erm, not sure if you have posted anything on the re-classification of aspergers to high functioning autism..relabelling the condition. i think 2013 is the phase-in date.
Good luck with school and all of your endeavours! Please don't get stressed out! I'm currently starting a self help book about Mindfulness, only written specifically for autists. Will follow a course at my autism centre later in the year, and I have been hearing all sorts of positive reviews. Some of the exercises can be done everywhere, and take just 5 minutes. Maybe you can benefit from it too. Take care, and please avoid burning out!!! Been there :(
You have a strong positive spirit! I admire you for everything you've done. I wish you the best in your endeavors and may your path be not so full of obstacles like mine lol.
Yet another video I'm late to see! Had I seen this I wouldn't have sent that last PM, which you can now ignore. ;¬)
And if I were you, under those circumstance, I'd put on the Friend Lock. Leave a note to explain it's for a certain period, if you must, but look after number one! I think the English word you were looking for was: obligation, but our channels are our own and we're not obliged to do anything with them.
I'm sorry you feel stressed out. I think most of us appreciate your insights and videos about AS, but I think you should do what's best for you. You put a lot of thought and effort into your responses to questions, and you do it for free. So you're not obligated to anyone on your youtube channel. Aspies can become easily overwhelmed if they have too much going on in their lives. I'm very grateful for all you've contributed to my knowledge of AS. Best wishes to you in your schoolwork!
Something I didn't understand. When you say you have "stalkers" do you mean people that watch your videos, comments on them and send you pms? Isn't that supposed to be the idea of having a video blog in youtube? for people to follow your videos?
Have you tried mediating to reduce stress? I recommend Vipassana, firstly to settle the mind and secondly for insight. You don't have to be a student of the dhamma or a buddhist to benefit from it.
i hope your stress level goes down some.. i definitely enjoy your videos being a aspie as well and while having aspie friends they are not aware of it and clearly can't talk about with them so it's really nice hearing someone else talk about their experiences so honestly..
Thank you for information on the conference... I didn't know... And in my own hometown... Thank you... I'll try to be there... Hope to see you there... :) And just take care of yourself... Your YT-followers can wait... If they have any idea what it is like to have AS then they'll understand...
Suggestion: Maybe you could review all your PM's real quick-like, and take note of the ones that ask for "Aspie Advice." And then, like maybe 6 months down the line-- when things settle down-- make a "More Aspie Answers" video.
(Not saying you have to do that... just thinking of a compromise. Somehow, you gotta set those PM's aside for now.)
BTW, you are doing a fantastic job and you are an amazing person!
What does Christmas and New Year do to Aspies?? You can make a video about that in the future. Sure sounds like me. Don't have to Reply to this AnMish.
And People stop Emailing her so Much.
And AnMish,Haven't you heard? the internet is not real, therefore can not be a source of stress.
You let people comment on your videos which is more than enough.
Oh, And I am finally going to get new shoes.Hooray for me.My old ones are broken and have holes in them.And no I'm doing Okay financially.
Oh god, I'm so glad I have never sent you a PM. U poor lass.
Do what you gotta do to get by mate. What you do has value & you have gotten so much better at this.
I often agonise over wording & have regrets almost immediately after clicking send/post. It would be worse if I had reason to believe I was dealing with a fragile individual. Seriously just do that thingamy blocking PMs.
I respect you SO VERY MUCH for the level of respect, kindness, and honesty that you show to your viewers! You apologize when there is really no need to apologize, and it just further reveals what an excellent individual you are. Any Aspie should be able to sympathize the overwhelming nature of these sorts of things (I certainly do, anyway). It's always nice to see a new video from you in my subscriptions, but I will certainly never begrudge you an existence with diminished stress. Be well!
I'm glad your exams went well. looking after yourself and your needs puts you in the best position you can be to help other people. do your homework. drink plenty of water. keep up contact with the people who mean the most to you. get enough rest and have fun. IDK if you believe in prayer, but I'm praying for your stress level to drop - not because I want you to make more videos, which I do, but because stress isnt good for anyone. xxx
no need to reply to every message love. :) you don't have to reply to every single person that talks to you if its stressful and interfering with your personal life.
I hope you can return soon, but it is okay if you don't. :) You've got a life far more important than responding to anybody on here. You have a beautiful face and even more beautiful heart and you shouldn't cause harm to either of those by spending too much time responding to a couple of nerds like me. Take Care! :)
IMO you don't owe any of us anything and your insights and willingness to relate your experience has definitely helped me. I understood your position RE email/FB etc immediately and people who push you on the issue are idiots. You're the first thing I clicked on once ASD was put forth to me and your videos are many 'A_HA !!!" moments for me. I suspect I'm guilty of a couple of PM's that were bizarre and or creepy. You should do it at whatever rate and context keep it as enjoyable to do. Be well
@TheAnMish as Phil said, don't worry about the YouTube thing. You have much more important things to do in life. Going to University and getting A's and speaking at a conference, that's incredible! How many people can do that?
I don't know if it's an Aspie thing or an ADD thing, but I get self critical over the littlest shit. I have to take a deep breath and take a step back and remind myself to relax.
Tell your friends and family the situation. They will understand.
Oh okay. Thanks for explaining all of that to me. I think I'll go make a sandwich now. Yeah, yeah.. I'm gonna go make a sandwich now. Definitely going to go make a sandwich. Good luck with your life though.
Body - albeit noble reasons i'm sure - but because of the nature of the subject and the intensity of personal beliefs behind watching videos or responding to videos there will be times when it all gets too much and a bit out of hand.
You have a right to privacy and people need to respect that. Otherwise you really are doing a great job.
You have been very honest in this video and that deserves respect in my opinion. People who don't feel the same way are not worth bothering with.
I have put a few videos on youtube myself discussing my experience of AS and it is a very personal thing to do. There is the real possibility of people becoming obsessed with every aspect of your life and the chance that they will out you on a pedestal above other people.
The reasons for doing videos for youtube will be slightly different for every..
Now I understand better why you don't usually add peolpe to facebook, and don't like contacting people outside this site, you don't want them littering it with aspie stuff.
ahh christmas i understand immensely i didn't even go to last years christmas i ended up bursting out with tears i didn't want to go that much i prefer the time on my own
Helping people or trying to make a difference in a positive way when I can is a big thing with me. So, perhaps I can help you, try to learn to take some time to be selfish, to not care, it is very hard, but I find that it helps me to be giving the rest of the time.
stalked??! geez yeah you make a big difference you have taught me alot about understanding why i am the way i am in my own way good luck with the rest of your exams and what ever else is stressing you
Thank you for all your videos! You have been such a blessing to me in helping me to understand that I am probably Aspie, and to not feel so unusual in this world, and to accept myself more. Please take good care of yourself. Rest, relax, enjoy!
God are you ever patient, wow. I would not have the energy to respond to all those messages...especially if I took twenty minutes on some of them!!! Good luck with school, -hope everything went well with your written exams. :)
Look, you already help us a LOT already and i'm sure that everyone here is just happy that you help us understand how it is... Take care of yourself, hope you succeed in school, and happy new year !
It's good to reflect on healthy boundaries as communication media are changing. .... It is possible to be over-conscientious, which itself is a question of degree..... Take care of yourself and share when you can or feel like it.
That being said, I will suggest you to give out an email-address for stalkers. That way, you know where to deal with the stalkers, and the stalkers will know where to stalk you. Win-win - I think. :D
IMO you're trying to be perfect, when you're close enough on this front. Take care of U, set healthy priorities and boundaries. Life changes, we change, it's all good. Smile. Thanks.
You don't have to give explanations, you can just do what you can. I know explanations is a aspie thing but if you can't do something don't think of an explanation on why you can't do something just say I can't.
Take time to relax, do whatever helps you relax and DON'T OVERWHELM YOURSELF!
Nice apology, but honestly I don't think it is necessary. You've provided a lot of educational material for anyone dealing with Asperger traits and their families. That is enough. :) Thank you for all the effort you put out there.
Its ok, take your time and remember that you dont owe anything to anyone. Especially not a stranger on internet. Your personal wellbeing is more important. :)
You don't owe us anything. Come back when you feel rejuvenated and when you'll know that you'll enjoy it again. We don't have any expectations, really. We would rather have a healthy unstressed Anmish some of the time rather than a stressed out unhappy Anmish.
Make sure you take time to apply some stress-reduction measures and have some fun, whatever kind you prefer! I know, and I'm sure you know too, that chronic stress can lead to depression.
In virtue of you making youtube videos I feel you go beyond whatever personal duty you feel compelled to adhere to. I also do not believe people asking for more than the enormous amount of videos you have done, is entirely couth.
You do not do yourself or those you wish to help any favours by "burning out", or becoming stressed by a sense of duty. You're just one person. You've already done a lot and I'm sure will do more, as and when you can. Don't beat yourself up if you need time (hours OR years) for yourself.
Don't feel like you owe anyone anything. We are greatful for what you have done so far.
Also, of the people I know who have lots of subscribers, I don't know of anyone who was able to keep answering every personal message after they reached 1500 subs, so don't knock yourself out. You're being way too hard on yourself.
erm, not sure if you have posted anything on the re-classification of aspergers to high functioning autism..relabelling the condition. i think 2013 is the phase-in date.
BIGMACHAMBURGER1 3 days ago
the word you were looking for was: 'obligation'... you're cool!xx take care of your self.
BIGMACHAMBURGER1 3 days ago
Good luck with school and all of your endeavours! Please don't get stressed out! I'm currently starting a self help book about Mindfulness, only written specifically for autists. Will follow a course at my autism centre later in the year, and I have been hearing all sorts of positive reviews. Some of the exercises can be done everywhere, and take just 5 minutes. Maybe you can benefit from it too. Take care, and please avoid burning out!!! Been there :(
Kenjitsuka 3 weeks ago
You have a strong positive spirit! I admire you for everything you've done. I wish you the best in your endeavors and may your path be not so full of obstacles like mine lol.
twirlingchair 3 weeks ago
Yet another video I'm late to see! Had I seen this I wouldn't have sent that last PM, which you can now ignore. ;¬)
And if I were you, under those circumstance, I'd put on the Friend Lock. Leave a note to explain it's for a certain period, if you must, but look after number one! I think the English word you were looking for was: obligation, but our channels are our own and we're not obliged to do anything with them.
DaithiDublin 1 month ago
I'm sorry you feel stressed out. I think most of us appreciate your insights and videos about AS, but I think you should do what's best for you. You put a lot of thought and effort into your responses to questions, and you do it for free. So you're not obligated to anyone on your youtube channel. Aspies can become easily overwhelmed if they have too much going on in their lives. I'm very grateful for all you've contributed to my knowledge of AS. Best wishes to you in your schoolwork!
megacj84 1 month ago
Something I didn't understand. When you say you have "stalkers" do you mean people that watch your videos, comments on them and send you pms? Isn't that supposed to be the idea of having a video blog in youtube? for people to follow your videos?
bbbbbb222222 1 month ago
Where is the conference in Denmark? My bf have AS too and his danish. It would be helpful for him or us. Good luck with your exam and the speech.
danishpinay 1 month ago
@danishpinay In Århus. There's a link to the website in the description :)
TheAnMish 1 month ago
Thanks for the videos. Very interesting.
Have you tried mediating to reduce stress? I recommend Vipassana, firstly to settle the mind and secondly for insight. You don't have to be a student of the dhamma or a buddhist to benefit from it.
francisjbishop 1 month ago
i hope your stress level goes down some.. i definitely enjoy your videos being a aspie as well and while having aspie friends they are not aware of it and clearly can't talk about with them so it's really nice hearing someone else talk about their experiences so honestly..
banjobat 1 month ago
Thank you for information on the conference... I didn't know... And in my own hometown... Thank you... I'll try to be there... Hope to see you there... :) And just take care of yourself... Your YT-followers can wait... If they have any idea what it is like to have AS then they'll understand...
SkateriAKASue 1 month ago
Don't worry about replying, You get too many messages for anyone to expect a personalized reply.
As for anything else - we aren't paying so it's our own tough titty.
AnonGemini 1 month ago
@Anmish
Suggestion: Maybe you could review all your PM's real quick-like, and take note of the ones that ask for "Aspie Advice." And then, like maybe 6 months down the line-- when things settle down-- make a "More Aspie Answers" video.
(Not saying you have to do that... just thinking of a compromise. Somehow, you gotta set those PM's aside for now.)
BTW, you are doing a fantastic job and you are an amazing person!
MrDaydreamer1584 1 month ago
What does Christmas and New Year do to Aspies?? You can make a video about that in the future. Sure sounds like me. Don't have to Reply to this AnMish.
And People stop Emailing her so Much.
And AnMish,Haven't you heard? the internet is not real, therefore can not be a source of stress.
You let people comment on your videos which is more than enough.
Oh, And I am finally going to get new shoes.Hooray for me.My old ones are broken and have holes in them.And no I'm doing Okay financially.
MiniFrostGiant 1 month ago
@MiniFrostGiant
Just a slow shopper.or a picky one.
MiniFrostGiant 1 month ago
understanding: check
respecting: check
Thank you for being you and helping alot of people and still keeping yourself healthy.
FatherToaSon 1 month ago
Oh god, I'm so glad I have never sent you a PM. U poor lass.
Do what you gotta do to get by mate. What you do has value & you have gotten so much better at this.
I often agonise over wording & have regrets almost immediately after clicking send/post. It would be worse if I had reason to believe I was dealing with a fragile individual. Seriously just do that thingamy blocking PMs.
kommissarw 1 month ago
I respect you SO VERY MUCH for the level of respect, kindness, and honesty that you show to your viewers! You apologize when there is really no need to apologize, and it just further reveals what an excellent individual you are. Any Aspie should be able to sympathize the overwhelming nature of these sorts of things (I certainly do, anyway). It's always nice to see a new video from you in my subscriptions, but I will certainly never begrudge you an existence with diminished stress. Be well!
moscowmasha 1 month ago
Don't apologize for requiring air just like any other breathing being.
Those who cannot grasp that are either self-absorbed or ignoramuses.
I thank you for your videos.
otur1 1 month ago
I'm glad your exams went well. looking after yourself and your needs puts you in the best position you can be to help other people. do your homework. drink plenty of water. keep up contact with the people who mean the most to you. get enough rest and have fun. IDK if you believe in prayer, but I'm praying for your stress level to drop - not because I want you to make more videos, which I do, but because stress isnt good for anyone. xxx
thebestwillow 1 month ago
no need to reply to every message love. :) you don't have to reply to every single person that talks to you if its stressful and interfering with your personal life.
deathberry0 1 month ago
what does new years do to an aspie, I have no idea what you mean...I stayed home and got drunk. :P
deathberry0 1 month ago
I like you. Yer neat.
lupocephalic 1 month ago
Just take a chill pill. And please if it makes you feel better dont answer my message.
MJapan555 1 month ago
I hope you can return soon, but it is okay if you don't. :) You've got a life far more important than responding to anybody on here. You have a beautiful face and even more beautiful heart and you shouldn't cause harm to either of those by spending too much time responding to a couple of nerds like me. Take Care! :)
RyanTheIncredible882 1 month ago
Pretty much what philhellenes said ^^. Also, goodluck with the exams. And take it easy! :)
Torandrius 1 month ago
IMO you don't owe any of us anything and your insights and willingness to relate your experience has definitely helped me. I understood your position RE email/FB etc immediately and people who push you on the issue are idiots. You're the first thing I clicked on once ASD was put forth to me and your videos are many 'A_HA !!!" moments for me. I suspect I'm guilty of a couple of PM's that were bizarre and or creepy. You should do it at whatever rate and context keep it as enjoyable to do. Be well
rabchild 1 month ago
Dont Stress Yourself Out Take The Time Off Youtube As Long As You Need! You Have The Right To Privacy!! Hugs Ida
idis91 1 month ago
@TheAnMish as Phil said, don't worry about the YouTube thing. You have much more important things to do in life. Going to University and getting A's and speaking at a conference, that's incredible! How many people can do that?
I don't know if it's an Aspie thing or an ADD thing, but I get self critical over the littlest shit. I have to take a deep breath and take a step back and remind myself to relax.
Tell your friends and family the situation. They will understand.
Best wishes.
Satanos777 1 month ago
Oh okay. Thanks for explaining all of that to me. I think I'll go make a sandwich now. Yeah, yeah.. I'm gonna go make a sandwich now. Definitely going to go make a sandwich. Good luck with your life though.
g0dh4x 1 month ago
*put*
sarahparsons87 1 month ago
Body - albeit noble reasons i'm sure - but because of the nature of the subject and the intensity of personal beliefs behind watching videos or responding to videos there will be times when it all gets too much and a bit out of hand.
You have a right to privacy and people need to respect that. Otherwise you really are doing a great job.
sarahparsons87 1 month ago
You have been very honest in this video and that deserves respect in my opinion. People who don't feel the same way are not worth bothering with.
I have put a few videos on youtube myself discussing my experience of AS and it is a very personal thing to do. There is the real possibility of people becoming obsessed with every aspect of your life and the chance that they will out you on a pedestal above other people.
The reasons for doing videos for youtube will be slightly different for every..
sarahparsons87 1 month ago
Now I understand better why you don't usually add peolpe to facebook, and don't like contacting people outside this site, you don't want them littering it with aspie stuff.
Myrtone 1 month ago
ahh christmas i understand immensely i didn't even go to last years christmas i ended up bursting out with tears i didn't want to go that much i prefer the time on my own
guitaristman23 1 month ago
Helping people or trying to make a difference in a positive way when I can is a big thing with me. So, perhaps I can help you, try to learn to take some time to be selfish, to not care, it is very hard, but I find that it helps me to be giving the rest of the time.
stephenhawton 1 month ago
stalked??! geez yeah you make a big difference you have taught me alot about understanding why i am the way i am in my own way good luck with the rest of your exams and what ever else is stressing you
citydriver 1 month ago
Thank you for all your videos! You have been such a blessing to me in helping me to understand that I am probably Aspie, and to not feel so unusual in this world, and to accept myself more. Please take good care of yourself. Rest, relax, enjoy!
Bruceborn2bme 1 month ago
God are you ever patient, wow. I would not have the energy to respond to all those messages...especially if I took twenty minutes on some of them!!! Good luck with school, -hope everything went well with your written exams. :)
monicanietzsche 1 month ago
@monicanietzsche Thank you :)
I'll have my written grade on January 30th, I think. So I'll have been waiting for almost two months by then.. I'm getting very impatient :D
TheAnMish 1 month ago
Look, you already help us a LOT already and i'm sure that everyone here is just happy that you help us understand how it is... Take care of yourself, hope you succeed in school, and happy new year !
RagingGab76 1 month ago
It's good to reflect on healthy boundaries as communication media are changing. .... It is possible to be over-conscientious, which itself is a question of degree..... Take care of yourself and share when you can or feel like it.
WildDoveX 1 month ago
Great video, thanks for taking the time.
dillkidisback 1 month ago
I'm with philhellenes, totally. Well spoken dude!
That being said, I will suggest you to give out an email-address for stalkers. That way, you know where to deal with the stalkers, and the stalkers will know where to stalk you. Win-win - I think. :D
YouDabian 1 month ago
Your stress comes out clearly in this video. You have no obligation to us. Take care of yourself.
Do not respond to this.
Maxdwolf 1 month ago
IMO you're trying to be perfect, when you're close enough on this front. Take care of U, set healthy priorities and boundaries. Life changes, we change, it's all good. Smile. Thanks.
aspeykirk 1 month ago
You don't have to give explanations, you can just do what you can. I know explanations is a aspie thing but if you can't do something don't think of an explanation on why you can't do something just say I can't.
Take time to relax, do whatever helps you relax and DON'T OVERWHELM YOURSELF!
Genin99 1 month ago
Remember, you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.
Nhurm 1 month ago
5:47 was totally expecting a solid "Fuck off!" I'm sure it's warranted in a number of these situations :P
NinteenEightyNothing 1 month ago 4
@NinteenEightyNothing LOL that would have been funny
secretstream4 1 month ago
thank you anmish i understand life gets crazy sometimes
TheDevindevine 1 month ago
Nice apology, but honestly I don't think it is necessary. You've provided a lot of educational material for anyone dealing with Asperger traits and their families. That is enough. :) Thank you for all the effort you put out there.
SnowWalkerPrime 1 month ago
DONT BE STRESSED , JUST MAKE A VIDEO TO ANSWER EVERYONE THATS NOT FAMILY OR CLOSE FRIEND , AN YOU DONT HAVE TO ANSWER ME
bullenchris18 1 month ago
You don't need to apologize, we love you and want you to be doing whatever makes you happy and calm.
CuriosityRocks 1 month ago
Its ok, take your time and remember that you dont owe anything to anyone. Especially not a stranger on internet. Your personal wellbeing is more important. :)
kamileishon 1 month ago
Time for a Sabbatical I think. Your work here has been greatly appreciated. Take a year break and refer everyone to Tony Attwood! x
davidjamespearson 1 month ago
thanks for info- i put the link of the conference in our group- please upload some speeches if u want to- even if they are in danish.
gustav864 1 month ago
You don't owe us anything. Come back when you feel rejuvenated and when you'll know that you'll enjoy it again. We don't have any expectations, really. We would rather have a healthy unstressed Anmish some of the time rather than a stressed out unhappy Anmish.
RubberWilbur 1 month ago
Make sure you take time to apply some stress-reduction measures and have some fun, whatever kind you prefer! I know, and I'm sure you know too, that chronic stress can lead to depression.
guitarpedant 1 month ago
In virtue of you making youtube videos I feel you go beyond whatever personal duty you feel compelled to adhere to. I also do not believe people asking for more than the enormous amount of videos you have done, is entirely couth.
Glad to see your have another video up!
Dretlin 1 month ago
You do not do yourself or those you wish to help any favours by "burning out", or becoming stressed by a sense of duty. You're just one person. You've already done a lot and I'm sure will do more, as and when you can. Don't beat yourself up if you need time (hours OR years) for yourself.
philhellenes 1 month ago 20
@philhellenes As always, you make so much sense :) Thank you.
TheAnMish 1 month ago 8
Take your time , goodluck!
NanevicJr 1 month ago
great vlog thanks for sharing
malevolenceXXXensues 1 month ago
Don't feel like you owe anyone anything. We are greatful for what you have done so far.
Also, of the people I know who have lots of subscribers, I don't know of anyone who was able to keep answering every personal message after they reached 1500 subs, so don't knock yourself out. You're being way too hard on yourself.
TheMessianicManic 1 month ago 3