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  • This video was my absolute favorite video of yours. Very true/honest advice my friend. Thank you for making these videos!

  • Thanks Arkady!

  • Thank you for the good advice brother. I happen to be in one of those situations right now, and really don't want to see my self-esteem affected by it in a negative way anymore.

  • Thank you arkady! 

  • Action doesn't guarantee favourable results. We've seen that a million times in the entire history of mankind.

  • Confidence? What? Have you gone mad? You're just fooling yourself! Like 99.9% of men think and truly believe they're good at sex when the facts tell that they really are not. I just believe in what is real and throw away what is not. Right, I admit that I'm not good at sex, so that's it. It's no longer a matter of acceptance. it's a fact. So why not just accept who you really are?

  • This advice gives me something to think about for the next semester at university (in Canada). I should have different study spots, take different ways of going to classes, have lunches at different places, etc. Mix it up, keep things fresh I suppose.

  • he must have 100 bitches in the closet

  • The first 1 minute and 38 seconds of this video can be simply summed up by Einstein. "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

  • Truest shit Ive heard all day..

  • i saw these videos a while ago..but u dont really learn anything until things he mentions has happend to you before..but once they do, seeing these videos again will help out alot.

  • one thing about your advice is that you are always straight to the point and no time wasting fella,keep that up!

  • Arkady you're so right but sometimes there broads give off so many mixed signals,but I guess they're the ones to avoid.

  • Move on after one rejection? What about persistence? Sometimes girls don't want to say "yes" to a date with someone they just met and who's asked them out because they want to know if he's really into her or just wants a date with anyone. A little persistence is not a bad thing and shows that he really likes this particular person.

  • priorities and options boys, you chase after that one girl, or u just move the fuck on with your life and hope one day you'll find her.

  • Many of us take this kind of videos like talking to a very good big brother. Thanks, pal.

  • Wow he actually does give good advice :D

  • who is this guy? can anyone tell me ??

  • @azhen88 Arkady boy..the playa from the Himalayas!

  • @derek799 Dude I do the same shit! no pun intended lol.

  • Did you read the book dubble your dating arekady? a lot of things you say are similar to the book.

    love your tips tough, havent got a chance to use them. but in a lot of thing you say im like: oooh that's what i did wrong: i shouldt give my phonenumer but insted i should have pressured to get her's. thanx mate!

  • ok here is where all pick up artists confuse the audience you are saying to get the message the first time and move on but there is other video where you say it takes time for a girl to develop attraction for you.. sooo could you give us a real life example....

  • I actually met a girl last night, everything was fine.. but i think she has more into school than having boyfriends.. so it turned out from my believe that she wants to be friends than rather beying her boyfriend.. My defect is i`m too naif, afterwards i feel weird and nervous, why she is acting like that.. have i done anything wrong? I have to say u give good advices; looking forward to a new date :)

  • amazing advice. it's kind of strange though, because you also speak about not giving up too early and allowing time for a woman and yourself to get to know each other. Do you believe that if you don't get a positive signal right away or after a few times of trial you should give up completely on a girl you're really interested in?

  • Too true not to pursue women who are not responding. Everyone should have a friend to slap them in the face when they are thinking of such

  • THIS IS GOLD mate. I wish I had heard about all these advises 20 years ago. Even now at 42 I realize all the stupid mistakes I did with women. They should teach this stuff in school.

  • @josepmari

    Think about what you just said. They should teach men about WOMEN in school. Is that what we've come to? Women have become so picky and bitchy that now men need to learn "game" and all this shit, and that isn't fucked up to you? BULLSHIT

  • ...and maybe u can tell me that there is some mistakes that brought them not replying my comment/massage....and i already read ur website about texting online dating....but still...they dont want to reply it after a few texting with them...

  • hey arkady,thnx alot for all ur information that u gave...but there is one thing that i'm feeling my self scared....its about the online dating...when i want to start my first comment/massage.....i have this feeling that i'm afraid to text them because of worrying that,yes the first n the second message were good but after a few massage with her....she is not replying...n that what im afraid of...is it actually we can write anything we want to say about them.....?

  • If all men where like him. We will have less man hater women..... He is 1 in a billion......

  • hes cute and smart more guys need swag like him

  • this guy is truly amazing

  • yea dude, he's like the God of dating:P

  • Wow dude, I love you man. I am more comfortable around girls now =D Guys, if you're wondering if you should or shouldn't take this guy's advice. I say you should. It really works!

    I speak from experience!

  • to all men everywhere, please remember that women hunt in packs.

  • in my situation,this girl she'd text me messages and i reply her text but then i wait for her reply back it to me and shes not ... its always happend ...and i wondered why is that?what is really wrong with her?

  • in her head ur chasing her which it looks to be from my point

    why dont u get her to chase u? shes probably used to guys surrendering to her beauty and doing what u do, be different

    if u dont know how just ask, come on dont be shy

  • so wat should i do?

  • mix your signals and be unpredictable

    example if she smiles at u or laughs in ur presence say something like "jessica have i got a bogey on my nose or something?" she'll go "no why?" you say "why was u laughing at me then?" i promise u with confidence and a soft smiley face she will laugh, its not what u say its how u say it but dont stick around sometimes pretend she's not there but dont be rude obviously

    honestly it will drive her crazy

  • What is common sense doesn't mean it is commonly practiced.

  • ahhhhhhhh arkady i cannot tell you how humch youve helped me man

    just with small things that make all the diferance you know

    thanks alot :)

  • This kinda thing is happening to me right now... she's ALWAYS BUSY thats it's even starting to look riduculous :D I know i probably shouldn't have done that but i just said "well... whenever you can and want to hang out, get in touch, cause i'd like to get to know you better". If she's really interested in ANYTHING ... she'll call...hopefully...if not...well...gotta move on then...her loss.

  • never openly tell a girl you are interested. Hint at it and leave clues but leave just as many clues and hints that you might NOT be interested. Mixed signals are paramount and will usually get the girl to say all that shit first in an attempt to get somethng out of u. Counter-intuition and reverse psychology.

  • @betterthansex123 Good advice.

  • @betterthansex123 IF THIS DOESENT WORK GIVE HER BOTTLE OF VODKLA HA HA

  • if u keep chasing them you won't win them over

  • i've been doing some of these mistakes, not taking the hint and persisting but i also think that with effort and persistance and the right way of doing things you can win a girl over, just takes time and effort.

  • just stop being a pussy and talk to her.

  • fuck all this shit, heres what I do, everyone poops right, whenever your talkin to a girl, think to yourself this bitch is hot but she probably pooped today or yesterday, trust me it works

  • ....LOL

  • ^^^^youtube comment of the year^^^^

  • @Derek799 LMAO i'll try that

  • @Derek799 LOL IT WORKS! ROFL!!!

  • @Derek799 ima try it

  • @Derek799 thats what i'm sayin lol

  • @Derek799 Ha ha that is so lame....

  • @Derek799 LOL....

  • @Derek799 haha that shits pretty funny bro im a keep that on my mind when i talk to a hot chick haha

  • @Derek799 Thanks Dude, tried this, and ended up turning down offer of "Coffee" @ her's end of the night. As cud not possibly get turned on. Eveyrtime kissed her during movie, etc earlier in the evening, cudn't help thinking she's probably still got some poop stuck around her ass crack. All coz i took ur advice. U need help dude. Happy pooping ;@) !!

  • @Derek799 you iz the beech sir i tell u brotha

  • @Derek799 lol!!!!

  • @Derek799 lol funny but true

  • @Derek799

    if I did that, I would lose all my attraction to any girl, every single ounce. which I guess is a good weapon to have sometimes. I just gotta use it on the crazy ones that are not worth my time.

  • @Derek799

    How does recognising the fact that everyone poops improve confidence? Clearly we all poop(we are human) and some have confidence issues. And why is the woman a bitch? Is she a bitch because you're not confident Derek? Your advice is silly. No wonder you need to think of women as pooping bitches.

  • @Derek799 haha funny.but not appropriate with this kind of serious things

  • @Derek799 That Absolutely Works. In that way she wont look like this supernatural Bombshell, but more like a human, what also works is thinking how her Daddy used to spank her hard.

  • @Derek799 ewww what?????

  • @legendnemesis :) I think this guys is kind has a point. When you see a really hot girl and try talking to her it happens that I always put her up in front of my self just because she is pretty. By thinking that she pooped takes that stubbornness away

  • @Derek799 LMFAO!! Dude in a sence your absolutley right XD

  • in other words you gotta take a risk

  • Arkady is the man!

  • there is this girl i like in school and she likes me too and when i see her coming my way im not really nervous but my heart beat goes up because i get some kind of adrenaline when i see her cuz she is soo nice and cute.we always wave and smile at each other but i dont really get a chance to talk to her much because i rarely see her in school because she isnt in any of my lessons,but i have a such a crush on her

  • i know exactly what yout taking about, but the one i liked didnt like me.

  • that sux man feel sorry for you oh well happened to me lots before too

  • @bossMrMontana WOOW amazing

  • the real question is

    does arkadys advice work on sober girls?

  • dude your are the MAAN!!!! this is alll true i think it will workout great thanks to you bro your good how do you do it tell me :D

  • Well said!!! You know what, where the other dating coaches try to say the same thing, or something similar, Arkady hits it right on! I think it's because he genuinely tries to find out why someone doesn't succeed. He must pour through the research and work his butt off testing thing and at the same time be remarkably perceptive and ask poignant questions.

  • lol...these advices are good for girls too, why you don't say this?

  • Cause "a lot" of girls expect the guy to come up and talk to them.

  • awsome advice. rejection is tough to get over. it sucks away your confidence. overanalyzing only fuels the problem.

  • yes your exactly right..

  • Wow Seriously only if I found out about your videos so much sooner it would of saved me so much drama.

  • Amen!

  • ya thats right talking but i belive (just be carefull with the glass)

  • Last part is so true man about girls who'll give you no positive feedback...thanks helped me realise whats going on in my own life..

  • It's true, women can break our confidence, and mess with our mind tremendously. If you get played with, men should move on, break the mental 'leach', and come out stronger. The thing is, men often want to keep the relation good and the women satisfied because he's afraid to loose her.

  • this guy "talks the talk", but can he "walk the walk"? i am sure he can. i'd love to see this guy wear some type of hidden microphone/camera and put all of his advice into action in all the places he talks about...coffee shops, grocery stores, random places, etc. c'mon, it's time to take this videos to the next level and show us how it's done.

  • you are rite.......lets see him walk the walk lol......both thumbs up on your coment

  • Because that is considered "pimpin" if he randomly goes up to girls and pretends to be interested in them, and he wants us to respect women, according to his other videos.

  • Hes not pretending. He is interested in them.

  • That was a response to someone who asked why he doesn't make a video of himself trying it out.

  • @evod22 do it ur self.

  • @evod22 and when sleeping with a ur girl, do you still need him to show you how its done? come on man, this guy is doing too much already for us.... so shut up and appreciate

  • @evod22 man just give him the credit for what hes doing, it takes a lot of courage and confidence to post up a video and offer useful advice, i dont think it even matters if he can walk the walk or not, just take his advice, and its all about confidence anyway, focus on yourself and not others

  • @evod22 so agreed

  • SUCH good advice !

  • Give this comment a thumbsb down if you think that arkady is a genius!

  • Write a book dude! these are great tips

  • He already did, lol

  • Whats it called? i'd so spend money on it. These tips are pretty good. can u get it at hastings?(only book store in my town)

  • Ehm I cant remember.. I just heard in one of his other vids that he mentioned having made a book, atleast I am quite sure of it..

  • Anybody? Book title please?

  • Look up David De Angelo. This guy is great too. David changed my outlook.

  • i think deangelo is good but some of his material is old and if you were to say it to a woman today, they would catch on instantly and will think you are "trying to hard" and blow your cover lol and not everything he says is right or will work for you

  • I just got a phonenumber from this girl...waited and called her twice (overtime). I really like her, but she is being flaky and did not answer her phone, both times. Once, she said she was goin out to a party. So, I am taking your sage advice and moving on. :)

  • move on and forget about her.

  • Such good advice and it truly does work. I used to really let it get me down when a woman wouldn't call back or when she canceled a date. Now if they do something like that right away, I delete their phone number and focus on other things or other women. It makes me feel more in charge.

  • exactly. i know the feeling. and i do the same also. ull feel better about ur self. we are our best friend.

  • dude ur the real Love Guru

  • WRITE A BOOK!

  • give this comment a thumbs up if you think arkady should write a book

  • i surely do, it helped me so much

    i have a girlfriend now;-)

  • dude someone help me out....

    i had a girl to give me her num...then we talked for like 5 days or a week then all of a sudden she just cancelled our relationship.....man im in love with her....can someone tell me any idea of how to get her back

  • time is the only way to win her back...Show her that you can live without her for a while...And when you feel alright: Go for it!

  • Wait until you've had a chance to be without her and really think about things. A week is hardly enough to get to know someone, especially when you're both inebriated by feelings & in 'best behavior' mode. If you really want to get to know her after you are sure your perspective is fair, tell her you've thought about things and you really are interested in pursuing a relationship with her, and tell her whatever went wrong, you're willing to work. But move on then if she's just not into you.

  • HELL NA DONT SAY WHAT JER1400 WOULD SAY! you will come off like a wussie clingy little boy which is NOT attractive to women at all and you have only known her for a week so tell me WHAT IS THERE TO WORK OUT? if you do decide to talk to her again, pretend like nothing ever happened and just be confident and energized but not hyper ok lol

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  • this video will help you..He said to move on and avoid .... This is a smart man.... love all his vids

  • move on and never speak to her again!! never call her either! that'll let her know you know you're better than her.

  • diaf

  • Wow i wonder how u noe so much about this, all your videos are really helpful!!!

  • One thing to remember,

    always approach with confidence. If you approach nervously, that other person, female or not, is going to think they should be scared of you too. Attractiveness, starts with YOU. From the inside..then to the outside where others can see you. Be confident in who you are...get a life of your own that doesn't make a women the center of your life. And..."if you build it (your life), they will come"

  • I couldn't agree with you more.

  • I totally love your comment about you saying that pursuing those women who are flaky will hurt your self esteem and your sense of self respect. That's damn right!

  • This video reminds me of the cute effort of modern society to say that it's OK for women and girls to open as well. That just happens to helplessly collide with the female Anti-Slut Defense instinct (to say nothing of the cool-yet-aggressive Alpha Male fantasy! lol).

  • why cant i understand what you mean? arkady only gives situations based on natural people who are understanding of how to converse, im guessing you mean a defensive type of girl, im no expert but just say somthin to soften her up (if thats your problem)

  • My problem is that my self-esteem is not being hurt, its my heart that is wounded.

  • Thanks for the videos! =D

  • FTW that's my new favourite quote

    " If you take the same action today as you did yesterday, your going to have exactly the same results today as you did yesterday"

  • Thanks! Someone is paying really close attention. I better watch what I say. :)

  • You just got an attentive voice bro, that's why the tutorial vids/site works out for you so you can make some good cash on it, unlike the sports guys on expertvillage

  • Thanks, a lot. That's one of the purpose - to make a difference in the world of generic, mainstream, useless dating advice.

  • I heard the same thing in a harsher form:

    "Only the insane do the same thing over and over again and expect different results"

  • if im gonna ask her to go to the movies should i ask one of my mates to come along as well???

  • i dont think so :-)

  • no not unless your friend is a girl

  • This just happened to me...a girl I contacted would not EVER contact me back...I think I just need to back off...you gotta know when they're not interested and move on....As David Wygant says "there are new women being born every minute...)...

  • Its called Chemistry and thats just the way it is so he's right. Just because you get a number doesnt mean much if the Chemistry wasnt there to begin with.

  • Theres a girl she's 1 year older than me she likes me a little bit ,but i like her how do I get a ''RelationShip'' With Her

    PLEASE RESPONE!!!

  • start talking to her and then after a few weeks say hey i'm going Ice skating with my friend or something like that and say hey i'l be more then happy if u came with me. never ask her on email cause she won't answer.

  • i appreciate what you do

  • This is great stuff arkady39, its very helpful and just what i needed. Are there ways to get back the interest of a girl? Things were great between this girl and myself, but new guys keep coming up and stealing her interest away. I dont want to give up because she is a great girl.

  • What should i think when i've gone out to dinner with a girl once, and we were talking about hanging out in a few weeks, and we talked almost every day up until the day we were supposed to hang out and then she stops answer her phone and texts and emails?

  • what the hell are you calling her every day for? You overwhelmed her with too many phone calls, probably bored the crap out of her, and scared her off

  • i called her 2 times

  • lol she probably ran out of credit

  • Too much confidence just makes you looks like an arrogant and insecure macho man. Subtle confidence without trying too much is much better.

  • There's no such thing as too much confidence, some are trying to fake it and try too hard. Subtle confidence is okay, as long it's not too subtle for everyone to notice.

  • I should move out of this country and go to Europe because there's no potential interest in me at all in the states!

  • go play mars matrix

  • very practical advice

  • dude u no what ur saying i like it, respect bro

  • man you oughtta have your own talk show. LOL!!!

  • Thanks! ;)

  • yea shud be like" Arkady Live!!!" lol

  • solid Arkady

  • yeah i know what ur talking about... i had a one-itis crisis and it sucked

  • Good stuff. Listen to your clip...FYI, the word consequence should be replaced with result. Consequence has a negative connotation...result is neutral.

  • the title says 2 elements of confidence but i am not sure you outlined the 2 elements... you talked about belief and dont pursue girls who are not interested and thus losing your self-esteem and thus self-respect. i still believe you have been the most authentic of speakers i have met to date and you have some substance about you... my comment is not to hurt you but to be objective hope you understand ta

  • Thanks, I appreciate the feedback. I guess the other element is that to bring change you have to take action; otherwise nothing will change.