hhahahaha good to know i wasn't the only one driven here by the house episode ... was just totally wondering how someone can be asexual ,,,that's cRAZY
I kind of identified as asexual before I really knew what other people thought about it. It's weird for me to realize that a lot of people find it hard to understand.
@Massiveskinsfan93 Easy. You see each other, you go to restaurants, you watch movies, you talk, and so on. The same stuff sexual people do on dates before having sex. I'm quite baffled by your question. Isn't dating about spending time with someone you like and enjoying their company? Why does there have to be sexual contact?
@Massiveskinsfan93 it's not that there isn't sexual contact, it's that there isn't sex. just as you might be physically affectionate with a good friend or a family member without having sexual desires towards them, so do asexuals.
@MsSMSgirl Asexuals doesn't necessarily view sex as gross, they are just repulsed by the idea if they actually do it with someone except their partner. [or for demisexuals, if they do it with someone they don't experience emotional connection with]
My sister tried to explain herself to a fellow classmate once but he just didn't get it. When she said she wasn't interested he replied "oh, so your gay?" but after even more explanation he still didn't get it, "so you don't know which one you like yet?"
you can make yourself sterile by eating too much soy, monks used to do this. humor me, look up the population reduction conspiricies, milk substiture debates, ask yourself why is this topic a popular report. also, robot humanoid conspircy or borg agenda. only because, asexual means not sexual organs or identy, as a robot would have.
It's harder to grasp than homosexuality, and some people still consider that a mental illness. At least with homosexuality, a straight person can understand that there's sexual attraction, but it's just not where they would expect it. Trying to wrap your mind around no sexual attraction when that forms such an important part of your life experience is difficult, to say the least. And we asexuals have the same difficulty wrapping our minds around you all.
People are probably still scratching their heads? Then they are a bit imbecilic. Asexuality, as a concept, is not that difficult to understand. I get how people may not be able to RELATE to it (I'm one of those people), but that doesn't mean they can't UNDERSTAND it conceptually. My apologies to asexuals out there for the widespread biases, ignorance, and feeble-mindedness of the general population.
@drhaxable No one is truly Heterosexual. The average straight guy is probably sexually attracted to penises in some way, but is not aware of this sexual attraction.
Maybe he's afraid of being rejected by society because he likes guys and came up with the excuse that penis equals boring to convince himself he's not a loser and eventually believed his own lies.
Now tell me, if this doesn't make sense to a heterosexual guy, what makes you think an Asexual will make sense of your statement?
Bad Interviewer, Childish attitude. Couple needed to respond with more Inteligent comments. They allowed themselvs to be sitting there as a Novelty. Wow look at those people.
@wwwTheBookbaggs I think part of it is that he's asking the questions most sexual people would want to ask. It's tackless, but people know very little about this community. The sex therapist was a douche though.
I hate how the interviewer asked that couple the same question like 5 times. "So you're not intimate?'' ''It's not a celibrate thing?'' ''So you really don't care about sex?'' ''So sex isn't important at all?'' ''So it's not a fear of sex?"
A common misconception is that asexual people aren't sexual in their behaviors. That's not always true. It means, basically, that they are not sexually attracted to anyone, regardless of gender. It's certainly possible for a person, even an asexual person, to become aroused and some do have sex, for any variety of reasons. That doesn't male them not asexual, same way a homosexual person who has sex with a person of the opposite gender doesn't automatically stop being homosexual.
To answer at least a little bit (hopefully), it's perfectly possible for asexuals to have a relationship. There are different forms of love--love for a parent, a sibling, a pet, a friend, a partner, and so on. Different reasons to love. Asexual people, given that they're not aromatic, can still be attached to a partner the same way a sexual person is. The difference is that it's romantic attraction, not sexual attraction.
Every one of these videos is confusing. No one asks the right questions. Seems straight forward. They don't have any sexual desire, case closed. What is strange is the thought of being physically aroused without any mental aspect to it. Are there two types of asexual? Can't become aroused, and can? The mind is where sex actually happens. I don't understand how they can have relationships though. Why do they say they don't want to be fixed? I think sex chemicals cause love.
I am asexual. I first realized it when I was a teenager and did not develop crushes or did not find people attractive in a sexual way. Of course my orientation may have something to do with my parent's loveless relationship.
In other words asexual people are not programmed to have sex and celibates are programmed to have sex but they refuse to obey the lines of code that request that action. The rest are just slaves.
I had sex just to force myself to see how it felt.. I didn't like it.. The guy was nice, I like him and we're still friends, but I realized I was forcing myself to date and have sex only to be like all my other friends. I enjoyed sex physically, but it was never.... mentally satisfying, to me it just was awkward every time. Of course I was young (only 14... yeah, grossly young.) and that may have been part of the reason, but I'm now 17 and just don't want to have sex or a bf/gf. :/
Kissing doesn't have to be sexual. And not all asexuals are at the same level of intimacy. Presence of sex acts doesn't always mean a person can't be asexual; a lack of a desire to be sexual with other people is more it. You can still do things you don't want to, like to compromise a bit with a more sexual partner.
I am joining the AVEN community a.s.a.p. After doing much inner exploration and outwardly research I have proudly accepted I am a heteroromantic asexual. Ever since my "enlightenment" I have never felt so relaxed, empowered, and comfortable in my own skin. You want to beat me down for having sex not rule my life and mind then go ahead. Be my guest. We can love as well as anyone else, we just express it in a different way.
That David guy is handsome but why do they have that couple on the show that are so unattractive? They look like they're from Lowered Expectations on Mad TV. I'm sorry to be mean but I think we need better spokespeople.
I thought there was something wrong with me in my early teens because everyone around me was getting boyfriends or girlfriends and I felt nothing like that. Then when I was 15 I saw a segment about asexuality on 20/20 or some such, and I felt like the floor had dropped from under me. There were others like me! There was nothing wrong with me, my orientation was real and had a name! It was such a relief. I now realize I'm a biromantic asexual, and proud! :)
I have struggled with this since I hit puberty, while all my female friends were getting boyfriends or my male friends starting becoming interested in me, I felt nothing.
I thought there was something wrong with me, sure I found certain men attractive, but only on an artistic level. I love to draw them, but if I were to meet them I'd only want to be friends.
So I'd describe myself as a hetero-romantic asexual and I'm much more comfortable with that than pretending to feel like everyone else.
Loving the thought of this video, but Have to ask because I'm a curious person. WTH is going on @ 2:32 . Am I the only one who spotted this odd visual?
Asexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation. Asexuals know they are not sexually attracted to anyone in the way that a homosexual knows that they are not sexually attracted to anyone of the opposite sex. Asexuals, like homosexuals and anyone of any orientation, understand within themselves without necessarily trying sex that they do not desire it, just as a straight woman knows she would not desire sex with her female best friend.
One good side to being asexual would be they don't have their hormones forcing their brains into making stupid and irrational decisions. (Like rape, prostitution, strip clubs.) Not to mention having more time devoted to mental development since their time isn't devoted to thinking about sex and instead more important things like learning a useful skill or hobby.
I'm asexual. Love does not equal sex to me. Love is emotion and that's it! Asexuality is no sexual attraction, not sex drive. I masturbate and can get aroused but never horny to want sex. I think David is really cute, yes I can tell good looking from bad, but he's not hot or sexy. I'm romantic as well!
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i think sex is overated and as akid i thought it will be so great but its ok .even though there are a lot of things you can do besides sex im still compeled to have it becouse it feels natual.they say we come from monkeys which would make us part of the animal kingdom, well what animal you know is asexual.these people are ethier mentally challenged or satan has inflicted them with asexual deamons becouse god wants reproduction and sex through marriage.what if adam and eve was asexual people!
@k123g123456789 "For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it" (matt 19:12). -Jesus
Read your Bible better pal (unless you're Jewish, in which case the quoted verse does not apply to you)
i think sex is overated and as akid i thought it will be so great but its ok .even though there are a lot of things you can do besides sex im still compeled to have it becouse it feels natual.they say we come from monkeys which would make us part of the animal kingdom, well what animal you know is asexual.these people are ethier mentally challenged or satan has inflicted them with asexual deamons becouse god wants reproduction and sex through marriage.what if adam and eve was asexual people!
@cheryl132 Me too. I wish I knew about this long before now - it wasn't until my mid 30's when I discovered there was a word for it. I grew up a very angry person at the world; couldn't figure out why everybody "crossed the line" (in my opinion). I never knew people were "supposed" to be sexual - (I still don't think they HAVE to be) but I certainly didn't think everybody on earth did it (or should). Then there came a time when I believed I was the ONLY person in the world like this.
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i think sex is overated and as akid i thought it will be so great but its ok .even though there are a lot of things you can do besides sex im still compeled to have it becouse it feels natual.they say we come from monkeys which would make us part of the animal kingdom, well what animal you know is asexual.these people are ethier mentally challenged or satan has inflicted them with asexual deamons becouse god wants reproduction and sex through marriage.what if adam and eve was asexual people!
@k123g123456789 : The world is overpopulated so the belief that we should "go forth and multiply/procreate" is rather outdated. There's no such things as asexual demons sheesh where did get that fantasy?
Interestingly enough I enjoy masturbation, but when it comes to sex with another human being I'm just not interested. I've done it sure. And it is a boring activity. It was like some unpleasant job I had to get through in order to get what I wanted from that person which was just the emotional spiritual and mental connection.I'm attracted to other women, but I just want the other stuff in a relationship without sex. So I've been trying to figure out if I'm asexual or what.
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Homosexuality is a much bigger problem than asexuality. Homosexuals go against nature-by laying with someone of their gender. Asexuals don't do anything that goes directly against nature-just as when you are single you are not doing anything unnatural.
If you are referring to an environmental veiwpoint (survival of the fittest, reproduction, etc.), you are right, but asexuals would be included in that "problem". If you are referring to a religious standpoint in terms of sin, I don't think you are quite correct.
In the Bible, it says no sin condemns you except not having faith in God and Jesus Christ and what Jesus has done for you. Yes, it makes it clear that homosexuality is considered unclean, but it is not a condemnation to Hell.
I think that people are born heterosexual, homosexual, asexual, etc. But, also some people choose these sexual orientations. And, some people respond to abuse with these sexual orientations. For example, I've known of women who became gay largely because of their experience with molestation. I think the same can be true for asexuality. That's my experience.
"why more and more people are deciding not to have sex" I think its more along the lines that "more and more people are making it known that they don't have sex". Its probably not a decision, no more than gays decide to have sex with the same gender.
I think David Jay is the perfect representative for asexuals. He's such a great guy. He's good-looking, super-sweet, and the lispy thing is just adorable.
I'm excited about the asexual revolution. Lead the way, David!
@devin6687 : I agree. Most people think that asexuals are unattractive but David as a spokesperson suggests otherwise. I know many attractive asexuals, we're simply not into it. I'm very excited people are starting to speak for our group ^^
@FIGHTFANNERD3 : Have you seen most asexuals to say that? I doubt it. I and many other asexuals I know are quite attractive. I even know a few models who are asexual. So don't jump into conclusions. :P
@SANTARII Sadly, in our culture, a spokesman for anything must be attractive or no one takes him seriously. ESPECIALLY about asexuality. If David Jay were fat and bald, people would say "No wonder he's asexual."
I think they are trying to say it is a choice whether you have sex or not. You don't get to choose how you feel or who you are, but you can choose to have sex.
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I don't understand why people are studying asexuality. People don't study homosexuality-something that is more unnatural than asexuality in my opinion.
I believe the clip stated that nobody is studying asexuality...that's one of the reasons the guy started his website. And scientists DO study homosexuality (which, btw, occurs ALL OVER in nature). You've got it all backwards, bro. Check it and correct it.
the problem with society is that they dont understand how to form a lasting relationship without sex . hence they tend to avoid asexual ppl. (btw im asexual too)
I hate that it's so hard for the broadcaster to understand how simple asexuality is, but that asexuals can easily understand that something happens to people who feel sexual attraction. What can't people who are sexually attracted to other people wrap their minds around asexuals? It's not that hard, people! Asexual's relationships are simpler than those of sexual's.
It's because 'Showbiz Tonight' is an "entertainment" show. If there is no controversy, the show has to find a way to make it up on there own.
They do it all the time... The hosts/guests pretend to be outraged, disgusted, or weirded-out about something that shouldn't/doesn't matter to anyone; in order to manufacture fake controversy, and get ignorant hillbillies to watch/send in comments, or to text comments (for a nominal fee, of course). Stupidest show (or format) in history.
heyo,im asexual,let me welcome to your club:)I have moderate attraction to fetishism but as for all the rest im a complete and proud asexual! I'd like to meet friends here,guys! i'd be glad to get any invites&comments!
Can you Imagine someone going on TV now and saying there is "something wrong with homosexuals"? People would go nuts but they can knock asexuals all they want
Not really. You see, many conservative religious nuts consider homosexuality evil. How can they view asexuality evil when you're not having sex with anyone?
@Obsidean I see your point. But I can DEFINITELY imagine someone going on tv and saying there is something wrong with homosexuals. Sadly in this day and age that still happens all the time. People just need to learn that just because they can't relate to something or don't feel the way that they need to label it as wrong. It's just different. I'm sure relationships are much more complicated for asexuals to have so I doubt it's a "choice" like any other sexual orientation is not a choice
@NCAfroGirl10 It's possible to fake sexual attraction or to stay under the radar as an asexual. In societies that label having no desire for consummation as an insult to marriage, people can do something they find boring in order to be accepted by society. Also, there WERE single people in ancient civilizations last time I checked.
Tell me, do you think that it'd be fun to fuck a dog, or boring and disgusting? How do you? Maybe fucking a dog would be great fun! You never know until you fuck one! (Assuming you've never had sexual relations with a dog...)
So you can knock us for not wanting sex because we've never had it, yet I'm not allowed to ask the same thing about you concerning dogs? Double standard much? Okay, I'll take a different approach: assuming you're not bi or pan, would you enjoy having sex with you're unpreferred gender? How would you know if you haven't yet (again, assuming you haven't). At least I can pride myself in the fact I don't need to resort to insults when I have nothing better to say. :)
You ask how we know sex is no fun if we've never had it, right? How do we know? We know sex would be no fun the same way you know having sex with your mother, father, uncle, sister, dog, cat, etc. would be no fun. It's not something we need to experience to know. We just KNOW. Kind of like you know fucking a dog wouldn't be much fun, even though you haven't (I assume). Do you understand now?
@Fayiirah they are just ignorrant and for the biggest part plain stupid. i am not asexual but gay but nobody would know when i talk or walk so many peopla are surprised when they find out. and i got asked so many times "how do u know that u dont enjoy sex with a girl if you didnt try it?". its just so stupid and exhausting to hear it again and again and again
@brotmann86 It's sadly true. As a kid, the most dreaded question all the others asked me was "Who do you think is hot?" I said no one, and no one believed me.
According to this video, I guess I'm asexual, but I'm not sure because my feelings are different. I never gave it much thought, though. I just don't like sex, have never liked sex, and never want to have sex. I find the thought disgusting and I hate intimacy and touching of any kind. So maybe I'm just weird.
Of course asexual people can love. If you really think sex is love, then I feel sorry for you, sex is only a act. Falling in love with someone, has nothing to do with wanting to get off, it involves being romantic etc
You're awesome! I am asexual to! I don't need to worship genitals to be happy, as long as I have a partner I can connect with on a romantic level , then awesome. All your ignorant people, can go smoke some weed, for all I care. I am a chick!
Okay that couple at the end can't be real. Jill? OMG wtf is ur problem lady? Where are you from, the slums of bloody england? Run a bleeping comb through that rat test before coming a tv show and you might just find a wank horny enough to tap that. And that dude, zoinks wtf is my dawg Scooby at? Serioulsy dude get some new fbomb clothes. u look like a gay 70's porn star. right?
Why does someone's personal choice cause you to lash out with hate? I don't understand.
I have a close friend of the family whom I've known his entire life. He's 22 and has never dated. We all assumed he was gay. I used to think so when he was just a child. But the asexuality thing fits him so much better. He has said he's just not interested.
I don't think it's about a fear of intimacy. It's just different.
David did a very good job fielding that question about people with a fear of intimacy versus people who are asexual! I was very impressed by his answer!
Seems like the couple just got asked "So . . . you really don't have sex or want sex?" about 60 times, and they got to say "Yeah, that's about the size of it."
People really are "scratching their heads" over asexuality a lot. I've just started a video series about it. I hope it helps spread some understanding.
Sex isn't important at all. I'm not interested in sexual relationships either. I tried sex once and I found it uninteresting and it is nothing special in my opinion. I don't understand the great fuss regarding this issue.
Hey dumbass many asexuals have had sex. And have been in relationships with sexual people and have sex with them because they feel pressured to. They just don't feel sexusl attraction. Take your head out of your ass.
What's so great about asexuality is I think it makes the relationship stronger because so many people have that on their mind and when you finally do it, they probably think... what else is there?
sex isnt for everyone. not a big deal. sex is boring. im surprized the man doesnt fall over, and fall asleep then again he is so worried about what he is going to say to his buddies. alot of people who have sex are closet homos. straight men respect women, dont ask for anything. kissing is natural. sex is not. u dont havt to have sex. to create humans there are other options get over it.
"Sex is the most natural of all ways of reproduction."
So....parthonogenic lizards are a freak of nature? Amoebas are man-made?
Odd comment, biggsleezy.
Nature is nature and its wild and varied. Not all organisms reproduce sexually, and contrary to popular opinion, not all individuals within certain species reproduce (look at bees or ants). Humans' sexual behavior and practices are some of the most varied of all. Why asexuality is deemed incredible or unbelievable baffles me.
Past society was based in submission of women, and this model was broken. The people, that never respect really each other, and so didn't learned to live together and really cares each other, had kids. The kids from those unstable relation grow with this anoying example. This can be one reason the the asexuality. Is that a dicease, no. The bad relation on society, without repect and corrupted, are more prone to be a dicease than this.
Sexuality is still today evil in most cases, without really care or love. If wasn't that way the relations Would be bether and there would be less sexual aversion. There is many aversion to people itself, to how bad they can be, and sexuality can represents, in irrational society, a expression of the bad points in each person, the greed and personal interest to got what they want.
World is based in sexual imponense, basic fight acts instints like monkeys fighting for the femalle. This instint is in modern view as money, power. Society opress the behavior of each time period fashion. opress marriage and judge by that. Opress vulgarity and also opress the conseguence of vulgarity. It's kind sick.
Perhaps some people are getting aversion about those sick aspect of society greed culture on sexuality. Those mates without sex intent maybe are more genuine than coupoles that are linked just by sex desire or to create the kids. If they like each other for care and respect, not sex, create kids or money, they are incredible, despite of sounds weird to many people.
With the sexuality today being so ridiculous with crazy ideas, oppression, hate, greed, paranoia, unlovely(no love), prejudice, unfaithful, fake appearance, money interest etc, it's not uncommon that many people goes to don't like it. Maybe the question should be: How people can "like" their mates being society such a shit? It's a strong animal instint to be able lead to that Swmming poolshit.
hhahahaha good to know i wasn't the only one driven here by the house episode ... was just totally wondering how someone can be asexual ,,,that's cRAZY
godwin499 2 days ago
Who's here because of the House episode?
JohnnyCD23 3 days ago
@JohnnyCD23 HEHEHE I totally was driven here by the house episode as well lol.....
godwin499 2 days ago
@JohnnyCD23 hehehehehe..me :)
amyraaa1 1 day ago
Biased reporting, this made me frustrated to watch. Maybe treat the visitors with respect next time? Jeez.
MShepherd88 1 week ago
I kind of identified as asexual before I really knew what other people thought about it. It's weird for me to realize that a lot of people find it hard to understand.
saphirebandit93 1 month ago
How can you "date" if there is no sexual contact whatsoever, though?
Massiveskinsfan93 2 months ago
@Massiveskinsfan93 Easy. You see each other, you go to restaurants, you watch movies, you talk, and so on. The same stuff sexual people do on dates before having sex. I'm quite baffled by your question. Isn't dating about spending time with someone you like and enjoying their company? Why does there have to be sexual contact?
muraalia 2 months ago 5
@Massiveskinsfan93 it's not that there isn't sexual contact, it's that there isn't sex. just as you might be physically affectionate with a good friend or a family member without having sexual desires towards them, so do asexuals.
asticklus 4 days ago
A sexuality isn't something that is CAUSED, it's part of your make up when you are born.
Massiveskinsfan93 2 months ago
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Massiveskinsfan93 2 months ago
i wonder if sex is gross to asexual people?
MsSMSgirl 2 months ago
@MsSMSgirl to me it is but I aso joke about it alot moar
Laughtraxx 2 months ago
@MsSMSgirl Asexuals doesn't necessarily view sex as gross, they are just repulsed by the idea if they actually do it with someone except their partner. [or for demisexuals, if they do it with someone they don't experience emotional connection with]
TheAkmx 1 month ago
My sister tried to explain herself to a fellow classmate once but he just didn't get it. When she said she wasn't interested he replied "oh, so your gay?" but after even more explanation he still didn't get it, "so you don't know which one you like yet?"
puchigoth 3 months ago
you can make yourself sterile by eating too much soy, monks used to do this. humor me, look up the population reduction conspiricies, milk substiture debates, ask yourself why is this topic a popular report. also, robot humanoid conspircy or borg agenda. only because, asexual means not sexual organs or identy, as a robot would have.
Jusplais 4 months ago
It's harder to grasp than homosexuality, and some people still consider that a mental illness. At least with homosexuality, a straight person can understand that there's sexual attraction, but it's just not where they would expect it. Trying to wrap your mind around no sexual attraction when that forms such an important part of your life experience is difficult, to say the least. And we asexuals have the same difficulty wrapping our minds around you all.
MrZingnigga 4 months ago 7
People are probably still scratching their heads? Then they are a bit imbecilic. Asexuality, as a concept, is not that difficult to understand. I get how people may not be able to RELATE to it (I'm one of those people), but that doesn't mean they can't UNDERSTAND it conceptually. My apologies to asexuals out there for the widespread biases, ignorance, and feeble-mindedness of the general population.
FM897 5 months ago 9
I think I could date an asexual person depite being a very sexual person, but it would be pretty hard having blue balls all the time : /
sumyungguy2005 6 months ago
@drhaxable No one is truly Heterosexual. The average straight guy is probably sexually attracted to penises in some way, but is not aware of this sexual attraction.
Maybe he's afraid of being rejected by society because he likes guys and came up with the excuse that penis equals boring to convince himself he's not a loser and eventually believed his own lies.
Now tell me, if this doesn't make sense to a heterosexual guy, what makes you think an Asexual will make sense of your statement?
Ramen86861 6 months ago
I wonder if a US news channel will ever be able to discuss this issue fairly and without bias?
asubjectiveopinion 6 months ago 6
@asubjectiveopinion Probably not. :/
dorkytehl 2 months ago
shelldon
sirbestnameever 6 months ago
If you NEED sex - pay a hooker or masturbate!
If you NEED not to be alone - get a pet! This also goes for asexual couples. All people will be judged upon this.
If you're ready for TRUE LOVE -
sustain the ugliness of this heartless world, and don't give up the hope. Maybe it won't happen in your lifetime - but...............................
Hold the line, love isn't alway on time, oh no no.....................................................
Torrriate 7 months ago
Bad Interviewer, Childish attitude. Couple needed to respond with more Inteligent comments. They allowed themselvs to be sitting there as a Novelty. Wow look at those people.
wwwTheBookbaggs 7 months ago 3
@wwwTheBookbaggs I think part of it is that he's asking the questions most sexual people would want to ask. It's tackless, but people know very little about this community. The sex therapist was a douche though.
stukajunker88 7 months ago
@drhaxable Im a male, I will cure you of straightness by raping you >:3
evilyakko 7 months ago
I hate how the interviewer asked that couple the same question like 5 times. "So you're not intimate?'' ''It's not a celibrate thing?'' ''So you really don't care about sex?'' ''So sex isn't important at all?'' ''So it's not a fear of sex?"
GOD DAMMIT.
niks6661 8 months ago 6
@tylerrepotter
A common misconception is that asexual people aren't sexual in their behaviors. That's not always true. It means, basically, that they are not sexually attracted to anyone, regardless of gender. It's certainly possible for a person, even an asexual person, to become aroused and some do have sex, for any variety of reasons. That doesn't male them not asexual, same way a homosexual person who has sex with a person of the opposite gender doesn't automatically stop being homosexual.
glowythelugia 8 months ago
@tylerrepotter
To answer at least a little bit (hopefully), it's perfectly possible for asexuals to have a relationship. There are different forms of love--love for a parent, a sibling, a pet, a friend, a partner, and so on. Different reasons to love. Asexual people, given that they're not aromatic, can still be attached to a partner the same way a sexual person is. The difference is that it's romantic attraction, not sexual attraction.
glowythelugia 8 months ago
LOL WUT? You don't want sex, but God do you people want ATTENTION.
schnauzerbro 8 months ago
Every one of these videos is confusing. No one asks the right questions. Seems straight forward. They don't have any sexual desire, case closed. What is strange is the thought of being physically aroused without any mental aspect to it. Are there two types of asexual? Can't become aroused, and can? The mind is where sex actually happens. I don't understand how they can have relationships though. Why do they say they don't want to be fixed? I think sex chemicals cause love.
tylerrepotter 8 months ago
so you guys don't get hard?
Atheist603 8 months ago
@Atheist603
Asexual men are capable of getting and maintaining an erection, as well as ejaculation..
niks6661 8 months ago
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kittyzpwn303 9 months ago
I am asexual. I first realized it when I was a teenager and did not develop crushes or did not find people attractive in a sexual way. Of course my orientation may have something to do with my parent's loveless relationship.
RetroJenny 9 months ago
In other words asexual people are not programmed to have sex and celibates are programmed to have sex but they refuse to obey the lines of code that request that action. The rest are just slaves.
0RobinHood1 10 months ago 6
I had sex just to force myself to see how it felt.. I didn't like it.. The guy was nice, I like him and we're still friends, but I realized I was forcing myself to date and have sex only to be like all my other friends. I enjoyed sex physically, but it was never.... mentally satisfying, to me it just was awkward every time. Of course I was young (only 14... yeah, grossly young.) and that may have been part of the reason, but I'm now 17 and just don't want to have sex or a bf/gf. :/
KikyoChanXD 10 months ago
Hooray for us ineffable cuddle sluts! We're asexy ;)
lprocks555 11 months ago 8
@serioushamster
Kissing doesn't have to be sexual. And not all asexuals are at the same level of intimacy. Presence of sex acts doesn't always mean a person can't be asexual; a lack of a desire to be sexual with other people is more it. You can still do things you don't want to, like to compromise a bit with a more sexual partner.
glowythelugia 1 year ago 3
But these people kiss and touch each others privates,those are sexual acts so what the fuck!?
serioushamster 1 year ago
I am joining the AVEN community a.s.a.p. After doing much inner exploration and outwardly research I have proudly accepted I am a heteroromantic asexual. Ever since my "enlightenment" I have never felt so relaxed, empowered, and comfortable in my own skin. You want to beat me down for having sex not rule my life and mind then go ahead. Be my guest. We can love as well as anyone else, we just express it in a different way.
AnimeEyes143 1 year ago 5
That David guy is handsome but why do they have that couple on the show that are so unattractive? They look like they're from Lowered Expectations on Mad TV. I'm sorry to be mean but I think we need better spokespeople.
markblaster1 1 year ago
I thought there was something wrong with me in my early teens because everyone around me was getting boyfriends or girlfriends and I felt nothing like that. Then when I was 15 I saw a segment about asexuality on 20/20 or some such, and I felt like the floor had dropped from under me. There were others like me! There was nothing wrong with me, my orientation was real and had a name! It was such a relief. I now realize I'm a biromantic asexual, and proud! :)
WoundedWolfgirl 1 year ago 5
I have struggled with this since I hit puberty, while all my female friends were getting boyfriends or my male friends starting becoming interested in me, I felt nothing.
I thought there was something wrong with me, sure I found certain men attractive, but only on an artistic level. I love to draw them, but if I were to meet them I'd only want to be friends.
So I'd describe myself as a hetero-romantic asexual and I'm much more comfortable with that than pretending to feel like everyone else.
0BatGirl0 1 year ago 3
Loving the thought of this video, but Have to ask because I'm a curious person. WTH is going on @ 2:32 . Am I the only one who spotted this odd visual?
PaperSydney 1 year ago
Asexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation. Asexuals know they are not sexually attracted to anyone in the way that a homosexual knows that they are not sexually attracted to anyone of the opposite sex. Asexuals, like homosexuals and anyone of any orientation, understand within themselves without necessarily trying sex that they do not desire it, just as a straight woman knows she would not desire sex with her female best friend.
MissLink 1 year ago 3
2:30 "early childhood trauma*
*hairy manboobs runs towards camera*
99boy 1 year ago 14
@99boy LOL I knew it!
PaperSydney 1 year ago
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99boy 1 year ago
One good side to being asexual would be they don't have their hormones forcing their brains into making stupid and irrational decisions. (Like rape, prostitution, strip clubs.) Not to mention having more time devoted to mental development since their time isn't devoted to thinking about sex and instead more important things like learning a useful skill or hobby.
dorkytehl 1 year ago 26
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pithaya 2 months ago
@dorkytehl Or playing video games, watching television.
cleodel88 5 days ago
@cleodel88 It's still better than being out and raping people.
dorkytehl 5 days ago
Jesus was asexual. You got a problem with that, then take it up with Him.
mmecharlotte 1 year ago
@mmecharlotte Yeah, but Jesus was also apparently an immortal magician. Asexuality is completely fine and normal though.
horrabletypoe 1 year ago
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monsoonboy47 1 year ago
hairy manboobs!
mastttt91 1 year ago
@gombis666 Grow up! Why do you even care anyways? Also why are you looking up asexual videos on here. I think you are the one who's in the closet!
86thislove 1 year ago
I'm sure this has been said, but I think this is a closet case issue for most people who claim to be "asexual." It's an easy excuse IMO.
gombis666 1 year ago
@gombis666 you shouldn't jump to general conclusions. I'm asexual and 100% heterosexual. Sex does not equal love.
briarts 1 year ago 3
@briarts the term heteromantic helps people see the difference
ashleyXanonymous1 1 year ago
David is hott! cute guy!......I think Asexuals have a mindset on a deeper level!
MakeLoveNoBabiez 1 year ago 6
I'm asexual. Love does not equal sex to me. Love is emotion and that's it! Asexuality is no sexual attraction, not sex drive. I masturbate and can get aroused but never horny to want sex. I think David is really cute, yes I can tell good looking from bad, but he's not hot or sexy. I'm romantic as well!
86thislove 1 year ago 6
Sex does not equal love. Sex is not love. You don't need to have sex to show love. I don't see the connection.
sshelget 1 year ago 24
@sshelget im in love with the female body, i love to have sex with the female body...you see the connection?
Mulligan71991 2 months ago
wow, this is interesting!
elinheartstristin 1 year ago
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its not normal
milomaliciouz 1 year ago
Yup people knock us, it's annoying.
BJORT 1 year ago
I don't need thearpy
Norn 1 year ago
@Norn I don't need therapy either. People who think they NEED to have sex need therapy!!
sshelget 1 year ago 11
Maybe they're just not horney? The only reason people are making a fuss is because its so unheard of.
oishitomoro 1 year ago
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Asexual people cant date only be friends fact
FIGHTFANNERD3 1 year ago
asexuality is not a choice, you are born with it, just like any other sexual orientation, some people later on in their lives will even turn asexual.
tickedoffnow 1 year ago
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i think sex is overated and as akid i thought it will be so great but its ok .even though there are a lot of things you can do besides sex im still compeled to have it becouse it feels natual.they say we come from monkeys which would make us part of the animal kingdom, well what animal you know is asexual.these people are ethier mentally challenged or satan has inflicted them with asexual deamons becouse god wants reproduction and sex through marriage.what if adam and eve was asexual people!
k123g123456789 2 years ago
@k123g123456789 "For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it" (matt 19:12). -Jesus
Read your Bible better pal (unless you're Jewish, in which case the quoted verse does not apply to you)
TheAmazingImbecile 1 year ago 3
I'm asexual and I'm proud of it.:)
cheryl132 2 years ago 10
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i think sex is overated and as akid i thought it will be so great but its ok .even though there are a lot of things you can do besides sex im still compeled to have it becouse it feels natual.they say we come from monkeys which would make us part of the animal kingdom, well what animal you know is asexual.these people are ethier mentally challenged or satan has inflicted them with asexual deamons becouse god wants reproduction and sex through marriage.what if adam and eve was asexual people!
k123g123456789 2 years ago
@cheryl132 Me too. I wish I knew about this long before now - it wasn't until my mid 30's when I discovered there was a word for it. I grew up a very angry person at the world; couldn't figure out why everybody "crossed the line" (in my opinion). I never knew people were "supposed" to be sexual - (I still don't think they HAVE to be) but I certainly didn't think everybody on earth did it (or should). Then there came a time when I believed I was the ONLY person in the world like this.
sshelget 2 months ago
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yesterday I became aseksual, because in synchronisity yesterday I figured I lost power over my 5th dimensional self because of cuming.
It's pretty hard to not think about women and have masturbation now. I never kissed and had seks... And I feel very sad.
I am very attractive and had a lot of offer to have seks, but something in me says no.
23 year old men.
All I think about is to become a high frequency of love showering the whole universe with my knowledge.
jesus is aseksual
YourFuture2012 2 years ago
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i think sex is overated and as akid i thought it will be so great but its ok .even though there are a lot of things you can do besides sex im still compeled to have it becouse it feels natual.they say we come from monkeys which would make us part of the animal kingdom, well what animal you know is asexual.these people are ethier mentally challenged or satan has inflicted them with asexual deamons becouse god wants reproduction and sex through marriage.what if adam and eve was asexual people!
k123g123456789 2 years ago
@k123g123456789 love is overated
FIGHTFANNERD3 1 year ago
@k123g123456789 : The world is overpopulated so the belief that we should "go forth and multiply/procreate" is rather outdated. There's no such things as asexual demons sheesh where did get that fantasy?
johdirockette 1 year ago 4
@johdirockette
"Then who was phone?"
crowTnelson1 1 year ago
I'm asexual. :)
tickedoffnow 2 years ago 4
Interestingly enough I enjoy masturbation, but when it comes to sex with another human being I'm just not interested. I've done it sure. And it is a boring activity. It was like some unpleasant job I had to get through in order to get what I wanted from that person which was just the emotional spiritual and mental connection.I'm attracted to other women, but I just want the other stuff in a relationship without sex. So I've been trying to figure out if I'm asexual or what.
LadyAngelaGray 2 years ago
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Homosexuality is a much bigger problem than asexuality. Homosexuals go against nature-by laying with someone of their gender. Asexuals don't do anything that goes directly against nature-just as when you are single you are not doing anything unnatural.
Zwagzord 2 years ago
Agreed. :)
JesterDalaforDasey 2 years ago
If you are referring to an environmental veiwpoint (survival of the fittest, reproduction, etc.), you are right, but asexuals would be included in that "problem". If you are referring to a religious standpoint in terms of sin, I don't think you are quite correct.
In the Bible, it says no sin condemns you except not having faith in God and Jesus Christ and what Jesus has done for you. Yes, it makes it clear that homosexuality is considered unclean, but it is not a condemnation to Hell.
BritonWhite 2 years ago
I think that people are born heterosexual, homosexual, asexual, etc. But, also some people choose these sexual orientations. And, some people respond to abuse with these sexual orientations. For example, I've known of women who became gay largely because of their experience with molestation. I think the same can be true for asexuality. That's my experience.
anutuk 2 years ago
"why more and more people are deciding not to have sex" I think its more along the lines that "more and more people are making it known that they don't have sex". Its probably not a decision, no more than gays decide to have sex with the same gender.
TheClassicalLiberal 2 years ago 33
I think David Jay is the perfect representative for asexuals. He's such a great guy. He's good-looking, super-sweet, and the lispy thing is just adorable.
I'm excited about the asexual revolution. Lead the way, David!
devin6687 2 years ago 7
@devin6687 : I agree. Most people think that asexuals are unattractive but David as a spokesperson suggests otherwise. I know many attractive asexuals, we're simply not into it. I'm very excited people are starting to speak for our group ^^
johdirockette 1 year ago
@johdirockette most are ugly though
FIGHTFANNERD3 1 year ago
@FIGHTFANNERD3 : Have you seen most asexuals to say that? I doubt it. I and many other asexuals I know are quite attractive. I even know a few models who are asexual. So don't jump into conclusions. :P
johdirockette 1 year ago
I like how the main spokesperson for asexuals is incredibly attractive.
SANTARII 2 years ago 45
@SANTARII Sadly, in our culture, a spokesman for anything must be attractive or no one takes him seriously. ESPECIALLY about asexuality. If David Jay were fat and bald, people would say "No wonder he's asexual."
ForesterComics 4 months ago 4
These guys make it sound like asexuality is a choice..
NinjaMuffinMaster 2 years ago
I think they are trying to say it is a choice whether you have sex or not. You don't get to choose how you feel or who you are, but you can choose to have sex.
desirexnoel 2 years ago 2
Way to not actually let them talk.
Kemmetmau 2 years ago
the hell with the guests i would do the host
would love to lick off aj hammer's skin...mmm child
garycalgary 2 years ago
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im not asexual, but to somehow think that asexuality is a bigger problem than gays or lesbians needs to get their head exemand...
alien53XF13Nd 2 years ago
How's it a problem?? It doesn't effect you and they're happy...so where's the problem?
papatoony 2 years ago 5
@alien53XF13Nd
Way to hook us up with the exact same vid we're already on... brilliant!!
crowTnelson1 1 year ago
What the HELL IS THAT AT 2:32 ?
guitaro5000 2 years ago
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Quote: "What the HELL IS THAT AT 2:32 ?"
Pecs, man... Heavy duty pecs...
crowTnelson1 1 year ago
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I don't understand why people are studying asexuality. People don't study homosexuality-something that is more unnatural than asexuality in my opinion.
Zwagzord 2 years ago
I believe the clip stated that nobody is studying asexuality...that's one of the reasons the guy started his website. And scientists DO study homosexuality (which, btw, occurs ALL OVER in nature). You've got it all backwards, bro. Check it and correct it.
papatoony 2 years ago
Thats dumb
withlove312 2 years ago
the problem with society is that they dont understand how to form a lasting relationship without sex . hence they tend to avoid asexual ppl. (btw im asexual too)
toloverufan2 2 years ago 20
AJ hammer is hot!!!
cinnamonteak 2 years ago
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hehhehe...3 weeks later he is found wandering gay bathhouses with 15 veneral diseases on his anus...hehehe...
Chumandoo3 2 years ago
"Ask someone if they can go without sex, they will probably tell you they'd rather go without food or water."
Really now... Are you kidding me? How shallow do you think people are Showbiz tonight?
ominuka 2 years ago 15
I want food, water, sleep and a nice comfortable temperature setting. Then I'm ready for my sex!!!
papatoony 2 years ago
I hate that it's so hard for the broadcaster to understand how simple asexuality is, but that asexuals can easily understand that something happens to people who feel sexual attraction. What can't people who are sexually attracted to other people wrap their minds around asexuals? It's not that hard, people! Asexual's relationships are simpler than those of sexual's.
wordsthatrhyme 2 years ago 13
@wordsthatrhyme
It's because 'Showbiz Tonight' is an "entertainment" show. If there is no controversy, the show has to find a way to make it up on there own.
They do it all the time... The hosts/guests pretend to be outraged, disgusted, or weirded-out about something that shouldn't/doesn't matter to anyone; in order to manufacture fake controversy, and get ignorant hillbillies to watch/send in comments, or to text comments (for a nominal fee, of course). Stupidest show (or format) in history.
crowTnelson1 1 year ago
heyo,im asexual,let me welcome to your club:)I have moderate attraction to fetishism but as for all the rest im a complete and proud asexual! I'd like to meet friends here,guys! i'd be glad to get any invites&comments!
gleb202 2 years ago
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Can you Imagine someone going on TV now and saying there is "something wrong with homosexuals"? People would go nuts but they can knock asexuals all they want
I believe asexuals are the new gays
Obsidean 3 years ago 45
Not really. You see, many conservative religious nuts consider homosexuality evil. How can they view asexuality evil when you're not having sex with anyone?
Justinfh2point0 2 years ago 6
@Obsidean no there not asexuals are 5% of the human race
FIGHTFANNERD3 1 year ago
@Obsidean fox "news" and the right wing do that all the time
brotmann86 1 year ago
@Obsidean - I think many asexuals are gay. It's the new trend for closet cases.
gombis666 1 year ago
@gombis666 ok g.o.d
zybotsu001 1 year ago
@Obsidean I see your point. But I can DEFINITELY imagine someone going on tv and saying there is something wrong with homosexuals. Sadly in this day and age that still happens all the time. People just need to learn that just because they can't relate to something or don't feel the way that they need to label it as wrong. It's just different. I'm sure relationships are much more complicated for asexuals to have so I doubt it's a "choice" like any other sexual orientation is not a choice
toungetied98 1 year ago
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@Obsidean Bullshit. Asexuality was never present in the ancient world like homosexuality. It's a disease.
NCAfroGirl10 1 year ago
@NCAfroGirl10 It's possible to fake sexual attraction or to stay under the radar as an asexual. In societies that label having no desire for consummation as an insult to marriage, people can do something they find boring in order to be accepted by society. Also, there WERE single people in ancient civilizations last time I checked.
Please stop being so closed minded.
laughingwarlock 1 year ago
@NCAfroGirl10 actually it was its in the bible and other works
keaverkite 1 year ago
How is it in any way a disease?
ASHEKEH 1 year ago
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Juliecr80 3 years ago
Tell me, do you think that it'd be fun to fuck a dog, or boring and disgusting? How do you? Maybe fucking a dog would be great fun! You never know until you fuck one! (Assuming you've never had sexual relations with a dog...)
Fayiirah 3 years ago 12
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Juliecr80 3 years ago
So you can knock us for not wanting sex because we've never had it, yet I'm not allowed to ask the same thing about you concerning dogs? Double standard much? Okay, I'll take a different approach: assuming you're not bi or pan, would you enjoy having sex with you're unpreferred gender? How would you know if you haven't yet (again, assuming you haven't). At least I can pride myself in the fact I don't need to resort to insults when I have nothing better to say. :)
Fayiirah 3 years ago 34
You ask how we know sex is no fun if we've never had it, right? How do we know? We know sex would be no fun the same way you know having sex with your mother, father, uncle, sister, dog, cat, etc. would be no fun. It's not something we need to experience to know. We just KNOW. Kind of like you know fucking a dog wouldn't be much fun, even though you haven't (I assume). Do you understand now?
Fayiirah 3 years ago 83
@Fayiirah Thank you!! That's what I've been trying to get through people!
Gimme46 1 year ago
@Fayiirah they are just ignorrant and for the biggest part plain stupid. i am not asexual but gay but nobody would know when i talk or walk so many peopla are surprised when they find out. and i got asked so many times "how do u know that u dont enjoy sex with a girl if you didnt try it?". its just so stupid and exhausting to hear it again and again and again
brotmann86 1 year ago
@brotmann86 It's sadly true. As a kid, the most dreaded question all the others asked me was "Who do you think is hot?" I said no one, and no one believed me.
ThreePockySticks 1 year ago
@ThreePockySticks yeah i get that it must be a struggle as well. my answer was most of the time "jennifer lopez" just to keep me in the closet
brotmann86 1 year ago
asexuals ftw
Chillidan24 3 years ago 11
I am not asexual, but I would love to date an asexual person, or be in a sexless marriage. Sex is overrated.
malcb001 3 years ago 16
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Asexuality is fucking weird lol...
Agownsrs2 3 years ago
No, I'm anti sexual and asexual, it's more weird and disgusting to be sexual.
TheMightyAzureDragon 3 years ago 11
According to this video, I guess I'm asexual, but I'm not sure because my feelings are different. I never gave it much thought, though. I just don't like sex, have never liked sex, and never want to have sex. I find the thought disgusting and I hate intimacy and touching of any kind. So maybe I'm just weird.
DarkLadyJade 3 years ago 8
well according to what you say then you could maybe call yourself an asexual aromantic
thats what you're describing ;)
kkkaylar 3 years ago 5
What's next, are people going to say blow jobs are love? Honestly people use your brains
Ichliebemusikundybd 3 years ago 8
Of course asexual people can love. If you really think sex is love, then I feel sorry for you, sex is only a act. Falling in love with someone, has nothing to do with wanting to get off, it involves being romantic etc
Ichliebemusikundybd 3 years ago 15
I am asexual and I´m proud of it.
I don´t think sex is sometthing necessary at all and I am glad we are getting some visibility now.
markkiz2304 3 years ago 10
You're awesome! I am asexual to! I don't need to worship genitals to be happy, as long as I have a partner I can connect with on a romantic level , then awesome. All your ignorant people, can go smoke some weed, for all I care. I am a chick!
Ichliebemusikundybd 3 years ago 5
hey, I totally agree with you!:)
I'm asexual too!:)
cheryl132 3 years ago 3
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Okay that couple at the end can't be real. Jill? OMG wtf is ur problem lady? Where are you from, the slums of bloody england? Run a bleeping comb through that rat test before coming a tv show and you might just find a wank horny enough to tap that. And that dude, zoinks wtf is my dawg Scooby at? Serioulsy dude get some new fbomb clothes. u look like a gay 70's porn star. right?
haydenstag 3 years ago
Why does someone's personal choice cause you to lash out with hate? I don't understand.
I have a close friend of the family whom I've known his entire life. He's 22 and has never dated. We all assumed he was gay. I used to think so when he was just a child. But the asexuality thing fits him so much better. He has said he's just not interested.
I don't think it's about a fear of intimacy. It's just different.
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Other asexual members welcomed (I.e. All you other ugly people). Does this mean he'll have his own baby if he masturbates?
haydenstag 3 years ago
Some of the ugliest people I have ever seen are people who DO want sex. Please extract your head from out of your butt (unless you like it up there).
UltraViolett1111 3 years ago 11
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Wanting it doesn't make it so, moron. If it did we'd all learn to want a lot harder.
haydenstag 3 years ago
Typical useless response - makes no sense at all - lol.
UltraViolett1111 3 years ago 4
Why does the one chick want to be called "Jill" all of the sudden?? She goes by "Winter" in all her other show appearances. Weird.
papatoony 3 years ago
lol
AlphaKillaX 3 years ago
David did a very good job fielding that question about people with a fear of intimacy versus people who are asexual! I was very impressed by his answer!
Seems like the couple just got asked "So . . . you really don't have sex or want sex?" about 60 times, and they got to say "Yeah, that's about the size of it."
People really are "scratching their heads" over asexuality a lot. I've just started a video series about it. I hope it helps spread some understanding.
swankivy 3 years ago 6
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Sex isn't important at all. I'm not interested in sexual relationships either. I tried sex once and I found it uninteresting and it is nothing special in my opinion. I don't understand the great fuss regarding this issue.
liberator151 3 years ago 5
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I love having sex with women it's so much fun and it feels so fuckin good! maybe you should try it!
alien890890 3 years ago
Hey dumbass many asexuals have had sex. And have been in relationships with sexual people and have sex with them because they feel pressured to. They just don't feel sexusl attraction. Take your head out of your ass.
Dragonflybabe 3 years ago 5
What's so great about asexuality is I think it makes the relationship stronger because so many people have that on their mind and when you finally do it, they probably think... what else is there?
LipGlossMan 3 years ago 3
sex isnt for everyone. not a big deal. sex is boring. im surprized the man doesnt fall over, and fall asleep then again he is so worried about what he is going to say to his buddies. alot of people who have sex are closet homos. straight men respect women, dont ask for anything. kissing is natural. sex is not. u dont havt to have sex. to create humans there are other options get over it.
SEXBEACH2 4 years ago 3
Sex is the most natural of all ways of reproduction.
Kissin is natural, how many animals have u seen kiss each other?
biggsleezy 3 years ago
"Sex is the most natural of all ways of reproduction."
So....parthonogenic lizards are a freak of nature? Amoebas are man-made?
Odd comment, biggsleezy.
Nature is nature and its wild and varied. Not all organisms reproduce sexually, and contrary to popular opinion, not all individuals within certain species reproduce (look at bees or ants). Humans' sexual behavior and practices are some of the most varied of all. Why asexuality is deemed incredible or unbelievable baffles me.
VampireSeal 2 years ago 8
"why more and more people..."
"part of a growing group of people..."
These statements by the host imply that this is a conscious decision, when I would think it isn't.
Also, the therapist is right, people who've been traumatized, etc... can't really be called asexual. Atleast I don't think they can.
Webins 4 years ago
"traumatized" does not mean seeing reality in wrong way :), everything you feel is part of the real picture of the world.
take care
fonfeluch 4 years ago
Past society was based in submission of women, and this model was broken. The people, that never respect really each other, and so didn't learned to live together and really cares each other, had kids. The kids from those unstable relation grow with this anoying example. This can be one reason the the asexuality. Is that a dicease, no. The bad relation on society, without repect and corrupted, are more prone to be a dicease than this.
jerryaltman 4 years ago
Sexuality is still today evil in most cases, without really care or love. If wasn't that way the relations Would be bether and there would be less sexual aversion. There is many aversion to people itself, to how bad they can be, and sexuality can represents, in irrational society, a expression of the bad points in each person, the greed and personal interest to got what they want.
jerryaltman 4 years ago
World is based in sexual imponense, basic fight acts instints like monkeys fighting for the femalle. This instint is in modern view as money, power. Society opress the behavior of each time period fashion. opress marriage and judge by that. Opress vulgarity and also opress the conseguence of vulgarity. It's kind sick.
jerryaltman 4 years ago
Perhaps some people are getting aversion about those sick aspect of society greed culture on sexuality. Those mates without sex intent maybe are more genuine than coupoles that are linked just by sex desire or to create the kids. If they like each other for care and respect, not sex, create kids or money, they are incredible, despite of sounds weird to many people.
jerryaltman 4 years ago 5
With the sexuality today being so ridiculous with crazy ideas, oppression, hate, greed, paranoia, unlovely(no love), prejudice, unfaithful, fake appearance, money interest etc, it's not uncommon that many people goes to don't like it. Maybe the question should be: How people can "like" their mates being society such a shit? It's a strong animal instint to be able lead to that Swmming poolshit.
jerryaltman 4 years ago