Hey, just found your vids after watching stuff about the Mark Bingham documentary on depfox's channel. This is an amazing story, how you were inspired to come out :). The closet is a dark fearful place, and I hope to be out soon! Seeing videos like this on YouTube have brought me along so much with accepting myself and wanting to be able to be myself, they have been my inspiration (like mark was yours). Just by posting this, you are no doubt helping lots of young LGBT deal with this :)
Your story reminds me alot of how I felt growing up, Thanks for the video. It is good to see other masculine guys tell their story. I feel like being masculine definetly made it hard to come out just because no one sees it coming, It comes as a big surprise to people. I felt like I was going to let my friends down, I felt like I was going to be made fun of. It was very hard for me to accept who I am but now that I have it feels much better.
Yeah it I'd terrifying because people look at people who as gay being gay or people who r black white it asian as being asain and if people get past that point if OMG he or she is different and seeing people as omg he or she is different it doesnt matter i don't want the world to be the same then maybe just maybe just maybe we will be one step closer to peace and true equality ...ps that was inspiring cause at a younger age ( cuz I am only fourteen now) I really didn't have crushes on guys but
Thank you for sharing your story. Its like hearing an echo as you speak, looking inward. Very inspiring and beautiful. I have the extreme pleasure to play on one of the teams in the nation that competes in the Bingham cup. Mark's memory continues to live on and I continue to be amazed at the world. Best regards to you.
@Built2Fast JB, Thanks for the coomment. Mark and his mother Alice were a huge part of me coming out and they still are part of my life. I'm in a documentary about Mark's life that's being made over a 5 year span. You could watch the trailer online. Type in "The Mark Bingham Story" on Google and the link will come up. I'm the guy on the field with the blue cap and I'm standing with Alice.
phantomsuccour I hope you listened carefully to Rick's video. Be proud of yourself. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. So many of us are terrified about 'what if' when we come out. If you want to live your life as you want, you must accept yourself. I have no idea how old you are, but once you're old enough to leave home and live on your own, you can tell anyone. Please take care of yourself, and be proud of yourself. You, as you know, are a good person.
Rick, proud of you, and YOU should be proud of yourself. I have no doubt that you will be a major positive influence on fragile gay guys. Wish there were more guys like you, and because of you, there will be. Thank you.
you are such a good man!! your video has given me hope that maybe I don't have to be so depressed that I'm gay. My being gay causes me so mush pain and depression, I wish God would take it away, because my family would disown me if they knew.
@phantomsuccour No depression needed pal. I know it's harder for some than others but I did learn is that being true to myself is the most important person to be truthful to. You take your time and when, if ever, you think you're ready, you'll tell the world.
@RickOnEarth thank you so much.... I hope i can get the courage one day to accept who i am but as of now, I'm too afraid to think that i could be gay yet I know that I'm attracted to men. I'm also slightly attracted to some very beautiful women but that's nothing to how I feel when i see attractive men... It's scary because I was taken to church since I was young and I was taught it is evil, so I find it hard to accept it.
This is the most awesome coming out story I've ever heard. You reached out and got the reward for it. I'm so happy it worked out for you. The thing about Mark's family and meeting his friend and mother is just amazing. I hope you succeed in everything you do from here on out and meet a great guy.
One thing you said I loved, being gay isn't everything it's just part of the bigger picture.
Rick I want you to know you have changed my life. Aft seeing this video I came out to my parents. I am 28 and was begining to think I would never come out to them. "Never let the fear of rejection keep you from showing up everyday of your life" I will never forget those words. It is people like you that are making it easier for the rest of us, thank you.
@jacksonless Very proud of you pal. I always believed that we learn from each other and I learned from Mark Bingham and I'm honored if you took something away from my words.
@blainebill39 Hi Blaine. Thanks for the comment. I seriously believe people come into each others lives and things happen for a reason. Be it a friend who could change everything about you or a woman on a news broadcast talking about her son on Flight 93. The trick is to look at these signs and to listen to them. I've been lucky enough to do just that and my life did a complete turn around and I'm so thankful for that.
Rick you are awesome! I like that you kept mentioning the fear you had about coming out and how crippling it was. Fear is the enemy; it is the disease; and it is the jailer that keeps so many gay people prisoner, especially young people. These are good days for gay people, but GREAT days are not too far away. Peace & Happiness.
@LawayneWilliamson I'm sorry it wasn't easy. I'm so thankful it went well for me because I know that it could have been bad. You should think about sharing your story here. You would be surprised at who it might help.
Beautiful and inspirational video Rick. I'm subbed to your channel but have never seen this video. I just watched depfox's video about fruityteen09's mom passing away. When I went to his channel, I found you down in the favorites. I just came out to my mother this past Friday and was just as terrified. Her response was loving and amazing. People need to hear these stories so that they don't let the fear of rejection keep them from showing up every day of their lives! -Jim
@CountryComesToTown I know that terror as do so many others. I always said it's a fear a straight person could never understand. I'm so glad that your mom took it well. I found it just as scary the first few times I told people but it got easier and when you realize you're being you, the fear turns into a awesome feeling.
@dreamer72fem Thank you so much. It was an incredible experience meeting Mark Bingham's friends and family and I'll forever be thankful for their help.
@bighairyboy2 Trust me when I say this..It was one of the scariest things I ever did. I remember telling the very first friend and I knew that there was no turning back at that point.
thats a really nice story. Its a great thing that you found that website about Mark. I dont know if Ill ever get over those fears from coming out the times I have. I still have ways to go I guess. Now your story has inspired me. And that is true... no matter what reactions I have had, it doesnt matter what the reaction is.. it actually just feels great to be yourself.
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
That was so great that when you finally told everyone you were received with open arms. That is so incredible! I have noticed that almost every coming out story that I watch and I have watched a lot of them. They all turned out so well. That makes me question, when I came out to my family and friends everything seem to fall completely apart. Most of my friends disowned me and my family, though they said they still loved me, made me feel so wrong and bad. Now I'm ok that was long ago.
That I'm so sorry for. I did lose a couple of friends but like I told someone else, that was their issue, not mine. I think there's so many factors in a reaction and I thank my stars that things went well. I think if it went well I would have "restructured" who I saw as friends and family. I can't imagine how tough that had to be.
I'd have to say this sounds alot like my life. From telling my friends to my brother and his wife, absolute fear. When I told my brother I was in tears I was so scared. but he was completely cool with it. same with his wife and my friends. I didn't tell my father which I regret since he passed away and now I'm trying to tell my mother which I have that fear that creeps up when ever I try to get the nerve to tell her. I know she knows and she'll be ok with it but it's still scares me.
Wow, you message jumped on right when I was checking my email and I had to reply. That fear is something that is so hard to explain to anyone straight. I think that's why the line in the eulogy hit me so hard because it was so true.
I never got to tell my parents either because they both passed away but in my heart I think they knew.
I wish u all the best. I know it scares you about telling your mom so give it time and when u feel it's right then tell her.
I'm so serious when I say this, I was alone after I told so many people in just 2 days and I suddenly had a panic feeling and then it was washed away by the feeling of total and absolute freedom. It was one of those most incredible feelings I ever had.
I was so happy to see you do your video about coming out. You are so right about the weight falling off you and how wonderful it is to have your eyes see the world as the real you. Taking my mask off was the best thing I ever did. I just wish I had done it sooner. Someday I will make a coming out video so I can share and hopeful help someone like I am sure your story is doing for someone still in a mask.
Inspiring video Rick. Its amazing how others can inspire you and change your life for the better. I'm sure your story will help some one too. I'd tell you how great I think you are but you already know.
This is what I love about your videos Rick, you speak from your heart - I really love that. It seems like your family and friends felt the same way towards you as Mark's mom felt about him: if this honest, caring man is gay then gay must be a great thing to be. I'm honoured that I have something in common with you Rick, thanks for showing up today, I'm all the better for it. --Steve.
Thanks Steve. Mark's mom has been such a huge support through the whole thing and I'll always be thankful. I seriously believe that I was guided by someone that day and I actually listened and when I say it turned my life around completely, I'm not joking. It's been a wonderful experience.
oh rick, what a story! i couldn't help but cry when you said "don't let the fear of rejection keep you from showing up every day of your life." what a powerful statement. and what a wonderful reception you got from mark's family. you are now part of mark's legacy and that must make his family so proud. thanks so much for sharing. i'm positive this is really going to free up a lot of people to tell someone and lift that heavy burden! you are awesome rick! ~ sending you lots of love, katie
Katie, I literally sat in front of my computer and weep when I read it for the first time. Those words are so important to me that I carry them in my wallet with me so I'll always be reminded. One cool note, the man who wrote those words is one of my best friends now. Also, go down to Kellee Rose's statement near the bottom about the weird thing that happened with that eulogy the day I read it to the cameras in NYC. It's wild.
oh rick, i'm not surprised at all. those words really struck me too! even talking about them right at this moment makes me well up. like kellee, i just feel deep within my heart that this whole series of events that lead to that sentence were no coincidence. and then the story just gets more and more amazing! i had already read the posts b/t you and kellee about the day your spoke to the news crew. incredible! that too, i'm sure was no coincidence. amazing!
Rick you are totally a great person... Fightdog is totally right about you ... you are the most nicest and greatest person.... I wish i could do that.....
I know that fear pal. A huge part of it is that you're not ready on the inside to say anything and that's ok. I believe when it's time, it's time, if ever. I did learn that sexuality is so personal so NEVER let anyone tell you that you have to say anything. This is going to be totally up to you. HUGE HUG!
Very powerful Rick. I was in bed too praying to take it away. Let's face it..being gay in this society is just AWFUL! It is not the gay part but the "society" part. That is why I could just scream when I hear so called "religious" people saying that it is a "chosen lifestyle" Walk a mile in my shoes Mr Evangelical!
Rick-PLEASE send Mark's Mom this vid! I KNOW it will brighten her day.
I hat it when its said it's a choice as well. No one chooses to be gay anymore then someone chose to be straight, you were born that way. (umm meaning god wanted that) If it was a choice... okay, that means my daughter "CHOSE" to be gay bashed,she "CHOSE" to be discriminated against, she Chose to deal with so much bullshit from society just so she can be with the same sex? Just does not make sense. But they are all morons, and will be judged one day for judging :) Hugs hun
Heres my ting about those Bible thumpers who say it's a choice: If you have the ability to chose if you're attracted to a man or woman than YOU'RE BI-SEXUAL! So to all of those who claim you could choose then they must have this ability to do so, because I don't. So they need to face the fact that they're in the same boat as us...and it's one hell of a good time on this boat!
Couldnt agree more Rick, and the bible thumpers give "true" Christians a bad name, people veer away from it because of them. a "true" Christ follower, tries to follow by Christs example, you do not judge, because even he left that up to his father. Do not get me wrong, I believe in the bible, but I also keep in mind it was written by Man, and how "he" interpeted what was said, and twists things to their advantage. God made you, God loves you, PERIOD. Hugs
i come from a big family like you and i got it out of the way when i was 16. My family have been great about it ever since. Mind you my mother let me go through about half hour of agony trying to tell her and as soon as I did she said she already know!! I could have hit her LOL!
Wow Rick I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! That was an incredible story, i am blown away by you Rick. I got a little teary eyed during that man. "Don't let the fear of rejection keep you from showing up everyday of your life" thats extremly true and deep. I am so happy you made this video. Love you bud!
That's pal. Life could be scary but I believe if u live by the words I mentioned, about not letting the fear of rejection keep you from showing up everyday of your life", you'll see so much more of life and how wonderful it could be.
What a great story Rick! Your right there is a higher being that brought you to Mark Binghams family. Brittany said she had the same terror when she was ready to tell me and her Father, and your right, as soon as we knew, and she saw it didn't matter to us, we just wanted her happy, to be true to herself, a weight was lifted off her 17 (at the time) yr old shoulders. I'm glad to have met you, and think you are an awsome person! Love and Hugs to ya.
I truly believe that. I have an incredible story for you about that line I read in Mark's eulogy and something wild that happened to the man that wrote it that connected us together, even though we never met at that point. I'll have to tell u someone.
Would love to hear it, because if you think about it, and a sad as it is that his life had been cut short, you may still be hiding it, because the event would have never happned where you would have come across his name... strange huh?
The day I told the film crew the story. I read the line in the eulogy that Todd in San Francisco wrote for his friend Mark. The line about the fear of rejection. I got it form Mark's site that Mark's friends ran. At the point where I read for the camera in NYC I never met Todd and Todd never heard of me. Todd said that afternoon on that very day, Mark's web site went down and the only thing u could see was the line"Don't let the fear of rejection...". (I'll continue in next box)
He said all the other things on the site were scrambled but that line. Later that week, the director showed him my tape of me reading that line and he said he nearly fell off his seat. There are dozens of other connections to people around Mark that are directly associated with me. It's actually wild.
Wow that is pretty wild Rick! I can not say all of it is just a conisedence, to many things for it to be that. Almost makes the hair on my neck stand up...lol but very cool at the same time.
Thanks! Major Hugs back. I want my daughter to experience the true meaning of love, and her hiding it and trying to be with a guy because society says that's who she should be with would be a tragic thing, because for her, she would never experience real love, only fake love. I'm so happy she came to me, and to see how happy she is now to be able to talk openly about girls she likes, her first kiss, yadda yadda, makes me happy :) :) :) More hugs comin' your way
Kellee-I think we have talked about this before. My parents (and yours) are both deceased. Jim is an orphan. I was wondering..would you be interested in adopting me?
I have a buddy who is gay that married a woman. On one of the few times they had sex she became pregnant with twins.
He is now living with my friend Carl. The kids are in HS..disaster..drugs..bad grades.
Moral of the story-if you are gay don't get married to the opposite sex!
Sometimes the prayers that go unanswered, is actually your answer. He made us the way he wants us, and if he wanted you to change (as idiotic society says) then he would of given what was asked, but he knew what was best for you, so answered the prayer by not answering it. wow did that just go in one big circle...lol
@KelleeRose1 Kellee..WELL said. You are a prophet! I just hope that more young kids..and I should not say just "kids" because there are MANY older gay people that are alone or trapped in a marriage that are miserable... I have a buddy in FL that works with a guy who just came out at 57? He actually has never been with anyone but could not stand it anymore. (I think my buddy is a BAD influence..just kidding..he is good!)
No, I met the guy who was President before him. Now I would have much rather met Obama but it was still an honor meeting President Bush. I met him at the 5th anniversary of 9-11 in Shanksville PA, where flight 93 crashed.
so your story is mine 100 % ....... thanks for uploading and sharing.
papa10211961 4 months ago
This was a spectacular story.
TheStoneyDaze 7 months ago
Hey, just found your vids after watching stuff about the Mark Bingham documentary on depfox's channel. This is an amazing story, how you were inspired to come out :). The closet is a dark fearful place, and I hope to be out soon! Seeing videos like this on YouTube have brought me along so much with accepting myself and wanting to be able to be myself, they have been my inspiration (like mark was yours). Just by posting this, you are no doubt helping lots of young LGBT deal with this :)
Fr4yTheStrings 8 months ago
Your story reminds me alot of how I felt growing up, Thanks for the video. It is good to see other masculine guys tell their story. I feel like being masculine definetly made it hard to come out just because no one sees it coming, It comes as a big surprise to people. I felt like I was going to let my friends down, I felt like I was going to be made fun of. It was very hard for me to accept who I am but now that I have it feels much better.
panasonicboy 9 months ago
Yeah it I'd terrifying because people look at people who as gay being gay or people who r black white it asian as being asain and if people get past that point if OMG he or she is different and seeing people as omg he or she is different it doesnt matter i don't want the world to be the same then maybe just maybe just maybe we will be one step closer to peace and true equality ...ps that was inspiring cause at a younger age ( cuz I am only fourteen now) I really didn't have crushes on guys but
Arcanetheory7 11 months ago
Amazing and inspiring story, this is my second time watching it, and it still gave me goosebumps.
I am glad you shared, and I hope your life is full of happiness!
Checker222 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing your story. Its like hearing an echo as you speak, looking inward. Very inspiring and beautiful. I have the extreme pleasure to play on one of the teams in the nation that competes in the Bingham cup. Mark's memory continues to live on and I continue to be amazed at the world. Best regards to you.
JB
Built2Fast 1 year ago
@Built2Fast JB, Thanks for the coomment. Mark and his mother Alice were a huge part of me coming out and they still are part of my life. I'm in a documentary about Mark's life that's being made over a 5 year span. You could watch the trailer online. Type in "The Mark Bingham Story" on Google and the link will come up. I'm the guy on the field with the blue cap and I'm standing with Alice.
Thanks again for the comment!
Rick-
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
this is awesome
dallastexascop 1 year ago
@dallastexascop Thank you!
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
phantomsuccour I hope you listened carefully to Rick's video. Be proud of yourself. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. So many of us are terrified about 'what if' when we come out. If you want to live your life as you want, you must accept yourself. I have no idea how old you are, but once you're old enough to leave home and live on your own, you can tell anyone. Please take care of yourself, and be proud of yourself. You, as you know, are a good person.
tahoemack 1 year ago
Rick, proud of you, and YOU should be proud of yourself. I have no doubt that you will be a major positive influence on fragile gay guys. Wish there were more guys like you, and because of you, there will be. Thank you.
tahoemack 1 year ago
@tahoemack Thanks man. That was very sweet and kind of you.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
you are such a good man!! your video has given me hope that maybe I don't have to be so depressed that I'm gay. My being gay causes me so mush pain and depression, I wish God would take it away, because my family would disown me if they knew.
phantomsuccour 1 year ago
@phantomsuccour No depression needed pal. I know it's harder for some than others but I did learn is that being true to myself is the most important person to be truthful to. You take your time and when, if ever, you think you're ready, you'll tell the world.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
@RickOnEarth thank you so much.... I hope i can get the courage one day to accept who i am but as of now, I'm too afraid to think that i could be gay yet I know that I'm attracted to men. I'm also slightly attracted to some very beautiful women but that's nothing to how I feel when i see attractive men... It's scary because I was taken to church since I was young and I was taught it is evil, so I find it hard to accept it.
phantomsuccour 1 year ago
This is the most awesome coming out story I've ever heard. You reached out and got the reward for it. I'm so happy it worked out for you. The thing about Mark's family and meeting his friend and mother is just amazing. I hope you succeed in everything you do from here on out and meet a great guy.
One thing you said I loved, being gay isn't everything it's just part of the bigger picture.
holyfuck444 1 year ago
Rick I want you to know you have changed my life. Aft seeing this video I came out to my parents. I am 28 and was begining to think I would never come out to them. "Never let the fear of rejection keep you from showing up everyday of your life" I will never forget those words. It is people like you that are making it easier for the rest of us, thank you.
jacksonless 1 year ago
@jacksonless Very proud of you pal. I always believed that we learn from each other and I learned from Mark Bingham and I'm honored if you took something away from my words.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
@RickOnEarth
Thank you for sharing your story Rick!
Mark Bingham was truly heroic! I find that the "right" just cannot stand the fact that
a highly courageous, openly gay man, stood up and did not hesitate to take action
with some of his fellow passengers!
blainebill39 1 year ago
@RickOnEarth
As unique as your coming out experiences were to you, I can't help but being struck
by the similarities that we all appear to share of the"queer" experience!
I dated and had a crush, when I was a teenager, on a boy named Bobby Griffith,
who ended up taking his own life! His story along with that of his mother was turned
into a Lifetime movie.
blainebill39 1 year ago
@RickOnEarth I've been having quite a time trying to guide younger people
through the tragedy of his story, for they are reacting right here on YT, as if it happened
last year! It was actually more than 27yrs ago that Bobby took his life!We're not there
yet, but I am so encouraged by what appears to have been a "paradigm shift" in
thought and attitude that has taken place in our society!
blainebill39 1 year ago
@RickOnEarth Your story, my friend,
and all of these archived "coming out" stories, I believe are contributing greatly
to that "sea change"! I find it both inspiring as well as breathtaking!
I thank G-D that I will be a witness to it all!
I thank you for being a hero by allowing our younger brothers and sisters
to see your confidence self awareness!
May G-D Bless You!
Blaine
blainebill39 1 year ago
@blainebill39 Hi Blaine. Thanks for the comment. I seriously believe people come into each others lives and things happen for a reason. Be it a friend who could change everything about you or a woman on a news broadcast talking about her son on Flight 93. The trick is to look at these signs and to listen to them. I've been lucky enough to do just that and my life did a complete turn around and I'm so thankful for that.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
Rick you are awesome! I like that you kept mentioning the fear you had about coming out and how crippling it was. Fear is the enemy; it is the disease; and it is the jailer that keeps so many gay people prisoner, especially young people. These are good days for gay people, but GREAT days are not too far away. Peace & Happiness.
otterpop1138 1 year ago
@otterpop1138 Great days are here my friend. Once you face that fear and conquer it then there's no stopping you! Thanks for the awesome comment!
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
Touching story sir!
Thank you for sharing!
Checker222 1 year ago
@LawayneWilliamson I'm sorry it wasn't easy. I'm so thankful it went well for me because I know that it could have been bad. You should think about sharing your story here. You would be surprised at who it might help.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
Beautiful and inspirational video Rick. I'm subbed to your channel but have never seen this video. I just watched depfox's video about fruityteen09's mom passing away. When I went to his channel, I found you down in the favorites. I just came out to my mother this past Friday and was just as terrified. Her response was loving and amazing. People need to hear these stories so that they don't let the fear of rejection keep them from showing up every day of their lives! -Jim
CountryComesToTown 1 year ago
@CountryComesToTown I know that terror as do so many others. I always said it's a fear a straight person could never understand. I'm so glad that your mom took it well. I found it just as scary the first few times I told people but it got easier and when you realize you're being you, the fear turns into a awesome feeling.
Thanks for commenting Jim! : )
Rick
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
great video! subbed. ;) Keep living.
jerichocrost 1 year ago
@jerichocrost Thanks : )
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
wow this was so beautiful. thank you.
nicool722 1 year ago
@nicool722 Thanks : )
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
WOW! Thanks for sharing such an incredible inspiring story. It made my spirit soar.
EPRVa62 1 year ago
@EPRVa62 It was a wonderful experience that I'm so thankful to have had. Thanks for the comment.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
I dont know how I missed this vid. This is a wonderful video:)
dreamer72fem 1 year ago
@dreamer72fem Thank you so much. It was an incredible experience meeting Mark Bingham's friends and family and I'll forever be thankful for their help.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
you are awesome Rick its courage like your that do help others to cope hugs kisses
jasminequeentagaholi 1 year ago
That was an incredible story! Much respect, man, much respect!
BIGDANNIEKAHUNA 1 year ago
@BIGDANNIEKAHUNA Thanks for the great comment. That was very cool of you.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
Incredible story, sir. Like so many other people, you are way more couragous than I could ever be. I'm glad that you life is so good in perspective.
Sttubbs 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing.
be19nt86 1 year ago
You are so lucky. Wish I had the courage you do.
bighairyboy2 1 year ago
@bighairyboy2 Trust me when I say this..It was one of the scariest things I ever did. I remember telling the very first friend and I knew that there was no turning back at that point.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
This was truly inspirational. hugz xoxo
shyic 1 year ago
@shyic Thanks for the positive comment. I hope it does inspire!
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
thats a really nice story. Its a great thing that you found that website about Mark. I dont know if Ill ever get over those fears from coming out the times I have. I still have ways to go I guess. Now your story has inspired me. And that is true... no matter what reactions I have had, it doesnt matter what the reaction is.. it actually just feels great to be yourself.
ouREvilone 1 year ago
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
@ouREvilone Thanks for the comment. Mark Bingham really became an inspiration to me and I can't be more thankful to have his mom and friends in my life now.
RickOnEarth 1 year ago
You ROCK Rickonearth. Starfruit and sushi to you and Fightdog. :-) Subbed, five stars.
kern0099 1 year ago
your gay? wow.....i dont see it...O_O
PirateSmoothie 2 years ago
@PirateSmoothie What would there be to see?
avesraggiana 1 year ago
@avesraggiana
most people i know that are gay, you can actually notice it. Clothes, hair? But he looks completely straight to me.
PirateSmoothie 1 year ago
great video! ~ 5 ***** =))
SoaringEleven 2 years ago
How da feck did i miss this vid? Dude... you have noooooo idea how proud i am of you.
Supportahol 2 years ago
Thanks my friend.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
That was really nice sir. =]
ric331 2 years ago
what a brave and honest video...others should be as honest as you....5 stars
KENNYGARDNER1963 2 years ago
That was so great that when you finally told everyone you were received with open arms. That is so incredible! I have noticed that almost every coming out story that I watch and I have watched a lot of them. They all turned out so well. That makes me question, when I came out to my family and friends everything seem to fall completely apart. Most of my friends disowned me and my family, though they said they still loved me, made me feel so wrong and bad. Now I'm ok that was long ago.
Take care!
LathanJV36 2 years ago
That I'm so sorry for. I did lose a couple of friends but like I told someone else, that was their issue, not mine. I think there's so many factors in a reaction and I thank my stars that things went well. I think if it went well I would have "restructured" who I saw as friends and family. I can't imagine how tough that had to be.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
I'd have to say this sounds alot like my life. From telling my friends to my brother and his wife, absolute fear. When I told my brother I was in tears I was so scared. but he was completely cool with it. same with his wife and my friends. I didn't tell my father which I regret since he passed away and now I'm trying to tell my mother which I have that fear that creeps up when ever I try to get the nerve to tell her. I know she knows and she'll be ok with it but it's still scares me.
deadcowboy147 2 years ago
Wow, you message jumped on right when I was checking my email and I had to reply. That fear is something that is so hard to explain to anyone straight. I think that's why the line in the eulogy hit me so hard because it was so true.
I never got to tell my parents either because they both passed away but in my heart I think they knew.
I wish u all the best. I know it scares you about telling your mom so give it time and when u feel it's right then tell her.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
That was a wondering vid Rick.
As I've mentioned before I've read a lot about Mark Bingham but I never knew he affected you in such a personal way.
You're right about taking off the mask. It's a sensation like nothing else.
Snoppster 2 years ago
I'm so serious when I say this, I was alone after I told so many people in just 2 days and I suddenly had a panic feeling and then it was washed away by the feeling of total and absolute freedom. It was one of those most incredible feelings I ever had.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
Rick,
I was so happy to see you do your video about coming out. You are so right about the weight falling off you and how wonderful it is to have your eyes see the world as the real you. Taking my mask off was the best thing I ever did. I just wish I had done it sooner. Someday I will make a coming out video so I can share and hopeful help someone like I am sure your story is doing for someone still in a mask.
jamiegreuber 2 years ago
I can't wait to see your video!
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
Inspiring video Rick. Its amazing how others can inspire you and change your life for the better. I'm sure your story will help some one too. I'd tell you how great I think you are but you already know.
Fightdog 2 years ago
Hell, you could always tell me I'm great. I never get tired of hearing it LOL.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
This is what I love about your videos Rick, you speak from your heart - I really love that. It seems like your family and friends felt the same way towards you as Mark's mom felt about him: if this honest, caring man is gay then gay must be a great thing to be. I'm honoured that I have something in common with you Rick, thanks for showing up today, I'm all the better for it. --Steve.
warmgulfwind 2 years ago
Thanks Steve. Mark's mom has been such a huge support through the whole thing and I'll always be thankful. I seriously believe that I was guided by someone that day and I actually listened and when I say it turned my life around completely, I'm not joking. It's been a wonderful experience.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
oh rick, what a story! i couldn't help but cry when you said "don't let the fear of rejection keep you from showing up every day of your life." what a powerful statement. and what a wonderful reception you got from mark's family. you are now part of mark's legacy and that must make his family so proud. thanks so much for sharing. i'm positive this is really going to free up a lot of people to tell someone and lift that heavy burden! you are awesome rick! ~ sending you lots of love, katie
oopspaw 2 years ago
Katie, I literally sat in front of my computer and weep when I read it for the first time. Those words are so important to me that I carry them in my wallet with me so I'll always be reminded. One cool note, the man who wrote those words is one of my best friends now. Also, go down to Kellee Rose's statement near the bottom about the weird thing that happened with that eulogy the day I read it to the cameras in NYC. It's wild.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
oh rick, i'm not surprised at all. those words really struck me too! even talking about them right at this moment makes me well up. like kellee, i just feel deep within my heart that this whole series of events that lead to that sentence were no coincidence. and then the story just gets more and more amazing! i had already read the posts b/t you and kellee about the day your spoke to the news crew. incredible! that too, i'm sure was no coincidence. amazing!
oopspaw 2 years ago
Rick you are totally a great person... Fightdog is totally right about you ... you are the most nicest and greatest person.... I wish i could do that.....
scottneumann82 2 years ago
hmmm Rick.... that hits close to home.... I can sooo relate.... wow so you must have recently came out..... I'm too afraid to come out to my family
scottneumann82 2 years ago
@scottneumann82 me too...
vartimor 2 years ago
I know that fear pal. A huge part of it is that you're not ready on the inside to say anything and that's ok. I believe when it's time, it's time, if ever. I did learn that sexuality is so personal so NEVER let anyone tell you that you have to say anything. This is going to be totally up to you. HUGE HUG!
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
Very powerful Rick. I was in bed too praying to take it away. Let's face it..being gay in this society is just AWFUL! It is not the gay part but the "society" part. That is why I could just scream when I hear so called "religious" people saying that it is a "chosen lifestyle" Walk a mile in my shoes Mr Evangelical!
Rick-PLEASE send Mark's Mom this vid! I KNOW it will brighten her day.
So proud of you here...
Jim
stoner829 2 years ago
I hat it when its said it's a choice as well. No one chooses to be gay anymore then someone chose to be straight, you were born that way. (umm meaning god wanted that) If it was a choice... okay, that means my daughter "CHOSE" to be gay bashed,she "CHOSE" to be discriminated against, she Chose to deal with so much bullshit from society just so she can be with the same sex? Just does not make sense. But they are all morons, and will be judged one day for judging :) Hugs hun
KelleeRose1 2 years ago
Heres my ting about those Bible thumpers who say it's a choice: If you have the ability to chose if you're attracted to a man or woman than YOU'RE BI-SEXUAL! So to all of those who claim you could choose then they must have this ability to do so, because I don't. So they need to face the fact that they're in the same boat as us...and it's one hell of a good time on this boat!
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
Couldnt agree more Rick, and the bible thumpers give "true" Christians a bad name, people veer away from it because of them. a "true" Christ follower, tries to follow by Christs example, you do not judge, because even he left that up to his father. Do not get me wrong, I believe in the bible, but I also keep in mind it was written by Man, and how "he" interpeted what was said, and twists things to their advantage. God made you, God loves you, PERIOD. Hugs
KelleeRose1 2 years ago
i come from a big family like you and i got it out of the way when i was 16. My family have been great about it ever since. Mind you my mother let me go through about half hour of agony trying to tell her and as soon as I did she said she already know!! I could have hit her LOL!
mkuebler5 2 years ago
LOL you have to love her for that.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
YOUR GAY??? i never would have guessed well your the greatest guy i know no matter who you are i still am glad to know you
vartimor 2 years ago
Great Job!!! Well done!!! your story had tear in my eyes!!
your friend
jojo
jojo20to1 2 years ago
wer are so glads that you are
SOUTHWESTCUB 2 years ago
Awesome for sharing Rick, thank you buddy
THEROBBIEKSHOW 2 years ago
; )
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
Awesome story Rick! And great words of encouragement as well!
royalschwarz 2 years ago
Wow Rick I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! That was an incredible story, i am blown away by you Rick. I got a little teary eyed during that man. "Don't let the fear of rejection keep you from showing up everyday of your life" thats extremly true and deep. I am so happy you made this video. Love you bud!
FruityTeen09 2 years ago
That's pal. Life could be scary but I believe if u live by the words I mentioned, about not letting the fear of rejection keep you from showing up everyday of your life", you'll see so much more of life and how wonderful it could be.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
What a great story Rick! Your right there is a higher being that brought you to Mark Binghams family. Brittany said she had the same terror when she was ready to tell me and her Father, and your right, as soon as we knew, and she saw it didn't matter to us, we just wanted her happy, to be true to herself, a weight was lifted off her 17 (at the time) yr old shoulders. I'm glad to have met you, and think you are an awsome person! Love and Hugs to ya.
KelleeRose1 2 years ago
I truly believe that. I have an incredible story for you about that line I read in Mark's eulogy and something wild that happened to the man that wrote it that connected us together, even though we never met at that point. I'll have to tell u someone.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
Would love to hear it, because if you think about it, and a sad as it is that his life had been cut short, you may still be hiding it, because the event would have never happned where you would have come across his name... strange huh?
KelleeRose1 2 years ago
The day I told the film crew the story. I read the line in the eulogy that Todd in San Francisco wrote for his friend Mark. The line about the fear of rejection. I got it form Mark's site that Mark's friends ran. At the point where I read for the camera in NYC I never met Todd and Todd never heard of me. Todd said that afternoon on that very day, Mark's web site went down and the only thing u could see was the line"Don't let the fear of rejection...". (I'll continue in next box)
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
He said all the other things on the site were scrambled but that line. Later that week, the director showed him my tape of me reading that line and he said he nearly fell off his seat. There are dozens of other connections to people around Mark that are directly associated with me. It's actually wild.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
Wow that is pretty wild Rick! I can not say all of it is just a conisedence, to many things for it to be that. Almost makes the hair on my neck stand up...lol but very cool at the same time.
KelleeRose1 2 years ago
@KellieRose! Kellee..I am so glad Brittany has you for a Mom! I was lucky too..but so many kids are not.
Our society is changing..but as far as I am concerned it is not changing fast enough.
Major hugs here!
stoner829 2 years ago
Thanks! Major Hugs back. I want my daughter to experience the true meaning of love, and her hiding it and trying to be with a guy because society says that's who she should be with would be a tragic thing, because for her, she would never experience real love, only fake love. I'm so happy she came to me, and to see how happy she is now to be able to talk openly about girls she likes, her first kiss, yadda yadda, makes me happy :) :) :) More hugs comin' your way
KelleeRose1 2 years ago
KelleeRose1 gets my "Mother of the Year award!"
Kellee-I think we have talked about this before. My parents (and yours) are both deceased. Jim is an orphan. I was wondering..would you be interested in adopting me?
I have a buddy who is gay that married a woman. On one of the few times they had sex she became pregnant with twins.
He is now living with my friend Carl. The kids are in HS..disaster..drugs..bad grades.
Moral of the story-if you are gay don't get married to the opposite sex!
stoner829 2 years ago
I prayed alot to be changed. Then I prayed for the world to change.
I'm still praying.
It's great that you came out of your shell and were met with a warm experience.
Thanks for making an uplifting and encouraging video.
VlogasaurusFlex 2 years ago
Thanks pal.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
I tried to pray away the gay for years and years, didnt work for me either. Very inspirational, thanks for sharing your story:-)
1DRock37167 2 years ago
To be honest, I'm glad my prayers weren't answered.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
Sometimes the prayers that go unanswered, is actually your answer. He made us the way he wants us, and if he wanted you to change (as idiotic society says) then he would of given what was asked, but he knew what was best for you, so answered the prayer by not answering it. wow did that just go in one big circle...lol
KelleeRose1 2 years ago
I swear I can here Elton singing "The Circle of Life";-)
1DRock37167 2 years ago
@KelleeRose1 Kellee..WELL said. You are a prophet! I just hope that more young kids..and I should not say just "kids" because there are MANY older gay people that are alone or trapped in a marriage that are miserable... I have a buddy in FL that works with a guy who just came out at 57? He actually has never been with anyone but could not stand it anymore. (I think my buddy is a BAD influence..just kidding..he is good!)
stoner829 2 years ago
I would have never become the person I am if they had, Im very thankful for that:-)
1DRock37167 2 years ago
wow u met Obama ??? how come?
mancetube 2 years ago
No, I met the guy who was President before him. Now I would have much rather met Obama but it was still an honor meeting President Bush. I met him at the 5th anniversary of 9-11 in Shanksville PA, where flight 93 crashed.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago
Rick, this is a GREAT story about you and how you came to know you were gay and come out.
I'm glad you overcame your fears and depression, and I applaud your courage and the fact that YOU "keep showin' up."
I've got to figure out my own story and how and when to tell it, but I'm sure over time, I will.
Thanks again for sharing.
*hug*
schmumpkin 2 years ago
Would love to hear it pal.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago