it's because before you get married you are "woo'ing" so much to eachother. After awhile you get tired of "woo'ing". Meaning that all relationships at the beginning up until the point of being married are good but after awhile of being together for so long, you just at that point start to relaxe.
The beginning of a relationship is never who you are they are. After a year or maybe 2, you will see who they truely truely are. Sometimes though, they are who they are when you first meet them.
Thanks for putting marriage in perspective. Your response was honest, on point, and full of substance without being sensationalized (as it would have been on a talk show).
BTW I'm a brother with 11 yrs of marriage as of 4/2009.
I think it would be odd if women and men did not change in their marriage. It doesn't have to be a negative thing if you both keep in perspective why you fell in love and married in the first place. Marriage is a beautiful thing despite me being married twice I realize I was not honest in what I wanted but I know now from growing from with in. Change is not a BAD thing. Just keep it in realistic perspective about what you desire in marriage ge before you take that leap in the first place.
OMG! You just NAILED every single "change". And I've said the same thing about how men let themselves go, while women are the ones who are accused of it. o.O I think many people don't realize that marriage takes work. But it's worth it!
wow you really have no idea what love is, all you have is sex, men who want sex don't even like the women, just getting a fix for the dick. men see sex as pleasure, women see sex, as pleasure, and love. men who like women, do not try to ever get sex from the girl he claims to love. good luck honey!!!
marrige does not make trying to get sex any better, but women have been brainwashed to see that it's respectful to put out once married, and to see a guy getting sex before marrige as disrespectful, when in fact it does not matter at what point of the relationship you're at it is disrespectful, I understand that some people want sex, but one thing must change more acceptance to the fact that alot of women don't like to put out, and to not ever have the preasure in doing so. think think! peace
marrige does not make trying to get sex any better, but women have been brainwashed to see that it's respectful to put out once married, and to see a guy getting sex before marrige as disrespectful, when in fact it does not matter at what point of the relationship you're at it is disrespectful, I understand that some people want sex, but one thing must change more acceptance to the fact that alot of women don't like to put out, and to not ever have the preasure in doing so. think think! peace
I have watched a lot of your videos and I think you are very intelligent. You do not "bash" people. You speak the truth and it comes from the heart. This video, for example, you do not blame the man or the woman. It is an equal partership. I was always scared or nervous about change. It is not bad, like you said, it's just different. Thank you for helping me realize that.
I agree. We have to be realistic about the expectations we have of our marriage. Especially, when it comes to holding our beloved to a selfish idealistic standard.
So good to see you! You are so right change is good! Congrats, and yes we are almost running parallel lives! LOL @ the bonkers comment because it is sooooo TRUE! ;D
I for one, am glad my wife changes. Change is growth. Its not marriage itself, but time that leads to change.
I was crazy for the girl I dated years ago, but, I couldnt live without the woman I have today. Ive been fortunate enough to watch my wife grow from a teen, into an adult, and into a mother. That, is the most beautiful thing Ive experienced in life.
Honestly, our sex, is more intimate, more sensual, more meaningful and truthfully soulful after all the change.
:) okay...i'll give you this. we do change. but men get more mellow and women let their mouths run like a faucet a little more. lol. you know i wasn't letting you get off that easy:) love ya
I'm not married:: but i don't think women get more "satanic" after marriage. Maybe it's the period where the woman expects more from the man.....or expects different things....and the men get more relaxed. I think they both change...but eh...what do i know..I'm only 19.
LOL I like your spirit :)
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tashiascherrerw 1 year ago
it's because before you get married you are "woo'ing" so much to eachother. After awhile you get tired of "woo'ing". Meaning that all relationships at the beginning up until the point of being married are good but after awhile of being together for so long, you just at that point start to relaxe.
The beginning of a relationship is never who you are they are. After a year or maybe 2, you will see who they truely truely are. Sometimes though, they are who they are when you first meet them.
Gypscrew 2 years ago
Thanks for putting marriage in perspective. Your response was honest, on point, and full of substance without being sensationalized (as it would have been on a talk show).
BTW I'm a brother with 11 yrs of marriage as of 4/2009.
tylersfs 2 years ago
Quote:'If you marry her she will turn into one of us' LOL idd.
And:
'In praise of change on Love.' you are soooo right abt that. Thanks, Yah Bless, Love & Mercy upon us all for ever.
deborahbetty58 3 years ago
on=through
deborahbetty58 3 years ago
I think it would be odd if women and men did not change in their marriage. It doesn't have to be a negative thing if you both keep in perspective why you fell in love and married in the first place. Marriage is a beautiful thing despite me being married twice I realize I was not honest in what I wanted but I know now from growing from with in. Change is not a BAD thing. Just keep it in realistic perspective about what you desire in marriage ge before you take that leap in the first place.
janake7 3 years ago
Very well said. Kutos! Very good vid!
jaxkipi 3 years ago
OMG! You just NAILED every single "change". And I've said the same thing about how men let themselves go, while women are the ones who are accused of it. o.O I think many people don't realize that marriage takes work. But it's worth it!
biblegirl7 3 years ago
this was VERY well said! :)
swttart89 3 years ago
bless you and your man, and thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, words really can reach hearts when they are from the heart
CorvetteTeaser 3 years ago
You are such a cool person!
meggiemeg86 3 years ago
wow you really have no idea what love is, all you have is sex, men who want sex don't even like the women, just getting a fix for the dick. men see sex as pleasure, women see sex, as pleasure, and love. men who like women, do not try to ever get sex from the girl he claims to love. good luck honey!!!
incubusrsnnglyp 3 years ago
marrige does not make trying to get sex any better, but women have been brainwashed to see that it's respectful to put out once married, and to see a guy getting sex before marrige as disrespectful, when in fact it does not matter at what point of the relationship you're at it is disrespectful, I understand that some people want sex, but one thing must change more acceptance to the fact that alot of women don't like to put out, and to not ever have the preasure in doing so. think think! peace
incubusrsnnglyp 3 years ago
marrige does not make trying to get sex any better, but women have been brainwashed to see that it's respectful to put out once married, and to see a guy getting sex before marrige as disrespectful, when in fact it does not matter at what point of the relationship you're at it is disrespectful, I understand that some people want sex, but one thing must change more acceptance to the fact that alot of women don't like to put out, and to not ever have the preasure in doing so. think think! peace
incubusrsnnglyp 3 years ago
You're so natural when you video blog. You're just a beautiful person :) Sonnie
Sonnie55 3 years ago
i just stumbled upon your vids and had to stop and say i think you are a beautiful woman. go on and tell it.
tashaluvsyou 3 years ago
You are so right and I think if more people understood that, marriage wouldn't look so sdcary. {;
jilliancnow23 4 years ago
I love how candid and monologue-ish your videos are.
blackberryjuice1 4 years ago
I have watched a lot of your videos and I think you are very intelligent. You do not "bash" people. You speak the truth and it comes from the heart. This video, for example, you do not blame the man or the woman. It is an equal partership. I was always scared or nervous about change. It is not bad, like you said, it's just different. Thank you for helping me realize that.
jmlasha 4 years ago
Another good point, flidflaz. I agree. Appreciate the changes and the "evolution" of your partner as well as your partnership.
truthnomad 4 years ago
I agree. We have to be realistic about the expectations we have of our marriage. Especially, when it comes to holding our beloved to a selfish idealistic standard.
truthnomad 4 years ago
Great video you telling the truth.
Nuru305 4 years ago
Absolutely right on and beautifully and lovingly expressed. A great attitude shines through again!
earth2k8 4 years ago
cHUCH!
playasliveon 4 years ago
good points
ohveryyoung 4 years ago
so true...you have so much wisdom...missed you
cece63 4 years ago
So good to see you! You are so right change is good! Congrats, and yes we are almost running parallel lives! LOL @ the bonkers comment because it is sooooo TRUE! ;D
mtamorphis 4 years ago
BONK BONK, BONK BONK BONK!!! Hey Lisa!
spokenlife 4 years ago
Happy Anniversary! I agree even though I have yet to be married. Heheh! lol! Im so glad to see you! heheh! I hope to hear from you soon!
EssenceOfTruth 4 years ago
You definitely will. The show finishes its run this weekend, so next week I'm right on that assignment. Haven't forgotten you!!!
spokenlife 4 years ago
I for one, am glad my wife changes. Change is growth. Its not marriage itself, but time that leads to change.
I was crazy for the girl I dated years ago, but, I couldnt live without the woman I have today. Ive been fortunate enough to watch my wife grow from a teen, into an adult, and into a mother. That, is the most beautiful thing Ive experienced in life.
Honestly, our sex, is more intimate, more sensual, more meaningful and truthfully soulful after all the change.
truthnomad 4 years ago
May I make another video and read your response as a quote? I think it's absolutely on point and EVERYBODY should hear it! Thank you so much!
spokenlife 4 years ago
I'm gonna tuck those words of wisdom away for when (or if) I get married! Glad to see you back!
LadyJD13 4 years ago
Nice to see you back!
KnightOverEgypt 4 years ago
When my six pack turned into a keg my sweetie started using it as a pillow. I guess change works if we work with change. Good to see you again :-)
2of6Solutions 4 years ago 2
I LOVE that. "Change works if we work with change." So VERY true! Thanks!
spokenlife 4 years ago
good words of advice
guitareruption 4 years ago
:) okay...i'll give you this. we do change. but men get more mellow and women let their mouths run like a faucet a little more. lol. you know i wasn't letting you get off that easy:) love ya
dejuanp
dejuanp 4 years ago
hee hee
spokenlife 4 years ago
lol hahahaahahahaahha -- pissed!
wow! married twice!I cant even imagine.
robyn2288 4 years ago
new camera ?
lestube001 4 years ago
No, why? Maybe I accidentally did something RIGHT with it this time! LOL
spokenlife 4 years ago
I think Both Men & Women Do for the most part!
Probably explains why there is such a
High DIVORCE RATE!
LECLARA 4 years ago
I'm not married:: but i don't think women get more "satanic" after marriage. Maybe it's the period where the woman expects more from the man.....or expects different things....and the men get more relaxed. I think they both change...but eh...what do i know..I'm only 19.
robyn2288 4 years ago
Baby, I'm 54 & have been married twice.
Yeah they BOTH CHANGE,
The Man Gets Confortable &
The Woman Gets Pissed!!! (LOL)
LECLARA 4 years ago
lol ^5
Sahbisun 4 years ago
Agreed...
Katalyzt 4 years ago