So much of this happens to me. I wasn't allowed to be me and was put down for having an opinion that didn't agree with hers. My father was the scapegoat. She turned on me when I went out with my now husband. She spoils people one time then puts them down the next. She is very glamorous and can be charming to outsiders, so I look like the ugly girl in comparison. She doesn't care that I feel upset by her actions.
That was my mother all over the place. She hated me until she died. My brother was highly favored and given everything. She was very emotionally and physically abusive and mmy father was an alcoholic.who could also ve violent and was abusive to me in other ways, but later in life told me how he hated how mother treated me. After I was grown and gone,he told me all she did was talk abouthow much she hated me. One of her friends also told me the same thing after her death as well as her maids.
My mother is nearly this sort of person, but ON STEROIDS. I will never comprehend how some women are lacking the nurturing and tender spirit that most moms possess. I was raised to believe that men's pain and heartache meant very little and paled in comparison to the hurts of women. As a young gay man with plenty of feelings, I am free from so many of the toxic lies I was fed growing up by the beast called mom. And I have only Yeshua of Nazereth to praise for bringing me this far.
I think N mother relationships fly under radar way too often. A mother's love isn't just socially expected, it's biologically programmed into mammals. Only humans could cognate in such a way that these insticts become destroyed. I wish you the best in your path of healing and hope that your message reaches others in time.
Thank you, DelusionDispeller! I am now over 50 and still healing from my narcisstic parents, especially of my mother who's still alive. My father died of sex, drugs and rock'n'roll.
I have experience with sociopaths, narcissistic parasite types and I bought this book called 'Toxic People' that was an eye opener. It had great advice UNPLUG. There's no hope.DANGER run for your life. Smother will always be the victim. Anyone in this position if able aught to pack their bags catch the next bus/plane/ship out of there before smother has them arrested killed or committed. I know people that this happened to.Creepy and evil!
So true ! I was the scape goat, my sister the golden child. However, my sister and I were always very close, even as a small child she knew, that my mother wronged me.
It's very painful, isn't is? You are not alone. There is a very helpful site called coping.org that includes a cheklist and how-to's of disengaging with these toxic people. It's tough when it's the mother, but it can and must be done in order to find sanity in your life.
Thankyou for this series of videos Delusion Dispeller. They made me gasp, nod and laugh knowingly in empathy, you have helped confirm that indeed my Mother is a narcissist. I have more or less cut her off, my husband and kids also do not want to talk to or see her again. I do wish you the very best, you are intelligent, sensitive and honest, thankyou for sharing.
Great Video!!! this applies to my son's father, he always takes credit 4 everything and it makes me so mad.
3223karmatime 1 month ago
So much of this happens to me. I wasn't allowed to be me and was put down for having an opinion that didn't agree with hers. My father was the scapegoat. She turned on me when I went out with my now husband. She spoils people one time then puts them down the next. She is very glamorous and can be charming to outsiders, so I look like the ugly girl in comparison. She doesn't care that I feel upset by her actions.
22Crystalline22 2 months ago
That was my mother all over the place. She hated me until she died. My brother was highly favored and given everything. She was very emotionally and physically abusive and mmy father was an alcoholic.who could also ve violent and was abusive to me in other ways, but later in life told me how he hated how mother treated me. After I was grown and gone,he told me all she did was talk abouthow much she hated me. One of her friends also told me the same thing after her death as well as her maids.
Ewesgirl 3 months ago
thank you for sharing.
paragshah2112 3 months ago in playlist TOXIC PARENTS - A
My mother is nearly this sort of person, but ON STEROIDS. I will never comprehend how some women are lacking the nurturing and tender spirit that most moms possess. I was raised to believe that men's pain and heartache meant very little and paled in comparison to the hurts of women. As a young gay man with plenty of feelings, I am free from so many of the toxic lies I was fed growing up by the beast called mom. And I have only Yeshua of Nazereth to praise for bringing me this far.
veggielover87 6 months ago
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leflyingfrenchie 7 months ago
I think N mother relationships fly under radar way too often. A mother's love isn't just socially expected, it's biologically programmed into mammals. Only humans could cognate in such a way that these insticts become destroyed. I wish you the best in your path of healing and hope that your message reaches others in time.
VertigoScales938 7 months ago
Thank you, DelusionDispeller! I am now over 50 and still healing from my narcisstic parents, especially of my mother who's still alive. My father died of sex, drugs and rock'n'roll.
nansuransu 8 months ago
I have experience with sociopaths, narcissistic parasite types and I bought this book called 'Toxic People' that was an eye opener. It had great advice UNPLUG. There's no hope.DANGER run for your life. Smother will always be the victim. Anyone in this position if able aught to pack their bags catch the next bus/plane/ship out of there before smother has them arrested killed or committed. I know people that this happened to.Creepy and evil!
abby495 10 months ago
i'm sorry sweetheart
GreenMountainThreads 10 months ago
So true ! I was the scape goat, my sister the golden child. However, my sister and I were always very close, even as a small child she knew, that my mother wronged me.
riewekoche1 11 months ago
narcissistic mothers are pure hell!!!
patriciacarrasco 11 months ago 13
@patriciacarrasco thats understatement of the century! children of narcisisstic parents are quite literally in the grip of psychopaths.
paragshah2112 3 months ago in playlist TOXIC PARENTS - A
@patriciacarrasco They sure are!!!
Zoewitchywoo 1 month ago
It's very painful, isn't is? You are not alone. There is a very helpful site called coping.org that includes a cheklist and how-to's of disengaging with these toxic people. It's tough when it's the mother, but it can and must be done in order to find sanity in your life.
Damis10001 1 year ago
Thankyou for this series of videos Delusion Dispeller. They made me gasp, nod and laugh knowingly in empathy, you have helped confirm that indeed my Mother is a narcissist. I have more or less cut her off, my husband and kids also do not want to talk to or see her again. I do wish you the very best, you are intelligent, sensitive and honest, thankyou for sharing.
honeybarbara69 1 year ago
we have a few of these in our family...it really take its toll.....I have been in counseling off and on since 2001.
Jkelquedi 2 years ago