Good on you. Because of all the stereotypes it does get difficult for some to understand that the ONLY thing that makes one gay is the fact that you like the same sex. That's it.
I couldn't possibly agree with you more on everything that you've said. I really don't like labels either. I am also a more "masculine" gay guy, but it bothers me when people say "You're gay?! I would never have guessed that about you!" I wish there could just be no labels and no stereotypes.
I'm also leery about labels, but there is some utility to them, especially when you're looking for someone to partner with. For instance, a guy guy with more hair or a bit of heft who is worried he won't fit into a supposed world of twinks can find some comfort in the Bear community. Now, every community has guys who are DEDICATED to that "lifestyle" and put stickers on everything they own, but to discourage that young hairy guy from going to a Bear events might cut him off from a social circle.
I'm going to make two separate comments: First, It's really scary when you're first coming out and you see anyone who is "effeminate," because you're worry you will somehow become that, or that others will assume you are that scary, gender-challenging thing. I was working on a play around when I was coming out, and I was terrified of one of the actors who is a charmingly campy, talented actor. I actually recoiled when he tried to touch my arm once. I wish I could go back and apologize for that.
@rabbitfish63 I agree with the first comment, I was definitely afraid of acknowledging my own feminine side. There's an old saying, "you dislike in others what you fear in yourself"...or something like that. Definitely true.
On the second comment, my point is that this said "bear" shouldn't feel like there's a said "twink community" to fit into. I don't see why we have to break down into "communities" or "social circles" based on physical characteristics or personality traits. We're all gay.
BTW its hard to hear as your voice is lower than the music.
Great that you've finally evolved because it really annoys me when guys say they're 'straight acting' as that would mean you're licking pussy which you're not. Hopefully now you can own your masculinity as a gay man & not feed the fallacy that masculinity is the sole preserve of straight guys.
@DoctorSpaceman89 lol bloody technology. only small issue towards the end anyway :) Its really good you've been honest about the journey you've been through & appreciate the variety of gay guys out there. I think we only get annoyed about the divisions because society teaches us that effeminate men are the worst & although we can acknowledge we're gay we don't want to be seen like that. Then we learn hey they're not as bad as we thought. Good on ya mate.
@StraightActingGayGuy Yes thats true but you could create another account with a more appropriate name (which doesn't feed the fallacy that gay men aren't naturally masculine) put up all your previous videos and message your subscribers like me and ask them to sub to the new one. I know I'd sub to the new one in a heart beat! :) I'm sure I'm not the only one of your subscribers who feels like this. :)
I'm going to post my video that I made a couple of weeks ago to yours because I changed myself and finally came to the realization that I am gay not bisexual.
Justin your friend and "Uncle" Blaine here, Bobby Griffiths' (Prayers for Bobby) old lover/boyfriend, has to give you a huge "Shout Out" , for accomplishing or reaching an important understanding in six months, that took me years at which to arrive! I'll still be inclined to address you as "Ragazzo Bello e Dolce" or "Sweet Handsome Boy", but this important understanding at which you've arrived, truly marks a transition into "Manhood"! I luvs Ya "Buddy"!
I totally agree awsome video...i also associated myself as "straight acting" but after being out for almost a year i was able to find myself and also find awsome friends so i totally agree and understand wht u r sayin... keep up the good work..and HAVE FUN!!! WHOOOOO gay pride hahaha lolxD
Good on you. Because of all the stereotypes it does get difficult for some to understand that the ONLY thing that makes one gay is the fact that you like the same sex. That's it.
lerizzle76 1 month ago
Hey miss your videos. Hope all is well.
FilledHunchbacks 2 months ago
I couldn't possibly agree with you more on everything that you've said. I really don't like labels either. I am also a more "masculine" gay guy, but it bothers me when people say "You're gay?! I would never have guessed that about you!" I wish there could just be no labels and no stereotypes.
seblepage 3 months ago
Congrats to you bro. you have come a long way and are bound to have a successful life. Good for you
garyjsimm 3 months ago
I'm also leery about labels, but there is some utility to them, especially when you're looking for someone to partner with. For instance, a guy guy with more hair or a bit of heft who is worried he won't fit into a supposed world of twinks can find some comfort in the Bear community. Now, every community has guys who are DEDICATED to that "lifestyle" and put stickers on everything they own, but to discourage that young hairy guy from going to a Bear events might cut him off from a social circle.
rabbitfish63 3 months ago
I'm going to make two separate comments: First, It's really scary when you're first coming out and you see anyone who is "effeminate," because you're worry you will somehow become that, or that others will assume you are that scary, gender-challenging thing. I was working on a play around when I was coming out, and I was terrified of one of the actors who is a charmingly campy, talented actor. I actually recoiled when he tried to touch my arm once. I wish I could go back and apologize for that.
rabbitfish63 3 months ago
@rabbitfish63 I agree with the first comment, I was definitely afraid of acknowledging my own feminine side. There's an old saying, "you dislike in others what you fear in yourself"...or something like that. Definitely true.
On the second comment, my point is that this said "bear" shouldn't feel like there's a said "twink community" to fit into. I don't see why we have to break down into "communities" or "social circles" based on physical characteristics or personality traits. We're all gay.
DoctorSpaceman89 3 months ago
Never heard of an Otter, but according to Answers.Yahoo it is a slim but excessively hair gay man! What the hell?
stephenturner2412 3 months ago
BTW its hard to hear as your voice is lower than the music.
Great that you've finally evolved because it really annoys me when guys say they're 'straight acting' as that would mean you're licking pussy which you're not. Hopefully now you can own your masculinity as a gay man & not feed the fallacy that masculinity is the sole preserve of straight guys.
global001 3 months ago
@global001 Well said. And yeah, the music is somehow much louder in the uploaded version than my version in iMovie. Sorry.
DoctorSpaceman89 3 months ago
@DoctorSpaceman89 lol bloody technology. only small issue towards the end anyway :) Its really good you've been honest about the journey you've been through & appreciate the variety of gay guys out there. I think we only get annoyed about the divisions because society teaches us that effeminate men are the worst & although we can acknowledge we're gay we don't want to be seen like that. Then we learn hey they're not as bad as we thought. Good on ya mate.
global001 3 months ago
You did a really nice job with this video. You are a good speaker!
StraightActingGayGuy 3 months ago
@StraightActingGayGuy You should take a note of what he's saying and perhaps change your screen name :)
global001 3 months ago
@global001 One is not able to change their screen name after they've created it.
StraightActingGayGuy 3 months ago
@StraightActingGayGuy Yes thats true but you could create another account with a more appropriate name (which doesn't feed the fallacy that gay men aren't naturally masculine) put up all your previous videos and message your subscribers like me and ask them to sub to the new one. I know I'd sub to the new one in a heart beat! :) I'm sure I'm not the only one of your subscribers who feels like this. :)
global001 3 months ago
@StraightActingGayGuy Oh the irony :-). Haha, thanks man I appreciate it.
DoctorSpaceman89 3 months ago
I'm going to post my video that I made a couple of weeks ago to yours because I changed myself and finally came to the realization that I am gay not bisexual.
Whiteboymdew 3 months ago
Great Video, you really summed up exactly what I went through in accepting myself.
JPerry2006 3 months ago
Great video I am glad you are changing for the better
depfox 3 months ago
@DoctorSpaceman89
Ciao Bello!
Justin your friend and "Uncle" Blaine here, Bobby Griffiths' (Prayers for Bobby) old lover/boyfriend, has to give you a huge "Shout Out" , for accomplishing or reaching an important understanding in six months, that took me years at which to arrive! I'll still be inclined to address you as "Ragazzo Bello e Dolce" or "Sweet Handsome Boy", but this important understanding at which you've arrived, truly marks a transition into "Manhood"! I luvs Ya "Buddy"!
Zio Blaine
blainebill39 3 months ago
LUV U 2, BOO. <3
JollyGreen303 4 months ago
Otters hahaha would you mind describing what exactly makes someone an otter? I don't think we have those down here
stl3359 4 months ago
Great topic! No more animal labels! Lol
123moscowman 4 months ago
I think you hit the nail on the head with the five stages. I think most guys go through exactly that. I did :P
JustAnotherOtherDay 4 months ago
plain 'ol gay. omg otters though.
justaddtommy 4 months ago
I totally agree awsome video...i also associated myself as "straight acting" but after being out for almost a year i was able to find myself and also find awsome friends so i totally agree and understand wht u r sayin... keep up the good work..and HAVE FUN!!! WHOOOOO gay pride hahaha lolxD
Whtevrichooz98 4 months ago