i know it is a pretty old video and i don't know how you are thinking about these things nowdays, but i wanted to respond to it. I have nothing against trans pregnancy, but as a student of medicine i am not 100% sure that after a long time of using testosterone your reproductive system is still capable of creating and/or maintaining a pregnancy. Are you informed about these possible side effect of your medication by an endocrinologist?
@hofmeiszter I am aware of the effects, but not in relation to pregnancy. My doctor asked if I was curious and at the time, I was not even acknowledging my body parts, so I opted out of bothering with such information. From what I have read and heard, the possibility of that varies and the only way of really knowing is to consult with a doctor.
Thanks for this video. I struggle with these issues of labels and how to fit yourself into other peoples mindsets. I've started to ask cisgendered individuals - what's their identity? It seems to help the dialogue a bit - after all no-one fits into boxes really. More thana that it's really nice to hear someone talk about the issues of pregnancy so openly. I go backwards and forwards so much on this. Good luck in your journey wherever it takes you.
The ignorance within the ftm community blows my mind. For a group of people constantly hearing from others that they're not "real men", to turn around and tell another trans guy the same thing, is something I just can't wrap my head around.
I always appreciate your honesty brother. I really get that feeling that people always want to police what we do based on other people's ignorance, rather than considering that they should just work to be less ignorant. Its like you said, people wouldn't demand an explanation or proof of a cis person's gender identity, or tell them how they should raise their kids, but because we're trans for some reason we need to do extra explaining? Doesnt make sense. Thanks for posting this, fuck the haters.
I'm a natal born female with two children and a subby of nochokin.I find this story so fascinating!I think that having carried 2 children,and given all natural birth to both,and knowing all of the emotions and hormones that go along with it,I have NO IDEA how you'd manage the stress but you are very brave! I think that the potential child would have no problems being born to a trans-parent cuz that's all they'd ever be used to in fact most of these children are the most accepting of uniqueness
@TammaMammaJamma Children just want to have fun and be loved. They aren't born with these beliefs that 'this' is wrong or 'that' is right. All of it is learned. So I agree, children are very accepting.
@jesscaralsen I know right. I already worry about it receiving care for other things. Its the main reason as to why I stay with my doctor although I believe there is better care out there. I just want a doc who is knowledgeable on trans care and I can feel safe with them as well as staff. Even at a LGBTQ clinic, I've experienced a few unprofessional situations based upon being trans.
@thisrandomchannel , You sound silly and bias. first off, since when has it ever been something that needed to be excepted by a man that women would bare children. Last time i checked, "acceptance", is a choice, and "procreation" is nature. Secondly all those things you listed are only things we as a people have chosen to accept and do nothing about. They have nothing to do with this young mans decision to have/ or not have a child as natural as he desires.
good video bro, do what you want and fuck how other folks feel. you know i have your back no matter what. if people have an issue with who xavey is tell em come holla at toyneo lol
Funny shit is that i just made a similar video bruh... re: pregnancy... it's so taboo to talk about.. but it's such a real fuckin feeling. Kudos to you for being brave enough to share.. Keep posting because guys like me are watching..
"My identity is a personal experience, its a personal thing" I had never considered that before in my life. This line was powerful. The rest of your video was awesome but that line just rang in my head like bells.
@ablacksquare thank you. When I realized it, it had the same effect. We share a common language to express ourselves, but I think for some, its over simplifying. And because of that, we tend to lessen our own experiences or never effectively communicate our perspectives.
I UNDERSTAND EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL BRO .....IN ALL HONESTY U HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH UVE MOTIVATED MY LIFE REALTLK ITS BECUZ OF U DAT I FELT CONFIDENCE ABOUT WHO I AM AND TO NOT BE AFRAID OF WAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT ME... KEEP DOIN WAT U DOIN BRO
@thisrandomchannel.....you say its selfish to want to procreate when there are so many orphans without families but my wife and i tried adopting TWICE before going thru the insemination process and both times the birth mothers change there minds. we had the first child 3 mos+ n dats long enuff to get attatched. endless hrs and money when into those adoptions and look what happened. LGBTQ have very few rights in the south. @laidbaqq...if you want something done.....DO IT URSELF. just my opinion.
@thisrandomchannel "part of being a man is accepting that women do the childbearing" this statement falls along the lines of gender roles and stereotypes, something I mentioned in my video that I do not care for. Also, female bodies (or simply put, bodies that are capable of it) bear children.
You're right, it just may be a 'selfish' thing. Its still very well within my right to bear children though. So do you plan on adopting children?
You should do what you feel is right for you. Fuck everybody else. Seriously, I know your just voicing your opinions, views, and thoughts in your videos. But on the real you have to be happy with yourself, inside and out, and Im sure you are, it just seems to me like inside is screaming for you to reproduce. Don't let your outward needs become so loud that they muffle your inner needs. True happiness will come when both cups are full.
@complete101 The social aspect is only a part of it. I'm still trying to figure out if pregnancy is something I could endure.. Its not exactly glamorous lol but you're right, one part of me says to have children and the other one is saying, "hell no!"
Secondly i can so relate to you, im MtF an i understand where your coming from.. its nice to be around ppl like yourself but at the same time you feel like those ppl are still very different from you, i struggle with that everyday. I can also relate to wanting to have my own child/children that are genetically mines thats something im very passionate about
i have four children..i loved being pregnant..to nuture my child and to breast feed was wonderful..my children are my world..do not worry about what others would say or think ...having children was my greatest acomplishment..
Nice vid!!!!! Be nice if people governed their own lives, which are the only lives they should be concerned with, and SHOULD (not to say they do) have control over. Maybe thats part of the problem, and the reason these type of people put pressure on others. I watch your video's and truly respect the kind of person you are. Hope you get, and God blesses you with everything you desire.
@CareemTheKing I agree. I think some folks desire to run others lives is because they're lacking control of their own. Folks ought to invest in the Sims and call it a day. Thank you
Baby, do what feels right for you. There is no harm or crime in wanting a child of your own creation. YOUR ARE WHATEVER YOU CHOSE! So bind this world to you in your own way. Be blessed.
@iKitty1321 Not True, Thomas Beatie was on T for years longer but stopped when he and his wife wanted a child and his wife could not carry the embryo. I read his book (Labor of Love) and was mortified to realize how people (trans people too) treated him for wanting to carry the child his wife could not. In my view it did not diminish his manhood one bit, it only up-lifted his it in my eyes to do this for the woman he loves.
i know it is a pretty old video and i don't know how you are thinking about these things nowdays, but i wanted to respond to it. I have nothing against trans pregnancy, but as a student of medicine i am not 100% sure that after a long time of using testosterone your reproductive system is still capable of creating and/or maintaining a pregnancy. Are you informed about these possible side effect of your medication by an endocrinologist?
hofmeiszter 2 weeks ago
@hofmeiszter I am aware of the effects, but not in relation to pregnancy. My doctor asked if I was curious and at the time, I was not even acknowledging my body parts, so I opted out of bothering with such information. From what I have read and heard, the possibility of that varies and the only way of really knowing is to consult with a doctor.
laidbaqq 2 weeks ago
Thanks for this video. I struggle with these issues of labels and how to fit yourself into other peoples mindsets. I've started to ask cisgendered individuals - what's their identity? It seems to help the dialogue a bit - after all no-one fits into boxes really. More thana that it's really nice to hear someone talk about the issues of pregnancy so openly. I go backwards and forwards so much on this. Good luck in your journey wherever it takes you.
h4rrys1 6 months ago
The ignorance within the ftm community blows my mind. For a group of people constantly hearing from others that they're not "real men", to turn around and tell another trans guy the same thing, is something I just can't wrap my head around.
aaryntalks 7 months ago
@aaryntalks I know right.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
I always appreciate your honesty brother. I really get that feeling that people always want to police what we do based on other people's ignorance, rather than considering that they should just work to be less ignorant. Its like you said, people wouldn't demand an explanation or proof of a cis person's gender identity, or tell them how they should raise their kids, but because we're trans for some reason we need to do extra explaining? Doesnt make sense. Thanks for posting this, fuck the haters.
aaryntalks 7 months ago
I'm a natal born female with two children and a subby of nochokin.I find this story so fascinating!I think that having carried 2 children,and given all natural birth to both,and knowing all of the emotions and hormones that go along with it,I have NO IDEA how you'd manage the stress but you are very brave! I think that the potential child would have no problems being born to a trans-parent cuz that's all they'd ever be used to in fact most of these children are the most accepting of uniqueness
TammaMammaJamma 7 months ago
@TammaMammaJamma Children just want to have fun and be loved. They aren't born with these beliefs that 'this' is wrong or 'that' is right. All of it is learned. So I agree, children are very accepting.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
@jesscaralsen I know right. I already worry about it receiving care for other things. Its the main reason as to why I stay with my doctor although I believe there is better care out there. I just want a doc who is knowledgeable on trans care and I can feel safe with them as well as staff. Even at a LGBTQ clinic, I've experienced a few unprofessional situations based upon being trans.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
Wow! you look so different from the last time I talked to you! I am... like..in disbelief. You look fantastic.
locamorenanena 7 months ago
@locamorenanena thank you
laidbaqq 7 months ago
To each their own, you have to do what makes you happy. Your honesty is amazing best wishing to you.
herjbb 7 months ago
I don't care what no body says... you look GOOD..... I've been watching your videos, and you are the best blogger on here...
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iHEARTsiging 7 months ago
@iHEARTsiging thanks. I don't have a twitter though. & thanks for the tumblr follow
laidbaqq 7 months ago
@thisrandomchannel , You sound silly and bias. first off, since when has it ever been something that needed to be excepted by a man that women would bare children. Last time i checked, "acceptance", is a choice, and "procreation" is nature. Secondly all those things you listed are only things we as a people have chosen to accept and do nothing about. They have nothing to do with this young mans decision to have/ or not have a child as natural as he desires.
complete101 7 months ago
good video bro, do what you want and fuck how other folks feel. you know i have your back no matter what. if people have an issue with who xavey is tell em come holla at toyneo lol
MTR06 7 months ago
Funny shit is that i just made a similar video bruh... re: pregnancy... it's so taboo to talk about.. but it's such a real fuckin feeling. Kudos to you for being brave enough to share.. Keep posting because guys like me are watching..
Peace n Blessings
Kayden
KaywanDaBoss 7 months ago
Look in to 3rd gender, bro..........peace&love
deesince1985 7 months ago
"My identity is a personal experience, its a personal thing" I had never considered that before in my life. This line was powerful. The rest of your video was awesome but that line just rang in my head like bells.
ablacksquare 7 months ago
@ablacksquare thank you. When I realized it, it had the same effect. We share a common language to express ourselves, but I think for some, its over simplifying. And because of that, we tend to lessen our own experiences or never effectively communicate our perspectives.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
I enjoy your videos you are very comfortable.
sneakerscene 7 months ago
your thoughtful, casual eloquence is engaging, really.
iagoarchangel 7 months ago
I UNDERSTAND EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL BRO .....IN ALL HONESTY U HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH UVE MOTIVATED MY LIFE REALTLK ITS BECUZ OF U DAT I FELT CONFIDENCE ABOUT WHO I AM AND TO NOT BE AFRAID OF WAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT ME... KEEP DOIN WAT U DOIN BRO
snookdaddiie09 7 months ago
@snookdaddiie09 I'm glad you're confident now, that's great.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
@thisrandomchannel.....you say its selfish to want to procreate when there are so many orphans without families but my wife and i tried adopting TWICE before going thru the insemination process and both times the birth mothers change there minds. we had the first child 3 mos+ n dats long enuff to get attatched. endless hrs and money when into those adoptions and look what happened. LGBTQ have very few rights in the south. @laidbaqq...if you want something done.....DO IT URSELF. just my opinion.
MsHoney2UBytches 7 months ago
@thisrandomchannel "part of being a man is accepting that women do the childbearing" this statement falls along the lines of gender roles and stereotypes, something I mentioned in my video that I do not care for. Also, female bodies (or simply put, bodies that are capable of it) bear children.
You're right, it just may be a 'selfish' thing. Its still very well within my right to bear children though. So do you plan on adopting children?
laidbaqq 7 months ago
I commend you for your honesty. I say do what you feel is best for you! Good luck!
widecor 7 months ago
You should do what you feel is right for you. Fuck everybody else. Seriously, I know your just voicing your opinions, views, and thoughts in your videos. But on the real you have to be happy with yourself, inside and out, and Im sure you are, it just seems to me like inside is screaming for you to reproduce. Don't let your outward needs become so loud that they muffle your inner needs. True happiness will come when both cups are full.
complete101 7 months ago
@complete101 The social aspect is only a part of it. I'm still trying to figure out if pregnancy is something I could endure.. Its not exactly glamorous lol but you're right, one part of me says to have children and the other one is saying, "hell no!"
laidbaqq 7 months ago
First off i want to let you know your hot.
Secondly i can so relate to you, im MtF an i understand where your coming from.. its nice to be around ppl like yourself but at the same time you feel like those ppl are still very different from you, i struggle with that everyday. I can also relate to wanting to have my own child/children that are genetically mines thats something im very passionate about
babyb360 7 months ago
@babyb360 Thanks.
Yup. So close yet so far. Its better than before, but still not an exact match.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
YOU ARE A FINE INTELEGENT BLACK BROTHA.
atlantabeauty1 7 months ago
i have four children..i loved being pregnant..to nuture my child and to breast feed was wonderful..my children are my world..do not worry about what others would say or think ...having children was my greatest acomplishment..
CYRINTHIA212 7 months ago
Nice vid!!!!! Be nice if people governed their own lives, which are the only lives they should be concerned with, and SHOULD (not to say they do) have control over. Maybe thats part of the problem, and the reason these type of people put pressure on others. I watch your video's and truly respect the kind of person you are. Hope you get, and God blesses you with everything you desire.
CareemTheKing 7 months ago
@CareemTheKing I agree. I think some folks desire to run others lives is because they're lacking control of their own. Folks ought to invest in the Sims and call it a day. Thank you
laidbaqq 7 months ago
Baby, do what feels right for you. There is no harm or crime in wanting a child of your own creation. YOUR ARE WHATEVER YOU CHOSE! So bind this world to you in your own way. Be blessed.
VivikaKitt3n 7 months ago
Pregnancy? I don't believe that's possible for your body anymore after you've been on T this long.
iKitty1321 7 months ago
@iKitty1321 Not True, Thomas Beatie was on T for years longer but stopped when he and his wife wanted a child and his wife could not carry the embryo. I read his book (Labor of Love) and was mortified to realize how people (trans people too) treated him for wanting to carry the child his wife could not. In my view it did not diminish his manhood one bit, it only up-lifted his it in my eyes to do this for the woman he loves.
VivikaKitt3n 7 months ago
@iKitty1321 As long as I have all of the necessary internal workings, its possible. Probably not as likely but possible.
laidbaqq 7 months ago