Self-acceptance no. 4 - Overcoming Guilt and Shame

[MultiKeivan]

Dear robert. thanks for good presentation.

[Alemaxus]

how about freedom? Can you be robbed of your freedom? For an example, what if the government or a few people, robb the majority of people of their freedom?

[80mthomas]

This guys great, a real diamond, can't believe I've only just come across him.. he's so calm and well spoken, love it, love it, love it!

[klinepatsy]

begoodtoyourdog - rather an extreme example you have used there...he is talking about emotionally responsible adults....not defenceless babies. I doubt he sees all of creation as deserving of its fate. It certainly is possible for people to act through good intentions and actually cause harm. How you react to what someone does is more important than what that person has done to you...otherwise you walk through life with a victim mentality. You have to let stuff go.

[sinan4]

hi i really like your videos but the karma thing is offkey in my opinion..how do you even know it exists..his past is responsible for his pain..imo this is rubbish

[BEGOODTOYOURDOG1]

If what this man says is true, when an infant is raped and murdered, it is the infant that has brought this upon themselves. This is a disgusting way of thinking. I am only trying to be logical. If I am in error thinking this, help me to understand.

[DayaTom7]

@BEGOODTOYOURDOG1

you are so right! I've been trying to forgive and forget and awful thing that was done to me when I was 4.Usually people don't have memories from that age ,but I do remember it all. And it's just ridiculous to think that whoever did this to me only triggered something that was already wrong ! What the hell

[BEGOODTOYOURDOG1]

@DayaTom7. A good way to deal with past problems is to remember what the German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche said: "What does not destroy me, makes me stronger." Take what has happened in your past, and use it as an Experience Tool to strengthen you in the present. You ARE a stronger person because of the bad that happened. For one thing, it gives you the great ability to understand and help others with similar challenges. This is what I do, and it works. Nietzsche called it Self-Overcoming.

[DayaTom7]

@BEGOODTOYOURDOG1

Hey you're absolutely right about this.. with one detail I have to add. I've been using this logic all my life , and it works.Only when shame and guilt are involved it's absolutely worthless. And there nothing I've tried works.

[BEGOODTOYOURDOG1]

@DayaTom7. You can only have shame and guilt if you accept the idea that you have broken a moral code. The way to deal with this is to understand there are NO moral codes in Nature. Christianity teaches Dualism - the idea that there is absolute good and absolute evil/sin in life. Dualism is the problem! If you can understand that all is one, that pain and pleasure, love and hate, strength and weakness, etc. , are all necessary and part of Nature, you can intellectually reject shame and guilt.

[DayaTom7]

@BEGOODTOYOURDOG1

Yeah, I understood what you were talking about. Thanks for the explanation though anyway :)

[BEGOODTOYOURDOG1]

@DayaTom7. If you have accepted moral Dualism as the truth for a long time, it will take time to get into the mindset of accepting that the light and the darkness are all one, and they can all be used for your empowerment. The WILL is the important thing. You must haver a "WILL TO POWER" to reject Dualism and accept that YOU are the value-maker for your life. Doing this every day will give you the power to self-overcome past times of darkness. I hope you understand me.

[DayaTom7]

@BEGOODTOYOURDOG1

Thanks, that actually will need some deeper thought,but it is helpful. When it comes to self perception acceptance and understanding,there's no place for dualism..not in my world.But this made me think and relate to another situation which was even worse than the one I'm talking about,and I had no problem forgiving myself and dealing with it.

So eather way thank you :o)

Wishing you a great day

[aajoshi1]

@BEGOODTOYOURDOG1

He isn't saying that you shouldn't seek justice, he is only saying that you should't take it personally. If you are hit by a bus and lose your limb then you would be unhappy for a month, but if somebody does that to you, then you can feel pain for a lifetime. This kind of thinking can help reduce the suffering. You can seek justice without taking personal responsibility for delivering it. It sounds strange but it is logical and it helps.

[viki3577]

@BEGOODTOYOURDOG1 as harsh as it sounds, basically, yes. karma; i suggest you read about it to grasp what he is saying a bit more. remember, it's not 'what this man says,' it's the concept of karma he is referring to :)

[robertenajemy]

Dear Sherry,

You can find freedom from this problem with EFT. THere are videos on this subject on youtube by myself and others and also on our site.

Be well

[sherrygao01]

10 yrs ago, I Self-Mutilated myself by burning my wrist with a cigarette. Now, I feel so much regret. I realized that I was suffering and don't know how to free the pain, so it wanted to do harm to myself. very very confusing. You have so much knowledge and understanding, I believe that you can guide me to the right direction... Thank you soooo much. Hope that I can meet you one day...

[sherrygao01]

I hate created pain for myself, i have harmed myself. but, how do I ask for forgiveness of myself from myself? i feel unworthy, becuz i purposely hurt myself...

[robertenajemy]

Yes you can ask forgiveness from your self and forgive your self and love yourself. You have every right to do so.