thanks for your videos speaking about this....the one thing to remember is that you are NOT alone in having social anxieties. You said in the video how you watch other peoples videos that have anxieties but seem so normal and speak well. Ok well, i watch your videos and to me you seem intelligent, able to clearly express yourself, not boring, not mumbling and seem like a person id hang out with....i think sometimes we are our own worst enemies and critics. will be watching more vids my friend!
Thank you. This video dint cure my SA, but from a day of walking around a million people that are to me perfect, i was able to forget my life for 7 minutes listening to you. Nice to hear a voice talking about it that wasnt my own. thank you
No sir. Your speech is articulate and your words are well pronounced. I have been reading a book called "Self Esteem" byMatthew McKay and Patrick Fanning, it may help you. Your "inner critic" may be hurting you.
i used to be in care and i see things so i haved that problem and i have a sma think they have taken me to see some one about it i have started getting it slowly over 3 year but now ave total got it and cant talk at all out side my house and some people get mad at me because they dont know i have it yet and dont understand i wanted to know am 18 now so can i still get it at 18 i got this a month ago plz email me at privatejenandash@gmail.com
know exactly how u feel, ur really brave to post a video about a personal problem , you dont need to ski down a big hill to do something others cant do, how many confident people could post a video about a personal problem/issue and we all have them , youve done something others cant do over and over and over, think of all the people youve helped. Sometimes embracing your anxiety as odd as that sounds is worth a try, own your anxiety , become friends with it, sounds crazy but this makes a differ
Im a very noticeable person at 6.6in tall and the mix of people talking to me all the time and my reaction toward them makes me feel like such a freak. I cant even look people in the eye and the shorter they are the more pathetic I feel =L I feel you bro
@stopcallingmegothic I'd LOVE to be your height! :P I'm only 6'0 and every morning I measure myself in the hope that I've grown but since I'm 18 now it doesn't look like I'll grow anymore. :'(
@crisisofconsciousnes I had fillings put in during the mid 80s and I have recently had an orthodontist and dental tech both tell me they are silver dental fillings. I
@RB902050 well then I think that is your problem. I had and am still having problems. The thing is that you need them out of your mouth and then you need to chelate that shit also. Look up andy cutler chelation.. You symptoms are typical mercury poisoning!!
@RB902050 Let me know if you want any info or advice, I have been in the same boat with social anxiety, low self esteem issues. Other symptoms from the mercury I had were bad memory, bloated after eating, anger problems, tiredness/ chronic fatigue. And loads more, Check out this page mercuryfreenow . com/layperson/symptoms . html
I am 24 years old, Social Anxiety has controlled my life since I was a child and I hate it. There is so much that I could have accomplished without this baggage. Many don't understand what social anxiety is, so they do not know that it is not voluntary. I am currently pursuing my Bachelors in Psychology and am hoping to continue to Graduate school so that I can help people like you and me.
it's funny how sometimes you feel that ur the only one but by watching this vid and reading all the comments, ur like OMG there is others like me! Can we just have our own world? That'd be great!
@YORKPEPPER hey asshole why do you have to say stuff like that? That's horrible ! I would bet you anything this guy could out think you and beat the hell outta you! Your just another dick thats insecure about yourself so you pick on others! Go troll on something worth trolling!
Social anxiety is something that everyone has experienced at some point in there life... As for the mumbling I've been terrible with that for a while, I think I just am not confident in my voice, the way it sounds just doesn't match what I hear in my head or something... But what helps A LOT is just reading a book out loud every day, it seems weird at first, but reading aloud really improves speaking socially for me
I have similar problems like you - comparing myself to other people and being unable to speak right sometimes...
It seems like my anxiety is bases on where I am, who i am with etc. It is strange. Like when I am at the Gym with my friend I feel like a different person.
When I was in college I barely talked and had high anxiety and was always afraid when I was the last when to walk in the room because everyone is in the room
dude you just have to not care what people think and all way enjoy yourself in what your doing. you need to relax. i used to be like you but you have to just throw your self out there
hy man whereo youwork?I noticed a great improvement in your speaking in this video vs your others...maybe even your new vids. what was ur traumatic incident if you don;t mind me asking?
@rctriplefresh5 I did have two major surgeries the last few months, jaw and nose. I also have big plans for this upcoming year and I intend to go back to college to pursue a degree in geology or chemistry. I am a Hospital Corpsman in the US Navy and I work in a general surgery clinic as a medical assistant. Thanks to the Navy for my improved facial look! Now I don't feel so ugly.:)
You also say that you'd like "to be a smooth talker,not mumbling and to convey your thoughts is a smooth way." Whaaaat?Are you kidding me?I'm surrounded by college graduates who can hardly convey their thoughts as easily as you do.You build up strong arguments,you support them,you're intelligent,and I believe that you think of yourself really low,you should work on your self esteem a bit more and not on your way of talking/ expressing your thoughts.That's just fine and you do better than others.
@laylaindy What I find odd is I have only mild anxiety when having to give a speech and after about 2-3 minutes I'm fairly comfortable. My weakness is engaging in small talk. I am seemingly at a loss in engaging in small talk. I am hoping in my return to college or commercial diving school I will gain more subject material and become more educated in various fields helping me to engage in small talk.
I listened to what you said and I wondered whether trying to constantly impress the people around you is the best way of coping with social anxiety.I personally don't have this issue and I also don't give a damn about what others think of me or how I compare to them.I just know I'm better than many.May be one thing you should try is to care less so that your confidence will come from the inside and you won't need constant assurance that you are good in what you do as well as better that others.
same here! when i stutter or when i go out to eat whateva, i fear people are watching me so i try to eat as normal i can but i dont n have food all over me when i walk out. its like that in EVERY situation. there is some horrible people out there that do judge you n shout stuff like retard, psycho and what not but i try and try harder to get thru it. its really hard sometimes because i get depressed and thinkin nothing is ever gonna change which thats what i usually think. i hate social anxiety!
I've had the same problem with the way I speak. I barely had any peers around me until I was about 10 and then I mumbled so much that people couldn't understand what I was saying. I did sort of manage to redevolop my voice so I talked more straightly and less monotone though, but it wasn't easy and took years. Some things that seem to help are to listen to other people and try to immitate how they talk, or try to be relaxed and emphasize your emotions when you talk.
I hate people that make fun of other people because they can't do something as well. I have social anxiety too but really bad so I get made fun of a lot.
Man keep talking too youtube, its a great way too learn too cope with the stress, Keep up the good work, its good too see a cool guy with the same problem as me
You're a cool guy. It takes a lot of balls to put this video up in the first place, and there are many people just like you who suffer from social anxiety. The key is to be accepting of yourself. Accept yourself for who you are and the rest will fall into place...
You're awesome! Not everyone is socially gifted, and from reading all these comments, there are a whole lot of people that are not blessed with intelligence or compassion either. Anyways, keep doing what you're doing. You obviously have many other blessings (ie you have a great body, you sound intelligent, and you seem to be a lot of fun) so I hope you keep focusing on those and enjoy a long and happy life.
Jesus can sent you free. he is the only hope to man kind, Jesus said come to me and I will give u a new life! ask Jesus to come to your heart,that Jesus died in the cross so everybody that accept him will have peace and eternal life.
I have this bad and I am thinking of finding a guy to talk to or text with... someone who has it too and wants to get to know someone with similar issues.
i have the same problem, sometimes when im talking or trying to explain something and im nervous, my mind goes blank and i either forget what i was saying or sound like an idiot
I masturbate a lot, thinking of adolescent boys and young pre-teenage girls. When I go out to socialize I feel really uncomfortable around children. Does that mean I got social anxiety too?
@Maloperverso Naah, means you are probably turning into a pedophile and experiencing moral conflicts :/ Depends on your age though. If you are like 15 it is somewhat okay.
I heard if you do something social crazy, then everything else will seem like nothing. This guy ran naked across this parking lot, parade and was arrested by police lol he told me that everything he does in his life cannot compare to that. i guess you have to do a thing that you consider more fearful than any normal social situation.
@TheRightjustice I know exactly what I'm gonna do and it involves skiing, mountaineering, cliff drops, and high speed. Mess up in ski mountaineering and life could be cut short. Mess up in asking a girl out, chances are you'll live.
This is a great video I just recently realized that I had social anxiety but ppls video help keep me motivated to improve. If you have any tips let me know Ive tried alot of things I even joined the military thinking that would help but still its still a source of trouble for me. It has helped me but I still cant get to where I was before anxiety was a big problem for me.
If anyone says that you are shit! Just tell them "Ok i am shit, you are better than me, (walk off saying) see how much i care?" If people keep molesting you say "It bothers you the way i talk? Then how about the way i fucking scream? and give a fucking scream the close you can to their ears until they ears blow up you dont even have to go to physical agression . Fight man FIGHT! and it's done. Its you're life. We are all dead anyways in a few years so we best defend ourselves. Easier said i know
RB, I totally get you. I share most of your insecurities regarding what other people think. The thing is.. i know that I'm a nice guy. And I know that I'm worth being around. And you do too. I just have such a hard time convincing myself of that when it comes to interacting with others. I'm not a smooth talker by any means and I regrettably foster the irrational fear of people being critical of everything that I am. Thus, I have a hard time asserting myself. You and I are good people!
There is nothing wrong with you! Did you know that almost everyone has social anxiety in some form, It's a natural part of us. But you must learn to take control of your anxiety and not let it ruin your life! First off take risks! If your afraid of a situation then you have to expose yourself to that situation. If you fail then try again and if you fail again just keep on trying.
I feel for you man, I'm 27 and cant seem to find a girl...I tried therapy and it helped a bit, but once I stopped, that fear and anxiety came back...I try not to think about it and embrace being lonely, but it is hard when you have no one to talk to...stay strong man and never give up hope.
I think the root cause is fearing judgement of others. It's that fear that stops you from conveying your thoughts in a "smooth efficient manner". And btw, the way you spoke in that video was perfectly clear to me; you didn't sound like a retard and i wouldn't have even noticed if you hadn't mentioned it.
The only thing that will help you is to tackle the problem at hand. Not going ski mountaineering. The confidence your'll gain from that will be short lived. Go and talk to people and push your comfort zone. Make a plan and tackle it.
Respect bro...have cold showers...join up boxing....pray to God....they may help with confidence. Let us soldier on my friend....I can only say one thing that is....+1 bro....+1.....just remember there are others like us fighting this fight...it is some consolation...however little to know we are soldiers on the same side fighting this war....we are not alone
I also have social phobias, not as bad as your tho. But I have also suffered from posttraumatic stress disorder, and that was bad enough. I'm over 30 too and have to struggle everyday with my feelings. I don't understand your lack of GF tho, you're pretty nicely build and good looking enough to have a relationship with a girl. Just go for it, if you can. And no sir, you don't sound like a retard.
You seem like a really nice guy. Please don't give up if they make fun of you then they dont understand you and they arent worth talking to. Its simple as that. I have all the same issues with social situations but I believe that the solution will come in time as long as you look for it. :)
i think that your social anxiety has a snow ball effect where you feel akward in social situations which causes you to act abnormally which is not attractive to other people... you need to take some risks and confront your fears and i know how difficult it can be I also suffer from anxiety and i have found that antianxiety medication helps me some in social situations but that it also has a negative effect, that is that you dont regulate your speech as much
@157dixon Which is why I think this is a severe problem for a minority of people. It seems abnormality or awkwardness tends to be seen as offensive or as threatning as someone who is known to be a dangerous convict. I often use this comparison because it's true: People are as likely to stay away from somoene who is awkward in a social situation just the same as your neigborhood pedophile. Awkwardness is seen as evil many times. Sad but true.
@RB902050 Dude, buy some books on anxiety. I am living proof that this can get so much better. At one point, I was watching Beavis and Butthead and there was a scene where cars were lined up outside the place they worked and honking their horns to rush them and B&B were just laughing. I got so tense my stomach actually got tight. It used to be THAT bad. My anxiety is NOTHING close to that anymore.
@157dixon EXACTLY!!!!!!! It's a circle---You feel nervous talking, and then it ends up showing up because you stutter or whatever, then the people start reacting badly to you stuttering (they give you an odd look or whatever), and then you think, "See? I knew they would treat me like a weirdo". You have to fix this slowly. There are some great books on anxiety, they helped me a lot. My anxiety problem used to be crippling, man the stories I could tell you. It is so much better now.
Just be yourself, thats all ican say. I have all the same feelings you do. Literally everything youve said to a T. I can tell you have confidence because youve posted several videos of yourself on youtube, and that is something i wont do. really dude, you seem like a good guy. people like us just have to remind ourselves not to care what others think. you seem alot cooler than some of the people ive met recently, well good luck bro.
You remind me of my son. He's 20. Always been into lifting weights. I beleive he has Social Anxiety Disorder. He feels like he's strong on the outside, but doesn't know how he would deal with verbal confrontation. He struggled in high school because he never felt like he fit it. It's like he wants to have friends and meet people, but he so worried that what he says will sound stupid that he avoids social situations. Two of his younger brothers have it as well. I hope things get better for you.
I know how you feel, I wish I knew what started this in me. I keep looking back thinking what could have caused me to feel this way, i've had a normal life, but for some reason I feel this way every day of my life and i'm tired of people thinking im crazy or something
I hear you man. I'm going to be 30 in a month and am still struggling with the same issues. It's beyond embarrassing now. I don't know what the hell I'm going to do. I just can't see a future for myself in the current culture.
@bobblefish I figure as long as I have my physical health, I have a means of fighting my battle to the end. To give up would be like surrendoring to the enemy when you still the means to fight.
@RB902050 It's a different fight though. I'd physically have the balls to take on any physical challenge... I can't fight my mental problems with muscle etc though. It's like a UFC fighter trying to beat a chess champion at chess: his physical body means nothing... not to sound depressing. I'm sticking around though. I'm used to humiliation, so even a good life finally panning out at 50 would be worth hanging around for. I'll just keep battling until then.
@bobblefish Dude, buy some books on anxiety. I am living proof that this can get so much better. At one point, I was watching Beavis and Butthead and there was a scene where cars were lined up outside the place they worked and honking their horns to rush them and B&B were just laughing. I got so tense my stomach actually got tight. It used to be THAT bad. My anxiety is NOTHING close to that anymore.
something about u reminds me of the situation from jersery shore lol.. i mean that as a compliment as well.. im not a female but im sure millions of girls would like that
You're not alone. Just tell yourself that whenever you're feeling like crap, there are plenty of other people sharing the same problems, just hang in there. And go and do some ski mountaineering allready!!
I feel the EXACT way man.. I haven't been diagnosed yet because I keep putting off going to the psychiatrist because I'm scared... I believe it is social anxiety I have but just like you I've questioned myself if I had aspergers or Schizotypal personality disorder... many more... I just don't know what to do. I get so depressed all of the time... The last time I remember being truly happy was about 6 years ago... it's been a sad depressing path ever since. How do you make a living? idk how I wil
you don't sound the least bit incoherent or strange. you express yourself just fine. i suffer from social anxiety too and I think you've got a good handle on some healthy ways of coping via exercise etc. sounds like you've helped and touched a lot of people.
wow your the first other man i've heard speak of this i know exactly how you feel, i came across music thou and learned how to "speak with the music" what started the healing was meditation then I came across others who practice it and i found that a group meditation can be helpfull specially because after the first 10 mins say i start to feel the pressure of interacting disolves and it becomes easier and more rewarding to speak with people when that inner chatter calms down. thnks 4 posting
I want to tell you that when I came across this video and listened to your symptoms and how your anxieties made you feel I thought I was listening to myself. Literally what you are verbalizing in this video, I think to myself all the time through self talk. You seem to enjoy physical activities, and you were speaking about trying to find an activity that would give you confidence. I have an idea for you: Gracie Jiu-Jitsu. Please find an academy close to you and give it a try. You will be amazed.
iam a girl with the same type of anxiety, off and on. at times i extremely suffer.i appriciate you sharing yourself. there are so many people who suffer from similar disorders.most people would never suspect i am feeling the same way.ive done modeling for 3 years now. people think im very confident, its been brought on because of an eating disorder, bulimia/ addiction. isolating myself for solong. its difficult to function the way id love to.im hoping one day i can help others and share my story
I got anxiety when i hit puberty.... I really want a girlfriend. But i feel forced to stay at home in front of computer all the time. I also will never get a job because i stress so much and can't concentrate at school, i used to do fine before puberty ¤_¤
search "surat al nas" on youtube. its a koran verse against anxiety and fear. it means verse of people in arabic. and please send me a message about how you feel after listening to it :)
When I was younger I made the mistake of 'trying' to make friends. I forgot how to just relax around people. I simply ignore the thoughts ' you need to speak', 'be funny'. I'm myself. If they don't like it, don't worry.
im a lazy man that to acces my youtube account but for thanking you im writing you have such guts to put this man you are awesome and i thank you sirme 2 have that social phobia and it looks like peoples like judjing me and looking at me always i think im ugly and i look like a fool to others when i go to restaurants i feel it really bad i dont know im now a teenager i think i should contact a doctor.. i dont like to perform acts i public i dont know what to do but im sure i will overcome it
Hey dude, I have more of a general anxiety disorder, but I know how you feel in certain aspects of the social anxiety. To be honest, I think you're very brave for putting this up on youtube. You're speaking to thousands of people! I think that's a great leap for someone with SA. And honestly, by the size of your arms, I don't think anyone is making fun of you at all man. Keep your head up bro.
well i can certainly tell from watching this video that you are NOT retarded. You remind me a lot of myself. I usually am home 24/7 and wish I was with people because I feel weird that I am always alone but at the same time I am so much more comfortable being by myself. So it's a catch 22. As far as Aspergers goes I think you should get yourself tested for that as well as autism. Also see a therapist, but definitely get yourself tested. I have the same social anxiety especially bout way i talk
i feel everyone's pain here......i dropped out of hs because i couldnt take the stress anymore....ive tried to better myself but i cant shake my soicial anxiety....im embarrased to see my own famliy and old friends...the only way i can deal with day by day life is by drinking beer.....im in my 30's now and i still feel trapped......anyone in my shoes ?
@iTSY0URb0YEE I'm 30 and have dealt with SA since I was about fourteen years old. I dropped out of high school also when I was sixteen and when i was in HS I avoided most activities and have continued to as well. There is treatment for it but no cure. I simply have gotten to the point to where I no longer am concerned about making new friends. I went back to school got my GED and am finishing up college, I have made little friends there but I will have a degree in six months, God willing.
It's hard to live with, I'll say this. We have more trouble making new friends and bonding with co workers. Usually when I do go out with family members I am close too, or the few friends I have I managed to bond with over the years. If you're looking for a way to get out more, i would suggest doing so with those you are close too. When you must go out on your own, just remember that noone is really looking down on you, or in most cases noticing you, even if they are it's no skin off your back.
I do a whole lot more now than I did in the past, I have been to more of my old High Schools football games as an adult than I did in Highschool. lol. I go to watch college games, which is usually packed with 100,000's of people. The trick is to understanding that you may not be sociable but it is your personality and if others don't like it then you aren't obligated to accommodating them. There are also websites you could find where people meet for chat/dating who have SA.There are ways to cope
The root cause of my social anxiety is that I'm a minger, never been comfortable in my own skin, was constantly teased for being ugly, even had it from family members. Not much I can do about it so I'm a virtual recluse.
@EVILAKUMA I'm the same, Had a rough childhood ( dad) , I was shy, n when I talk sometimes my words are messed together. when i started high school I never went to school, failed, got into fights, was with bad crowds. I'm getting my hs credits now though n i'm trying to get over it. I still get angry really quickly n i really hate snapping at people for little things.
I know how you feel. Send me a private message if you ever want to talk about, I've suffered all my conscious life from this kind of thing (ever since kindergarten).
Your such a smart guy, and it comes across in a clear, honest, unencumbered way whether our not you can see it. You have a level of natural introspection that most people could never achieve even with years of guided therapy. Above all else, the thing that I think is most strikingly clear: your a good person. I hate generalizations usually but, that's basically what sums it up. You just seem honest and loving. Its comforting.
the only thing i've found to help is being around people and boostin my ego if you well, online school kinda fucked my shit up, and i'm glad to be going to college next semester.
but bro, much, much love, i hope you read this because there's other ppl out there which is pretty comforting :)
2.Allow it, fully experience it/fully let it be, even surrender to it, let it flood you :) WITHOUT LABELING IT. DONT SAY "THIS IS BAD" or "FUCK MY LIFE IS TERRIBLE" ETC, Just let it be there, no matter HOW INTENSE it is :) it is perfectly fine sensation. Only diff. Between you guys and the rest of the world (lol) is that YALL resist and fight the feeling. And call it SOCIAL ANXIETY. And blame yourselves for something that's OK!
Just relax bro.Practice makes perfect.Or close to perfect as possibe.Just put yourself in as many social situation as possible.It's all in your head.Most people you meet are genuine people and will not judge you.
im sorry for your experiences buddy hope you do well...i was diagnosed with SA 2 years and if i tell u my story you wont believe the things that i had to do....trust me...
Dude I understand what you're going through coz Ive been through the same thing.please do not ever give up coz I know you are a wonderful person.congratulations on posting this video coz it shows that you have the courage to do it.
dude, u probably already know this, but don't even listen to people that don't know you, they say crap just because they can but they really don't care if you say or do something stupid, people just prefer to be assholes sometimes
Oh hey! Have you heard about anxiety zero technique (It is at anxiety0.info)? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my father pretty much cured panick attacks with it.
SA has fucked up my short term memory and I just cant find the words to keep a conversation goin , Im freak out when something awkward happens too does anyone else get this ?
@insanebuzzie Yeah throughout my life such as following directions where you are doing a drill that everyone else is doing but you freak out because you did it wrong and then you get yelled at and everyone laughs at you and then your brain just goes dead. You can't think and then come off as real dumb. Or if someone jokes with you and you cant think of a snappy comeback and your brain freezes up. Its worse when there are lots of people around watching you.
@insanebuzzie Yeah throughout my life such as following directions where you are doing a drill that everyone else is doing but you freak out because you did it wrong and then you get yelled at and everyone laughs at you and then your brain just goes dead. You can't think and then come off as real dumb. Or if someone jokes with you and you cant think of a snappy comeback and your brain freezes up. Its worse when there are lots of people around watching you.
Dude try to have BIG goals and use all off your time on acting and trying to acheving this goals, the more you act the less time you have to think about all thiss bulshit. And read a lot of books, you need to understend how the brain warks if you want to resolve this shit. Dont try to be like everyone els, try to be the best you can Be. Gl man
Dude try to have BIG goals and use all off your time on acting and trying to acheving this goals, the more you act the less time you have to think about all thiss bulshit. And read a lot of books, you need to understend how the brain warks if you want to resolve this shit. Gl man
Speaking fluently can be a difficult one when there's lots going through your head that impede it. For me that would be confidence, feeling stupid, social paranoia... Even if you were retarded, which you certainly are not, shouldn't you be treated with respect and kindness rather than pushed aside because you're not quite up to par?
I think your an awesome person who's able to talk about how it is with social anxiety.
duces02 7 hours ago
thanks for your videos speaking about this....the one thing to remember is that you are NOT alone in having social anxieties. You said in the video how you watch other peoples videos that have anxieties but seem so normal and speak well. Ok well, i watch your videos and to me you seem intelligent, able to clearly express yourself, not boring, not mumbling and seem like a person id hang out with....i think sometimes we are our own worst enemies and critics. will be watching more vids my friend!
PrinceTian 15 hours ago
Jesus is your best friend
xXxDarkAdeptusxXx 5 days ago
@xXxDarkAdeptusxXx amen
Piffydaily 4 days ago
Thank you. This video dint cure my SA, but from a day of walking around a million people that are to me perfect, i was able to forget my life for 7 minutes listening to you. Nice to hear a voice talking about it that wasnt my own. thank you
HeckYes240sx 1 week ago
No sir. Your speech is articulate and your words are well pronounced. I have been reading a book called "Self Esteem" byMatthew McKay and Patrick Fanning, it may help you. Your "inner critic" may be hurting you.
Good video.
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i used to be in care and i see things so i haved that problem and i have a sma think they have taken me to see some one about it i have started getting it slowly over 3 year but now ave total got it and cant talk at all out side my house and some people get mad at me because they dont know i have it yet and dont understand i wanted to know am 18 now so can i still get it at 18 i got this a month ago plz email me at privatejenandash@gmail.com
PeytonMadison1993 1 week ago
I like the way you talk. I think you have interesting things to say.
MySerenity11 1 week ago
know exactly how u feel, ur really brave to post a video about a personal problem , you dont need to ski down a big hill to do something others cant do, how many confident people could post a video about a personal problem/issue and we all have them , youve done something others cant do over and over and over, think of all the people youve helped. Sometimes embracing your anxiety as odd as that sounds is worth a try, own your anxiety , become friends with it, sounds crazy but this makes a differ
anthonyok 1 week ago
dude you may have ocd.
xtermsharky 1 week ago
Im a very noticeable person at 6.6in tall and the mix of people talking to me all the time and my reaction toward them makes me feel like such a freak. I cant even look people in the eye and the shorter they are the more pathetic I feel =L I feel you bro
stopcallingmegothic 2 weeks ago
@stopcallingmegothic I'd LOVE to be your height! :P I'm only 6'0 and every morning I measure myself in the hope that I've grown but since I'm 18 now it doesn't look like I'll grow anymore. :'(
MrDuBears 1 week ago
@MrDuBears im also 18 and i wish id stop growing lol
stopcallingmegothic 6 days ago
you look and sound very normal- you are a good looking guy.
TheNikNacs 2 weeks ago
do you have silver dental fillings? They contain mercury, If you have these they could be your problem!
crisisofconsciousnes 2 weeks ago
@crisisofconsciousnes I had fillings put in during the mid 80s and I have recently had an orthodontist and dental tech both tell me they are silver dental fillings. I
RB902050 2 weeks ago
@RB902050 well then I think that is your problem. I had and am still having problems. The thing is that you need them out of your mouth and then you need to chelate that shit also. Look up andy cutler chelation.. You symptoms are typical mercury poisoning!!
crisisofconsciousnes 2 weeks ago
@RB902050 Let me know if you want any info or advice, I have been in the same boat with social anxiety, low self esteem issues. Other symptoms from the mercury I had were bad memory, bloated after eating, anger problems, tiredness/ chronic fatigue. And loads more, Check out this page mercuryfreenow . com/layperson/symptoms . html
crisisofconsciousnes 2 weeks ago
>that feel
GhostLate 2 weeks ago
I am 24 years old, Social Anxiety has controlled my life since I was a child and I hate it. There is so much that I could have accomplished without this baggage. Many don't understand what social anxiety is, so they do not know that it is not voluntary. I am currently pursuing my Bachelors in Psychology and am hoping to continue to Graduate school so that I can help people like you and me.
dparra87 2 weeks ago
it's funny how sometimes you feel that ur the only one but by watching this vid and reading all the comments, ur like OMG there is others like me! Can we just have our own world? That'd be great!
11940ful 2 weeks ago
@YORKPEPPER hey asshole why do you have to say stuff like that? That's horrible ! I would bet you anything this guy could out think you and beat the hell outta you! Your just another dick thats insecure about yourself so you pick on others! Go troll on something worth trolling!
bestreceiverever18 2 weeks ago
Social anxiety is something that everyone has experienced at some point in there life... As for the mumbling I've been terrible with that for a while, I think I just am not confident in my voice, the way it sounds just doesn't match what I hear in my head or something... But what helps A LOT is just reading a book out loud every day, it seems weird at first, but reading aloud really improves speaking socially for me
NateZarzarChannel 2 weeks ago
I have similar problems like you - comparing myself to other people and being unable to speak right sometimes...
It seems like my anxiety is bases on where I am, who i am with etc. It is strange. Like when I am at the Gym with my friend I feel like a different person.
When I was in college I barely talked and had high anxiety and was always afraid when I was the last when to walk in the room because everyone is in the room
HomicidalDavid 2 weeks ago
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HomicidalDavid 2 weeks ago
dude you just have to not care what people think and all way enjoy yourself in what your doing. you need to relax. i used to be like you but you have to just throw your self out there
Freshweedstudios 2 weeks ago
hy man whereo youwork?I noticed a great improvement in your speaking in this video vs your others...maybe even your new vids. what was ur traumatic incident if you don;t mind me asking?
rctriplefresh5 2 weeks ago
@rctriplefresh5 I did have two major surgeries the last few months, jaw and nose. I also have big plans for this upcoming year and I intend to go back to college to pursue a degree in geology or chemistry. I am a Hospital Corpsman in the US Navy and I work in a general surgery clinic as a medical assistant. Thanks to the Navy for my improved facial look! Now I don't feel so ugly.:)
RB902050 2 weeks ago
You also say that you'd like "to be a smooth talker,not mumbling and to convey your thoughts is a smooth way." Whaaaat?Are you kidding me?I'm surrounded by college graduates who can hardly convey their thoughts as easily as you do.You build up strong arguments,you support them,you're intelligent,and I believe that you think of yourself really low,you should work on your self esteem a bit more and not on your way of talking/ expressing your thoughts.That's just fine and you do better than others.
laylaindy 2 weeks ago
@laylaindy What I find odd is I have only mild anxiety when having to give a speech and after about 2-3 minutes I'm fairly comfortable. My weakness is engaging in small talk. I am seemingly at a loss in engaging in small talk. I am hoping in my return to college or commercial diving school I will gain more subject material and become more educated in various fields helping me to engage in small talk.
RB902050 2 weeks ago
I listened to what you said and I wondered whether trying to constantly impress the people around you is the best way of coping with social anxiety.I personally don't have this issue and I also don't give a damn about what others think of me or how I compare to them.I just know I'm better than many.May be one thing you should try is to care less so that your confidence will come from the inside and you won't need constant assurance that you are good in what you do as well as better that others.
laylaindy 2 weeks ago
same here! when i stutter or when i go out to eat whateva, i fear people are watching me so i try to eat as normal i can but i dont n have food all over me when i walk out. its like that in EVERY situation. there is some horrible people out there that do judge you n shout stuff like retard, psycho and what not but i try and try harder to get thru it. its really hard sometimes because i get depressed and thinkin nothing is ever gonna change which thats what i usually think. i hate social anxiety!
leonkennedy1259 2 weeks ago
you just have to not give a shit what everybody else thinks about you
TheShnitster 2 weeks ago
I've had the same problem with the way I speak. I barely had any peers around me until I was about 10 and then I mumbled so much that people couldn't understand what I was saying. I did sort of manage to redevolop my voice so I talked more straightly and less monotone though, but it wasn't easy and took years. Some things that seem to help are to listen to other people and try to immitate how they talk, or try to be relaxed and emphasize your emotions when you talk.
ConfusedAnxiousLife 2 weeks ago
I hate people that make fun of other people because they can't do something as well. I have social anxiety too but really bad so I get made fun of a lot.
rooissexy 2 weeks ago
I feel like this so mutch and ive never heard of social anxiety
EmBoNgoClickClick 3 weeks ago
Man keep talking too youtube, its a great way too learn too cope with the stress, Keep up the good work, its good too see a cool guy with the same problem as me
Realzi 3 weeks ago
You're a cool guy. It takes a lot of balls to put this video up in the first place, and there are many people just like you who suffer from social anxiety. The key is to be accepting of yourself. Accept yourself for who you are and the rest will fall into place...
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tooldruid 3 weeks ago
You're awesome! Not everyone is socially gifted, and from reading all these comments, there are a whole lot of people that are not blessed with intelligence or compassion either. Anyways, keep doing what you're doing. You obviously have many other blessings (ie you have a great body, you sound intelligent, and you seem to be a lot of fun) so I hope you keep focusing on those and enjoy a long and happy life.
PunkyBrews 3 weeks ago
Stop comparing. Most of them are are looking at you and feeling insecure.... Find people who respect you and go from there.
lemmingsalad 3 weeks ago
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lemmingsalad 3 weeks ago
YOUR JUST GAY!!
YORKPEPPER 3 weeks ago
U FUCKING UGLY BRO HAAHAHAHA U JULD STOP WORKING ON YOUR ARMS. AND START WOKING ON YOUR FACE!!!
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bodysurf1able 3 weeks ago
Check out EFT on youtube that should help...
ryan94521 3 weeks ago
you're hot and you're lovely! you should feel confident :)
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filipemirandamartins 4 weeks ago
I have this bad and I am thinking of finding a guy to talk to or text with... someone who has it too and wants to get to know someone with similar issues.
Hopeandhurtfultruth 1 month ago
i have the same problem, sometimes when im talking or trying to explain something and im nervous, my mind goes blank and i either forget what i was saying or sound like an idiot
mice64 1 month ago
I masturbate a lot, thinking of adolescent boys and young pre-teenage girls. When I go out to socialize I feel really uncomfortable around children. Does that mean I got social anxiety too?
Maloperverso 1 month ago
@Maloperverso Naah, means you are probably turning into a pedophile and experiencing moral conflicts :/ Depends on your age though. If you are like 15 it is somewhat okay.
Archferumphis 1 month ago
I heard if you do something social crazy, then everything else will seem like nothing. This guy ran naked across this parking lot, parade and was arrested by police lol he told me that everything he does in his life cannot compare to that. i guess you have to do a thing that you consider more fearful than any normal social situation.
TheRightjustice 1 month ago
@TheRightjustice I know exactly what I'm gonna do and it involves skiing, mountaineering, cliff drops, and high speed. Mess up in ski mountaineering and life could be cut short. Mess up in asking a girl out, chances are you'll live.
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TheRightjustice 1 month ago
This is a great video I just recently realized that I had social anxiety but ppls video help keep me motivated to improve. If you have any tips let me know Ive tried alot of things I even joined the military thinking that would help but still its still a source of trouble for me. It has helped me but I still cant get to where I was before anxiety was a big problem for me.
haliaeetus19 1 month ago
If anyone says that you are shit! Just tell them "Ok i am shit, you are better than me, (walk off saying) see how much i care?" If people keep molesting you say "It bothers you the way i talk? Then how about the way i fucking scream? and give a fucking scream the close you can to their ears until they ears blow up you dont even have to go to physical agression . Fight man FIGHT! and it's done. Its you're life. We are all dead anyways in a few years so we best defend ourselves. Easier said i know
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RB, I totally get you. I share most of your insecurities regarding what other people think. The thing is.. i know that I'm a nice guy. And I know that I'm worth being around. And you do too. I just have such a hard time convincing myself of that when it comes to interacting with others. I'm not a smooth talker by any means and I regrettably foster the irrational fear of people being critical of everything that I am. Thus, I have a hard time asserting myself. You and I are good people!
Cheddarsmokie 1 month ago
There is nothing wrong with you! Did you know that almost everyone has social anxiety in some form, It's a natural part of us. But you must learn to take control of your anxiety and not let it ruin your life! First off take risks! If your afraid of a situation then you have to expose yourself to that situation. If you fail then try again and if you fail again just keep on trying.
Graome 1 month ago
I feel for you man, I'm 27 and cant seem to find a girl...I tried therapy and it helped a bit, but once I stopped, that fear and anxiety came back...I try not to think about it and embrace being lonely, but it is hard when you have no one to talk to...stay strong man and never give up hope.
whobetterthanish 1 month ago
I think the root cause is fearing judgement of others. It's that fear that stops you from conveying your thoughts in a "smooth efficient manner". And btw, the way you spoke in that video was perfectly clear to me; you didn't sound like a retard and i wouldn't have even noticed if you hadn't mentioned it.
louea380 1 month ago
The only thing that will help you is to tackle the problem at hand. Not going ski mountaineering. The confidence your'll gain from that will be short lived. Go and talk to people and push your comfort zone. Make a plan and tackle it.
louea380 1 month ago
Respect bro...have cold showers...join up boxing....pray to God....they may help with confidence. Let us soldier on my friend....I can only say one thing that is....+1 bro....+1.....just remember there are others like us fighting this fight...it is some consolation...however little to know we are soldiers on the same side fighting this war....we are not alone
UCantHandleTheTruth3 1 month ago
I also have social phobias, not as bad as your tho. But I have also suffered from posttraumatic stress disorder, and that was bad enough. I'm over 30 too and have to struggle everyday with my feelings. I don't understand your lack of GF tho, you're pretty nicely build and good looking enough to have a relationship with a girl. Just go for it, if you can. And no sir, you don't sound like a retard.
Imamar2 1 month ago
You seem like a really nice guy. Please don't give up if they make fun of you then they dont understand you and they arent worth talking to. Its simple as that. I have all the same issues with social situations but I believe that the solution will come in time as long as you look for it. :)
zXJulianXz 1 month ago
i feel for you, i have been there. and stil have no friends and shy and anxiety and depressed at times.
destruct2construct 1 month ago
i think that your social anxiety has a snow ball effect where you feel akward in social situations which causes you to act abnormally which is not attractive to other people... you need to take some risks and confront your fears and i know how difficult it can be I also suffer from anxiety and i have found that antianxiety medication helps me some in social situations but that it also has a negative effect, that is that you dont regulate your speech as much
157dixon 1 month ago
@157dixon Which is why I think this is a severe problem for a minority of people. It seems abnormality or awkwardness tends to be seen as offensive or as threatning as someone who is known to be a dangerous convict. I often use this comparison because it's true: People are as likely to stay away from somoene who is awkward in a social situation just the same as your neigborhood pedophile. Awkwardness is seen as evil many times. Sad but true.
RB902050 1 month ago
@RB902050 Dude, buy some books on anxiety. I am living proof that this can get so much better. At one point, I was watching Beavis and Butthead and there was a scene where cars were lined up outside the place they worked and honking their horns to rush them and B&B were just laughing. I got so tense my stomach actually got tight. It used to be THAT bad. My anxiety is NOTHING close to that anymore.
moonrice555 1 month ago
@157dixon EXACTLY!!!!!!! It's a circle---You feel nervous talking, and then it ends up showing up because you stutter or whatever, then the people start reacting badly to you stuttering (they give you an odd look or whatever), and then you think, "See? I knew they would treat me like a weirdo". You have to fix this slowly. There are some great books on anxiety, they helped me a lot. My anxiety problem used to be crippling, man the stories I could tell you. It is so much better now.
moonrice555 1 month ago
made me cry ......god bless u.
pvnpjr 1 month ago
face those cowards buddy cuz you are strong and the best!
pvnpjr 1 month ago
You uploaded this video on my birthday, stay strong!
thatBAYZchick 1 month ago
Just be yourself, thats all ican say. I have all the same feelings you do. Literally everything youve said to a T. I can tell you have confidence because youve posted several videos of yourself on youtube, and that is something i wont do. really dude, you seem like a good guy. people like us just have to remind ourselves not to care what others think. you seem alot cooler than some of the people ive met recently, well good luck bro.
willister54 1 month ago
You remind me of my son. He's 20. Always been into lifting weights. I beleive he has Social Anxiety Disorder. He feels like he's strong on the outside, but doesn't know how he would deal with verbal confrontation. He struggled in high school because he never felt like he fit it. It's like he wants to have friends and meet people, but he so worried that what he says will sound stupid that he avoids social situations. Two of his younger brothers have it as well. I hope things get better for you.
shannonlcorum 1 month ago
I know how you feel, I wish I knew what started this in me. I keep looking back thinking what could have caused me to feel this way, i've had a normal life, but for some reason I feel this way every day of my life and i'm tired of people thinking im crazy or something
trollman8888 1 month ago
Fuck this planet
Markio123123 1 month ago
You guys PLEASE STAY STRONG... AND DONT HURT YOURSELVES.... .. OHH LORD HELP THEM...
jadenwoods11 1 month ago
I hear you man. I'm going to be 30 in a month and am still struggling with the same issues. It's beyond embarrassing now. I don't know what the hell I'm going to do. I just can't see a future for myself in the current culture.
bobblefish 1 month ago
@bobblefish I figure as long as I have my physical health, I have a means of fighting my battle to the end. To give up would be like surrendoring to the enemy when you still the means to fight.
RB902050 1 month ago
@RB902050 It's a different fight though. I'd physically have the balls to take on any physical challenge... I can't fight my mental problems with muscle etc though. It's like a UFC fighter trying to beat a chess champion at chess: his physical body means nothing... not to sound depressing. I'm sticking around though. I'm used to humiliation, so even a good life finally panning out at 50 would be worth hanging around for. I'll just keep battling until then.
bobblefish 1 month ago
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@bobblefish Dude, buy some books on anxiety. I am living proof that this can get so much better. At one point, I was watching Beavis and Butthead and there was a scene where cars were lined up outside the place they worked and honking their horns to rush them and B&B were just laughing. I got so tense my stomach actually got tight. It used to be THAT bad. My anxiety is NOTHING close to that anymore.
moonrice555 1 month ago
something about u reminds me of the situation from jersery shore lol.. i mean that as a compliment as well.. im not a female but im sure millions of girls would like that
2smoothbra 1 month ago
You're not alone. Just tell yourself that whenever you're feeling like crap, there are plenty of other people sharing the same problems, just hang in there. And go and do some ski mountaineering allready!!
hellsbells747 1 month ago
thanks
ToniSkit 1 month ago
I get confused and don't know what to say when I'm in some situations because of anxiety. It's all very frustrating... Thank God for healing though.
oscarmarin1995 2 months ago
I have many "bugs" (distraction) in my mind when attacked by the irrational feelings
viviane5572 2 months ago
i wish all of us who are like this could live in a different world. cause eveyone else always thinks that people like us are mentally challenged ...
thatprettytajaye 2 months ago
I feel the EXACT way man.. I haven't been diagnosed yet because I keep putting off going to the psychiatrist because I'm scared... I believe it is social anxiety I have but just like you I've questioned myself if I had aspergers or Schizotypal personality disorder... many more... I just don't know what to do. I get so depressed all of the time... The last time I remember being truly happy was about 6 years ago... it's been a sad depressing path ever since. How do you make a living? idk how I wil
Teskulthor 2 months ago
Awesome video man, I know how you feel.
OverlordJake 2 months ago 2
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Grow some balls and stop crying you little b!tch!
MrStridethrough 2 months ago
i hate when people tell me to stop mumbling, or stop stumbling on your words. Its something that i can't control. I hate this world
MIKEYSMONARCH 2 months ago 28
i know what you mean
TheFriendlyVampire1 2 months ago 13
you don't sound the least bit incoherent or strange. you express yourself just fine. i suffer from social anxiety too and I think you've got a good handle on some healthy ways of coping via exercise etc. sounds like you've helped and touched a lot of people.
PotentM 2 months ago
you're prefect guy!!! i don't know why you don't have a girlfriend! if you have this issue you should get help if it's so bad!
krelhntklerhbg 2 months ago
wow your the first other man i've heard speak of this i know exactly how you feel, i came across music thou and learned how to "speak with the music" what started the healing was meditation then I came across others who practice it and i found that a group meditation can be helpfull specially because after the first 10 mins say i start to feel the pressure of interacting disolves and it becomes easier and more rewarding to speak with people when that inner chatter calms down. thnks 4 posting
AfrowBass 2 months ago
Lol you shouldn't care what you sound like when you speak! You could kick their asses :P
jk I know how social anxiety is, I have it too :<
noodlez4me 2 months ago
I want to tell you that when I came across this video and listened to your symptoms and how your anxieties made you feel I thought I was listening to myself. Literally what you are verbalizing in this video, I think to myself all the time through self talk. You seem to enjoy physical activities, and you were speaking about trying to find an activity that would give you confidence. I have an idea for you: Gracie Jiu-Jitsu. Please find an academy close to you and give it a try. You will be amazed.
U4IKCRYSYS 2 months ago
iam a girl with the same type of anxiety, off and on. at times i extremely suffer.i appriciate you sharing yourself. there are so many people who suffer from similar disorders.most people would never suspect i am feeling the same way.ive done modeling for 3 years now. people think im very confident, its been brought on because of an eating disorder, bulimia/ addiction. isolating myself for solong. its difficult to function the way id love to.im hoping one day i can help others and share my story
jdeetch1 2 months ago
im in the same boat bro
Greasyxx 2 months ago
I got anxiety when i hit puberty.... I really want a girlfriend. But i feel forced to stay at home in front of computer all the time. I also will never get a job because i stress so much and can't concentrate at school, i used to do fine before puberty ¤_¤
JohanBomholt 2 months ago
search "surat al nas" on youtube. its a koran verse against anxiety and fear. it means verse of people in arabic. and please send me a message about how you feel after listening to it :)
outernettboy 3 months ago
i feel you man
10bedbug 3 months ago
When I was younger I made the mistake of 'trying' to make friends. I forgot how to just relax around people. I simply ignore the thoughts ' you need to speak', 'be funny'. I'm myself. If they don't like it, don't worry.
66kaisersoza 3 months ago
Far out dude that's exactly what have and how I think and how I behave!! All the best bro I hope you getting better soon : )
938608 3 months ago
thats exactly how i feel to,your not aloneee! :DD
XxChekeroxX 3 months ago
im a lazy man that to acces my youtube account but for thanking you im writing you have such guts to put this man you are awesome and i thank you sirme 2 have that social phobia and it looks like peoples like judjing me and looking at me always i think im ugly and i look like a fool to others when i go to restaurants i feel it really bad i dont know im now a teenager i think i should contact a doctor.. i dont like to perform acts i public i dont know what to do but im sure i will overcome it
Sheron124 3 months ago
Hey dude, I have more of a general anxiety disorder, but I know how you feel in certain aspects of the social anxiety. To be honest, I think you're very brave for putting this up on youtube. You're speaking to thousands of people! I think that's a great leap for someone with SA. And honestly, by the size of your arms, I don't think anyone is making fun of you at all man. Keep your head up bro.
somegrass1987 3 months ago
well i can certainly tell from watching this video that you are NOT retarded. You remind me a lot of myself. I usually am home 24/7 and wish I was with people because I feel weird that I am always alone but at the same time I am so much more comfortable being by myself. So it's a catch 22. As far as Aspergers goes I think you should get yourself tested for that as well as autism. Also see a therapist, but definitely get yourself tested. I have the same social anxiety especially bout way i talk
somotastic21 3 months ago
i feel everyone's pain here......i dropped out of hs because i couldnt take the stress anymore....ive tried to better myself but i cant shake my soicial anxiety....im embarrased to see my own famliy and old friends...the only way i can deal with day by day life is by drinking beer.....im in my 30's now and i still feel trapped......anyone in my shoes ?
iTSY0URb0YEE 3 months ago
@iTSY0URb0YEE I'm 30 and have dealt with SA since I was about fourteen years old. I dropped out of high school also when I was sixteen and when i was in HS I avoided most activities and have continued to as well. There is treatment for it but no cure. I simply have gotten to the point to where I no longer am concerned about making new friends. I went back to school got my GED and am finishing up college, I have made little friends there but I will have a degree in six months, God willing.
daFattylover 3 months ago
It's hard to live with, I'll say this. We have more trouble making new friends and bonding with co workers. Usually when I do go out with family members I am close too, or the few friends I have I managed to bond with over the years. If you're looking for a way to get out more, i would suggest doing so with those you are close too. When you must go out on your own, just remember that noone is really looking down on you, or in most cases noticing you, even if they are it's no skin off your back.
daFattylover 3 months ago
I do a whole lot more now than I did in the past, I have been to more of my old High Schools football games as an adult than I did in Highschool. lol. I go to watch college games, which is usually packed with 100,000's of people. The trick is to understanding that you may not be sociable but it is your personality and if others don't like it then you aren't obligated to accommodating them. There are also websites you could find where people meet for chat/dating who have SA.There are ways to cope
daFattylover 3 months ago
The root cause of my social anxiety is that I'm a minger, never been comfortable in my own skin, was constantly teased for being ugly, even had it from family members. Not much I can do about it so I'm a virtual recluse.
Cornbag 3 months ago
i have lived like this for many years, i've come to accept that if people wanna exclude you, theyre not worth knowing
GriefTourist 3 months ago
Hey man, you just opened your heart to hundreds of random people: A feat I seldom observe. Props man!
TheMetalRiffer 3 months ago
i always pretend and is always ugly..always!
SIMONDUKEN 4 months ago
hey DB902050 , bro u are a tank.
EVILAKUMA 4 months ago
I am 28 and today I think I have S.A.D . I had a rough childhood. Always shy kid , never talked alot , talked fast , mumbled.
In highschool I got into wrong friends , rebelled , got into trouble , messed up my HS and dropped out.
I have lost lot of friends due to getting angry real fast at small things and taking things personally.
I am also a SLOW learner in math , and other subjects , i have a hard time learning things .
I sit in my room alot nowadays , dont work, WHAT TO DO ?
EVILAKUMA 4 months ago
@EVILAKUMA I'm the same, Had a rough childhood ( dad) , I was shy, n when I talk sometimes my words are messed together. when i started high school I never went to school, failed, got into fights, was with bad crowds. I'm getting my hs credits now though n i'm trying to get over it. I still get angry really quickly n i really hate snapping at people for little things.
YorkMillz 3 months ago
I know how you feel. Send me a private message if you ever want to talk about, I've suffered all my conscious life from this kind of thing (ever since kindergarten).
I'd be glad to talk to you about your situation.
someonenobodycares 4 months ago
i enjoyed ur vid thanks :D
tonyfalca 4 months ago
Your such a smart guy, and it comes across in a clear, honest, unencumbered way whether our not you can see it. You have a level of natural introspection that most people could never achieve even with years of guided therapy. Above all else, the thing that I think is most strikingly clear: your a good person. I hate generalizations usually but, that's basically what sums it up. You just seem honest and loving. Its comforting.
123212tanner 4 months ago
Well at leats you dont have anxiety attacks such as sweating or rapid heart beats.
WhoAr3You 4 months ago
yo bro, i deal with major social anxiety as well.
the only thing i've found to help is being around people and boostin my ego if you well, online school kinda fucked my shit up, and i'm glad to be going to college next semester.
but bro, much, much love, i hope you read this because there's other ppl out there which is pretty comforting :)
much love...peace
JayBox2010 4 months ago
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CURE FOR SOCIAL ANXIETY:
1.It is ONLY A SENSATION IN THE BODY!
2.Allow it, fully experience it/fully let it be, even surrender to it, let it flood you :) WITHOUT LABELING IT. DONT SAY "THIS IS BAD" or "FUCK MY LIFE IS TERRIBLE" ETC, Just let it be there, no matter HOW INTENSE it is :) it is perfectly fine sensation. Only diff. Between you guys and the rest of the world (lol) is that YALL resist and fight the feeling. And call it SOCIAL ANXIETY. And blame yourselves for something that's OK!
WhatsHappening783402 4 months ago
dude, its like your retelling my life.
pointbky 4 months ago 2
Just relax bro.Practice makes perfect.Or close to perfect as possibe.Just put yourself in as many social situation as possible.It's all in your head.Most people you meet are genuine people and will not judge you.
MrGawillie 4 months ago
yep know how u feel bro... keep your head up
seeuriden27 4 months ago
I can't tell if you are fat, or buff. lol
happyVIDwatcher 4 months ago
I know how it's like too, feeling like people are judging me.
topspin316 4 months ago
i feel for you dude.. im going thru the samething..
yazmin584 4 months ago
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yazmin584 4 months ago
im sorry for your experiences buddy hope you do well...i was diagnosed with SA 2 years and if i tell u my story you wont believe the things that i had to do....trust me...
johnT123ify 5 months ago
Message me, I would love to talk to you about social anxiety and share our experiences. We have alot in common :-)
iamsociallyawkward 6 months ago
Dude I understand what you're going through coz Ive been through the same thing.please do not ever give up coz I know you are a wonderful person.congratulations on posting this video coz it shows that you have the courage to do it.
aom9010 6 months ago
nice physique.
Sivels 7 months ago
dude, u probably already know this, but don't even listen to people that don't know you, they say crap just because they can but they really don't care if you say or do something stupid, people just prefer to be assholes sometimes
mgmor7 7 months ago
Oh hey! Have you heard about anxiety zero technique (It is at anxiety0.info)? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my father pretty much cured panick attacks with it.
Solehasgar 7 months ago
SA has fucked up my short term memory and I just cant find the words to keep a conversation goin , Im freak out when something awkward happens too does anyone else get this ?
insanebuzzie 8 months ago 2
@insanebuzzie Yeah throughout my life such as following directions where you are doing a drill that everyone else is doing but you freak out because you did it wrong and then you get yelled at and everyone laughs at you and then your brain just goes dead. You can't think and then come off as real dumb. Or if someone jokes with you and you cant think of a snappy comeback and your brain freezes up. Its worse when there are lots of people around watching you.
yoyo2ma 4 months ago
@insanebuzzie Yeah throughout my life such as following directions where you are doing a drill that everyone else is doing but you freak out because you did it wrong and then you get yelled at and everyone laughs at you and then your brain just goes dead. You can't think and then come off as real dumb. Or if someone jokes with you and you cant think of a snappy comeback and your brain freezes up. Its worse when there are lots of people around watching you.
yoyo2ma 4 months ago
Lol sorry for triple post)
DartMass 8 months ago
Dude try to have BIG goals and use all off your time on acting and trying to acheving this goals, the more you act the less time you have to think about all thiss bulshit. And read a lot of books, you need to understend how the brain warks if you want to resolve this shit. Dont try to be like everyone els, try to be the best you can Be. Gl man
DartMass 8 months ago
Dude try to have BIG goals and use all off your time on acting and trying to acheving this goals, the more you act the less time you have to think about all thiss bulshit. And read a lot of books, you need to understend how the brain warks if you want to resolve this shit. Gl man
DartMass 8 months ago
Bro, you're in great shape. I'm sure a great number of people envy that about you.
HowToChangeTheWorld 8 months ago
when i'm in public my voice becomes really quiet and people can't understand what i say the first time and i always need to repeat myself :/
danceisfun43 8 months ago
Speaking fluently can be a difficult one when there's lots going through your head that impede it. For me that would be confidence, feeling stupid, social paranoia... Even if you were retarded, which you certainly are not, shouldn't you be treated with respect and kindness rather than pushed aside because you're not quite up to par?
ModerateMartian 9 months ago