Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
It was about learning to get balance and to find trust and love again.
Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
It was about learning to get balance and to find trust and love again.
Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
It was about learning to get balance and to find trust and love again.
Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
It was about learning to get balance and to find trust and love again.
Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
It was about learning to get balance and to find trust and love again.
Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
I choose to disregard any of the negative comments I see because I did read the book and it really, really spoke to me. It has really started to change my life and I'm a lot more aware of who I am because of this book and because of the movie. I really am in a better place and I'm so excited to see where it takes me. Elizabeth Gilbert is an inspiration and a Godsend to all who can find a way to identify with her story and with her message.
@powereater Didn't you know it was a self discovery book when you bought it? Maybe next time you should read the description on the back. Also, just because you didn't enjoy it doesn't mean it was "worthless". That's pretty narcissistic.
you dont have to be rich to travel. While traveling, Ive met people on all economic levels, from millionaires to others who needed to work while traveling to cover the costs.In fact, most of the long-term travelers have low income and just get any job on the go, to support the ticket for the next destination.
I love this book. I'm in the India part right now and so far its amazing. I like how she explains her struggles because it makes it much more real. And it helps me realize that some of the things I go through aren't that crazy, because she has gone through them too. She inspires me and it would be great to meet her one day.
You've inspired me to write...just about to take a trip for a month to the Balkans and I have a lot of questions...about life, love and what it's all about...thank you!!
I have read the book and I loved it! (I also watched the movie, and even if it's a good one, I couldn't avoid to be a little bit disapointed and prefer the book). I want to discover myself as Elizabeth did.
@florazab1 It doesnt have to be for rich people. You dont have to stay at the finest hotels and eat at the finest restaurants. Having that kind of thought process limits you more than money ever could.
if you ever read the book you can see that she questioned herself alot and experienced lots of awful things to reach her decision, it's not just that she divorced him simply because she is "unhappy". besides, why marry sb you cannot stay for the rest of your life with? Isnt it better than go cheating?
besides the message is not wasting your money or leaving a guy, it's about QUESTIONING YOURSELF. so people shouldn't be so serious about how she spent her money and ruined her marriage....
cannot get more comercial than this... wants everything at once and quickly. the movie is like a postcard, her real life is like running on the surface of the water, no great depths but enough waves to stier her boat...
This is one of the reasons why infidelity is so high > u ppl posting all the derogatary comments would rather Live a lie rather than b true to yourself.Ppl like u spend ur time in unhappy relationships being unhappy and giving the other person all kinds of hell and high water rather than put an end to an unhealthy environment>do the right thing and go.The author did the right thing by breaking free even if that meant causing hurt.HURT HEALS with time,trust me,ppl know how to eventually move on.
although the movie was done well, if you examine the bare facts of the story, then you have to emit the protagonist is still just a pseudo deep self centered bitch. and from what i hear about julia roberts, playing this role was NOT a stretch at all, and its just another testimony to her narcissism to be pushing 50 and playing a 32yo. but you know what WAS a stretch in this movie? julia's skin around that awkward skull of hers.. like someone put a condom over the head of a duck billed platypus.
I read throughout the comments, and i'm surprised how many people bashed her for getting divorced! really people? why?
a woman doesn't need to be abused, or i don't know what to want a divorce.
That's a personal choice! She decided to share the story with the rest of the world and thats bold, if you don't like it - fine, just don't judge someone for seeking happines!
Geez people...If you didn't like the book why are you on an interview video with her in the first place? If you liked it, good. If you didn't find a book you do like. Don't attack her and her book's fans because they found enjoyment in her journey.
What's wrong with being selfish? Self discovery is selfish, they have "self" in it, lol. Everyone has their own methods to process their discovery, the only thing that makes everyone's journey the same is that they are selfish, and there's nothing wrong with that because it creates happiness. There might be happiness from selfless acts, but there is no such selfless happiness. The book was not published so people could copy what she did, what's that gonna do? It means to inspire others.
Selfish? Hm. Yeah, she was. But she needed to go through that period to find out who she was. "She should have stayed married to her husband." Why? bc you want her to stay with him? She didn't list their intimate marital problems and she doesn't owe it to any of us to explain why it collapsed. It did. Get over it. Bottom line, it didn't work and she fixed her life. She's happily married now and more mature. She never said u can't find urself while married. She merely couldn't. Get off her case.
I guess you either see it or you don't. All this stuff about the ''i love you' notebook' and saying stuff like 'without that notebook, quite simply, i wouldn't have survived'. So, all right, she refound her sense of self-worth (which was inflated enough at the beginning, if you ask me)...why write a book about it? I could go on and on.
@labilewolfberry Why write a book about ANY human experiences then? You certainly do seem like you could go on and on... about utter crap! You don't have to like the book but thousands of people apparently do. Plus the money she made from sales would convince even YOU that it was worthwhile...
About human experiences which are special and which only a few people have, yeah, great. Everyone goes on a holiday and maybe develops their personality a little more during it though. I just didn't think she was a good writer, that's all. If she'd taken a different tone, I might have thought the book pretty cool. But she took herself so seriously!
Thousands of people also don't like the book. It doesn't matter you know ;) Calm down.
Woah, the title looks as though it was glued on! I want to touch it. XD I'm going to read Julie & Julia first, that movie was great and I should at least read the book-the source of that person's achievment. This story sounds very interesting, and I will look for it soon. Eat Pray Love seems interesting, it probably is. :)
I am shocked at how ready everyone is to attack her! If she was not happy in her relationship then she did the right thing. There is no point in being unhappy in your life just to avoid upsetting a marriage. Life is short and at the end of the day, you are living it and have to do what is best for you! I don't think what she did was selfish at all. Because at the end of the day, the only person you are truly committed to is YOURSELF
To dreamynight: I am so glad someone else is saying what I have been thinking/saying about this book/movie.
I simply could not get over how self absorbed this woman was/is. What was so wrong with her husband? Could she not have found herself by staying married?
@paco11051 You can not judge someone else's desicion for divorce. How can you say what was wrong with her husband? You are not her! Sometimes people just want different things, they want to live different lives.
The divorce can be traumatic fot itself, you can feel sadness, guilt. You dont have to be beaten to be traumatized.
Maybe people are just jelous becouse of her courage...
Yes, Ms. Gilbert comes across as selfish and self absorbed. That is why she divorced her husband for no good reason. The interviewer says she had a "very traumatic divorce". How so?
Was she an abused wife, were children involved in a messy divorce with all the messy details. Hardly. She was neither abused and had no children. She could have discovered herself while keeping her marriage vows. It didn't look like her husband was inhibiting her at all. Selfish!
Elizabeth Gilbert divorces her husband for no good reason. She travels through Italy, India and Bali. The interviewer says "you experienced a very traumatic divorce". How is that so?
Was she an abused woman, did she have children that were greatly and negatively affected as most children are? No she wasn't abused and doesn't have any children.
She just decided that she didn't want to be married anymore. Why take marriage vows? Why not take a spiritual journey and stay married?
I think the biggest issue was that her husband invalidated her need to travel and she let him. My husband is a traveller. People often say he should be over it now he's married. Why? Who says I don't want to share the experience with him? I don't want him to give it up & be miserable. I do think her view on having kids is too black and white. Life doesn't end with babies - we just took our 8mth old to Spain, Portugal and Morrocco. Sure it wasn't always easy, but then other aspects were easier.
I think the biggest issue was that her husband invalidated her need to travel and she let him. My husband is a traveller. People often say he should be over it now he's married. Why? Who says I don't want to share the experience with him? I don't want him to give it up & be miserable. I do think her view on having kids is too black and white. Life doesn't end with babies - we just took our 8mth old to Spain, Portugal and Morrocco. Sure it wasn't always easy, but then other aspects were easier.
why doesn't she have anyone in her life telling her how WRONG she was for what she's done? she applauds herself for making friends easily.....but really, is anyone truly a good friend to her enough to tell her when she's being selfish? What a WASTE of $1 I spent on the movie, and the $5 I spent on the audio book.
wow. i can't believe this lady. i can't believe the selfishness disguised in "discovering". you CAN discover who you are and be married- especially if the guy is willing to wait for you. i am so disgusted at how lightly she is able to break one's heart and life......
.. as pessoas precisam aprender a respeitar as escolhas dos outros .. eu assisti ao filme e mesmo tendo algumas opinões diferentes da autora, respeito e afirmo que adoreí o que ela escreveu !!!
O livro ou filme ñ fala p as pessoas largarem o marido ou viajar pelo mundo em buscar de DEUS ou mesmo do tal equilíbrio interior..até porque DEUS está em todo lugar, inclusive, dentro de nós..o livro conta de um certo momento da vida da autora, de como ela se sentia com tudo que vivia e estava ao seu redor .. ela tinha um marido que aparentemente a amava, mas mesmo assim, não era feliz ao lado dele..ao mesmo tempo, ela se culpava por todo sofrimento que o ex marido sentiu com a separação ..
then you will start then journey on the narrow path christ spoke about.everyone is a work in progress.but you cant do it on your own.it seems to me that this belief she found is still selfish.she does these things for her own peace.when you do all for everyone else with no gain foryou then you are good.i worship the father because of who he is.i treat people right because i want to .thats it.hey but im still not perfect im not god. so my point is God is perfect i not so god is separate from you.
i mean its cool to try to master your thoughts but hey it is a hard struggle.but you recieve power from the spirit of the father not yourself.thats the real human downfall .we think we can do all by ourselves but you cant.any one can talk themselves happy .but are you really? bible says the heart is desperately wicked and sick who can understand it.that means you suck.accept that and ask for help through christ then a regeneration of your mind will start.
i believe all of it to be bull. she sabotaged herself because of what the guru said.some where subconsciously she did all these things. then she finds god in her. wow .i thought God was perfect.and if so how come we suck so much.it seems to me she took and mixed religions to suit her life style and cope with her problems.that's how cults get started.besides meditate all you want you still cant fight whats in you.thats why we have christ your gonna suck no matter what.
This movie is incredibly inspirational. I saw it in theaters in September when it first came out. Was at Icon VIP theater, so got to sit in comfy chairs with a bottle wine with my best friend. Loved the movie. Walked out of there with a bigger outlook.
Two weeks later I put in my apartment lease. Something I’ve wanted to do for over a year.
Two months later everything I own that I don’t need is in storage.
This movie is incredibly inspirational. I saw it in theaters in September when it first came out. Was at Icon VIP theater, so got to sit in comfy chairs with a bottle wine with my best friend. Loved the movie. Walked out of there with a bigger outlook.
Two weeks later I put in my apartment lease. Something I’ve wanted to do for over a year.
Two months later everything I own that I don’t need is in storage.
i love the 'living in the moment' thought- i'm always looking forward to what's next and i think it's a good idea to reflect on each day and count each little blessing. very cool!
I read the book and still don't like her. I think the idea of traveling and taking some time to really understand yourself is a good thing. When I read the book I felt like she just dumped her husband because she wasn't ready to settle down and have kids. And to top it off she left her husband and ends up with a different man in her life. And for those talking about how unless you've discovered yourself you don't know what it's like, I do know what it's like and I still don't like what she did.
i haven't read this book.....i saw the movie and even it's not the best i 've ever seen, after that i started thinking about many things in my life....it's not only about getting married and then leave that person who really loves you, it's about something beyond love and suffer, most of us never have the time to analyze ourselves if we are happy or satisfied with all the things we have and do...it's important for everyone to start doing different things that make us happy...
@btp248 exactly are you serious. self discovery's the type of thing you just cant understand unless youve been through it yourself its like love. you dont know what it feels like unless youve actually been through it. so you guys dont know what your talking about at all and just make yourself look ignorant when you say whatever it is that you say.
i don't understand why so many people have issues about middle aged women trying to enjoy life a little more.maybe you should start thinking about the middle-aged and older women you love, your mothers and grandmothers, & would you want them to have a life devoted soley to a 9-5 job and their kids?besides, self discovery is a continuous process.if it wasn't, you'd have 45 year olds acting like immature 18 year olds because they wouldn't have re-evaluated their priorities throughout their life.
@cmf52 this eat,pray,love stuff is NOTHING NEW! Our mothers told us time and time again to KNOW OURSELVES before we get married and settle down because MARRIAGE entails so many responsibilities. What people need to be reminded is TO RESPECT the institution of marriage. Know that it involves TWO people, not one. And to understand that changing within a marriage doesn't mean losing yourself. If you're not cut out for it, DON'T DO IT !
this is the biggest compilation of clichés about Italy i've ever known. Pizza, pasta, language, gestures, guys slapping girl's asses in the streets... football... jeesh, that's scratching the surface of a much more complex and interesting country.
Thanks for telling me that eating can make me happy. I didn't know it.
it's pretty pathetic that older women are lapping this hokey philosophy by Gilbert. Well-adjusted persons know that "searching for yourself", traveling around the world free and without a care except to experience what the world has to offer is something you do when you are YOUNG, in your TWENTIES and SINGLE! Meaning a period when you still have no heavy responsibilities in life that you can just cut off and discard without a backward glance.
@eyestrained07 wow, let's see if you still feel that way when you're middle aged. if so, your life is really gonna suck. yes people in their twenties should go out and experience new things and travel.but so should young kids, middle aged & old people. she's not necessarily saying that you have to do give up all your responsibilities to do this.you can go with your spouse, take your kids and try to open their world to new culture and experiences, or with your friends (even if you aren't single!)
@cmf52 i have no problems with middle-aged women traveling around the world ALONE as long as you're not cutting off or dropping someone important in your life COLD just to do it! I don't see anything revolutionary with what Gilbert is saying. Women have been traveling with their partners or alone even when they're in retirement age. But they don't go around dumping their husbands (which she did) before they get on with it. What she did was lousy.
@cmf52 Had Gilbert done all that eat,pray,love stuff BEFORE she got married, then maybe she wouldn't have had to drag her husband to a painful divorce with her. That's the real important lesson from Gilbert. Don't settle down until YOU've settled your own wanderlust. Once you're married, the game changes. There are OTHER people in your life you have to consider ALL THE TIME. It takes a truly mature person to embrace that. As is, Gilbert's story is a CAUTIONARY TALE not one of inspiration.
With all due respect, this is a load of dogshit. Who doesn't have a traumatic divorce. Not many people (most women, in fact) can't just up and go to fucking Italy. They don't have the money and they have responsibilities, you know, like kids, like Grandparents and Parents to look after. What a self-indulgent dickhead.
@bootymanager I am so sorry for you and for all people that is thinking like you. , the money is not the motor of the life, so your comment is so far away of this message. To do what she did not need a lot of money but need your faith that is possible to do it. You must believe that is possible and work it out to get it. IS Completely simple. Take your time to build your dream. Be the number one in your own life one time and then you will see the big difference.
i don't agree with you. so many women give themselves whole-heartily to their families, their careers and their marriages that these women such as Gilbert do not have any space or time left to deal with themselves. They can loose themselves in the proccess. Traumatic divorces change you, not everyone has the guts to admitt that and not everyone has guts to go and chase after your dream. Money is not the issue here, there is ALWAYS a way to accomplish your dreams.
@bootymanager I totally agree with you. Actually, if this concept was being preached by a MAN, he would just be simply tagged as an A-hole. Think about it. MAN leaves loving and sensible wife 'coz he is simply not "happy" with her. Gets into a new relationship with new woman even before divorce is finalized. Leaves that bimbo too because he is sooo unhappy. I seriously doubt if the women lauding this book would CHEER for the man to "FIND HIMSELF" by traipsing around the world.
@eyestrained07 Yes but the thing is...WOMEN and MEN are different! You just can't compare them. God, you are so closeminded. Many people who have reached their 60s look back and think their life was just a waste because the stayed to do the ''right'' thing. Have you even read the book? In the book she says their marriage wasn't working not only by her part but from his part too!(only she didn't mention any of the problems he had, from respect.)
@ArwenZvn No marriage is perfect and it will ALWAYS have problems. It's up to the couple to decide to WORK on it. the important thing is they both respect the commitment they entered. Gilbert's problem is so common and nothing extraordinary. Gilbert's case is a person who entered the marriage state without ANY understanding of what SHE TRULY WANTED IN LIFE. So when the REAL commitment started to sink in (children) that's when she had to face up that she wasn;t cut out for it.
@eyestrained07 I never said her actions are heroic and neither did she. But as you said, gilbert's problem is common. That's why the book was a best seller because many women are or were in this situation. Also, it's impossible to know what you truly want from your life. She did what she wanted, yes, after some mistakes and yes, it was maybe a little selfish but I wish every one had her guts to follow their dreams. NOBODY'S PERFECT.
Not Heroic yet u view her actions as "having the guts to follow her dreams"? I don't begrudge people for "following their dreams." As long as it's not done at the expense of other people's feelings and well-being. Her story is difficult to swallow bcoz she followed what SHE wanted regardless of the commitment she made to her husband. And it's impossible to not know what you want from life? huh. People DO know what they want and don't want. Just too scared to admit it.
@ArwenZvn Not Heroic yet u view her actions as "having the guts to follow her dreams"? I don't begrudge people for "following their dreams." As long as it's not done at the expense of other people's feelings and well-being. Her story is difficult to swallow bcoz she followed what SHE wanted regardless of the commitment she made to her husband. And it's impossible to not know what you want from life? huh. People DO know what they want and don't want if they have the guts to admit it.
@ArwenZvn again, the truly important lesson from Gilbert's clunky tale of new-age hokum is that people should do the SELF-EXAMINATION exercise BEFORE committing to someone in an important institution like marriage. One should really be honest himself/ herself if she is the type to stay around for the long-haul despite the many responsibilities and demands the commitment entails. THAT's the REAL lesson and not the ability to chuck a marriage just because, oh dear, I'm unhappy. Please.
@ArwenZvn the lesson from Gilbert is whether you're a MAN or a WOMAN, you better know what you TRULY want before you get married. And you better understand that entering marriage means FOREVER. We no longer live in a society that compels men and women to marry for survival. Marriage now is largely a choice for love and companionship. So to enter it in HASTE nowadays and WITHOUT FULL UNDERSTANDING of the responsibilities is IMMATURE AND INEXCUSABLE. A person can always opt to NOT get married.
@ArwenZvn to laud Gilbert's acts as inspiring and heroic is so juvenile. I would have admired her more if she'd bolted out of the relationship BEFORE the wedding. As for men and women being different...the only real difference between men and women is that women do have a biological clock and having babies is a choice women have to figure out before the window of opportunity closes. Given that is already OPEN KNOWLEDGE, I think it's up to women to figure that out early BEFORE commiting to sum1
@eyestrained07 - If a person feels abandoned by a spouse that chooses to travel alone to foreign places for a year, the so-called "abandoned" one is the needy one with unhealthy attachment.
@StarCoded In Gilbert's husband's case, it wasn't the traveling that made him feel abandoned, but because she DIVORCED him. When you marry, the vows are "til death do you part." What is so difficult to understand about that? If you can't fathom doing that, then don't get married. If you wanna travel alone, you better CONSULT with your partner if it's ok. When you're married it's not longer just about YOU. If your spuose expects you to be together, it's normal. can't accept that, stay single!
I love this woman. I can't wait to get my hands on the sequel. Eat Pray Love has become a definate 'must-have' for ALL. I don't get why men are going crazy over the whole 'committed' issue. Surely figuring out a way to bypass unhappiness (be it due to maritial problems or anything else) is not limited to one sex? I'm sure no one would object a man going on a journey of self-discovery?? Just because a woman happened to write it means very little, and that was not the point of the book.
@FudgeMeUp thats not the problem, the problem is men have had this problem for years and have done the same thing and women have labeled men as bastards for this kind of behavior. Now this woman does it and she is a women's hero. Ridiculous bullshit! It has everything to do with the fact that instead of asking whether the man was happy or not they just focused on the victimized aspect of it. So as long as its a TWO WAY STREET, I'm cool with this. I liked the movie and the book.
@sillychad18 18 is a difficult time in the sense that, all of a sudden, it's like, go be an adult now. But, it's exciting and your mind and body are at their sharpest, perhaps not wisest, for the next few years. Do you do any reading Chad? I just had an author in mind for you.
I am italian and I liked this movie. I know there are many common places about Italy and many Italians didn't like it. One is true, the bathtub scene! I don't think today in Italy you can find a house with no heat water! That was a surreal scene. AS if I make a movies about the USA and portray Americans like Homer Simpsons who just like movies with explosions...well maybe not far from reality! :)
@sillychad18 Perhaps I overestimated bisexual bliss, but I think you overestimate male heterosexual scene. First off, it has been shown, that even in this modern age women marry "up". Even women who make six figure incomes try to find men who make more. Then, there's looks, power, etc... If you don't have these things, you're fucked. If you do, then you really aren't finding someone interested in "you". There are some great women exceptions, but they are just that....exceptions.
@sillychad18 I think I generally agree with you. I think sexuality lies along a continuum and is affected by a multitude of factors, many that aren't yet and may never be understood in a formal scientific way. I must say I'm a bit envious of your bisexuality. I'm envious in the way I'm envious of people with creative genius. It's a whole sub-world of experience and understanding that I can see but can't quite touch. Good for you.
IT IT WRITTEN IN THE BOOK THAT SHE MET SOME WAR CRIMINALS IN SERBIA,SO I AM WOUNDERING WHY DOESN'T SHE TELLS THE WORLD WHERE ARE THEY?STUPID BITCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
No. If someone's not happy in a commitment then they have every right to be "selfish" and leave in my opinion. She obviously realized we have only this one life and she took certain measures to make herself happy. There's not one thing wrong with that. It seems the weak keep themselves stuck in shitty commitments and are too dependent and not in touch with themselves to leave. Nothing wrong with independence. Too many men are so obviously and embarrassingly resentful/threatened by it.
@sillychad18 haha. I wish man, I wish. I played sports throughout childhood and adolescence, spent 10 years in the Marines later after that. I've seen more asses and penises on more in-shape guys than I can remember. Just nothing there, no desire , no fantasizing, nothing. Speaking of which, I've met dozens of men (and some women) with more character in their pinkies than Liz "piece of shit" Gilbert has in her whole body. People that value honor, commitment, integrity.
Self discovery? if you are talking about touching yourself then you are right, it is not selfish. But if you are talking about being a bitch then it IS selfish.
Self discovery? if you are talking about touching yourself then you are right, it is not selfish. But if you are talking about being a bixxx then it IS selfish.
Self discovery? if you are talking about touching yourself then you are right, it is not selfish. But if you are talking about being a bixxx then it IS selfish.
@melodramie Yeah, but self-discovery should be before marriage.You need to know who you are as a person and be secure in that before you get married. Apparently this woman didn't know herself too well if she had to take a year off to discover herself...FINALLY.
@melodramie Yeah, but self-discovery should be before marriage.You need to know who you are as a person and be solid in that before you get married. And apparently this woman didn't know herself too well if she had to take a year off just to discover herself...FINALLY.
Insecure, miserable, bitter, self-hating men are threatened by the independent womans nature. That's all it comes down to. They can try and cover it up and learn to believe the bullshit they're feeding themselves, but the man's enormous ego will always come before anything else. All us woman can do is sit, laugh and watch them prove to us WHY we're independent to begin with. It's almost funny to watch.
Feed the homeless, volunteer, whatever. I read the book and the women is very self centered. Also, I cant stand women who think they always have to have a man in thier life. Just my opinion. I must say that this book has generated the most intelligent comments that Ive ever read on you tube.
@lesileee i didn't read the book, but in the movie, it at least seems like she realized that she's always had to have a man in her life and she's trying to fix that. i know how you feel though, i hate when women always have to have boyfriends.
Good discussion, though this film needs to break free from the chick flick genre... it's much bigger than that. Looking forward to seeing the film & reading the book.
hollywood has spent a lot of energy making guys look dumb, and it was easy. its equally easy, it appears, to make many womens mid-life crises look about as deep as a teaspoon. packed with trite cliches and exotic "wisdom"-----great material for satire. "Darjeeling Express" looks profound compared to this, describing the damage done by their mothers "spiritual quest"......
@blupheonix44 hey dumb fag obviously u have never been married cuz it's still not legal 4 u but get this: people change and it's actually very common to be madly in love and get married and then a few years down the road u realize oops! Shouldna done that....trust me, been there, done that...also, why do u hate women so bad, besides the fact that u r a homo....ps I don't hate on homosexuals at all, male or female...I just hate on people who hate on people who they HAVE NEVER EVEN MET
Wonder how many guys have had to put up with hassle after their wives or girlfriends read this shit.
DarthCipient 3 weeks ago
I'm italian and I really loved the book ^.^
fetzcou 1 month ago
She seems such a bright person.
SuperMissElina 2 months ago
Now Borders closed...
trueblue4ky 2 months ago
Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
It was about learning to get balance and to find trust and love again.
rebeccadodson70 3 months ago
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Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
It was about learning to get balance and to find trust and love again.
rebeccadodson70 3 months ago
Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
It was about learning to get balance and to find trust and love again.
rebeccadodson70 3 months ago
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Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
It was about learning to get balance and to find trust and love again.
rebeccadodson70 3 months ago
Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
It was about learning to get balance and to find trust and love again.
rebeccadodson70 3 months ago
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Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
rebeccadodson70 3 months ago
Her husband the first one, had Narcisstic Personality Disorder apparently. If you have ever lived with some who has that, you would understand how it strips you of your self, and you feel BAD. I understand, I know NPD, and I know how it affects you. The book made sense to me, even though it never highlighted that about her first husband, and the book was not about that aspect, more her recovery of self.
rebeccadodson70 3 months ago
I choose to disregard any of the negative comments I see because I did read the book and it really, really spoke to me. It has really started to change my life and I'm a lot more aware of who I am because of this book and because of the movie. I really am in a better place and I'm so excited to see where it takes me. Elizabeth Gilbert is an inspiration and a Godsend to all who can find a way to identify with her story and with her message.
POLAROIDSNAP 5 months ago
I really enjoyed this book.
MsJCBurke 6 months ago
another one of those worthless journey to self discovery book, i want my 8.50 back from this god damn worthless movie
powereater 6 months ago
@powereater Didn't you know it was a self discovery book when you bought it? Maybe next time you should read the description on the back. Also, just because you didn't enjoy it doesn't mean it was "worthless". That's pretty narcissistic.
MsJCBurke 6 months ago
Eat, Pray, Queef!!
Octavian88mtl 6 months ago
you dont have to be rich to travel. While traveling, Ive met people on all economic levels, from millionaires to others who needed to work while traveling to cover the costs.In fact, most of the long-term travelers have low income and just get any job on the go, to support the ticket for the next destination.
gabbs74 6 months ago
I love this book. I'm in the India part right now and so far its amazing. I like how she explains her struggles because it makes it much more real. And it helps me realize that some of the things I go through aren't that crazy, because she has gone through them too. She inspires me and it would be great to meet her one day.
DearPaxton 7 months ago
You've inspired me to write...just about to take a trip for a month to the Balkans and I have a lot of questions...about life, love and what it's all about...thank you!!
lowdandcleer 7 months ago
honestly, I didn't love it.
I didn't hate it either, I mean, it's light, smoth reading, even funny,
but I just didn't connect with it, like everyone else.
If I could go back in time, I wouldn't read it :/
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sinceretwilight7K 8 months ago
I have read the book and I loved it! (I also watched the movie, and even if it's a good one, I couldn't avoid to be a little bit disapointed and prefer the book). I want to discover myself as Elizabeth did.
DEMartTV 8 months ago
A very expensive "self-find" journey! Only for rich people!
florazab1 8 months ago 2
@florazab1 It doesnt have to be for rich people. You dont have to stay at the finest hotels and eat at the finest restaurants. Having that kind of thought process limits you more than money ever could.
nessie4215 7 months ago
I love her, love the enlightened book, but this video is fake. The people working in the media are crazy.
Sophieledeux 9 months ago
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GustavoPearlman 9 months ago
he,i watched this movie 5 times in webmovietube..thank u
VasilikiHaylock 9 months ago
A sincere, articulate, intelligent, creative and generous person.
StarCoded 9 months ago
What a whore!! ayyy!!
bumzurvaj 9 months ago
@bumzurvaj why do u think so? she even attempted to suicide! do u mean that she had to stay in that marriage n die?
lchau252 9 months ago
if you ever read the book you can see that she questioned herself alot and experienced lots of awful things to reach her decision, it's not just that she divorced him simply because she is "unhappy". besides, why marry sb you cannot stay for the rest of your life with? Isnt it better than go cheating?
besides the message is not wasting your money or leaving a guy, it's about QUESTIONING YOURSELF. so people shouldn't be so serious about how she spent her money and ruined her marriage....
demondevilw 10 months ago 17
rich people and their problems...
eskirvin1 10 months ago
I love the book!
izzytrip 10 months ago
Eat, pray, love is one of my all time favorite books..
Absolutely amazing!
WolverinaWorld 10 months ago 2
I love the book, and it encourage Woman Traveler to explore more out there.
You are right while mentioning people seek for something they don't even know.
Thank you Elizabeth for sharing this universal story for Woman Traveler.
DanaiyaInspire 11 months ago
cannot get more comercial than this... wants everything at once and quickly. the movie is like a postcard, her real life is like running on the surface of the water, no great depths but enough waves to stier her boat...
iievapieva9 1 year ago
@iievapieva9 wtf? have you even read the book??
cavewoman1234 11 months ago 2
So this chick leaves this dude in the dust and gets commended for it.......wtf
scomo25 1 year ago
@scomo25- why should she have to stay with somebody that she doesnt love??
cavewoman1234 11 months ago 2
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evelinlusby84 1 year ago
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vampiricange 1 year ago
This is one of the reasons why infidelity is so high > u ppl posting all the derogatary comments would rather Live a lie rather than b true to yourself.Ppl like u spend ur time in unhappy relationships being unhappy and giving the other person all kinds of hell and high water rather than put an end to an unhealthy environment>do the right thing and go.The author did the right thing by breaking free even if that meant causing hurt.HURT HEALS with time,trust me,ppl know how to eventually move on.
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amielanquist41 1 year ago
although the movie was done well, if you examine the bare facts of the story, then you have to emit the protagonist is still just a pseudo deep self centered bitch. and from what i hear about julia roberts, playing this role was NOT a stretch at all, and its just another testimony to her narcissism to be pushing 50 and playing a 32yo. but you know what WAS a stretch in this movie? julia's skin around that awkward skull of hers.. like someone put a condom over the head of a duck billed platypus.
michaelofGB45 1 year ago
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I read throughout the comments, and i'm surprised how many people bashed her for getting divorced! really people? why?
a woman doesn't need to be abused, or i don't know what to want a divorce.
That's a personal choice! She decided to share the story with the rest of the world and thats bold, if you don't like it - fine, just don't judge someone for seeking happines!
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andymission 1 year ago
Liz Gilbert is incredible <3
ZackfanRikkulover 1 year ago
Geez people...If you didn't like the book why are you on an interview video with her in the first place? If you liked it, good. If you didn't find a book you do like. Don't attack her and her book's fans because they found enjoyment in her journey.
LadyHope1 1 year ago
@LadyHope1 Here here! Why waste the energy complaining. Go find something you do like all you boo-hooers.
mapamoowalker 1 year ago
shes my inspiration! I'm reading the book before I watch the movie. Can't wait to see the movie now that I'm almost done with the book :)!!!!!
izzytrip 1 year ago
What's wrong with being selfish? Self discovery is selfish, they have "self" in it, lol. Everyone has their own methods to process their discovery, the only thing that makes everyone's journey the same is that they are selfish, and there's nothing wrong with that because it creates happiness. There might be happiness from selfless acts, but there is no such selfless happiness. The book was not published so people could copy what she did, what's that gonna do? It means to inspire others.
Nomad1994 1 year ago 2
Selfish? Hm. Yeah, she was. But she needed to go through that period to find out who she was. "She should have stayed married to her husband." Why? bc you want her to stay with him? She didn't list their intimate marital problems and she doesn't owe it to any of us to explain why it collapsed. It did. Get over it. Bottom line, it didn't work and she fixed her life. She's happily married now and more mature. She never said u can't find urself while married. She merely couldn't. Get off her case.
k8tlou0788 1 year ago
At the end of the day, she found happiness. I will always support someone who is happy.
SongwriterChic 1 year ago 11
My problem isn't that she got divorced, it's just the incredibly indlugent, pretentious book she wrote!
labilewolfberry 1 year ago
@labilewolfberry Indulgent and pretentious??? Are we talking about the same book?
kusalaviro 1 year ago
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I guess you either see it or you don't. All this stuff about the ''i love you' notebook' and saying stuff like 'without that notebook, quite simply, i wouldn't have survived'. So, all right, she refound her sense of self-worth (which was inflated enough at the beginning, if you ask me)...why write a book about it? I could go on and on.
labilewolfberry 1 year ago
@labilewolfberry Why write a book about ANY human experiences then? You certainly do seem like you could go on and on... about utter crap! You don't have to like the book but thousands of people apparently do. Plus the money she made from sales would convince even YOU that it was worthwhile...
kusalaviro 1 year ago
@kusalaviro
About human experiences which are special and which only a few people have, yeah, great. Everyone goes on a holiday and maybe develops their personality a little more during it though. I just didn't think she was a good writer, that's all. If she'd taken a different tone, I might have thought the book pretty cool. But she took herself so seriously!
Thousands of people also don't like the book. It doesn't matter you know ;) Calm down.
labilewolfberry 1 year ago
Woah, the title looks as though it was glued on! I want to touch it. XD I'm going to read Julie & Julia first, that movie was great and I should at least read the book-the source of that person's achievment. This story sounds very interesting, and I will look for it soon. Eat Pray Love seems interesting, it probably is. :)
Theo2kitty 1 year ago
I am shocked at how ready everyone is to attack her! If she was not happy in her relationship then she did the right thing. There is no point in being unhappy in your life just to avoid upsetting a marriage. Life is short and at the end of the day, you are living it and have to do what is best for you! I don't think what she did was selfish at all. Because at the end of the day, the only person you are truly committed to is YOURSELF
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BeatriceAllen 1 year ago
To dreamynight: I am so glad someone else is saying what I have been thinking/saying about this book/movie.
I simply could not get over how self absorbed this woman was/is. What was so wrong with her husband? Could she not have found herself by staying married?
paco11051 1 year ago
@paco11051 You can not judge someone else's desicion for divorce. How can you say what was wrong with her husband? You are not her! Sometimes people just want different things, they want to live different lives.
The divorce can be traumatic fot itself, you can feel sadness, guilt. You dont have to be beaten to be traumatized.
Maybe people are just jelous becouse of her courage...
ssaabb007 1 year ago 2
Yes, Ms. Gilbert comes across as selfish and self absorbed. That is why she divorced her husband for no good reason. The interviewer says she had a "very traumatic divorce". How so?
Was she an abused wife, were children involved in a messy divorce with all the messy details. Hardly. She was neither abused and had no children. She could have discovered herself while keeping her marriage vows. It didn't look like her husband was inhibiting her at all. Selfish!
paco11051 1 year ago
Elizabeth Gilbert divorces her husband for no good reason. She travels through Italy, India and Bali. The interviewer says "you experienced a very traumatic divorce". How is that so?
Was she an abused woman, did she have children that were greatly and negatively affected as most children are? No she wasn't abused and doesn't have any children.
She just decided that she didn't want to be married anymore. Why take marriage vows? Why not take a spiritual journey and stay married?
paco11051 1 year ago
@paco11051 You must know her very well to have all that information.
kusalaviro 1 year ago
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I think the biggest issue was that her husband invalidated her need to travel and she let him. My husband is a traveller. People often say he should be over it now he's married. Why? Who says I don't want to share the experience with him? I don't want him to give it up & be miserable. I do think her view on having kids is too black and white. Life doesn't end with babies - we just took our 8mth old to Spain, Portugal and Morrocco. Sure it wasn't always easy, but then other aspects were easier.
SuperAprilrain 1 year ago
I think the biggest issue was that her husband invalidated her need to travel and she let him. My husband is a traveller. People often say he should be over it now he's married. Why? Who says I don't want to share the experience with him? I don't want him to give it up & be miserable. I do think her view on having kids is too black and white. Life doesn't end with babies - we just took our 8mth old to Spain, Portugal and Morrocco. Sure it wasn't always easy, but then other aspects were easier.
SuperAprilrain 1 year ago 2
I don't see the value in her personal story. Where is the triumph? I'm not impressed.
writingtheblackhorse 1 year ago
why doesn't she have anyone in her life telling her how WRONG she was for what she's done? she applauds herself for making friends easily.....but really, is anyone truly a good friend to her enough to tell her when she's being selfish? What a WASTE of $1 I spent on the movie, and the $5 I spent on the audio book.
dreamynight 1 year ago
wow. i can't believe this lady. i can't believe the selfishness disguised in "discovering". you CAN discover who you are and be married- especially if the guy is willing to wait for you. i am so disgusted at how lightly she is able to break one's heart and life......
dreamynight 1 year ago 3
@dreamynight Shame on you.
Meggerr69 1 year ago
.. as pessoas precisam aprender a respeitar as escolhas dos outros .. eu assisti ao filme e mesmo tendo algumas opinões diferentes da autora, respeito e afirmo que adoreí o que ela escreveu !!!
NENASILVA33 1 year ago
O livro ou filme ñ fala p as pessoas largarem o marido ou viajar pelo mundo em buscar de DEUS ou mesmo do tal equilíbrio interior..até porque DEUS está em todo lugar, inclusive, dentro de nós..o livro conta de um certo momento da vida da autora, de como ela se sentia com tudo que vivia e estava ao seu redor .. ela tinha um marido que aparentemente a amava, mas mesmo assim, não era feliz ao lado dele..ao mesmo tempo, ela se culpava por todo sofrimento que o ex marido sentiu com a separação ..
NENASILVA33 1 year ago
then you will start then journey on the narrow path christ spoke about.everyone is a work in progress.but you cant do it on your own.it seems to me that this belief she found is still selfish.she does these things for her own peace.when you do all for everyone else with no gain foryou then you are good.i worship the father because of who he is.i treat people right because i want to .thats it.hey but im still not perfect im not god. so my point is God is perfect i not so god is separate from you.
blacpuppet 1 year ago
i mean its cool to try to master your thoughts but hey it is a hard struggle.but you recieve power from the spirit of the father not yourself.thats the real human downfall .we think we can do all by ourselves but you cant.any one can talk themselves happy .but are you really? bible says the heart is desperately wicked and sick who can understand it.that means you suck.accept that and ask for help through christ then a regeneration of your mind will start.
blacpuppet 1 year ago
i believe all of it to be bull. she sabotaged herself because of what the guru said.some where subconsciously she did all these things. then she finds god in her. wow .i thought God was perfect.and if so how come we suck so much.it seems to me she took and mixed religions to suit her life style and cope with her problems.that's how cults get started.besides meditate all you want you still cant fight whats in you.thats why we have christ your gonna suck no matter what.
blacpuppet 1 year ago
This movie is incredibly inspirational. I saw it in theaters in September when it first came out. Was at Icon VIP theater, so got to sit in comfy chairs with a bottle wine with my best friend. Loved the movie. Walked out of there with a bigger outlook.
Two weeks later I put in my apartment lease. Something I’ve wanted to do for over a year.
Two months later everything I own that I don’t need is in storage.
Two days later I was on the road.
More on my blog at bit (dot) ly/fZyLXU
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desaraev6 1 year ago
This movie is incredibly inspirational. I saw it in theaters in September when it first came out. Was at Icon VIP theater, so got to sit in comfy chairs with a bottle wine with my best friend. Loved the movie. Walked out of there with a bigger outlook.
Two weeks later I put in my apartment lease. Something I’ve wanted to do for over a year.
Two months later everything I own that I don’t need is in storage.
Two days later I was on the road.
More on my blog at bit (dot) ly/fZyLXU
desaraev6 1 year ago
i love the 'living in the moment' thought- i'm always looking forward to what's next and i think it's a good idea to reflect on each day and count each little blessing. very cool!
NicoleSarah2525 1 year ago 2
I read the book and still don't like her. I think the idea of traveling and taking some time to really understand yourself is a good thing. When I read the book I felt like she just dumped her husband because she wasn't ready to settle down and have kids. And to top it off she left her husband and ends up with a different man in her life. And for those talking about how unless you've discovered yourself you don't know what it's like, I do know what it's like and I still don't like what she did.
finalfantasygirl09 1 year ago 2
@finalfantasygirl09 I totally agree with you. The others simply don't get how horrible and selfish Gilbert's decision was to her husband.
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diNowfD 1 year ago
i haven't read this book.....i saw the movie and even it's not the best i 've ever seen, after that i started thinking about many things in my life....it's not only about getting married and then leave that person who really loves you, it's about something beyond love and suffer, most of us never have the time to analyze ourselves if we are happy or satisfied with all the things we have and do...it's important for everyone to start doing different things that make us happy...
fangzcr 1 year ago
more ass n i would marry her :D
anyaluva25 1 year ago
I can't believe some of the things I'm reading on here. Have half of you even read the book?
btp248 1 year ago 11
@btp248 exactly are you serious. self discovery's the type of thing you just cant understand unless youve been through it yourself its like love. you dont know what it feels like unless youve actually been through it. so you guys dont know what your talking about at all and just make yourself look ignorant when you say whatever it is that you say.
ar2thethurr 1 year ago
i don't understand why so many people have issues about middle aged women trying to enjoy life a little more.maybe you should start thinking about the middle-aged and older women you love, your mothers and grandmothers, & would you want them to have a life devoted soley to a 9-5 job and their kids?besides, self discovery is a continuous process.if it wasn't, you'd have 45 year olds acting like immature 18 year olds because they wouldn't have re-evaluated their priorities throughout their life.
cmf52 1 year ago
@cmf52 this eat,pray,love stuff is NOTHING NEW! Our mothers told us time and time again to KNOW OURSELVES before we get married and settle down because MARRIAGE entails so many responsibilities. What people need to be reminded is TO RESPECT the institution of marriage. Know that it involves TWO people, not one. And to understand that changing within a marriage doesn't mean losing yourself. If you're not cut out for it, DON'T DO IT !
eyestrained07 1 year ago
this is the biggest compilation of clichés about Italy i've ever known. Pizza, pasta, language, gestures, guys slapping girl's asses in the streets... football... jeesh, that's scratching the surface of a much more complex and interesting country.
Thanks for telling me that eating can make me happy. I didn't know it.
albers 1 year ago
it's pretty pathetic that older women are lapping this hokey philosophy by Gilbert. Well-adjusted persons know that "searching for yourself", traveling around the world free and without a care except to experience what the world has to offer is something you do when you are YOUNG, in your TWENTIES and SINGLE! Meaning a period when you still have no heavy responsibilities in life that you can just cut off and discard without a backward glance.
eyestrained07 1 year ago
@eyestrained07 wow, let's see if you still feel that way when you're middle aged. if so, your life is really gonna suck. yes people in their twenties should go out and experience new things and travel.but so should young kids, middle aged & old people. she's not necessarily saying that you have to do give up all your responsibilities to do this.you can go with your spouse, take your kids and try to open their world to new culture and experiences, or with your friends (even if you aren't single!)
cmf52 1 year ago
@cmf52 i have no problems with middle-aged women traveling around the world ALONE as long as you're not cutting off or dropping someone important in your life COLD just to do it! I don't see anything revolutionary with what Gilbert is saying. Women have been traveling with their partners or alone even when they're in retirement age. But they don't go around dumping their husbands (which she did) before they get on with it. What she did was lousy.
eyestrained07 1 year ago
@cmf52 Had Gilbert done all that eat,pray,love stuff BEFORE she got married, then maybe she wouldn't have had to drag her husband to a painful divorce with her. That's the real important lesson from Gilbert. Don't settle down until YOU've settled your own wanderlust. Once you're married, the game changes. There are OTHER people in your life you have to consider ALL THE TIME. It takes a truly mature person to embrace that. As is, Gilbert's story is a CAUTIONARY TALE not one of inspiration.
eyestrained07 1 year ago
With all due respect, this is a load of dogshit. Who doesn't have a traumatic divorce. Not many people (most women, in fact) can't just up and go to fucking Italy. They don't have the money and they have responsibilities, you know, like kids, like Grandparents and Parents to look after. What a self-indulgent dickhead.
bootymanager 1 year ago
@bootymanager I am so sorry for you and for all people that is thinking like you. , the money is not the motor of the life, so your comment is so far away of this message. To do what she did not need a lot of money but need your faith that is possible to do it. You must believe that is possible and work it out to get it. IS Completely simple. Take your time to build your dream. Be the number one in your own life one time and then you will see the big difference.
Liskamaliano 1 year ago
@bootymanager
i don't agree with you. so many women give themselves whole-heartily to their families, their careers and their marriages that these women such as Gilbert do not have any space or time left to deal with themselves. They can loose themselves in the proccess. Traumatic divorces change you, not everyone has the guts to admitt that and not everyone has guts to go and chase after your dream. Money is not the issue here, there is ALWAYS a way to accomplish your dreams.
mcrarmy1 1 year ago
@bootymanager I totally agree with you. Actually, if this concept was being preached by a MAN, he would just be simply tagged as an A-hole. Think about it. MAN leaves loving and sensible wife 'coz he is simply not "happy" with her. Gets into a new relationship with new woman even before divorce is finalized. Leaves that bimbo too because he is sooo unhappy. I seriously doubt if the women lauding this book would CHEER for the man to "FIND HIMSELF" by traipsing around the world.
eyestrained07 1 year ago 11
@eyestrained07 Yes but the thing is...WOMEN and MEN are different! You just can't compare them. God, you are so closeminded. Many people who have reached their 60s look back and think their life was just a waste because the stayed to do the ''right'' thing. Have you even read the book? In the book she says their marriage wasn't working not only by her part but from his part too!(only she didn't mention any of the problems he had, from respect.)
ArwenZvn 1 year ago
@ArwenZvn No marriage is perfect and it will ALWAYS have problems. It's up to the couple to decide to WORK on it. the important thing is they both respect the commitment they entered. Gilbert's problem is so common and nothing extraordinary. Gilbert's case is a person who entered the marriage state without ANY understanding of what SHE TRULY WANTED IN LIFE. So when the REAL commitment started to sink in (children) that's when she had to face up that she wasn;t cut out for it.
eyestrained07 1 year ago
@eyestrained07 I never said her actions are heroic and neither did she. But as you said, gilbert's problem is common. That's why the book was a best seller because many women are or were in this situation. Also, it's impossible to know what you truly want from your life. She did what she wanted, yes, after some mistakes and yes, it was maybe a little selfish but I wish every one had her guts to follow their dreams. NOBODY'S PERFECT.
ArwenZvn 1 year ago
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Not Heroic yet u view her actions as "having the guts to follow her dreams"? I don't begrudge people for "following their dreams." As long as it's not done at the expense of other people's feelings and well-being. Her story is difficult to swallow bcoz she followed what SHE wanted regardless of the commitment she made to her husband. And it's impossible to not know what you want from life? huh. People DO know what they want and don't want. Just too scared to admit it.
eyestrained07 1 year ago
@ArwenZvn Not Heroic yet u view her actions as "having the guts to follow her dreams"? I don't begrudge people for "following their dreams." As long as it's not done at the expense of other people's feelings and well-being. Her story is difficult to swallow bcoz she followed what SHE wanted regardless of the commitment she made to her husband. And it's impossible to not know what you want from life? huh. People DO know what they want and don't want if they have the guts to admit it.
eyestrained07 1 year ago
@ArwenZvn again, the truly important lesson from Gilbert's clunky tale of new-age hokum is that people should do the SELF-EXAMINATION exercise BEFORE committing to someone in an important institution like marriage. One should really be honest himself/ herself if she is the type to stay around for the long-haul despite the many responsibilities and demands the commitment entails. THAT's the REAL lesson and not the ability to chuck a marriage just because, oh dear, I'm unhappy. Please.
eyestrained07 1 year ago 2
@ArwenZvn the lesson from Gilbert is whether you're a MAN or a WOMAN, you better know what you TRULY want before you get married. And you better understand that entering marriage means FOREVER. We no longer live in a society that compels men and women to marry for survival. Marriage now is largely a choice for love and companionship. So to enter it in HASTE nowadays and WITHOUT FULL UNDERSTANDING of the responsibilities is IMMATURE AND INEXCUSABLE. A person can always opt to NOT get married.
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eyestrained07 1 year ago
@ArwenZvn to laud Gilbert's acts as inspiring and heroic is so juvenile. I would have admired her more if she'd bolted out of the relationship BEFORE the wedding. As for men and women being different...the only real difference between men and women is that women do have a biological clock and having babies is a choice women have to figure out before the window of opportunity closes. Given that is already OPEN KNOWLEDGE, I think it's up to women to figure that out early BEFORE commiting to sum1
eyestrained07 1 year ago
@eyestrained07 *Applauds*
kipkayify 1 year ago
@eyestrained07 - If a person feels abandoned by a spouse that chooses to travel alone to foreign places for a year, the so-called "abandoned" one is the needy one with unhealthy attachment.
StarCoded 9 months ago
@StarCoded In Gilbert's husband's case, it wasn't the traveling that made him feel abandoned, but because she DIVORCED him. When you marry, the vows are "til death do you part." What is so difficult to understand about that? If you can't fathom doing that, then don't get married. If you wanna travel alone, you better CONSULT with your partner if it's ok. When you're married it's not longer just about YOU. If your spuose expects you to be together, it's normal. can't accept that, stay single!
eyestrained07 9 months ago
@StarCoded hi. ummm, are you insane?
suchafool990 8 months ago
I love this woman. I can't wait to get my hands on the sequel. Eat Pray Love has become a definate 'must-have' for ALL. I don't get why men are going crazy over the whole 'committed' issue. Surely figuring out a way to bypass unhappiness (be it due to maritial problems or anything else) is not limited to one sex? I'm sure no one would object a man going on a journey of self-discovery?? Just because a woman happened to write it means very little, and that was not the point of the book.
FudgeMeUp 9 months ago
@FudgeMeUp thats not the problem, the problem is men have had this problem for years and have done the same thing and women have labeled men as bastards for this kind of behavior. Now this woman does it and she is a women's hero. Ridiculous bullshit! It has everything to do with the fact that instead of asking whether the man was happy or not they just focused on the victimized aspect of it. So as long as its a TWO WAY STREET, I'm cool with this. I liked the movie and the book.
wubranch1 8 months ago 2
@bootymanager Have you even read the book? And sorry but I just can't accept an opinion from someone with a nickname ''bootymanager''.
ArwenZvn 1 year ago
Dumb!!!!!
martinal99 1 year ago
@sillychad18 18 is a difficult time in the sense that, all of a sudden, it's like, go be an adult now. But, it's exciting and your mind and body are at their sharpest, perhaps not wisest, for the next few years. Do you do any reading Chad? I just had an author in mind for you.
ActaNonVerba71 1 year ago
I AM BRAZILIAN !YOU WANT TO MARRY ME
theradioramires 1 year ago
I am italian and I liked this movie. I know there are many common places about Italy and many Italians didn't like it. One is true, the bathtub scene! I don't think today in Italy you can find a house with no heat water! That was a surreal scene. AS if I make a movies about the USA and portray Americans like Homer Simpsons who just like movies with explosions...well maybe not far from reality! :)
weirdbrother15 1 year ago
Brillant. If you ant to see another briallnt film by Liz Gilbert look for Elizabeth Gilbert on Luke Gilbert. Hilarious.
smallspacegallery 1 year ago
meh..
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ChristopherA69 1 year ago
@ActaNonVerba71 u r one angry fag
jasperrathboneswife 1 year ago
@retarded dude below: what planet r u from?
jasperrathboneswife 1 year ago
@sillychad18 you think this movie will cause divorces? That's one of the stupidest comments Ive ever read...
jasperrathboneswife 1 year ago
@sillychad18 Perhaps I overestimated bisexual bliss, but I think you overestimate male heterosexual scene. First off, it has been shown, that even in this modern age women marry "up". Even women who make six figure incomes try to find men who make more. Then, there's looks, power, etc... If you don't have these things, you're fucked. If you do, then you really aren't finding someone interested in "you". There are some great women exceptions, but they are just that....exceptions.
ActaNonVerba71 1 year ago
@sillychad18 I think I generally agree with you. I think sexuality lies along a continuum and is affected by a multitude of factors, many that aren't yet and may never be understood in a formal scientific way. I must say I'm a bit envious of your bisexuality. I'm envious in the way I'm envious of people with creative genius. It's a whole sub-world of experience and understanding that I can see but can't quite touch. Good for you.
ActaNonVerba71 1 year ago
IT IT WRITTEN IN THE BOOK THAT SHE MET SOME WAR CRIMINALS IN SERBIA,SO I AM WOUNDERING WHY DOESN'T SHE TELLS THE WORLD WHERE ARE THEY?STUPID BITCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
cikapajaful 1 year ago
No. If someone's not happy in a commitment then they have every right to be "selfish" and leave in my opinion. She obviously realized we have only this one life and she took certain measures to make herself happy. There's not one thing wrong with that. It seems the weak keep themselves stuck in shitty commitments and are too dependent and not in touch with themselves to leave. Nothing wrong with independence. Too many men are so obviously and embarrassingly resentful/threatened by it.
Modestephani 1 year ago 3
@sillychad18 haha. I wish man, I wish. I played sports throughout childhood and adolescence, spent 10 years in the Marines later after that. I've seen more asses and penises on more in-shape guys than I can remember. Just nothing there, no desire , no fantasizing, nothing. Speaking of which, I've met dozens of men (and some women) with more character in their pinkies than Liz "piece of shit" Gilbert has in her whole body. People that value honor, commitment, integrity.
ActaNonVerba71 1 year ago
what is this "cunt" word I've never heard? can someone explain pls??
greenboarder89 1 year ago
Why is everybody so upset? Self-discovery isn't selfish, if you become a better person you can better help others!
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Self discovery? if you are talking about touching yourself then you are right, it is not selfish. But if you are talking about being a bitch then it IS selfish.
aajoshi1 1 year ago 18
@aajoshi1 LOL amazing...Go to Bali Dude.
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Self discovery? if you are talking about touching yourself then you are right, it is not selfish. But if you are talking about being a bixxx then it IS selfish.
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Self discovery? if you are talking about touching yourself then you are right, it is not selfish. But if you are talking about being a bixxx then it IS selfish.
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LeiraZetroc 1 year ago
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@melodramie Yeah, but self-discovery should be before marriage.You need to know who you are as a person and be secure in that before you get married. Apparently this woman didn't know herself too well if she had to take a year off to discover herself...FINALLY.
LeiraZetroc 1 year ago
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@melodramie Yeah, but self-discovery should be before marriage.You need to know who you are as a person and be solid in that before you get married. And apparently this woman didn't know herself too well if she had to take a year off just to discover herself...FINALLY.
LeiraZetroc 1 year ago
@melodramie Epecially when you get a 250,000 USD advance to write a book about it...
neonstride 1 year ago
@lolita24601 hahahaha !!! LOVE ur comment to angry jaded actaverba dude !
lesileee 1 year ago
Insecure, miserable, bitter, self-hating men are threatened by the independent womans nature. That's all it comes down to. They can try and cover it up and learn to believe the bullshit they're feeding themselves, but the man's enormous ego will always come before anything else. All us woman can do is sit, laugh and watch them prove to us WHY we're independent to begin with. It's almost funny to watch.
Modestephani 1 year ago 2
the movie stinks and all the women in this video are a bunch of narcissistic douche bags !!!
kaiserbill5711 1 year ago
@ActaNonVerba71 Wow you say many BIG words.... just no more "c" word pleez....it's just wrong.
lesileee 1 year ago
@Lolita24601 I like you! Awesome comment.
lesileee 1 year ago
@RealVeracity I totally agree with you.
lesileee 1 year ago
Feed the homeless, volunteer, whatever. I read the book and the women is very self centered. Also, I cant stand women who think they always have to have a man in thier life. Just my opinion. I must say that this book has generated the most intelligent comments that Ive ever read on you tube.
lesileee 1 year ago
@lesileee i didn't read the book, but in the movie, it at least seems like she realized that she's always had to have a man in her life and she's trying to fix that. i know how you feel though, i hate when women always have to have boyfriends.
cmf52 1 year ago
Sorry, didn't mean to sound like a hater. Why didn't she help the needy and see if that would bring her some happiness?
lesileee 1 year ago
@RealVeracity I'll pass on the jesus rap, thanks.
HunterMann 1 year ago
@RealVeracity I admire anyone sane & spiritual enough to be able to reject and blow off Christianity.
HunterMann 1 year ago
Good discussion, though this film needs to break free from the chick flick genre... it's much bigger than that. Looking forward to seeing the film & reading the book.
HunterMann 1 year ago
this drivel flies in the face of what every dumb guy who is a husband and father worth the name (& a lot of wives and mothers) knows:
"We make a living from what we get. We make a life from what we give."
no food good enough to cry over, no navel-gazing, no hunky latinos. sorry.
majorhoop 1 year ago
hollywood has spent a lot of energy making guys look dumb, and it was easy. its equally easy, it appears, to make many womens mid-life crises look about as deep as a teaspoon. packed with trite cliches and exotic "wisdom"-----great material for satire. "Darjeeling Express" looks profound compared to this, describing the damage done by their mothers "spiritual quest"......
majorhoop 1 year ago
This is a really, really bad movie.
I would have walked out except I wanted to see how bad it really was.
It is a huge disappointment, a huge indulgent piece of bullshit.
majorcadreaming 1 year ago
@blupheonix44 hey dumb fag obviously u have never been married cuz it's still not legal 4 u but get this: people change and it's actually very common to be madly in love and get married and then a few years down the road u realize oops! Shouldna done that....trust me, been there, done that...also, why do u hate women so bad, besides the fact that u r a homo....ps I don't hate on homosexuals at all, male or female...I just hate on people who hate on people who they HAVE NEVER EVEN MET
lesileee 1 year ago
@lesileee Let me see if I read correctly... you are expressing hate towards a person that you have even met, right? Just checking.
HunterMann 1 year ago
@Sinnerswing : which comment? Jus wunderin...;)
lesileee 1 year ago
@blupheonix44
Are you a faggot? Jus wunderin......
lesileee 1 year ago
Great book and how wonderful to the author.
tverboon1 1 year ago
please put full movie at graboid
pumpkinslion 1 year ago