You're very well at helping others explore their self-reflection, and I think that is very important for meeting girls, as well as every aspect in your waking life.
my problems are that im afraid to show my true emotions around people and im pretty quiet the reason i don't main tain i contact with others is that its just uncomfortable for me please help .
Hi Stephan! Subscribed now. Im 28 years old and I have been together with this girl for 7 years, before we met I had tons of friends and I were going out pretty often, almost every other week. I moved to another place and lost a couple of friends, then I moved again, and lost the other friends. Me and my girlfriend dont get out that often as I would like to, cos she works and Im an artist, so I work at home, I have alot of free time but I basicly dont have any friends anymore.
well i would say the 3 major things that stop me from approaching more women is my social situation (funds), hygiene (easily taken cared of) and the most important is mental outlook or psychological maturity. the past is one fucked up bitch!
...i figure it was because of how i dressed. more or less i have given up on chasing women for the past 1 1/2 years so i tend to really be repulsed by situations like that, i mean really pissed off. so i walk away and go to the comic section and pick up a comic and read and like 5 minutes later, the chick comes up behind me and reaches over my shoulder and purposefully goes "Oh my God..." with such an inflection it was done distract me or whoever from what they were up too.p2
Oh hell yeah i stop myself from approaching and dating girls. to many bad memories and a partly a deep seated hatred from women of own race because of those bad memories. its like an early defense mechanism. its funny cause its like when im avoiding them or ignoring them, thats when they start to make themselves mad visible and shit. just today i was in barnes and nobles looking super hip and shit and these two thin model looking girls (black) were in visual proximity and were checking me out p1
Well...I have no job, no money, I'm 32, living with my mom and sister. Thats my problem. I am very disappointed in my life, actually in my self, and realy don't know how to solve this problem. I had a life before, but in a last 3 years...nothing. Zero.
Hmmmm...well the number one thing is i work a.little too much....and i work night shift so most stores are closed...im a little crazy... and my comunication skills are not the best..i mean when iy comes to talking to talking to women....i stopped playing vedio games thinking that would help....sigh it only made it worse cause its.a.stress releaver from work....so i find my self bodled up and cranky toward people :/ i think there is no hope.for me..might as well get a guy...
Re: Eye Contact ... my number one hitter! But sometimes the girl wont hold eye contact (too shy or submissive or ?). Girls that hold it I can at least get a longer conversation out of them.
Girls have changed in the past decade or so now they tend just to date hot or cute guys so their friends could be all amazed and what not they careless about if your nice they could have feelings towards a guy that is nice but they perfer the jerk.They just wana party and have fun for me i want a girl that loves to read is not that skanky n is insanely nice lets say a nerdish one lol.Half the girls now adays had sex with their last boifriend they where with.
I dont know why im so shy for meeting girls. I try to prevent that and it seems i refuse to talk with a girl that i like or sometimes i make eye contack with her haha. I really need help on this shit because i feel as if its too late or that im lacking confidence.
hey I have many girls on my face book msn I can talk easy on a pc but im shy I could never talk like that in real life I wouldn’t even be able to smile at a girl or go up to them , on msn you have more time to respond and they cant see your face so you feel more relaxed , I have I goy many adds because im good-looking but I cant seem to get a date with any from internet ,I have had maybe 2 this year but in person I must be a let down because of my shyness and lack of confidence .
omg..you always hit the spot with my concerns. i always wondered why it is hard for me to talk to women. it is actually what you just said which was the mistake i've been doing the whole time: i always look away from them. im such a fool. thx dude. i'll try not to look away tomorrow.
Staring at a girl can sometime be akward and weird, making you look crepy. How exactly should i look at a girl when im checking her out? How about giving a smile and a wink when she sees me? Her response should also show if i have a chance?
@PR3Mmcm yea this is a good question please give us an answer here stephan.. i guess this happened to me too.. i do that and gurls think that am staring at them and i guess they think am some kind of an asshole staring at gurls.. :S
I really like how your videos generally focus on having the right mindset and asking the right questions rather than just suggesting some kind of hunting tactics. Nice job.
yeah it's big, it's subtle and people talk a great deal about it but when it actually happens most people don't notice their own habits..the eye contact thing is HUGE right at that moment when you meet a girl's eyes...ANY girls..if a man only got used to ENJOY eye contact with anyone that looks back their dating would go WILD! Thanks for your comment hungry!
Eye contact is a lady killer but you need to do it right since eyes say more then words they realy are what they say a doorway to the soul.
Eyes say more then words but stairing at some 1 can be creepy, the right form of eye contact will make her feel related to you what can break down the ice alot.
You could stair if she shows you the same interesting or els see might think your shy or dont like her since men arent know to play these kind of games.
thing with eye contact right, is how do u do it without freaking girls out. like i feel after 4 seconds i want to look away, because they may think why the fuck is he staring at me.
You're very well at helping others explore their self-reflection, and I think that is very important for meeting girls, as well as every aspect in your waking life.
Chainedevents 4 days ago
Dear Stephan,
my problems are that im afraid to show my true emotions around people and im pretty quiet the reason i don't main tain i contact with others is that its just uncomfortable for me please help .
Signed.OTWTS
OzzTonWentToSpace 1 month ago
What am I doing right now, that is not helping me in any way to meet girls and go on dates... hmmmmm.....
Surfing YouTube?!! ;)
Haze1434 2 months ago
Hi Stephan! Subscribed now. Im 28 years old and I have been together with this girl for 7 years, before we met I had tons of friends and I were going out pretty often, almost every other week. I moved to another place and lost a couple of friends, then I moved again, and lost the other friends. Me and my girlfriend dont get out that often as I would like to, cos she works and Im an artist, so I work at home, I have alot of free time but I basicly dont have any friends anymore.
Jok3rDicE 2 months ago in playlist Confidence - Stephan Erdman Coaching
I just don't got any game, kinda sucks.
NYballer11725 2 months ago
well i would say the 3 major things that stop me from approaching more women is my social situation (funds), hygiene (easily taken cared of) and the most important is mental outlook or psychological maturity. the past is one fucked up bitch!
JGvisions 2 months ago
...i figure it was because of how i dressed. more or less i have given up on chasing women for the past 1 1/2 years so i tend to really be repulsed by situations like that, i mean really pissed off. so i walk away and go to the comic section and pick up a comic and read and like 5 minutes later, the chick comes up behind me and reaches over my shoulder and purposefully goes "Oh my God..." with such an inflection it was done distract me or whoever from what they were up too.p2
JGvisions 2 months ago
Oh hell yeah i stop myself from approaching and dating girls. to many bad memories and a partly a deep seated hatred from women of own race because of those bad memories. its like an early defense mechanism. its funny cause its like when im avoiding them or ignoring them, thats when they start to make themselves mad visible and shit. just today i was in barnes and nobles looking super hip and shit and these two thin model looking girls (black) were in visual proximity and were checking me out p1
JGvisions 2 months ago
Well...I have no job, no money, I'm 32, living with my mom and sister. Thats my problem. I am very disappointed in my life, actually in my self, and realy don't know how to solve this problem. I had a life before, but in a last 3 years...nothing. Zero.
Well, that's it.
versa2004 3 months ago
Hmmmm...well the number one thing is i work a.little too much....and i work night shift so most stores are closed...im a little crazy... and my comunication skills are not the best..i mean when iy comes to talking to talking to women....i stopped playing vedio games thinking that would help....sigh it only made it worse cause its.a.stress releaver from work....so i find my self bodled up and cranky toward people :/ i think there is no hope.for me..might as well get a guy...
Rozlelous1165 6 months ago
yes i play PS3 lol do not like going out a lot?
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mountbrevitor 9 months ago
keep up the good work...you are changing people lives for the better....total respect
mountbrevitor 9 months ago
Re: Eye Contact ... my number one hitter! But sometimes the girl wont hold eye contact (too shy or submissive or ?). Girls that hold it I can at least get a longer conversation out of them.
lawshorizon 10 months ago
1.) Finding a great girl only to have her disappear (Cinderella).
2.) Not finding enough girls I really like.
3.) Not meeting enough eligable girls (most are married or have boyfriends).
lawshorizon 10 months ago 4
Ugh ugh ugh
niyabooism 10 months ago
Girls have changed in the past decade or so now they tend just to date hot or cute guys so their friends could be all amazed and what not they careless about if your nice they could have feelings towards a guy that is nice but they perfer the jerk.They just wana party and have fun for me i want a girl that loves to read is not that skanky n is insanely nice lets say a nerdish one lol.Half the girls now adays had sex with their last boifriend they where with.
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juju1006539 10 months ago
i have no car
i dnt know what to talk about when on a date or just wanting to walking up to them and introduce myself
the girls i like seems like they dont like me
at times i cnt really be myself around girls because inside i dont want her to know that all i do is play ps3 and xbox 360 as hobbies =(
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@ItsFreddyFred i feel ya man
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What if i can't focus on what she has to say?
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DonitaJakear 1 year ago
what are great qu to ask?
initjamie 1 year ago
I dont know why im so shy for meeting girls. I try to prevent that and it seems i refuse to talk with a girl that i like or sometimes i make eye contack with her haha. I really need help on this shit because i feel as if its too late or that im lacking confidence.
stinky69100 1 year ago
i look away only because im shy and i dont want girls to think i stare too much what should i do do make it more easy to deal with
elgoose2003 1 year ago
would
no money and no job
and a ugly car count?
thecoolioso 1 year ago
what age group are you directing your advice to? i believe that there are different factors to a degree for certain age brackets. thanks
rammstein11004 1 year ago
hey I have many girls on my face book msn I can talk easy on a pc but im shy I could never talk like that in real life I wouldn’t even be able to smile at a girl or go up to them , on msn you have more time to respond and they cant see your face so you feel more relaxed , I have I goy many adds because im good-looking but I cant seem to get a date with any from internet ,I have had maybe 2 this year but in person I must be a let down because of my shyness and lack of confidence .
simonheart007 1 year ago
omg..you always hit the spot with my concerns. i always wondered why it is hard for me to talk to women. it is actually what you just said which was the mistake i've been doing the whole time: i always look away from them. im such a fool. thx dude. i'll try not to look away tomorrow.
wadi0head 1 year ago 2
brillant stuff. you should have been a hypnotist, you voice is awesome.
dotarain 1 year ago
Hey Stephan
Staring at a girl can sometime be akward and weird, making you look crepy. How exactly should i look at a girl when im checking her out? How about giving a smile and a wink when she sees me? Her response should also show if i have a chance?
Regards
Prem
PR3Mmcm 1 year ago
@PR3Mmcm yea this is a good question please give us an answer here stephan.. i guess this happened to me too.. i do that and gurls think that am staring at them and i guess they think am some kind of an asshole staring at gurls.. :S
MontylsHere 1 year ago
i totally melt down in the ground when i have eye contact!
and then i run away 0.o
girlrange007 1 year ago
I really like how your videos generally focus on having the right mindset and asking the right questions rather than just suggesting some kind of hunting tactics. Nice job.
cometkite 2 years ago
Eyecontact is important.. I did actually look away when i saw a interesting girl yesterday. Good advice!
johanssonmatte 2 years ago
Sorry it just sounded negative to me on that day i didnt feel verry well.
I got a diffrent vibe from you because of your german accent, not that is any thing wrong with your accent.
jea740 2 years ago
Good advise, I think the part about maintaining eye contact with girls is crucial.
hungrysparrow 2 years ago 12
yeah it's big, it's subtle and people talk a great deal about it but when it actually happens most people don't notice their own habits..the eye contact thing is HUGE right at that moment when you meet a girl's eyes...ANY girls..if a man only got used to ENJOY eye contact with anyone that looks back their dating would go WILD! Thanks for your comment hungry!
stephanerdman 2 years ago
Eye contact is a lady killer but you need to do it right since eyes say more then words they realy are what they say a doorway to the soul.
Eyes say more then words but stairing at some 1 can be creepy, the right form of eye contact will make her feel related to you what can break down the ice alot.
You could stair if she shows you the same interesting or els see might think your shy or dont like her since men arent know to play these kind of games.
jea740 2 years ago
thing with eye contact right, is how do u do it without freaking girls out. like i feel after 4 seconds i want to look away, because they may think why the fuck is he staring at me.
evilempire96 2 years ago