Hi, I am currently pregnant with my fourth child. I had my first child vaginal delivery, but my last two were c-section. I am wanting to have this fourth baby vbac. But my doctor says he is not willing to do so because he thinks that I can have a uterine rupture. I want to have this baby VBAC so I as a women and as a mom wife could feel better, plus I don't want to go through the pain of c-section all over again.PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE MY DREAM COME TRUE?
I had an emergency c-section after a prolapsed chord, doctor trying to save us from c-section by adjusting the baby internally, followed by hemorrage. 3 minutes later we went under general and my son was born. I did it without pain management up until this point. I was anemic and lucky to be alive. This after a full term stillbirth. PTSD anyone? My story is on my blog over the course of 3 posts. thepregnanthousewife.blogspot.com It is located in June 2010.
This video is inspiring and i am so glad you made it. I was in labor 19 hours with my son, and was forced to have a c-section. Tried to do the VBAC with my daughter, but drs and hospitals refused, said even if i walked into the hospital ready to push, they would give me a c-section. With 3rd child, i had no choice, he had a severe heart defect and wouldn't have handled labor, and came early,and ended up passing away. I want another, but i fear after 3, they wont let me do a VB3C
This video made me cry. I fought through 24 hours of labor with my only child and refused any drugs they tried to give me. They wanted to do a C-Section and I repeatedly refused. Finally I had him all natural. I feel horrible they did this to you. In my town, they seem to force young mothers into cesarians so they can do it on THEIR schedule. Most cesarians are UNESASSARY!!!
@mpmarinewife i agree my doctor came in after i was laboring for 7 hours and said that my daughter was breeach and time for a csection, noone ever told me that there were ways to try and turn the baby before delivery but there was no talk of this and no attempts to turn her, all the doctor would tell me and my husband was that it would just be safer for the both of us to do a csection, i was in so much pain afterwards because it snowed the day we came home and no pharmacy was open for my meds.
This video made me cry. I fought through 24 hours of labor with my only child and refused any drugs they tried to give me. They wanted to do a C-Section and I repeatedly refused. Finally I had him all natural. I feel horrible they did this to you. In my town, they seem to force young mothers into cesarians so they can do it on THEIR schedule. Most cesarians are UNESASSARY!!! You are a brave and beautiful women!
Made me cry, I felt traumatized as well after having an unplanned emergency c-section. Thanks for sharing your story. I showed it to my partner to help her to understand why I want to do a VBAC regardless of risk.
i am happy for you, good luck on your vbac. i have had one vaginal birth, and one c section because of a total placental previa. i and my baby girl might have died if i had not had the section, it was awful, but worth it to have her here safe. i am expecting again now, and contemplating a vbac, my dr supports whatever i decide. if this baby is headfirst, we will go for it!
am pregnant for the 4th time with 2 c-sections and am pushing my ob to let me do vbac! i hate c-sections really bad! dont want to remember the pain! natural birth is the way to go! right now am seeing a midwife at the clinic and she said to stick to my grounds and the ob will let me have a trial labor! here in NY they cant induce you have to go on your own n if theres no progress they do c-section!
You sweet woman I am so sorry this violence happened to you. I am doing a persuasive speech on the supierority of home/home water births to hospital births. thank you for your bravery
When I had my VBAC (second child of three--the third also C-sec); the very first thing I said was, "I DID IT!" and I still feel that way today. The sense of failure I'd had after having a cesarean threw me into a real depression. For our second child, I'd planned a homebirth but ended up in the hospital a couple hours before she was born (with internal fetal monitor, fetal scalp sampling, a perineal tear). But she was a VBAC, and healthy, and fine. The 3rd was a C-sec, but I didn't mind.
I felt exactly what you felt....but nobody understood. I have stopped expressing my feelings now. I am so determined to have another baby. I feel that I must have a vaginal birth in order to overcome this trauma.
When I think of the time when I wanted to hold my baby but couldn't due to anesthesia, my heart bleeds....still.
Same experience here. I will never understand why I felt so taken advantage of but this next baby wont be done that way. I am going to ask God and then go for a v-back. Thank you for the video
the induction seduction. I call it the spiral to hell for so many of us... one invasive procedure after another. My sons emergency c-section was like being raped.. all the sudden nothing was my choice.... late decels they say, failure to progress.. well./.lets see... when u force labor to start,. then force the cervix to dilate then u have to have an epidural after 26 hours of induced labor and 16 hrs of pitocin... i couldn't do it, so here i was at 4 cm, 90% effaced, i was tired,
This really hits home with me. I had 2 c-sections. The first was very traumatic. I actually had to be put to sleep for the first one, and the nurses told my family to leave the hospital and I was alone when I woke up and they would not give me my baby. My second child was much different. It was still painful, though. I would love to go natural for my 3rd, even knowing the risks, but I'm not sure any doctor or midwife in Florida would help me with 2 c-sections under my belt...
I am due with my second child in January. The first was a cesarean due to the cord being wrapped around our daughter's neck. I have cried many times about this. My local hospital banned VBAC, so I have to go to a different hospital much farther away and use a different OB. I'm devastated, but I am determined to VBAC this time. ICAN has no local chapters in Idaho... But I will stay strong and do what I need to do to have our next baby naturally! :)
I have to come to terms with needing a Csection whenever I give birth due to medical conditions that could in the least paralyse me and at the most kill me and put the baby at risk. I am not even going to push for a natural birth knowing my odds and i don't feel bad for it.
When I was 33 wks pregnant, everything went wrong. My liver started failing and I was flown to another city where they had a proper NICU. I was put completely to sleep for my c-section, with no family or friends, not even my fiance there. I didn't even get to see my son until 3 days later, didn't get to hear him cry til he was 4 weeks old. Honestly I'm terrified to have another child. Another C-section would be another nightmare for me.
I went through the same feeling I wanted to hold my baby and no body would give her to me.. i feel most guilty since I had no complications with my delivery.. just that I could not stand measuring the cervix dialation.. and doctors scared me by saying "if measuring cervix is what you cannot tolerate how are you going to push the baby down , what if you get your legs close and baby dies" .. well if someone says that to you.. wht option one has to agree to.. I went for C-section..
This video is inspiring. I had my first baby thru c-section (wasn't anyone's fault), and I want my next baby VBAC, because I do want a lot of children. I really would like more infomation on this!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I went through exstremely similar circumstances with my 2 kids. 1st one was a C-s after 24 hours of labor. I was given pitocin without any clinical need for it, then the epidural to fight off the pain which eventually led to fetal tachycardia and ultimately surgery. The doctor was sure that the baby was too big to pass which was why labor was taking so long.
@steveets I understand my doctor induced me and that made my labor so much harder on me. Then when I got the epidural it didn't work because the pitocin made the contractions so much more powerful. I am going to a different doctor with this current pregnancy because my last doctor just smirked and said "well you WANTED a natural birth....ya got one." That birth was not natural it was drug induced!
I can relate completely. I wanted so bad to be able to push my son out and have him placed on my chest right after birth. I feel like the possibility for that experience has been ripped out of my life. I didn't get to hold my son for over 8 hours after he was born. That was the worst pain ever.I'm afraid to have more kids cause I was so traumatized.My friends have had c/s and it was a breeze for them. If only I were so lucky. I feel like I am the only person who had a hard time recovering.
this video helped me through my second pregnancy with my VBAC hopes! my daughter was born in 2007 by c-section(9.6 lbs) and just had my son in april 2010(9.3 lbs) via VBAC!!! thank you for posting this!!
I too had a c-section as an emergency. I too, hope that when we are ready for our next baby that I'll be able to give birth vaginally. I know they say that we women have a 10% chance of rupture, but why go through the pain of a c-section and possible infection after?? and Why stay in the hospital for a few extra days?? I know all our doctors want for us is to be healthy, but we women have feelings too on how we want our birthing process to go.
Wow I can totally relate! Thank you for posting! my only pregnancy ended in a harrowing, unnecessary c/s that left me weak infected and physically and mentally scarred. Drs were insensitive and downright evil. My epidural was given much too early which stalled my dilation which led to c/s. During the c/s I felt them cutting my belly open...seemed like I screamed in pain for ages before I was eventually put to sleep. It was a nightmare...a nightmare that keeps coming back.
I totally understand how you feel, when my daughter was born c/s it was due to placenta previa. My son two years later was also C/S and the reason was actually my husband, he wanted his mother there for the birth and b/c our hospital didn't allow it I had no other choice. It was either be cut open or lose my husband for the birth...Now I'm still a bit angry but I love my children with all I have and have decided to VBA2C. I want my shot at it! I wont give up!
most beautifull video i am 6weeks pregnant after 4 and half years but still can feel the pain of c section and i am am willing to give 200% to have nomal deleivery thanx for giving meee courage
I had a similar experience. It is as if you have no rights when you go into labor.. With my 2nd baby, I was lucky enough to experience a successful VBAC. Good luck. I hope you are able to get to have the childbirth experience you deserve.
I can't tell you what a similar experience I had! I experienced PTSD as well. The difficulty in bonding with my son was the worst. I am now on my way to becoming a midwife and support mothers so that they do not have our experience! Thank you for sharing!! Much success to you and yours!!
Thank you for posting this. My doctors claim my baby is going to be "too big" to deliver naturally because the ultrasound shows him to be over 7 pounds (I am 5 ft tall). I am almost 37 weeks pregnant and scared to death of an un-needed c-section. I might fire them and look for a midwife, even if insurance doesn't cover them.
I had c-section with my first baby 2 years ago ater 30 hours labor...now, we are pregnant again, and i will delivery by c-section again. I didnt have any problem with it...VBAC still scare me so much, I dont think Im prepear for it but i admire who is.
I tried so hard for a VBAC with my second baby.....to no avail. Chorioamnionitis and failure to progress resulted in fetal distress. That was 4 years ago, first section was 9 years ago - I still cry.
People think I'm silly when I mention how it affected me - "after all my kids are healthy". I wish there was more understanding of this topic in the medical field. My sadness has been simply dismissed.
Thank you you have given me hope I had an emergency C-Section with my 1st, and my doctor told me he would never allow a VBAC. I was put under for my C-Section and did not get to see my daughter for 6 hours. It took several days to establish that connection with my daughter that should have been established immediately after burth. I do not want to experience that again!
Thank you so much for posting this!!! I had a c-section with my first too. After 42 weeks of midwife care and 34 hours of natural/drug free labor, the nurses insisted on a c-section. It has been 16 months and I still cry thinking about it... Baby number two is coming in Sept. I am hoping for a vbac or an hbac, but scared to death of the possiblity of another c-section.
Thanks for your video. Tears are running down my cheeks watching it. They wouldn't even give me my 1st baby in the delivery room. This time, we're having a homebirth...I want less interventions and trust in how God made us to be able to have babies.
You are the reason I am where I am today. Days away from my VBAC(actually UBAC). You are the reason I put faith into my body and learned everything I could about VBAC. I know have an ICAN tattoo on my wrist. And this song, The River, my daughter will be named River in memory of the strength it took to get the birth I've worked so hard for, despite the rough waters. Thank you, even though you don't know me-from the bottom of my heart. For showing me just how strong I can be, birth the way I want!
I have commented on this several times now and am in total support for all ladies. I'm a man and believe that no woman should be robbed of the beauty of a natural VBAC. I have 6 children and took part in all of them. Sometimes the Dr. wants to hurry along everything. DON'T LET HIM. Sue the bastard. If possible, the two of you should share in this wonderful experance. Thank this wonderful lady for sharing this with everyone.
WOW i cried as well! I never knew other women felt the same way i did about given birth i had two c sections and i still cry and its been five year i cry because i dont feel like a women because i couldnt give birth thank you for this
Man - this is exactly what I need...We are pregnant with number 5, the first 4 have all been c-sections...we are hoping to try for a VBAC this time. Please Lord.
There is no reason why I can't try, I've actually NEVER gone into labour.
I cried a river watching this; it was like feeling my 1st expereince of childbirth all over again (including the post traumatic stress). I'm now pregnant and so frightened of not just the delivery but the fight to have a hvab or vbac. please pray for us
Thank you for sharing. I am dealing with the same thing now, PPD and PTSD(my daughter is 7 months old today). This is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through in my life.
I live in new zealand but i'm from brazil... back home the doctors always tell the women to have c sec, but here in new zealand is so diferent... u always have a natural birth witth a mid wife and c secs r only done in case ov emergencies... Ive had two babies and im expecting my third now... never had a c sec and never will (hopefully)
Thank you for that lovely video. I had a C-section in 2007 because of complications (my baby's heart rate was dropping dramatically). I had to be completely up under because of the anxiety- I literally felt like I couldn't breath. I didn't get to hold my baby until four hours after she was born. I want to do a Vbac for our next baby who is due this summer. Will look like I will have to travel 2 min hours for a hospital that'll do a vbac. I also had PPD. Hugs to you.
When is your due date? My first was a csec (due to heartrate drop) And I am now due with number 2 in May of 2010 and am really considering a VBAC. Have you found anything else out? keep me posted. I need help with this decision.. My husband doesn't truly understand my need for this. I need to find support elsewhere
My first two children were born "Naturally" ... the 1st was easy, the 2nd was 29 hours and I didn't get past 9.5cm.... When #3 was born... after 41 hours of labor I had to have an Emergency C-section... I felt like I failed. I felt like I wasn't wa real mother.... I am due again in March and I cannot have a VBAC (too many risks for me and my complications)... I regret it.
when we found out we were expecting our 3rd baby i was determind not to end up in the OR again after a forced section with our twins. after almost 5 months of serching for a vbac dr i finally, on my last call, found one! on oct 15 09 i deliverd our baby girl drug free and vaginaly! it was the best most gratifiing experience of my life! i have no problems this time with PTSD or PPD because i had our baby our way! i hope you got your vbac because i know exactly how you feel!
omg.. this is my birthstory.. it made me cry to see that someone else had to feel how i felt.. but i didnt get to hold my baby.. not until i was in recovery.. but my next child i am doing things my way.. thank you for sharing this video
@ dezkii. I just had a VBAC in Florida. No one understood me either. I cried a few times in the clinic but stood firm and arrived at the hospital after a few hours of contractions. The birth was so much healthier for both of us. 9.9 apgar score vs the 5 apgar through c-section, I was home quicker, and it was very healing. The last place was so cruel to me and this time it was so different. I refused to let people push me and the baby around when we DO have a healthier option that's best for us.
No, I did not, sadly. I transfered due to non reassuring fetal heart tones after reaching 10cm and pushing for a few hours. The cesarean was 180 degrees different than last time, and I was not traumatized in the least. Next time, however, WILL be different. :) My midwife is already on board, and I'm at peace with my second baby's arrival, though I still struggle some days with my first baby's.
I didn't get to see my youngest son for nearly 2 days after he was born by c-section. They said it was because the drugs I was on due to complications during surgery. So, I yanked out my IV and said "PROBLEM SOLVED NOW BRING ME MY BABY"! That was the hardest 2 days of my life. I'm so sorry and I feel your pain!
I had an emergency cesarean my first son. I am not sure if it was necessary or not in reality. I was pretty much alone and terrified in labor as my boyfriend at the time was an idiot. I vaguely remember getting an epidural and being told I had to have an cesarean. I was so out of sorts from the drugs that I couldn't even think of anyone's number to call. I cried the whole way to the OR until they gave me something that knocked me out. I am pregnant again and will have a VBAC hopefully.
Im sorry about all that youve had to go through with ignorant people during the birth of your daughter!did you ever get your VBAC, btw? hope everything went well, and good luck in your future!
truly an amazing video! our bodies are MADE to do this! Im studying now to be an OB and am appalled by what most ob's beliefs are on c/s, VBACs and twin births! I think that if the woman is willing to give it a chance at a natural birth, then give her that chance! This is HER birth, HER experience, and who are you to take that away if its not neccessary? I know if i ever get prg, im going with a midwife!
I am glad someone is speaking out about this! I had a horrid experience with my son's birth. I got turned away from the hospital 3 times when i told them something wasn't right so i went thru 40 hrs of labor and ended up with preeclampsia and had to have an emergency c-section but had to be put completely to sleep so noone witnessed his birth and then no one could tell me where he was for 12 hours! I desperately want a VBAC!
First, I'm a man and understand the pain your felt and still feel. My question is, what did they use to justify doing the cesarean. You said that all was well and that the nurses got their way. If the baby wasn't in trouble and you were fine, they had no excuse. I truly feel for you and your husband and wish both of you and your baby blessings.
would not happen again. Dont get me wrong I think its terrible for you that your choice and dream of the way to birth was taken away. Good luck next time!
Its funny how people can have such different views on things. Im having my 3rd csec in Feb and I couldnt be more thrilled. I have no desire to ever have a baby come out my vagina. I find it so much easier and exciting having a scheduled csec. I do believe that most of the time they are unnecesary. In all other topics Im all about all natural. I nurse at least the entire year etc. I did have a bad experience w/ my 1st I didnt get to see hime for 2 hrs after he was born! My new Dr assured me that
You have no idea how much I cried when I read "I remember crying for her and nobody would give her to me." That happened to me too. Except no one in my family understands! They think me having a c-section made it all easier for me. I just pray I can have a VBAC nect time. I don't even think I can have one in my state of Florida. I am not pregnant again, because I am terrified of another c-section.
Sorry to vent on here. It's just that NO ONE I know understands me!
Thats how I feel. I had to have one. I cried so hard because I didnt want one! I was in labor for only 6 hours and the Dr told me that I had to have a c section or I would put my baby in danger.
I so understand. I has to be put under general anesthesia so I didn't even get to be awake forthe birth of my son. My husband didn't get to see the birth either. And afterwards I was so drugged up I don't even remember seeing him for the first time. It's hard. I know the important thing is a healthy baby and healthy mom. I am thankful for that. But ppl really don't understand.
@dezkii i know how you feel i have 2 kids both csection because my first had to be a emergency because she was a premee and heart stop while i was in labor.. i delievered her at 130 pm and i didnt get to see her until 10 pm.... i wasnt the first to hold either child .. no one knows how hard that is and all i want is to have a baby naturally just so i can bond with them properaly...
@dezkii I understand!! I had to have an emergency c-section after the cascade of interventions that I agreed to b/c I trusted the nurses and doctors. They tied me down to the table, spread my legs open to place a catheter (while makng me sign a consent form) and told me I had to go to sleep. They put a mask on my face, injected something into my IV and I was out...I missed the birth of my child. They told my husband he could come in so he got gowned up but then they never came for him.
My first baby was by c section, then 5 months later i was pregnant again, and by Gods grace and tremendous mercy i had a VBAC, the most without a doubt best feeling in the world! I will NEVER go back to c sections if i dont have to! I now have 3 children, and am so glad I had a c section just for the fact that i can now say how exhilerating and exciting going natural is! No more drugs for this mama!
I have watched this video 3 or 4 different times because I completly understand what you went through. Its so sad that our health care no longer does whats best for the patient but rather what is better for the doctor.
@LaPescada1988 I am in Georgia. I am pregnant with my second child. I am so excited because I have found a doctor, Dr. Joseph Tate, who is willing to labor me and not just cut me open again. I had a unnecessary cesarean with my first child. With much research and even talking with my current care provider. Doctors are most so pressured by the hospitals and insurance companies to perform these cesarean. We all need to take charge and not let them push us around. We CAN do it. Much hope to you
P.S. Thank you for sharing your rough journey with us all. Keep fighting the good fight and helping other mommas know that they CAN do it. Best of luck to your on your upcoming (successful) VBAC! ((hugs))
You made me relive my Unnecessary CCB all over again :( I didn't have the PPD or PTSD but it was the most horrible thing I ever went through. I know the trials and the tears all too well. I just had my natural (no meds) VBAC baby back in October and it was the most wonderful experience in my life. It was in a hospital after 23 hours laboring at home and only 1 hour in the hospital, but I did it! Next baby I plan on having at home.
wow the video was so sad! i hope this doesn't come across the wrong way but my experience with two c-sections was not like that. several other women i know didn't have experiences like that. i just feel so sad for you. i knew what health problems i had, i was surprised i was finally able to get pregnant. i was ecstatic over having my own babies that i guess the experience didn't bother me. i suffered from depression from my early teens, so i was expecting bad ppd. had lots of help, did fine
I almost cried during this. I know the pain you felt because I was there myself. Because of doctor's mistakes, because they were still 'training', I had to have an emergency C-section. The doctor messed up and my daughter's heartrate drastically plummeted. Never again, though. It's straight VBAC for me. I never wanted a C-section in the first place. I wanted natural labor with no meds. I will have that if slicing me open isn't necessary. I'm glad you stayed strong. God Bless.
Just wanted to say I know exactly how you feel! I had a C section 3 months ago. I feel like they didn't do enough to help me achieve a vaginal birth. I feel that I had an unneccessary induction that caused me to get a C section. I wish I would have let her come on her own than agreeing to the induction! My doc wanted to induce b/c my BP was slightly elevated at 140/90.
Um perhaps I have missed something? Yes I too have had a previous c-section and I agree you miss that huge part of the birthing process. But my fella was breech, so in the end I chose to have a live baby then a deceased one. The recovery time post c-section sucks and it looks like it is heading that way again (am preggers again!) but at the end of the day how they get into the world for me it not important. Just as long as they are here.. But yes PTSD is a hard road!! hats off to you :)
and this time im putting up a fight to stay out of the OR!
took me almost 5 months to find a dr that would let me do a vbac! thanks for posting this very encouaging video. i have fought the ptsd so hard myself so i know exactly how you feel!
ok, seriously cant stop crying! i know that the c-section of out twins almost 4 years ago could have been avoided but no one would listen to me nore check me again after getting to the hospital to see how dialted i was (almost 4 cm when we got there!) 5 hours later finally got into the OR just because it was twins. 15 1/2 hours later i met our babies for the first time . i to cried and no one would bring them to me. im due with a singleton in oct.
I do commend every lady on here who wants to go VBAC and definitely rec you get all the info you can to make an informed decision. I am an OB nurse and I try to make each del. the best for each patient and when working in clinic I see the effects on an unwanted cs. I have never felt less the mother because of my cs and I do realize that some docs and nurses have picked the wrong prof. and patients suffer for it. And PPD and PTSD can occur for anyone, c/s or not and should be taken seriously.
I would like to apologize for my previous comment. The truth is that I felt exactly the same way you did and I hate to admit it. I have spent nearly five years pretending I didn't. I still can't seem to bond with my son properly and I don't know what to do. You are so brave. I truly admire your courage and your ability to be honest. I wish I had the guts.
Wow, Garilyn. I think what you just posted takes WAY more courage than I have ever shown. Keep speaking your honest to goodness truth--you never know who's live you might just change for the better because of it. Hugs to you, Mama.
It's really surprising how many people are in the same boat as you- as us! I am a VBAC mom and I am so proud of this video. My situation was so similar and sad with the hospital and a year of PPD. I thought my body was broken and so was my spirit. Then I found out about VBAC and got a butt load of info from the internet, books and friends at ICAN. My VBAC was at home and it was the most healing experience ever. I think we VBAC moms do have bragging rights because we fought the system and won!
I so want to VBAC! I am due in three weeks. The Dr. said that the baby is too large! I just feel like I have no say! I want to at least be given the chance!
pellyjo, please find another doctor or midwife who truly supports vbac. It is NOT to late to change careproviders. Contact local natural childbirth educators and doulas in your area, and join you local ICAN chapter online - you CAN do it. It's your body, your birth, your baby!
There is a VBAC of 2 - 7 pound twins at home on Youtube. "Too large" hahhahahahahah. Your body is MEANT to do this, it was BUILT for this! Does anyone really think we would be given a child just for it to be stuck in our tummies forever!? I have heard stories of 10 pound babies being born vaginaly. There is no such thing at "too large." I would find a midwife or another doctor. Good luck!
'I will sail my vessel till the river runs dry' has become my mantra on the journey towards VBAC. I had planned a homebirth but live in an area where no midwife can attended so the option is VBAC hospital or freebirth. I chose VBAC as I feel that is the safer option for me. This next babe will experience what her brother was denied, a normal intervention free birth. Thankyou for the inspiartion.
Vbacs do happen.. I had one after my son, and had a healthy 8 lb 5 oz bouncing baby girl. I had to educate myself and protect myself and look for an honest OBGYN that was cooperative and caring. You must INTERVIEW your doctor!!! know how they are and what they think... protect urself and your baby first!
I gave birth to my son via emergency- C-Section..by all accounts was NOT warranted...I gave birth in the hospital in NY in 1990 with the highest C-Sec rate in the State. delivery that traumatized me for a year!...My son was born perfect.....I wanted a natural birth and I was literally torn apart...physically and emotionally. It took over a year for me to get back to feeling like myself again.
My second baby .I made sure to find an honest, OBGYN... I gave birth to an 8 pound baby girl
This video made me cry, I am due in three weeks, and I am planning to attempt a VBAC. No one encourages hope, only fear. But I will stand by the trust in my body. Thank you for this video, you have inspired my dream through yours.
I totally feel your pain.......my twins were born by unnecessary cesarean; I was overruled by my OB and an intrusive retired nurse mother-in-law. I also was talked into a tubal at the same time. My girls are almost 3 now and I haven't really grieved that loss yet, likely never will, just TOO painful an idea. I'd try and talk any mama out of going thru a c-section unless baby is in danger. I became another stat where the doc didn't FEEL like being patient. :( Canada is NOT child friendly! :(
Hello, I am pregnant and expecting this month on the 22nd. This video touched my heart. I am sitting here balling scared of the unknown. Thanks for sharing your story to make unexpected mothers aware of what could happen during delivery.
I relate a lot to your feelings, even thou it's been 7 years I still feel robed and cheated. the worst of all is that doctors in Brazil LIE about the indications (umbilical cord around the neck , baby too big, baby too small) the false indication list goes on and on .... I am 6 months pregnant now, but living in sweden, where c section is a life saving major surgery and nothing more. Never seen anybody looking forward actually feeling the pain of labor more than I am at this point ...
I was traumatized by first childs birth too. I felt robbed of the birth experience and insisted I would deliver Vbac next time. Again to be told NO that I had to have a section. This is my third baby and again I was told I had to have a csection. I feel like I have failed int eh mother dept and never really got the chance.
you haven't failed... they have! You created a beautiful baby...they just spoiled your party! Screw them! Educate yourself and others so that THEY never do that to another woman again...
I always want a natural birth but emergency happens u know. I had an e- c-section when the nurses found out that baby's heart rate was so slow, slower than mine, it might cause hypoxia in his brain that might lead to serious injury or even death, so I didn't think twice, I said yeah bring me to the OR, that's the only selfless thing I could do, so yeah I had him through emergency CS and the after pain was unbelievable but I had no regrets whatsoever. But you're story is heart-warming as well.
Question, did you had an induction of labor, augmentation, epidural, demerol, etc? Some of those things cause problems for the baby and then the need for a c/sec arises.
i cried all the way through this ....my bond with my son was forever broken due to a bad birth experience and no support form my now EX husband ...i AM going to have my next children naturally ...god bless you and keep you and your lovley husband safe
This video is so honest and touching, and I am so grateful that you shared it and that I watched t. I can't get through it without bawling. I had a c-section for my first baby, which was almost six years ago, and your story hits me in my soul. It wasn't that I'd counted so deeply on a natural birth, or anything that went wrong during surgery. I still can't place words on why I reacted the way I did - that's just how it was for me. I hope more people see this and learn to understand. Thanks.
I know just how you feel. My first delivery was a c-section, and I had PLANNED on VBAC for my next children. Unfortunatley, my 2nd had to be done as an emergency c-section as well. After 2 cesareans, I will not be allowed to have a VBAC. I wish I could have felt the joy of hearing, 'Ok, here is his head, one more push.." But I never will.
You might want to ask him to show you some studies that show that likelihood, and what the chances are. From the studies I've read, the chances of uterine rupture are still less than 1%...in other words better chances than those of an amnio. Good luck to you, Mama.
ICAN is a great resource for woman who have had previous c-sec..what ppl dont understand is that having a c-sec makes you feel robbed of something truly wonderful no matter how painful it is. natural childbirth, I have had 2-c-sec and 5 vbacs and I love having a baby naturally 100%!
Wow. I had a scheduled C-Section in August and almost immediately I felt guilty for deciding to do things that way. How dare I take things into my own hands and not let God do things the way HE planned. Grace Ann is a little over 4 months and I still feel guilty.
I don't plan on having anymore children, but if I do, I want a HBAC.
I've never been a mother (yet) so please help me understand what is so bad about a C/S? Is it because of the complications of having the actual surgery or were you hoping to have a natural birth?
I too went through the same thing with my C/S It was the worst for me! I had a really bad nurse. I forgot that I could ask for a new one b/c it was my first and she was scaring me to death. At one point a new one came in for 30 min and it was so different. I was told only to lay on my back and not to move at all no sitting up no moving on my side nothing. I believe this made me not progress as much and had to get a C/S. When I told my OBGYN she was outraged. This time I am hoping for a VBAC.
I think your story was beautiful and tragic at the same time. I too had an unexpected c-section for my first birth but my second was a successful VBAC. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
My gynaecologist abandoned me at 34 weeks, and handed me over to one of her fellow gynaecologist-colleagues just because she was too lazy to drive to the hospital where my medical aid would provide for the birth. Needless to say, the new gynae told me from the get-go 'oh this baby is going to be too big, you'll need a c-section done'. I was set on a natural delivery. She even tried to convince me to have an early c-section done in December before she went on holiday, my due date being only...
Hi there, I also had a bad experiance with birth (mine was C Section also) after 38 hours, this time (im 3 mths pregnant) i am going to try a VBAC but i am aware that it might not happen. I'm sure the people that made the call for the surgery did it for the best of reasons, please let me know how your last birth went (as you said you were expecting again)
I had a CS & everything turned out great! I got wheeled out of the OR with my baby in my arms and no sign of PPD! I was open for both type of deliveries so when it came to having an emergency CS I was not disappointed or felt like I was being robbed. When I heard that first cry nothing else mattered. I knew she was ok and so was I. A VBAC is in thoughts but if an emergency CS has to occur again I will not be dissapointed. I am sorry for your horrible experience just know that not all CS go bad.
That's awesome that you came through so well and that you were not separated from your baby. Many women are not that lucky, though some women like you are. My best friend was separated after her c/s from her baby for 6 hours because they didn't have staff available to transport her from recovery to her room. Good luck to you in the future, and I hope you get the opportunity to feel how empowering a vbac can be.
I cannot believe that that the healthy delivary of your child didn't over shadow the fact that you had to have a c-section. Do you really think that those nurses and physicians wanted to put themselves in a position to risk both of your lives? This is a true example of ignorance. If you had done the research and commmunicated with your health care team you may have felt bettter about the results. While your at it maybe you should get the true definition of PTSD. Glad your both alive and healthy.
So glad I inspired you to open a YouTube account so that you could post your infinite wisdom here. Do your homework and look up PTSD in the DSM-IV, then maybe we discuss the issue you have with my experience.
As a licensed provider I am very familiar with the DSM-IV. And my first opinion would be that you have a personality disorder. My second opinion, as a mother having her 2nd c-section in a matter of days, is that I am grateful my physician cares enough about my well-being to refuse to do such a dangerous procedure. If you didn't get what you wanted from your health care team maybe next time you should give it a try at home without the assistance of experienced medical personnel.
Do you suppose that the person with the personality disorder might be the one with her knickers in a twist over somebody else's personal experience? Just my .02. But then again, I'm just some lunatic who was coerced into an unnecessary surgery, much like the one you are having in a few days most likely. Oh, and I was clinically diagnosed by three different licensed providers as having PTSD. Would seeing my medical records reassure you that I'm not lying?
My distress over your video stems from the neatly packaged view you have put out about nurses. You've even bagged on the ones here who have tried to offer up a different view point. Your "experience" is your own and if you choose to you can own that diagnosis too. This whole thing has remined me that in a few days I'll be home with a new baby and an even stronger conviction that I chose the right profession. Good luck (you seem to need it)
I *knew* you were a nurse! If that has been your issue with what I have in my video all along, why didn't you just come out and say so! Like I've said to so many other nurses that have contacted me here & via email, I know your hands are tied by protocols & that 99% of nurses want their pt's to get what they want. I just happened to get a nurse who didn't. Plain & simple. I hope you are able to enjoy the end of your pregnancy & that your baby is ready to be born on the date chosen.
This nurse has a bit of a corn cob stuck up her butt. Who is she to tell you you can't have the birth you want. So many people think they KNOW whats more safe yet they have no clue. Go have your induced labored baby...good luck.
Ok I'm sorry. I don't mean to intrude but "personality disorder"? REALLY? Don't you think you're being cruel? There have been many instances when a woman found a C-Section to be very traumatic and, incidentally, the c-section rate in the US is at 33%! That's AWFUL! We lose more infants in America than in any other industrialized nation and we have the 4th highest maternity death rate. Intervention is a factor in those stats. AND "at home without the assistance.." etc. Hello?! MIDWIVES BABY!!!
That is fine if the c/s is YOUR choice. Read many of the comments on here & you'll see many women are coerced into surgery, their bodies & minds reacting as if they had been raped. Please, before you sign up for surgery to save your vagina, know all of the real risks that accompany surgery. Having babies, either way, carries risks. Consider the number of children you want, the long term risks of c/s, & the short term ones such as reduced success of nursing, infection, hysterectomy, death, etc.
You don't care about the long term risks of c/s, & the short term ones such as reduced success of nursing, infection, hysterectomy, death, etc.? Wow. Ok. Good thing we all make choices for ourselves and not each other!
I believe that people need to educate themselves on this matter before getting pregnant or going through with any type of birth. Especially in the US where c-sections are twice the average and 11 times higher than a planned home birth. A good film to start with is The Business of Being Born. You should also look at the statistics at your local hospital. If you go in not caring you will have a CS.
I LOVE your video! Its so inspirational to me. I suffered horribly in the hands of doctors and nurses and ended up with a c-section that I didn't want nor need. Afterwards I had PPD/PTSD so bad that I was hospitalized off and on for about 10 months after my baby was born. Time in a black fog that I can NEVER get back! I will never set foot in a hospital to deliver any children unless its for lifesaving reasons. I am 33w pregnant and planning on my HVAC, I'm very excited and ICAN do this!
Okay my daughter was born by c-section but the doctor who preformed it did do it to save my life at that point.... it was the care by the doctor on call for doctor (born 31st dec doctor went away for holidays)
The doctor and nurse were idiots and did not listen to me at all. I was called stupid more times then I can count and I was right the whole damn time according to the obgyn that did the crash c-section... C-sections do suck but sometimes the are neccesary
Most likely. You cannot consent to something to that which you cannot refuse.
Consider getting a second, or even third opinion. Talk to a midwife. Read some studies. You'll find that babies are much more likely to be hurt or die during a c/s than vbac and that you have a higher chance of the same. Think of it this way, you have a 99.5% chance of NOT rupturing...better odds than crossing the street and getting hit by a bus. Good luck!
I am sorry you felt the way you did, but i would think that your baby being born alive and healthy would surly be the 1st importance no matter how they enter the world. I have had 1 natural, and 3 sections and it shouldnt matter how they are given to you they are a blessing no matter what. I wish you the best of luck for a successful VBAC i really do but maybe you will think how your daughter my feel in 10 years time hearing all about how disappointing her birth was to you.
You would think, wouldn't you. But you know what? You are absolutely right. I should not worry about my mental health, my ability to parent or be a good spouse. I shouldn't worry about the future risk to my body and fertility due to an unnecessary surgery. You are SO right. I should just shut up and be glad that my baby is alive and healthy. Before you judge, maybe you should try putting yourself in my place next time.
I loved the video it said exactly what I went through.I too had a midwife planned a homebirth went a little over 3wks late and so I transported to the hospital.We tried induction but nothing the docs tried to convince me my baby was too big and I couldn't birth a big baby.After 2days in hosp.I had a section and a 9lb 8oz boy, he was taken away before I could even tell him hello or touch him.I suffered almost a year w/ PPD,it was a painful process but I'm preg again and attempting VBAC b/c ICAN
Wow, how rude ctyler02. "A healthy baby, that is all that matters." What about the rest of the childs life? The effects of PPD can be felt by the whole family. Ange and Tim, I am amazed by your courage to believe in yourselves. I wish more couples would recogonize their own strength as you two have. How did it turn out for you VBAC?
Like you i too had to have a very unexpected C section because my baby was dying. I am expecting again and i am really hoping for a VBAC. Have you had your 2nd yet and did you get your wish the second time. I want this so bad. last time i felt cheated and even went thru the "baby blues" real bad even tho i loved my new son sooo much. My wound got infected, he wouldnt feed and my milk refused to come in. I really hope you got or get a normal birth next time (if thats what you wish for).
I didn't mean to minimize your experience. I guess I didn't communicate my intentions very well. What I really meant to say is that it is a shame that so many women view nurses as a foe. Part of our role as nurses is to be a patient advocate regardless of our personal beliefs. I'm sorry that the nurses you encountered were not more supportive. I hope that you will find healing in a more positive birth experience next time.
Thank you, Whitney, for following up on your comment. Unfortunately not all nurses hold their patient's personal beliefs as paramount, and I learned the hard way. If we had more nurses like you who do just that I'm sure many fewer women would hobble away from their births with an incision, PPD, and PTSD. Just read all of the other comments from women who feel the same way I do...thankfully I'm not alone here, but I'm sad I sit here with so many others.
As a labor and delivery nurse, I take offense to the generalizations that nurses all want c/s for patients. I have witnessed my share of both seemingly unnecessary and lifesaving cesareans. I have yet to meet a nurse who loves the idea of surgical birth. The only time I have ever really wanted a patient to have a cesarean was when the wellbeing of the baby was in jeopardy.
The fact that you are offended by my experience with MY nurses says a lot to me. Maybe you should sit with your feelings for a little while and think about the perspective of those you care for. Maybe your perspective will change in time for your next homebirth or birth center transfer or the mom who wants to have no interventions at all. Maybe. We can all hope, at least. Thanks for watching.
My daughter was born via cs because supposedly my cervix was swelling shut. She was too big. 3 years later I was induced again and was forced to lay on my right side for literally 12 hours. When I asked to move just for 5 min, the nurse picked a fight with me and accused me of not caring for my baby. In the end his heart rate dropped, my cervix closed up and another cs happened. My Dr. was wonderful. She really pushed for the vbcs, I just couldn't do it. He was too big. Good Luck to you!!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I also can relate to your journey, and cry every time I think of my horrible birth experience. My beautiful baby is 5 months old now and I truly wish that I had never stepped foot in that hospital. I applaud you for sharing this story that, sadly, is so familier to so many.
Thank you for this video, I am fighting for my VABC and I am getting reisstance the enitre way. People just want me to except what the docs say and do it. NO WAY, I will NOT be cut open again just BEACAUSE! I will fight it, this time it will be right!
Hi, I am currently pregnant with my fourth child. I had my first child vaginal delivery, but my last two were c-section. I am wanting to have this fourth baby vbac. But my doctor says he is not willing to do so because he thinks that I can have a uterine rupture. I want to have this baby VBAC so I as a women and as a mom wife could feel better, plus I don't want to go through the pain of c-section all over again.PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE MY DREAM COME TRUE?
lagooshie 6 months ago
I had an emergency c-section after a prolapsed chord, doctor trying to save us from c-section by adjusting the baby internally, followed by hemorrage. 3 minutes later we went under general and my son was born. I did it without pain management up until this point. I was anemic and lucky to be alive. This after a full term stillbirth. PTSD anyone? My story is on my blog over the course of 3 posts. thepregnanthousewife.blogspot.com It is located in June 2010.
robinabobina 6 months ago
This video is inspiring and i am so glad you made it. I was in labor 19 hours with my son, and was forced to have a c-section. Tried to do the VBAC with my daughter, but drs and hospitals refused, said even if i walked into the hospital ready to push, they would give me a c-section. With 3rd child, i had no choice, he had a severe heart defect and wouldn't have handled labor, and came early,and ended up passing away. I want another, but i fear after 3, they wont let me do a VB3C
chriazs 6 months ago
This video made me cry. I fought through 24 hours of labor with my only child and refused any drugs they tried to give me. They wanted to do a C-Section and I repeatedly refused. Finally I had him all natural. I feel horrible they did this to you. In my town, they seem to force young mothers into cesarians so they can do it on THEIR schedule. Most cesarians are UNESASSARY!!!
mpmarinewife 7 months ago
@mpmarinewife i agree my doctor came in after i was laboring for 7 hours and said that my daughter was breeach and time for a csection, noone ever told me that there were ways to try and turn the baby before delivery but there was no talk of this and no attempts to turn her, all the doctor would tell me and my husband was that it would just be safer for the both of us to do a csection, i was in so much pain afterwards because it snowed the day we came home and no pharmacy was open for my meds.
meaghanmonroe 7 months ago
This video made me cry. I fought through 24 hours of labor with my only child and refused any drugs they tried to give me. They wanted to do a C-Section and I repeatedly refused. Finally I had him all natural. I feel horrible they did this to you. In my town, they seem to force young mothers into cesarians so they can do it on THEIR schedule. Most cesarians are UNESASSARY!!! You are a brave and beautiful women!
mpmarinewife 7 months ago
Made me cry, I felt traumatized as well after having an unplanned emergency c-section. Thanks for sharing your story. I showed it to my partner to help her to understand why I want to do a VBAC regardless of risk.
jessalynni 8 months ago
i am happy for you, good luck on your vbac. i have had one vaginal birth, and one c section because of a total placental previa. i and my baby girl might have died if i had not had the section, it was awful, but worth it to have her here safe. i am expecting again now, and contemplating a vbac, my dr supports whatever i decide. if this baby is headfirst, we will go for it!
randamarsh 9 months ago
am pregnant for the 4th time with 2 c-sections and am pushing my ob to let me do vbac! i hate c-sections really bad! dont want to remember the pain! natural birth is the way to go! right now am seeing a midwife at the clinic and she said to stick to my grounds and the ob will let me have a trial labor! here in NY they cant induce you have to go on your own n if theres no progress they do c-section!
mrsriviere82 9 months ago
You sweet woman I am so sorry this violence happened to you. I am doing a persuasive speech on the supierority of home/home water births to hospital births. thank you for your bravery
theroyalqueenmab 9 months ago
When I had my VBAC (second child of three--the third also C-sec); the very first thing I said was, "I DID IT!" and I still feel that way today. The sense of failure I'd had after having a cesarean threw me into a real depression. For our second child, I'd planned a homebirth but ended up in the hospital a couple hours before she was born (with internal fetal monitor, fetal scalp sampling, a perineal tear). But she was a VBAC, and healthy, and fine. The 3rd was a C-sec, but I didn't mind.
nannygoatj 11 months ago
I felt exactly what you felt....but nobody understood. I have stopped expressing my feelings now. I am so determined to have another baby. I feel that I must have a vaginal birth in order to overcome this trauma.
When I think of the time when I wanted to hold my baby but couldn't due to anesthesia, my heart bleeds....still.
saadiasharjeel 11 months ago
Same experience here. I will never understand why I felt so taken advantage of but this next baby wont be done that way. I am going to ask God and then go for a v-back. Thank you for the video
Hot2009Momma 1 year ago
the induction seduction. I call it the spiral to hell for so many of us... one invasive procedure after another. My sons emergency c-section was like being raped.. all the sudden nothing was my choice.... late decels they say, failure to progress.. well./.lets see... when u force labor to start,. then force the cervix to dilate then u have to have an epidural after 26 hours of induced labor and 16 hrs of pitocin... i couldn't do it, so here i was at 4 cm, 90% effaced, i was tired,
dburns1965 1 year ago
This really hits home with me. I had 2 c-sections. The first was very traumatic. I actually had to be put to sleep for the first one, and the nurses told my family to leave the hospital and I was alone when I woke up and they would not give me my baby. My second child was much different. It was still painful, though. I would love to go natural for my 3rd, even knowing the risks, but I'm not sure any doctor or midwife in Florida would help me with 2 c-sections under my belt...
mizforbes88 1 year ago
Thank you for posting! I'm sorry you didn't get your VBAC, but at least you had a fair Trial of Labor, which is more than many women are allowed...
I am in the Houston, Texas area, and am trying to find a truly VBAC supportive OB/GYN or birthing center, with very few rays of hope.
Good Luck, Mama - and thank you for sharing!
l0mere 1 year ago
I am due with my second child in January. The first was a cesarean due to the cord being wrapped around our daughter's neck. I have cried many times about this. My local hospital banned VBAC, so I have to go to a different hospital much farther away and use a different OB. I'm devastated, but I am determined to VBAC this time. ICAN has no local chapters in Idaho... But I will stay strong and do what I need to do to have our next baby naturally! :)
kowboianne 1 year ago
I have to come to terms with needing a Csection whenever I give birth due to medical conditions that could in the least paralyse me and at the most kill me and put the baby at risk. I am not even going to push for a natural birth knowing my odds and i don't feel bad for it.
kirafaye 1 year ago
What a beauitful and inspiring video:) You have a beautiful family.
ReviewCam 1 year ago
When I was 33 wks pregnant, everything went wrong. My liver started failing and I was flown to another city where they had a proper NICU. I was put completely to sleep for my c-section, with no family or friends, not even my fiance there. I didn't even get to see my son until 3 days later, didn't get to hear him cry til he was 4 weeks old. Honestly I'm terrified to have another child. Another C-section would be another nightmare for me.
conner0409 1 year ago
I went through the same feeling I wanted to hold my baby and no body would give her to me.. i feel most guilty since I had no complications with my delivery.. just that I could not stand measuring the cervix dialation.. and doctors scared me by saying "if measuring cervix is what you cannot tolerate how are you going to push the baby down , what if you get your legs close and baby dies" .. well if someone says that to you.. wht option one has to agree to.. I went for C-section..
metlu04 1 year ago
This video is inspiring. I had my first baby thru c-section (wasn't anyone's fault), and I want my next baby VBAC, because I do want a lot of children. I really would like more infomation on this!
NikkiAliOscar09 1 year ago
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I went through exstremely similar circumstances with my 2 kids. 1st one was a C-s after 24 hours of labor. I was given pitocin without any clinical need for it, then the epidural to fight off the pain which eventually led to fetal tachycardia and ultimately surgery. The doctor was sure that the baby was too big to pass which was why labor was taking so long.
steveets 1 year ago
@steveets I understand my doctor induced me and that made my labor so much harder on me. Then when I got the epidural it didn't work because the pitocin made the contractions so much more powerful. I am going to a different doctor with this current pregnancy because my last doctor just smirked and said "well you WANTED a natural birth....ya got one." That birth was not natural it was drug induced!
museofink 1 year ago
I can relate completely. I wanted so bad to be able to push my son out and have him placed on my chest right after birth. I feel like the possibility for that experience has been ripped out of my life. I didn't get to hold my son for over 8 hours after he was born. That was the worst pain ever.I'm afraid to have more kids cause I was so traumatized.My friends have had c/s and it was a breeze for them. If only I were so lucky. I feel like I am the only person who had a hard time recovering.
FutureMrsFiles 1 year ago
this video helped me through my second pregnancy with my VBAC hopes! my daughter was born in 2007 by c-section(9.6 lbs) and just had my son in april 2010(9.3 lbs) via VBAC!!! thank you for posting this!!
djao91005 1 year ago
I too had a c-section as an emergency. I too, hope that when we are ready for our next baby that I'll be able to give birth vaginally. I know they say that we women have a 10% chance of rupture, but why go through the pain of a c-section and possible infection after?? and Why stay in the hospital for a few extra days?? I know all our doctors want for us is to be healthy, but we women have feelings too on how we want our birthing process to go.
nobodyuknow7 1 year ago
Wow I can totally relate! Thank you for posting! my only pregnancy ended in a harrowing, unnecessary c/s that left me weak infected and physically and mentally scarred. Drs were insensitive and downright evil. My epidural was given much too early which stalled my dilation which led to c/s. During the c/s I felt them cutting my belly open...seemed like I screamed in pain for ages before I was eventually put to sleep. It was a nightmare...a nightmare that keeps coming back.
katattx77901 1 year ago
i cannot even start to imagine ma
1masterfull 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing this! I had a c section with my first and went through EXACTLY the same emotions afterward that you did.
ehorner1019 1 year ago
WOW! Kudos to you! You are truly an inspiration! Thought I was the only Mom that felt that way!
ctclassen 1 year ago
I totally understand how you feel, when my daughter was born c/s it was due to placenta previa. My son two years later was also C/S and the reason was actually my husband, he wanted his mother there for the birth and b/c our hospital didn't allow it I had no other choice. It was either be cut open or lose my husband for the birth...Now I'm still a bit angry but I love my children with all I have and have decided to VBA2C. I want my shot at it! I wont give up!
IntoTemptation2010 1 year ago
most beautifull video i am 6weeks pregnant after 4 and half years but still can feel the pain of c section and i am am willing to give 200% to have nomal deleivery thanx for giving meee courage
mysonoo 1 year ago
I had a similar experience. It is as if you have no rights when you go into labor.. With my 2nd baby, I was lucky enough to experience a successful VBAC. Good luck. I hope you are able to get to have the childbirth experience you deserve.
acousticatie 1 year ago
I can't tell you what a similar experience I had! I experienced PTSD as well. The difficulty in bonding with my son was the worst. I am now on my way to becoming a midwife and support mothers so that they do not have our experience! Thank you for sharing!! Much success to you and yours!!
thegrantedone 1 year ago
Thank you for posting this. My doctors claim my baby is going to be "too big" to deliver naturally because the ultrasound shows him to be over 7 pounds (I am 5 ft tall). I am almost 37 weeks pregnant and scared to death of an un-needed c-section. I might fire them and look for a midwife, even if insurance doesn't cover them.
LadyTanika 1 year ago
I had c-section with my first baby 2 years ago ater 30 hours labor...now, we are pregnant again, and i will delivery by c-section again. I didnt have any problem with it...VBAC still scare me so much, I dont think Im prepear for it but i admire who is.
babisophia 1 year ago
I tried so hard for a VBAC with my second baby.....to no avail. Chorioamnionitis and failure to progress resulted in fetal distress. That was 4 years ago, first section was 9 years ago - I still cry.
People think I'm silly when I mention how it affected me - "after all my kids are healthy". I wish there was more understanding of this topic in the medical field. My sadness has been simply dismissed.
Very painful. I hope your VBAC was a success.
txmomdd 1 year ago 4
Thank you you have given me hope I had an emergency C-Section with my 1st, and my doctor told me he would never allow a VBAC. I was put under for my C-Section and did not get to see my daughter for 6 hours. It took several days to establish that connection with my daughter that should have been established immediately after burth. I do not want to experience that again!
saraleecutie 1 year ago 3
Thank you for posting this! It's so important to educate people about their options & rights!
If you are into reading, Silent Knife and also Open Season by Nancy Wainer Cohen are beautiful & very informative books.
The ICAN website has a wealth of information.
And research ALL your caregiver options in your area so you can make sure you are hiring the best one who will work with you and not for themselves.
Remember - YOU hire THEM, & you can also fire them right up until the moment of birth!
shevaag 1 year ago 2
Thank you so much for posting this!!! I had a c-section with my first too. After 42 weeks of midwife care and 34 hours of natural/drug free labor, the nurses insisted on a c-section. It has been 16 months and I still cry thinking about it... Baby number two is coming in Sept. I am hoping for a vbac or an hbac, but scared to death of the possiblity of another c-section.
murphy8481 2 years ago
Thanks for your video. Tears are running down my cheeks watching it. They wouldn't even give me my 1st baby in the delivery room. This time, we're having a homebirth...I want less interventions and trust in how God made us to be able to have babies.
Thanks again!
StLRunMom 2 years ago
You are the reason I am where I am today. Days away from my VBAC(actually UBAC). You are the reason I put faith into my body and learned everything I could about VBAC. I know have an ICAN tattoo on my wrist. And this song, The River, my daughter will be named River in memory of the strength it took to get the birth I've worked so hard for, despite the rough waters. Thank you, even though you don't know me-from the bottom of my heart. For showing me just how strong I can be, birth the way I want!
xxxNOIRxxx 2 years ago
I have commented on this several times now and am in total support for all ladies. I'm a man and believe that no woman should be robbed of the beauty of a natural VBAC. I have 6 children and took part in all of them. Sometimes the Dr. wants to hurry along everything. DON'T LET HIM. Sue the bastard. If possible, the two of you should share in this wonderful experance. Thank this wonderful lady for sharing this with everyone.
silverfox605 2 years ago
WOW i cried as well! I never knew other women felt the same way i did about given birth i had two c sections and i still cry and its been five year i cry because i dont feel like a women because i couldnt give birth thank you for this
jwcurl1983 2 years ago
Man - this is exactly what I need...We are pregnant with number 5, the first 4 have all been c-sections...we are hoping to try for a VBAC this time. Please Lord.
There is no reason why I can't try, I've actually NEVER gone into labour.
I would love to know what has happened with you.
ruthrodley 2 years ago
I cried a river watching this; it was like feeling my 1st expereince of childbirth all over again (including the post traumatic stress). I'm now pregnant and so frightened of not just the delivery but the fight to have a hvab or vbac. please pray for us
lilybirdsbaby 2 years ago
Thank you for sharing. I am dealing with the same thing now, PPD and PTSD(my daughter is 7 months old today). This is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through in my life.
heathermogel 2 years ago
I'm crying like a baby watching your beautiful story! I too had an unnecessary c-section...and I cry about it every single day (3+ years later)
I have since become a doula, a nursing student, and a midwifery student.
THank you for sharing your story,....I pray for your VBAC!
Smurfette752 2 years ago
I live in new zealand but i'm from brazil... back home the doctors always tell the women to have c sec, but here in new zealand is so diferent... u always have a natural birth witth a mid wife and c secs r only done in case ov emergencies... Ive had two babies and im expecting my third now... never had a c sec and never will (hopefully)
vivistirling 2 years ago
Thank you for that lovely video. I had a C-section in 2007 because of complications (my baby's heart rate was dropping dramatically). I had to be completely up under because of the anxiety- I literally felt like I couldn't breath. I didn't get to hold my baby until four hours after she was born. I want to do a Vbac for our next baby who is due this summer. Will look like I will have to travel 2 min hours for a hospital that'll do a vbac. I also had PPD. Hugs to you.
sylvesmiller 2 years ago
When is your due date? My first was a csec (due to heartrate drop) And I am now due with number 2 in May of 2010 and am really considering a VBAC. Have you found anything else out? keep me posted. I need help with this decision.. My husband doesn't truly understand my need for this. I need to find support elsewhere
angellsgirl 2 years ago
My first two children were born "Naturally" ... the 1st was easy, the 2nd was 29 hours and I didn't get past 9.5cm.... When #3 was born... after 41 hours of labor I had to have an Emergency C-section... I felt like I failed. I felt like I wasn't wa real mother.... I am due again in March and I cannot have a VBAC (too many risks for me and my complications)... I regret it.
ImmortalLoves 2 years ago
when we found out we were expecting our 3rd baby i was determind not to end up in the OR again after a forced section with our twins. after almost 5 months of serching for a vbac dr i finally, on my last call, found one! on oct 15 09 i deliverd our baby girl drug free and vaginaly! it was the best most gratifiing experience of my life! i have no problems this time with PTSD or PPD because i had our baby our way! i hope you got your vbac because i know exactly how you feel!
karissarebar 2 years ago
omg.. this is my birthstory.. it made me cry to see that someone else had to feel how i felt.. but i didnt get to hold my baby.. not until i was in recovery.. but my next child i am doing things my way.. thank you for sharing this video
Cutetpie20 2 years ago
@ dezkii. I just had a VBAC in Florida. No one understood me either. I cried a few times in the clinic but stood firm and arrived at the hospital after a few hours of contractions. The birth was so much healthier for both of us. 9.9 apgar score vs the 5 apgar through c-section, I was home quicker, and it was very healing. The last place was so cruel to me and this time it was so different. I refused to let people push me and the baby around when we DO have a healthier option that's best for us.
gennyandjames 2 years ago
Hey, Genny. ;) When are we going to get you to a meeting??
AngeandTim 2 years ago
Did you get your VBAC?
ktlynn01 2 years ago
No, I did not, sadly. I transfered due to non reassuring fetal heart tones after reaching 10cm and pushing for a few hours. The cesarean was 180 degrees different than last time, and I was not traumatized in the least. Next time, however, WILL be different. :) My midwife is already on board, and I'm at peace with my second baby's arrival, though I still struggle some days with my first baby's.
AngeandTim 2 years ago
I didn't get to see my youngest son for nearly 2 days after he was born by c-section. They said it was because the drugs I was on due to complications during surgery. So, I yanked out my IV and said "PROBLEM SOLVED NOW BRING ME MY BABY"! That was the hardest 2 days of my life. I'm so sorry and I feel your pain!
MsTruthbetoldtoyou 2 years ago
I had an emergency cesarean my first son. I am not sure if it was necessary or not in reality. I was pretty much alone and terrified in labor as my boyfriend at the time was an idiot. I vaguely remember getting an epidural and being told I had to have an cesarean. I was so out of sorts from the drugs that I couldn't even think of anyone's number to call. I cried the whole way to the OR until they gave me something that knocked me out. I am pregnant again and will have a VBAC hopefully.
nermel1982 2 years ago
Im sorry about all that youve had to go through with ignorant people during the birth of your daughter!did you ever get your VBAC, btw? hope everything went well, and good luck in your future!
MedicalBabe143 2 years ago
truly an amazing video! our bodies are MADE to do this! Im studying now to be an OB and am appalled by what most ob's beliefs are on c/s, VBACs and twin births! I think that if the woman is willing to give it a chance at a natural birth, then give her that chance! This is HER birth, HER experience, and who are you to take that away if its not neccessary? I know if i ever get prg, im going with a midwife!
MedicalBabe143 2 years ago
I am glad someone is speaking out about this! I had a horrid experience with my son's birth. I got turned away from the hospital 3 times when i told them something wasn't right so i went thru 40 hrs of labor and ended up with preeclampsia and had to have an emergency c-section but had to be put completely to sleep so noone witnessed his birth and then no one could tell me where he was for 12 hours! I desperately want a VBAC!
jamiedreams1 2 years ago
First, I'm a man and understand the pain your felt and still feel. My question is, what did they use to justify doing the cesarean. You said that all was well and that the nurses got their way. If the baby wasn't in trouble and you were fine, they had no excuse. I truly feel for you and your husband and wish both of you and your baby blessings.
silverfox605 2 years ago
would not happen again. Dont get me wrong I think its terrible for you that your choice and dream of the way to birth was taken away. Good luck next time!
boysie30 2 years ago
Its funny how people can have such different views on things. Im having my 3rd csec in Feb and I couldnt be more thrilled. I have no desire to ever have a baby come out my vagina. I find it so much easier and exciting having a scheduled csec. I do believe that most of the time they are unnecesary. In all other topics Im all about all natural. I nurse at least the entire year etc. I did have a bad experience w/ my 1st I didnt get to see hime for 2 hrs after he was born! My new Dr assured me that
boysie30 2 years ago
You have no idea how much I cried when I read "I remember crying for her and nobody would give her to me." That happened to me too. Except no one in my family understands! They think me having a c-section made it all easier for me. I just pray I can have a VBAC nect time. I don't even think I can have one in my state of Florida. I am not pregnant again, because I am terrified of another c-section.
Sorry to vent on here. It's just that NO ONE I know understands me!
dezkii 2 years ago 9
Thats how I feel. I had to have one. I cried so hard because I didnt want one! I was in labor for only 6 hours and the Dr told me that I had to have a c section or I would put my baby in danger.
rachelwagner1 2 years ago
@dezkii\
I so understand. I has to be put under general anesthesia so I didn't even get to be awake forthe birth of my son. My husband didn't get to see the birth either. And afterwards I was so drugged up I don't even remember seeing him for the first time. It's hard. I know the important thing is a healthy baby and healthy mom. I am thankful for that. But ppl really don't understand.
ssnyder77 1 year ago
@ssnyder77 that is crazzy, same story happened to me, it really sucked my hospital visit!
mommalovesyou5 1 year ago
@dezkii i know how you feel i have 2 kids both csection because my first had to be a emergency because she was a premee and heart stop while i was in labor.. i delievered her at 130 pm and i didnt get to see her until 10 pm.... i wasnt the first to hold either child .. no one knows how hard that is and all i want is to have a baby naturally just so i can bond with them properaly...
kidzandahubby 1 year ago
@dezkii I understand!! I had to have an emergency c-section after the cascade of interventions that I agreed to b/c I trusted the nurses and doctors. They tied me down to the table, spread my legs open to place a catheter (while makng me sign a consent form) and told me I had to go to sleep. They put a mask on my face, injected something into my IV and I was out...I missed the birth of my child. They told my husband he could come in so he got gowned up but then they never came for him.
ssnyder77 10 months ago
My first baby was by c section, then 5 months later i was pregnant again, and by Gods grace and tremendous mercy i had a VBAC, the most without a doubt best feeling in the world! I will NEVER go back to c sections if i dont have to! I now have 3 children, and am so glad I had a c section just for the fact that i can now say how exhilerating and exciting going natural is! No more drugs for this mama!
way2krazy4u1986 2 years ago 2
thank you for the gift of hope.
swatson1190 2 years ago 2
I have watched this video 3 or 4 different times because I completly understand what you went through. Its so sad that our health care no longer does whats best for the patient but rather what is better for the doctor.
LaPescada1988 2 years ago 7
@LaPescada1988 I am in Georgia. I am pregnant with my second child. I am so excited because I have found a doctor, Dr. Joseph Tate, who is willing to labor me and not just cut me open again. I had a unnecessary cesarean with my first child. With much research and even talking with my current care provider. Doctors are most so pressured by the hospitals and insurance companies to perform these cesarean. We all need to take charge and not let them push us around. We CAN do it. Much hope to you
momandmodel 1 year ago
Did you get your VBAC????
I sure hope so! Your video was amazing.
Best wishes.
roadfamily6now 2 years ago
Oh momma I know exactly how you feel and I wanted to wish you the best of luck with your upcoming Vbac
cejo7168 2 years ago
P.S. Thank you for sharing your rough journey with us all. Keep fighting the good fight and helping other mommas know that they CAN do it. Best of luck to your on your upcoming (successful) VBAC! ((hugs))
ndfanatika 2 years ago 3
You made me relive my Unnecessary CCB all over again :( I didn't have the PPD or PTSD but it was the most horrible thing I ever went through. I know the trials and the tears all too well. I just had my natural (no meds) VBAC baby back in October and it was the most wonderful experience in my life. It was in a hospital after 23 hours laboring at home and only 1 hour in the hospital, but I did it! Next baby I plan on having at home.
ndfanatika 2 years ago 2
2 1/2 years ago, I had a cesarean birth
Now I am pregnant again, and with help from God, supportive care providers, family, friends, and ICAN... I will have a VBAC!
riverbeauty3 2 years ago 2
wow the video was so sad! i hope this doesn't come across the wrong way but my experience with two c-sections was not like that. several other women i know didn't have experiences like that. i just feel so sad for you. i knew what health problems i had, i was surprised i was finally able to get pregnant. i was ecstatic over having my own babies that i guess the experience didn't bother me. i suffered from depression from my early teens, so i was expecting bad ppd. had lots of help, did fine
rdrewkinu 2 years ago
I almost cried during this. I know the pain you felt because I was there myself. Because of doctor's mistakes, because they were still 'training', I had to have an emergency C-section. The doctor messed up and my daughter's heartrate drastically plummeted. Never again, though. It's straight VBAC for me. I never wanted a C-section in the first place. I wanted natural labor with no meds. I will have that if slicing me open isn't necessary. I'm glad you stayed strong. God Bless.
bigbootie1985 2 years ago
Just wanted to say I know exactly how you feel! I had a C section 3 months ago. I feel like they didn't do enough to help me achieve a vaginal birth. I feel that I had an unneccessary induction that caused me to get a C section. I wish I would have let her come on her own than agreeing to the induction! My doc wanted to induce b/c my BP was slightly elevated at 140/90.
Aliwisha1 2 years ago
Um perhaps I have missed something? Yes I too have had a previous c-section and I agree you miss that huge part of the birthing process. But my fella was breech, so in the end I chose to have a live baby then a deceased one. The recovery time post c-section sucks and it looks like it is heading that way again (am preggers again!) but at the end of the day how they get into the world for me it not important. Just as long as they are here.. But yes PTSD is a hard road!! hats off to you :)
NickStar2001 2 years ago
man oh man. I would have gotten those nurses fired!!!!!
sweetestsin71 2 years ago
and this time im putting up a fight to stay out of the OR!
took me almost 5 months to find a dr that would let me do a vbac! thanks for posting this very encouaging video. i have fought the ptsd so hard myself so i know exactly how you feel!
thanks agian, Karissa
karissarebar 2 years ago
ok, seriously cant stop crying! i know that the c-section of out twins almost 4 years ago could have been avoided but no one would listen to me nore check me again after getting to the hospital to see how dialted i was (almost 4 cm when we got there!) 5 hours later finally got into the OR just because it was twins. 15 1/2 hours later i met our babies for the first time . i to cried and no one would bring them to me. im due with a singleton in oct.
karissarebar 2 years ago
I do commend every lady on here who wants to go VBAC and definitely rec you get all the info you can to make an informed decision. I am an OB nurse and I try to make each del. the best for each patient and when working in clinic I see the effects on an unwanted cs. I have never felt less the mother because of my cs and I do realize that some docs and nurses have picked the wrong prof. and patients suffer for it. And PPD and PTSD can occur for anyone, c/s or not and should be taken seriously.
hunkiemunkie99 2 years ago
I would like to apologize for my previous comment. The truth is that I felt exactly the same way you did and I hate to admit it. I have spent nearly five years pretending I didn't. I still can't seem to bond with my son properly and I don't know what to do. You are so brave. I truly admire your courage and your ability to be honest. I wish I had the guts.
Garilyn11 2 years ago
Wow, Garilyn. I think what you just posted takes WAY more courage than I have ever shown. Keep speaking your honest to goodness truth--you never know who's live you might just change for the better because of it. Hugs to you, Mama.
AngeandTim 2 years ago
lol at 0:34, your cat looks just like mine! :)
littlemissangel132 2 years ago
But where is the second video?! I want to see the rest of the story...can you make a video response to this one with the other half of the story?
mahiney8184 2 years ago
I'm working on it, I promise. :)
AngeandTim 2 years ago
It's really surprising how many people are in the same boat as you- as us! I am a VBAC mom and I am so proud of this video. My situation was so similar and sad with the hospital and a year of PPD. I thought my body was broken and so was my spirit. Then I found out about VBAC and got a butt load of info from the internet, books and friends at ICAN. My VBAC was at home and it was the most healing experience ever. I think we VBAC moms do have bragging rights because we fought the system and won!
Laurasupernails 2 years ago
So true! We VBAC moms have so much to teach!
way2krazy4u1986 2 years ago 2
I so want to VBAC! I am due in three weeks. The Dr. said that the baby is too large! I just feel like I have no say! I want to at least be given the chance!
pellyjo 2 years ago
pellyjo, please find another doctor or midwife who truly supports vbac. It is NOT to late to change careproviders. Contact local natural childbirth educators and doulas in your area, and join you local ICAN chapter online - you CAN do it. It's your body, your birth, your baby!
doularay 2 years ago 3
I agree doularay, but specially are her feelings, heart and that thing inside that make us gave birth. You can do it pellyjo.Good luck
somary15 2 years ago
There is a VBAC of 2 - 7 pound twins at home on Youtube. "Too large" hahhahahahahah. Your body is MEANT to do this, it was BUILT for this! Does anyone really think we would be given a child just for it to be stuck in our tummies forever!? I have heard stories of 10 pound babies being born vaginaly. There is no such thing at "too large." I would find a midwife or another doctor. Good luck!
mahiney8184 2 years ago
Thank you, from a VBAC mama who also found the support I needed, to find my courage, through ICAN.
wendyqzx 2 years ago
'I will sail my vessel till the river runs dry' has become my mantra on the journey towards VBAC. I had planned a homebirth but live in an area where no midwife can attended so the option is VBAC hospital or freebirth. I chose VBAC as I feel that is the safer option for me. This next babe will experience what her brother was denied, a normal intervention free birth. Thankyou for the inspiartion.
poppyblue2468 2 years ago
Vbacs do happen.. I had one after my son, and had a healthy 8 lb 5 oz bouncing baby girl. I had to educate myself and protect myself and look for an honest OBGYN that was cooperative and caring. You must INTERVIEW your doctor!!! know how they are and what they think... protect urself and your baby first!
semidor1 2 years ago
VBACS are possible I hade one after a emerg c-section that was totsally unwarranted... educate urself and get an honest OBGYN
semidor1 2 years ago
I gave birth to my son via emergency- C-Section..by all accounts was NOT warranted...I gave birth in the hospital in NY in 1990 with the highest C-Sec rate in the State. delivery that traumatized me for a year!...My son was born perfect.....I wanted a natural birth and I was literally torn apart...physically and emotionally. It took over a year for me to get back to feeling like myself again.
My second baby .I made sure to find an honest, OBGYN... I gave birth to an 8 pound baby girl
semidor1 2 years ago
This video made me cry, I am due in three weeks, and I am planning to attempt a VBAC. No one encourages hope, only fear. But I will stand by the trust in my body. Thank you for this video, you have inspired my dream through yours.
waterbirther 2 years ago 2
I totally feel your pain.......my twins were born by unnecessary cesarean; I was overruled by my OB and an intrusive retired nurse mother-in-law. I also was talked into a tubal at the same time. My girls are almost 3 now and I haven't really grieved that loss yet, likely never will, just TOO painful an idea. I'd try and talk any mama out of going thru a c-section unless baby is in danger. I became another stat where the doc didn't FEEL like being patient. :( Canada is NOT child friendly! :(
kindredspiritPA 2 years ago
Hello, I am pregnant and expecting this month on the 22nd. This video touched my heart. I am sitting here balling scared of the unknown. Thanks for sharing your story to make unexpected mothers aware of what could happen during delivery.
hotmammi21 2 years ago
I relate a lot to your feelings, even thou it's been 7 years I still feel robed and cheated. the worst of all is that doctors in Brazil LIE about the indications (umbilical cord around the neck , baby too big, baby too small) the false indication list goes on and on .... I am 6 months pregnant now, but living in sweden, where c section is a life saving major surgery and nothing more. Never seen anybody looking forward actually feeling the pain of labor more than I am at this point ...
keenlass 2 years ago
i think this is sweet and i have planned that when i have my baby i will have him naturally NOT ceasarian
agentHottie911 3 years ago
I was traumatized by first childs birth too. I felt robbed of the birth experience and insisted I would deliver Vbac next time. Again to be told NO that I had to have a section. This is my third baby and again I was told I had to have a csection. I feel like I have failed int eh mother dept and never really got the chance.
christopherswife05 3 years ago
you didn't fail...the doctors failed you....
yskdl1998 2 years ago 2
you haven't failed... they have! You created a beautiful baby...they just spoiled your party! Screw them! Educate yourself and others so that THEY never do that to another woman again...
semidor1 2 years ago
I always want a natural birth but emergency happens u know. I had an e- c-section when the nurses found out that baby's heart rate was so slow, slower than mine, it might cause hypoxia in his brain that might lead to serious injury or even death, so I didn't think twice, I said yeah bring me to the OR, that's the only selfless thing I could do, so yeah I had him through emergency CS and the after pain was unbelievable but I had no regrets whatsoever. But you're story is heart-warming as well.
mine1604 3 years ago
Question, did you had an induction of labor, augmentation, epidural, demerol, etc? Some of those things cause problems for the baby and then the need for a c/sec arises.
yskdl1998 2 years ago
Your daughter is beautiful and such a wonderful video, thank you for sharing it with us.
AuntieDenise1982 3 years ago 2
i cried all the way through this ....my bond with my son was forever broken due to a bad birth experience and no support form my now EX husband ...i AM going to have my next children naturally ...god bless you and keep you and your lovley husband safe
bbwsbbwbellyboobs 3 years ago
This video is so honest and touching, and I am so grateful that you shared it and that I watched t. I can't get through it without bawling. I had a c-section for my first baby, which was almost six years ago, and your story hits me in my soul. It wasn't that I'd counted so deeply on a natural birth, or anything that went wrong during surgery. I still can't place words on why I reacted the way I did - that's just how it was for me. I hope more people see this and learn to understand. Thanks.
MrsZ143 3 years ago
I know just how you feel. My first delivery was a c-section, and I had PLANNED on VBAC for my next children. Unfortunatley, my 2nd had to be done as an emergency c-section as well. After 2 cesareans, I will not be allowed to have a VBAC. I wish I could have felt the joy of hearing, 'Ok, here is his head, one more push.." But I never will.
KarenlovesDwight 3 years ago
Not allowed? By who? Studies show that is is still safer to have a trial of labor after 2 c/s's than have a repeat c/s.
AngeandTim 3 years ago
My gyno sais that after 2 cesareans, there is a higher likelyhood for the uterus to rupture from all the pressure of pushing.
KarenlovesDwight 3 years ago
You might want to ask him to show you some studies that show that likelihood, and what the chances are. From the studies I've read, the chances of uterine rupture are still less than 1%...in other words better chances than those of an amnio. Good luck to you, Mama.
AngeandTim 3 years ago
ICAN is a great resource for woman who have had previous c-sec..what ppl dont understand is that having a c-sec makes you feel robbed of something truly wonderful no matter how painful it is. natural childbirth, I have had 2-c-sec and 5 vbacs and I love having a baby naturally 100%!
harmonyjoy5 3 years ago
Wow. I had a scheduled C-Section in August and almost immediately I felt guilty for deciding to do things that way. How dare I take things into my own hands and not let God do things the way HE planned. Grace Ann is a little over 4 months and I still feel guilty.
I don't plan on having anymore children, but if I do, I want a HBAC.
Thanks for sharing your story with the world.
nicolefreckles 3 years ago
I've never been a mother (yet) so please help me understand what is so bad about a C/S? Is it because of the complications of having the actual surgery or were you hoping to have a natural birth?
THEmwt 3 years ago
I too went through the same thing with my C/S It was the worst for me! I had a really bad nurse. I forgot that I could ask for a new one b/c it was my first and she was scaring me to death. At one point a new one came in for 30 min and it was so different. I was told only to lay on my back and not to move at all no sitting up no moving on my side nothing. I believe this made me not progress as much and had to get a C/S. When I told my OBGYN she was outraged. This time I am hoping for a VBAC.
monicarauf 3 years ago
I think your story was beautiful and tragic at the same time. I too had an unexpected c-section for my first birth but my second was a successful VBAC. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
siermo 3 years ago
Good luck with your next birth, I hope it's exactly how you hope it to be.
stealingheaven30 3 years ago
My gynaecologist abandoned me at 34 weeks, and handed me over to one of her fellow gynaecologist-colleagues just because she was too lazy to drive to the hospital where my medical aid would provide for the birth. Needless to say, the new gynae told me from the get-go 'oh this baby is going to be too big, you'll need a c-section done'. I was set on a natural delivery. She even tried to convince me to have an early c-section done in December before she went on holiday, my due date being only...
clairavance21 3 years ago
Hi there, I also had a bad experiance with birth (mine was C Section also) after 38 hours, this time (im 3 mths pregnant) i am going to try a VBAC but i am aware that it might not happen. I'm sure the people that made the call for the surgery did it for the best of reasons, please let me know how your last birth went (as you said you were expecting again)
freakonaleash23 3 years ago
I had a CS & everything turned out great! I got wheeled out of the OR with my baby in my arms and no sign of PPD! I was open for both type of deliveries so when it came to having an emergency CS I was not disappointed or felt like I was being robbed. When I heard that first cry nothing else mattered. I knew she was ok and so was I. A VBAC is in thoughts but if an emergency CS has to occur again I will not be dissapointed. I am sorry for your horrible experience just know that not all CS go bad.
ButterflyKya 3 years ago
That's awesome that you came through so well and that you were not separated from your baby. Many women are not that lucky, though some women like you are. My best friend was separated after her c/s from her baby for 6 hours because they didn't have staff available to transport her from recovery to her room. Good luck to you in the future, and I hope you get the opportunity to feel how empowering a vbac can be.
AngeandTim 3 years ago
you don't know what you missed.....
semidor1 2 years ago
I cannot believe that that the healthy delivary of your child didn't over shadow the fact that you had to have a c-section. Do you really think that those nurses and physicians wanted to put themselves in a position to risk both of your lives? This is a true example of ignorance. If you had done the research and commmunicated with your health care team you may have felt bettter about the results. While your at it maybe you should get the true definition of PTSD. Glad your both alive and healthy.
jenkelly33 3 years ago
So glad I inspired you to open a YouTube account so that you could post your infinite wisdom here. Do your homework and look up PTSD in the DSM-IV, then maybe we discuss the issue you have with my experience.
AngeandTim 3 years ago
As a licensed provider I am very familiar with the DSM-IV. And my first opinion would be that you have a personality disorder. My second opinion, as a mother having her 2nd c-section in a matter of days, is that I am grateful my physician cares enough about my well-being to refuse to do such a dangerous procedure. If you didn't get what you wanted from your health care team maybe next time you should give it a try at home without the assistance of experienced medical personnel.
jenkelly33 3 years ago
Do you suppose that the person with the personality disorder might be the one with her knickers in a twist over somebody else's personal experience? Just my .02. But then again, I'm just some lunatic who was coerced into an unnecessary surgery, much like the one you are having in a few days most likely. Oh, and I was clinically diagnosed by three different licensed providers as having PTSD. Would seeing my medical records reassure you that I'm not lying?
AngeandTim 3 years ago
Oh, and 99% of the time having a baby come out of your v.agina is no more of a "procedure" than going to the bathroom.
AngeandTim 3 years ago
My distress over your video stems from the neatly packaged view you have put out about nurses. You've even bagged on the ones here who have tried to offer up a different view point. Your "experience" is your own and if you choose to you can own that diagnosis too. This whole thing has remined me that in a few days I'll be home with a new baby and an even stronger conviction that I chose the right profession. Good luck (you seem to need it)
jenkelly33 3 years ago
I *knew* you were a nurse! If that has been your issue with what I have in my video all along, why didn't you just come out and say so! Like I've said to so many other nurses that have contacted me here & via email, I know your hands are tied by protocols & that 99% of nurses want their pt's to get what they want. I just happened to get a nurse who didn't. Plain & simple. I hope you are able to enjoy the end of your pregnancy & that your baby is ready to be born on the date chosen.
AngeandTim 3 years ago
This nurse has a bit of a corn cob stuck up her butt. Who is she to tell you you can't have the birth you want. So many people think they KNOW whats more safe yet they have no clue. Go have your induced labored baby...good luck.
ktlynn01 2 years ago
nurses like you are what spoil the profession...
semidor1 2 years ago
Ok I'm sorry. I don't mean to intrude but "personality disorder"? REALLY? Don't you think you're being cruel? There have been many instances when a woman found a C-Section to be very traumatic and, incidentally, the c-section rate in the US is at 33%! That's AWFUL! We lose more infants in America than in any other industrialized nation and we have the 4th highest maternity death rate. Intervention is a factor in those stats. AND "at home without the assistance.." etc. Hello?! MIDWIVES BABY!!!
cnldcg8480 3 years ago
That is fine if the c/s is YOUR choice. Read many of the comments on here & you'll see many women are coerced into surgery, their bodies & minds reacting as if they had been raped. Please, before you sign up for surgery to save your vagina, know all of the real risks that accompany surgery. Having babies, either way, carries risks. Consider the number of children you want, the long term risks of c/s, & the short term ones such as reduced success of nursing, infection, hysterectomy, death, etc.
AngeandTim 3 years ago
i only want one so i don't really care.
devilishgurlabi 3 years ago
You don't care about the long term risks of c/s, & the short term ones such as reduced success of nursing, infection, hysterectomy, death, etc.? Wow. Ok. Good thing we all make choices for ourselves and not each other!
AngeandTim 3 years ago
I believe that people need to educate themselves on this matter before getting pregnant or going through with any type of birth. Especially in the US where c-sections are twice the average and 11 times higher than a planned home birth. A good film to start with is The Business of Being Born. You should also look at the statistics at your local hospital. If you go in not caring you will have a CS.
mahiney8184 2 years ago
WHAT A CUTE BABY!
llebynit 3 years ago 2
I LOVE your video! Its so inspirational to me. I suffered horribly in the hands of doctors and nurses and ended up with a c-section that I didn't want nor need. Afterwards I had PPD/PTSD so bad that I was hospitalized off and on for about 10 months after my baby was born. Time in a black fog that I can NEVER get back! I will never set foot in a hospital to deliver any children unless its for lifesaving reasons. I am 33w pregnant and planning on my HVAC, I'm very excited and ICAN do this!
redmachchick 3 years ago 2
Amen, Mama. Amen.
AngeandTim 3 years ago
Okay my daughter was born by c-section but the doctor who preformed it did do it to save my life at that point.... it was the care by the doctor on call for doctor (born 31st dec doctor went away for holidays)
The doctor and nurse were idiots and did not listen to me at all. I was called stupid more times then I can count and I was right the whole damn time according to the obgyn that did the crash c-section... C-sections do suck but sometimes the are neccesary
shannonfbc 3 years ago 2
Okay, I thought I had to have another c-section. Is that not the case?
shannonfbc 3 years ago
Most likely. You cannot consent to something to that which you cannot refuse.
Consider getting a second, or even third opinion. Talk to a midwife. Read some studies. You'll find that babies are much more likely to be hurt or die during a c/s than vbac and that you have a higher chance of the same. Think of it this way, you have a 99.5% chance of NOT rupturing...better odds than crossing the street and getting hit by a bus. Good luck!
AngeandTim 3 years ago
I am sorry you felt the way you did, but i would think that your baby being born alive and healthy would surly be the 1st importance no matter how they enter the world. I have had 1 natural, and 3 sections and it shouldnt matter how they are given to you they are a blessing no matter what. I wish you the best of luck for a successful VBAC i really do but maybe you will think how your daughter my feel in 10 years time hearing all about how disappointing her birth was to you.
ctyler02 3 years ago
You would think, wouldn't you. But you know what? You are absolutely right. I should not worry about my mental health, my ability to parent or be a good spouse. I shouldn't worry about the future risk to my body and fertility due to an unnecessary surgery. You are SO right. I should just shut up and be glad that my baby is alive and healthy. Before you judge, maybe you should try putting yourself in my place next time.
AngeandTim 3 years ago
I loved the video it said exactly what I went through.I too had a midwife planned a homebirth went a little over 3wks late and so I transported to the hospital.We tried induction but nothing the docs tried to convince me my baby was too big and I couldn't birth a big baby.After 2days in hosp.I had a section and a 9lb 8oz boy, he was taken away before I could even tell him hello or touch him.I suffered almost a year w/ PPD,it was a painful process but I'm preg again and attempting VBAC b/c ICAN
drgallagher 3 years ago
Wow, how rude ctyler02. "A healthy baby, that is all that matters." What about the rest of the childs life? The effects of PPD can be felt by the whole family. Ange and Tim, I am amazed by your courage to believe in yourselves. I wish more couples would recogonize their own strength as you two have. How did it turn out for you VBAC?
OrcaBear23 3 years ago 2
An issue I hadn't even thought of. You are totally right. A little fore thought can go a long way especially in the department of mental health.
jenkelly33 3 years ago
Hi,
Like you i too had to have a very unexpected C section because my baby was dying. I am expecting again and i am really hoping for a VBAC. Have you had your 2nd yet and did you get your wish the second time. I want this so bad. last time i felt cheated and even went thru the "baby blues" real bad even tho i loved my new son sooo much. My wound got infected, he wouldnt feed and my milk refused to come in. I really hope you got or get a normal birth next time (if thats what you wish for).
jules1278 3 years ago
I didn't mean to minimize your experience. I guess I didn't communicate my intentions very well. What I really meant to say is that it is a shame that so many women view nurses as a foe. Part of our role as nurses is to be a patient advocate regardless of our personal beliefs. I'm sorry that the nurses you encountered were not more supportive. I hope that you will find healing in a more positive birth experience next time.
whitneyl78 3 years ago
Thank you, Whitney, for following up on your comment. Unfortunately not all nurses hold their patient's personal beliefs as paramount, and I learned the hard way. If we had more nurses like you who do just that I'm sure many fewer women would hobble away from their births with an incision, PPD, and PTSD. Just read all of the other comments from women who feel the same way I do...thankfully I'm not alone here, but I'm sad I sit here with so many others.
AngeandTim 3 years ago
As a labor and delivery nurse, I take offense to the generalizations that nurses all want c/s for patients. I have witnessed my share of both seemingly unnecessary and lifesaving cesareans. I have yet to meet a nurse who loves the idea of surgical birth. The only time I have ever really wanted a patient to have a cesarean was when the wellbeing of the baby was in jeopardy.
whitneyl78 3 years ago
The fact that you are offended by my experience with MY nurses says a lot to me. Maybe you should sit with your feelings for a little while and think about the perspective of those you care for. Maybe your perspective will change in time for your next homebirth or birth center transfer or the mom who wants to have no interventions at all. Maybe. We can all hope, at least. Thanks for watching.
AngeandTim 3 years ago
My daughter was born via cs because supposedly my cervix was swelling shut. She was too big. 3 years later I was induced again and was forced to lay on my right side for literally 12 hours. When I asked to move just for 5 min, the nurse picked a fight with me and accused me of not caring for my baby. In the end his heart rate dropped, my cervix closed up and another cs happened. My Dr. was wonderful. She really pushed for the vbcs, I just couldn't do it. He was too big. Good Luck to you!!
schmoopie224 3 years ago
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I also can relate to your journey, and cry every time I think of my horrible birth experience. My beautiful baby is 5 months old now and I truly wish that I had never stepped foot in that hospital. I applaud you for sharing this story that, sadly, is so familier to so many.
simondpieman 3 years ago
I beg your pardon for my ignorance but, what does "VBAC" stand for? "PPD"?
golosoderrorras 3 years ago
VBAC is vaginal birth after cesarean and PPD is post partum depression
AngeandTim 3 years ago
Thank you for this video, I am fighting for my VABC and I am getting reisstance the enitre way. People just want me to except what the docs say and do it. NO WAY, I will NOT be cut open again just BEACAUSE! I will fight it, this time it will be right!
lacroixel 3 years ago