amazing accent.
Thank you for posting your story. I shared your video on Facebook. There are many people you will help with your story of strength. Life will get better. Keep being yourself.
With your story, You will help houndreds,maybe thousands of people, and you are a good person, don't let anyboby make you doubt about it. I wish you sincerly that you find your love!
How can a person, especially a friend, be disappointed in you when you stick your neck out and admit you are gay! That person is pretty shallow, and does not deserve your friendship. We do not choose to be gay. We are born this way. You are very brave to come out to all your friends and family. I have a lot of experience in these matters, having been on this earth a long time, so I wish you well. Good video! Cheers, Mate!
Wow that Last Sentence or two was soooo powerful and strong. I hope You family accepts and grows to understand all this and continues to love and support you. If not it is their lose. Stay strong man. Everything happens for a reason.
You can't expect your family to accept you for being gay.. its been 4yrs since i was forced out. And my family still doesnt accept it. So you need to accep the fact that your family may never change, but a word of advice, don't go on hope that they will change, I've tried... its too much stress to deal with.
The only person you need to impress is God and yourself! My guess is you have a very happy and rewarding life ahead - hang in there bud, most people in this world are "out of it." :-)
I was "forced out" too and it was very painful and people don't realize the power of their words. Parents can be so cruel and selfish at this time; it becomes all about them and how it affects them. They have no concept for how personal it is to attack their own blood and their supposedly abnormal sexual thoughts. Then later if they are like my family they'll act like they never said or did any of that. Thanks for your video and I hope we can help you on your journey.
You are really interesting to listen too. Your voice is very pleasing,but also the way you choose your words, and the examples you give...you are a great teller. You should do more with this.
You're such a brave man! Stay strong, I know it's very easy to say but I've passed through that non-acceptance, believe me. I came out about a year ago, being 20. Homosexuality is neither a choice nor a disease! Who on earth would choose a life full of hate and rejection? You did right, that's who you are! You have all my support, keep going, be strong. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger! Big hugs from Sevilla, Spain.
Fortunately I haven't experienced any 'hate', but know that people who aren't prepared to show you support & be there for you don't deserve to have you in their lives. Stay strong though it, there are loads of people going through the same problems.
I want to hug you. You're just an amazing human being. I know it doesn't mean much coming from a total stranger, but you're an example of strength we don't often see anymore. I wish everyone could be as strong as you are.
You're very strong. Dude you've got some BALLS! For being outted and sticking to who you are is the strongest thing about a man. That's why i think some gay men are stronger mentally than straight men because we get put through the biggest bullshit and we stay strong till we overcome it. Good Job.
I am so proud of you. The hardest is to admit to yourself that you are gay. Family is though to deal with, some will come around, others will simply not talk about it and if it gets real bad, some will avoid you at all cost. That can be hard at times. I also grew up in a small town, so I know all to well that it is not easy, but there are new friends to be made that believe in you and will be there for you. Feel free to contact me when you have a rough time.
Sounds like what I went through in Tennessee. Parents kicked me out, I moved to my b/f's farm, and I haven't spoken to my family in 5 years, but I am happier now than I ever have been!
Honestly, if all my friends and family don't accept me whenever I become more open, I'm only out to a few people, but if I'm not accepted, I won't give 2 fucks about those people who don't accept it. This may sound concieted, but i'm actually above most of my family, and as far as friends go, eh, I can make more. Alls i'm sayin is, I don't need anybody to accept me because i;ve already accepted myself
As far as your mom goes I think that in time everything will work out as long as you are true to yourself and who you are and stay strong it does get better I know that I can promise you that much.
its amazing how so many people live in their own little world and believe that it is a 'choice we make' they have no idea about real life...we cannot live a lie to keep other people happy...wish you all the happiness in the world...be safe.
Sorry this happened to you. Give your family and loved ones time. Most (if not all) will likely come around. I know it's tough now but please hang in there. Stay strong. It will alll be worth it. I know from experience.
You are not alone, there are plenty of good kind wonderful people out there that support you. You are wise and will go far. There is plenty of love around you, just continue to reach out and be brave. Thank you for making this video. You rock~!
Hey, it's your life; you want to have ten wives and twenty kids in ten years, you go right ahead. Fuck The World!, and Fuck Off And Die! those are words of wisdom to live by: Have a great 2012
You're a brave guy! I think it's pretty hard to survive for a gay guy in a small town among those plenty religious bigots out there... I wish you good luck! I hope circumstances will help you. ;-)
@jarredmccleese I think that it's cool that you've realized and decied that the best way for you to be happy is to be yourself. It's true of course! I think you'll open some people's eyeswhere you live and you'll show them being gay is not so strange or awful. Because of you some people will become more accepting of gay people. The increased acceptance will make being gay easier for others and more people will be more likely to come out.
awww.): This one makes me wanna cry! I'm glad you've excepted yourself for who you are. You family may NEVER understand, but you're taking it very well to how they reacted. Hope everything gets better as time passes. Good luck.
Hey – Your analogy of the blind woman is fine. Saying you're disappointed in someone because they're gay is like saying you're disappointed in them because they're black, or Asian, or have blonde hair, or freckles, or whatever. I saw you said you asked your Mum to watch 'Prayers for Bobby'. If she won't watch it, why not get her to watch a film called 'V for Vendetta': it's not explicitly about gay people, but shows how bigotry and homophobia can lead to terrible suffering and brutality...
aww, :( sorry you got forced out... i feel really bad, and i know its no place of mine to feel bad or to say i'm sorry, because i dont really know you, but its supposed to be more of an up lifting instead of everyone turning on you. but i'm glad you still have a positive outlook on it :)
@KyletheMeep its ok, everyone didnt turn on me. Just my family and some close friends lol but Im hoping maybe they will come around in time. Thanks for commenting :)
Your in my prayers my brother. As a gay christian I kind of know what your going through right now. It had taken you a very long time for you to accept the fact that your gay. And it may take an equally as long time for your family and friends to accept you as well. I not think you should ever stop loving your family. But your right you should allow them to bring you down. There is only one person that controls your happiness that is you. You also may want to check out the Gay Christian Network.
Sadly, some are very ignorant. What does it matter who you love as long as you do love. Yea, be yourself; there is nothing wrong with you at all. Thanks for the video. I think you are very special and it is too bad that the ones close to you have ignorantly behaved so hatefully.
@tattooedboy04 thanks :) some of them might just need time, it took me all my life to accept it, but I know some will accept it. I try not to argue with them because its like talking to a brick wall lol thanks for commenting!
@jarredmccleese It takes a strong person to stand up and be yourself among such adversity. I think you are very special and happily subscribed...looking forward to your next video.
give time to your family.Some times we overreact because we are surprised and we say thing we regret after....Any way I don't know your parents but I believe they will get over it eventually just be patient with theme
@pepermint26 I know they need time but trust me when I say that chances are they will NEVER accept it, they think I am going against God and in there mind they are tryn to save me from hell (they never give up on me) as they say, I know they love me. I was just making it clear that I cant put my life on hold to try and please them
All I have to say is wow!!! That was honest and emotional. Very sorry to hear the reaction from the parents has been so bad. I'd like to reiterate what some of what was said below. That there is a supporting community and love out there. The most important thing is to love yourself and be true to who you are! You can only hope and try to bring you your family around. There are lots of resources out there take a look at anotetomykid. com, look at the movie prayers for bobby, contact PFLAG, etc...
@CeiteachSiew I actually tried to get my mom to watch prayers for bobby, but shes kinda closed minded, that makes it harder, but I will be ok :) thanks for commenting
Im sorry that your family was not as supportive. I was lucky, i was forced out on Thanksgiving of this last year because my BF of 2 1/2 years broke up with me over the phone while he was in Texas with his family and i had a total meltdown and it didn't take long for my mom to figure out what had happened. My mom was so awesome about it the only person who had a real problem was my father but he has moved passed it.
@Janus0901 Thats good to hear :) not about the break up of course but the supportive family. My dad hasnt said much about it. I think there may be hope for him, im not so sure about my mom though. Maybe it just needs time?
I was forced out also. Trying to answer the question "why, why are you gay" with my moms hands round me neck wasn't easy. I'm glad you can see past your coming out problems and look ahead. Coming out is hard enough on yourself, i wish people understood that.
@ObviouslyMatRyan I dont know what hurts more, my family not being able to love ALL of me or my friend betraying my trust, and Im sorry that you had a bad experience as well, its things like these that make people stronger I think and there are some wounds that only time will heal, agree? Thank you for commenting :)
@jarredmccleese Totally agree. It will make you stronger. Takes time but tbh i don't envy you being from the American south at all. In England its still not easy but eek, religion + gay = not much fun.......
I really hope everything will be alright, I was forced out as well, lucky for me it was only my family who freaked in a negative manner and I was never close to them. It'll get better...there's just an awkward pahse when you have to decide who you real friends are and who REALLY cares about you, I wish you the best ^_^ ~painful anaconda-like virtual hug that may hurt...but makes you feel the love~
@RikkiRocksAgain haha yeah very awkward to say the least :) I cant wait to move out and maybe free myself from some of the awkwardness. Thanks for commenting :)
You like Decypher Down. Their song "Best I Can"says "I can barely hold on you promise you won't let me go so I want you to know that I don't live a perfect life but God knows I am trying the best I can". It's tuff but remember that God is not exclusively for straight people. In the new testament are the words of christ and in no part did he ever say being gay is a sin but what he did say was LOVE is the best gift of all and Christ trumps all of the old testament and I am going to go with him.;-)
@osukowboi Thanks osukowboi :) I am tryn my best to stay positive, Its hard when you feel like everyone you care about has turned on you, though I know that some might just need time, as for my faith I dont know anymore. I still have my morals and values but I dont know exactly what I believe now
Jarred, you are so incredibly strong and I am so proud of you for keeping your head up through this whole situation. Your message is a sad one, but is incredible at the same time. Thank you for posting this. I know it wasn't easy, but I hope this reaches and helps every person who is afraid to be themselves. You are a true inspiration to me.
wow Joe that really means alot, truth is things wouldnt have went as smooth as they did if it wasnt for my youtube family and I cant tell you enough how much I appreciate you guys :)
@curtisp1987 Im sorry :( I encourage you to come out (when you are ready), I personally dont think I have much Courage but Its hard to keep living a lie, wouldnt you agree? You may have heard people say that it gets better but the first step is coming out, but only you can know when its time to make that first step...also be careful who you trust (dont come out to anyone unless you are prepared to be fully out) Im not the best at giving advice but I hope that all goes well for you
Hang in there Jarred! You're not alone. I was outed at school, and rumors started, and people told teachers and faculty. I go to a Catholic school, so their was a sin in most of their eyes, and has affected my time at school ever since. Being out, though hard, and though "risky", allows you to live your life freely. You may not think everything went the right way, but where you are now is just the beginning of your journey to happiness! Honestly, what else do people look for in life? Go you :)
So tell the people who are "disappointed" that if they are against it on religious ground they should learn from their own scriptures and "be without sin, before they cast a stone" (paraphrasing).
Remember also that love that is not unconditional, is not love at all. Tell that to your parents. And tell them that the only one who can judge you, is God, and no one else.
@PrimeGodist Master,which is the great commandment in the Law?Jesus said to him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with thy whole heart, and with thy whole soul,and with thy whole mind.This is the greatest and the first commandment. And the second is like it,Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.(Matthew 22:35-40)
Seems like God cares mostly that we love one another and get along, wouldnt you agree? Thanks for the comments :)
@jarredmccleese If we believe in a good God, a God that cares for all things that have been created, then we must also believe that God wants us to be happy; and to find love, gay, bi or straight.
In reality homosexuality is rarely mentioned in holy scriptures; but going by the current discourse you'd think the Bible would have a subtitle "Bible - The book on how gay people suck" It's because of the patriarchal society we live in, that Homosexuality, is so frowned upon.
As for it being on religious grounds. That is bullcrap. The people who claim to be religious do not live according to the Bible, they pick and choose those parts that they personally do not agree with because of cultural, societal or personal reasons. Hypocrisy, is rampant in the Christian, Muslim & Jewish communities.
Jarred, as a person of faith I can tell you that, loving/respecting yourself, loving/resp. others and striving to improve yourself, is all that God wishes of you. Nothing more.
It's not a choice, you're right. Why the hell would anyone CHOOSE to be persecuted, hated, discriminated against, judged etc? People really need to get educated. In the entire animal kingdom, only two species do not have homosexuality, and those two, are slugs, on the bottom of the sea. And yet amongst all those animal species, humans are unique in hating their own kind for that LITTLE fact.
Jarred you are brave, more brave than any of your friends will ever be. Be proud, for you are unique!
You can be SO MUCH Happier being who you know you are. I always say wouldnt you want your friends and family knowing who you are? cause you never know what could happen to them any minute, any second, any day they could die someway. vice versa..they have to love you for you! Wishing you the best, man! :)
@Joshipher1 Thanks Joe! maybe someday my family will open there eyes and accept me but your right, they have to love me for me, and when I said I dont need them in my life that doesnt mean I will ever stop loving them, just that I cant let them keep me from being happy, you probably know that I just needed to share lol
Aww budds. So happy you know its not a decision. you are what you are and some people dont get that and they're all still living in the past.. the very very far past of the bible. and they all think its wrong cause that book says it. -.- i hate ARGUING this with religious people who dont understand. if anyone replies to this comment against it.. im not replying. >.< anyway. Dude! happy for you! exactly if people cant accept you for you..you dont need them. Your heart is in the right place, :)
It may not mean much darling but I am SO proud of you! I know we may not know each other long and I live THOUSANDS of miles apart but I still am here for you in anyway I can be ! You are an inspiration and to share your story with the world while living it is SO brave. I am very happy to see you are making mature decisions and remember that you are loved!
@seanorary It means alot Sean! Thank you so much for supporting me on facebook, I wasnt talking about you when I said friends I didnt really know, I was talking about people I havent seen since I was like 7 lol you and the other forgaysakers have been a huge help and I appreciate you guys SO MUCH!!!
I understand agree with what you said. Just keep in mind that just as it took you time to accept it yourself in your mind, it will also take people time to accept and get it through their mind. You KNOW that you will be loved and accepted by those who are truly your friends. Those are the positive people you want in your life. Thank you for sharing your story, which couldn't have been easy, especially when it wasn't your decision. Stay strong and know you have so much love and support here.
@Netti2nite I understand that but my family are sure I am going to burn in Hell, I strongly think they will never accept it. But thanks for the love and support, I need all I can get :)
Absolutely wonderful video. It gets better, and you're a great example for everyone around you.
thealexalberti 18 hours ago
Se necesita ser muy macho para decir esto y publicarlo en un video. jeje ¡Qué irónico?
jogomez1974 21 hours ago
You're showing an honest, beautiful soul. It's good to remember that what is often a slow process of self-acceptance will be mirrored when we tell others. Since we are likely to have a similar understanding (or mis-understanding) of sexuality as they do, our anxiety at telling them will often be based on our own journey of self-knowledge. You're a brave guy - time will bring many friends around, when they see that you are indeed the same person they knew.
satnitcboy 1 day ago
Comin' from a straight dude, i have gay friends, and i've known them to be pretty damn cool dudes. From the sounds of it, you took all of the hatred pretty well. Keep your head up man, after highschool, and once you move out, it doesn't really matter. Nothing does. Just keep doing your thing and be as happy as you could possibly be.
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Should have known, your too Cute to be straight :) . I'm sorry you has to go through this passage but it will be OK you have a great future ahead of you.
rootsxrocks 1 day ago
Should have known, your too Cute to be straight :) . I'm sorry you has to go through this passage but it will be OK you have a great future ahead of you.
rootsxrocks 1 day ago
HES CUTE :P
ninaricy1 1 day ago
I LIKE TO SLOB ON KNOBXS SORRY MOM .. lame
eurospace123 1 day ago
Your adorable! <3
blakeajk123 1 day ago
hey i know i dont know you but seriously i love you <3333 your beautiful and brave and incredibly cute!!! stay strong and always be yourself.....
theJules101 1 day ago
Your 'friends' who don't accept you are NOT your friends. They were friends with somebody else that they thought you were. You real friends are the ones who love you regardless. You are so strong, it's incredible. Right on man! You will go far in life.
Bravo!
cjay2 2 days ago
Be honest. Be true to yourself. Be strong And trust in the words... IT GETS BETTER!!! Latter brother!!
Xamot1980 3 days ago 3
Hang in. I told my family I was gay and it did not go well. My mom goes to her religious place of worship more than times a week and so did I as well as the rest of family. I came out. It was hard. But worth it. Your life is going to have so much more love in it now. Because you love yourself first.
Xamot1980 3 days ago
Dude your like so Kool
Masedawg95 3 days ago
You are certainly a lot more brave than me. You have very good points!
phynxFire 3 days ago
um i heard gay ppl go to heII
TheStephy032698 3 days ago
You are a lovely young man and so good because you are self-aware and you are clear in your communication. You will go far in life and you deserve great happiness. I hope you have a wonderful and successful life.
geeceesteiner62 3 days ago
awesome awesome awesome video. feel good knowing you are positively affecting others out there by sharing this
Julestrent 4 days ago
Wow. Best coming out video I've seen... and I've watched a ton of them. Stay strong and positive boi. You are courageous and fuck you are hot! But seriously, if your family cannot accept you for who you are, they're not worth the effort.
SpunkyRedMan 4 days ago
You are who you are. BE PROUD!!
TheEculp 4 days ago
It has been a privelege to watch your video. More strength to you, Young Man. Salt water wells in my eyes. Be proud and strong and I hope the person you choose to share your life with is of the same high quality as you obviously are. And hugs from a silly old gay bugger.
phantommate 4 days ago
KEEP UP THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE!!
Bradywa 4 days ago 2
For my 18th birthday my stepmother gave me a letter with scripture one of the lines was " that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, " I highlighted the word ADULTERERS and wrote "see you in Hell??" She was my father's secretary before my stepmother. It took you time to accept your homosexuality, it might take your family a while to FINALLY accept you.
Bradywa 4 days ago
AWW :( if you're ever in LA I'm gonna buy you a drink
RolandoLuisissolike 5 days ago
I know you can not tell what a person is like from just watching a clip on YouTube but your family must be mad, have they lost sight of the world we live in, with all of the pit falls there are for young people today I would be overjoyed to have a son like you that seems to be an intelligent bright and a great human being, one day I really hope your family come to understand that they have no right to put conditions on there love, that you have the right to be you
Good luck
tingod99 5 days ago
Tell your family that love is not a sin.......if God is love then he would have to hate himself for your loving someone who makes you happy and just happens to be a guy...God cannot condemn love or else he would have to condemn himself, and a house divided cannot stand, just remember always this truth that "Love is not a sin" I hear the sadness in your voice and I know this is a ruff time for you, fill your life with friends that support you and love you. You have so much to offer this world..
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MrBarney524 6 days ago
God damn it you're just too attractive. Love me?
Jamietron666 6 days ago
@Jamietron666 Also can you please just come to New Zealand. No one even cares about me being a huge homo here. Oh and you could also read me bedtime stories in your amazing accent.
Jamietron666 6 days ago
Thank you for posting your story. I shared your video on Facebook. There are many people you will help with your story of strength. Life will get better. Keep being yourself.
Tasithoughts 1 week ago
With your story, You will help houndreds,maybe thousands of people, and you are a good person, don't let anyboby make you doubt about it. I wish you sincerly that you find your love!
Thanks! Pascal
pascalroy2012 1 week ago
How can a person, especially a friend, be disappointed in you when you stick your neck out and admit you are gay! That person is pretty shallow, and does not deserve your friendship. We do not choose to be gay. We are born this way. You are very brave to come out to all your friends and family. I have a lot of experience in these matters, having been on this earth a long time, so I wish you well. Good video! Cheers, Mate!
MrMusiclover41 1 week ago
seeing how mature and brave you are is a very refreshing thing to see these days
lizzygoesrawr86 1 week ago
Wow that Last Sentence or two was soooo powerful and strong. I hope You family accepts and grows to understand all this and continues to love and support you. If not it is their lose. Stay strong man. Everything happens for a reason.
jjayi3 1 week ago
You can't expect your family to accept you for being gay.. its been 4yrs since i was forced out. And my family still doesnt accept it. So you need to accep the fact that your family may never change, but a word of advice, don't go on hope that they will change, I've tried... its too much stress to deal with.
robagor 1 week ago
The only person you need to impress is God and yourself! My guess is you have a very happy and rewarding life ahead - hang in there bud, most people in this world are "out of it." :-)
Citi5video 1 week ago
I was "forced out" too and it was very painful and people don't realize the power of their words. Parents can be so cruel and selfish at this time; it becomes all about them and how it affects them. They have no concept for how personal it is to attack their own blood and their supposedly abnormal sexual thoughts. Then later if they are like my family they'll act like they never said or did any of that. Thanks for your video and I hope we can help you on your journey.
SillyGayBoy 1 week ago
Of course it's not a choice but even if it were a choice it shouldn't be a problem to be gay; there are many ways to love.
FuckLebPoliticians 1 week ago
You've clearly been through a lot of shit and you're very brave! Respect man!
FuckLebPoliticians 1 week ago
You are really interesting to listen too. Your voice is very pleasing,but also the way you choose your words, and the examples you give...you are a great teller. You should do more with this.
andrekloer 1 week ago
You're such a brave man! Stay strong, I know it's very easy to say but I've passed through that non-acceptance, believe me. I came out about a year ago, being 20. Homosexuality is neither a choice nor a disease! Who on earth would choose a life full of hate and rejection? You did right, that's who you are! You have all my support, keep going, be strong. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger! Big hugs from Sevilla, Spain.
Streamliner009 1 week ago 28
Fortunately I haven't experienced any 'hate', but know that people who aren't prepared to show you support & be there for you don't deserve to have you in their lives. Stay strong though it, there are loads of people going through the same problems.
cozaSA10 1 week ago
I want to hug you. You're just an amazing human being. I know it doesn't mean much coming from a total stranger, but you're an example of strength we don't often see anymore. I wish everyone could be as strong as you are.
RANDOMNESS1011000 1 week ago
Give your family a copy of the DVD "Prayers for Bobby".......
You can also watch it online on youtube.....
Maybe they understnad what they are doing after this movie.
aintnonerd 1 week ago
thats true!!! that is like using other people identification!!!
thats something very painful to heard your parent saying that you can't be who you really are!
im struggling whit it!!!
theiphone809 2 weeks ago
You're very strong. Dude you've got some BALLS! For being outted and sticking to who you are is the strongest thing about a man. That's why i think some gay men are stronger mentally than straight men because we get put through the biggest bullshit and we stay strong till we overcome it. Good Job.
PinoiBoi4lLife 2 weeks ago
I am so proud of you. The hardest is to admit to yourself that you are gay. Family is though to deal with, some will come around, others will simply not talk about it and if it gets real bad, some will avoid you at all cost. That can be hard at times. I also grew up in a small town, so I know all to well that it is not easy, but there are new friends to be made that believe in you and will be there for you. Feel free to contact me when you have a rough time.
hansnyc8861 2 weeks ago
U have amazing eyes and one of the things u said will stay with me forever thank you so much!!!!
jkcoolness 2 weeks ago
Hang in there.
Raphaelus13 2 weeks ago
Sounds like what I went through in Tennessee. Parents kicked me out, I moved to my b/f's farm, and I haven't spoken to my family in 5 years, but I am happier now than I ever have been!
jonathanharris2007 2 weeks ago
Honestly, if all my friends and family don't accept me whenever I become more open, I'm only out to a few people, but if I'm not accepted, I won't give 2 fucks about those people who don't accept it. This may sound concieted, but i'm actually above most of my family, and as far as friends go, eh, I can make more. Alls i'm sayin is, I don't need anybody to accept me because i;ve already accepted myself
Isaac10best 2 weeks ago
Update? Are things any better for ya, w/ your family and/or "friends"?? Kudos to you for standing up for yourself!
kristengrace14823 3 weeks ago
Your A Great Person For Standing Up For Yourself The Way You Did(: Im Gay And I Give You The Most Respect<3 Keep Your Head Up Babyboy<3
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OPIREopire 4 weeks ago
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OPIREopire 4 weeks ago
the blind woman thing was so funny, keep it up dude theres alot of pepole on ur side
A2Bproductions1 1 month ago
As far as your mom goes I think that in time everything will work out as long as you are true to yourself and who you are and stay strong it does get better I know that I can promise you that much.
Janus0901 1 month ago
From far away, I support you and understand every single word you say, and every single emotion you show. Thanks for sharing this vid Chris.
themonochromeman 1 month ago
its amazing how so many people live in their own little world and believe that it is a 'choice we make' they have no idea about real life...we cannot live a lie to keep other people happy...wish you all the happiness in the world...be safe.
robertgtaylor 1 month ago
I appreciate you sharing this
Emibakesthosecookies 1 month ago
Sorry this happened to you. Give your family and loved ones time. Most (if not all) will likely come around. I know it's tough now but please hang in there. Stay strong. It will alll be worth it. I know from experience.
Matthewgreen7779311 1 month ago
@Matthewgreen7779311 im not so sure they will given how strong there pentacostal background is but we can only hope right? Thanks for commenting :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
omg, sorry to hear your "friends' could do something like that to you, i hope things only gets better from now on! plus u have beautiful eyes ;)
LeonLovesIt 1 month ago
@LeonLovesIt Aww thanks :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
You are not alone, there are plenty of good kind wonderful people out there that support you. You are wise and will go far. There is plenty of love around you, just continue to reach out and be brave. Thank you for making this video. You rock~!
manoftheprairie 1 month ago
@manoftheprairie and You rock for saying I rock! :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Hey, it's your life; you want to have ten wives and twenty kids in ten years, you go right ahead. Fuck The World!, and Fuck Off And Die! those are words of wisdom to live by: Have a great 2012
Jai666666666 1 month ago
@Jai666666666 haha you too!
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
You're a brave guy! I think it's pretty hard to survive for a gay guy in a small town among those plenty religious bigots out there... I wish you good luck! I hope circumstances will help you. ;-)
M0bileP0int 1 month ago
@M0bileP0int Yeah I hope so too! thanks :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
It was interesting to hear your story. You seem like a smart guy!
StraightActingGayGuy 1 month ago
@StraightActingGayGuy well idk about smart being the "hillbilly" I am :p but thanks anyways :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
@jarredmccleese I think that it's cool that you've realized and decied that the best way for you to be happy is to be yourself. It's true of course! I think you'll open some people's eyeswhere you live and you'll show them being gay is not so strange or awful. Because of you some people will become more accepting of gay people. The increased acceptance will make being gay easier for others and more people will be more likely to come out.
StraightActingGayGuy 1 month ago
@StraightActingGayGuy I really hope I can open some eyes! thanks StraightActingGayGuy :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
awww.): This one makes me wanna cry! I'm glad you've excepted yourself for who you are. You family may NEVER understand, but you're taking it very well to how they reacted. Hope everything gets better as time passes. Good luck.
TheJacobAddiction 1 month ago
@TheJacobAddiction Thanks :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
@jarredmccleese You're welcome.(:
TheJacobAddiction 1 month ago
Hey – Your analogy of the blind woman is fine. Saying you're disappointed in someone because they're gay is like saying you're disappointed in them because they're black, or Asian, or have blonde hair, or freckles, or whatever. I saw you said you asked your Mum to watch 'Prayers for Bobby'. If she won't watch it, why not get her to watch a film called 'V for Vendetta': it's not explicitly about gay people, but shows how bigotry and homophobia can lead to terrible suffering and brutality...
Slipofope 1 month ago
@Slipofope Thanks for the suggestion and thanks for commenting :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
aww, :( sorry you got forced out... i feel really bad, and i know its no place of mine to feel bad or to say i'm sorry, because i dont really know you, but its supposed to be more of an up lifting instead of everyone turning on you. but i'm glad you still have a positive outlook on it :)
KyletheMeep 1 month ago
@KyletheMeep its ok, everyone didnt turn on me. Just my family and some close friends lol but Im hoping maybe they will come around in time. Thanks for commenting :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Your correct about that. You can't wait for them to accept you. I wish you a great life. Peace my brother.
617dupree 1 month ago
Your in my prayers my brother. As a gay christian I kind of know what your going through right now. It had taken you a very long time for you to accept the fact that your gay. And it may take an equally as long time for your family and friends to accept you as well. I not think you should ever stop loving your family. But your right you should allow them to bring you down. There is only one person that controls your happiness that is you. You also may want to check out the Gay Christian Network.
617dupree 1 month ago
@617dupree I will never stop loving my family, I was just saying that I cant stay single forever for them, ya know?
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Sadly, some are very ignorant. What does it matter who you love as long as you do love. Yea, be yourself; there is nothing wrong with you at all. Thanks for the video. I think you are very special and it is too bad that the ones close to you have ignorantly behaved so hatefully.
tattooedboy04 1 month ago
@tattooedboy04 thanks :) some of them might just need time, it took me all my life to accept it, but I know some will accept it. I try not to argue with them because its like talking to a brick wall lol thanks for commenting!
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
@jarredmccleese It takes a strong person to stand up and be yourself among such adversity. I think you are very special and happily subscribed...looking forward to your next video.
tattooedboy04 1 month ago
@tattooedboy04 thanks, I'll try not to dissapoint :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Power to you buddy. You are one great & strong guy. Thanks for sharing.
saxonaus0010 1 month ago
@saxonaus0010 thanks :) Im not so great but its nice to gear it anyways lol
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
@jarredmccleese I mean *hear* it anyways lol
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
give time to your family.Some times we overreact because we are surprised and we say thing we regret after....Any way I don't know your parents but I believe they will get over it eventually just be patient with theme
pepermint26 1 month ago
@pepermint26 I know they need time but trust me when I say that chances are they will NEVER accept it, they think I am going against God and in there mind they are tryn to save me from hell (they never give up on me) as they say, I know they love me. I was just making it clear that I cant put my life on hold to try and please them
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
All I have to say is wow!!! That was honest and emotional. Very sorry to hear the reaction from the parents has been so bad. I'd like to reiterate what some of what was said below. That there is a supporting community and love out there. The most important thing is to love yourself and be true to who you are! You can only hope and try to bring you your family around. There are lots of resources out there take a look at anotetomykid. com, look at the movie prayers for bobby, contact PFLAG, etc...
CeiteachSiew 1 month ago
@CeiteachSiew I actually tried to get my mom to watch prayers for bobby, but shes kinda closed minded, that makes it harder, but I will be ok :) thanks for commenting
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Im sorry that your family was not as supportive. I was lucky, i was forced out on Thanksgiving of this last year because my BF of 2 1/2 years broke up with me over the phone while he was in Texas with his family and i had a total meltdown and it didn't take long for my mom to figure out what had happened. My mom was so awesome about it the only person who had a real problem was my father but he has moved passed it.
Janus0901 1 month ago
@Janus0901 Thats good to hear :) not about the break up of course but the supportive family. My dad hasnt said much about it. I think there may be hope for him, im not so sure about my mom though. Maybe it just needs time?
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
I was forced out also. Trying to answer the question "why, why are you gay" with my moms hands round me neck wasn't easy. I'm glad you can see past your coming out problems and look ahead. Coming out is hard enough on yourself, i wish people understood that.
ObviouslyMatRyan 1 month ago
@ObviouslyMatRyan I dont know what hurts more, my family not being able to love ALL of me or my friend betraying my trust, and Im sorry that you had a bad experience as well, its things like these that make people stronger I think and there are some wounds that only time will heal, agree? Thank you for commenting :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
@jarredmccleese Totally agree. It will make you stronger. Takes time but tbh i don't envy you being from the American south at all. In England its still not easy but eek, religion + gay = not much fun.......
ObviouslyMatRyan 1 month ago
@ObviouslyMatRyan no fun isnt the word I would use either :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
I really hope everything will be alright, I was forced out as well, lucky for me it was only my family who freaked in a negative manner and I was never close to them. It'll get better...there's just an awkward pahse when you have to decide who you real friends are and who REALLY cares about you, I wish you the best ^_^ ~painful anaconda-like virtual hug that may hurt...but makes you feel the love~
RikkiRocksAgain 1 month ago
@RikkiRocksAgain haha yeah very awkward to say the least :) I cant wait to move out and maybe free myself from some of the awkwardness. Thanks for commenting :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
You like Decypher Down. Their song "Best I Can"says "I can barely hold on you promise you won't let me go so I want you to know that I don't live a perfect life but God knows I am trying the best I can". It's tuff but remember that God is not exclusively for straight people. In the new testament are the words of christ and in no part did he ever say being gay is a sin but what he did say was LOVE is the best gift of all and Christ trumps all of the old testament and I am going to go with him.;-)
osukowboi 1 month ago
@osukowboi Thanks osukowboi :) I am tryn my best to stay positive, Its hard when you feel like everyone you care about has turned on you, though I know that some might just need time, as for my faith I dont know anymore. I still have my morals and values but I dont know exactly what I believe now
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
oh man. sorry to hear. yes that happens. best wishes.
meowmix 1 month ago
@meowmix -thanks :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
*hug*
InJoshsOpinion 1 month ago
@InJoshsOpinion :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Anyone who doesn't recognize what a beautiful soul you are is a complete idiot. (I'm another supporter from Germany!)
<3
ab0kanal 1 month ago
@ab0kanal Aww thanks for the kind words :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Jarred, you are so incredibly strong and I am so proud of you for keeping your head up through this whole situation. Your message is a sad one, but is incredible at the same time. Thank you for posting this. I know it wasn't easy, but I hope this reaches and helps every person who is afraid to be themselves. You are a true inspiration to me.
SirJosephNel 1 month ago
wow Joe that really means alot, truth is things wouldnt have went as smooth as they did if it wasnt for my youtube family and I cant tell you enough how much I appreciate you guys :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Thanks for sharing.
I am still on the fence in fear of what you described.
I hope to find the courage one day.
curtisp1987 1 month ago
@curtisp1987 Im sorry :( I encourage you to come out (when you are ready), I personally dont think I have much Courage but Its hard to keep living a lie, wouldnt you agree? You may have heard people say that it gets better but the first step is coming out, but only you can know when its time to make that first step...also be careful who you trust (dont come out to anyone unless you are prepared to be fully out) Im not the best at giving advice but I hope that all goes well for you
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Hang in there Jarred! You're not alone. I was outed at school, and rumors started, and people told teachers and faculty. I go to a Catholic school, so their was a sin in most of their eyes, and has affected my time at school ever since. Being out, though hard, and though "risky", allows you to live your life freely. You may not think everything went the right way, but where you are now is just the beginning of your journey to happiness! Honestly, what else do people look for in life? Go you :)
Insouciantly 1 month ago
@Insouciantly I agree, this is just the beginning, I look for many great things in 2012! Thanks man :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
So tell the people who are "disappointed" that if they are against it on religious ground they should learn from their own scriptures and "be without sin, before they cast a stone" (paraphrasing).
Remember also that love that is not unconditional, is not love at all. Tell that to your parents. And tell them that the only one who can judge you, is God, and no one else.
PrimeGodist 1 month ago
@PrimeGodist Master,which is the great commandment in the Law?Jesus said to him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with thy whole heart, and with thy whole soul,and with thy whole mind.This is the greatest and the first commandment. And the second is like it,Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.(Matthew 22:35-40)
Seems like God cares mostly that we love one another and get along, wouldnt you agree? Thanks for the comments :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
@jarredmccleese If we believe in a good God, a God that cares for all things that have been created, then we must also believe that God wants us to be happy; and to find love, gay, bi or straight.
In reality homosexuality is rarely mentioned in holy scriptures; but going by the current discourse you'd think the Bible would have a subtitle "Bible - The book on how gay people suck" It's because of the patriarchal society we live in, that Homosexuality, is so frowned upon.
Be brave, my friend. :)
PrimeGodist 1 month ago
@jarredmccleese You are wise beyond your years. :)
PrimeGodist 1 month ago
As for it being on religious grounds. That is bullcrap. The people who claim to be religious do not live according to the Bible, they pick and choose those parts that they personally do not agree with because of cultural, societal or personal reasons. Hypocrisy, is rampant in the Christian, Muslim & Jewish communities.
Jarred, as a person of faith I can tell you that, loving/respecting yourself, loving/resp. others and striving to improve yourself, is all that God wishes of you. Nothing more.
PrimeGodist 1 month ago
It's not a choice, you're right. Why the hell would anyone CHOOSE to be persecuted, hated, discriminated against, judged etc? People really need to get educated. In the entire animal kingdom, only two species do not have homosexuality, and those two, are slugs, on the bottom of the sea. And yet amongst all those animal species, humans are unique in hating their own kind for that LITTLE fact.
Jarred you are brave, more brave than any of your friends will ever be. Be proud, for you are unique!
PrimeGodist 1 month ago
if anyone has a problem they weren't your real friends to begin with
DreamloverLambi1 1 month ago
@DreamloverLambi1 thats true, times like these show you who your real friends are
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
stay strong! love from germany!
twiencke 1 month ago
@twiencke Germany! thats awesome, THANKS :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
You can be SO MUCH Happier being who you know you are. I always say wouldnt you want your friends and family knowing who you are? cause you never know what could happen to them any minute, any second, any day they could die someway. vice versa..they have to love you for you! Wishing you the best, man! :)
Joshipher1 1 month ago
@Joshipher1 Thanks Joe! maybe someday my family will open there eyes and accept me but your right, they have to love me for me, and when I said I dont need them in my life that doesnt mean I will ever stop loving them, just that I cant let them keep me from being happy, you probably know that I just needed to share lol
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Aww budds. So happy you know its not a decision. you are what you are and some people dont get that and they're all still living in the past.. the very very far past of the bible. and they all think its wrong cause that book says it. -.- i hate ARGUING this with religious people who dont understand. if anyone replies to this comment against it.. im not replying. >.< anyway. Dude! happy for you! exactly if people cant accept you for you..you dont need them. Your heart is in the right place, :)
Joshipher1 1 month ago
Lots of love from spain, keep staying strong and never give up. You are not alone on this.
CapNoShura 1 month ago
@CapNoShura Thanks man :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
It may not mean much darling but I am SO proud of you! I know we may not know each other long and I live THOUSANDS of miles apart but I still am here for you in anyway I can be ! You are an inspiration and to share your story with the world while living it is SO brave. I am very happy to see you are making mature decisions and remember that you are loved!
seanorary 1 month ago
@seanorary It means alot Sean! Thank you so much for supporting me on facebook, I wasnt talking about you when I said friends I didnt really know, I was talking about people I havent seen since I was like 7 lol you and the other forgaysakers have been a huge help and I appreciate you guys SO MUCH!!!
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
@jarredmccleese I know sweetie I was just saying! You take care of yourself stay safe and stay sane! I can only imagine the stress! Keep me updated!
seanorary 1 month ago
@seanorary Haha Ive never been sane but thats another story :p
Thanks Sean I will :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
I understand agree with what you said. Just keep in mind that just as it took you time to accept it yourself in your mind, it will also take people time to accept and get it through their mind. You KNOW that you will be loved and accepted by those who are truly your friends. Those are the positive people you want in your life. Thank you for sharing your story, which couldn't have been easy, especially when it wasn't your decision. Stay strong and know you have so much love and support here.
Netti2nite 1 month ago
@Netti2nite I understand that but my family are sure I am going to burn in Hell, I strongly think they will never accept it. But thanks for the love and support, I need all I can get :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Lots of love from Europe. :( <3
MrRicarium 1 month ago
@MrRicarium Europe! Cool! thanks :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago
Thank you so much for sharing your story... Stay strong buddy.
frenchydude00 1 month ago
@frenchydude00 Thanks, I will :)
jarredmccleese 1 month ago