Dating Woes

[Talk2Chey]

Hi Mindy,

Pof is full of bottom dwellers, Match can be good, but we have to be open minded. Nobody is a Prince! They are all taken. I read this great book, Boundaries in Dating.

Also in asking men what they like...easy going, low maintenance, white tee shirt tight jenas, and high heels. Ya, sure. lol

[shrimpersdurango123]

you are cute , When I was on pof there was a lot of girls , on there , that had like 5 kids and theyre profile said they wouldnt date a guy who smoked, what they dont relize is who wants to adopt five kids? give me a smoke anyday !!!

and we can contemplate your five kids hahah

[screamwriter1]

POF SUCKS. Noone really tries on there.

[metalmike83]

Here's some good advice - don't go on pics. Go on how you perceive the person when you meet them - a person can look different in person than online - they can be ugly in photos but gorgeous to YOU in person - perception is not just based on what's actually there, but how our brain perceives it - that's a fact from psychology coming from someone who has a bachelor's degree in psychology from Grant Macewan University in Canada. So...keep searching you go based on that "spark".

[AmericanBNPfriends]

Good example of womens radical pickyness.

The top 50% of women in terms of overall desirability want the top 18% of men in overall desirability.

[majesticlizard]

Most of the women I met on that site turned out to be convicted felons, child abusers, drug addicts, or married.

[elizaADORESmakeup2]

hey Mindy...isnt it funny to watch back almost a year ago and see where you were then and were you are NOW......things happen for a reason...Things have been crazy here but I know you are doing fine and HAPPY.....I will write an email to you soon I promise.....

[lt0405]

dont settle dear. you know what you like and dont like. you dont need three days to be convinced.

[bosniano57]

smack my ass plz!!!

[cabaugh2003]

Don't settle! You have too much going for you to settle. I understand about the losers and wierdos, esp. when I was looking. I have just chilled out about it and I know I'll find somebody when I'm ready. But I'm not going to settle, b/c that doesn't work either. Attraction is important, and you know if you are attracted very, very quickly. I kinda think paid sites are better than free, since at least you know those men have the extra cash and are probably looking for more than...you know.

[elizaADORESmakeup]

Glad to hear that you have joined a few sights. Another way to meet men is to become active in a hobby or something that you are really passionate about. You may find a wonderful person that has the same interests, when you least expect it..and most of all...stay busy....very busy......and you are a GORGEOUS GAL....so stay positive and he will find you....eliza

[mindylcarter]

My hobby that I am passionate about is showing dogs, and all the single men in that hobby are gay! ha ha ha! If I were any busier I wouldn't have time to sleep! Thanks Liza!

[LindaW1956]

Good on ya for hanging in there. God how I HATE dating!!!! I keep waiting for my Prince to show up at my door, I don't want to put any effort into it. I'm too tired and jaded. LOL. I sure hope you find who you're looking for.. Keep us updated and on any new sites you find.

PS, I have been on Plentyoffish..and found nothing but *ew* there for my area..lol

Good luck to you!

[mindylcarter]

I have found some pretty attractive men in my area, and for sure lots of loosers and a few wierdos thrown in!

[tivaevae]

I think the 3 dates rule is too many dates. Just let it happen and don't force it. Mr Right WILL come along. Stay positive and keep smiling!

[mindylcarter]

I don't know how many "meet for a drink" dates I have to go on to find him, surely he's getting close!

[Macgirlie76]

I agree with everyone else..donb't settle ....it'll cost you in the end....wasting half your life is not worth it!

[mindylcarter]

Exactly! Why be with nobody special??

[MakeupMakesMeeHappy]

I agree with Odrisck! I always know within minutes if I want to see the guy again! I, however, know what you are going through -- similar situation here! : \

Hang in there! You are beautiful and worth holding out for THE SPARKS! :)

[mindylcarter]

/sigh/ thanks for letting me know I am not alone! I think I can make someone very happy, I just don't understand...thank you for the nice compliments, from one beautiful woman to another!

[MakeupMakesMeeHappy]

Thank you, Mindy! And, yes!  It's ALWAYS great to know one is NOT alone! ;P

[wubearkitten]

ya i agree i wouldn't want to get all dolled up for something that i'm not excited about...when i'd rather just be home and comfy!

i dont know where people meet guys either...theres like none left!!! lol!

[mindylcarter]

I'm glad someone else has the same problem. I don't meet anyone at work, and I just don't know what to do!

[odrisck]

oh Mindy I dont agree with the three date rule at all actually, you should know in the first five minutes if you want to be with them at all. Be picky!!! life is to short to settle :)

[mindylcarter]

I don't agree with it, either! I also think I should have some kind of interest in them other then platonic.  I don't know.