Teenage GIRLS-DO NOT WATCH THIS VIDEO!-Shay Your Date Diva

[WarpDice]

Great avice

[shebrew7]

Hmm. I must say this is good advice . . . I agree with everything . . . For me, the man that is worthy is the man that has married me . . . the right place and the right time are when we have both entered into a marriage covenant, and I am ready when I have a ring on my finger.

[shebrew7]

And not just an engagement ring!!!! :)

[uniquedaydreamer1996]

thank you so much shay! you're amazing!

[Jeepgurl87]

U ROCK SHAY!

[samlovesyou691]

hi, i was on google and looking for teenage dating tips and this came up...so i decided to watch it...but im not planing on opening my legs for anyone but i want to go my friend house and hes a guy he's 18 and im 16 i kinda like him , thinks hes cute but i just want to get to know him since he was my sweet 16 date. so i would like to know how can i start a conversation with my parents about letting me go. Helppp pleasee!!!thank you

[LakiaChambers24]

well I am 14 & gladly im still a virgin , but I have a bf that wants to have phone sex and everything. I told him No & he gets mad . Then he calls back and says I love you and i wouldn't do nun to hurt you. Im like so confused right now. How can you tell that he really loves you and just don't want one thing.

[spongypillows]

@LakiaChambers24 dump his needy ass. if he loved you, he would never get mad. hed understand.

[LakiaChambers24]

@spongypillows k. thanks : )

[preciouskey23]

well i promise i will wait for the rite person and make sure im in love and make sure its the rite place nd time

[aymannaheem]

wow your amazin haha

x

[kristikool299]

I never realy gave sex much thought but I know to stay away from it so thx shay it was realy inspiring and btw r u married of so is ur husband the same guy u lost ur viginety 2 cuz that would be so sweet

[wublez]

I'm 14, and 2 years ago I had a friend who was one of the most popular girls in my school, everyone wanted to hang out with her and be like her because she was so pretty and outgoing. But she lost her virginity at 12, and now she has had sex with 5 guys in the last 2 years and she has no friends and the only people that hang out with her are guys that want down her pants, and everyone talks behind her back. Now everyone is glad they aren't like her.

[kmac42393]

I am only 12 but at school we r talking about it and so now that I saw this video I am going to wait I am a virgen and I have never had a kiss or a boy friend and I am proud my older sis is 18 and has never had sex kisssed a boy or had a bf and I look up to her and yes she has been asked out but she always said no because we no better and this helped ke so much thx

[Courtfab21]

just because you spread your legs will not make him love you anymore and having his baby will not make him stay love the video some gilrs at my skool need to watch this lol

[thesingerangelina]

thank u shay u did a really great job with this video. i believe u should be a virgin all the way until u get married but some people aren't like that

[Guesswhatiam]

AWWW JUST MADE ME FEEL SOO GOOD :) IM GONNA WAIT AT LEAST TIL OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL IM AFRAID IN COLLEGE BUT IM GONNA FAVORITE THIS VIDEO ANYTIME I FEEL WEAK I SHALL WATCH THIS

[OnlineMariaContreras]

thank you for this viedo:)

& I wish I had someoone to talk to about this cause my mom everytime we talk about this she avoids it & I'm 17 & I feel like talking to someone but I can't

[Glamdoll900]

this is very helpful:)

[lovein30days]

@TheTeatea2010 Wow baby girl, I am sooooo proud of you and touched:) Please keep making a wise decision and keep your virginity. You will be thankful you did!

[lizzygirlanna]

Im having the same problem as teenmutanninjaturt1. im 14 also and this is confusing and nasty and everything. i mean like everything is happening to me like the other person tht i sed uptop. literallly. im interested in girls and i have fallen in love with someone im not dating thts a guy. there is no girls in my current school tht i like but i do like girls and im confused if this is just puberty kinda thing or its for real. plz help!

[meow0meow7]

Shay, I promise you I will wait until it the right time, place, and he's worth it and I'm ready before I have sex.

[TeenMutantNinjaTurt1]

thank u! :]

[FreshPrinceLoverEm]

it's so nice to see there are sensible and mature people in this world like you. thank you for sharing this video, it makes me feel so sad when someone is not properly educated about sex and the feelings they will experience. i am a virgin and i am proud to say that i am going to wait for the right man to come in to my life, no matter how long it takes! and about that promise you made to your dad, i'm gonna make to you the same promise, thank you ;)

[maxwells40]

Baby im Gregg from milwaukee ,,,you had to have a talkshow.

[TeenMutantNinjaTurt1]

Dear Mrs. Shiya,

Have u ever wondered if u were a lesbian, bisexual, or straight? That's the problem I'm having. I'm 14 and I might be interested in one of my best friends who happens 2 b a girl. But I'm also interested in a guy. I'm 2 afraid 2 talk 2 a counselor cuz I'm afraid they're gonna make fun of me. I'm also afraid 2 tell my parents cuz I'm afraid they might disown me. I don't really need 2 worry about my virginity right now. I just want ur advice.

Thnx.

[lovein30days]

@TeenMutantNinjaTurt1 Sweetie, if you are confused about your sexual orientation please talk to someone. No matter what anyone says, there is nothing wrong with you! A counselor is trained to listen and talk to you and will not make fun of you about your concerns. U are not the only girl or woman who has ever felt this way. Many girls have went through and are going through the same thing so please talk to someone professional and then decided if you should tell your parents.

With Love,

SYDD

[hank456781]

Define a deserving boy or man worthy of a minor.?Define the right place to bed a minor.?Define when is the right time for a minor to be ready for sex? What else did big daddy teach you. You should have listened to mom.

[lovein30days]

@hank456781 either you are naive or just upset at the idea of your little girl being touched by a boy. I understand that feeling but my dear, these "minors" are having sex with other "minors" no matter how much you do not like it. The point is to encourage a dialogue between teens and their parents to really talk about the topic. The other point is to encourage a young lady to make sure her first time is special and to wait until after high school at least. If you do not teach...

[lovein30days]

@hank456781 cont... your teen from a young age to value her body and about the way boys think, she will fall victim to her own lack of knowledge and the games that will be handed to her.

SYDD

[ThePanafrica]

This is Good! I love all of your videos!!

[ImS0amazing]

I'm 20 years old and I am still a virgin. I know this is video is intended for teens but I thank you for posting it. I've had opportunities and sometimes I really want to do it. But obviously I'm not ready, and the person doesn't deserve it. I promise that I will wait until the right time...

Thank you!

[haleymorgan2]

my mom told me the same things.

[LovelyLou18]

Luv This One !

[NeyxChaos]

This is something everyone should know! I think sex is a beautiful way to bring a couple together but unfortunately it's hard to think of it that way most of the time. I am proud to say I am still a Virgin and I am keeping my legs crossed until i find the very special guy who truly deserves it. I wish every girl could have such a strong self respect today.

[Rikuzano]

And the sad part is me being a guy i was just looking for a relationship and they just wanted to have sex and why would i go out with someone who gives it up that fast? Just remember Girls us guys always want sex we'll say yes to anything just for sex well kind of...I really dont like thinking about the negatives of having sex in highschool really because its fun and i have some friends who never got pregnant and they're ok with it and they're reputation stays the same because everyone does it.

[Rikuzano]

Wow im a dude not trying to be soft and stuff. But she got it down in Facts. We all want sex we might not act upon it but all of us think about it. We cant wait for marriage to come we want that first time to happen sooner. But cant that magical first time be at anytime of your life? Whether its in Highschool,College, or just being married is your opinion. But she's right. At 15 years old i lost mine never thought about the consequences because im a guy no harm done to me.

[Queensheila111]

The sad part for me was "you only get 1 first time" which is so true. Once its dun., its dun. Whether you fucked up && made a stupid decision && you wish lyk hell you could take it back, you cant. I've been crying for the last 3 days && nothings happened., its still gone. Since we cant change the past., aint no use of gettin all emotional && wat not.. i guess. Too bad that dont make it hurt no less...

[saintfort18]

I'm 19, and I 'm a PROUD VIRGIN* I am waiting till marriage, and God will be the judge of if he's the right one. Because he will send me a righteous, holy, and God-fearing man, one whom I hope is pure as well. Kep during what, you're doing, but I believe WAITING till marriage is the best solution*

[Dalordsgurl]

Yep and this way sex won't be so undermined.

[SnowGryphon]

I think that all the girls in my highschool should watch this video. I know that all of my friends from there have had sex and I have had two that are pregnant. Even with those two pregnant girls, 5 others were walking around. We were even told by our past principle that our highschool district has the highest teen pregnancy rate in America... And all the kids CLAPPED!! That's EXACTLY why I left to go to community college early.

[JDclk]

What happens,happens.lol

[ttdean]

I'm going to let my 10 year old daughte watch this vid.

[dmaccballer]

did she lose weight?

[punkkimiko]

i wish i had a dad like that. both my parents dont care. but this was helpful. ty

[sharbiee]

your not loosing your virginty your giving it away..

[kizz1996]

Great message. I have a teenage daughter who thank goodness tells me most of things that are going on in her life. I do tell her not to have sex and to wait but i give her the reasons why. It's good to let them know the consequences to the decision they make.

[Smileyldy08]

I'm so glad that you brought up the marriage thing. I don't mean to be the religous party pooper...lol but I'm a strong believer that sex is ONLY for married people. Even if a man has TONS of respect for a woman...the biggest thing he can do to show that is by putting a ring on your finger and waiting for the wedding night..now that's real magic God smiles upon. No matter how respectful or right a a guy may seem..if he's not your husband he has no right to have a piece of you. It's just not his.

[JRock005]

These mindsets are being influenced by the music. They're being conditioned to act a certain way. These issues of girls having sex to be accepted is fueled by R&B. Chris Brown, Day26, Usher, J. Holiday. Their songs all condition girls to think sex and love is the same thing. And rap is telling boys that being a man is measured by how many cars, clothes and hoes ya got. Lil Wayne has a song called "Everygirl" out. Listen to it, and you'll see why boys act the way they do. IT'S ALL DEMONIC!!!

[JRock005]

I'm a guy. I lost my virginity so I can feel like a man....

Didn't work... But of course no one cares though. I guess men have less value... Don't forget, boys are under more pressure to have sex than girls.

[mlromo210]

Shay you are so right about this.. i am about to be 19 .. and i wish i would have waited. its something that u can never get back and i regret. I am still with the same guy we have been together for two years..but not waiting just didnt work out for me. I can not talk to my parents about this at all.. it would be too big of a deal. i wish my parents would have been more open to talking about sex. They just ignored it and said nothing. I just was not ready..

[fee20luv]

i show my 15 year old sis. she said it make sense to wait. i was so happy to hear dat!

[mpenny226]

Thank you for talking to our little Sisters. There is so much sexual pressure. They need to hear these words.

[rosekunda]

shes sooooo nice great video

[JeansTake]

You're good...Imma teenage girl and I saw that title and I was sure to click it!!! I like the advice though:)

[GENTLEMANCORNER]

This woman is ok however she should encourage abstinence among teenagers. Its understood that it may not happen but you can at least encourage it.  Encourage them to wait until they are married. They will feel even better about themselves.

[lovein30days]

Hello??? I thought I said that in the video? I made it clear that I felt teenagers should wait until marriage. This video gives them the road map back if they are already having sex or if telling them to "just say no" is not enough to keep them from doing the act.

SYDD

[RedShortsforRunning]

@GENTLEMANCORNER Encouraging abstinance is all schools do, and its unrealistic.

[ghanaqueen13]

yeaa ma frend got oregnant at 12 nd styll open her legs at 14 but alota ppl dont lyke her. by da way im 15

[SydneyTaylorA]

I'm 17 & I haven't had sex. I dont feel the least bit pressured. I am a little tempted to see what its like but I can wait UNTIL I AM MARRIED!! 4 all the guys that say Im "Holding out" this is what i have to say to all 100 of yall lol."JACK OFF, literally, because i'm not gonna do it for you" Straight up. Thats how I feel as a young teenager thats surrounded by friends/family my age having sex everyday. The best way to avoid it is having a friend being abstinent w/ u. It makes way easier!

[albionU]

This is ur brother Junior and I think I juz threw up in my mouth a lil bit!!! And I'll like to have the name and address of this guy......

[DragonTheGreat]

You are gorgeous! Are you available? i love real women like you!

[kunzy3000]

Your the only BLACK girl I do RESPECT. The rest ( black bitches ) are just a bunch of hoodrats, angry, bitches!

[LaurenBrianne8907]

hmmm...okay. thats quite closed minded i'd say.

[Ackles4life]

prejudice n steriotipical as well. shouldn't say stuff like that. especially under a vid that alot of African American women watch, or visit.

[naturalvee]

Good, positive message. You were blessed to have a responsible and loving father in your life. Not all of us were so fortunate.

We mothers can play a vital role by showing our daughters (and sons) what it is to be a virtuous, self-respecting woman, especially if we are single mothers. Kids do what we do, not what we say. Peace. ; )

[shawty2guttah]

Thank you Shay

[Emmarose81]

I'm waiting for marriage and I'm 27. I'm also waiting until I'm done with grad school.

[mightyblack1]

Alot of these young girls are not going to listen but talk to them any way because you might be the only person that they might listen too.Lord knows,we have a lot of crazy young girls right on youtube and on myspace posting nasty horny videos,claiming that they're looking for love,the joke is on them.

[MizzCrissyBabii]

YES I DID TEL YM MOM BEFOE I WATCHED THIS!

Anyways, I agree with everthing you said. This was the first time I watching this video and I had already made up mind about sex. I want to save my virginity for that special someone when I get married.

Thanx for the advise though!

[shecries8989]

thanks for the advice

[ana31belle]

thanks for sharing that with people. Hope some teenagers lisen to your advice.

[gayle2020]

Young people need to also realize that its a lie that CONDOMS are 100percent protective against pregnancy, stds, Aids, etc. They burst so be prepared.

[gayle2020]

you are a very wise young lady

[sailorkeyblader]

Teen Sex is stupid..it's cool to be a virgin and this is coming from a guy. Sex is bond for married couples

[hrobbins]

Im against teen sex but I cant help but think about how the body of a teen bounces back from child birth much better than a 20-40yr old. Maybe teen yrs is optimal time for child birth? Early american history was all about old men and teen marraige and pregnancy. Later it became illegal for a men to marry a teen, along with drugs and whore houses. Yet alchohol became legal. I know this is a wierd rant but it makes one think.

[lovein30days]

Much Love to all of you who leave your positive comments and "thank you's." It is my honor to be able to serve you and I pray that my words are a blessing to many of you:) Stay sweet yall...lol

Shay Your Date Diva

[spanishliljon]

CONDOMS are the only form of contraception which protects against STDs AND pregnancy. "AIDS" and HIV are two different things, HIV may or may not lead to AIDS. Both viruses affect the immune system. ARV (Anti-reteri viral drugs) enable HIV positive people to lead long lives. People who have died from "AIDS" have actually died for a cold/flu/infection which has killed them because their immune system has been lowered by having the AIDS virus. Please include accurate medical information in future.

[spanishliljon]

Please contactc your Doctor and local health care clinics and authorities for more in-depth information concerning HIV/AIDS, contraception, pregnancy and any emotional issues you have regrading relationships and sexuality. Stay safe everyone!

[grlblu73]

Shay - that was awesome!

[rdawta]

Bless, Empress!

[smaj12]

Your awesome!!!!!!!!!

[CharNik5]

I totally agree with you, my niece just spent a couple of days with me and she is 15 yrs old and we just had this very same conversation.....

[nmr20067]

Yes your right I agree Shay. I like the title of this video because it is the real issue behind this whole argument. I myself do not believe ALL black women like THUGS. Buuuut lets be real, ALOT of YOUNG black women/girl(under 30) like Thugs. Not so much older black women (over 35). Look at their myspaces and even some of their youtubes. Early on in life these women are attracted to them. Then later on in life these women are slapped with reality.Which is what can this THUG do for me now

[nmr20067]

NOTHING and now I am 35. He cant buy me a BMW.

He cant provide and protect for me our children. Or he left. Or hes a FELON and unemployed. So I think older black women need teach younger black women not to give these men the time of day. They should teach them that what they lust for now will be bad or hurt them later. Just my opinion. I know BW will jump all over me.

But I will give college young BW credit. Alot of them know better. I know because I when to school with many of them.

[kat24101]

your hair looks good like that with more volume..

[racer1d]

i agree with this method.

[lburianek]

Shay

great job thanks I would like to add to this ask if he would cut a finger off to have sex with you you would be surprised how many would say no (all of them)

[eromain20]

I absolutely love this video. When you said the relationships you have in highschool will predict future relationships, so true. I live with someone who is the same age as I and she is seriously not in love with herself. She thinks sex is sex, and that she can have sex with anyone without it being love. Many young people feel this way and it's so said. Who in this world doesnt want to be loved or feel loved, it's just not the way we are wired as humans. Thank you Shay, your the greatest.

[StatingthaTruth84]

I wish I would have saw this video like 10 yrs ago.

[imanisankofa]

I would agree up to ready, right time, & does he deserve it...I teach my girls abstinence until marriage. They have learned how precious they are and ONLY their husband deserves their gem. They have taken that message to heart so far.

[lovein30days]

So far...I recommend waiting until marriage too and this is what I said BUT please do not make the mistake most parents do. When you make it so absolute, they just do it and dont tell you. Many teenagers are doing it and if they learn that they are worth more and that most likely in high school, NO GUY, will deserve it...they will wait by default. My dad did the same with my sister and she is still a virgin at 25! But she could talk to him:) Good Luck

SYDD

[AskMicB]

this video is so true! i'm a guy and it's so real. we had a girl in HS that was being "passed around" because she gave it up so quick, she never knew that all the guys were just passing it on. Guys in HS want to get it, they don't care from who or how, they just want to either 1)lose their virginity or 2)add to the list, not all guys, but when you make it so easy there's no guy that's going to say NO. THey will NEVER tell you you're a hoe because they don't want you to feel bad and reject them.

[AskMicB]

she thought she was just popular. she still has the rep today when all she wanted was attention! She went about it the wrong way, because she was actually very beautiful and smart. She didn't need to do that.