A point you missed was EVERY WHITE WOMAN I'VE DATED, "KEPT A THONG IN BETWEEN HER ASS (but some black women, especially BEFORE and AFTER THE THONG SONG, state they don't like thongs, they're unconfortable some excuse) & MY D**K IN HER MOUTH (I've never had 2 have a conversation, ask, make a 69 deal, beg OR PLEAD for HEAD from a white woman). I've never asked any of them, but I think every woman in their family from GREAT GREAT GRANDMOTHER, passes down this knowledge as a method to please a man.
I think you HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD WITH THIS TOPIC "THE LOSS OF SOFTNESS" I left a beautiful, sexy, great sex, great time (the majority of the time), $80,000 a yr (actually held me down in a time of GREAT NEED) woman because of THE LOSS OF SOFTNESS! And, her getting up in my face, as you said, LIKE SHE HAD A DICK and was ABOUT TO FUCK ME UP! It's best to leave before I END UP IN JAIL OR DEAD!
Please stop making these videos. You are causing all us blond white women problems. My white men are going for your stupid black women. I hate black women and their big azz. I'm blonde green eyes and slim. But the nigger women are taking my precious white men away.
Hello I am jasmine from wichita ks and I do agree that black women has lost there softness but now days white women are losing it to. I really think black women not all but alot has trust issues with our own men. Let me give you a couple of examples of why I am one of the angry black women but I didnt always be this way. I am 26 and I have had it rough I have been molested by blackmen as a child, when I grew up every man abused me and they all are black I dont date outside my race
Meh I don't care what color the woman is as long as she's nice. Besides I'm attractive enough that more often than not women approach me anyway. So I'm not going to put myself out there chasing women of any color. It's first come first serve and if your shit stinks, well it sucks for you. Color is not the issue, it's American feminism. Get me a 3rd world hottie any day of the week.
I understand what you're saying about women using their minds to get what they want, and understanding the nature of a man. Men like to dominate, and when you fight them in their dominance, they become even more controlling. It's just in a man's nature. Women don't realize a lot of the time that they can make the man believe they are in control when they really aren't. It's just an illusion we create to be in control ourselves. The bottom line is U can make a man love or hate U. It's all up to U
ITS PREFERENCE DAMN! IM BLACK MY FIRST PREFERENCE IS LATINA RICAN DOMINICAN AN OTHER'S ITS MY FAV IT'S WHAT I LOVE A BLACK FEMALE CAN SAY WATEVER P.S. I LOVE WHITE WOMAN AND ALL OTHER 2 JUST AS MUCH
Brazilians (including Brazilian women) are starting to "catch-on" to the con-man strategies that Blacks (particularly black men) use in interpersonal relations (especially dating or "hook-up" relations)! Stay home you hypocritical jerks and keep your disgusting sexuality in the USA!
i agree totally with you ONLY b/c i have learned to stop talking as much and start LISTENING..trust it's not easy..i have had to defend myself for a very long time..i rebelled on the fact that men are dominate( read your bible ) i had a friend, who is a woman, tell me something that stuck with me.."when all your relationships end the same way, its time to self-check...ladies.. i know..big pill to swallow.. self-check, and see why things happen for you the way they do...you HEAR so much more
I'm a BW and cannot speak on having attitude and mouth for days as some sistas do however I guess I'm different that way. I'm outgoing but know there is a time and a place for everything. What I wil comment on is yes I agree, a man does respond better to "softness". I 've done it and it works well. He leaves feeling good about himself, I feel good knowing I've practiced some restraint, and both of us leave feeling good we are able to communicate w/ each other and understand ea. other better. :)
i give atitude at black men only when they call me their sista or bitch. WHAT!!!! I'm not your sista. I'm not single, either. I don't care if a white women dates a black man or vice versa just don't say one is bether than the other.
@boo843348 first all i don't know them for any black man to call me their sista even when black females say it to me. that puts me in the african american community. i'm not fucking african american. i wrong for saying i don't like to be called sister from a nigga then so be it.
The Soft always balances out the Hard.......And for the Hard there is the Soft....It is only this delicate Balance that can even everything out...>(^-^)< The Lady SkyKatt RavenTail
I have only one question: Do you believe that it is a woman's nature to be cunning/deceptive? I ask because I do not believe this is the case, and I believe for the most part women are socialized to believe that they are supposed to act that way, and like u said those that are more cunning tend to stab u in the back way worse than a woman who is not, which is not something I am a fan of, but I do understand how u meant it in the example of the shoes (tho I'm not materialistic like that)
@ThSkBj i think what he meant, in context, is that men don't feel that a woman can use aggression on him successfully. the authoritative tone is how men get what they want from females, and when women speak to men like this, they're acting like they're on the same "playing field" when it comes to using brute force to get what they want from a man.
I'm a black man and I've been married to a Philipina woman for almost 3yrs... Honestly I have come to the conclusion that I could never be happy unless I was with a black women. I dont feel comfortable in public with her at all. I am actually ashamed of myself for being with a woman that isnt black... I have realized that the exact qualities that turned me off of black women are the same qualities that I love in them. Either way it seems impossible to find a good life partner in this generation.
She get it from her momma!! Seriously, I feel you though. I feel her sometimes too, what you are preaching has to be taught by a strong woman...not a single mother who's BD was never there & mommy was left to be the man & woman. Our actions are learned behaviors, I just pray that this generation of mothers does more teaching than preaching...
So women are supposed to be deceitful and sneaky??? That is totally against what I believe any person should be. As for being soft, there's a time to be passive and a time to be assertive. If you are being disrespected by a man, as a woman you should assert yourself. In response to women being inferior to men. Don't agree. Men are ONLY stronger physically than woman not mentally or otherwise. I think this is a caveman way of thinking, unfortunately many men still believe this crap today.
@KharismaBrown I believe what he is suggesting is for women to be softer in their approach with men, not so much being deceitful and sneaky. The more you smile, the more pleasant you are, the more of an inviting personality you have, those are the things that he refers to as cunning. It's not that you're being fake or untrue to yourself, but it's a different way of carrying yourself that is less threatening and more appealing.
Women are to be submissive to their HUSBANDS not their boyfriends and black men do not seem eager to commit. I have a loud voice but I do not have a nasty attitude. I do have a boyfriend that I occasionally have to remind that I am his girlfriend not his wife. Respect has nothing to do with color, but I do get a sense that black men feel more comfortable disrespecting black woman. This is where a lot of the hostility comes from.
Women are to be submissive to their HUSBANDS not their boyfriends and black men do not seem eager to commit. I have a loud voice but I do not have a nasty attitude. I do have a boyfriend that I occasionally have to remind that I am his girlfriend not his wife. Respect has nothing to do with color, but I do get a sense that black men feel more comfortable disrespecting black woman. This is where a lot of the hostility comes from.
Im a white woman and Ive always dated black men, iono why I jus am not attracted to white men and I never have been since I got over cooties, I am not cunning, I am strong, and I hold my man down. Yes I cater to my man, yes I am submissive to him, but at the same time, when he does wrong I put him in his place and will cuss his ass out. My man has been locked up for a year and I'm holdin him down and NEVER cheated. You can be real, soft, and strong all in one, no matter what race you are.
Funny to find this video because I think you are so right. I hope all women do hear this. I have been called weak and stupid for catering to my black man "I'm not black/white nor hispanic by the way" but his ever payday I get the paycheck and I do over spend sometimes "sorry but it's a bad habit of mine" but bottom line is we both get what we want. I pamper him and he buys me what I want a win win situation. And yes I work too for my savings/bils and get my spending money by catering my man =)
BLACK MEN GO FOR MORE OF THE SLUTFUL TYPE WOMEN THAT DON'T GIVE A DAMM ABOUT THEMSELVES .BLACK MEN LOVE THIS BECAUSE THEY SEE WHITE WOMEN ARE EASY AND STUPID TO DEAL WITH BECAUSE THEY CAN STEAL,LIE ,CHEAT AND BE FORGIVEN
THEY'LL TAKE A SERIOUS ASS BEATING FROM BLACK MEN AND BLAME
THEMSELVES .WHY..".BECAUSE WHITE WOMEN JUST DON'T GIVE A DAMM".
.IF A BLACK MAN CAN'T LOVE A BLACK WOMAN THEN HE CAN'T LOVE ANOTHER"THIS IS THE REASON BLACK MEN WANT WHITE WOMEN..IT'S BECAUSE THEIR "GAY
I watched the whole series and held off on commenting. I agree with you, dude. Any woman of any race can have a bad attitude. For the most part, it's most black women that have horrible attitudes. Whether its justified or not, whether its because of past experiences or not; You still have control over how you come across to people. You can't control how people treat you, however you can control your own attitude and behavior.
@MisKailee I was with a white woman with an attitude also. She hung around around lot ghetto people and it was the main reason I had to get out of the relationship.
@MisKailee you damn nigger lover you have a serious case of ol no she didn't white girls that act black just look at them fucking discusting what white guy would have you o yea you didn't tell him you had sex with a small black penis that should be agianst the law bitch,skank,smelly eggs, go hang yourself.
@hulsey1976 If you are a women, than be a women. If you are women who acts like a man you need to get a sex change(however the fuck that works!) and get some pussy. If you want a white man you will respect him. Black women like you(If you are one)will treat any man good BUT a black man. So nobody wants to hear that bullshit, fuck off and die alone bitch. You aint gotta do anything a man tells you. You're probably a dyke that eats her homegirls asshole all day and hates men. I know your type!
I can't speak for all black women, but maybe it's some sort of defense mechanism. In past relationships being treated badly and not standing up for your self. For the new partner the woman may try and toughen up. I do think people take it to the extreme though. Many cultural factors come into play to form this out spoken woman or non-out spoken woman.
i dont know if i count cause im only half black and im also half white but with all honesty the reason i dont date black women has already been explained by you.
if this helps at all another reason i don't date many black women is because i spend all of my time avoiding them because of their attitude i have only met one black girl who didn't have the same attitude as the one who actually pulled a gun out on me although i'm sure not all black women are that insane i don't want to take tht chance
@chadcallahan70 I can understand where you are coming from. I really don't think about approaching black women anymore because of my past experiences. Not all of the black women that I've come across have had poor attitudes, however most have.
i dont know if i count cause im only half black and im also half white but with all honesty the reason i dont date black women has already been explained by you.
if this helps at all another reason i dont date many black women is becaus i spend all of my time avoiding them because of their attitude i have only met one black girl who didnt have the same attitude as the one who actually pulled a gun out on me althoug im sure not all black women are that insane i dont want to take that chance.
one big reason that black men date outside of there race is because of the numbers... i mean we live in america were the white population is 75 percent and the black population is 12 percent.. but nobody ever talks about that. i mean if you took the black population and moved it to china... you would have a lot of black men dating chinese women... it just the numbers!! trust me i live in washington and there aint no black women around here!!!!
@jackson7201 Again...there are still 2 million EXTRA BW to go around. There are WAY more BW in the us than BM. So I still fail to see your point. I could not care less who BM are dating but don't use your percentages be an excuse as it were. You should date whomever you please. Because thats who you want and thats who you are attracted to. Not because of some perceived lack of available BW.
@Lacubanitamasbonita It's how you say it, tone,l facial expression, body language. I am a black men and I can attest to this. Whenever I feel like a woman is barking on me however valid her argument may be I'm done. Just as I sure you wouldn't follow a man if he had a soft voice and feminine ways about her I don't care for woman who exhibit man like behaviour.
@jackson7201 Well I live in Washington state too...I'm not sure what area you live in or how long you have been there.... but the most black women you will see (although a smaller percentage as a whole) live in Seattle, Tacoma and Spokane.
@jackson7201 Yeah, I can imagine there not being many sistas living there! I personally can't stand Washington period because it's not diverse enough for me...that's why I'm on my way out.
It seems like despite america being a "progressive" nation of the "free," there is a lot of talk about race. Never in any other country have I seen people as obsessed with race as in the US. Seriously...get over it. You're black, I'm white, she's black, he's asian, ETC...
you just do not have to engage them in anything sex, marriage dating or nothing. they come in a package as soon as you know them. quarrels, child support, divorce early death,wheel chair, police, poverty u stay where u are when you met them and waste all your time and money. basically they are your challenge in life not the outside world. read the audacity of hope and you will find it.
I'm getting the impression, if this guy is speaking on behalf of black men as a whole, that black men are assholes who look at women as a piece of property to entertain them. The examples of behavior he provides shows that his mentality is that it's his prerogative as a male to put a woman in her place - she is only capable of what he allows her to do. No woman is going to put up with that, nor should they. If this is how you treat black women, then I can see why you get so much attitude.
I'm only about 2 and a half years late on this one, but I must comment no less. Real talk, this is. Being a black woman myself, though, I must say that I really do fit into the category of black women that are opposite of what you are describing. I just have to say one thing. While you ask that I not pass judgement on all men based on my experiences with those of the past, I ask that you avoid doing the same. Don't hold us all responsible for the majority. :-) Nice videos. Cute and funny, + real
Plus they expect bw to bend over backwards for them yet the only race of men out there to not reciprocate shit that real men do. Bw having attitude should be expected under the conditions bm put bw under. Since most bm hate their skin and color they think it's ok to hate the women they come from therefore treat them like shit then act surprised that bw want to defend themselves from that hatred.
Why do bm act like some bw with attitude means they can say all bw have attitude. And with the horrible way bm sexualize bw on city streets and at home shouldn't bw have a defense mech in place to deal with they? I understand if bm were stand up men but the majority of bn are in jail and/or don't take care of the seed they hastily deposit into numbers of women at a time.
The reason black men are dating and MARRYING other races is not because of the bullshit you mention my friend, it is however because you want to lose your blackness.
Now liberal fuck faces will be fuming right now and shouting out the word RACISTTTTT!! but no, my arguing which is from a evolution point of view, you pick the wife you think is going to give you the best offspring simple science. Men choose women that best fits their picture of best survival and reproducing feature.
I liked this one. I think you've hit the nail on the head with the attitude that so many of our black women have...why in the hell do we have to be on the defensive so damn much?! We have to learn to relax for crying out loud! We can be strong in so many other ways without the whole head and neck movements and the 'in your face' behavior.
and it also sounds like you want us to use sex as a thing to get what we want if we do that then when will the guy willingly give us something we want out of the kindness of his heart it would be like for everything i want i would have to have sex with him to get it? its wrong to use sex as a weapon a guy should give a women something from the kindness of his heart same for the girl but i guess doing that pink soft stuff is ok ONCE IN A WHILE but you are right for the most of it
@XbeyourselfisbestX Female agents used it to pursue and gather information from the Nazi Soldiers in world war 2. Sex is used for many reasons. Women seem to benefit more from that point of attraction.
@visionimagify oh i didnt know that but im not going to use sex as a weapon even if it does bennefit me more i just want someone to give me what i would give them a heart for a heart not i give you sex and you give me the whole world =_= is that so bad but yeah GIRL POWER LOL but no im not doing it
sorry i cant submit to a man and it is because of my back ground its also because i fell pressured to be the strong black women the black community says we are and should be and not to mention my family havent been suportive in most of my time of need i just dont want to be weak but......i dont know havent you felt pressured to do or be something the black community says you should be.black people pressure other black people and its real HARD on me i think you should do a vid on that
@XbeyourselfisbestX But it's called compromise. Don't expect us to compromise to you if you won't compromise to us. As the guy says, if you aren't willing to do that then go find a submissive man, otherwise you will be single at 45 asking yourself why!
I cant stand to see white vs black women but I get why youve done that.I am a white woman.I do date black men(I prefer men who date every color tho).I was hoping to watch this and hear more about why black women(some not all) are so angry with white/black f/m couples.We get the meanest looks and comments. Anyway,I watched pt1&ws curious so continued to watch.You seem educated&I know I enjoyed the humor as well as insight.
Brother your video is 100% on point and should help a lot of sisters to get a man. I can't agree more that we as men are suckers to feminine manipulation, by that I mean that women who play ... you know what, just watch the video again, he said it all.
I'm a hispanic female and I think there is some truth in what you're saying in this video, but I don't think black women are the only ones who have an issue controling their anger. There are black women who show a lot of softness and white women who show a lot of anger just like men. I think it depends on the day. Some guys like to be mistreated once in a while. lol
I just want to point out that this is a problem you have in the US not in the world. Please refer to African Americans or Black American, because in Africa, easily less than 2% of black people marry outside their race. But Donnis hit it on the head, no man wants 2 dicks in the house. If woman is trying to grow balls, then he is gonna find a woman. Even if you earn more than me, it's cool as long as we both keep our roles. A woman is gentle, tender etc. We can't both be testosterone, no ma'am.
@rmhofu in America the % of black men to marry outside his race was only 5.yes higher but not significantly.And I dont know that Id call it a "problem" but maybe Im biased being a white woman with a black man.
I am a white woman watching this and I found it very helpful. For a long time I have struggled with what I thought was just too much confidence but was actually a lack of softness. I have never been approached by a man just to talk or be flirted with, I think it is because of my lack of softness. I await your next video.Thank you.
Why is it stupid you ask?? well if you really love her then no it's not, but if you guys think you are doing this to disipline black women and have your cake and it too you are just sad as they make you look on TV, so think about it I a black women can give you a black man for a child can she, NOOOOOOO! she will give you Bi-racial children and now a days the children don't even look half and half, they look white so continue to water down, just remember blood is thicker then water. dummies!!!!!!
Black men have added white women to black culture, now tell me how stupid are you guys, you have put black women in a race with these girls it makes no sense, i know their are good black men, hell i have one but black men seem to be so distructive, why ????? I don't need to make the list you can do that, I don't get mad when I see a black man with a "white girl" I just think that it is sad that you guys are sooooooo stupid .
I find it funny how black men and just men always talk about how it is a man thing, and thats why women are doing what they are doing is because that s--t gets old I would like a man to just be a man, treat me the same as I treat you, black men sleep around waaaaaaaaaaaaay tooooo much for my taste, you guys stick your d--ks in just about any and everything and have been doing so for years and toooo me doesn't make you attractive just makes you high risk, con't..........
This is a late response, but I as a black woman appreciate your videos. You have a lot of insight, your intentions seem to be genuine, and you deliver your message with humor and intelligence. I love being a woman and it shows. I am curvaceous, I love make-up, perfume, and dresses. I also love and respect men. For a lot of single black women who too often are the head of their households being feminine has become a lost art due to our struggles to provide, protect and serve our families.
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz my greatgrandfather was biracial. but i dont have the experince of having a parent directly from another race. so i'm not biracial wich has nothing to do with ethnicty or skin color. u can identify as Celtic culturally. u r not biracial by a long.
@dsamaiable I dont identify as Celtic, nor do I identify as biracial.but i do recognize my mix. simple as that. I am well aware of my gene pool. How about you? Are you a copy of the original genome of your line of ancestory? Do you know of this through both lines of your parents? You are not if you have ancestory thats biracial. No? Also, Im not just mixed with white and black.lol....
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz lol! it good u acknowlegde ur cul;ture but ur race is a different story. i just sad again most black americans regardles of gene pool marry other black people and the children are considered black race. this has nothing to do with Culutre!! Are u reading my comments completely? hat black american, black hispanic etc is not mixed with something? i mean ur ancestry is not special.
@dsamaiable "what doea an ethniicty hvae to do with race or skin cpolor?" you're not all there are you? you dont know the meaning of ethnicity or culture. nor did i acknowledge any culture. blacks marrying blacks have nothing to do with culture?
everything else you typed was illegible.
oh, by the way heres one definition of ethnicity: Of, relating to, or CHARACTERISTIC of a sizable group of people sharing a common and distinctive RACIAL, national, religious, linguistic, or CULTURAL heritage.
@dsamaiable I asked you to define biracial, simply because that term, is no longer correct, the correct terminolgy is Multi-racial. How many Original copys are really out there? If a white mates with a black nowadays, chance are that kid aint biracial, but more likely multiracial. blacks have different genome lines, so blacks mates with black creates a new line, whites mates with whites..new lines. Anglos do not identify with Saxons, even though they are both white european
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz as 2 parents of a different race. Period. If 1 parent is half and mix with another black person that child is not biracial. the child can be cosidered bi cultural not not a racially mix person.
@dsamaiable "bi cultural" what the fuck? you are a DUMBASS! wow! bi culutural...i cant stop saying it...ALL of North America is "bi cultural" btw son and further more Multicultural...ima call you son..you my son now ..i will school you ...dont you worry son I'll help you find your way. White people are a mixed race and blacks are a mixed race if not we would all be inbred retards. end of argument. now go annoy someonelse with your ignorance.
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz i dont need a wanabe white black negro 2 school me on shit. If Europeans loves ur ass so much shut the fuck up and move there and quit arguing with me o u tube. Bescause when black male r profiled by the police they damn sure are not looking a biracial anything. Move on!!!!!!!!!!!!! I done with u!!!
@dsamaiable Now the Anglos and the Saxons mixed and created the anglo-saxons and nowadays, specifically in North America, you cant tell an Anglo-Saxon from an Anglo or a Saxon because they all look white to everyone and a lot of them cant even tell you what they are. They just say "I'm white". Same goes for black, asian, indian, east indian, middle eastern to africa with the, the persians Now Iran. It is this huge melting pot of a gene pool. But this black white thing have you all thinking gray.
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz abgain these are only ethinicities. what doea an ethniicty hvae to do with race or skin cpolor? asian come in a variety of tones hair textures etc. what does that have to do with black american children? they are not mixed race? u want black children to be mixed race so bad! lmao!
I personally could never imagine acting that way towards somebody just based on the simple fact that they are dating a Hispanic man. I feel that love is beautiful in all forms and it should be celebrated and not attacked
I am from chicago I'll and My question, as a Latino woman (I'm Uruguayan and Brazilian) MARRIED to a black man, is why is it there so much hostility towards me and other women in my place. I just don't understand why certain women feel they can disrespect me and try to flirt with my husband infront of me and even get into a fight with me over this subject
re: dsamaiable's. I don't know where you are from but traveling the US you will see that there are an over abundance of black men dating white women. Now more of the "pretty" skinny white girls, not just the very overweight white women who may have low self esteem. Statistics show over 70% of the African American woman population will never marry, maybe that explains the "loss of softness" he mentioned. Maybe SOME of the black men are seeking that "softness" they may find in white women.
I dont agree with this one, you had me a little bit until this installment. I become soft and oh so pink but as soon as I become hurt from being understanding and mindful I become cold and hardened. Of course like all things this state is not permanent. And one can argue that all men will not cause such a trait; thus it is my belief that some of the problem may just be the caliber of the person. Perhaps men and women tend to gravitate towards mates that are not on their level as a human being.
the majority of black american children have 2 black parents. so i don't see were black men are dating outside of their race in large droves. black american children are not mixed race, they usally have 2 black parents.
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz lol! no they are not mix race because they have 2 black parents! your right you can't explain something thats not real. The majority of Black American children are catorgorize as "African American" because they have 2 black parents, they are not "biracial".
@dsamaiable define "biracial"....keep in mind I am a black kid with two black parents and we are all mixed with our white slavemaster's blood....My great great grandfather came from a black pussy...and he could pass for white, thats how he survived and recieved the education he did. my last name is not even "black" I have red hair, very light skin and freckles.... characteristics passed on from the Celtic Brits who "owned" my people....and who exactly "categorized" me as "African American"?
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz lol! u still considered black american or black european or black irish. whatever is the case in america all blacks arenot mix all the time, even if they do have white or whatever other ancestry they are still considered black not biracial.
@dsamaiable you would be suprised then. the basketball player Charles Barclay is "African American" but in fact he is 75% European...there is a white proffesor who is 20% Black African. The point is the gene pool has been mixing from day one. I dont think in terms of black or white or culture or ethnicity. I think in terms of the gene pool. The fact is blacks have the strongest genome and that is why Charles Barclay looks the way he does but in fact he is more "white" than "black".
@dsamaiable I dont know you, But if you are black or identify as black. You would be surprised to learn how much white you have in you. Point im trying to make is just because you come from 2 black parents does not make you an original, or improved copy of the black genome. You are probably watered down like me and 90% of blacks who went through the western slave movement. Or maybe you are part of that 10% who's genome has been unaffected by the race mixing. Some call that the original man.
the majority of black american children have 2 black parents. so i don't see were black men are dating outside of their race in large droves. black american children are not mixed race, they usally have 2 black parents.
the majority of black american children have 2 black parents. so i don't see were black men are dating outside of their race in large droves. black american children are not mixed race, they usally have 2 black parents.
the majority of black american children have 2 black parents. so i don't see were black men are dating outside of their race in large droves. black american children are not mixed race, they usally have 2 black parents.
the majority of black american children have 2 black parents. so i don't see were black men are dating outside of their race in large droves. black american children are not mixed race, they usally have 2 black parents.
I agree but I also disagree. I've been with my black man now for 4 going on 5 years. And sometimes I have to be strong when dealing with him. I've came at him soft & suttle it never works but if I put a little umph in my voice I get better results from him. I feel as though u have to have a backbone when dealing with our men or they will run over u. I'm only submissive in certain situations! which I don't care if they date white women.
but ok.. a different thing.. ok .. i am the type of woman that will do anything i can 4 my man but i wanna know if i do this all day every day will that make the man like he can disrespect me..?
ok i understand wat ur sayin .. but i do have a q.. ok i wanna know y is it that when a white woman dates a black guy she is a hoe and all this shyt but then when a black woman dates a white guy she is up grading..? u may have answered this q... but i just ran accross this and i had 2 put it on my myspace page..
that kinds talk tends to come about for mean hearted black women that feel left out and alone. but that same woman would think well now that I am with a white man I have gone up a level. and the fact that a white female would be with a black man she went down a level. its all about the class system.
black women r strong but stressed from being with losers or seeing their mothers deal with losers... they go to school and get big degrees but they still have some "residue" from their struggles during past relationships or harsh childhood! That is y they are more aggressive, has more attitude and is always ready for WAR! but MEN dont like that!
I know I don't mind dating outside my race since, as far as I know, race don't really matter. Why can't Black women date outside their race? It's not like races have to exist, and a majority of them are mixed anyway (Sambo, Negrito, Melanesian, Mani, Aboriginal, Capoid, etc.).
I understood with you, cantcook. I agree with what u said. I think you know what it means to be a woman. I think women of all races need to act like women. So many of our black ladies think they need to act out as men in order to gain respect but the opposite is true. Be a woman, that is what we as men of all races want.
dude you are smooth. yea I'm a few of the black women that don't have an attitude or act like that. but 'I'm glad that you have made these videos to let these women know that it is not OK to act like that.
Men, honestly, from my experience a lot of this has to do with how the woman feels about HERSELF. An overconfident woman will overcompensate and feel she has to dominate the relationship (I am talking about black women). Many of them bring their past hurt into every relationship with black men and try to dominate him. This is a huge turn-off! We are not all the same. So men will go where they feel they dont have to deal with that. It may even be to another BLACk woman.
Dude, I understand what you are saying. But, since you don't date white women shouldn't this message come from someone who has that exeperience? No offense I am just saying. If you have no real life experience in dating other races, how can you pin-point why it is happening other than vicarious knowledge? Sleeping with whit women is NOT dating them. Feel free to email me. Have a good one.
As man I am not agree with You that dating with white woman could be solution to find more softmess. I am white, living in country where black ppl are rare as snow in nigeria. And I can tell You that no suck stereotype of softer white woman. They are also very different, and in my country(maybe for historical reasons) weman are quite emanicipated, independent and also are agressively demonstrates rights against peace at home...unfortunaly.
I wish people would have more honest conversations on this topic like this guy. Kudos to you, you have nailed it on the head. Black women, ignore this man's advice to your own peril. And not just black women, I know a lot of white women and women in general who would be wise to listen to this advice.
As a white women i have to say that it is very easy to manipulate the male mind. You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.(it is easier to persuade people if you use polite arguments and flattery than if you are confrontational.)
You know what is so funny cantcook? This is what most men want. Most men want a woman to use her feminine ways to get what they want. That is what makes her a woman!!! I am not impressed with a woman that makes a boat load of money and is super independent. Hell, men have been that way for centuries. I have to tell you ladies you will never get a man's respect trying to beat him at his own game. Be a woman and be the best at your own game. That is what men respect!!
I wasn't trying to make a race oriented comment. I was saying that its easier to get what you want by not blowing up or trying to prove yourself. Im sorry if that offended you.I only told my race because it was my opinion as a white woman.
If you read my comment I didn't say anything about race it was a general comment.
cont-It's like pulling teeth to have some sistas act soft and feminine. To blame your attitude on some previous relationship is pure bull****. Men go through just as many things as you do (remember we deal with more women than you do men). Get the f*** over it, please!!. I have teenage sons who tell me that black girls have attitude and are hard to deal with! They didn't get that from ME!!
Good stuff man. It's amazing how people don't listen to you when you say "not all black women" or any other psa. Ladies, you really need to focus on what we are saying to you. I don't think he was being sexist all. He is just giving you valid points from a male perspective. That does not mean that a man is stuck in that zone or he is not flexible. I am black and I'm married to a black woman. I deal with this issue of softness all the time.
the points you have raised so far are more right than wrong. i agree with everything other than the point on women not listening. i think it is the other way around in that scenario. women listen men do not.
@tallnicegyal2die4 Women don't listen, they talk!! You can't talk and listen at the same time. We hear the ladies point of view all the time, but when a man finally speaks, y'all ain't trying to hear it. It's all about how hard the women have it.
I guess just like women should know their place, Black people should know their place... right? "The majority of White people do not look at Black people as equals. It's just the way it is... for the wrong reasons and for the right reasons." I guess just like Black people needed to bug their eyes out and entertain Whitey to get what they wanted (Sambos and Uncle Toms), you think women need to do the same to men. Black people struggled to be gentle to Whitey b/c their anger issues too... huh?
When Blacks fought for equality and against their White oppressors, they were labeled as uncivilized & angry by their oppressors. Sexism is a bigger issue than racism because it directly affects HALF of the world's population. You're either a male or female by appearance... the line isn't blurred like it is with race (e.g. Black in the US isn't defined the same in Latin America).
I wouldn't expect you to see it from this perspective though. Just as I don't expect ignorant and/or racist Whites to see and understand the perspective of Blacks or other minorities.
Just as some Blacks during slavery and segregation accepted the life and roles society limited them to, most women do the same. Just because some women are taking a stand against that doesn't mean they're angry, they're just FED UP.
A point you missed was EVERY WHITE WOMAN I'VE DATED, "KEPT A THONG IN BETWEEN HER ASS (but some black women, especially BEFORE and AFTER THE THONG SONG, state they don't like thongs, they're unconfortable some excuse) & MY D**K IN HER MOUTH (I've never had 2 have a conversation, ask, make a 69 deal, beg OR PLEAD for HEAD from a white woman). I've never asked any of them, but I think every woman in their family from GREAT GREAT GRANDMOTHER, passes down this knowledge as a method to please a man.
Theonlychild1988 1 week ago
I think you HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD WITH THIS TOPIC "THE LOSS OF SOFTNESS" I left a beautiful, sexy, great sex, great time (the majority of the time), $80,000 a yr (actually held me down in a time of GREAT NEED) woman because of THE LOSS OF SOFTNESS! And, her getting up in my face, as you said, LIKE SHE HAD A DICK and was ABOUT TO FUCK ME UP! It's best to leave before I END UP IN JAIL OR DEAD!
Theonlychild1988 1 week ago
And who wants a black men when you nigger men are all over tv raping, stealing, killing, and having bastard children my paycheck is supporting.
Jazznat10n 1 month ago
@Jazznat10n nigger means king u dumb ass.let me guess ur another european monkey that thinks hes white
knowledgebk305 3 weeks ago
@Jazznat10n ya'll created killing and raping
knowledgebk305 3 weeks ago
Please stop making these videos. You are causing all us blond white women problems. My white men are going for your stupid black women. I hate black women and their big azz. I'm blonde green eyes and slim. But the nigger women are taking my precious white men away.
Jazznat10n 1 month ago
@Jazznat10n how about you stop being a nigger with all of your ignorant comments
mrbighit50 1 month ago
Interesting perspective!
Sermalla 1 month ago
I don't like the majority of bw in America but I can't get them out of my head. It sucks, why is this?
Odakufilms 1 month ago
Hello I am jasmine from wichita ks and I do agree that black women has lost there softness but now days white women are losing it to. I really think black women not all but alot has trust issues with our own men. Let me give you a couple of examples of why I am one of the angry black women but I didnt always be this way. I am 26 and I have had it rough I have been molested by blackmen as a child, when I grew up every man abused me and they all are black I dont date outside my race
lildillpickle1 3 months ago
The real question is Why are women of other races dating black man?
tyronegot5 3 months ago
Meh I don't care what color the woman is as long as she's nice. Besides I'm attractive enough that more often than not women approach me anyway. So I'm not going to put myself out there chasing women of any color. It's first come first serve and if your shit stinks, well it sucks for you. Color is not the issue, it's American feminism. Get me a 3rd world hottie any day of the week.
leopard6984 4 months ago
I understand what you're saying about women using their minds to get what they want, and understanding the nature of a man. Men like to dominate, and when you fight them in their dominance, they become even more controlling. It's just in a man's nature. Women don't realize a lot of the time that they can make the man believe they are in control when they really aren't. It's just an illusion we create to be in control ourselves. The bottom line is U can make a man love or hate U. It's all up to U
ccelli73 4 months ago
ITS PREFERENCE DAMN! IM BLACK MY FIRST PREFERENCE IS LATINA RICAN DOMINICAN AN OTHER'S ITS MY FAV IT'S WHAT I LOVE A BLACK FEMALE CAN SAY WATEVER P.S. I LOVE WHITE WOMAN AND ALL OTHER 2 JUST AS MUCH
bridica 5 months ago
ITS PREFERENCE DAMN! IM BLACK MY FIRST PREFERENCE IS LATINA RICAN DOMINICAN AN OTHER'S ITS MY FAV IT'S WHAT I LOVE A BLACK FEMALE CAN SAY WATEVER
bridica 5 months ago
You are good. We must keep our softness. Real talk for real people.
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ropermrmeredith06 6 months ago
Brazilians (including Brazilian women) are starting to "catch-on" to the con-man strategies that Blacks (particularly black men) use in interpersonal relations (especially dating or "hook-up" relations)! Stay home you hypocritical jerks and keep your disgusting sexuality in the USA!
zoepneuma 8 months ago
i agree totally with you ONLY b/c i have learned to stop talking as much and start LISTENING..trust it's not easy..i have had to defend myself for a very long time..i rebelled on the fact that men are dominate( read your bible ) i had a friend, who is a woman, tell me something that stuck with me.."when all your relationships end the same way, its time to self-check...ladies.. i know..big pill to swallow.. self-check, and see why things happen for you the way they do...you HEAR so much more
thickmadame76 9 months ago
I'm a BW and cannot speak on having attitude and mouth for days as some sistas do however I guess I'm different that way. I'm outgoing but know there is a time and a place for everything. What I wil comment on is yes I agree, a man does respond better to "softness". I 've done it and it works well. He leaves feeling good about himself, I feel good knowing I've practiced some restraint, and both of us leave feeling good we are able to communicate w/ each other and understand ea. other better. :)
Kamirarenee 9 months ago
i give atitude at black men only when they call me their sista or bitch. WHAT!!!! I'm not your sista. I'm not single, either. I don't care if a white women dates a black man or vice versa just don't say one is bether than the other.
skyyeblue101 10 months ago
@skyyeblue101 u give attitue at black men only when they call u their sister? you are truely an ignorant individual
boo843348 10 months ago
@boo843348 first all i don't know them for any black man to call me their sista even when black females say it to me. that puts me in the african american community. i'm not fucking african american. i wrong for saying i don't like to be called sister from a nigga then so be it.
skyyeblue101 10 months ago
@skyyeblue101 o my fault. i didnt know u was a cracka, i thought u was a nigga.
boo843348 10 months ago
@boo843348 shut the fuck up.
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ioanaella1 10 months ago
The Soft always balances out the Hard.......And for the Hard there is the Soft....It is only this delicate Balance that can even everything out...>(^-^)< The Lady SkyKatt RavenTail
LindaIG6KArt 11 months ago
I have only one question: Do you believe that it is a woman's nature to be cunning/deceptive? I ask because I do not believe this is the case, and I believe for the most part women are socialized to believe that they are supposed to act that way, and like u said those that are more cunning tend to stab u in the back way worse than a woman who is not, which is not something I am a fan of, but I do understand how u meant it in the example of the shoes (tho I'm not materialistic like that)
tysmith008 11 months ago
What do you mean by "men don't view women as eaquals"?
ThSkBj 1 year ago
@ThSkBj i think what he meant, in context, is that men don't feel that a woman can use aggression on him successfully. the authoritative tone is how men get what they want from females, and when women speak to men like this, they're acting like they're on the same "playing field" when it comes to using brute force to get what they want from a man.
EbunnyEthereal 10 months ago
I'm a black man and I've been married to a Philipina woman for almost 3yrs... Honestly I have come to the conclusion that I could never be happy unless I was with a black women. I dont feel comfortable in public with her at all. I am actually ashamed of myself for being with a woman that isnt black... I have realized that the exact qualities that turned me off of black women are the same qualities that I love in them. Either way it seems impossible to find a good life partner in this generation.
timothyohara84 1 year ago
She get it from her momma!! Seriously, I feel you though. I feel her sometimes too, what you are preaching has to be taught by a strong woman...not a single mother who's BD was never there & mommy was left to be the man & woman. Our actions are learned behaviors, I just pray that this generation of mothers does more teaching than preaching...
imanild 1 year ago
So women are supposed to be deceitful and sneaky??? That is totally against what I believe any person should be. As for being soft, there's a time to be passive and a time to be assertive. If you are being disrespected by a man, as a woman you should assert yourself. In response to women being inferior to men. Don't agree. Men are ONLY stronger physically than woman not mentally or otherwise. I think this is a caveman way of thinking, unfortunately many men still believe this crap today.
KharismaBrown 1 year ago 6
@KharismaBrown I believe what he is suggesting is for women to be softer in their approach with men, not so much being deceitful and sneaky. The more you smile, the more pleasant you are, the more of an inviting personality you have, those are the things that he refers to as cunning. It's not that you're being fake or untrue to yourself, but it's a different way of carrying yourself that is less threatening and more appealing.
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Shaylansn 1 year ago
Women are to be submissive to their HUSBANDS not their boyfriends and black men do not seem eager to commit. I have a loud voice but I do not have a nasty attitude. I do have a boyfriend that I occasionally have to remind that I am his girlfriend not his wife. Respect has nothing to do with color, but I do get a sense that black men feel more comfortable disrespecting black woman. This is where a lot of the hostility comes from.
Shaylansn 1 year ago
Im a white woman and Ive always dated black men, iono why I jus am not attracted to white men and I never have been since I got over cooties, I am not cunning, I am strong, and I hold my man down. Yes I cater to my man, yes I am submissive to him, but at the same time, when he does wrong I put him in his place and will cuss his ass out. My man has been locked up for a year and I'm holdin him down and NEVER cheated. You can be real, soft, and strong all in one, no matter what race you are.
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Funny to find this video because I think you are so right. I hope all women do hear this. I have been called weak and stupid for catering to my black man "I'm not black/white nor hispanic by the way" but his ever payday I get the paycheck and I do over spend sometimes "sorry but it's a bad habit of mine" but bottom line is we both get what we want. I pamper him and he buys me what I want a win win situation. And yes I work too for my savings/bils and get my spending money by catering my man =)
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ljsmixbox44 1 year ago
I watched the whole series and held off on commenting. I agree with you, dude. Any woman of any race can have a bad attitude. For the most part, it's most black women that have horrible attitudes. Whether its justified or not, whether its because of past experiences or not; You still have control over how you come across to people. You can't control how people treat you, however you can control your own attitude and behavior.
enterjcs 1 year ago 2
@MisKailee I was with a white woman with an attitude also. She hung around around lot ghetto people and it was the main reason I had to get out of the relationship.
enterjcs 1 year ago
@MisKailee you damn nigger lover you have a serious case of ol no she didn't white girls that act black just look at them fucking discusting what white guy would have you o yea you didn't tell him you had sex with a small black penis that should be agianst the law bitch,skank,smelly eggs, go hang yourself.
TheTommy7488 1 year ago
@TheTommy7488 u mad cause white guys have small dicks and white chicks love black dick
justinjones725 2 months ago
am I the only black man in the world married to a white woman who thinks black women treat their men better?
D00M696 1 year ago 2
@D00M696 yes you are.
CxplorerV2 1 year ago
@D00M696 Most likely.
enterjcs 1 year ago
HOMIE...I JUS TOTALY AGREE WITH YOU.. I AIN GOT NOTHING ELSE TO SAY ..LOL
catherine2790 1 year ago
Some black women can be too hard on their men and as a result end up alone.
majormoviestar2008 1 year ago
@hulsey1976 If you are a women, than be a women. If you are women who acts like a man you need to get a sex change(however the fuck that works!) and get some pussy. If you want a white man you will respect him. Black women like you(If you are one)will treat any man good BUT a black man. So nobody wants to hear that bullshit, fuck off and die alone bitch. You aint gotta do anything a man tells you. You're probably a dyke that eats her homegirls asshole all day and hates men. I know your type!
durealdeal 1 year ago
I can't speak for all black women, but maybe it's some sort of defense mechanism. In past relationships being treated badly and not standing up for your self. For the new partner the woman may try and toughen up. I do think people take it to the extreme though. Many cultural factors come into play to form this out spoken woman or non-out spoken woman.
ashalya18 1 year ago
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BranJedi 1 year ago
i dont know if i count cause im only half black and im also half white but with all honesty the reason i dont date black women has already been explained by you.
if this helps at all another reason i don't date many black women is because i spend all of my time avoiding them because of their attitude i have only met one black girl who didn't have the same attitude as the one who actually pulled a gun out on me although i'm sure not all black women are that insane i don't want to take tht chance
chadcallahan70 1 year ago
@chadcallahan70 I can understand where you are coming from. I really don't think about approaching black women anymore because of my past experiences. Not all of the black women that I've come across have had poor attitudes, however most have.
enterjcs 1 year ago
@enterjcs I feel you!!!!!
Rwizzzzzy 1 year ago
i dont know if i count cause im only half black and im also half white but with all honesty the reason i dont date black women has already been explained by you.
if this helps at all another reason i dont date many black women is becaus i spend all of my time avoiding them because of their attitude i have only met one black girl who didnt have the same attitude as the one who actually pulled a gun out on me althoug im sure not all black women are that insane i dont want to take that chance.
chadcallahan70 1 year ago
one big reason that black men date outside of there race is because of the numbers... i mean we live in america were the white population is 75 percent and the black population is 12 percent.. but nobody ever talks about that. i mean if you took the black population and moved it to china... you would have a lot of black men dating chinese women... it just the numbers!! trust me i live in washington and there aint no black women around here!!!!
jackson7201 1 year ago 11
@jackson7201 Again...there are still 2 million EXTRA BW to go around. There are WAY more BW in the us than BM. So I still fail to see your point. I could not care less who BM are dating but don't use your percentages be an excuse as it were. You should date whomever you please. Because thats who you want and thats who you are attracted to. Not because of some perceived lack of available BW.
SuperMommav 1 year ago
@jackson7201 washington dc?
Lacubanitamasbonita 1 year ago
i understand how black man want to be talked nice to and it seems like your sayin they dont want a woman to speak her mind but just to be quiet??
Lacubanitamasbonita 1 year ago
@Lacubanitamasbonita It's how you say it, tone,l facial expression, body language. I am a black men and I can attest to this. Whenever I feel like a woman is barking on me however valid her argument may be I'm done. Just as I sure you wouldn't follow a man if he had a soft voice and feminine ways about her I don't care for woman who exhibit man like behaviour.
FitnessGuru1988 1 year ago
@jackson7201 Well I live in Washington state too...I'm not sure what area you live in or how long you have been there.... but the most black women you will see (although a smaller percentage as a whole) live in Seattle, Tacoma and Spokane.
eracism09 5 months ago
@eracism09 i live in gay ass bremerton
jackson7201 5 months ago
@jackson7201 Yeah, I can imagine there not being many sistas living there! I personally can't stand Washington period because it's not diverse enough for me...that's why I'm on my way out.
eracism09 5 months ago
@jackson7201 u sound dum
justinjones725 2 months ago
@MisKailee yep you got it figured out!!
jackson7201 1 year ago
It seems like despite america being a "progressive" nation of the "free," there is a lot of talk about race. Never in any other country have I seen people as obsessed with race as in the US. Seriously...get over it. You're black, I'm white, she's black, he's asian, ETC...
PSG0113 1 year ago
you just do not have to engage them in anything sex, marriage dating or nothing. they come in a package as soon as you know them. quarrels, child support, divorce early death,wheel chair, police, poverty u stay where u are when you met them and waste all your time and money. basically they are your challenge in life not the outside world. read the audacity of hope and you will find it.
just keep clear of them
MNIKELL 1 year ago
Ok. Part 4 was for me. :) Listening and learning :)
A1sauce79 1 year ago
I'm getting the impression, if this guy is speaking on behalf of black men as a whole, that black men are assholes who look at women as a piece of property to entertain them. The examples of behavior he provides shows that his mentality is that it's his prerogative as a male to put a woman in her place - she is only capable of what he allows her to do. No woman is going to put up with that, nor should they. If this is how you treat black women, then I can see why you get so much attitude.
hulsey1976 1 year ago
I'm only about 2 and a half years late on this one, but I must comment no less. Real talk, this is. Being a black woman myself, though, I must say that I really do fit into the category of black women that are opposite of what you are describing. I just have to say one thing. While you ask that I not pass judgement on all men based on my experiences with those of the past, I ask that you avoid doing the same. Don't hold us all responsible for the majority. :-) Nice videos. Cute and funny, + real
missjuanitams24 1 year ago
Plus they expect bw to bend over backwards for them yet the only race of men out there to not reciprocate shit that real men do. Bw having attitude should be expected under the conditions bm put bw under. Since most bm hate their skin and color they think it's ok to hate the women they come from therefore treat them like shit then act surprised that bw want to defend themselves from that hatred.
impatientwithdesire 1 year ago
Why do bm act like some bw with attitude means they can say all bw have attitude. And with the horrible way bm sexualize bw on city streets and at home shouldn't bw have a defense mech in place to deal with they? I understand if bm were stand up men but the majority of bn are in jail and/or don't take care of the seed they hastily deposit into numbers of women at a time.
impatientwithdesire 1 year ago
The reason black men are dating and MARRYING other races is not because of the bullshit you mention my friend, it is however because you want to lose your blackness.
Now liberal fuck faces will be fuming right now and shouting out the word RACISTTTTT!! but no, my arguing which is from a evolution point of view, you pick the wife you think is going to give you the best offspring simple science. Men choose women that best fits their picture of best survival and reproducing feature.
TheAntinode 1 year ago
I liked this one. I think you've hit the nail on the head with the attitude that so many of our black women have...why in the hell do we have to be on the defensive so damn much?! We have to learn to relax for crying out loud! We can be strong in so many other ways without the whole head and neck movements and the 'in your face' behavior.
nerekjo2 1 year ago
when we fuck I stand and you don't preach homie preach!...lol
wildluxy 1 year ago
@MisKailee preach!
wildluxy 1 year ago
and it also sounds like you want us to use sex as a thing to get what we want if we do that then when will the guy willingly give us something we want out of the kindness of his heart it would be like for everything i want i would have to have sex with him to get it? its wrong to use sex as a weapon a guy should give a women something from the kindness of his heart same for the girl but i guess doing that pink soft stuff is ok ONCE IN A WHILE but you are right for the most of it
XbeyourselfisbestX 1 year ago
@XbeyourselfisbestX Female agents used it to pursue and gather information from the Nazi Soldiers in world war 2. Sex is used for many reasons. Women seem to benefit more from that point of attraction.
visionimagify 1 year ago
@visionimagify oh i didnt know that but im not going to use sex as a weapon even if it does bennefit me more i just want someone to give me what i would give them a heart for a heart not i give you sex and you give me the whole world =_= is that so bad but yeah GIRL POWER LOL but no im not doing it
XbeyourselfisbestX 1 year ago
sorry i cant submit to a man and it is because of my back ground its also because i fell pressured to be the strong black women the black community says we are and should be and not to mention my family havent been suportive in most of my time of need i just dont want to be weak but......i dont know havent you felt pressured to do or be something the black community says you should be.black people pressure other black people and its real HARD on me i think you should do a vid on that
XbeyourselfisbestX 1 year ago
@XbeyourselfisbestX But it's called compromise. Don't expect us to compromise to you if you won't compromise to us. As the guy says, if you aren't willing to do that then go find a submissive man, otherwise you will be single at 45 asking yourself why!
DarkGeese 1 year ago
soft an pink.....nice choice. u make me smile.
ButtaFlyKitty 1 year ago
BRAVO!!!!
Capricon18 1 year ago
I cant stand to see white vs black women but I get why youve done that.I am a white woman.I do date black men(I prefer men who date every color tho).I was hoping to watch this and hear more about why black women(some not all) are so angry with white/black f/m couples.We get the meanest looks and comments. Anyway,I watched pt1&ws curious so continued to watch.You seem educated&I know I enjoyed the humor as well as insight.
daniethebeautiful 1 year ago
Brother your video is 100% on point and should help a lot of sisters to get a man. I can't agree more that we as men are suckers to feminine manipulation, by that I mean that women who play ... you know what, just watch the video again, he said it all.
rmhofu 1 year ago
@rmhofu Amen
ShannonGma 1 year ago
I'm a hispanic female and I think there is some truth in what you're saying in this video, but I don't think black women are the only ones who have an issue controling their anger. There are black women who show a lot of softness and white women who show a lot of anger just like men. I think it depends on the day. Some guys like to be mistreated once in a while. lol
LeniGirly 1 year ago
I just want to point out that this is a problem you have in the US not in the world. Please refer to African Americans or Black American, because in Africa, easily less than 2% of black people marry outside their race. But Donnis hit it on the head, no man wants 2 dicks in the house. If woman is trying to grow balls, then he is gonna find a woman. Even if you earn more than me, it's cool as long as we both keep our roles. A woman is gentle, tender etc. We can't both be testosterone, no ma'am.
rmhofu 1 year ago
@rmhofu in America the % of black men to marry outside his race was only 5.yes higher but not significantly.And I dont know that Id call it a "problem" but maybe Im biased being a white woman with a black man.
daniethebeautiful 1 year ago
@jacob2617 LMAO.... let me guess, your white girl friend left you for a black guy? You poor thing, so filled with anger and hatred. Good day :)
mistamac123 1 year ago
I am a white woman watching this and I found it very helpful. For a long time I have struggled with what I thought was just too much confidence but was actually a lack of softness. I have never been approached by a man just to talk or be flirted with, I think it is because of my lack of softness. I await your next video.Thank you.
liztruly 1 year ago
Why is it stupid you ask?? well if you really love her then no it's not, but if you guys think you are doing this to disipline black women and have your cake and it too you are just sad as they make you look on TV, so think about it I a black women can give you a black man for a child can she, NOOOOOOO! she will give you Bi-racial children and now a days the children don't even look half and half, they look white so continue to water down, just remember blood is thicker then water. dummies!!!!!!
blacknbrown100 1 year ago
Black men have added white women to black culture, now tell me how stupid are you guys, you have put black women in a race with these girls it makes no sense, i know their are good black men, hell i have one but black men seem to be so distructive, why ????? I don't need to make the list you can do that, I don't get mad when I see a black man with a "white girl" I just think that it is sad that you guys are sooooooo stupid .
blacknbrown100 1 year ago
I find it funny how black men and just men always talk about how it is a man thing, and thats why women are doing what they are doing is because that s--t gets old I would like a man to just be a man, treat me the same as I treat you, black men sleep around waaaaaaaaaaaaay tooooo much for my taste, you guys stick your d--ks in just about any and everything and have been doing so for years and toooo me doesn't make you attractive just makes you high risk, con't..........
blacknbrown100 1 year ago
This is a late response, but I as a black woman appreciate your videos. You have a lot of insight, your intentions seem to be genuine, and you deliver your message with humor and intelligence. I love being a woman and it shows. I am curvaceous, I love make-up, perfume, and dresses. I also love and respect men. For a lot of single black women who too often are the head of their households being feminine has become a lost art due to our struggles to provide, protect and serve our families.
chargamble 1 year ago
Also other races are making themselves more available to black men because of the boy boy stereotype and the big penis stereotype.
kagome304 1 year ago
preach brother
walterkennyr44 1 year ago
Dude you are really funny, you should be a comedian.
SonsoftheProphets 1 year ago
Your genius...you are genius...
ElHajjMalikElShabbaz 1 year ago
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz my greatgrandfather was biracial. but i dont have the experince of having a parent directly from another race. so i'm not biracial wich has nothing to do with ethnicty or skin color. u can identify as Celtic culturally. u r not biracial by a long.
dsamaiable 1 year ago
@dsamaiable I dont identify as Celtic, nor do I identify as biracial.but i do recognize my mix. simple as that. I am well aware of my gene pool. How about you? Are you a copy of the original genome of your line of ancestory? Do you know of this through both lines of your parents? You are not if you have ancestory thats biracial. No? Also, Im not just mixed with white and black.lol....
ElHajjMalikElShabbaz 1 year ago
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz lol! it good u acknowlegde ur cul;ture but ur race is a different story. i just sad again most black americans regardles of gene pool marry other black people and the children are considered black race. this has nothing to do with Culutre!! Are u reading my comments completely? hat black american, black hispanic etc is not mixed with something? i mean ur ancestry is not special.
dsamaiable 1 year ago
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@dsamaiable "what doea an ethniicty hvae to do with race or skin cpolor?" you're not all there are you? you dont know the meaning of ethnicity or culture. nor did i acknowledge any culture. blacks marrying blacks have nothing to do with culture?
everything else you typed was illegible.
oh, by the way heres one definition of ethnicity: Of, relating to, or CHARACTERISTIC of a sizable group of people sharing a common and distinctive RACIAL, national, religious, linguistic, or CULTURAL heritage.
ElHajjMalikElShabbaz 1 year ago
@dsamaiable I asked you to define biracial, simply because that term, is no longer correct, the correct terminolgy is Multi-racial. How many Original copys are really out there? If a white mates with a black nowadays, chance are that kid aint biracial, but more likely multiracial. blacks have different genome lines, so blacks mates with black creates a new line, whites mates with whites..new lines. Anglos do not identify with Saxons, even though they are both white european
ElHajjMalikElShabbaz 1 year ago
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz as 2 parents of a different race. Period. If 1 parent is half and mix with another black person that child is not biracial. the child can be cosidered bi cultural not not a racially mix person.
dsamaiable 1 year ago
@dsamaiable "bi cultural" what the fuck? you are a DUMBASS! wow! bi culutural...i cant stop saying it...ALL of North America is "bi cultural" btw son and further more Multicultural...ima call you son..you my son now ..i will school you ...dont you worry son I'll help you find your way. White people are a mixed race and blacks are a mixed race if not we would all be inbred retards. end of argument. now go annoy someonelse with your ignorance.
ElHajjMalikElShabbaz 1 year ago
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz i dont need a wanabe white black negro 2 school me on shit. If Europeans loves ur ass so much shut the fuck up and move there and quit arguing with me o u tube. Bescause when black male r profiled by the police they damn sure are not looking a biracial anything. Move on!!!!!!!!!!!!! I done with u!!!
dsamaiable 1 year ago
@dsamaiable Now the Anglos and the Saxons mixed and created the anglo-saxons and nowadays, specifically in North America, you cant tell an Anglo-Saxon from an Anglo or a Saxon because they all look white to everyone and a lot of them cant even tell you what they are. They just say "I'm white". Same goes for black, asian, indian, east indian, middle eastern to africa with the, the persians Now Iran. It is this huge melting pot of a gene pool. But this black white thing have you all thinking gray.
ElHajjMalikElShabbaz 1 year ago
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz abgain these are only ethinicities. what doea an ethniicty hvae to do with race or skin cpolor? asian come in a variety of tones hair textures etc. what does that have to do with black american children? they are not mixed race? u want black children to be mixed race so bad! lmao!
dsamaiable 1 year ago
That was a very smart opinion on the subject. I've pondered on this subject many times in my life and its good to here another wise opinion.
lionclaw77 1 year ago
i like what you said about the the penis comparsion!
stardust02us 1 year ago
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mamiloca788 1 year ago
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mamiloca788 1 year ago
I personally could never imagine acting that way towards somebody just based on the simple fact that they are dating a Hispanic man. I feel that love is beautiful in all forms and it should be celebrated and not attacked
mamiloca788 1 year ago
I am from chicago I'll and My question, as a Latino woman (I'm Uruguayan and Brazilian) MARRIED to a black man, is why is it there so much hostility towards me and other women in my place. I just don't understand why certain women feel they can disrespect me and try to flirt with my husband infront of me and even get into a fight with me over this subject
mamiloca788 1 year ago
re: dsamaiable's. I don't know where you are from but traveling the US you will see that there are an over abundance of black men dating white women. Now more of the "pretty" skinny white girls, not just the very overweight white women who may have low self esteem. Statistics show over 70% of the African American woman population will never marry, maybe that explains the "loss of softness" he mentioned. Maybe SOME of the black men are seeking that "softness" they may find in white women.
mommy4two21 1 year ago
I dont agree with this one, you had me a little bit until this installment. I become soft and oh so pink but as soon as I become hurt from being understanding and mindful I become cold and hardened. Of course like all things this state is not permanent. And one can argue that all men will not cause such a trait; thus it is my belief that some of the problem may just be the caliber of the person. Perhaps men and women tend to gravitate towards mates that are not on their level as a human being.
mispinkblac 1 year ago
the majority of black american children have 2 black parents. so i don't see were black men are dating outside of their race in large droves. black american children are not mixed race, they usally have 2 black parents.
dsamaiable 1 year ago
@dsamaiable "black american children are not mixed race" you are so wrong, and i wont even try to explain.....
ElHajjMalikElShabbaz 1 year ago
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz lol! no they are not mix race because they have 2 black parents! your right you can't explain something thats not real. The majority of Black American children are catorgorize as "African American" because they have 2 black parents, they are not "biracial".
dsamaiable 1 year ago
@dsamaiable define "biracial"....keep in mind I am a black kid with two black parents and we are all mixed with our white slavemaster's blood....My great great grandfather came from a black pussy...and he could pass for white, thats how he survived and recieved the education he did. my last name is not even "black" I have red hair, very light skin and freckles.... characteristics passed on from the Celtic Brits who "owned" my people....and who exactly "categorized" me as "African American"?
ElHajjMalikElShabbaz 1 year ago
@ElHajjMalikElShabbaz lol! u still considered black american or black european or black irish. whatever is the case in america all blacks arenot mix all the time, even if they do have white or whatever other ancestry they are still considered black not biracial.
dsamaiable 1 year ago
@dsamaiable you would be suprised then. the basketball player Charles Barclay is "African American" but in fact he is 75% European...there is a white proffesor who is 20% Black African. The point is the gene pool has been mixing from day one. I dont think in terms of black or white or culture or ethnicity. I think in terms of the gene pool. The fact is blacks have the strongest genome and that is why Charles Barclay looks the way he does but in fact he is more "white" than "black".
ElHajjMalikElShabbaz 1 year ago
@dsamaiable I dont know you, But if you are black or identify as black. You would be surprised to learn how much white you have in you. Point im trying to make is just because you come from 2 black parents does not make you an original, or improved copy of the black genome. You are probably watered down like me and 90% of blacks who went through the western slave movement. Or maybe you are part of that 10% who's genome has been unaffected by the race mixing. Some call that the original man.
ElHajjMalikElShabbaz 1 year ago
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the majority of black american children have 2 black parents. so i don't see were black men are dating outside of their race in large droves. black american children are not mixed race, they usally have 2 black parents.
dsamaiable 1 year ago
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the majority of black american children have 2 black parents. so i don't see were black men are dating outside of their race in large droves. black american children are not mixed race, they usally have 2 black parents.
dsamaiable 1 year ago
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the majority of black american children have 2 black parents. so i don't see were black men are dating outside of their race in large droves. black american children are not mixed race, they usally have 2 black parents.
dsamaiable 1 year ago
the majority of black american children have 2 black parents. so i don't see were black men are dating outside of their race in large droves. black american children are not mixed race, they usally have 2 black parents.
dsamaiable 1 year ago
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dsamaiable 1 year ago
I agree but I also disagree. I've been with my black man now for 4 going on 5 years. And sometimes I have to be strong when dealing with him. I've came at him soft & suttle it never works but if I put a little umph in my voice I get better results from him. I feel as though u have to have a backbone when dealing with our men or they will run over u. I'm only submissive in certain situations! which I don't care if they date white women.
caram3lhon3y 1 year ago
So ur saying that u rather someone pretend to be with you and then turn on u , than someone just being real .
rtnicky 1 year ago
ure voice is very sexy, i couldnt listen to a word u said hun! truth
cutesongstress 1 year ago
but ok.. a different thing.. ok .. i am the type of woman that will do anything i can 4 my man but i wanna know if i do this all day every day will that make the man like he can disrespect me..?
snowbunnybabii 1 year ago
ok i understand wat ur sayin .. but i do have a q.. ok i wanna know y is it that when a white woman dates a black guy she is a hoe and all this shyt but then when a black woman dates a white guy she is up grading..? u may have answered this q... but i just ran accross this and i had 2 put it on my myspace page..
snowbunnybabii 1 year ago
that kinds talk tends to come about for mean hearted black women that feel left out and alone. but that same woman would think well now that I am with a white man I have gone up a level. and the fact that a white female would be with a black man she went down a level. its all about the class system.
be with who ever u want. its ur right
Cormier0 1 year ago
Soft and Pink Black girl here!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LadyNemesis2007 1 year ago
omg
THANK YOU!
U R RIGHT!
black women r strong but stressed from being with losers or seeing their mothers deal with losers... they go to school and get big degrees but they still have some "residue" from their struggles during past relationships or harsh childhood! That is y they are more aggressive, has more attitude and is always ready for WAR! but MEN dont like that!
TRUE TALK.....DONT BE MAD AT ME
THINK ABOUT IT!
lllll2006 1 year ago
@lllll2006 your right my child hood was not the best but not the worst ethier i saw/heard alot of stuff in my childhood
XbeyourselfisbestX 1 year ago
I know I don't mind dating outside my race since, as far as I know, race don't really matter. Why can't Black women date outside their race? It's not like races have to exist, and a majority of them are mixed anyway (Sambo, Negrito, Melanesian, Mani, Aboriginal, Capoid, etc.).
brucenatelee 1 year ago
You lost me man when you said you "slept" with white women.
BLKMRM 1 year ago
@BLKMRM Slept with them but not date them. Hmm...
brucenatelee 1 year ago
Interesting point. The lost of cunning will make that black women lose the best black men, they should change things before it's too late for them
Olafur101 1 year ago
I understood with you, cantcook. I agree with what u said. I think you know what it means to be a woman. I think women of all races need to act like women. So many of our black ladies think they need to act out as men in order to gain respect but the opposite is true. Be a woman, that is what we as men of all races want.
donnis618 2 years ago
That's right and the day they get it it will be a great day for all black men of all races!!!
abascalcarlos 2 years ago
you are good.
foxyzjessyjamesshow 2 years ago
pissing contest XD
thesmashmaster 2 years ago
dude you are smooth. yea I'm a few of the black women that don't have an attitude or act like that. but 'I'm glad that you have made these videos to let these women know that it is not OK to act like that.
jazsan222 2 years ago
To all white ladies , black guys don't eat oysters ,so lets never forget your white brothers ,and we enjoy it ,from taste to smell
onetrashdancer 2 years ago
@onetrashdancer
lmao! that is true.
imationjay 1 year ago
@imationjay HA HA and it happens to be true !
onetrashdancer 1 year ago
Men, honestly, from my experience a lot of this has to do with how the woman feels about HERSELF. An overconfident woman will overcompensate and feel she has to dominate the relationship (I am talking about black women). Many of them bring their past hurt into every relationship with black men and try to dominate him. This is a huge turn-off! We are not all the same. So men will go where they feel they dont have to deal with that. It may even be to another BLACk woman.
DrSagaciousone 2 years ago
Dude, I understand what you are saying. But, since you don't date white women shouldn't this message come from someone who has that exeperience? No offense I am just saying. If you have no real life experience in dating other races, how can you pin-point why it is happening other than vicarious knowledge? Sleeping with whit women is NOT dating them. Feel free to email me. Have a good one.
DrSagaciousone 2 years ago
I once asked a black guy why is it that it is easier for a white woman to attract a black man than for a black woman a black or even a white man?.
His answer was: Because it is what it is!, meaning that a white woman, by nature, has what a black woman doesn't have.
That didn't tell me much up until I saw this video.
argent2020 2 years ago
As man I am not agree with You that dating with white woman could be solution to find more softmess. I am white, living in country where black ppl are rare as snow in nigeria. And I can tell You that no suck stereotype of softer white woman. They are also very different, and in my country(maybe for historical reasons) weman are quite emanicipated, independent and also are agressively demonstrates rights against peace at home...unfortunaly.
janxbmxrace 2 years ago
I wish people would have more honest conversations on this topic like this guy. Kudos to you, you have nailed it on the head. Black women, ignore this man's advice to your own peril. And not just black women, I know a lot of white women and women in general who would be wise to listen to this advice.
k98556 2 years ago 7
As a white women i have to say that it is very easy to manipulate the male mind. You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.(it is easier to persuade people if you use polite arguments and flattery than if you are confrontational.)
cantcook4myself 2 years ago 3
You know what is so funny cantcook? This is what most men want. Most men want a woman to use her feminine ways to get what they want. That is what makes her a woman!!! I am not impressed with a woman that makes a boat load of money and is super independent. Hell, men have been that way for centuries. I have to tell you ladies you will never get a man's respect trying to beat him at his own game. Be a woman and be the best at your own game. That is what men respect!!
donnis618 2 years ago 13
I wasn't trying to make a race oriented comment. I was saying that its easier to get what you want by not blowing up or trying to prove yourself. Im sorry if that offended you.I only told my race because it was my opinion as a white woman.
If you read my comment I didn't say anything about race it was a general comment.
And I'm very sorry if you took it the wrong way.
cantcook4myself 2 years ago
cont-It's like pulling teeth to have some sistas act soft and feminine. To blame your attitude on some previous relationship is pure bull****. Men go through just as many things as you do (remember we deal with more women than you do men). Get the f*** over it, please!!. I have teenage sons who tell me that black girls have attitude and are hard to deal with! They didn't get that from ME!!
donnis618 2 years ago
Good stuff man. It's amazing how people don't listen to you when you say "not all black women" or any other psa. Ladies, you really need to focus on what we are saying to you. I don't think he was being sexist all. He is just giving you valid points from a male perspective. That does not mean that a man is stuck in that zone or he is not flexible. I am black and I'm married to a black woman. I deal with this issue of softness all the time.
donnis618 2 years ago
the points you have raised so far are more right than wrong. i agree with everything other than the point on women not listening. i think it is the other way around in that scenario. women listen men do not.
tallnicegyal2die4 2 years ago
@tallnicegyal2die4 Women don't listen, they talk!! You can't talk and listen at the same time. We hear the ladies point of view all the time, but when a man finally speaks, y'all ain't trying to hear it. It's all about how hard the women have it.
donnis618 2 years ago
i listen to men when they speak to me. men say here we go again. if they listen AND NOT JUST HEAR, women will not repeat things over and over.
tallnicegyal2die4 2 years ago
I guess just like women should know their place, Black people should know their place... right? "The majority of White people do not look at Black people as equals. It's just the way it is... for the wrong reasons and for the right reasons." I guess just like Black people needed to bug their eyes out and entertain Whitey to get what they wanted (Sambos and Uncle Toms), you think women need to do the same to men. Black people struggled to be gentle to Whitey b/c their anger issues too... huh?
joylove777 2 years ago
When Blacks fought for equality and against their White oppressors, they were labeled as uncivilized & angry by their oppressors. Sexism is a bigger issue than racism because it directly affects HALF of the world's population. You're either a male or female by appearance... the line isn't blurred like it is with race (e.g. Black in the US isn't defined the same in Latin America).
joylove777 2 years ago 2
I wouldn't expect you to see it from this perspective though. Just as I don't expect ignorant and/or racist Whites to see and understand the perspective of Blacks or other minorities.
Just as some Blacks during slavery and segregation accepted the life and roles society limited them to, most women do the same. Just because some women are taking a stand against that doesn't mean they're angry, they're just FED UP.
joylove777 2 years ago