Amellia you made me cry, The Do over describes axctly how I've always felt I can actualy pinpoint age 11 when I started the weight fight,.thats a lotta years going up and down and everytime up its up further.I'm working my way through your videos I'm so glad I came across yours Thank-you. Its weird its like you know exactly how I feel and I'm so old compared to you LOL You must make your Mom proud!
it's being a long time since your big change! but if you allowed me.... i'll sugest a different hair style, or color, wear accesories, fabric flowers on your hair, smocky eyes, you are beautiful, but all this little things will make your natural beauty look more intense...give it a try!!! tnks for all the sharing!
I've seen your earlier video before you lost weight and it's hard to believe it's the same person. You're an inspiration. Oh, and you have fabulous eyes too.
Sometimes we go through things that we may never understand. I try to look at it as a learning process and a way of teaching myself what is important in life and to live with gratitude. It is only natural to have the urge for a do over. I get them from time to time, my only catch would be to not to delete the good things. But if we don;t make mistakes how are we ever to appreciate what we do have and to grow. (To be continued)
Just look at how much more worldly and how much you have grown as a person, that you may never would have accomplished if you didn't go through good or bad. For what I can tell it has made you a much more beautiful person inside and out and now your pursuing a passion "nursing" that your really passionate at. I have been watching you video blogs since June 08, 2 months before I had my gastric bypass and your metamorphisis is amazing, a real inspiration. A beautiful butterfly has emerged! ;)
That's wisdom... Our experiences shape us and if we like who we are now, we can't linger in regrets! We can only appreciate now and make decisions that, we hope, are going to be for the best. Do the best we can with what we have...
Hi Amelia. I've been watching your videos for weeks and this one really touched me because I'm at the phase now where I'm feeling like I've ruined my body. I can't wait to be where you're at, but I'm curious, now that you've had complications and almost died, do you regret the gastric bypass now? In any case, you're such an inspiration and I keep making my husband come watch your videos because they are so funny- like the fashion show one. Anyway, I think you're awesome and appreciate you.
Just had that conversation last week with Joel. I STILL do not regret my decision. I believe that the complication happened so that I could teach others and maybe save someones life. If the right test had been done sooner I would have suffered very little. By telling people to get an upper GI I am hopefully saving them from the same fate. I would change nothing, I promise. I am so much better now and healthier and content
So many times, I have wished that I could just travel back in time, and re-live my life. Not make the mistakes that I made. It would be nice. I hope to be able to get a tummy tuck in a year or so once I lose all the weight. :)
sometimes i hate myself for ruining my teenage years.
thank you for thinking about it this way "if I always been small I wouldn't appreciate the life I have now" it helped me alot specially when I'm staring to feel bad for wasting my life and ruining my body
This vid made me tear up... reminded me to keep kicking and screaming and fighting to get my do over! God! 30 years of carrying around all this weight is enough... I just want it done so I can get my do over and live healthy and smart. My Dr. has said yes... now its just getting the ball rolling.
Joel my husband says that 2 tatoos is enough, after that I will be a tatooed lady LOL like at the carnival. Oh well.. tatoo would be cool but I think the scars will be very small and hard to see after a whiel
are you wearing a winnie the pooh shirt that says i heart carbs at the meet n greet. that is hilarious! i cant wait to be able to wear more shirts that are meant for ppl our age. I have one mens that says where the heck is wild mountain alaska? soon i will be able to get into the juniors sizes, I love the randomness of stuff like that.
yeah, I have a weakness for silly shirts. Joel my hubby will wear only plain shirts with no logos and I am the opposite. That shirt was a 5 dollar shirt from Walmart and being skinny is so much cheaper! clothes are funner and easier to get for cheap. Look forward to junior sizes girlie!
How did the meet and greet go??? I love your video's even though I have had a band - I just think you are amazing!!! Such a great sense of humour and seem just an all round cutie pie.
i think its really great , that you´ll use a bikini 4 summer , but please be careful doll , we don´t want that scar to get dark!!!!
oh i made my father watch your videos , you´re an example of the great power of mind , and strengh for him !!!!
the great thing is , he doesn´t speak english , so i have to translate everything 4 him ,thats ok by me , i heve the chance to watch your great videos !!!!
I have had the do over thoughts too. thanks for reminding me of that. I am gonna sign my daughter up for piano AND something physical too, like dance. i dont want her to wake up one day and realize she is fat and got that way before she even knew what fat was. healthy portions and activity HAVE to be part of a "normal" life for her from the start. hope yall had fun at the meet and greet!
zoesmybaby, you are so smart to help your dd be normal weight as a child. When I was growing up, we could ONLY eat at the dinner table and NEVER between meals. We waited till food was on the table. I rode my bike and did a lot of JUMP ROPE every day. I was 5'4" and 108# when I began high school and I was NOT skinny, but muscular from all the activity I did.
yeah, I want people to know that activity and intervention as a child is important. My parents are super loving and cool, but my childhood was very turbulent and unstable.
G'day Amelia I amd going in for slice and dice on the 27th. Thanks for posting all you videos, they are informative and you are an inspirational. Thanks. Regards Harry
I am having mine in December and I just hope I do as good as you. Your videos have helped so much. I just joined but I have watched your videos for a long time now. I understand what you are saying about being little now. People who have never been over weight don't understand what its like. You look really good!
I can't even tell you how much your videos have meant to me. I have been on a similar quest to better myself with no support and would love just the vague hint of good wishes from my family which I do not have. You are truly blessed and you're right this is your "Do over" and you deserve it!!! I will continue to follow your progress and I am seeking my own venture as well. God Bless!
I know what you mean by getting a fresh start on life. I too apreciate my time as a big person, because of that, I will be able too enjoy my life as a 'normal'-weight person afterwards. I too feel very lucky to get a second chance, hope that I not screw it up...
I'm only 2 weeks post-op, but I can't wait to see the result in about a year...
Everything has to come in it's own time. Because you were big, you have a different prospective on life and appreciate the pain of others going through weight gain and poor self esteem. Use this experience as your guide to teaching others. You are a beautiful person and have been on a remarkable journey, you will always have compassion and patience for humankind. Grace to you, Ang.
You made me cry lol I'm 5 months out now feel great and in onederland. I know with out my wls I'd still be a list of meds still using a machine to keep me breathing at night .Maybe it's to early to say but I am so happy now with how I look and feel saggy baggy and all! I wish I would signed up for the meet and greet. I hope everyone has a blast!
you don't have to sign up, its just a come thing. If you can get to greenville SC you can come. Some won't make it till tommorrow.. maybe you could still make it...
This is amazing. I just found your video's today.. I was looking through tummy tuck videos, I'm having mine in Dec,thus found all of your gastric bypass vids, and am just amazed. You should be so proud, and keep doing what you are doin. Don't ever let anyone discourage you.
It is nice to see a glow back in your cheeks! You look healthy again :-)
It is the best feeling in the world after you have a good clear out!
I agree with the bikini - it is nice to see you enjoying your new life and body. You have achieved your dream through surgery and a lot of hard work! you do have a 2nd chance!
I understand exactly what you mean by about skinny people not appreciating their gift of health!
When you talked about the do-over I know 100% how you felt. I feel that way now and hope that a year from now I have as great of success and a level head like you do. Hope you had a great time at the meet and greet and got tons of skinny clothes!
No matter which emotions come up--because they exist in all of us--your having the courage to open up to your viewers shows just how fabulous you are AND have always been. I spend a lot of time wishing for the "do-over" thing, too--in fact an unhealthy amt of time, which freezes me from action (very convenient). (continued)
I cop out at the fear of needing to lose 200+ lbs because of the reality that the 6-7 procedures I'd need to remove excess skin (+ I do very poorly in every type of surgery). Oart II: I've ruined my body, no matter what team of genius plastic surgeons I'd have at my side. I get shingles/worsened nerve damage--permanent--each of my WLS surgeries. Now, YOU are doing KICK ASS, Amelia. I really care about you because you are so open and honest.
I hate you Amelia you skinny beeyatch! IM KIDDING. I just wanted the honor of saying that to you because god only knows how many times we have all felt that towards the sticky chicks. You look awesome and I love that sweater on you.
such a high honor indeed! I was working the other day and this woman walked in with her hubby, I saw her look at me and then grab him around the waist, I was standing with a guy talking and we both looked at each other and snickered. I was amazed that she felt the need to protect her man from me LOL
Hi Amelia! Well let me say you are a true insipration! I am 375 LBS and I am approved for the surgery, YAY! But the thing that is happening now is the anxiety of complications, and hearing my friends and random people tellin me the horrors of the surgery and that "its forever" and if you have a bad experiance "it's forever" I have to say they are like spookin the crap out of me and I am so freakin conflicted now.I don't know what to do... any words of advice? I think you look AMAZING BTW! -Steve
yeah, share my vids with them. I have had dozens of people say that their family was kinda scared or on the fence about it or even completely against it and then they shared my channel with them and they got some peace of mind. Tell them they are free to write me and ask questions ok?
*hugs*
ultimately you do this for YOU and no one else can do it for you
first of all, I love your outfit your wearing, that color blue looks good on you :) second, i also feel like that, i have ruined my body and wish i could turn back time... i hope that i can make it to goal like you did. and third, hopefully someday there will be a meet and greet on the west coast you can come to =) you are one of the biggest inspirations to me. Hope you have a good weekend!
SOOOOO inspirational! thank you! i'm getting lapband on december 8th, but my sis got gastric bypass last august...thank you for your honesty and for being candid. glad you are happy and healthy! :)
OMG. This video was great. I wanted a do over too and we got it girl!! I love seeing this transparent side of you. I don't regret my decision at all either. Success is OURS!! :)
You did get a do over,but you DID have to work hard for it. Glad you can get past the regrets. All will continue to get even better for you. Thanks for sharing your heart felt experience with all us. Keep up the gr8 work you have done in your life.
just sent a text. is joel gonna be hanging out with everyone this weekend? davy wants to meet him. he needs a guy friend and as much as i've raved about joel, he thinks they'll get along.
i'm glad you didn't ebay the clothes. i thought you might. i didn't want some of those going to strangers. they had memories. =)
you made me cry. WLS is TOTALLY a do over. i never realized that. wow.
we need to catch up and talk. text me back tomorrow. =)
Will do, joel said he will come to "A DINNER" LOL he is so funny. So yeah Davy and he can sit together and wonder how they got surrounded by WLS women LOL.
I could not eBay those clothes, I loved them and they were from you. I did give a few to Allisonpacino and a family member who really needed them. You will see alot of them still at the swap.
I hear ya on the swim suit with the skirts on them Im still there but am losing slowly but staying focused. Any hoo hell ya girl get you a bikini this next summer and wear it with pride. You go girl.
I know what you mean about wanting a do-over. Give me that mulligan! WLS is the closest thing to it. But I don't beleive that anyone 'allows' themselves into obesity - I think they are fighting tooth and nail all the way up, and asking for help along the way, and I didn't have any doctors along the way provide any help. But now we have this tool, WLS, that can help. And these videos maybe can help people understand better what it has been like for us. You keep up the good work. [[[hugs]]] Mia
yeah i know that I didn't allow it to happen, but when your in the middle of it lost and sad it feels like guilt and you sometimes don't notice till you've gone far and you feel like you allowed it to happen even if that isn't the truth. Emotions are not logical for sure...
I understand. :) Thank you for sharing. Yes, there is sandness, guilt, and there is the sense of 'how did this happen?' Well, sharing your story is an inspiration to so many of us and I am thankful that you were able to do that. Keep doing what you are doing. We love you for it.
hello there... love how you got your hair styled. A very touching video that I'm sure alot of us questioned to ourselves, I know I did. And play back on the past bullies, their cruel words, mean games/jokes.. But throughout it all we always seem to pull through even no matter how much it hurt. Look at you now till before. Hugs to you. :o)
So not styled LOL, slept on after washing last night at the gym and just blow drying, but thanks! Hair styled by CPAP mask and tossing and turning LOL
My cousin had gastric bypass and complications with it nearly killed her. Now, two years later, I asked her if she regretted having the surgery. She said absolutely not. She says it was worth it, to be where she is now. So I dont think the lack of regret is just because you had no problems with the surgery. Fatness is a prison. How much would we pay for freedom?
yeah, I just added the fact that I had a smooth journey because the people who have had their doubts and occasional bouts of regret deserve to be able to feel it and not feel bad about having had regrets. I just haven't had any. I know I might have had some if I were struggling, but I am sure I would still at the end be grateful and I want it to be understood that having bouts of regret is a vaild emotion. Wow.. rambling no? I just want people to know I respect them and their feelings
WOW! You have just summarized exactly how I feel. I have often looked at myself and wondered the same thing. How could I have ruined this body the way that I did. Hopefully I will be getting my own "do over" soon. Thanks for sharing your life. You're a role model for us all.
I am thinking the same way about a bikini! I'm already shopping for one online!
I totally agree with you on the do-over thing. I gained 63 pounds when I was pregnant with my daughter and totally destroyed my body! I used being pregnant as an excuse to eat.
I am having my "mommy makeover" on January 26, and I'm beyond excited! That will be my do-over day.
You look great, by the way! Love the hair! Are you alowed to exercise yet?
Awesome! I agree with being able to appreciate so much more because of the journey you have been on in life. I think it's meant to be that way. I'm really happy you are so grateful and at this place in your life! Hugs, Carolyn
My friend had a tummy tuck similar to yours and she has one of those bikinis that is sort of a one piece with the center strip of fabric that attach the top to the bottom, but her sides and lower back are all still showing. It covers her scars and looks amazing!
I love your videos. You might never talk with, meet or know someone, but just from the single commonality of being overweight we have both lived similar lives. We might live on opposite sides of the country but we have both lived the same sad exsistence. One where people see right through you, men don't notice you and your voice isn't heard. Thanks to WLS, we both (as well as countless others) get our do-overs. I feel blessed to have a sister like you in the wls community!
lOVE UR VID AMELIA. I agree totally. But for those watching that wont be getting, cant afford, insurance wont cover a tummy tuck after wls here's a great suggestion: SPANX! YOU TOO CAN LIVE THE DREAM OF FLAT TUMMY IN CLOTHES. I wonder if they will make a Spanks Bikini? I'm one of those ppl for the first reason. I want kids, ill be 45 by the time i'm done with kids, no need for a tummy tuck then...i dont think....jury is still out.
even with weight loss and tummy tuck I loves me some spanx and some flexees! You can never be too smooth! heck I am looking into butt padded underwear to give me a butt LOL
Very well said! It's so true. We really wouldn't be able to appreciate things such as being thin if we had never known what it was like to be overweight. I am thankful for the hard times. They really do help give us perspective and give us a sensitivity towards others who are going through those same hard times and things. I won't be able to make it this weekend, as I am still healing from my surgery! Every day is getting better. I didn't realize it would be so hard! But every day gets better!
You know that is exactly how I feel Amelia! I used to be skinny. All my teenage years and up till I had my daughter I only weighed 121 lbs. then I just kept getting bigger and bigger with each child. Ending up at 278 lbs. I will never regret having GBS and losing this weight!!!! I am now 164 lbs and am so thrilled with the new me!!!!! I have lost friends over this, but I tell you I am still thrilled I made this decision! Thank you for sharing your story with us!!!!! Hugs Kim
Hello, I totally feel what your were talking about in this video. I just had my Gastric Bypass on the 4th....and dream of the day I can wear a pair of Jeans!!! You look Great!!! Tootles!!!
I used to pray for a do-over as well, pre-op. Here's to hoping I feel as strongly as you do, in a year, that surgery was the chance. So far, I totally believe it.
I'm sitting here with my head full of my regrets in terms of weight, tears running down my face. I never thought of the surgery giving me a "do over" but it has. I'm down 40 lbs and feeling better than i have in years. Happier than I've been in years. This year I have a whole new meaning to the word "thanksgiving". Yes, I'm thankful.
by the way!! ONE MORE DAY!!! Woo hoo!! Can't wait to meet you and I know we are all going to have a crazy fun weekend that will blow our tops off! (well, figuratively..would be too scarey a thing for my part! the girls are just too too sad!) Enjoy your "do over"! It's a wonderful life! hugs,jane
Ruined my body, and in a way I waisted my life...I want a do over too. Unfortunatly, I'm 51 and still waiting for my gastric bypass. :( I'll see you tomorrow sweetie, and I hope you don't mind if I give you a big hug! Cami
Love the sweater...so vintage and so cool! I understand the "do over", but look instead at what the experience has done for you, how its molded you and how many lives you touched because you were on this path. Destiny is funny that way. You are living your destiny and its a great thing to behold. Congrats!
Oh..I'm such a nerd! I know what you meant..I know that you are happy and how great it is that we get a chance at this "do over"... I get that! I was reacting to your weeping..and so if I sounded like I didn't (yeah, I know I did! lol) then its cuz I don't know how to talk Engleech! See ya tonight or tomorrow! Have fun with everyone!
Congratz, really!!! you have done amazing. You have sooooooo much to be proud of. I was always the skinny girl at school, then became fat much later in like. I too am so very grateful for my "do over". I had RNY july 16/08 and have so far lost 56 pounds. All of the struggles are worth it. God Bless and continued success.
I hear ya. Part of me wants to go back to high school for a week after Im at a normal weight and do a documentary of what its like to revisit that time in my life with a different body.
Whooohooo bikini!!! Your weightloss has been tremendous...Your courage unfailing...You are fantastic in your own way.. Now lemme wipe the tears.....ALSO>>> People will appreciate all the clothes that you have to shed at the clothign swap too!!!
Amellia you made me cry, The Do over describes axctly how I've always felt I can actualy pinpoint age 11 when I started the weight fight,.thats a lotta years going up and down and everytime up its up further.I'm working my way through your videos I'm so glad I came across yours Thank-you. Its weird its like you know exactly how I feel and I'm so old compared to you LOL You must make your Mom proud!
Sanderellablue 1 year ago
it's being a long time since your big change! but if you allowed me.... i'll sugest a different hair style, or color, wear accesories, fabric flowers on your hair, smocky eyes, you are beautiful, but all this little things will make your natural beauty look more intense...give it a try!!! tnks for all the sharing!
cazcuy 1 year ago
I've seen your earlier video before you lost weight and it's hard to believe it's the same person. You're an inspiration. Oh, and you have fabulous eyes too.
gmarc166 1 year ago
Sometimes we go through things that we may never understand. I try to look at it as a learning process and a way of teaching myself what is important in life and to live with gratitude. It is only natural to have the urge for a do over. I get them from time to time, my only catch would be to not to delete the good things. But if we don;t make mistakes how are we ever to appreciate what we do have and to grow. (To be continued)
Skyreader1 2 years ago
Just look at how much more worldly and how much you have grown as a person, that you may never would have accomplished if you didn't go through good or bad. For what I can tell it has made you a much more beautiful person inside and out and now your pursuing a passion "nursing" that your really passionate at. I have been watching you video blogs since June 08, 2 months before I had my gastric bypass and your metamorphisis is amazing, a real inspiration. A beautiful butterfly has emerged! ;)
Skyreader1 2 years ago
That's wisdom... Our experiences shape us and if we like who we are now, we can't linger in regrets! We can only appreciate now and make decisions that, we hope, are going to be for the best. Do the best we can with what we have...
marysemeunier59 2 years ago
You are such a dear. Thank God for do-overs!!
ceesims 2 years ago
Hi Amelia. I've been watching your videos for weeks and this one really touched me because I'm at the phase now where I'm feeling like I've ruined my body. I can't wait to be where you're at, but I'm curious, now that you've had complications and almost died, do you regret the gastric bypass now? In any case, you're such an inspiration and I keep making my husband come watch your videos because they are so funny- like the fashion show one. Anyway, I think you're awesome and appreciate you.
strongisfighting 2 years ago
Just had that conversation last week with Joel. I STILL do not regret my decision. I believe that the complication happened so that I could teach others and maybe save someones life. If the right test had been done sooner I would have suffered very little. By telling people to get an upper GI I am hopefully saving them from the same fate. I would change nothing, I promise. I am so much better now and healthier and content
massagegoddess 2 years ago
that is crazy i just randomly stumbled across a video i guess before your surgery, and then this you look amazing completely different holy shit
GWAUPPGUZZLRR 2 years ago
you're lovely! YOU WEAR THAT BIKINI, GIRL! :)
xRhythmInTheRainx 2 years ago
your sooo beautiful!
can u make a tour video of ur house? it looks awesome!
PLEASE!
Emelystrange6669 2 years ago
you look great
pebbles18x 2 years ago
OMG,you look just adorable!!!! you should be really proud of yourself!
ozzyhokozy 3 years ago
So many times, I have wished that I could just travel back in time, and re-live my life. Not make the mistakes that I made. It would be nice. I hope to be able to get a tummy tuck in a year or so once I lose all the weight. :)
Chub2Babe 3 years ago
wow :D:D
I teared up... I always wanted a do over 2.
sometimes i hate myself for ruining my teenage years.
thank you for thinking about it this way "if I always been small I wouldn't appreciate the life I have now" it helped me alot specially when I'm staring to feel bad for wasting my life and ruining my body
Thank u
zonnaxoxo 3 years ago
This vid made me tear up... reminded me to keep kicking and screaming and fighting to get my do over! God! 30 years of carrying around all this weight is enough... I just want it done so I can get my do over and live healthy and smart. My Dr. has said yes... now its just getting the ball rolling.
huebear 3 years ago
Yeah, do over.
My parents fought and life was so tough as a teenager when mom left home.
Went from a size ten to sixteen over those years.
Relationships were terrible with thunder thighs...yeah, someone said that is what I had.
So how could he call me a friend yet find that comment to another friend as not hurtful to me.
Blessings to you this day.
Linda
AwesomeForever 3 years ago
Hi Amelia...
I have a question...
Do you have not thought about getting tattoos in the scars?
I've thought about this option when I do my surgeries...
Sorry for English mistakes I just learning ;)
BYE and see you!!
zianissima 3 years ago
Joel my husband says that 2 tatoos is enough, after that I will be a tatooed lady LOL like at the carnival. Oh well.. tatoo would be cool but I think the scars will be very small and hard to see after a whiel
massagegoddess 3 years ago
are you wearing a winnie the pooh shirt that says i heart carbs at the meet n greet. that is hilarious! i cant wait to be able to wear more shirts that are meant for ppl our age. I have one mens that says where the heck is wild mountain alaska? soon i will be able to get into the juniors sizes, I love the randomness of stuff like that.
zoesmybaby 3 years ago
yeah, I have a weakness for silly shirts. Joel my hubby will wear only plain shirts with no logos and I am the opposite. That shirt was a 5 dollar shirt from Walmart and being skinny is so much cheaper! clothes are funner and easier to get for cheap. Look forward to junior sizes girlie!
massagegoddess 3 years ago
How did the meet and greet go??? I love your video's even though I have had a band - I just think you are amazing!!! Such a great sense of humour and seem just an all round cutie pie.
You look Great too!!
band2life 3 years ago
fun, I had a blast!
massagegoddess 3 years ago
i think its really great , that you´ll use a bikini 4 summer , but please be careful doll , we don´t want that scar to get dark!!!!
oh i made my father watch your videos , you´re an example of the great power of mind , and strengh for him !!!!
the great thing is , he doesn´t speak english , so i have to translate everything 4 him ,thats ok by me , i heve the chance to watch your great videos !!!!
SweetPinkButterflies 3 years ago
Thank you!! I am worried about the scar, I will use lots of sunscreen I promise!
That is so cool you translate my vids, you are a good daughter!
massagegoddess 3 years ago
omg.. i just watched ur first and last vid... u hav changed sooo much lyk even ur voice is different well done! lol
entershikarisim 3 years ago
yeah my plastic surgeon was surprised at the difference with the weight off my vocal cords
massagegoddess 3 years ago
Hey Amelia, I just wanted to give you big hug when you became teary eyed. I too have had thought of going back. Back to my high school days.
TrinaLee78 3 years ago
...omg!
Are you the same girl with the pink hair that had the skinny fantasies? Your voice is even different. haha
You look great btw! That's weird I don't even recognize you. Except for the eyes.
xoxAngelFirexox 3 years ago
What a wonderful video. Thank-you, vanessa
septembergirl54 3 years ago
I have had the do over thoughts too. thanks for reminding me of that. I am gonna sign my daughter up for piano AND something physical too, like dance. i dont want her to wake up one day and realize she is fat and got that way before she even knew what fat was. healthy portions and activity HAVE to be part of a "normal" life for her from the start. hope yall had fun at the meet and greet!
zoesmybaby 3 years ago
zoesmybaby, you are so smart to help your dd be normal weight as a child. When I was growing up, we could ONLY eat at the dinner table and NEVER between meals. We waited till food was on the table. I rode my bike and did a lot of JUMP ROPE every day. I was 5'4" and 108# when I began high school and I was NOT skinny, but muscular from all the activity I did.
Jibbie49 3 years ago
yeah, I want people to know that activity and intervention as a child is important. My parents are super loving and cool, but my childhood was very turbulent and unstable.
massagegoddess 3 years ago
G'day Amelia I amd going in for slice and dice on the 27th. Thanks for posting all you videos, they are informative and you are an inspirational. Thanks. Regards Harry
HarryDownUnder 3 years ago
Congrats Harry! I'll be thinking of you
massagegoddess 3 years ago
You are just a sweetie... I hope you are having tons of fun at the meet and greet!
Hugs.. Elisabeth ...
MyLifeInDogYears 3 years ago
Hello Amelia...
I from Colombia so my first lenguage it is Spanish. Sorry for my English mistakes.
You are a genial!!!
I am doing my bye pass process I has being a lot of questions... Your videos are uncreible!! Cool!!! I want say TY. I will be looking your videos.
GRACIAS!!!
zianissima 3 years ago
I am having mine in December and I just hope I do as good as you. Your videos have helped so much. I just joined but I have watched your videos for a long time now. I understand what you are saying about being little now. People who have never been over weight don't understand what its like. You look really good!
Babybrat71 3 years ago
I never expected to be little, I expected to be normal to chubby.. but not little. It is weird for sure, but nice I promise
massagegoddess 3 years ago
You go girl, rock that bikini! You have nothing to hide you're beautiful!
Bubblegum42431 3 years ago
I can't even tell you how much your videos have meant to me. I have been on a similar quest to better myself with no support and would love just the vague hint of good wishes from my family which I do not have. You are truly blessed and you're right this is your "Do over" and you deserve it!!! I will continue to follow your progress and I am seeking my own venture as well. God Bless!
MissFriskyBiz626 3 years ago
Hi Amelia,
I know what you mean by getting a fresh start on life. I too apreciate my time as a big person, because of that, I will be able too enjoy my life as a 'normal'-weight person afterwards. I too feel very lucky to get a second chance, hope that I not screw it up...
I'm only 2 weeks post-op, but I can't wait to see the result in about a year...
Hope that the meet-n'-greet went well :)
Love, Malle
Dunsemalunse 3 years ago
It has been fun so far! Thanks!
massagegoddess 3 years ago
Yeah to the bikini! You look great girl, glad your healthy and well. Peace out!
sabrinamusiq 3 years ago
Everything has to come in it's own time. Because you were big, you have a different prospective on life and appreciate the pain of others going through weight gain and poor self esteem. Use this experience as your guide to teaching others. You are a beautiful person and have been on a remarkable journey, you will always have compassion and patience for humankind. Grace to you, Ang.
anglyn70 3 years ago
I'm happy for you. This video touched my heart. I'm glad you got your do over A! Big Hugs.. We love you!
countrygirl9582002 3 years ago
HeY Amelia i have two words for you
SMOKIN HOT!!!!
:) BiG HuGs
Rene
rocampo680 3 years ago
((((HUGS)))) you are so awesome Amelia! I love this video~
KarlaKayM 3 years ago
I am so happy for you that you got your do over. I like your sweater it looks great on you.
debbiez112 3 years ago
You made me cry lol I'm 5 months out now feel great and in onederland. I know with out my wls I'd still be a list of meds still using a machine to keep me breathing at night .Maybe it's to early to say but I am so happy now with how I look and feel saggy baggy and all! I wish I would signed up for the meet and greet. I hope everyone has a blast!
carr964 3 years ago
you don't have to sign up, its just a come thing. If you can get to greenville SC you can come. Some won't make it till tommorrow.. maybe you could still make it...
massagegoddess 3 years ago
This is amazing. I just found your video's today.. I was looking through tummy tuck videos, I'm having mine in Dec,thus found all of your gastric bypass vids, and am just amazed. You should be so proud, and keep doing what you are doin. Don't ever let anyone discourage you.
Azaliegh 3 years ago
you are a do-over!!! Be proud of yourself!!!
Serramist 3 years ago
You didn´t have a do-over - You DID it over!
You rock! seeing U again is a peak in my week :)loads of luv from europe!
bigbenbowler 3 years ago
I was listening for my name on the give-away. Just keep the frumpy... LOL... ***HUGS***
Love,
Mom
DoctorsWife56 3 years ago
It is nice to see a glow back in your cheeks! You look healthy again :-)
It is the best feeling in the world after you have a good clear out!
I agree with the bikini - it is nice to see you enjoying your new life and body. You have achieved your dream through surgery and a lot of hard work! you do have a 2nd chance!
I understand exactly what you mean by about skinny people not appreciating their gift of health!
Take care Angela
weealia 3 years ago
When you talked about the do-over I know 100% how you felt. I feel that way now and hope that a year from now I have as great of success and a level head like you do. Hope you had a great time at the meet and greet and got tons of skinny clothes!
stl2006mom 3 years ago
No matter which emotions come up--because they exist in all of us--your having the courage to open up to your viewers shows just how fabulous you are AND have always been. I spend a lot of time wishing for the "do-over" thing, too--in fact an unhealthy amt of time, which freezes me from action (very convenient). (continued)
julieswahn 3 years ago
I cop out at the fear of needing to lose 200+ lbs because of the reality that the 6-7 procedures I'd need to remove excess skin (+ I do very poorly in every type of surgery). Oart II: I've ruined my body, no matter what team of genius plastic surgeons I'd have at my side. I get shingles/worsened nerve damage--permanent--each of my WLS surgeries. Now, YOU are doing KICK ASS, Amelia. I really care about you because you are so open and honest.
julieswahn 3 years ago
i feel you, have fun today, take care
britbrad38 3 years ago
I hate you Amelia you skinny beeyatch! IM KIDDING. I just wanted the honor of saying that to you because god only knows how many times we have all felt that towards the sticky chicks. You look awesome and I love that sweater on you.
kindereggs777 3 years ago
such a high honor indeed! I was working the other day and this woman walked in with her hubby, I saw her look at me and then grab him around the waist, I was standing with a guy talking and we both looked at each other and snickered. I was amazed that she felt the need to protect her man from me LOL
massagegoddess 3 years ago
Hi Amelia! Well let me say you are a true insipration! I am 375 LBS and I am approved for the surgery, YAY! But the thing that is happening now is the anxiety of complications, and hearing my friends and random people tellin me the horrors of the surgery and that "its forever" and if you have a bad experiance "it's forever" I have to say they are like spookin the crap out of me and I am so freakin conflicted now.I don't know what to do... any words of advice? I think you look AMAZING BTW! -Steve
stvmccue 3 years ago
yeah, share my vids with them. I have had dozens of people say that their family was kinda scared or on the fence about it or even completely against it and then they shared my channel with them and they got some peace of mind. Tell them they are free to write me and ask questions ok?
*hugs*
ultimately you do this for YOU and no one else can do it for you
massagegoddess 3 years ago
Amelia! BLUE IS SO YOU!
BelgiumChoco 3 years ago
first of all, I love your outfit your wearing, that color blue looks good on you :) second, i also feel like that, i have ruined my body and wish i could turn back time... i hope that i can make it to goal like you did. and third, hopefully someday there will be a meet and greet on the west coast you can come to =) you are one of the biggest inspirations to me. Hope you have a good weekend!
p1xiefairy 3 years ago
now it is time to fix your hair you have really did it with your body(looks gREAT!!) YOu have done the utlimate!!
ziggy42scoop 3 years ago
You are so inspiring.....Thank you
valbabyisda1 3 years ago
SOOOOO inspirational! thank you! i'm getting lapband on december 8th, but my sis got gastric bypass last august...thank you for your honesty and for being candid. glad you are happy and healthy! :)
nessamaine 3 years ago
OMG. This video was great. I wanted a do over too and we got it girl!! I love seeing this transparent side of you. I don't regret my decision at all either. Success is OURS!! :)
workingonfreedom 3 years ago
You did get a do over,but you DID have to work hard for it. Glad you can get past the regrets. All will continue to get even better for you. Thanks for sharing your heart felt experience with all us. Keep up the gr8 work you have done in your life.
Blueyeshining 3 years ago
just sent a text. is joel gonna be hanging out with everyone this weekend? davy wants to meet him. he needs a guy friend and as much as i've raved about joel, he thinks they'll get along.
i'm glad you didn't ebay the clothes. i thought you might. i didn't want some of those going to strangers. they had memories. =)
you made me cry. WLS is TOTALLY a do over. i never realized that. wow.
we need to catch up and talk. text me back tomorrow. =)
3foldutopiandream 3 years ago
Will do, joel said he will come to "A DINNER" LOL he is so funny. So yeah Davy and he can sit together and wonder how they got surrounded by WLS women LOL.
I could not eBay those clothes, I loved them and they were from you. I did give a few to Allisonpacino and a family member who really needed them. You will see alot of them still at the swap.
See ya soon chicka!
massagegoddess 3 years ago
I hear ya on the swim suit with the skirts on them Im still there but am losing slowly but staying focused. Any hoo hell ya girl get you a bikini this next summer and wear it with pride. You go girl.
Blueyeshining 3 years ago
Your videos always hit home. I have longed for a do-over. You are truly blessed.A new experience, a new wardrobe, a new tummy, A NEW YOU! :)
Honeyssmove 3 years ago
I know what you mean about wanting a do-over. Give me that mulligan! WLS is the closest thing to it. But I don't beleive that anyone 'allows' themselves into obesity - I think they are fighting tooth and nail all the way up, and asking for help along the way, and I didn't have any doctors along the way provide any help. But now we have this tool, WLS, that can help. And these videos maybe can help people understand better what it has been like for us. You keep up the good work. [[[hugs]]] Mia
mia2292 3 years ago
yeah i know that I didn't allow it to happen, but when your in the middle of it lost and sad it feels like guilt and you sometimes don't notice till you've gone far and you feel like you allowed it to happen even if that isn't the truth. Emotions are not logical for sure...
massagegoddess 3 years ago
I understand. :) Thank you for sharing. Yes, there is sandness, guilt, and there is the sense of 'how did this happen?' Well, sharing your story is an inspiration to so many of us and I am thankful that you were able to do that. Keep doing what you are doing. We love you for it.
mia2292 3 years ago
(((Hugs))) I wish for a do over everyday!
stayinhome971 3 years ago
That is my wish for you too..
massagegoddess 3 years ago
Hello I am new to YOuTube
I watched all of your videos over the last 2 days and I am so loving your videos.
I just had my surgery 10/22.
Looking forward to more videos and being friends.
xoxo
Shene'
SheneMike 3 years ago
Wow! your butt must be sore from sitting there so long, get up and stretch your legs!
Thanks for the commitment! and Congrats on your surgery as well!
*hugs*
massagegoddess 3 years ago
hello there... love how you got your hair styled. A very touching video that I'm sure alot of us questioned to ourselves, I know I did. And play back on the past bullies, their cruel words, mean games/jokes.. But throughout it all we always seem to pull through even no matter how much it hurt. Look at you now till before. Hugs to you. :o)
fudds64 3 years ago
So not styled LOL, slept on after washing last night at the gym and just blow drying, but thanks! Hair styled by CPAP mask and tossing and turning LOL
massagegoddess 3 years ago
LOL ! this made me laugh out loud, your too funny
p1xiefairy 3 years ago
My cousin had gastric bypass and complications with it nearly killed her. Now, two years later, I asked her if she regretted having the surgery. She said absolutely not. She says it was worth it, to be where she is now. So I dont think the lack of regret is just because you had no problems with the surgery. Fatness is a prison. How much would we pay for freedom?
smilingsarahjo 3 years ago
yeah, I just added the fact that I had a smooth journey because the people who have had their doubts and occasional bouts of regret deserve to be able to feel it and not feel bad about having had regrets. I just haven't had any. I know I might have had some if I were struggling, but I am sure I would still at the end be grateful and I want it to be understood that having bouts of regret is a vaild emotion. Wow.. rambling no? I just want people to know I respect them and their feelings
massagegoddess 3 years ago
aw...no crying!! lol
Phantacy00 3 years ago
:) the do over isnt what got you here.... you doing it the right way after the do over... is.
I totally look forward to getting your autograph!
watchmegetskinny 3 years ago
man I wish I was close enough to see some of your clothes. I need some BAD! LOL!
lookingforward73 3 years ago
WOW! You have just summarized exactly how I feel. I have often looked at myself and wondered the same thing. How could I have ruined this body the way that I did. Hopefully I will be getting my own "do over" soon. Thanks for sharing your life. You're a role model for us all.
jade9298 3 years ago
I am thinking the same way about a bikini! I'm already shopping for one online!
I totally agree with you on the do-over thing. I gained 63 pounds when I was pregnant with my daughter and totally destroyed my body! I used being pregnant as an excuse to eat.
I am having my "mommy makeover" on January 26, and I'm beyond excited! That will be my do-over day.
You look great, by the way! Love the hair! Are you alowed to exercise yet?
Gr8Hottie 3 years ago
not yet, walking is fine but no lifting or weight or straining myself
massagegoddess 3 years ago
Awesome! I agree with being able to appreciate so much more because of the journey you have been on in life. I think it's meant to be that way. I'm really happy you are so grateful and at this place in your life! Hugs, Carolyn
scharcr 3 years ago
My friend had a tummy tuck similar to yours and she has one of those bikinis that is sort of a one piece with the center strip of fabric that attach the top to the bottom, but her sides and lower back are all still showing. It covers her scars and looks amazing!
XOXOHollyUNT 3 years ago
that is called a monokini and it is a strong contender for sure
massagegoddess 3 years ago
God works in mysterious ways! Do over!! See you tomorrow.
Donna:)
Journey2betrhealth 3 years ago
Thanks so much for sharing this.
mutantqueen 3 years ago
I've gain two pounds but it's muscle and you have been hot!
robuzzel 3 years ago
I love your videos. You might never talk with, meet or know someone, but just from the single commonality of being overweight we have both lived similar lives. We might live on opposite sides of the country but we have both lived the same sad exsistence. One where people see right through you, men don't notice you and your voice isn't heard. Thanks to WLS, we both (as well as countless others) get our do-overs. I feel blessed to have a sister like you in the wls community!
paislieghstar 3 years ago
Thank you so much.
massagegoddess 3 years ago
I agree with you ... it's a do-over, a second chance at life, and really living!
Dena
LiLtinee 3 years ago
Lady, I respect you so much, you have no idea.
You have such a gorgeous soul, you deserve your new body, and do-over.
And hell yeah, why shouldn't you wear a bikini.
LittleBlueBird 3 years ago
lOVE UR VID AMELIA. I agree totally. But for those watching that wont be getting, cant afford, insurance wont cover a tummy tuck after wls here's a great suggestion: SPANX! YOU TOO CAN LIVE THE DREAM OF FLAT TUMMY IN CLOTHES. I wonder if they will make a Spanks Bikini? I'm one of those ppl for the first reason. I want kids, ill be 45 by the time i'm done with kids, no need for a tummy tuck then...i dont think....jury is still out.
ndspelman 3 years ago
even with weight loss and tummy tuck I loves me some spanx and some flexees! You can never be too smooth! heck I am looking into butt padded underwear to give me a butt LOL
massagegoddess 3 years ago
Very well said! It's so true. We really wouldn't be able to appreciate things such as being thin if we had never known what it was like to be overweight. I am thankful for the hard times. They really do help give us perspective and give us a sensitivity towards others who are going through those same hard times and things. I won't be able to make it this weekend, as I am still healing from my surgery! Every day is getting better. I didn't realize it would be so hard! But every day gets better!
allforliving 3 years ago
Brava!
msarcomere 3 years ago
You know that is exactly how I feel Amelia! I used to be skinny. All my teenage years and up till I had my daughter I only weighed 121 lbs. then I just kept getting bigger and bigger with each child. Ending up at 278 lbs. I will never regret having GBS and losing this weight!!!! I am now 164 lbs and am so thrilled with the new me!!!!! I have lost friends over this, but I tell you I am still thrilled I made this decision! Thank you for sharing your story with us!!!!! Hugs Kim
kmol37 3 years ago
Hello, I totally feel what your were talking about in this video. I just had my Gastric Bypass on the 4th....and dream of the day I can wear a pair of Jeans!!! You look Great!!! Tootles!!!
Starbright510 3 years ago
Great video. Ialways appreciate it when people are honest about things that alot of us feel and think about. Here's to do-overs! See u tomorrow.
gamecockfroggy 3 years ago
I used to pray for a do-over as well, pre-op. Here's to hoping I feel as strongly as you do, in a year, that surgery was the chance. So far, I totally believe it.
katiejuly 3 years ago
Here's to appreciating ourselves and our lives. Thank you for making this video!
OMCV04 3 years ago
I'm sitting here with my head full of my regrets in terms of weight, tears running down my face. I never thought of the surgery giving me a "do over" but it has. I'm down 40 lbs and feeling better than i have in years. Happier than I've been in years. This year I have a whole new meaning to the word "thanksgiving". Yes, I'm thankful.
stephselix 3 years ago
Let go of regrets, embrace the awesome future!
massagegoddess 3 years ago
wow! thank you amelia!
XOOX
dmerkle5 3 years ago
by the way!! ONE MORE DAY!!! Woo hoo!! Can't wait to meet you and I know we are all going to have a crazy fun weekend that will blow our tops off! (well, figuratively..would be too scarey a thing for my part! the girls are just too too sad!) Enjoy your "do over"! It's a wonderful life! hugs,jane
MissJanieHere 3 years ago
OMG my girls are pitiful too.. Can't wait to see ya!
massagegoddess 3 years ago
Ruined my body, and in a way I waisted my life...I want a do over too. Unfortunatly, I'm 51 and still waiting for my gastric bypass. :( I'll see you tomorrow sweetie, and I hope you don't mind if I give you a big hug! Cami
YogiUToo 3 years ago
You can get a do-over. Remember that 50 is the new 30! and you will look younger after losing weight
massagegoddess 3 years ago
Love the sweater...so vintage and so cool! I understand the "do over", but look instead at what the experience has done for you, how its molded you and how many lives you touched because you were on this path. Destiny is funny that way. You are living your destiny and its a great thing to behold. Congrats!
MissJanieHere 3 years ago
yeah, like i said i think I am glad I had this experience. I appreciate my life so much more now. Can't wait to see you!!!
massagegoddess 3 years ago
Oh..I'm such a nerd! I know what you meant..I know that you are happy and how great it is that we get a chance at this "do over"... I get that! I was reacting to your weeping..and so if I sounded like I didn't (yeah, I know I did! lol) then its cuz I don't know how to talk Engleech! See ya tonight or tomorrow! Have fun with everyone!
MissJanieHere 3 years ago
Congratz, really!!! you have done amazing. You have sooooooo much to be proud of. I was always the skinny girl at school, then became fat much later in like. I too am so very grateful for my "do over". I had RNY july 16/08 and have so far lost 56 pounds. All of the struggles are worth it. God Bless and continued success.
pepsiann 3 years ago
I have always thought that it must be harder to have been slim and then lose that. I feel for you. You now have a do-over, use it wisely
massagegoddess 3 years ago
I hear ya. Part of me wants to go back to high school for a week after Im at a normal weight and do a documentary of what its like to revisit that time in my life with a different body.
gettinghealthygirl 3 years ago
Whooohooo bikini!!! Your weightloss has been tremendous...Your courage unfailing...You are fantastic in your own way.. Now lemme wipe the tears.....ALSO>>> People will appreciate all the clothes that you have to shed at the clothign swap too!!!
silk1rose 3 years ago
Thanks!! yeah i didn't see the tears coming
massagegoddess 3 years ago