I think Marriage is quote a beautiul thing, commiting yoursel to one person, because you hae such adulation or them.
My parents were married or 24 years, then my Mum died.
My point is, what is the ruit o this thing we call "dating", if the intention is to, at some point, cease it? It's pretty much like asking someone "Will you be the person I can make loe to or a little while, until we get bored of eachother?"
lol, agreed marriage is silly. But I'll even take it another step forward relationships. you know The ones, stupid. I just think its easier/more accommodating to me to be not tied down to anyone in particular, ever, thanks.
Divorce is so common nowadays, the new 'big trend' is to have a divorce party. (Maybe that's why people get married, because they like all the partying that comes with starting and ending it...)
my parents are still together, although the majority of my friend's parents aren't. i can sort of see what based your opinion, but i still think marriage is cool. sometimes, if you find your one, and it's just like that song "first day of my life" by bright eyes, then you know you're okay with spending the rest of your life with someone. why not make it official that you're stuck with each other?
I understand your point being made, but it costs money to do all of that.
In perspective, real love should not be fantasized with thousands of dollars just to say a few biblical phrases.
Being in love is more about the physical and emotional commitment, and a marriage certificate an often ruin that if both parties are not appropriately prepared.
Essentially, getting married is good or bad according to who is looking at the situation.
my parents met when they where in school and dated for 5 years and have been married for 25 years and are still very much in love i think marriage is a great thing when its the right person!
i think that some people marry the wrong reasons, some people marry for the right ones and are too lazy to make it work, and some people just give up. anybody who doesn't fit that description above will be happily married.
Well if you dont want to be with that person for the rest of your life through everything... then you wouldnt get married... so... there is no arguement here. Just finding the right people for each other :)
marriage is nice, but not so nice when you get denied you know what, then you scream and yell and wish to kill someone, or yourself, , , (man these aren't some positive words...)
I believe that you need to be choosy when you get married. I know so many couples who end up in divorce because they get married too quickly and then they don't communicate with each other. You need to have communication, or you are screwed.
I'm only 14, so my view may change, but right now I don't think I'm going to get married. I don't need a piece of paper to prove I love someone. It's sort of ridiculous.
wow the way you said hugs and kisses was kinda freaky. umm marriage? I'm not really into it either. If you want to then sweet, if ya dont then sweet too.
I personally like the idea of marriage, but I firmly believe that the couple should be together for at least 5 years before deciding to get married. I don't believe the whirlwind romances are a good idea because they often lead to divorce (aka around 50% of marriages end in divorce) and people are most likely to get divorced after 4 years of marriage, so if you can make it 5, then maybe you have really found the person you can spend the rest of your life with.
You remind me of my best friend Kaitlyn, she doesn't believe in marriage as well, but shes more of a b**** about it.
I personally think marriage should only be allowed to people who have been dating for more then a year or longer because all of those spontaneous marriages end sooner.
i may only be 16, but i don't think marriage is a bad thing. I want to get married some day. that might change, i don't know. When a marriage goes wrong, i don't think its the marriage part thats bad, its the people in the marriage. if that makes sense.
I mean, you can't just get married and if it doesn't work blame the marriage. or something. The same thing would probably happen if you weren't married, but because you are, ending it is a much bigger deal.
i think the reason marriges don't last is because people get married when they are not together that long. so they rush into it and once they are married that is when they see the side that they never knew of that person. I hope to marry my boyfriend but i want to move in together before we do to see if we can really handle being together all the time and if we can deal with the side of that person that we don't know about.
I'm not a strong believer in nor marriage or not marriage. Though I do agree with everything you said. Too much divorce is going on nowadays. Also with the back then kind of thing is totally true. Pretty much do whatever the hell you want and as long as you're "legally" married it's alright. They cheated on their wives, women cheated on their husbands (though it was rare), they either seperated and were just legally married, or just lived with eachother and delt with it.
why marriages don't last? i guess that people are nowadays too selfish. they care only about themselves, don't know that loving someone is not sex and buying flowers. it about giving yourself to another person. sacrifice yourself! because you love the other person more than yourself. not understandable for modern men and women.
it may sound silly, but lately I was gradually loosing respect for you. You're a funny guy,but i unsub.
I don't think Marriage should be something so easily obtained. I think you should be absolutely certain that you want to spend your life time with this person. Their should be like....trails....and challenges to prove loyalty and love! We'll call it...Dating.....for at the least 3 years because if you cant spend 3 years with someone that you better not try a life time. BTW my grandparents really loved each other and when my grandma died my grandpa was absolutely devastated!
I think that when you are with the person that you truly love there is nothing wrong with getting married. I think a lot of marriages end with divorce because the couple either married too soon, or because one or the other was unfaithful/untruthful.
My parents got married after 6 years of dating and are still together to this day (almost 30 years).
Not one of my friends' parents are divorced.
Marriage isn't something that is entered into lightly, and that's were I think people our age go wrong.
I think you should get married only if you both want to have kids and are able to communicate well. Listening is the key. Also don't think about yourself think what can I do to make my family better. I
Frankly, I would never rush into a marriage. If you do that, its bound to fail. miserably. Although having quite a few years until Im even thinking about GETTING married (only 14), I must still say that you should only marry someone when you are COMPLETELY SURE you CAN spend your life with this person. If you don't think you can do that with someone, don't even suggest it. If you can, then well played, playa.
I don't think marriage is a good idea just because I really don't think people can stay forever together. At least, it's very rare for people to truly be happy with the same person forever. And really, how do you know when you get married that that is the person you're going to be with your whole life? You don't know that you'll stay married for 50 years until 50 years is up and you're still married! And divorce is messy and expensive, so I say just don't bother getting married.
Oh getting married. It's special being the unmarried one in a sea of married friend. Marriage is good, if only for the legal and tax benefits. It would also be good not to have to will all my stuff to my dog or worse my sister.
Divorce is a happy thing too though. Or at least it should be when you are finally free again.
In short get married for a tax break, divorce and try again after buying a new car.
Interesting question. I guess I've always assumed I'd get married, but I sort of hoped to i would get married who isn't insanely jealous and will let me flirt up a storm and have tons of other guy friends. The street goes both ways. I think if you have good enough communication it shouldn't be a problem. But I also think you should be with someone who has some of your similar value system, so I guess I can't believe in marriage if we're meant to get married Todd.
I love the idea of marriage but I hate what it's become today - the reason many marriages break up is because:
- People aren't ready and they think their teenage crush will last forever.
- People don't seem to want to forgive anybody these days.
- People don't really take the time to work out if they could spend a lifetime with the other person but just rush into it hoping for the best but heading for an epic fail
I personally don't think I could subject myself to a wedding. The combination of religion and wearing a dress and my parents being in the same room just fills me with a sense of dread.
Plus, it seems a bit more meaningful to stay with someone if they're not married, because then they don't have the legal obligation behind it.
Although, the term 'life partner' as opposed to 'wife' or 'husband' does sound like creepy new-age voodoo a little...
Just because you say something like, "you're not trying to be negative or anything" does not cancel out the fact that you are being almost ENTIRELY negative with your speech.
Your opinion is your opinion and you are entitled to it... yet you sound extraordinarily closed off and judgmental to the opposing view stance of those in support of marriage.
Be careful with your language. Generalized statements that use the word "all" are best avoided.
The entire point of marriage was to secure a labor force for agricultural porposes, or to unite two prestigous families. Since those two things are not a huge concern in modern life, marriage has become an archaic institution.
I know what you mean. These days, we seem to be surprised if a couple has managed to stay together for more than ten years, nevermind twenty or (god forbid) fifty years. Though that's just me, with my parents divorced (and a 50% higher chance of divorce myself, should i get married).
I don't know if I'll ever get married. Having a piece of paper doesn't mean I'll love whoever I end up with any less. So...yeah.
Now I just have to find someone to not get married to. lol.
polygamy isnt that bad of an idea i think. That way the children get more love than just 2 parents that are at work. One mother or father or whatever could stay home and be with the kids, while the others go to work, or 2 could stay home.the bad thing is that the religious part of polygamy takes children that are too young to make a decision like that and force them to marry an older man. but really, its not a bad thing.
I was doing a fill-it-in puzzle today, and the word fill-in spot read ??dd??. My first thought was toddly. Alas, the word was buddha...
And to answer your question, my parents have been happily married for 32 years, and they're still madly in love, so I see the good side of it. I also see the bad side of people getting married too young and it doesn't work out, or people just not being compatible. I think it depends on the person you are whether or not marriage is right for you.
i disagree with you, i think marriage can be a very satisfying and supporting thing for people. my parents have been happily married for about 25 years. they're the happiest people i know
I think if two people have been together for a long time and still have the same feelings for eachother that they did when they began dating and they still love eachother then they should get married. I think marriage is a good thing
Depends on the circumstances. If two people are best friends and they love each other and they're strong enough to weather tough times, then fine. But lots of people today don't know their heart from their genitals from their brain and they get married because they're really in like and really in lust. And then not surprisingly it falls apart. Sometimes of course one or both fall into some bad behavior and ruin everything. Real life is wacky. But on the whole, marriage is meaningful.
This is a complicated issue. I believe that everyone can find someone they can happily be with but a lot of people pick the first one they can get and don't really take the time to look and see if they'll actually work. A great marriage is possible.
I believe in marriage. Most marriages are a giant ball of fail (like my parents') But the people I live with now are the happiest couple I've ever seen, that couldn't even imagine life with anyone else.
It might take a few times to get right, again, like my parents'. But when you get it right, YOU GET IT RIGHT.
It's really not for me. Biologically, men are wired to have multiple mates, so I could completely understand why they don't want to be restricted to only one. It just breeds cheating too...
i don't think marriage itself is important or necessary. i'm not for or against it, it's just whatever to me. but i do hope i find someone to spend the rest of my life with, regardless of whether there's the marriage title or not.
Well, I have been engaged for quite some time now. Mary Kate and I are hoping that our marriage will be a beautiful thing. The only thing that might come between us is David Bowie...that woman stealing sexy beast of a man!
MAYBE I WILL. MAYBE I'LL GO ON A CRUISE TO MEXICO AND GET MARRIED OVER CHRISTMAS. Doesn't a cruise to Mexico during Christmas time sound like a lovely idea?! PERFECT FOR MY LESBIAN WEDDING!
Marriage is cool if you're willing to work at it, and understand that it isn't the the end all be all of your problems. If you find some one you truly love, then by all means run out and get hitched! But marriage should be about two people coming together to make a new life together, with the understanding that the person who you choose to live with is going to drive you nuts, and make you screwy. According to my family, the recipe for a lasting marriage is lots of sex, and separate vacations.
*coughcommitmentphobecough* Not that it's a bad thing, have fun!
I'm not opposed to marriage, I just don't know if I ever will get married. I guess it depends on who you're with and how well you get along and all that jazz.
I personal think it's a bad thing unless you marrie someone u really like, i just asked my grandparents and my grandma said"yes were happily married", but my grandad on the othe hand took me a side and said "look i like your grandma, but sometimes she just drives me CRAZY". THE END lol.
Oh, Toddly... You're too young to be thinking about marriage anyway. When I was your age I thought marriage was a trap also. But then this little thing called "real love" happened and the rest is history. My hubby and I are about to celebrate our 14th anniversary (this week!) and I can HONESTLY say it's better every year. Really! We've been together for 18 years and I feel it's a blessing to have such a gift. Like anything in life worth having... it's all in what you put into it!
todd, you should get concubines.. is that how you spell it? yehh, be pimpin' with your concubines then you wouldn't have to be married to them just whore around with them? i guess?
...eww
btw, my parent's have been married for 30 years come this friday :D
i am pretty much against marriage. it just scares the shit outta me... i'd never do it myself, of course!!! unless i met like, the absolute PERFECT person. the perfect person named Alex Day. he will be mine!!
I personally think marriages are unnessesary, what really matters in a relationship isn't just the ring, wedding, and silly things like that but to actually be faithful to your partner, and not cheat of them, which happens...a lot. I wanna get married when I'm really old, just live with a guy and stuff.
Sexy sexy shirt! (:
I agree with ya Todd, I don't follow social norms either! *high five*
I think Marriage is not necessary accept for the benefits it can bring to the two people. I believe married people get tax breaks right? If you love someone and you are together is that not enough? There must be something to it or we gay ppl would not be all up in arms trying to get it. In any event, gr8 video.
I really wouldn't know..but the way I see it is why spend all that money for a wedding...just be wed under commen law or hop down to town hall or something...
Marriage is great when well thought-out, preferably with both people knowing each other well beforehand and, obviously, loving each other and actually working at their problems instead of just getting a divorce at the first sign of trouble.
To be honest, I totally agree, I think a lot of people get married because that's what they think they HAVE to do next in their relationship. I also know a lot of people who are married and NOT happy. They didnt want to get married in the first place but were pressured into because they didn't want to lose the one they loved. Surely just being with them is enough? You don't NEED a ceremony and piece of paper to be in love with someone or to prove you love someone.
I actually agree with everything here except that my fiance (I know hypocrocy) parents have been happily married sinse they were twenty. Sept they were hippies, so that could be the reason. I guess the moral is, if you want to stay married, do hallucingens... lol jk... well okay maybe not.
it depends at what point you re arguing , life partners and marriage áre pretty much the same these days, but its nice to have weddings because otherwise the only time the whole family gets together are for the funerals. sigh.
You know the story of the fox and the grapes? The grapes are marriage, and I'm the fox. It seems really great because I can't have it, but once I can, it might be less appealing.
There's no real reason conceptually to ever get married, exept from conformity, people who think they have to be married, and / or have to be married to be in a happy relationship...well, i doubt they'd understand the reasons why it doesn't have to be ' a must ' :P
I think he's being too cynical. I know so many people that are happily married and have been for so long that I think he's exagerrating about the "cement wall" thing. What if you love someone that much? What if you really do want to spend your whole life with them? If you don't, then fine, divorce, but the benefits are insane, both legally and heart-wise :)
It's always nice to have someone that will always be there for you. Always. :)
There was a study that noted that Americans wait the shortest amount of time between marriages, compared to people of other countries, which perhaps is indicative of the reason for such a high divorce rate. To say that it's like a big cement wall, though, is silly. No relationship lasts, of course: death, breakups, divorse, etc. end them, but if you want relationships to last, and most people do, marriage seems like a good way to do it. So if you don't rush into it, marriage is a great thing.
I think marriage definitely has some benefits, legally. (Health coverage via your partner, hospital visits, joint adoption, parenting, custody, foster care, etc, sick leave to care for a partner/child, joint insurance policies, joint taxes, decision making ability in the event of a death).
It's not entirely religious, of course, but it's not right for some people.
But, it would be incredibly nice to have that commitment and the benefits... It just shouldn't be taken as lightly as it often is.
Shame on you todd :P. My mum and dad have been happily married for 24 years and my grandparents all since they were 19. I can't see how it restricts you :).
More people are divorcing because of secularisation in my opinion and yes it's sad but does that mean we should give up hope completely?
oh, Todd, you're so cynical. Marriage is a good thing. My sister just got married after dating her guy for nine years, and she and her husband couldn't be happier.
I'm confused you are married on FB. I'm guessing that is a joke? o.0 It would suck for you to be off the market....(not a joke) *blush*
jenleeboo1 11 months ago
I think Marriage is quote a beautiul thing, commiting yoursel to one person, because you hae such adulation or them.
My parents were married or 24 years, then my Mum died.
My point is, what is the ruit o this thing we call "dating", if the intention is to, at some point, cease it? It's pretty much like asking someone "Will you be the person I can make loe to or a little while, until we get bored of eachother?"
mahogonywhisper 1 year ago
haha that was an awesome vicky pollard imitation, are you by any chance related? that would explain some things :) hugs and kisses
TheBeljah 1 year ago
my grannys actually divorced >.<
shmeefyshmoo 1 year ago
my parents have been married for about 25 years or so
awwww they hate each other with a burning passion :D
MissLucyBoomer 1 year ago
Erm, you think living the rest of your life with someone you love more then life itself is...a bad thing? lrn2mature.
paintedd 1 year ago
lol, agreed marriage is silly. But I'll even take it another step forward relationships. you know The ones, stupid. I just think its easier/more accommodating to me to be not tied down to anyone in particular, ever, thanks.
itscooltobeyou 2 years ago
Indeed to that. Poligamy is right up my alley.
Pussymcfats 2 years ago
Aww Todd that's so sweet...Will you Marry Me?
DragonflyNoir10 2 years ago
this is the sexiest youv ever looked !!!
and ye i agree its stupid theres no point in it unless your religious!
TubOfCereal 2 years ago
Marriage is a sacred thing, i think you should get married however the cost is ridicoulus
Lizzarazo 2 years ago
it is quite possible that i watch these videos largly because i'm called sexy at the end :P
Morganofthepeople 2 years ago
seriously fancy todd in this video
mazwaz123 2 years ago
Todd maybe one of the dummest thing you have said lol. marriage is good.
or maybe im a silly girl for still believing in marrage cause my parents are very happily married.
KelseyDMT 2 years ago
Haha so true.
Divorce is so common nowadays, the new 'big trend' is to have a divorce party. (Maybe that's why people get married, because they like all the partying that comes with starting and ending it...)
shiningmer 2 years ago
Marriage is the chief cause of divorce.
MimmbleMimmble 2 years ago
my parents are still together, although the majority of my friend's parents aren't. i can sort of see what based your opinion, but i still think marriage is cool. sometimes, if you find your one, and it's just like that song "first day of my life" by bright eyes, then you know you're okay with spending the rest of your life with someone. why not make it official that you're stuck with each other?
HardkoreMoMo 2 years ago
I 100% agree. I also want to add - that if you were really in love in the first damn place then you wouldn't need a certificate to prove that.
Period. Dot.
amjlpphww 2 years ago
Though, if you were really in love, you wouldn't be afraid of having a certificate that would prove that.
EternallyNothing27 2 years ago
I understand your point being made, but it costs money to do all of that.
In perspective, real love should not be fantasized with thousands of dollars just to say a few biblical phrases.
Being in love is more about the physical and emotional commitment, and a marriage certificate an often ruin that if both parties are not appropriately prepared.
Essentially, getting married is good or bad according to who is looking at the situation.
amjlpphww 2 years ago
:P I don't believe in marriage, that's about it.
Risa4562 2 years ago
my parents met when they where in school and dated for 5 years and have been married for 25 years and are still very much in love i think marriage is a great thing when its the right person!
eilishlaughs247 2 years ago 6
i think that some people marry the wrong reasons, some people marry for the right ones and are too lazy to make it work, and some people just give up. anybody who doesn't fit that description above will be happily married.
and todd, you sexy man-squirrel you.
thesocialnerd 2 years ago
Well if you dont want to be with that person for the rest of your life through everything... then you wouldnt get married... so... there is no arguement here. Just finding the right people for each other :)
lilmandeno 2 years ago
my parents are a rarity...they love each other so much they're still making out in front of us...gross
tebbydear90 2 years ago
ahaha same!
they're like freaking teenagers.
HardkoreMoMo 2 years ago
you're smexy.
keep doing how you do.
It's brilliant.
LibbyNSarah 2 years ago
"the sledgehammer of divorce"
this is one of the many reasons i love toddly00
iAmortentia 2 years ago
one day you'll meet somebody awesome and change your mind I'm sure x
Kezzyluvspirates 2 years ago 2
good idea
fruitpunchsmiles 2 years ago
I just posted a video response to your question Todd!
hubertcumberdale2008 2 years ago
i have become a non fan! I am divorced, it was terrible, i took a more than a sledge hammer, i took a jack hammer to that. lol
amrogo07 2 years ago
I am not a fan of marriage either. Unless I marry YOU, Todd. Then I'm in favor of it. ;)
splicegrrl 2 years ago
Mawage. Mawage is what bwings us togeva today.
Sorry as soon as I heard the word marriage I thought Princess Bride.
jadeddryad 2 years ago
i am a SEXY ACORN. oh todd. how you make me giggle.
lexaguitar16 2 years ago
Have you ever considered becoming a marriage counselor? Hahaha
alorena1 2 years ago
Exactly why I'm single. I enjoy my life and don't want to give it up; I'd feel trapped.
5 diff people is an interesting concept: for people in Utah. :)
wilsontech1 2 years ago
I havent been watching vids.. I like this Todd.. :D
iaminsanity 2 years ago
marriage is nice, but not so nice when you get denied you know what, then you scream and yell and wish to kill someone, or yourself, , , (man these aren't some positive words...)
CaliBoyinJapan 2 years ago
I believe that you need to be choosy when you get married. I know so many couples who end up in divorce because they get married too quickly and then they don't communicate with each other. You need to have communication, or you are screwed.
DaniandJeff11 2 years ago
I'm only 14, so my view may change, but right now I don't think I'm going to get married. I don't need a piece of paper to prove I love someone. It's sort of ridiculous.
NeRdPoTtErFrEaK13 2 years ago 2
You took the words right out of my mouth :D
BillWeasley 2 years ago
Love dating, terrified of marriage. Commitment? I'd rather face an axe murderer. At least I'd know what to expect from them....
craaazytaco 2 years ago
LoL
LoandaX3 2 years ago
Marriage is a wonderful thing.
If you want citizenship.
GodGarnet 2 years ago
Really though, I don't like the concept of marriage.
If marriage was free, it'd be another story.
But that's not realistic.
GodGarnet 2 years ago
This has been flagged as spam show
Also, if you're for not going with social norms, wouldn't it make sense for you to get married and stay married? Your argument contradicts itself.
getitgirlx3 2 years ago
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getitgirlx3 2 years ago
Marriage ftw. My parents have been married for 32 years. Happily. So, if you don't want to get married, what's the point in dating?
getitgirlx3 2 years ago 3
So agree with you there.
meshuganaartist 2 years ago
Rararararararawr pointless offended comment.
evolutionofdan 2 years ago
wow the way you said hugs and kisses was kinda freaky. umm marriage? I'm not really into it either. If you want to then sweet, if ya dont then sweet too.
curiouscat616 2 years ago
Marriage ftw. Happily married for 4.5 years now.
KrazeeeOne 2 years ago
I 100% agree with you
beavertail 2 years ago
So this is the video that got people upset, huh? hah!
studentdotcom 2 years ago
I personally like the idea of marriage, but I firmly believe that the couple should be together for at least 5 years before deciding to get married. I don't believe the whirlwind romances are a good idea because they often lead to divorce (aka around 50% of marriages end in divorce) and people are most likely to get divorced after 4 years of marriage, so if you can make it 5, then maybe you have really found the person you can spend the rest of your life with.
klcna 2 years ago 2
You remind me of my best friend Kaitlyn, she doesn't believe in marriage as well, but shes more of a b**** about it.
I personally think marriage should only be allowed to people who have been dating for more then a year or longer because all of those spontaneous marriages end sooner.
MeeshellaWella 2 years ago
I know you're just upset because no one
wants to marry you. I will marry you.
becksterslabratory 2 years ago
me too. fy polygamy
bewareofthatlazyeye 2 years ago
i may only be 16, but i don't think marriage is a bad thing. I want to get married some day. that might change, i don't know. When a marriage goes wrong, i don't think its the marriage part thats bad, its the people in the marriage. if that makes sense.
I mean, you can't just get married and if it doesn't work blame the marriage. or something. The same thing would probably happen if you weren't married, but because you are, ending it is a much bigger deal.
Hope that makes sense. :)
beforeinotice 2 years ago 2
Lol, Todd sounds like Voltairine de Cleyre :)
mynameisyibble 2 years ago
i think the reason marriges don't last is because people get married when they are not together that long. so they rush into it and once they are married that is when they see the side that they never knew of that person. I hope to marry my boyfriend but i want to move in together before we do to see if we can really handle being together all the time and if we can deal with the side of that person that we don't know about.
Danfrekinyella 2 years ago
you totally have a point there
LetMeBeASmiley 2 years ago
I'm not a strong believer in nor marriage or not marriage. Though I do agree with everything you said. Too much divorce is going on nowadays. Also with the back then kind of thing is totally true. Pretty much do whatever the hell you want and as long as you're "legally" married it's alright. They cheated on their wives, women cheated on their husbands (though it was rare), they either seperated and were just legally married, or just lived with eachother and delt with it.
QueenOfR0ck 2 years ago
you silly cynic you
what made give up on all them fairy tales?
sihamlovesyou2 2 years ago
you're joking, right?
i hope you have ever heard the word "love".
why marriages don't last? i guess that people are nowadays too selfish. they care only about themselves, don't know that loving someone is not sex and buying flowers. it about giving yourself to another person. sacrifice yourself! because you love the other person more than yourself. not understandable for modern men and women.
it may sound silly, but lately I was gradually loosing respect for you. You're a funny guy,but i unsub.
charliesgotaguitar 2 years ago
Í'm scared now.. thanks for that:P
ki2508 2 years ago
I don't think Marriage should be something so easily obtained. I think you should be absolutely certain that you want to spend your life time with this person. Their should be like....trails....and challenges to prove loyalty and love! We'll call it...Dating.....for at the least 3 years because if you cant spend 3 years with someone that you better not try a life time. BTW my grandparents really loved each other and when my grandma died my grandpa was absolutely devastated!
Meljusenr 2 years ago
I think that when you are with the person that you truly love there is nothing wrong with getting married. I think a lot of marriages end with divorce because the couple either married too soon, or because one or the other was unfaithful/untruthful.
My parents got married after 6 years of dating and are still together to this day (almost 30 years).
Not one of my friends' parents are divorced.
Marriage isn't something that is entered into lightly, and that's were I think people our age go wrong.
wonkybubbles 2 years ago
I think you should get married only if you both want to have kids and are able to communicate well. Listening is the key. Also don't think about yourself think what can I do to make my family better. I
kimb68 2 years ago
Frankly, I would never rush into a marriage. If you do that, its bound to fail. miserably. Although having quite a few years until Im even thinking about GETTING married (only 14), I must still say that you should only marry someone when you are COMPLETELY SURE you CAN spend your life with this person. If you don't think you can do that with someone, don't even suggest it. If you can, then well played, playa.
DarkMaikeru 2 years ago
I think it's a good thing, as long as you really love eachother. Then you will always be happy and everything will be good (:
Izzzyshow 2 years ago
I'm not entirely against the idea of marriage but I completely agree with everything else you said in this.
PS you're a babestation
waknob 2 years ago
ITS SPELLED WITH AN M
corkie5555 2 years ago
The vast number of happily married couples that I know far outweighs the number of divorced couples I know.
So I'd say yes. Marriage does work.
TheJediNinja 2 years ago 2
I don't think marriage is a good idea just because I really don't think people can stay forever together. At least, it's very rare for people to truly be happy with the same person forever. And really, how do you know when you get married that that is the person you're going to be with your whole life? You don't know that you'll stay married for 50 years until 50 years is up and you're still married! And divorce is messy and expensive, so I say just don't bother getting married.
howtospellkaitie 2 years ago
Oh getting married. It's special being the unmarried one in a sea of married friend. Marriage is good, if only for the legal and tax benefits. It would also be good not to have to will all my stuff to my dog or worse my sister.
Divorce is a happy thing too though. Or at least it should be when you are finally free again.
In short get married for a tax break, divorce and try again after buying a new car.
letterheadloyalty 2 years ago
your display picture really is amazing.
the perfect combination of sexy, pedeophile, retarded, and just plain wierd.
kudos to you my friend.
23wishesfromsexy 2 years ago
Interesting question. I guess I've always assumed I'd get married, but I sort of hoped to i would get married who isn't insanely jealous and will let me flirt up a storm and have tons of other guy friends. The street goes both ways. I think if you have good enough communication it shouldn't be a problem. But I also think you should be with someone who has some of your similar value system, so I guess I can't believe in marriage if we're meant to get married Todd.
That makes no sense.
~Katy
sweetidiocracy 2 years ago
oh Todd!
I think the same way XD
hey. Maybe some day you can be one of my 5 husbands (if you ever go for that)
:D
hugs and kisses!!!
Estilum 2 years ago
I love the idea of marriage but I hate what it's become today - the reason many marriages break up is because:
- People aren't ready and they think their teenage crush will last forever.
- People don't seem to want to forgive anybody these days.
- People don't really take the time to work out if they could spend a lifetime with the other person but just rush into it hoping for the best but heading for an epic fail
sirandytaylor 2 years ago 3
I personally don't think I could subject myself to a wedding. The combination of religion and wearing a dress and my parents being in the same room just fills me with a sense of dread.
Plus, it seems a bit more meaningful to stay with someone if they're not married, because then they don't have the legal obligation behind it.
Although, the term 'life partner' as opposed to 'wife' or 'husband' does sound like creepy new-age voodoo a little...
izziesmagicalglasses 2 years ago
My gran was divorced in 1955... just to throw that in there.
I think if you go marriage thinking it is going to fail then it probably will. It is something people should only do if they are prepared to work at
helenzebcharles 2 years ago
Just because you say something like, "you're not trying to be negative or anything" does not cancel out the fact that you are being almost ENTIRELY negative with your speech.
Your opinion is your opinion and you are entitled to it... yet you sound extraordinarily closed off and judgmental to the opposing view stance of those in support of marriage.
Be careful with your language. Generalized statements that use the word "all" are best avoided.
purpleturbanz 2 years ago
The entire point of marriage was to secure a labor force for agricultural porposes, or to unite two prestigous families. Since those two things are not a huge concern in modern life, marriage has become an archaic institution.
EmilyAlta 2 years ago
thats why our kids today are so jacked up! theres no stability, so those who at least try at marriage, are doing it for family
nicolcacola 2 years ago
I know what you mean. These days, we seem to be surprised if a couple has managed to stay together for more than ten years, nevermind twenty or (god forbid) fifty years. Though that's just me, with my parents divorced (and a 50% higher chance of divorce myself, should i get married).
I don't know if I'll ever get married. Having a piece of paper doesn't mean I'll love whoever I end up with any less. So...yeah.
Now I just have to find someone to not get married to. lol.
bombsfadeaway 2 years ago
its a terrible idea! DONT EVER GET MARRIED...
Amaizying 2 years ago
polygamy isnt that bad of an idea i think. That way the children get more love than just 2 parents that are at work. One mother or father or whatever could stay home and be with the kids, while the others go to work, or 2 could stay home.the bad thing is that the religious part of polygamy takes children that are too young to make a decision like that and force them to marry an older man. but really, its not a bad thing.
Amaizying 2 years ago
Now im sad cuz i wana marrige that lest well im 14 .. soo iv got time or wait global warming.
maple1anime 2 years ago
You're right marriage isn't for you. I think you lack the maturity to be able to sustain such a commitment.
CDub4LifeTW08 2 years ago
you're so right!!! Its good you know me so well!
Toddly00 2 years ago
I was doing a fill-it-in puzzle today, and the word fill-in spot read ??dd??. My first thought was toddly. Alas, the word was buddha...
And to answer your question, my parents have been happily married for 32 years, and they're still madly in love, so I see the good side of it. I also see the bad side of people getting married too young and it doesn't work out, or people just not being compatible. I think it depends on the person you are whether or not marriage is right for you.
karebear5891 2 years ago 2
people seem to do it just because it's the "grown-up" thing to do. pointless
how anyone can vow to be with one person forever is beyond me. i'm personally not that good with commitment.
thinkthegirlsgonemad 2 years ago
i disagree with you, i think marriage can be a very satisfying and supporting thing for people. my parents have been happily married for about 25 years. they're the happiest people i know
irishmuffin23 2 years ago 2
sexy snaggletooths....hugth and kitheth XD lol todd
ArleneTheBlank 2 years ago
I think if two people have been together for a long time and still have the same feelings for eachother that they did when they began dating and they still love eachother then they should get married. I think marriage is a good thing
erinJMY 2 years ago
Depends on the circumstances. If two people are best friends and they love each other and they're strong enough to weather tough times, then fine. But lots of people today don't know their heart from their genitals from their brain and they get married because they're really in like and really in lust. And then not surprisingly it falls apart. Sometimes of course one or both fall into some bad behavior and ruin everything. Real life is wacky. But on the whole, marriage is meaningful.
P00P0STER0US 2 years ago 3
I have no intentions of being married, but I'm not against it.
doctornoise 2 years ago
This is a complicated issue. I believe that everyone can find someone they can happily be with but a lot of people pick the first one they can get and don't really take the time to look and see if they'll actually work. A great marriage is possible.
princessleia184 2 years ago
I believe in marriage. Most marriages are a giant ball of fail (like my parents') But the people I live with now are the happiest couple I've ever seen, that couldn't even imagine life with anyone else.
It might take a few times to get right, again, like my parents'. But when you get it right, YOU GET IT RIGHT.
missjo5ie 2 years ago
It's really not for me. Biologically, men are wired to have multiple mates, so I could completely understand why they don't want to be restricted to only one. It just breeds cheating too...
REMsleeper428 2 years ago
this made me lol!
19Becka 2 years ago
its SATIRE, guys.
dont get worked up.
youwaslonggone 2 years ago
Are you being funny...?
ItsCourtenayMmkay 2 years ago
Wow, I don't know why I liked your vids. The marriage thing I can handle, but your "homo" comments are too much.
SeekingMyGr8Perhaps 2 years ago
I agree, that was going too far.
abstractskyline 2 years ago
IM GAY!!!!
Toddly00 2 years ago
i don't want to get married, i think it's unnecessary and unrealistic.
samiam6109 2 years ago
i don't think marriage itself is important or necessary. i'm not for or against it, it's just whatever to me. but i do hope i find someone to spend the rest of my life with, regardless of whether there's the marriage title or not.
catters14 2 years ago 2
this is why i watch todd...to be called both a sexy snaggletooth and a sexy acorn within seconds.
acman92 2 years ago 2
Well, I have been engaged for quite some time now. Mary Kate and I are hoping that our marriage will be a beautiful thing. The only thing that might come between us is David Bowie...that woman stealing sexy beast of a man!
theamberyone 2 years ago 5
well sorry to burst your homo bubble. . .but you can't marry another woman. . . at least here in california. . so go to mexico homo
Toddly00 2 years ago
MAYBE I WILL. MAYBE I'LL GO ON A CRUISE TO MEXICO AND GET MARRIED OVER CHRISTMAS. Doesn't a cruise to Mexico during Christmas time sound like a lovely idea?! PERFECT FOR MY LESBIAN WEDDING!
theamberyone 2 years ago 3
*the only thing
theamberyone 2 years ago
Marriage is cool if you're willing to work at it, and understand that it isn't the the end all be all of your problems. If you find some one you truly love, then by all means run out and get hitched! But marriage should be about two people coming together to make a new life together, with the understanding that the person who you choose to live with is going to drive you nuts, and make you screwy. According to my family, the recipe for a lasting marriage is lots of sex, and separate vacations.
cordelialear13 2 years ago
I find it ironic that a friend of mine had the recent status update on Facebook where they think marriage will eventually become obsolete.
I agree, Todd. Most of the examples I have of relationships put the fear of marriage in me. Fear of relationships in general, actually.
Stovek 2 years ago
I love irony. ..we are getting married
Toddly00 2 years ago
A woman married the eiffel tower legally just thought you may wana know
pepsoflexo 2 years ago
a woman married the Berlin wall,
then when it got torn down.
she got with a garden fence.
i speak of the truth.
theycallhimdaniel1 2 years ago
*Laughing*
Hypocrite? Or, in the Batman universe, "Toddly Two-Face." :D
Stovek 2 years ago
is this a serious video. i just need to kno
otterpopgirl101 2 years ago
why?
Toddly00 2 years ago
i cant tell if u r serious
otterpopgirl101 2 years ago
*coughcommitmentphobecough* Not that it's a bad thing, have fun!
I'm not opposed to marriage, I just don't know if I ever will get married. I guess it depends on who you're with and how well you get along and all that jazz.
xDangerousCupcakex 2 years ago
hey sexy!
colorina1980 2 years ago
I think marriage is a great thing...just not marriage to Esther. :P
GreenyRoxSox 2 years ago
I personal think it's a bad thing unless you marrie someone u really like, i just asked my grandparents and my grandma said"yes were happily married", but my grandad on the othe hand took me a side and said "look i like your grandma, but sometimes she just drives me CRAZY". THE END lol.
something1funni 2 years ago
Oh, Toddly... You're too young to be thinking about marriage anyway. When I was your age I thought marriage was a trap also. But then this little thing called "real love" happened and the rest is history. My hubby and I are about to celebrate our 14th anniversary (this week!) and I can HONESTLY say it's better every year. Really! We've been together for 18 years and I feel it's a blessing to have such a gift. Like anything in life worth having... it's all in what you put into it!
tennisluvnerd 2 years ago
Dude, my parents have been married for 30 years...
Just you wait. You're going to find some woman someday who'll cure your fear or marriage.
Vrepeat 2 years ago 3
yeah...my grandparents hate each other, they don't even try to hide it.
SameeSunshine 2 years ago
I think that marriage serves a purpose video response on it's way...
aslanenlisted 2 years ago
todd, you should get concubines.. is that how you spell it? yehh, be pimpin' with your concubines then you wouldn't have to be married to them just whore around with them? i guess?
...eww
btw, my parent's have been married for 30 years come this friday :D
sooo you can live happy ever after?
mewpie85 2 years ago
seems like someones afraid of commitment ^_^
lennoxobsidian 2 years ago
i dont know how i feel about marriage, being 18 and all, but i do know i really miss your videos!
notscaredtodance 2 years ago
what you mean?! I make one everyweek!
Toddly00 2 years ago
comment! bye.
lalamoola 2 years ago
i want to marry you, you down?
glossy33 2 years ago
i am pretty much against marriage. it just scares the shit outta me... i'd never do it myself, of course!!! unless i met like, the absolute PERFECT person. the perfect person named Alex Day. he will be mine!!
purfectpuff 2 years ago
My grandma always says, "There's a lot of security in marriage."
I'm not really sure what that means.
Frankly, marriage scares the shit out of me.
OfTheSentenceVariety 2 years ago
marriage is overrated! XD
XDBlackSheepXD 2 years ago
"stuck with the same person...forever" omg you are sooo right!
jahlove111 2 years ago
Hahah, you sexy snaggletooths?!?!
and yeah, my grandparents are divorced, so I guess even in her day it didn't go that well.
I actually get what you mean about marriage. How do you really *know* that you'll stay in love? I don't know. I don't want to get married.
Roar.
kira902k 2 years ago
I personally think marriages are unnessesary, what really matters in a relationship isn't just the ring, wedding, and silly things like that but to actually be faithful to your partner, and not cheat of them, which happens...a lot. I wanna get married when I'm really old, just live with a guy and stuff.
Sexy sexy shirt! (:
I agree with ya Todd, I don't follow social norms either! *high five*
anatete1 2 years ago
i think marriage is great if you love someone and want to be with them forever, but thats my opinion.
Onthebrokenroad 2 years ago 2
I think Marriage is not necessary accept for the benefits it can bring to the two people. I believe married people get tax breaks right? If you love someone and you are together is that not enough? There must be something to it or we gay ppl would not be all up in arms trying to get it. In any event, gr8 video.
@theamericanxp
theamericanxp 2 years ago
I really wouldn't know..but the way I see it is why spend all that money for a wedding...just be wed under commen law or hop down to town hall or something...
therampantbookworm 2 years ago
Marriage is great when well thought-out, preferably with both people knowing each other well beforehand and, obviously, loving each other and actually working at their problems instead of just getting a divorce at the first sign of trouble.
artvandelay13 2 years ago 3
Hate marriage ...... love weddings! Polyamorys the future I'm telling ya!
DINGONERD 2 years ago
To be honest, I totally agree, I think a lot of people get married because that's what they think they HAVE to do next in their relationship. I also know a lot of people who are married and NOT happy. They didnt want to get married in the first place but were pressured into because they didn't want to lose the one they loved. Surely just being with them is enough? You don't NEED a ceremony and piece of paper to be in love with someone or to prove you love someone.
BillaBong00200 2 years ago
OH YOU!
KBREeZy151 2 years ago
psh...marriage....
OfficialLucky13 2 years ago
What happened to the losing weight thing, Todd?
egernhat 2 years ago
I actually agree with everything here except that my fiance (I know hypocrocy) parents have been happily married sinse they were twenty. Sept they were hippies, so that could be the reason. I guess the moral is, if you want to stay married, do hallucingens... lol jk... well okay maybe not.
iMychemromance17 2 years ago
it depends at what point you re arguing , life partners and marriage áre pretty much the same these days, but its nice to have weddings because otherwise the only time the whole family gets together are for the funerals. sigh.
kereru 2 years ago
You know the story of the fox and the grapes? The grapes are marriage, and I'm the fox. It seems really great because I can't have it, but once I can, it might be less appealing.
bummercucumber 2 years ago
There's no real reason conceptually to ever get married, exept from conformity, people who think they have to be married, and / or have to be married to be in a happy relationship...well, i doubt they'd understand the reasons why it doesn't have to be ' a must ' :P
Daniefab 2 years ago
I think marriage isnt all that great.
I dont like the idea of having to share everything you own.
I think its best to just be together, live as if you are married, but just dont have the benefits of being married.
That is what I'd do.
Sik15 2 years ago
I think he's being too cynical. I know so many people that are happily married and have been for so long that I think he's exagerrating about the "cement wall" thing. What if you love someone that much? What if you really do want to spend your whole life with them? If you don't, then fine, divorce, but the benefits are insane, both legally and heart-wise :)
It's always nice to have someone that will always be there for you. Always. :)
cecisota12 2 years ago
i'd marry you.
bagOmagic 2 years ago
The resistance of marriage is often just a result of pleasure ADD.
SnakesAndWorms 2 years ago
There was a study that noted that Americans wait the shortest amount of time between marriages, compared to people of other countries, which perhaps is indicative of the reason for such a high divorce rate. To say that it's like a big cement wall, though, is silly. No relationship lasts, of course: death, breakups, divorse, etc. end them, but if you want relationships to last, and most people do, marriage seems like a good way to do it. So if you don't rush into it, marriage is a great thing.
TheHumanApple 2 years ago
I don't believe in marriage.
People do just fine on their own.
Carmendi08 2 years ago
I don't have any experience to go on,
but I think you don't need marriage to show that you want to commit to someone.
:)
And yes. I think it traps you into something, and if you ever do feel like you want out, you have to go through a ton of shit to a divorce and stuff.
pondabearable 2 years ago
yeah marriage is bad,
hugs and kisses is my phase. >:(
itsthatsebguy93 2 years ago
I think marriage definitely has some benefits, legally. (Health coverage via your partner, hospital visits, joint adoption, parenting, custody, foster care, etc, sick leave to care for a partner/child, joint insurance policies, joint taxes, decision making ability in the event of a death).
It's not entirely religious, of course, but it's not right for some people.
But, it would be incredibly nice to have that commitment and the benefits... It just shouldn't be taken as lightly as it often is.
PlasticHearted 2 years ago
that concrete wall is why you should think with portals ^_^
omiko09 2 years ago
Shame on you todd :P. My mum and dad have been happily married for 24 years and my grandparents all since they were 19. I can't see how it restricts you :).
More people are divorcing because of secularisation in my opinion and yes it's sad but does that mean we should give up hope completely?
Charthe1st 2 years ago
sexy snaggletooth... i think that's an oxymoron
tjbailey08 2 years ago 2
I think marriage is a good thing...if you can stay in love forever.
Which I don't even know is possible.
And even if you aren't you should I suppose try and make it work out for the good of other people, ya'know?
Anyway Todd.
I'm marrying you :D
PlayRadioPlayTheUsed 2 years ago
I think marriage is a pointless thing, but it's a nice thought, and I'll probably want to get married.
RawrTwisted 2 years ago
Todd how the hell are we supposed to get married now.
purplebrickroad 2 years ago
Todd, i'd like to prove you wrong!
kby08 2 years ago
I'm married and it's going pretty well
RockyRacoonification 2 years ago 3
marriage=bad in all respects except the tax evasion bit
TRDPaul 2 years ago
oh, Todd, you're so cynical. Marriage is a good thing. My sister just got married after dating her guy for nine years, and she and her husband couldn't be happier.
samfitz9 2 years ago
It's a bad idea if the girl you're marrying is annoying as fuck, ugly, fat, or an evil untrustworthy bitch.
tommson1991 2 years ago
Sounds like someone's speaking from experience here.
OfTheSentenceVariety 2 years ago