I hate how being gay is so widely unaccepted, and how its okay to just bash on gay people. What if we gay people started bashing on straights? How would straight people like it if we gays made a law that stated that they couldn't do what we're doing now? (i.e marriage, public affection etc) Let me tell, they wouldn't. Because we don't. I like being gay because I think it has made me a more open minded person, and it has added to my uniqueness. I like being different.
What i like about being gay is beautiful women ja, and having a different view on the world then say, a 'normal' person. What i dislike about it is that i feel more isolated because of being different than the majority.
My favorite thing is all the fine guys that are good for me! Men are extra fun to look at too. I guess all I'd change is the ability for guys to have babies together and everyone believing gay is nice.
I like being gay because it forces me to re-examine my society and presents constant challenges for me to work against in life, making all my endeavors and achievements in life THAT much more rewarding in the end.
My thoughts: It's sometimes a filter through which people look at you. What I like about it: The fact that it's authentic for you and you come to terms with it. What I hate about it: I wish that people would realize that authenticity. I also like the fact that I can say things to my bf that I wouldn't be able to say with another girl. How I really feel, or say let's f&ck and we just strip. that I can tell him I don't like a movie and he'll just be like: I could see how you wouldn't like it
Being Gay... Well, The up side I guess is that you get to be bitchy about what your girlfriends choose to wear on a night out on the town. The downside... when you're in a relationship and you can't blame your boyfriend's moodswings on PMS ! Haha !
Well, I'm not gay, I actually do not know what my sexual orientation is at all. But, I have no problem at all with gay people. They actually are the best people to be around! Also, a little fact, gay pride day (June 25th) is my birthday! Woo hoo
I'm a lesbian, I really don't mind being gay and my families cool with it. But what sucks about being gay is the stereotyping, people say I can't be gay because I'm girlie looking, or that lesbian couples are always a feminine girl with a butch girl. All the girls I have ever been with are feminine like me so not true . What I love about being gay is I don't have to worry about pregnancy and I know how to please a girl cuz I have the same parts, and I just love women they are beautiful!
being gay is sinful and if u continue god cant be near u when u die so he will have no choice but to put u in hell where u will suffer for eternity and god will cry because he wanted u to be part of his family. But on the other hand if u stop being gay as u are right now. youll be accepted into the lords family as his child which u have always been but just cant be near him because of the sin u have put on u by satin the devil.i know u will reject this comment in everyway
I am a bisexual mormon (how i figure that one out still puzzles me, but still)... so I am probly the most caught-between-worlds person out there, but I very much consider myself part of the gay community.
Life is pretty rough, actually. Less-so for a bisexual, i mean i just date girls and things work for me, but I still feel like i'm missing out.
I am happier tho, now that i'm out to a few close friends. I just openned up to a friend of mine, and he was really accepting. I feel GREAT!
Likes- I love how I can bond with my straight male friends checking out women in public, hahahah. My sexuality and my personality work together to make me a very open, honest person about pretty much any subject, which makes it easy for my friends to come to me for advice.
Dislikes-- I hate how catty the gay scene is in the midwest. I will never understand how a gay person can still judge a transgendered individual or bitch about how "fake" bisexuals are. Pressure to 'choose' one gender sucks.
I'm from an older generation and I don't like being gay but there is no cure so I see it sort of as a handicap that I have to deal with. I came out at a time when gay bars didn't have windows, the word "gay" could not be put in the phone book and violence against gays was just expected. Today my country has same sex marriage. The world has changed so much and I am happy for the younger gays that live in this much freer world.
I have to say I dont dislike being gay at all. If some magical being popped up and said 'I will make you heterosexual'.. I would have to decline their offer. And Im not gonna give some sappy reasoning about how "Its made me the person I have become" or suddenly proclaim "I am what I am" ... .. Im gonna be straight up and admit its just because I enjoy being gay. I love being gay and I wouldnt want to change that for no-one...
I like that being gay lets me be open to SO MUCH in the world, and be more emotional and possibly even more attached than if I were just a "tough" straight guy. And since being gay is such a small part of what I do on a daily basis, it doesn't really affect my daily relations with other people.
I am still slightly anonymous about being gay to some people, so I hate that I have to "tell" them about it, since for me (and especially you!) it is not obvious.
I love being part of a community based on shared experiences
I love that guys understand guys
I love the way men become handsome as they age
I dislike that sometimes, in certain situations, Im nervous about whether Ill be accepted or not. Though when I am it usually feels good enough to make it worth the worry beforehand
I dislike being called disgusting when Im kissing my boyfriend in the street
I dislike the over emphasis on sex and how that makes us look
Hello handsome ;) Positive: more understanding of other excluded groups, it's pretty awesome and to lay there in another mans arms and feel completely natural, a partner that can spot you in the gym haha. I always felt we were on the right side too, like we were more true to our humanity and reason by ignoring hatred, and coming up against adversity
You don't need me to spell out the negatives, but I wish I could walk down the street and hold another guys hand without feeling in danger...
Positive: Being more free to express emotion/affection. Most straight men would not be comfortable giving a buddy a hug and saying he loved him--even if thats what he feels. For gay men, that is not seen as strange, but expected.
Negative: Societal messages (overt and covert) drilled into kids from an early age that tells them their developing same sex feelings are strange, unnatural, wrong, sinful, etc. etc. So damaging to developing psyches.
I like that being gay has given me a first-hand experience of being a minority, and it's helped me to become a more open minded person, something that I think is invaluable and great.
I dont think I like or dislike anything about being gay, I just am. I guess I like the different perspective it gives me on life and it kinda earns you instant female friends - though with some girls that can really annoying!
I guess the coming out issue as others have mentioned becomes annoying, but I tend to twist that situation around to my own amusement.
Hi, I'm a straight guy. I've been "hit on" by a few gay guys in the past, and once I realised that they were actually hitting on me I've always tried to be polite and say as gently as possible "I'm sorry but I'm straight". It has kind of given me an insight into how women must feel when I try to chat them up but they are totally not interested in me! It made me realise that it is not easy for gay people to make the same assumptions as we straights do, in social activity. All the best.
If all things were in jeopardy, and if there was but one thing in my life that I would wish to remain a constant, it is being gay.
I love the sweet intoxication of looking into another boy's eyes and surrendering myself to all of the sparkles and magic. That is so natural and human.
While I wouldn't change anything about being gay, I wish I could be accepted by my family. I'll be waiting.
i have watched this 3x's today and this particular question is very difficult for me to answer, because my feelings on being gay, change from day to day, specifically, family relationships, lost loves, i got up the nerve and kissed and held a guy for the 1st time in 4 years 2 nights ago, so many ups and downs, its really hard to pin point an exact answer, does that make sense?
I love being gay. It's my favorite quality about myself. It's shaped the way i think, and helped to inspire me to learn as much about the world as I can.
I sometimes wish I was a guy so that I could be gay, because I'm just really not attracted to women. If I was a guy, and I was gay, it would be so hot.
Of course, dealing with discrimination and all the downfalls would be more irritating (more than just being an ally and having a kind of peripheral experience of those things).
Still, I think it'd be pretty damn hot to be a gay guy and have a gay-guy-love affair.
I would change that people don't assume everyone is straight until proven otherwise. Coming out again and again and again every time you meet someone new can suck. I do think being gay can help a person be more empathetic about minorities and oppression, which is definitely a good thing.
Actually I'm bi. I love being bi and would never change a thing but it can be tough. Sometimes I feel ignored by the hetero and gay communities, stereotyped or, as a bi women, exploited. It's real big for straight girls to play bi to impress men and it annoys me. I imagine it's tougher for dudes because there are many women and men who simply refuse to believe a man can be bi. Sometimes it's an uphill battle but I'll fight to the end!
I do totally believe some people are bi. I'm sure it definately can be just as tough as being gay. I totally hear you about the straight women pretending to be bi. I've definately seen that.
Something that I like about being gay is that since coming out to myself, I have become more accepting of other people. I make an effort to put myself in their shoes (figuratively of course) and to not make harsh judgements based on simply what I see. I feel that being so different from the majority, and realizing that, has made me a better person. Also, when you are sure of what you are, you become a confident and positive force in society.
This would sound quite sexist, but Gay Guys are very very good people, good friends, and...supercially, gays have a healthier and active sexual life, oh yeah, queer XXX is soooo hot :D Good things about being gay :D
well im more of the metrosexual, homosexual(or bisexual , don't realy know) type of gay care more of my looks then any thin ellse but i don't no if that is rite never encounter another gay + there are also alot of respect in asian cultures i don't think it is rite pls send back a reply , is is ok to even talk to other gays i get all sorts of gay fellings like i want, crave a gay kiss (long one ) it is super fustating pls pls re: back.
These are the same people that want to use their ancient superstitions to hold back science and try to tell a woman or any person for that matter what they can and can't do with their bodies. Also this modern view on homosexuality, not held by all can be traced to the church. In ancient Greece, Rome, China homosexuality was accepted. American Indian cultures accepted partnerships of gay and straight ppl.
hm well what I don't like about being gay is, obviously, not every one is accepting and understanding of it. And sometimes I just want to be normal. But with that said, what i LIKE about being gay is the fact that I'm not normal and that I'm different. I'm very proud of who I am and I wouldn't change it for anybody :)
Good, straight to the point as usual. I don't think that being gay is any better/worse than other orientations, but unfortunately not all of us have been so lucky as to have lived in that family/social environment that could favour the creation of a self-esteem and self-acceptance. Being gay is however so hot: should it be a choice, which is not, I would suggest it to everybody. Oscar Wilde: "Should I have a choice when I die I would pick Heaven for the climate and Hell for the company". Ciao.
I love that the people in my generation (and more specifically in Canada) are all so accepting / intrigued / excited about getting to have a gay friend. And they ask for my opinion on everything for some reason... What kind of sucks though is (as said below) the huge emphasis on casual sex, and the fact that you can fall for someone that you have absolutely zero chances of being with (a hetero).
Hey the greatest part about being gay is that the people you're attracted to usually have a lot more similar interests, hobbies, and are just easier to understand and get along with.
I think gay people, that means no pervert people, are gorgeously tender, lovely, romantic, passionate, very sensitive, having care of any other people. I think often this kind of people are normally cleverer than other ones, especially on artistic and scientific matters. Their threshold of sensivity is very high: they love outside activities, sports, nature. The main aim to realize is to convey their feeling as its allowed to them. This implies to be more emphatic.Talk you soon!
i like being gay because its made me accepting of other people...i dislike all the disgrimination,...if i could change one thing it would be to be stright.
I hate how most people think that being gay is all about wanting/having sex. It's not about that! In fact, I'm proud to call myself a homo-romantic (someone who prefers romance over sexual contact)
That's rather narrow reasoning, isn't it. Just because one doesn't seek a long-term relationship, doesn't mean they're going to one day grow into a lonely old peadophile!
i like that my firends are so cool about me and my BF and were are part of everything we all do together - things i dont like is if were amongst strangers then with friends then i dont let on im gay more for there benfit than my own - easier that way i guess
The thing I most like about being gay is that it has turned me into a better person. When I was younger I was really homophobic and a little bit racist but that all changed when I realised who I was.
I would like to change people's views on being gay. Its a lot more positive here in the UK than in USA but there is still a bit to go.
I like being a part of a community and being able to empathize with others. I dislike the closet and I wish we could get to a level of tolerance and acceptance in the world that the closet won't be necessary.
I agree with you on what I would change -- the hate in the world.
The coolest part for me is that I can have the connection of a male friendship but take it to another level. Two guys who can love each other and have that friendship is incredible! There are no male/female boundaries and it's a lot simpler. LOL
There is probably nothing i like about me being gay,because i dont think i can be part of a gay community. being tjhat way is not something one can be proud of but its just part of my life and i wish it werent that big issue to me.
being gay is only a tiny fraction of who i am. and honestly it hardly ever crosses my mind. but when i was your age is did wish that i were straight. and i even tried to be straight. now that i am older i see it is really of little importance. and those that think it is have a great deal to learn about life. if i could change something...i would have accepted being gay much earlier.
Being gay means that early on in life, we are forced to question everything about ourselves and the meaning and nature of love, family, society. To find answers inside ourselves and live as a gay person is wonderful, exciting, authentic and I wouldn't change it one bit.
Besides, being gay also means I can have slightly inappropriate thoughts about Taylor Lautner in New Moon. OMG! OMG! OMG! Hotness......
The world can do without the hatred and discrimination against us. Were out to harm anyone, all we wish to have are equal rights and to be able to live our lives without all the unesisary BS.
I love the scent and the feel of another man's body against mine. The texture of his hair. His eyes. The sound of his breathing as he sleeps next to me, feeling safe. I like the way being gay has forced me to really work on my own self-awareness, spirituality, intellect and morality and how something that I once counted as a tragic flaw, is, in fact a source of unbelieveable strength, making me more capable of helping other people than I'd ever thought possible.
I like the thrill and excitement of being gay. Growing up as a child I was surrounded by straight people in real life and straight people on tv. When I was 12 I started having feelings for guys, so it was so cool and refreshing like making a new discovery. 9 years later it still feels awesome, and I don't think the magic will ever die. But like most other ppl, I wish society would be more accepting to gay people. :-)
Likes: I like being unique, I love our culture, our history, our outrageousness and courageousness (Stonewall FTW!!), I love that indescribable quality that we all have!
Dislikes: the oppression, the breeders who vote to strip us of rights, the parents who kick out their kids for being gay, homophobia, intolerance, the ass-backwardness of America and those religions/countries who say we're sinners and then kill us for being who we were born to be, oh and gay panic defenses.
Being gay happens. If you're gay you're gay. If you're not you're not. It's a small part of who you are, and if people can't get over it, that's their problem.
Being gay is the one way I'm able to say I'm part of a minority group (though not a visible one).
Because it's not visible, you do hear people say discriminatory or otherwise homophobic things without them realizing it offends you.
With such a gay-friendly community on youtube and other parts of the internet it's easy to forget that much of the world (even many "liberal" places) still have large problem with the existence of homosexuality.
This has nothing to do with your request, but I have to tell you that you have the most amazingly awesome voice. Love hearing not only what you have to say, but how you say it.
But off the top of my head...currently one of the cool things about being gay is how it opens me up to a much larger community of people, such as this channel and others like it. Too cool.
Erik, Awesome video, I agree with you. I wish more people would be a lil more understanding of gay people. I mean its not like it make u different that any other human being in the world. Keep up the good work.
At first I thought being gay was wrong and I really hated it, nevertheless I came to accept me and give myself self support, my favourite part about being gay is that in the process of comming out I found that my family and friends were really accepting and gave me all their support, my least favourite part is wait for everyone to be more accepting or at least tolerating... I just wish everyone was...
I think it's pretty awesome that even in my dreams, I'm gay. When I first noticed that as a teenager, it really let me know for sure that this is who I am and who I was meant to be. Plus, it doesn't hurt that my dreaming-mind has really good taste in men! :-)
I'm actually a straight woman, but I'm very concerned with gay rights. I agree that people should be more accepting of gay people. I find it horrible that so many people are so intolerant, and continue to justify taking away people's rights to marriage and equality.
Thanks for your comments. My partner and I have been together for over 18 years and we have no rights. We live in Ohio which has no marriage or civil unions. It really is not fair....
Like about being gay: being able to say I like guys to guys who wish they could like guys but are too afraid; also not having to have an annoying female telling me what to do. Dislike about being gay: stereotypes (I don't like flamers and I don't like gays who call themselves "girls") and societal disapproval. Also, the difficulty in having children, adoption, etc.
I think this is a complicated question, in part because the experiences of LGBTs vary based on a number of factors - gender, race, socioeconomic status, religion and region. I think, though, that one of the characteristics that is universal amongst us is our incredible strength. We are strong. We have to be, in order to withstand the onslaught of a heteronormative and often homophobic culture. Also, we're totally glamorous.♥
The best part about being gay? We get to be attracted to guys and let's face it, guys are VERY nice to look at. Plus we're not too complicated or anything like that. One thing I dislike is the obsession with sex that a lot of the gay community has & that you should look for sex before you look for a relationship or something that will last longer than a night. And that PRIDE parades feature half-naked people 95% of the time. If we want the world to take us seriously, we gotta put some clothes on
I LOVE being gay & being myself! Like U, I wish folks were more accepting & loving towards one another. Being gay has helped me spiritually to not identify with the mass mindset about what it means 2b a guy in general. Culturally accepted beliefs & norms about masculinity have screwed up the minds of many a guy. U have 2b on strong ground psychologically 2b a strong person, & dealing w/ the hate from others has made me very strong!
My favorite part about being gay: In the process of coming out I have learned so much: from being more understanding of others to knowing how to stick up for myself. I also enjoy living in a time period and place where being gay is much more accepted than before; a time when huge advances in LGBT rights are being made. My least favorite part: There just aren't enough of us! Guys are great and all but most of them are only interested in girls. I would definitely change that if I could.
I agree with everything you have said here. I have learned a whole lot in the process of coming out. I have learned how to become more self-confident. I definately understand that I will not ever allow someone to try to belittle more or anything. I certainly better undertand how to stick up for myself. I would definately like if more guys liked guys as well.
ps, i see more people are watching the video than commenting. That's the kind of apathy that has caused gay rights not to move as fast as they could be. too many gay people are apathetic, far too many are. I hate the apathy!
Even though times have changed there are still alot of closeted people out there. Believe me..opening that closet door is the BEST thing that I ever did. It was 20 years ago butt still remember how liberating it was!!!
I do think gay people are more understanding. I don't like that a lot of gay people feel like they have to hide who they are, that leads to bad self esteem, which has negative effects on the gay community as a whole.
I like being gay because: It has brought me the love of my life. Hmm I dont like being gay because: I think our community is to focused on the sex part of being gay and not on our history or common equality struggles. If I could change one thing: Id make all gay people pink for one day that would really wake up the world.
I agree (let me guess-Bryan?) If every gay person stood up and was seen by families and coworkers there would be no Prop 8's. I would love to see who is and who isn't in the media and politics too!!!! THAT would be a BLAST!!!
I think the best thing about being gay is that gay people are waaay more understanding of other and most are generaly supportive of others. What I dont like about being gay is that often times sex is promoted waaay too much in the gay community and that is what is the focus when people think of gay people
with me.. i just tried dating girls AND guys.. and went with who i was most attracted to..
i remember telling my parents i was gonna grab something to eat out cause i had a date with this guy.. it raised an eyebrow but that was about it.. no "coming out" or whatever..
and the rest of my life's been about the same..
so i guess:
i like just being with a guy, but for a lot more than just the sex.. which IS great..
I hate how being gay is so widely unaccepted, and how its okay to just bash on gay people. What if we gay people started bashing on straights? How would straight people like it if we gays made a law that stated that they couldn't do what we're doing now? (i.e marriage, public affection etc) Let me tell, they wouldn't. Because we don't. I like being gay because I think it has made me a more open minded person, and it has added to my uniqueness. I like being different.
Kororocks12 6 months ago
I am straaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaight
Dakkadot09 7 months ago
What i like about being gay is beautiful women ja, and having a different view on the world then say, a 'normal' person. What i dislike about it is that i feel more isolated because of being different than the majority.
kannazukinomikorocks 10 months ago
My favorite thing is all the fine guys that are good for me! Men are extra fun to look at too. I guess all I'd change is the ability for guys to have babies together and everyone believing gay is nice.
SmartyArtyMcHoty 11 months ago
I like being gay because it forces me to re-examine my society and presents constant challenges for me to work against in life, making all my endeavors and achievements in life THAT much more rewarding in the end.
No pun intended.
algonquin91 1 year ago
My thoughts: It's sometimes a filter through which people look at you. What I like about it: The fact that it's authentic for you and you come to terms with it. What I hate about it: I wish that people would realize that authenticity. I also like the fact that I can say things to my bf that I wouldn't be able to say with another girl. How I really feel, or say let's f&ck and we just strip. that I can tell him I don't like a movie and he'll just be like: I could see how you wouldn't like it
vidhead85 1 year ago
Being Gay... Well, The up side I guess is that you get to be bitchy about what your girlfriends choose to wear on a night out on the town. The downside... when you're in a relationship and you can't blame your boyfriend's moodswings on PMS ! Haha !
Naldoflorida 1 year ago
being gay is great. I have met the guy I love and we getting married next year!
tadge72 1 year ago
i hate cause they gay lol its not right for people being gay and the world wasnt made for gay people but lesbians are ok!!!
MrBogey76 1 year ago
Well, I'm not gay, I actually do not know what my sexual orientation is at all. But, I have no problem at all with gay people. They actually are the best people to be around! Also, a little fact, gay pride day (June 25th) is my birthday! Woo hoo
cola625 1 year ago
I am a lipstick les who loves masculine gay men!
kfag101 1 year ago
I like being gay because it's cool and awesome. I don't like that a lot of people don't know that.
PhuckerPhacePhuck 1 year ago
@PhuckerPhacePhuck I agree
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
I'm a lesbian, I really don't mind being gay and my families cool with it. But what sucks about being gay is the stereotyping, people say I can't be gay because I'm girlie looking, or that lesbian couples are always a feminine girl with a butch girl. All the girls I have ever been with are feminine like me so not true . What I love about being gay is I don't have to worry about pregnancy and I know how to please a girl cuz I have the same parts, and I just love women they are beautiful!
GrayArea007 1 year ago
being gay is sinful and if u continue god cant be near u when u die so he will have no choice but to put u in hell where u will suffer for eternity and god will cry because he wanted u to be part of his family. But on the other hand if u stop being gay as u are right now. youll be accepted into the lords family as his child which u have always been but just cant be near him because of the sin u have put on u by satin the devil.i know u will reject this comment in everyway
liveytheKHqueen 1 year ago
I am a bisexual mormon (how i figure that one out still puzzles me, but still)... so I am probly the most caught-between-worlds person out there, but I very much consider myself part of the gay community.
Life is pretty rough, actually. Less-so for a bisexual, i mean i just date girls and things work for me, but I still feel like i'm missing out.
I am happier tho, now that i'm out to a few close friends. I just openned up to a friend of mine, and he was really accepting. I feel GREAT!
bradleyman888 1 year ago
Likes- I love how I can bond with my straight male friends checking out women in public, hahahah. My sexuality and my personality work together to make me a very open, honest person about pretty much any subject, which makes it easy for my friends to come to me for advice.
Dislikes-- I hate how catty the gay scene is in the midwest. I will never understand how a gay person can still judge a transgendered individual or bitch about how "fake" bisexuals are. Pressure to 'choose' one gender sucks.
OrionsChild 1 year ago
I am proud to be gay!!!!
The thought of finding a guy to spend the rest of my life with keeps me going.
There is really nothing I dislike about being gay.
LordTilston 1 year ago
Love is love and i love being gay, it's awesome, all but the hate that some people have.
jeffykins100 2 years ago
Yes i think if i wasn't gay life would be waaay easier!!! But I wouldn't trade being happy the way I am for a slightly easier life!!
MrDdcj 2 years ago
I'm from an older generation and I don't like being gay but there is no cure so I see it sort of as a handicap that I have to deal with. I came out at a time when gay bars didn't have windows, the word "gay" could not be put in the phone book and violence against gays was just expected. Today my country has same sex marriage. The world has changed so much and I am happy for the younger gays that live in this much freer world.
cavejourney 2 years ago
I have to say I dont dislike being gay at all. If some magical being popped up and said 'I will make you heterosexual'.. I would have to decline their offer. And Im not gonna give some sappy reasoning about how "Its made me the person I have become" or suddenly proclaim "I am what I am" ... .. Im gonna be straight up and admit its just because I enjoy being gay. I love being gay and I wouldnt want to change that for no-one...
- Phillip (NZ)
SkwertDiggity 2 years ago
Hi Erik!
I like that being gay lets me be open to SO MUCH in the world, and be more emotional and possibly even more attached than if I were just a "tough" straight guy. And since being gay is such a small part of what I do on a daily basis, it doesn't really affect my daily relations with other people.
I am still slightly anonymous about being gay to some people, so I hate that I have to "tell" them about it, since for me (and especially you!) it is not obvious.
Great question!
thepianomaniac 2 years ago
I love being part of a community based on shared experiences
I love that guys understand guys
I love the way men become handsome as they age
I dislike that sometimes, in certain situations, Im nervous about whether Ill be accepted or not. Though when I am it usually feels good enough to make it worth the worry beforehand
I dislike being called disgusting when Im kissing my boyfriend in the street
I dislike the over emphasis on sex and how that makes us look
Ultimately though, I love being gay
symonster01 2 years ago
Hello handsome ;) Positive: more understanding of other excluded groups, it's pretty awesome and to lay there in another mans arms and feel completely natural, a partner that can spot you in the gym haha. I always felt we were on the right side too, like we were more true to our humanity and reason by ignoring hatred, and coming up against adversity
You don't need me to spell out the negatives, but I wish I could walk down the street and hold another guys hand without feeling in danger...
andorumaruchinezu 2 years ago
Positive: Being more free to express emotion/affection. Most straight men would not be comfortable giving a buddy a hug and saying he loved him--even if thats what he feels. For gay men, that is not seen as strange, but expected.
Negative: Societal messages (overt and covert) drilled into kids from an early age that tells them their developing same sex feelings are strange, unnatural, wrong, sinful, etc. etc. So damaging to developing psyches.
Great question Erik!
caseyflorida 2 years ago
I agree with both your postive and your negative.
Thank you!
=)
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
Yes its an advantage but i cant change who i am but i like for people to understand that no person is like the next,,if that makes any sense
hot4youu18 2 years ago
yes, that definately makes sense!
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
=)x
hot4youu18 2 years ago
What I like about being gay...
I like that being gay has given me a first-hand experience of being a minority, and it's helped me to become a more open minded person, something that I think is invaluable and great.
dimose14 2 years ago
I agree with you!
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
I dont think I like or dislike anything about being gay, I just am. I guess I like the different perspective it gives me on life and it kinda earns you instant female friends - though with some girls that can really annoying!
I guess the coming out issue as others have mentioned becomes annoying, but I tend to twist that situation around to my own amusement.
JustB3NJI 2 years ago
Hi, I'm a straight guy. I've been "hit on" by a few gay guys in the past, and once I realised that they were actually hitting on me I've always tried to be polite and say as gently as possible "I'm sorry but I'm straight". It has kind of given me an insight into how women must feel when I try to chat them up but they are totally not interested in me! It made me realise that it is not easy for gay people to make the same assumptions as we straights do, in social activity. All the best.
579enact 2 years ago
Hey man, awesome comment, wish more straight guys thought that way.
dimose14 2 years ago
Likes:
We know more about men then straight guys know about women.
We can sexualy objectify people without being sexist.
Easier to get laid.
More open-minded.
Dislikes:
Homophobia (level of threat depends on geography).
Men can be a lot more shallow than women (women sleep with homely-looking people all the time; men don't).
A lot more posturing. Straight guys seem more honest.
The cliques. I'm too hairy to be a twink, not bulky enough to be a gym rat, and too skinny to be a bear.
kissfan7 2 years ago
If all things were in jeopardy, and if there was but one thing in my life that I would wish to remain a constant, it is being gay.
I love the sweet intoxication of looking into another boy's eyes and surrendering myself to all of the sparkles and magic. That is so natural and human.
While I wouldn't change anything about being gay, I wish I could be accepted by my family. I'll be waiting.
PurpleHoneyBear 2 years ago
i have watched this 3x's today and this particular question is very difficult for me to answer, because my feelings on being gay, change from day to day, specifically, family relationships, lost loves, i got up the nerve and kissed and held a guy for the 1st time in 4 years 2 nights ago, so many ups and downs, its really hard to pin point an exact answer, does that make sense?
thedancetuber 2 years ago
I love being gay. It's my favorite quality about myself. It's shaped the way i think, and helped to inspire me to learn as much about the world as I can.
TheLastEric 2 years ago
awesome!
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
I sometimes wish I was a guy so that I could be gay, because I'm just really not attracted to women. If I was a guy, and I was gay, it would be so hot.
Of course, dealing with discrimination and all the downfalls would be more irritating (more than just being an ally and having a kind of peripheral experience of those things).
Still, I think it'd be pretty damn hot to be a gay guy and have a gay-guy-love affair.
AislinCade 2 years ago
I would change that people don't assume everyone is straight until proven otherwise. Coming out again and again and again every time you meet someone new can suck. I do think being gay can help a person be more empathetic about minorities and oppression, which is definitely a good thing.
Balance2Life 2 years ago
Actually I'm bi. I love being bi and would never change a thing but it can be tough. Sometimes I feel ignored by the hetero and gay communities, stereotyped or, as a bi women, exploited. It's real big for straight girls to play bi to impress men and it annoys me. I imagine it's tougher for dudes because there are many women and men who simply refuse to believe a man can be bi. Sometimes it's an uphill battle but I'll fight to the end!
ninetakesten 2 years ago
I do totally believe some people are bi. I'm sure it definately can be just as tough as being gay. I totally hear you about the straight women pretending to be bi. I've definately seen that.
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
Something that I like about being gay is that since coming out to myself, I have become more accepting of other people. I make an effort to put myself in their shoes (figuratively of course) and to not make harsh judgements based on simply what I see. I feel that being so different from the majority, and realizing that, has made me a better person. Also, when you are sure of what you are, you become a confident and positive force in society.
btw, thanks for asking
shyrichie 2 years ago
Also, in some cases, you can come across a nice smiling and ginger-haired guy ;)
kmilobjork 2 years ago
This would sound quite sexist, but Gay Guys are very very good people, good friends, and...supercially, gays have a healthier and active sexual life, oh yeah, queer XXX is soooo hot :D Good things about being gay :D
kmilobjork 2 years ago
Would not change anything about my own life.
Wish that we could offer more support to gays living in rural areas. They are under constant attack and bashing.
ThisBoyTV 2 years ago
I totally agree with you about that!
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
i love it! i love being bi. its a very beautiful thing.
mypokerface14 2 years ago
In larger cities, the gay community is awesome. I like that feeling that we are all one family.
What I don't like is that we don't have equal rights - YET.
cynterslave 2 years ago
well im more of the metrosexual, homosexual(or bisexual , don't realy know) type of gay care more of my looks then any thin ellse but i don't no if that is rite never encounter another gay + there are also alot of respect in asian cultures i don't think it is rite pls send back a reply , is is ok to even talk to other gays i get all sorts of gay fellings like i want, crave a gay kiss (long one ) it is super fustating pls pls re: back.
oh7king123 2 years ago
Yes, it is all right to talk to other gays. I understand those feelings. It can be frusterating, but eventually you will meet other gay people.
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
These are the same people that want to use their ancient superstitions to hold back science and try to tell a woman or any person for that matter what they can and can't do with their bodies. Also this modern view on homosexuality, not held by all can be traced to the church. In ancient Greece, Rome, China homosexuality was accepted. American Indian cultures accepted partnerships of gay and straight ppl.
Vostokification 2 years ago
I hate that I have to constanty wonder weather or not someone will accept me because I'm gay.
I like being gay because I feel like it has made me understand others better and have an open mind on all issues.
TylerAg07 2 years ago 8
hm well what I don't like about being gay is, obviously, not every one is accepting and understanding of it. And sometimes I just want to be normal. But with that said, what i LIKE about being gay is the fact that I'm not normal and that I'm different. I'm very proud of who I am and I wouldn't change it for anybody :)
Starrlabb 2 years ago 3
Good, straight to the point as usual. I don't think that being gay is any better/worse than other orientations, but unfortunately not all of us have been so lucky as to have lived in that family/social environment that could favour the creation of a self-esteem and self-acceptance. Being gay is however so hot: should it be a choice, which is not, I would suggest it to everybody. Oscar Wilde: "Should I have a choice when I die I would pick Heaven for the climate and Hell for the company". Ciao.
whataboutAlfie 2 years ago
I love that the people in my generation (and more specifically in Canada) are all so accepting / intrigued / excited about getting to have a gay friend. And they ask for my opinion on everything for some reason... What kind of sucks though is (as said below) the huge emphasis on casual sex, and the fact that you can fall for someone that you have absolutely zero chances of being with (a hetero).
darkanrahl 2 years ago
i love being gay! the only problem with me is not having a boyfriend.......
kikilol69 2 years ago
Hey the greatest part about being gay is that the people you're attracted to usually have a lot more similar interests, hobbies, and are just easier to understand and get along with.
Frost571 2 years ago
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themadfridgechannel 2 years ago
I think gay people, that means no pervert people, are gorgeously tender, lovely, romantic, passionate, very sensitive, having care of any other people. I think often this kind of people are normally cleverer than other ones, especially on artistic and scientific matters. Their threshold of sensivity is very high: they love outside activities, sports, nature. The main aim to realize is to convey their feeling as its allowed to them. This implies to be more emphatic.Talk you soon!
HN7319 2 years ago
i like being gay because its made me accepting of other people...i dislike all the disgrimination,...if i could change one thing it would be to be stright.
demetri788 2 years ago
i like that I never have to touch vag
har har
TryingToDiscover2 2 years ago
I hate how most people think that being gay is all about wanting/having sex. It's not about that! In fact, I'm proud to call myself a homo-romantic (someone who prefers romance over sexual contact)
tehdark 2 years ago
the worst thing is the emphasis on casual sex. if u want to be loyal ur a boring freak in most circles.
wadder all the hot singles gonna wake up 2 at 50, 60, tec. bitter lonley old pedos?
bothers me a lot.
meitzjoei 2 years ago
That's rather narrow reasoning, isn't it. Just because one doesn't seek a long-term relationship, doesn't mean they're going to one day grow into a lonely old peadophile!
MrHeslopian 2 years ago
Awe, this is a great video, I highly appreciate your opinions.
Hmmm...
Some of the things that I like about begin gay is the fact that I'm attracted to guys and that they are being more accepted and loved.
One thing that I hate is the fact that some straight guys think that you would like them, just because you are gay. I mean we have our own types.
Take Care
&
Thank you
XOXO
CasualLuxuries 2 years ago
I want being gay to be as much a non-event as being straight.
What I like about being gay is, oddly enough, not having to worry about bringing another child into an already over crowded world.
pushshapes 2 years ago
i like that my firends are so cool about me and my BF and were are part of everything we all do together - things i dont like is if were amongst strangers then with friends then i dont let on im gay more for there benfit than my own - easier that way i guess
sammytrip 2 years ago
The thing I most like about being gay is that it has turned me into a better person. When I was younger I was really homophobic and a little bit racist but that all changed when I realised who I was.
I would like to change people's views on being gay. Its a lot more positive here in the UK than in USA but there is still a bit to go.
Anyway, roll on my wedding!!!
robmitch92 2 years ago
I wanna be gay with you......
09porcupine 2 years ago
I like being a part of a community and being able to empathize with others. I dislike the closet and I wish we could get to a level of tolerance and acceptance in the world that the closet won't be necessary.
jth2t 2 years ago
being gay is pretty cool.
i dunno, I like dudes.
I don't like the fact that I can't reproduce unless I get a surrogate mother - but that's about it.
xypowerpop 2 years ago
I would imagine gay marrige would be like being roommates with your best friend... forever. thats pretty awesome.
catylest 2 years ago
I agree with you on what I would change -- the hate in the world.
The coolest part for me is that I can have the connection of a male friendship but take it to another level. Two guys who can love each other and have that friendship is incredible! There are no male/female boundaries and it's a lot simpler. LOL
OutsideTheFox 2 years ago
it's just part of being me...
only bad part is being judged about something that i can't change...
dlyc4714 2 years ago
There is probably nothing i like about me being gay,because i dont think i can be part of a gay community. being tjhat way is not something one can be proud of but its just part of my life and i wish it werent that big issue to me.
Heidelbuam 2 years ago
Being gay to me, means not needing to get "married" or have children - freedom.
qwertyisone 2 years ago
Being gay is celebrated by others who are gay. You won't find that in heterosexual people. :)
austenwack 2 years ago
being gay is only a tiny fraction of who i am. and honestly it hardly ever crosses my mind. but when i was your age is did wish that i were straight. and i even tried to be straight. now that i am older i see it is really of little importance. and those that think it is have a great deal to learn about life. if i could change something...i would have accepted being gay much earlier.
ftldrdl 2 years ago
Being gay means that early on in life, we are forced to question everything about ourselves and the meaning and nature of love, family, society. To find answers inside ourselves and live as a gay person is wonderful, exciting, authentic and I wouldn't change it one bit.
Besides, being gay also means I can have slightly inappropriate thoughts about Taylor Lautner in New Moon. OMG! OMG! OMG! Hotness......
raisinhead2 2 years ago
Its great being gay. Simple as that.
The world can do without the hatred and discrimination against us. Were out to harm anyone, all we wish to have are equal rights and to be able to live our lives without all the unesisary BS.
ParmaGayGuy 2 years ago
I love the scent and the feel of another man's body against mine. The texture of his hair. His eyes. The sound of his breathing as he sleeps next to me, feeling safe. I like the way being gay has forced me to really work on my own self-awareness, spirituality, intellect and morality and how something that I once counted as a tragic flaw, is, in fact a source of unbelieveable strength, making me more capable of helping other people than I'd ever thought possible.
JCJasion 2 years ago 2
Great post!
raisinhead2 2 years ago
Thank you!
JCJasion 2 years ago
I like the thrill and excitement of being gay. Growing up as a child I was surrounded by straight people in real life and straight people on tv. When I was 12 I started having feelings for guys, so it was so cool and refreshing like making a new discovery. 9 years later it still feels awesome, and I don't think the magic will ever die. But like most other ppl, I wish society would be more accepting to gay people. :-)
retrofun1479 2 years ago
Likes: I like being unique, I love our culture, our history, our outrageousness and courageousness (Stonewall FTW!!), I love that indescribable quality that we all have!
Dislikes: the oppression, the breeders who vote to strip us of rights, the parents who kick out their kids for being gay, homophobia, intolerance, the ass-backwardness of America and those religions/countries who say we're sinners and then kill us for being who we were born to be, oh and gay panic defenses.
FTLNewsFeed 2 years ago
Being gay happens. If you're gay you're gay. If you're not you're not. It's a small part of who you are, and if people can't get over it, that's their problem.
richmooremi 2 years ago 2
I just realized that you are Rich from Ask A Gay Couple. lol, I never had realized that before! Life is full of discoveries.
I agree with your comment.
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
That's me. I really like your videos. I'm just shy and never say anything.
richmooremi 2 years ago
Seconded.
gadgetfreak84 2 years ago
Thoughts:
Being gay is the one way I'm able to say I'm part of a minority group (though not a visible one).
Because it's not visible, you do hear people say discriminatory or otherwise homophobic things without them realizing it offends you.
With such a gay-friendly community on youtube and other parts of the internet it's easy to forget that much of the world (even many "liberal" places) still have large problem with the existence of homosexuality.
Stephen5000 2 years ago
This has nothing to do with your request, but I have to tell you that you have the most amazingly awesome voice. Love hearing not only what you have to say, but how you say it.
But off the top of my head...currently one of the cool things about being gay is how it opens me up to a much larger community of people, such as this channel and others like it. Too cool.
BrizyComics 2 years ago
I really appreciate your comment. Thank you!
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
I think being gay is pretty cool. The best part is falling in love with boyssss...haha mmmmm.
But it sucks because I cant tell who's gay and who's not..the only guys I like dont act gay...or fem. And it seems like there isnt that many of us =(
FirstDate08 2 years ago
Erik, Awesome video, I agree with you. I wish more people would be a lil more understanding of gay people. I mean its not like it make u different that any other human being in the world. Keep up the good work.
--Cam
camguy99 2 years ago
At first I thought being gay was wrong and I really hated it, nevertheless I came to accept me and give myself self support, my favourite part about being gay is that in the process of comming out I found that my family and friends were really accepting and gave me all their support, my least favourite part is wait for everyone to be more accepting or at least tolerating... I just wish everyone was...
HRHrMegafan 2 years ago
I think it's pretty awesome that even in my dreams, I'm gay. When I first noticed that as a teenager, it really let me know for sure that this is who I am and who I was meant to be. Plus, it doesn't hurt that my dreaming-mind has really good taste in men! :-)
vwestlife 2 years ago
r u a top or bottom?
liveinmymusic 2 years ago
versatile
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
I'm actually a straight woman, but I'm very concerned with gay rights. I agree that people should be more accepting of gay people. I find it horrible that so many people are so intolerant, and continue to justify taking away people's rights to marriage and equality.
alielaine1990 2 years ago
I thank you for that. I meant to include straight people's thoughts on gay people! Thank you for your support and comment!
=)
Erik
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
Thanks for your comments. My partner and I have been together for over 18 years and we have no rights. We live in Ohio which has no marriage or civil unions. It really is not fair....
stoner829 2 years ago
Like about being gay: being able to say I like guys to guys who wish they could like guys but are too afraid; also not having to have an annoying female telling me what to do. Dislike about being gay: stereotypes (I don't like flamers and I don't like gays who call themselves "girls") and societal disapproval. Also, the difficulty in having children, adoption, etc.
nexttsar 2 years ago
This is the best era to be gay in America and most countries. Yes there's still miles to go and all that, but consider how much we have so far.
The only thing I don't like about being gay is the massive drinking I see in the bars.
We as a community need a better alternative.
OHsneakerluvr73 2 years ago
I think this is a complicated question, in part because the experiences of LGBTs vary based on a number of factors - gender, race, socioeconomic status, religion and region. I think, though, that one of the characteristics that is universal amongst us is our incredible strength. We are strong. We have to be, in order to withstand the onslaught of a heteronormative and often homophobic culture. Also, we're totally glamorous.♥
jsheas53 2 years ago
As a famous author once said--being gay is not for sissies! :)
caseyflorida 2 years ago 6
@caseyflorida Not at all!
vidhead85 1 year ago
The best part about being gay? We get to be attracted to guys and let's face it, guys are VERY nice to look at. Plus we're not too complicated or anything like that. One thing I dislike is the obsession with sex that a lot of the gay community has & that you should look for sex before you look for a relationship or something that will last longer than a night. And that PRIDE parades feature half-naked people 95% of the time. If we want the world to take us seriously, we gotta put some clothes on
NerdyMcCool 2 years ago 3
I think being gay requires from us being brave. What I dislike is the impossibility of having children
alonelychild 2 years ago
I LOVE being gay & being myself! Like U, I wish folks were more accepting & loving towards one another. Being gay has helped me spiritually to not identify with the mass mindset about what it means 2b a guy in general. Culturally accepted beliefs & norms about masculinity have screwed up the minds of many a guy. U have 2b on strong ground psychologically 2b a strong person, & dealing w/ the hate from others has made me very strong!
marlonsuniverse 2 years ago 2
My favorite part about being gay: In the process of coming out I have learned so much: from being more understanding of others to knowing how to stick up for myself. I also enjoy living in a time period and place where being gay is much more accepted than before; a time when huge advances in LGBT rights are being made. My least favorite part: There just aren't enough of us! Guys are great and all but most of them are only interested in girls. I would definitely change that if I could.
BIitzed 2 years ago 2
I agree with everything you have said here. I have learned a whole lot in the process of coming out. I have learned how to become more self-confident. I definately understand that I will not ever allow someone to try to belittle more or anything. I certainly better undertand how to stick up for myself. I would definately like if more guys liked guys as well.
You are a smart man!
=)
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago
Share the favorite part. On the least favorite I join the mayority in the wish for more aceptence.
mackmeck13 2 years ago
ps, i see more people are watching the video than commenting. That's the kind of apathy that has caused gay rights not to move as fast as they could be. too many gay people are apathetic, far too many are. I hate the apathy!
epanders589 2 years ago 2
Even though times have changed there are still alot of closeted people out there. Believe me..opening that closet door is the BEST thing that I ever did. It was 20 years ago butt still remember how liberating it was!!!
stoner829 2 years ago
I think being gay can be tough, but I also think it is a gift from God.
epanders589 2 years ago
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depfox 2 years ago
I do think gay people are more understanding. I don't like that a lot of gay people feel like they have to hide who they are, that leads to bad self esteem, which has negative effects on the gay community as a whole.
girlitoldyou 2 years ago 2
I like being gay because: It has brought me the love of my life. Hmm I dont like being gay because: I think our community is to focused on the sex part of being gay and not on our history or common equality struggles. If I could change one thing: Id make all gay people pink for one day that would really wake up the world.
depfox 2 years ago
I agree (let me guess-Bryan?) If every gay person stood up and was seen by families and coworkers there would be no Prop 8's. I would love to see who is and who isn't in the media and politics too!!!! THAT would be a BLAST!!!
stoner829 2 years ago
I think the best thing about being gay is that gay people are waaay more understanding of other and most are generaly supportive of others. What I dont like about being gay is that often times sex is promoted waaay too much in the gay community and that is what is the focus when people think of gay people
IDH2008 2 years ago
hhhmmm.. never thought too much about it i guess!
with me.. i just tried dating girls AND guys.. and went with who i was most attracted to..
i remember telling my parents i was gonna grab something to eat out cause i had a date with this guy.. it raised an eyebrow but that was about it.. no "coming out" or whatever..
and the rest of my life's been about the same..
so i guess:
i like just being with a guy, but for a lot more than just the sex.. which IS great..
and i dislike the 'drama' scene
<3
HypnosReveur 2 years ago 2
got an addendum man:
now that i think about it.. my pop walked in on me and a guy.. we were dressed.. but we were in bed kissing..
so yeah..
that kinda killed the NEED for a coming out speech too..
okay.. conscience clear.. later! =)
<3
HypnosReveur 2 years ago
I think being gay is a good thing. It makes me unique.
yaymamayay 2 years ago