I do think some narcissists (women) like babies. Babies are dependant and not yet able to voice their own opinions like older children or teenagers do. Babies also give the N an opportunity for attention and sometimes pity-like when a baby has an illness. I wonder if many female N's engage in Munchausen Syndrome by proxy with their children or charges?
People think people behave rationally. They don't. (Look at smokers, they know they're killing themselves, but they do it anyway). People think just because someone can understand and intellectualize something, that means they can use that information to change their behavior. People operate on feelings. And when push comes to shove, narcissists cannot control their behavior because they are operating from a primitive emotional state that says simply, "I WANT IT! It's MINE!! Gimme."
So to a narcissist, life is frustration because people don't treat him/her emotionally as a child. An adult with the ability to know right from wrong, to know they aren't the center of the universe, to know the rules of social behavior, but trapped with the inability to emotionally process it because something went wrong at that stage of development. A disconnect happened, and the bridge never got built. The brain kept growing, except it processes everything emotionally on the level of a child.
Children see love as what they are given. Because children think the world revolves around them. Narcissists see love as what they are given. Because narcissists think the world revolves around them. Most children grow up and learn empathy as a result of the realization that other people have needs, and their needs are no more or less important than other' needs. So narcissists hate and refuse to accept this reality (although as adults they logically know it they are emotionally immature).
Yes, narcissists dislike children because they are similar to the emotional immaturity of the narcissist. They want nothing from the narcissist that benefits the narcissist and therefore are useless to the narcissist. However, the narcissist also envies them because the narcissist is stuck in that state forever, and no one will love him/her unconditionally. The envy to return to a childlike state and the resentment of being forced to grow up and realize "I" am not the center of the universe.
@AmandyPants You do know that announcing yourself as a perfect target on the internet is not wise, right? Please be safe and never ever reveal anything that might disclose your whereabouts or develop any friendship on here that seeks to follow you into the real world. You'll be manipulated again.
@drexxar100 - I just had a brief friendship with someone who fits these descriptions to a T. Yes, there are extreme cases. Or maybe narcissism takes people to extremes. Whichever it is, I know that it does exist. I just saw it with my own eyes.
I want to cry when I wish that I had a normal mother. I thought my mom hated me at 13, and it turns out I was right. She says she loves me, but I think I'm just here for her entertainment.
@pineappledust - But isn't it a relief to know that it wasn't you? It was never that there was something wrong or flawed in you, an innocent child. It was HER. SHE was sick. You were perfect the way you were. Don't let what she did to you define who you are.
I am sorry that the narc cannot feel the intensity of love that comes from holding a new born child. So great the moment, that one wonders at the possibility of loving any other so much. Explain it anyhow you like, but it was my greatest moment. Life is greater than us, and kids are manipulative narcs to be sure, but unlike the narc adult they have a boundless capacity for pure love that is magical
@aaaaaaaars So true! My NPD ex boyfriend is like that. Every time I'm happy he would love to start arguments and criticize me. Every time I said something positive he would make sure to down play what I said. I was never allowed to be happy
Hi Sam, why are you using the words of the narcissist without correcting the context? sure , kids are reflections of self absorbed behaviour and that the narcissist finds competition with such is his/her own maturity problem with accepting the age only gives rights and self inhibition expectation. No point dismissing mothers, or children; the perspective of the narcissist is venomous. I like your series alot. Unaccountability is the other wing of the t against delusions of self control.
I think you give narcissists too much credit here. Narcissists do not empathize, with anyone, let alone children. To see yourself in someone, means you need to empathize with them, somthing narcissists have no ability to do. Narcissists do not self reflect, they cannot, they are not capable of it. It's not that they see themselves in children, and become ashamed of that, and therefor dislike children, it is that they are not the center of attention and the child is that I think drives them crazy
I have a question. If a woman has narcissistic disorder, what is the likelihood she would have children? I know someone who had three children, but seemed disinterested in them after infancy.Her agenda and emotional needs were always placed first & above the children's and often times she would neglect them.She gave custody of her two minor children to an ex boyfriend so she could be with someone in another state.If a narcissist hates children,why do they have them?Thanks!
@kwel189 It's not a disorder. Choices are never disorders. They're choices. Plain and simple. If a woman is a narcisist, she chose to be that way. Calling it a disorder means you think they cannot help but to be self centered. Spoiled children do not have disorders, they're just spoiled. Be careful how you use that word in the future.
Anyways. The likelyhood is high. Because children mean a brief moment of attention and adoration, same reason they get married, attention and adoration.
@bweazel Allow me to clarify. I am referring to Narcissistic personality disorder.You have heard of this? Would you agree Narcissism is a learned behavior then?
@bweazel "It's not a disorder. Choices are never disorders."
Oftentimes it's survival mechanisms, but the Narcissist being unaware of that fact because it often happens in early childhood, and it taking on a life of its own, one which the Narcissist sees as their real self.
Not much to do with what one would naturally classify as "choice".
I know a teacher who is a nrecissist. I know he is narcissist because I was married to him. He loved the children who admired him and made is class go well but the children who caused a "rukus" were discharged from his classes by reporting to the admin. that the child was dangerous in the class around the tools (shop class). As a result he had the best students and the best evaluations because he got their parents to believe that he is such a wonderful teacher.
Your work is evil made good. Keep it up as - as time progresses - so too - will the amount of narcissist survivors. I think that post WW2, society has not known such peace. Money is the law & the law of money is entitlement of one to another. My father smashed tennis balls to try hit 5 yr old cousin - in massive rage. I have seen him call my one son "his best friend" to strangers in front of my other 2 sons. He filled my head that my step son & friends abuse my 1son & saw them urinating on him..
I do think some narcissists (women) like babies. Babies are dependant and not yet able to voice their own opinions like older children or teenagers do. Babies also give the N an opportunity for attention and sometimes pity-like when a baby has an illness. I wonder if many female N's engage in Munchausen Syndrome by proxy with their children or charges?
skeletonmom 13 hours ago
People think people behave rationally. They don't. (Look at smokers, they know they're killing themselves, but they do it anyway). People think just because someone can understand and intellectualize something, that means they can use that information to change their behavior. People operate on feelings. And when push comes to shove, narcissists cannot control their behavior because they are operating from a primitive emotional state that says simply, "I WANT IT! It's MINE!! Gimme."
MsCartman74 1 month ago
So to a narcissist, life is frustration because people don't treat him/her emotionally as a child. An adult with the ability to know right from wrong, to know they aren't the center of the universe, to know the rules of social behavior, but trapped with the inability to emotionally process it because something went wrong at that stage of development. A disconnect happened, and the bridge never got built. The brain kept growing, except it processes everything emotionally on the level of a child.
MsCartman74 1 month ago
Children see love as what they are given. Because children think the world revolves around them. Narcissists see love as what they are given. Because narcissists think the world revolves around them. Most children grow up and learn empathy as a result of the realization that other people have needs, and their needs are no more or less important than other' needs. So narcissists hate and refuse to accept this reality (although as adults they logically know it they are emotionally immature).
MsCartman74 1 month ago
Yes, narcissists dislike children because they are similar to the emotional immaturity of the narcissist. They want nothing from the narcissist that benefits the narcissist and therefore are useless to the narcissist. However, the narcissist also envies them because the narcissist is stuck in that state forever, and no one will love him/her unconditionally. The envy to return to a childlike state and the resentment of being forced to grow up and realize "I" am not the center of the universe.
MsCartman74 1 month ago
My ex is a child hater. He calls babies ugly and makes jokes about children getting raped. He is a real sicko
MissJeanette69 1 month ago
@MissJeanette69 lol WTF?
blacksuite1 1 month ago in playlist More videos from samvaknin
I mimic children whenever I want to emotionally manipulate somebody.
Anon371 1 month ago
As Ive suspected.
Cindycllns 2 months ago
And there you have it
Cindycllns 2 months ago
Are you that guy from "Arliss"?
AresCassell 3 months ago
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AmandyPants 4 months ago
@AmandyPants You do know that announcing yourself as a perfect target on the internet is not wise, right? Please be safe and never ever reveal anything that might disclose your whereabouts or develop any friendship on here that seeks to follow you into the real world. You'll be manipulated again.
MsColdCanada 4 months ago
@drexxar100 - I just had a brief friendship with someone who fits these descriptions to a T. Yes, there are extreme cases. Or maybe narcissism takes people to extremes. Whichever it is, I know that it does exist. I just saw it with my own eyes.
EyeLean5280 6 months ago
So beautifully written!
EyeLean5280 6 months ago
I take distance from my generation.
gizmofly870 6 months ago
@drexxar100 you are right, as you would have found out had you bothered to view other videos on my channel.
samvaknin 7 months ago 3
@JustGameKid so are children
deadpool1377 8 months ago
This just blew me away! I guess a narssist taking a job as a school prinicpal should be out of the question.
svalles8 8 months ago
I want to cry when I wish that I had a normal mother. I thought my mom hated me at 13, and it turns out I was right. She says she loves me, but I think I'm just here for her entertainment.
pineappledust 9 months ago
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@pineappledust same here, hit me up if u want to talk about it
gabsylv 9 months ago
@pineappledust - But isn't it a relief to know that it wasn't you? It was never that there was something wrong or flawed in you, an innocent child. It was HER. SHE was sick. You were perfect the way you were. Don't let what she did to you define who you are.
Hawaiiansky11 6 months ago
I am sorry that the narc cannot feel the intensity of love that comes from holding a new born child. So great the moment, that one wonders at the possibility of loving any other so much. Explain it anyhow you like, but it was my greatest moment. Life is greater than us, and kids are manipulative narcs to be sure, but unlike the narc adult they have a boundless capacity for pure love that is magical
Riversleigh1 10 months ago
especially happy people the happier people are the more bloodthirsty the 'narcissists' become
aaaaaaaars 10 months ago
@aaaaaaaars So true! My NPD ex boyfriend is like that. Every time I'm happy he would love to start arguments and criticize me. Every time I said something positive he would make sure to down play what I said. I was never allowed to be happy
MissJeanette69 1 month ago
lol narcissists hate everyone younger than them correction narcissists hate everyone
aaaaaaaars 10 months ago
isnt the narcissist just a "child" on the inside? arrested development?
patriciacarrasco 10 months ago
Hi Sam, why are you using the words of the narcissist without correcting the context? sure , kids are reflections of self absorbed behaviour and that the narcissist finds competition with such is his/her own maturity problem with accepting the age only gives rights and self inhibition expectation. No point dismissing mothers, or children; the perspective of the narcissist is venomous. I like your series alot. Unaccountability is the other wing of the t against delusions of self control.
BikkiBlazes 11 months ago
I think you give narcissists too much credit here. Narcissists do not empathize, with anyone, let alone children. To see yourself in someone, means you need to empathize with them, somthing narcissists have no ability to do. Narcissists do not self reflect, they cannot, they are not capable of it. It's not that they see themselves in children, and become ashamed of that, and therefor dislike children, it is that they are not the center of attention and the child is that I think drives them crazy
bweazel 11 months ago
@samvaknin shouldnt those ppl be called psychopaths rather than narcissists?
Salamphoenix 1 year ago
Hey Mike, you should clear your browser history, cheers!
kendo53636 1 year ago
Hello,
I have a question. If a woman has narcissistic disorder, what is the likelihood she would have children? I know someone who had three children, but seemed disinterested in them after infancy.Her agenda and emotional needs were always placed first & above the children's and often times she would neglect them.She gave custody of her two minor children to an ex boyfriend so she could be with someone in another state.If a narcissist hates children,why do they have them?Thanks!
kwel189 1 year ago
@kwel189 It's not a disorder. Choices are never disorders. They're choices. Plain and simple. If a woman is a narcisist, she chose to be that way. Calling it a disorder means you think they cannot help but to be self centered. Spoiled children do not have disorders, they're just spoiled. Be careful how you use that word in the future.
Anyways. The likelyhood is high. Because children mean a brief moment of attention and adoration, same reason they get married, attention and adoration.
bweazel 11 months ago
@bweazel Allow me to clarify. I am referring to Narcissistic personality disorder.You have heard of this? Would you agree Narcissism is a learned behavior then?
kwel189 10 months ago
@bweazel "It's not a disorder. Choices are never disorders."
Oftentimes it's survival mechanisms, but the Narcissist being unaware of that fact because it often happens in early childhood, and it taking on a life of its own, one which the Narcissist sees as their real self.
Not much to do with what one would naturally classify as "choice".
Clariccy 7 months ago
I know a teacher who is a nrecissist. I know he is narcissist because I was married to him. He loved the children who admired him and made is class go well but the children who caused a "rukus" were discharged from his classes by reporting to the admin. that the child was dangerous in the class around the tools (shop class). As a result he had the best students and the best evaluations because he got their parents to believe that he is such a wonderful teacher.
HatRatt 1 year ago
Your work is evil made good. Keep it up as - as time progresses - so too - will the amount of narcissist survivors. I think that post WW2, society has not known such peace. Money is the law & the law of money is entitlement of one to another. My father smashed tennis balls to try hit 5 yr old cousin - in massive rage. I have seen him call my one son "his best friend" to strangers in front of my other 2 sons. He filled my head that my step son & friends abuse my 1son & saw them urinating on him..
michaelbenjaminsa 1 year ago