I have natural hair, and you're right. It does take too long. My solution? I see the hairdresser every other week. :D I also work in a professional environment. Funky styles are not an option and afros tangle my hair. Therefore, they don't interest me.
I don't have a solution for the money angle. I work too many hours to do my hair at home, and it costs me $70 per month for styling, which is very reasonable for two salon visits.
I've struggled with my hair all of my life. Tried natural. Tried relaxers. Too proud to do weaves. I flat ironed it for a while. I loved the results, but it ruined my hair in the long run, so had to quit that.
A few months ago I got a straight perm. Best thing I've ever done. Doing my hair is so easy and effortless now. No condescending natural nazi is going to convince me to go back. It's my hair, my life, my time, my effort, my sweat and tears. And I am sick and tired of fighting my hair.
I so agree with you. I've been natural for 3 years and was relaxed for 40 and no matter WHAT I choose, keeping this hair healthy takes time and money. The only way we differ is I don't want locs but I'm constantly being pushed towards them as the holy grail for this hair. It's not a natural vs relaxed issue, it's THIS hair type and the responsibility it requires. Oops! Did I say hair type? Sorry. *eyeroll* Thank you for throwing yourself on this grenade. I hear you. <3
They go on and on about all the products they bought (MONEY) and all the time (...TIME) it took them to use the products. They talk about trial and error. They give detailed and long lists of ingredients (MONEY) and how to acquire the hair style/look (TIME). Must they state at the beginning of each and every video that all the natural or homemade or preservative filled ingredients will take up one's TIME and MONEY?! Personal upkeep is an investment that must be made...or don't and look busted.
(Please read in conjunction with post below)... Okay, so are you complaining about grooming yourself? No matter what, unless you depend on the rain and wind to wash and style your hair, you are going to have to spend some time and some money. Wash and go hair doesn't look good on anyone (any woman) no matter their race. If it does, then that person still had to take the time to get it to that place. I watch a variety of those vbloggers and they are not deliberately misleading people.
Hello! I listened to the post one time then skipped around the second time after reading some comments. At 6:48 is when you brought up your first "thing" but I believe it was a subtext: moral issue vs choice (time). What I gained from listening to the post is that you believe the TWO THINGS people want to ignore about about natural hair is the TIME it takes to maintain said hair and the MONEY involved in maintaining it (both dependant on the desired upkeep/look).
but if you wore natural styles with your hair out it wouldn't be hard to do. You're describing the time it takes to take african curly hair to a state completely unnatural to it. But wearing a style that works with the hair takes 20 minutes at the most.
wow... the beginning statements you made about ur hair being different then your mothers was on point... the rest of my family has softer hair, i had softer hair as a baby but it broke and I got like litterally lambs wool... this combined with the fact that i was tenderheaded made my youthful hair care a painfull and tedious experience... i had a perm ... but in college i cut it out and oppted for the Nappy locks and a head covering ... but ive cut them and now ive got a sqaure hair cut
wow... the beginning statements you made about ur hair being different then your mothers was on point... the rest of my family has softer hair, i had softer hair as a baby but it broke and I got like litterally lambs wool... this combined with the fact that i was tenderheaded made my youthful hair care a painfull and tedious experience... i had a perm ... but in college i cut it out and oppted for the Nappy locks and a head covering ... but ive cut them and now ive got a sqaure hair
you brung it in this video..my friends have perms because they cant stand the time it takes working with natural hair sometimes... also permed blk hair is not the same texture as a ww hair for all the ignorant folks out here
One more thing: when my hair was relaxed, I always had to "do" it. Even a simple ponytail wasn't simple. I can literally put a nice scarf and earrings on and go if I want to. And don't even get me started about my arch nemesis: the curling iron! As my hair got longer (bra strap), It became difficult to "do" my hair...which is what you are condemned to with relaxed hair IMHO.
One more thing: when my hair was relaxed, I always had to "do" it. Even a simple ponytail wasn't simple. I can literally put a nice scarf and earrings on and go if I want to. And don't even get me started about my arch nemesis: the curling iron! As my hair got longer (bra strap), It became difficult to "do" my hair...which is what you are condemned to with relaxed hair IMHO.
I'm a natural and I LUUUV it! The protective styles serve 3 purposes for me: (1) keeps my hands out of my hair so there is less breakage, (2) Gives me a polished look for work--which is in a corporate setting btw, and (3) Allows me to be a little lazy as I only need to tie my hair at night and untie in the morning...then I'm out the door! Natural hair is soooo easy plus its really unique! Ppl can tell I'm having fun with my hair :)
I found this vid 2 b true. I appreciate being natural, but I hate it when ppl judge others, just let people do what they want! I myself am natural and I also don't have the patience to style my hair for long periods of time. Luckily I'm from a stereotypical west african family with a lot of women who know how to do cornrows so i just get small ones that can last 2-3 weeks at a time.
Amen, Elle! It's funny that as a black person you can't do what the hell you want with your own hair. The whole "natural movement" is based on peer pressure. Most recent naturals are "natural" because of that Chris Rock movie, right? Now you see them trying to make sense of an afro and pretending that 3-hour comb outs aren't so bad. Himay10nence is the only one being FO-REAL about it and you saw how fast people turned on her. But they left her alone when she said, "F U, this shit is hard." lol
@WhereYaBoss If you view going natural as a "movement" then that's what you are going to say. With that thinking, straightening & relaxing were also movements.
Also, I'm not sure what any of Chris Rock's movies have to do with going natural but I doubt seriously anyone went natural because of a movie. If you are referring to his documentary "Good Hair", there was nothing in it that encouraged women to go natural. He was simply exposing the black hair industry.
@Lovingthenaturalme If he was simply exposing the black hair industry and natural is not a movement, then why didn't he cover all the natural hair groupies out there? Anyway. Most of the recent naturals went natural after watching his movie and hearing the words "creamy crack" and seeing a soda can melt in pure sodium hydroxide and eat through chicken flesh. It was essentially a scare tactic. I lot of people feel for it.
Wow! That's the first word that came to mind when I started this video. I almost cut it off and chalked it up to the rantings of another conspiracy theorist.
To the creator of the video, I'm sure you have a mind of your own and you know how to use it so there is absolutely NO reason you should get upset over someone else's opinion. You sound very angry and bitter.
To everyone, your hair is a part of you. You did not learn to care for your body overnight so why would you expect that when...
@Lovingthenaturalme ...making the change from being relaxed to being natural? There may be a little time involved in the beginning as you learn what your hair likes and dislikes but that time is very short. Once you learn to provide your hair with what it needs, it will not take any longer to care for then locs, sisterlocs, relaxed, hair, etc. If you have time to care for your body, you have time to take care of your hair...no matter how you wear it. My natural 4A kinky/coily/curly hair takes...
@Lovingthenaturalme ...no more time to care for than when I did my retouches every 4 weeks. Either way, I was always willing to take the time to care for my hair because it is a part of me
While there will always be a few exceptions, your natural haired counterparts are not all out to make non-naturals feel guilty about their personal choices. If you are really happy with your hair, would you have made a 15 minute video with such strong opinions and wordings?
@Lovingthenaturalme Just accept that everyone is not on the natural kick. I used to like the natural hair movement until I started seeing all the unkempt mops walking around. Then I said, "uh-uh, hold up". If natural hair means, don't do a damn thing to your hair than I was no longer for it. Now, there are some people who DO style their natural hair, but it does not come close to the amount of people I see walking around looking like mulatto children with white mothers.
@WhereYaBoss I accepted long ago that everyone is not on the natural "kick" which I why I NEVER tell/recommend/suggest other people to go natural unless they ask my opinion or repeatedly complain about being unhappy with the state of their hair.
I have also come across naturals who are unsure of how to care for their hair but the "mulatto children" comment was highly offensive.
@Lovingthenaturalme Sorry, If I offended YOU with the "mulatto children with white mothers" comment but that's the best way to describe what I'M seeing. I wasn't talking about mulatto children, per se. I was talking about how some of them go around with uncombed mops because their mothers don't know how to care for "their" hair. And, now that's what I'm seeing on an adult level by women who don't know what to do with their natural hair. At least the mulatto children have a good excuse.
Well I never relaxed my hair...I always rocked the wet and wavy look. I have long and thin hair not thick at all! So when I did try the natural it never worked out lol. Aw how I would love to rock a kinky afro lol
I love my wigs. It gives me what I want ...... LONG HAIR. My locs are two inches under my wig. Once my locs get LONG I'll ditch the wigs. But it going to take YEARS for my locs to get down my back!!!! I just think I look ugly with short hair. Halle Berry can do it- but I aint no Halle. For me, having long hair makes me look more beautiful. texture does not matter to me, but its really hard to find wigs that are KINKY AND LONG. (like 24 inches long). If nappy hair grew long quickly, id do it.
@LadyNemesis2007 I can't pull off short hair either...I did try in 2005-2007 but it was a bob not a "Halle" short. I liked the change of style at first, but then I realized longer hair was more flattering so I stopped maintain the bob & grew it back.
I actually understand what you're saying, and your points about time and money are very valid. At the same time, I can see why some women would be opposed or give you a side eye for saying you don't like afros because well, IMO, an afro isn't a hairstyle (unless it's picked out). It's different from locs to me b/c it's how my hair looks when I don't "do" anything to it besides add conditioner to protect it from the elements. I get mad when I spend a lot of time on my hair as well.
First off I am Natural and I personally don't think natural hair Nazi's are that big of and issue you have to realize that with every belief or movement there is gonna be extremist think about Vegans, Christianity, Muslims, Conspiracy Theorist, BLACK WOMAN BASHER they all have one thing in common THE NEED TO BE RIGHT and they should be ignored.
@MissConcreteRose are you saying that there are christian and muslim extremists, or that christians and muslims are extremists automatically? b/c within the context if that list, it sounds like the latter...
@mcamurray I specifically said with every group there will be extremist then I began to list them. So basically that means I'm saying there are Christians and Muslims that are Extremist along with other examples besides those 2 no I was not saying all Christians and Muslims I,m kinda confused how you took it that way when I again said "with every belief or movement there is gonna be extremist "
@MissConcreteRose i ask a simple question, i really don't know what all the hostility is for.
most would say that vegans, conspiracy theorists, and "black woman bashers" are extremists in and of themselves, so throwing christians and muslims into that group would make it seem as though they were aslo automatically extremists...
i didn't realize it was so offensive to ask questions for clarification these days. my apologies...
@mcamurray I'm sorry if you took my words as hostile because they were not. I would assume that name calling, cursing and all caps would constitutes as being hostile on a comment and I did neither in my statement. I can agree that Black Woman Basher are extremist as a whole but not all vegans and conspiracy theorist are extremist along with Muslims, Christians and even Athiest but there are people within in the group just like with natural hair which will force there ideas on you.
Hi @BValchan ! Texlax is when you relax your hair to the point that you still retain some of your original texture. Done most often by cutting down on sugg processing time. There are qte a few texlax beauties here on YT you may want to view as well. Take care
This video is exactly what a lot of naturals need to hear. Just because you don't want to wear a particular style doesn't mean you are not proud of your hair. Plus its none of their business.. I have been natural now 2 years. I totally understand the not wanting to take 5 hours on you hair it can literally be exhausting. So power too you, girl. LIke I say no one has to deal with your hair but you!
great video, I am relaxed or texlaxed I guess you can say, I relax my curl pattern just enough for managebility, I still would have to blow dry and flat iron my hair If I wanted it to be "silky straight" This is more of a convience, not in anyway "self hate"! I get so tired of the naturals claiming that. we are women and if i choose to change my hair like so many other races of women do, why am I condemned for it? I dont get it.
@MsSundiva "Texlax"? Never heard that term or technique before but it sounds interesting....Is that when you only apply it twice a year or something and/or you wash it all out *immediately* after applying? (without letting it sit any time?)
As a natural since 95, I'm not built with the patience to maintain more than five inches of it unless it's locked. I've tried growing it out, but regardless of how many ppl say our hair grows at the same rate as other types, mine does not. It takes me two years to get five inches. Seriously. Plus, barbers aren't hassling me why I want to cut all of my hair off (unless most black beauticians, but that's another subject).
There are basic hairstyles for every natural texture of hair weather its kinky or falls straight that don't take long to do, but if you dont like those then of course your going to have to take extra time to manipulate it to get it the way to want. Its important to know part of being natural is simply a matter of finding what works for you and your hair and even that will vary from person to person.
I agree with you that it does all depend on personal preference BUT with each personal preference there comes varied personal issues. And that could be so many things. So i think its fair to say that wearing your hair natural hair isnt an issue. Its our personal preference/lifestyle/day to day routine that causes difficulty. Realize there are ppl who dont mind taking time out to care for their hair [like myself]
i'm glad you made this video because i get tired of people thinking black women wanting to be white over some straight hair and use the same tactic, "brainwashed my media standards", " you're not proud of your race", etc. last time i check i am a black woman. i'm like you, i don't like to spend hours on my hair, especially if it's natural. call it an excuse but to me it's annoying. black women should be allowed to wear what we want on our heads.
Just like losing weight. Uve been condition to eat a certain way it takes time and effort to break the habit. but once u do...life is so much easier. Same with going natural. It takes time because we're not use to our natural hair but once u get ur routine down life is so much easier. I'm not a natural hair nazi( I use to). I always feel as if the time excuse is bull crap. But that's just me.
In general, i think black people are too impatient. If ppl were to do proper research, they would realize that natural hair isn't as time consuming. When I am natural, I wash my hair once a week and deep condition it once a week. The entire process takes me about 3 hrs top. I have thick, very thick long hair. It is all about learning what works well for you and ur hair. I don't think natural hair is as time consuming. I think most people don't want to learn how to manage their hair
I think that this is a different situation. For you, I think it is more of a managing of kinkier texture hair than self-hate since you have locs. Atleast, you are not one of those sistas who must have her hair bone straight to feel beautiful. So, this is a different situation and interesting, you don't like the kinkier texture but have locs.
Good video. And as a natural, I will tell anybody thinking about doing it, if you're not willing to put in at the very least, 2.5 hrs into your hair care routine, like if it really frustrates you like that and makes you crazy, then don't even bother. And I'm not being snarky or nothing like that but nobody should get THAT stressed out or frazzled while trying to take care of their own hair. It is not that serious. By all means, choose the easier option for yourself.
9:39...there's a tool and a system that may allow you to skip the 90 dollars...you may not like this but I find that if I tighten my locs a bit at a time I save money and it' not as frustrating
Good vid with true points it is exactly what people fail to touch on! Starting to grow locks and have that certain type of hair too lol. Sounds like you have sista locs I'm guessing.
There is this girl who work with me,and she is natural. Black people are the main ones calling her her nappy,so this is why i do me. The girl eventually put a perm in her hair,and i know she had been natural for a long time. A guy told me she needs to get a perm,and i rolled my eyes. An older lady told me the same thing about the natural girl at my job. Black people hate nappy hair,so this is why they wear twists outs. They want to look close to being natural curly.
continue.. I notice natural women give more praise to 2a, 3 abc hair types,because they think it looks better. They have to use custereds to get their own hair that way,because it wont go that way without the custard. I don't see nothing wrong with kinky hair,but I know for a fact they watch more of the curly hair videos more often than the 4cdfghIjklmop videos.
@MarquitaD111 Not all black people, it's depends on our generation. Not soo many blacks of our generation hold that attitude, it's mainly the blacks 2 or 3 generations behind us, based on the era they came up in. I heard even the carribean blacks went through that stage too or self hate and hating their hair.
@TheAntoine2012 ,um the guy who said it is younger than me,so this is a real issue. I always wondered why women do the big chop,they get to the akward growing stage,and they put on a wig. I thought you were proud of your kinky hair? I want to see all the stages of your hair growth. I didn't cover up my growth growing up being nautral. I have a relaxer now,but I am not ashamed of my hair. I just do me.
@MarquitaD111 Some, but not all blacks of our generation hold the attitude that having atypical black features in the way to go. I know boys/men have a MAJOR impact on how a woman view herself and even can make her change her whole mindset, so I can understand your point. It's not soo much the black women who are influence others, it's the males influence a woman take to heart.
@The Antoine 2012 , You are right,men are the ones who tell women they are beautiful,and they should love black women"s hair. Most men say they don't care about hair,but subconsciously they do.
@Yahokhanan I agree with you but also self image is very important too (especially with women). People base their self worth or self esteem off how their peers or society at large view them. So even though a person been taught by their parents to love themselves, peer groups or society can have a tremendous affect on their self esteem.
sportin waves is not a relaxer and it supposedly just lays down the hair but still, without it, my waves wouldn't look as tight lol and honestly, if I didn't have waves, my hair would look atrocious or would it? lol
@Prince Noir Americain , people natural hair doesn't look the as good,if they didn't use hair custard,or the wave grease you used. Natural is washing it,and let it air dry the way it is. People won't admit we need extra stuff to tame the hair down. LMAO ! I wear twist outs sometimes,but I don't use hair custereds. Course textures needs hair products I use conditioner,and let it air dry. If you didn't wear the wave grease,you would have a small fro,because the grease holds the wave pattern down.
It's difficult in transition, but sistas are doing it. The Brothas are leaders... They follow each other in sports, and entertainment, but they made the change--and made it fashionable. They put it out there, and now more brothers in all professions are taking the steps. I don't see the same issues for the most part.
I just dyed my hair red,so I know people think I am a sellout. I never really cared what people thought,because I do what I want to do. My hair is thick,& longer than some natural woman. I always had hair,so growing hair wasn't an issue. I have a wavy/course hair type,but I choose to relax my hair. I pay for my hair products with my money,so I do what i want with my hair. I still love being a black women,and I am cute natural,or relaxed. I love your video btw.
Let's at least celebrate the fact that we still hav e black barbers, because perhaps in a not so distant future, we will be getting faded and tapered by Koreans lol
I don't know why we can't just admit that instead of intellectualizing the debate. The question then becomes: how many black women sincerely feel pretty when they look at themselves in the mirror with their natural hair? We can take it one step further by posing the following question: how many black men find natural women attractive? In my view, both black men and black women are responsible. The majority of black men are not instinctively attracted to natural women
leaving aside the afrocentric crazies. Black women are not oblivious to that fact. Psychologically, natural hair in the case of blacks is not associated with beauty, period. This is the problem with which many black women find themselves confronted: learning to view what is socially perceived as ugly as beautiful...looking into the mirror and confronting your true image and learning to accept it, takes a certain courage that most of us don't have
We prefer the image that presents itself to us after having applied "Africa's finest" lol All this rhetoric about free will, personal choices, simple desires, is a load of crap. It's feel good rhetoric for those of us who are in denial
As a black man, i'll be honest with you. When I see a woman with natural hair, it's not that attractive unless it's in dreads and perhaps the reason why I feel that way stems from an unconscious aesthetic conditioning endured during my childhood
You see,women are no different when it comes to natural hair on men. Perhaps their view changes as they get older. Back in High School, I used to relax my hair to get little curls. It was in vogue, you know, the style Genuwine had when he first came out. That's what girls liked, they didn't like afros or beaded naps lol. Sure, they didn't put a gun to my head but you kinda just follow the styles that are fashionable,even if it means using chemical products to arrive at that end
@PrinceNoirAmericain There's a big difference because men don't take things to heart or don't let certain things affect their psyche like women do. The things men say to a woman can really damage her.
@Prince Noir Americain ,LMAO ! I remember the S-curl for men. The black girl got Curly Perms to look like the chick on,"Fresh Prince of Bel Air". I got "beady bee" in the back of my head now,but I only relax every 6 months. I don"t care about my beady beads showing. The guys like to wear 360 waves too. They still want to wavy look,and they use Dax grease. Men don't get as much hardship for using chemical. Someone need to make a video about this too. Men can use chemicals,but women can't. hmm lol
brothers who came to school with natural hair were made fun of by black girls "damn he need to do smething with that bad head of is" is something you might have heard coming out of the mouth of a black girl at my school lol
There's been progress,girlslike some natural styles on men but the point is, many of us do not leave our hair in its natural state
I have waves and sometimes my waves are dipping so hard that I don't even feel like it's natural and perhaps it isn't because I use sportin waves which kinda changes the texture lol bon I gotta run
Girl...YESSS I have transitioning hair, yesterday was supposed to be my wash and treat day. You best believe my hair is dirty today underneath a wig. I just couldn't be bothered to spend the time to do, two shampoos, and a conditioner, AND a deep treatment, then sit under my blow dryer for half and hour, then hot comb/flat iron it. Thats half a day. SMDH
These gentile nations are not gone let you mix with them because you hate yourselves... They will kill a good number of y'all. Ever heard of "Honor Killings".
Trying to pick a "safe white man or woman" like The Persian, Arab, Asian.. Most don't play. The Grandfather will have you murdered. They love themselves more than you do your own people!
If your IR love isn't based on some deep-inner contempt for your own...it may be good, but I doubt it.
These gentile nations not going to allow more of you all to bring your "Slave Programming" into their midst. Your selfishness against your own, and your secret hate of yourselves. Then, you're going to become jealous of your "mixed children" (especially the sistas).
Did you see that Youtube video of the sistas viciously picking-out the hair of her mixed baby? Her friends laughing as the baby screams? The baby must have a Caucasian or Puerto Rican father from the looks of it.
Still, the mother thought that she could wash those genes out! It did not work!
She still had to work at it.
Locs: Don't loc. natural hair does not have to be locs...
Sistas can't afford their babies because they picked a man who hates himself, and her, but wants sex (her body). he got Old School Sellout parents who taught them "Slave, and Self-Hate Principles".
They both hate themselves, and constantly looking to "upgrade' when they cannot afford to do so..
Then, they spend all this money on hair, shoes, rims, and cars, but can't afford a baby.
Sistas will do anything, but they want that strait hair..
Now you see why some brothers are messed-up becaus their mothers minds were colonized-and they love their mommas, and seek to find the perfect momma (who won't have to worry about straightening) in the women of the gentile nations.
Some sistas want Asian, Persian, White men to have the perfect baby with straight hair..
YHWH gone squeeze that hair perm money out of your hands because the economy is in trouble.
You are going to have a choice: Food. Feed those babies. Gas. Rent. Clothing. Water.
No matter what yo parents did or did not know, change. Change like they did not want to change. You're supposed to be better than them. You have more access to education, technology, etc..
Whoever it is not expensive to maintain natural aa hair, must have braids they keep up for 3/4 months.my daughter stopped perking her hair in 03'she had he big chop then she just went to the shop 2x a month for a trim and flat iron it worked for her.the hair went from 4in to about 26in in several yrs.her hair is healthy.and she's happy!
"I am looking forward to figuring out a "solution" for a beautiful quicker style. Good luck in your search"
I'm not searching. Remember in the video I said I found my solution: LOCS. It's not cheap but I'd rather pay the money then spend hours futzing with it.
Most people can't go natural and have to conform to a certain standard of beauty, or white standard of beauty, in order to obtain a job. Most professions require people to conform to a specific professional look in order to get their foot in the door.
However, someone who worked their way up the ladder in their profession have the luxury of going natural or experimenting with their hair, or if they're in business for themselves and don't have to answer to anyone.
"Most people can't go natural and have to conform to a certain standard of beauty, or white standard of beauty, in order to obtain a job."
I don't agree. If you pull your natural hair back in a bun, it doesn't look much different than permed hair. Also there are certain locs that look very professional because they a lot like braids. Bob Marley locs won't fly when applying for most jobs but well groomed locs are usually acceptable.
@ImALilMuch i wasn't trying to shame you, but if that is what you believe, then that is what you must have felt. and whenever your referring to The All Mighty, God Himself, in any circumstances; please remember to use a capital letters for The Creator ... just as you remembered to do for your DD-214. may God bless you andd may you life be filled with more substance than style. it was nice interacting with you Lil' Much ... (i will not be responding)
I'm glad you were able to find a solution that works for you. I truly believe that the reason we as Black women have such a difficult time with our natural hair is because we were removed from our ancient traditions (for lack of a better description) and our hair has been stigmatized for hundreds of years as being anything but positive. I just wish Black women would stop fighting with one another and lift each other up regardless of our individual choices because we've been beat down enough.
@yvessaintlaurent88 You've been called nappy headed ALL YOUR LIFE by black men? That's because black men don't want your black crusty ass. To let you tell it black men adore and worship you and you got the best of the best of black men before you jumped the fence. Now the truth comes out. The truth is black men made fun of your ugly nappy headed ass your entire life and that's why you're such a miserable black bitch today.
I appreciate your honesty. everyones's hair journey has and will be different no matter relaxed or natural. BTW I'm cosmo school because I'd like to specialize in OUR hair as well as makeup artistry. My desire is that ppl especially us sistas embrace OUR beauty & set our own definition any part I can do I will. I think its great that we can be open with our feelings/thoughts wenotetting anywhere by pretnding. thanks 4 sharing
I was prepared to disagree wholeheartedly with this video based on the lengthy disclaimer, but I can't say I disagree with any point you've made here. And this is coming from someone who's never NOT been natural.
So do you have sisterlocks? Whether you do or not, what do you think of them? I think they were designed with eliminating a lot of your complaints in mind.
@UHeardMe1stTime That's wonderful! I can't wait 'till you finally show yourself so that we can see that! Usually I hear people waiting a little bit longer between times to get them retouched that you do, so I'm sure yours look impeccable...
Hi, I understand your views on your video.I agree with you about having locs on 4b/4c hair. I am a licensed cosmetologist more on the natural hair side since I am natural. My videos are on here as well.I was wondering if you read Thank God I'm natural by Chris Tia Donaldson.She has great recipes and styles in her book.There are also a few ladies here who have learned how to maintain their own locs(chesaleigh&bronzegoddess)not sisterlocks though.I hope this helps! :)
@ImALilMuch i dont believe you. but if it is true there are two things wrong with that 1) everyone in the military is being used for corp interests such as haliburton, and not for the interest of the citizens, their families or themselves. the iraq war was a sham from day 1 as well. and 2) if you have been there and done that, and have that attitude towards some of the worst events in history means you are completely desensitized and the military has conditioned you to only care about your check
@ImALilMuch lol laugh now until you piss your pants again during another 9/11 or God forbid, you or a family member become victims of such a tragedy. go ahead and joke about people in Japan or in NO during hurricane Katrina, until its you. go ahead and eat the genetically cloned food in the supermarket and pray you dont die before your parents. ignorance is bliss and jokes should be make about the misfortunes of others. when its your turn, i hope someone takes the time to mention you.
I agree properly taking care of natural hair does take a long time to maintain it. For me it takes about half the day which is aggravating at times but I guess AI just have gotten use to it and have figured out a system for myself. I also go into the shop (about once every 3 - 4 weeks to have someone else look at it and also the expense) and it can take a number of hours there also. I agree this is a topic that is not talked about and if others would listen they would see that ... my 2 cents
I'm not starting up this topic again but I just realized you sent me 2 videos of the chick and just like I thought she was low on good fat and maybe some minerals because I could see it in her skin. She also looked like she could use some protein but that could be just her being low in fat and her slow twitch fibers in the face aren't being fed enough. Anyway just thought I would give logical reason instead of emotions.
BTW, for a start get biosil for your mineral silicon.
You may need to wait a while to see results being that you have dreads and that means your hair is very thick and dense but your new growth you will notice a difference especially if you eat a at least 6 oz. of nuts everyday. Try to mix it up so your body doesn't get used to it.. Your dreads will eventually have a glow to them.
Plus most of us are afraid of how our natural hair looks, that is why we keep using perms and weaves. But i do agree that natural hair takes more time. As far i money, i do not worry about that because i learned how to do my own hair so i do not depend on anyone else, so i don't really have much to say about that because since being natural, i haven't stepped in a salon.
I too and natural and I am not a natural hair nazi, and i hate it when people try to dictate other people hair. However, i am going to have to disagree with this video, most black women use relaxers and weaves because they are use to it, they have been getting perms since childhood and it's all they know. It has nothing to do with natural hair taking time. They just never learned how to take care of it, perms are what most of us are use to and know.
"most black women use relaxers and weaves because they are use to it"
I did not give a reason why most black women use perms. You're disagreeing with something I didn't say. I agree that many black women have never been shown how to properly take care of their hair. MY point is that proper care can be very time consuming & frustrating as well.
@kouayep0 --- I'm sorry but that's not true. Every woman who gets a weave also knows that options for natural hair are available. Every shop that does weevs also does locs, twists, and natural hair care. When a woman has a relaxer or weev it is because she wanted it.
I like people that keep it real like Kouayep. When we perm our hair, we are making a conscious decision/choice, based upon our own desires, wants, needs etc. The fact that when a woman has a relaxer, it's because she "wanted it", is stating the obvious, even if in certain cases, it's simply a matter of aesthetic confirmity. That being said, there's no getting around the fact that the overwhelming majority of black women who consciously alter the natural texture of their hair
@LadyNemesis2007 I think you missed my point, yeah they get it because they want, but they want it because that is all they know. Most black women do not know how to take care of their natural hair.
The biggest point overall is getting to the point where you just accept yourself for who you are, without overanalyzing it. Black women have self esteem issues, from hair to skin color to body, and learning to love and accept these things is going to help us achieve peace in ourselves. So loving your hair is going to help your self-esteem and how you interact in the world around you.
I don't understand why you get such negative comments. You make very valid points that every person with natural hair or who is taking care of a child with natural hair has to think about
"I don't understand why you get such negative comments."
Oh, I expected that. Like I said in the video, this is an uncomfortable subject. People don't like to talk about it PROBABLY because it hits close to home.
Also, I don't doubt that some of the negative comments are coming from women who wearing afros (or boy cuts) & since I said I don't want to wear an afro, they are offended...even though I said I was only talking about what I like FOR ME.
The issue is time and money. Well that is an issue for MOST things in life. You don't want an afro, short do, time-consuming twistout, and don't want to pay someone to do it/by products. The question is: what ARE you willing to do for your hair? It sounds like you have internalized your mother's dislike of haircare and also it sounds like you wanted hair like hers and not your fathers. Conclusion: Short of growing a different grade of hair, time/money will have to play a part in your haircare.
@UHeardMe1stTime Life is all about choices. No matter if its your hair, or the clothes you wear or the job you have. Do what's best for you and your hair. It really doesn't matter what another has to say. My hair is natural and I don't like afros. I do spend a lot of time on it, but that is my choice. It sounds like you're upset because other people are trying to influence you with their opinion. Its only an opinion. Perm it, loc it, cut it off...its your hair and your choice.
"It sounds like you're upset because other people are trying to influence you with their opinion."
No, the upsetness is because I'm talking about my hair. I have been natural 10 years. I made this video to address the natural hair nazis here on YT mostly so this video isn't about anyone trying to influence me. I was just addressing some of the arguments they use to try to shame other black women into going natural.
"Seem" to have issues. No, I do have hair issues. Everybody some kind of issues. I choose to be open about one of my issues & you try to slam me for it so it seems you have issues, too. Coming on a video & attempting to insult a person for no reason isn't normal behavior.
A lot of black women have issues with their hair & we're talking about it on this video & that's why I made. Join the discussion or bounce.
all i did was ask a question ... on a public forum ... where asking questions and posting comments are encouraged ... and you respond by getting defensive? are you just combative by nature?
@UHeardMe1stTime now you have shown your combative personality. i feel sorry for you, as you must get into a lot of debates or arguments in your everyday life. not to mention you must have days where you cry a lone to yourself due to your hostility issues. its also possible you may feel as if no one loves you and you werent shown enough love as a child by your mother since she wasnt interested in doing your hair or lacked the patience to deal with you. good luck, i wish you the best.
Remember those starving kids you brought up before? They're dying & you're STILL here talking to me. Get off the computer & go help the kids. You're wasting time. They're dying.
Mom has a very thin head of hair but it's still beautiful because it's curly? Haha what a fucking joke! Gtfoh, better to have a full thick kinky head of hair with a non-receding hair line than damn near alopecia from all the sodium hydroxide applying which basically erodes your damn scalp overtime & the extraneous weave wearing eating away at your hair line. There is a mental sickness running rampant i tell you!
thx for sharing. people should feel free to love what they were born with, and free to abstain from judging others.
libertarienne 1 day ago
I have natural hair, and you're right. It does take too long. My solution? I see the hairdresser every other week. :D I also work in a professional environment. Funky styles are not an option and afros tangle my hair. Therefore, they don't interest me.
I don't have a solution for the money angle. I work too many hours to do my hair at home, and it costs me $70 per month for styling, which is very reasonable for two salon visits.
NoelleNaturally 1 week ago
It's just hair... Sigh, maybe I'm too young to understand.
mizzycrown 3 weeks ago
im,Somali I dont need to worry about hair
barkhad08 1 month ago
I've struggled with my hair all of my life. Tried natural. Tried relaxers. Too proud to do weaves. I flat ironed it for a while. I loved the results, but it ruined my hair in the long run, so had to quit that.
A few months ago I got a straight perm. Best thing I've ever done. Doing my hair is so easy and effortless now. No condescending natural nazi is going to convince me to go back. It's my hair, my life, my time, my effort, my sweat and tears. And I am sick and tired of fighting my hair.
SupaAmi 2 months ago
Does having natural hair requires more maintenance than having chemical or relaxed hair?
TheKennesha 2 months ago
@TheKennesha
Depends on how you wear your hair. If you have a fade, maintenance is easy. If you have long, natural hair, then yes it takes more time & effort.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 months ago
This has been flagged as spam show
wow I respect the honesty in this video : )
you are right..MANY(most) natural hair
vloggers dont keep it 100 when it comes
to discussing their issues or trials and
tribulations when dealing with their hair.
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I so agree with you. I've been natural for 3 years and was relaxed for 40 and no matter WHAT I choose, keeping this hair healthy takes time and money. The only way we differ is I don't want locs but I'm constantly being pushed towards them as the holy grail for this hair. It's not a natural vs relaxed issue, it's THIS hair type and the responsibility it requires. Oops! Did I say hair type? Sorry. *eyeroll* Thank you for throwing yourself on this grenade. I hear you. <3
JustSomeLady 3 months ago
They go on and on about all the products they bought (MONEY) and all the time (...TIME) it took them to use the products. They talk about trial and error. They give detailed and long lists of ingredients (MONEY) and how to acquire the hair style/look (TIME). Must they state at the beginning of each and every video that all the natural or homemade or preservative filled ingredients will take up one's TIME and MONEY?! Personal upkeep is an investment that must be made...or don't and look busted.
cherrychuckles 4 months ago
(Please read in conjunction with post below)... Okay, so are you complaining about grooming yourself? No matter what, unless you depend on the rain and wind to wash and style your hair, you are going to have to spend some time and some money. Wash and go hair doesn't look good on anyone (any woman) no matter their race. If it does, then that person still had to take the time to get it to that place. I watch a variety of those vbloggers and they are not deliberately misleading people.
cherrychuckles 4 months ago
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cherrychuckles 4 months ago
Hello! I listened to the post one time then skipped around the second time after reading some comments. At 6:48 is when you brought up your first "thing" but I believe it was a subtext: moral issue vs choice (time). What I gained from listening to the post is that you believe the TWO THINGS people want to ignore about about natural hair is the TIME it takes to maintain said hair and the MONEY involved in maintaining it (both dependant on the desired upkeep/look).
cherrychuckles 4 months ago
so is this venting? or what. im confused.
msmcnair 5 months ago
@msmcnair
Confused about what?
UHeardMe1stTime 5 months ago
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naturallyblackful 6 months ago
thank you finally someone said it!
evileyez504 6 months ago
but if you wore natural styles with your hair out it wouldn't be hard to do. You're describing the time it takes to take african curly hair to a state completely unnatural to it. But wearing a style that works with the hair takes 20 minutes at the most.
Canyadigit2 8 months ago
wow... the beginning statements you made about ur hair being different then your mothers was on point... the rest of my family has softer hair, i had softer hair as a baby but it broke and I got like litterally lambs wool... this combined with the fact that i was tenderheaded made my youthful hair care a painfull and tedious experience... i had a perm ... but in college i cut it out and oppted for the Nappy locks and a head covering ... but ive cut them and now ive got a sqaure hair cut
purpleelephants67 8 months ago
wow... the beginning statements you made about ur hair being different then your mothers was on point... the rest of my family has softer hair, i had softer hair as a baby but it broke and I got like litterally lambs wool... this combined with the fact that i was tenderheaded made my youthful hair care a painfull and tedious experience... i had a perm ... but in college i cut it out and oppted for the Nappy locks and a head covering ... but ive cut them and now ive got a sqaure hair
purpleelephants67 8 months ago
I see what you mean, I think the way you put things is really funny...the way you word it makes me laugh...
QueenLoreal 9 months ago
you brung it in this video..my friends have perms because they cant stand the time it takes working with natural hair sometimes... also permed blk hair is not the same texture as a ww hair for all the ignorant folks out here
CerebralMadness 9 months ago
About time we agree on something
testizel 10 months ago
One more thing: when my hair was relaxed, I always had to "do" it. Even a simple ponytail wasn't simple. I can literally put a nice scarf and earrings on and go if I want to. And don't even get me started about my arch nemesis: the curling iron! As my hair got longer (bra strap), It became difficult to "do" my hair...which is what you are condemned to with relaxed hair IMHO.
yvonnia123 10 months ago
One more thing: when my hair was relaxed, I always had to "do" it. Even a simple ponytail wasn't simple. I can literally put a nice scarf and earrings on and go if I want to. And don't even get me started about my arch nemesis: the curling iron! As my hair got longer (bra strap), It became difficult to "do" my hair...which is what you are condemned to with relaxed hair IMHO.
yvonnia123 10 months ago
I'm a natural and I LUUUV it! The protective styles serve 3 purposes for me: (1) keeps my hands out of my hair so there is less breakage, (2) Gives me a polished look for work--which is in a corporate setting btw, and (3) Allows me to be a little lazy as I only need to tie my hair at night and untie in the morning...then I'm out the door! Natural hair is soooo easy plus its really unique! Ppl can tell I'm having fun with my hair :)
yvonnia123 10 months ago
funky locs lmao
skyyeblue101 10 months ago
I found this vid 2 b true. I appreciate being natural, but I hate it when ppl judge others, just let people do what they want! I myself am natural and I also don't have the patience to style my hair for long periods of time. Luckily I'm from a stereotypical west african family with a lot of women who know how to do cornrows so i just get small ones that can last 2-3 weeks at a time.
akatsukichik112 11 months ago
5min, -__- ha yeah right
localnorganic 11 months ago
i dont like wearing high heels either... dont go well with my legs ... + i'm tall enuff
jadenwoods11 11 months ago
Amen, Elle! It's funny that as a black person you can't do what the hell you want with your own hair. The whole "natural movement" is based on peer pressure. Most recent naturals are "natural" because of that Chris Rock movie, right? Now you see them trying to make sense of an afro and pretending that 3-hour comb outs aren't so bad. Himay10nence is the only one being FO-REAL about it and you saw how fast people turned on her. But they left her alone when she said, "F U, this shit is hard." lol
WhereYaBoss 11 months ago
@WhereYaBoss If you view going natural as a "movement" then that's what you are going to say. With that thinking, straightening & relaxing were also movements.
Also, I'm not sure what any of Chris Rock's movies have to do with going natural but I doubt seriously anyone went natural because of a movie. If you are referring to his documentary "Good Hair", there was nothing in it that encouraged women to go natural. He was simply exposing the black hair industry.
Lovingthenaturalme 11 months ago
@Lovingthenaturalme If he was simply exposing the black hair industry and natural is not a movement, then why didn't he cover all the natural hair groupies out there? Anyway. Most of the recent naturals went natural after watching his movie and hearing the words "creamy crack" and seeing a soda can melt in pure sodium hydroxide and eat through chicken flesh. It was essentially a scare tactic. I lot of people feel for it.
WhereYaBoss 11 months ago
Wow! That's the first word that came to mind when I started this video. I almost cut it off and chalked it up to the rantings of another conspiracy theorist.
To the creator of the video, I'm sure you have a mind of your own and you know how to use it so there is absolutely NO reason you should get upset over someone else's opinion. You sound very angry and bitter.
To everyone, your hair is a part of you. You did not learn to care for your body overnight so why would you expect that when...
Lovingthenaturalme 11 months ago
@Lovingthenaturalme ...making the change from being relaxed to being natural? There may be a little time involved in the beginning as you learn what your hair likes and dislikes but that time is very short. Once you learn to provide your hair with what it needs, it will not take any longer to care for then locs, sisterlocs, relaxed, hair, etc. If you have time to care for your body, you have time to take care of your hair...no matter how you wear it. My natural 4A kinky/coily/curly hair takes...
Lovingthenaturalme 11 months ago
@Lovingthenaturalme ...no more time to care for than when I did my retouches every 4 weeks. Either way, I was always willing to take the time to care for my hair because it is a part of me
While there will always be a few exceptions, your natural haired counterparts are not all out to make non-naturals feel guilty about their personal choices. If you are really happy with your hair, would you have made a 15 minute video with such strong opinions and wordings?
Lovingthenaturalme 11 months ago
@Lovingthenaturalme Just accept that everyone is not on the natural kick. I used to like the natural hair movement until I started seeing all the unkempt mops walking around. Then I said, "uh-uh, hold up". If natural hair means, don't do a damn thing to your hair than I was no longer for it. Now, there are some people who DO style their natural hair, but it does not come close to the amount of people I see walking around looking like mulatto children with white mothers.
WhereYaBoss 11 months ago
@WhereYaBoss I accepted long ago that everyone is not on the natural "kick" which I why I NEVER tell/recommend/suggest other people to go natural unless they ask my opinion or repeatedly complain about being unhappy with the state of their hair.
I have also come across naturals who are unsure of how to care for their hair but the "mulatto children" comment was highly offensive.
Lovingthenaturalme 11 months ago
@Lovingthenaturalme Sorry, If I offended YOU with the "mulatto children with white mothers" comment but that's the best way to describe what I'M seeing. I wasn't talking about mulatto children, per se. I was talking about how some of them go around with uncombed mops because their mothers don't know how to care for "their" hair. And, now that's what I'm seeing on an adult level by women who don't know what to do with their natural hair. At least the mulatto children have a good excuse.
WhereYaBoss 11 months ago
Well I never relaxed my hair...I always rocked the wet and wavy look. I have long and thin hair not thick at all! So when I did try the natural it never worked out lol. Aw how I would love to rock a kinky afro lol
AmuseTheGreat 11 months ago
I love my wigs. It gives me what I want ...... LONG HAIR. My locs are two inches under my wig. Once my locs get LONG I'll ditch the wigs. But it going to take YEARS for my locs to get down my back!!!! I just think I look ugly with short hair. Halle Berry can do it- but I aint no Halle. For me, having long hair makes me look more beautiful. texture does not matter to me, but its really hard to find wigs that are KINKY AND LONG. (like 24 inches long). If nappy hair grew long quickly, id do it.
LadyNemesis2007 11 months ago
@LadyNemesis2007 I can't pull off short hair either...I did try in 2005-2007 but it was a bob not a "Halle" short. I liked the change of style at first, but then I realized longer hair was more flattering so I stopped maintain the bob & grew it back.
BValchan 11 months ago
I actually understand what you're saying, and your points about time and money are very valid. At the same time, I can see why some women would be opposed or give you a side eye for saying you don't like afros because well, IMO, an afro isn't a hairstyle (unless it's picked out). It's different from locs to me b/c it's how my hair looks when I don't "do" anything to it besides add conditioner to protect it from the elements. I get mad when I spend a lot of time on my hair as well.
denimpixie 11 months ago
This is why I wear wigs.
ImNotYourFriend212 11 months ago
First off I am Natural and I personally don't think natural hair Nazi's are that big of and issue you have to realize that with every belief or movement there is gonna be extremist think about Vegans, Christianity, Muslims, Conspiracy Theorist, BLACK WOMAN BASHER they all have one thing in common THE NEED TO BE RIGHT and they should be ignored.
MissConcreteRose 11 months ago
@MissConcreteRose are you saying that there are christian and muslim extremists, or that christians and muslims are extremists automatically? b/c within the context if that list, it sounds like the latter...
mcamurray 11 months ago
@mcamurray I specifically said with every group there will be extremist then I began to list them. So basically that means I'm saying there are Christians and Muslims that are Extremist along with other examples besides those 2 no I was not saying all Christians and Muslims I,m kinda confused how you took it that way when I again said "with every belief or movement there is gonna be extremist "
MissConcreteRose 11 months ago
@MissConcreteRose i ask a simple question, i really don't know what all the hostility is for.
most would say that vegans, conspiracy theorists, and "black woman bashers" are extremists in and of themselves, so throwing christians and muslims into that group would make it seem as though they were aslo automatically extremists...
i didn't realize it was so offensive to ask questions for clarification these days. my apologies...
mcamurray 11 months ago
@mcamurray I'm sorry if you took my words as hostile because they were not. I would assume that name calling, cursing and all caps would constitutes as being hostile on a comment and I did neither in my statement. I can agree that Black Woman Basher are extremist as a whole but not all vegans and conspiracy theorist are extremist along with Muslims, Christians and even Athiest but there are people within in the group just like with natural hair which will force there ideas on you.
MissConcreteRose 11 months ago
Hi @BValchan ! Texlax is when you relax your hair to the point that you still retain some of your original texture. Done most often by cutting down on sugg processing time. There are qte a few texlax beauties here on YT you may want to view as well. Take care
BlackButterfly707 11 months ago
@BlackButterfly707 Thanks! I'll look into that
BValchan 11 months ago
This video is exactly what a lot of naturals need to hear. Just because you don't want to wear a particular style doesn't mean you are not proud of your hair. Plus its none of their business.. I have been natural now 2 years. I totally understand the not wanting to take 5 hours on you hair it can literally be exhausting. So power too you, girl. LIke I say no one has to deal with your hair but you!
blkchynadoll7 11 months ago 2
great video, I am relaxed or texlaxed I guess you can say, I relax my curl pattern just enough for managebility, I still would have to blow dry and flat iron my hair If I wanted it to be "silky straight" This is more of a convience, not in anyway "self hate"! I get so tired of the naturals claiming that. we are women and if i choose to change my hair like so many other races of women do, why am I condemned for it? I dont get it.
MsSundiva 11 months ago
@MsSundiva "Texlax"? Never heard that term or technique before but it sounds interesting....Is that when you only apply it twice a year or something and/or you wash it all out *immediately* after applying? (without letting it sit any time?)
BValchan 11 months ago
As a natural since 95, I'm not built with the patience to maintain more than five inches of it unless it's locked. I've tried growing it out, but regardless of how many ppl say our hair grows at the same rate as other types, mine does not. It takes me two years to get five inches. Seriously. Plus, barbers aren't hassling me why I want to cut all of my hair off (unless most black beauticians, but that's another subject).
Thanks for the realness.
MamaMudiwa 11 months ago
Shave it all off. Saves you money. Saves you time.
OneSummerSky 11 months ago
There are basic hairstyles for every natural texture of hair weather its kinky or falls straight that don't take long to do, but if you dont like those then of course your going to have to take extra time to manipulate it to get it the way to want. Its important to know part of being natural is simply a matter of finding what works for you and your hair and even that will vary from person to person.
Nitra813 11 months ago
I agree with you that it does all depend on personal preference BUT with each personal preference there comes varied personal issues. And that could be so many things. So i think its fair to say that wearing your hair natural hair isnt an issue. Its our personal preference/lifestyle/day to day routine that causes difficulty. Realize there are ppl who dont mind taking time out to care for their hair [like myself]
Nitra813 11 months ago
i'm glad you made this video because i get tired of people thinking black women wanting to be white over some straight hair and use the same tactic, "brainwashed my media standards", " you're not proud of your race", etc. last time i check i am a black woman. i'm like you, i don't like to spend hours on my hair, especially if it's natural. call it an excuse but to me it's annoying. black women should be allowed to wear what we want on our heads.
bigvinamac 11 months ago 18
good vid
andsanp 11 months ago
Just like losing weight. Uve been condition to eat a certain way it takes time and effort to break the habit. but once u do...life is so much easier. Same with going natural. It takes time because we're not use to our natural hair but once u get ur routine down life is so much easier. I'm not a natural hair nazi( I use to). I always feel as if the time excuse is bull crap. But that's just me.
charchar301 11 months ago
In general, i think black people are too impatient. If ppl were to do proper research, they would realize that natural hair isn't as time consuming. When I am natural, I wash my hair once a week and deep condition it once a week. The entire process takes me about 3 hrs top. I have thick, very thick long hair. It is all about learning what works well for you and ur hair. I don't think natural hair is as time consuming. I think most people don't want to learn how to manage their hair
charchar301 11 months ago
I think that this is a different situation. For you, I think it is more of a managing of kinkier texture hair than self-hate since you have locs. Atleast, you are not one of those sistas who must have her hair bone straight to feel beautiful. So, this is a different situation and interesting, you don't like the kinkier texture but have locs.
RudeAwakening11 11 months ago
Good video. And as a natural, I will tell anybody thinking about doing it, if you're not willing to put in at the very least, 2.5 hrs into your hair care routine, like if it really frustrates you like that and makes you crazy, then don't even bother. And I'm not being snarky or nothing like that but nobody should get THAT stressed out or frazzled while trying to take care of their own hair. It is not that serious. By all means, choose the easier option for yourself.
talknerdytome1 11 months ago 7
@UHeardMe1stTime
9:39...there's a tool and a system that may allow you to skip the 90 dollars...you may not like this but I find that if I tighten my locs a bit at a time I save money and it' not as frustrating
nappylocs com
Yolandra101 11 months ago
Can't wait to see your hair. Great video. :)
flyfifer24 11 months ago
Good vid with true points it is exactly what people fail to touch on! Starting to grow locks and have that certain type of hair too lol. Sounds like you have sista locs I'm guessing.
fa1a2ha 11 months ago
There is this girl who work with me,and she is natural. Black people are the main ones calling her her nappy,so this is why i do me. The girl eventually put a perm in her hair,and i know she had been natural for a long time. A guy told me she needs to get a perm,and i rolled my eyes. An older lady told me the same thing about the natural girl at my job. Black people hate nappy hair,so this is why they wear twists outs. They want to look close to being natural curly.
MarquitaD111 11 months ago 3
continue.. I notice natural women give more praise to 2a, 3 abc hair types,because they think it looks better. They have to use custereds to get their own hair that way,because it wont go that way without the custard. I don't see nothing wrong with kinky hair,but I know for a fact they watch more of the curly hair videos more often than the 4cdfghIjklmop videos.
MarquitaD111 11 months ago 2
@MarquitaD111 Not all black people, it's depends on our generation. Not soo many blacks of our generation hold that attitude, it's mainly the blacks 2 or 3 generations behind us, based on the era they came up in. I heard even the carribean blacks went through that stage too or self hate and hating their hair.
TheAntoine2012 11 months ago
@TheAntoine2012 ,um the guy who said it is younger than me,so this is a real issue. I always wondered why women do the big chop,they get to the akward growing stage,and they put on a wig. I thought you were proud of your kinky hair? I want to see all the stages of your hair growth. I didn't cover up my growth growing up being nautral. I have a relaxer now,but I am not ashamed of my hair. I just do me.
MarquitaD111 11 months ago
@MarquitaD111 Some, but not all blacks of our generation hold the attitude that having atypical black features in the way to go. I know boys/men have a MAJOR impact on how a woman view herself and even can make her change her whole mindset, so I can understand your point. It's not soo much the black women who are influence others, it's the males influence a woman take to heart.
TheAntoine2012 11 months ago
@The Antoine 2012 , You are right,men are the ones who tell women they are beautiful,and they should love black women"s hair. Most men say they don't care about hair,but subconsciously they do.
MarquitaD111 11 months ago
@TheAntoine2012
Not so fast..
It start in the 1st 5 years.
If a baby that age is seeking a mate, then something is way wrong..
It's what they see, and how you as a parent talk when you are talking to another adult.
On the cellphone, who you respect, ad your on biases..
The reason most folk do what they do wrong is because of their parents...period. (..and what and who they allow to teach their children.
The reason using "n_gga" became cool... Parents of the 70s, 80s, and before...
Yahokhanan 11 months ago
@Yahokhanan I agree with you but also self image is very important too (especially with women). People base their self worth or self esteem off how their peers or society at large view them. So even though a person been taught by their parents to love themselves, peer groups or society can have a tremendous affect on their self esteem.
TheAntoine2012 11 months ago
@MarquitaD111 I know i have grammatical errors in my comment , but you understand what i'm saying.
TheAntoine2012 11 months ago
@The Antoine 2012 , i don't pay attention to grammatical errors,because I have some myself. ; )
I am not shallow,or think I know everything. I understand you quite fine.
MarquitaD111 11 months ago
@MarquitaD111
sportin waves is not a relaxer and it supposedly just lays down the hair but still, without it, my waves wouldn't look as tight lol and honestly, if I didn't have waves, my hair would look atrocious or would it? lol
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@Prince Noir Americain , people natural hair doesn't look the as good,if they didn't use hair custard,or the wave grease you used. Natural is washing it,and let it air dry the way it is. People won't admit we need extra stuff to tame the hair down. LMAO ! I wear twist outs sometimes,but I don't use hair custereds. Course textures needs hair products I use conditioner,and let it air dry. If you didn't wear the wave grease,you would have a small fro,because the grease holds the wave pattern down.
MarquitaD111 11 months ago
@MarquitaD111
It's difficult in transition, but sistas are doing it. The Brothas are leaders... They follow each other in sports, and entertainment, but they made the change--and made it fashionable. They put it out there, and now more brothers in all professions are taking the steps. I don't see the same issues for the most part.
Yahokhanan 11 months ago
@Prince Noir Americain ,I think it does,but it is subtle.
MarquitaD111 11 months ago
I just dyed my hair red,so I know people think I am a sellout. I never really cared what people thought,because I do what I want to do. My hair is thick,& longer than some natural woman. I always had hair,so growing hair wasn't an issue. I have a wavy/course hair type,but I choose to relax my hair. I pay for my hair products with my money,so I do what i want with my hair. I still love being a black women,and I am cute natural,or relaxed. I love your video btw.
MarquitaD111 11 months ago
"THE PRAYING OVER AND MAKING LOVE TO----- YOUR HAIR..."
LMAO!
I almost fell out my chair on that one...lol
LadyNemesis2007 11 months ago
@macdemonday1
Let's at least celebrate the fact that we still hav e black barbers, because perhaps in a not so distant future, we will be getting faded and tapered by Koreans lol
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
I love Uheardme!
LadyNemesis2007 11 months ago 4
@LadyNemesis2007
I don't know why we can't just admit that instead of intellectualizing the debate. The question then becomes: how many black women sincerely feel pretty when they look at themselves in the mirror with their natural hair? We can take it one step further by posing the following question: how many black men find natural women attractive? In my view, both black men and black women are responsible. The majority of black men are not instinctively attracted to natural women
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@LadyNemesis2007
leaving aside the afrocentric crazies. Black women are not oblivious to that fact. Psychologically, natural hair in the case of blacks is not associated with beauty, period. This is the problem with which many black women find themselves confronted: learning to view what is socially perceived as ugly as beautiful...looking into the mirror and confronting your true image and learning to accept it, takes a certain courage that most of us don't have
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@LadyNemesis2007
We prefer the image that presents itself to us after having applied "Africa's finest" lol All this rhetoric about free will, personal choices, simple desires, is a load of crap. It's feel good rhetoric for those of us who are in denial
As a black man, i'll be honest with you. When I see a woman with natural hair, it's not that attractive unless it's in dreads and perhaps the reason why I feel that way stems from an unconscious aesthetic conditioning endured during my childhood
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@LadyNemesis2007
This is probably why,until a certain age, I preferred white women. There was something about long, non nappy hair, that enticed me lol
However, today,I prefer natural hair, even if i'm still attracted to the "Africa's finest" type chicks, in other words, women with relaxed hair lol
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@PrinceNoirAmericain ,LMAO ! Atleast you are being truthful.
MarquitaD111 11 months ago
@MarquitaD111
lol well as the elders say "the truth shall set you free" .
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@MarquitaD111
You see,women are no different when it comes to natural hair on men. Perhaps their view changes as they get older. Back in High School, I used to relax my hair to get little curls. It was in vogue, you know, the style Genuwine had when he first came out. That's what girls liked, they didn't like afros or beaded naps lol. Sure, they didn't put a gun to my head but you kinda just follow the styles that are fashionable,even if it means using chemical products to arrive at that end
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@PrinceNoirAmericain There's a big difference because men don't take things to heart or don't let certain things affect their psyche like women do. The things men say to a woman can really damage her.
TheAntoine2012 11 months ago
@Prince Noir Americain ,LMAO ! I remember the S-curl for men. The black girl got Curly Perms to look like the chick on,"Fresh Prince of Bel Air". I got "beady bee" in the back of my head now,but I only relax every 6 months. I don"t care about my beady beads showing. The guys like to wear 360 waves too. They still want to wavy look,and they use Dax grease. Men don't get as much hardship for using chemical. Someone need to make a video about this too. Men can use chemicals,but women can't. hmm lol
MarquitaD111 11 months ago
@MarquitaD111
Yeah some dudes perm their hair to have instant waves. I got them by brushing my hair like a maniac lol
I gotta run but my question to you is: does sportin waves and similar products really alter our natural hair texture?
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@MarquitaD111
brothers who came to school with natural hair were made fun of by black girls "damn he need to do smething with that bad head of is" is something you might have heard coming out of the mouth of a black girl at my school lol
There's been progress,girlslike some natural styles on men but the point is, many of us do not leave our hair in its natural state
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@MarquitaD111
I have waves and sometimes my waves are dipping so hard that I don't even feel like it's natural and perhaps it isn't because I use sportin waves which kinda changes the texture lol bon I gotta run
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@PrinceNoirAmericain ,I like the wave look on men.
MarquitaD111 11 months ago
Girl...YESSS I have transitioning hair, yesterday was supposed to be my wash and treat day. You best believe my hair is dirty today underneath a wig. I just couldn't be bothered to spend the time to do, two shampoos, and a conditioner, AND a deep treatment, then sit under my blow dryer for half and hour, then hot comb/flat iron it. Thats half a day. SMDH
JaimieCris 11 months ago
"The massaging, the praying over, the making love to"..... HAHAHAHAHAHA!! So true :-/
greenmean28 11 months ago
These gentile nations are not gone let you mix with them because you hate yourselves... They will kill a good number of y'all. Ever heard of "Honor Killings".
Trying to pick a "safe white man or woman" like The Persian, Arab, Asian.. Most don't play. The Grandfather will have you murdered. They love themselves more than you do your own people!
If your IR love isn't based on some deep-inner contempt for your own...it may be good, but I doubt it.
Yahokhanan 11 months ago
@Yahokhanan
These gentile nations not going to allow more of you all to bring your "Slave Programming" into their midst. Your selfishness against your own, and your secret hate of yourselves. Then, you're going to become jealous of your "mixed children" (especially the sistas).
Yahokhanan 11 months ago
@Yahokhanan
Did you see that Youtube video of the sistas viciously picking-out the hair of her mixed baby? Her friends laughing as the baby screams? The baby must have a Caucasian or Puerto Rican father from the looks of it.
Still, the mother thought that she could wash those genes out! It did not work!
She still had to work at it.
Locs: Don't loc. natural hair does not have to be locs...
Yahokhanan 11 months ago
Sistas can't afford their babies because they picked a man who hates himself, and her, but wants sex (her body). he got Old School Sellout parents who taught them "Slave, and Self-Hate Principles".
They both hate themselves, and constantly looking to "upgrade' when they cannot afford to do so..
Then, they spend all this money on hair, shoes, rims, and cars, but can't afford a baby.
Yahokhanan 11 months ago
By the way:
Stop killing those babies! They may love themselves, and their hair more than you.
Yahokhanan 11 months ago
And there it is..
Sistas will do anything, but they want that strait hair..
Now you see why some brothers are messed-up becaus their mothers minds were colonized-and they love their mommas, and seek to find the perfect momma (who won't have to worry about straightening) in the women of the gentile nations.
Some sistas want Asian, Persian, White men to have the perfect baby with straight hair..
Yahokhanan 11 months ago
YHWH gone squeeze that hair perm money out of your hands because the economy is in trouble.
You are going to have a choice: Food. Feed those babies. Gas. Rent. Clothing. Water.
No matter what yo parents did or did not know, change. Change like they did not want to change. You're supposed to be better than them. You have more access to education, technology, etc..
Yahokhanan 11 months ago
Sorry I'm trying to get used to this iPad
universalconnections 11 months ago
Whoever it is not expensive to maintain natural aa hair, must have braids they keep up for 3/4 months.my daughter stopped perking her hair in 03'she had he big chop then she just went to the shop 2x a month for a trim and flat iron it worked for her.the hair went from 4in to about 26in in several yrs.her hair is healthy.and she's happy!
universalconnections 11 months ago
@rnmechel
"I am looking forward to figuring out a "solution" for a beautiful quicker style. Good luck in your search"
I'm not searching. Remember in the video I said I found my solution: LOCS. It's not cheap but I'd rather pay the money then spend hours futzing with it.
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago
Most people can't go natural and have to conform to a certain standard of beauty, or white standard of beauty, in order to obtain a job. Most professions require people to conform to a specific professional look in order to get their foot in the door.
However, someone who worked their way up the ladder in their profession have the luxury of going natural or experimenting with their hair, or if they're in business for themselves and don't have to answer to anyone.
TheAntoine2012 11 months ago
@TheAntoine2012
"Most people can't go natural and have to conform to a certain standard of beauty, or white standard of beauty, in order to obtain a job."
I don't agree. If you pull your natural hair back in a bun, it doesn't look much different than permed hair. Also there are certain locs that look very professional because they a lot like braids. Bob Marley locs won't fly when applying for most jobs but well groomed locs are usually acceptable.
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago 2
@UHeardMe1stTime Oh! I didn't know that. But I'm a male.
TheAntoine2012 11 months ago
Well spoken : )..i would love to see what you look like
VIRGOLEGACY 11 months ago
@ImALilMuch i wasn't trying to shame you, but if that is what you believe, then that is what you must have felt. and whenever your referring to The All Mighty, God Himself, in any circumstances; please remember to use a capital letters for The Creator ... just as you remembered to do for your DD-214. may God bless you andd may you life be filled with more substance than style. it was nice interacting with you Lil' Much ... (i will not be responding)
dnboland 11 months ago
@ uheardme1sttime do you have sisterlocks?
stillconfused84 11 months ago
@stillconfused84
I confess. I have sisterlocks.
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago
I'm glad you were able to find a solution that works for you. I truly believe that the reason we as Black women have such a difficult time with our natural hair is because we were removed from our ancient traditions (for lack of a better description) and our hair has been stigmatized for hundreds of years as being anything but positive. I just wish Black women would stop fighting with one another and lift each other up regardless of our individual choices because we've been beat down enough.
SeptembersFyre 11 months ago
@yvessaintlaurent88 You've been called nappy headed ALL YOUR LIFE by black men? That's because black men don't want your black crusty ass. To let you tell it black men adore and worship you and you got the best of the best of black men before you jumped the fence. Now the truth comes out. The truth is black men made fun of your ugly nappy headed ass your entire life and that's why you're such a miserable black bitch today.
NOBODY WANTS YOU, BLACK BITCH!
SimpBusters 11 months ago
@SimpBusters Damn bruh, are you white? I went to your page and it seems you're obsessed with the chick, lol.
TheAntoine2012 11 months ago
I appreciate your honesty. everyones's hair journey has and will be different no matter relaxed or natural. BTW I'm cosmo school because I'd like to specialize in OUR hair as well as makeup artistry. My desire is that ppl especially us sistas embrace OUR beauty & set our own definition any part I can do I will. I think its great that we can be open with our feelings/thoughts wenotetting anywhere by pretnding. thanks 4 sharing
PEACE
Yaa
StyleYaa 11 months ago
I was prepared to disagree wholeheartedly with this video based on the lengthy disclaimer, but I can't say I disagree with any point you've made here. And this is coming from someone who's never NOT been natural.
So do you have sisterlocks? Whether you do or not, what do you think of them? I think they were designed with eliminating a lot of your complaints in mind.
VioletDrow 11 months ago
@VioletDrow
Oh I love my sisterlocks! Best thing ever! If I have little girls, they're getting them, too.
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime That's wonderful! I can't wait 'till you finally show yourself so that we can see that! Usually I hear people waiting a little bit longer between times to get them retouched that you do, so I'm sure yours look impeccable...
VioletDrow 11 months ago
Hi, I understand your views on your video.I agree with you about having locs on 4b/4c hair. I am a licensed cosmetologist more on the natural hair side since I am natural. My videos are on here as well.I was wondering if you read Thank God I'm natural by Chris Tia Donaldson.She has great recipes and styles in her book.There are also a few ladies here who have learned how to maintain their own locs(chesaleigh&bronzegoddess)not sisterlocks though.I hope this helps! :)
suitelady90 11 months ago
There is no solution black hair sucks you win!
keeperbooth 11 months ago
@ImALilMuch i dont believe you. but if it is true there are two things wrong with that 1) everyone in the military is being used for corp interests such as haliburton, and not for the interest of the citizens, their families or themselves. the iraq war was a sham from day 1 as well. and 2) if you have been there and done that, and have that attitude towards some of the worst events in history means you are completely desensitized and the military has conditioned you to only care about your check
dnboland 11 months ago
@ImALilMuch lol laugh now until you piss your pants again during another 9/11 or God forbid, you or a family member become victims of such a tragedy. go ahead and joke about people in Japan or in NO during hurricane Katrina, until its you. go ahead and eat the genetically cloned food in the supermarket and pray you dont die before your parents. ignorance is bliss and jokes should be make about the misfortunes of others. when its your turn, i hope someone takes the time to mention you.
dnboland 11 months ago
I agree properly taking care of natural hair does take a long time to maintain it. For me it takes about half the day which is aggravating at times but I guess AI just have gotten use to it and have figured out a system for myself. I also go into the shop (about once every 3 - 4 weeks to have someone else look at it and also the expense) and it can take a number of hours there also. I agree this is a topic that is not talked about and if others would listen they would see that ... my 2 cents
MsAsheeraA 11 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime
I'm not starting up this topic again but I just realized you sent me 2 videos of the chick and just like I thought she was low on good fat and maybe some minerals because I could see it in her skin. She also looked like she could use some protein but that could be just her being low in fat and her slow twitch fibers in the face aren't being fed enough. Anyway just thought I would give logical reason instead of emotions.
BTW, for a start get biosil for your mineral silicon.
bubblehashman 11 months ago
@bubblehashman
You may need to wait a while to see results being that you have dreads and that means your hair is very thick and dense but your new growth you will notice a difference especially if you eat a at least 6 oz. of nuts everyday. Try to mix it up so your body doesn't get used to it.. Your dreads will eventually have a glow to them.
bubblehashman 11 months ago
@bubblehashman
I didn't send you any videos.
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime
My fault. It was the links on this one. I didn't see it because I didn't press the show more button. Anyway that's who I'm talking about.
bubblehashman 11 months ago
Plus most of us are afraid of how our natural hair looks, that is why we keep using perms and weaves. But i do agree that natural hair takes more time. As far i money, i do not worry about that because i learned how to do my own hair so i do not depend on anyone else, so i don't really have much to say about that because since being natural, i haven't stepped in a salon.
kouayep0 11 months ago
I too and natural and I am not a natural hair nazi, and i hate it when people try to dictate other people hair. However, i am going to have to disagree with this video, most black women use relaxers and weaves because they are use to it, they have been getting perms since childhood and it's all they know. It has nothing to do with natural hair taking time. They just never learned how to take care of it, perms are what most of us are use to and know.
kouayep0 11 months ago
@kouayep0
"most black women use relaxers and weaves because they are use to it"
I did not give a reason why most black women use perms. You're disagreeing with something I didn't say. I agree that many black women have never been shown how to properly take care of their hair. MY point is that proper care can be very time consuming & frustrating as well.
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago
@kouayep0 --- I'm sorry but that's not true. Every woman who gets a weave also knows that options for natural hair are available. Every shop that does weevs also does locs, twists, and natural hair care. When a woman has a relaxer or weev it is because she wanted it.
LadyNemesis2007 11 months ago
@LadyNemesis2007
I like people that keep it real like Kouayep. When we perm our hair, we are making a conscious decision/choice, based upon our own desires, wants, needs etc. The fact that when a woman has a relaxer, it's because she "wanted it", is stating the obvious, even if in certain cases, it's simply a matter of aesthetic confirmity. That being said, there's no getting around the fact that the overwhelming majority of black women who consciously alter the natural texture of their hair
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@LadyNemesis2007
do it because they sincerely feel prettier with relaxed hair as opposed to natural hair
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@LadyNemesis2007 I think you missed my point, yeah they get it because they want, but they want it because that is all they know. Most black women do not know how to take care of their natural hair.
kouayep0 11 months ago
@kouayep0
wow content de te voir:-)
PrinceNoirAmericain 11 months ago
@PrinceNoirAmericain ca fait longtemps, je vais bien.
kouayep0 11 months ago
The biggest point overall is getting to the point where you just accept yourself for who you are, without overanalyzing it. Black women have self esteem issues, from hair to skin color to body, and learning to love and accept these things is going to help us achieve peace in ourselves. So loving your hair is going to help your self-esteem and how you interact in the world around you.
folakeh 11 months ago
loved it.
ImLivingJoyfully 11 months ago
I don't understand why you get such negative comments. You make very valid points that every person with natural hair or who is taking care of a child with natural hair has to think about
80kaylee08 11 months ago
@80kaylee08
"I don't understand why you get such negative comments."
Oh, I expected that. Like I said in the video, this is an uncomfortable subject. People don't like to talk about it PROBABLY because it hits close to home.
Also, I don't doubt that some of the negative comments are coming from women who wearing afros (or boy cuts) & since I said I don't want to wear an afro, they are offended...even though I said I was only talking about what I like FOR ME.
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago 3
I'm taking the quote that starts at 13:15 It's true. Everything you say is true. I might do a video on this myself expressing what I've heard.
Naturallydelish 11 months ago
The issue is time and money. Well that is an issue for MOST things in life. You don't want an afro, short do, time-consuming twistout, and don't want to pay someone to do it/by products. The question is: what ARE you willing to do for your hair? It sounds like you have internalized your mother's dislike of haircare and also it sounds like you wanted hair like hers and not your fathers. Conclusion: Short of growing a different grade of hair, time/money will have to play a part in your haircare.
icyomoteyo 11 months ago 7
@icyomoteyo
"it sounds like you wanted hair like hers"
I said that in the video.
"it sounds like you wanted hair like hers and not your fathers"
Sure did. Remember she told me as a kid that she wished my hair was like hers. PLUS, she didn't have to spend hours on her hair.
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime Life is all about choices. No matter if its your hair, or the clothes you wear or the job you have. Do what's best for you and your hair. It really doesn't matter what another has to say. My hair is natural and I don't like afros. I do spend a lot of time on it, but that is my choice. It sounds like you're upset because other people are trying to influence you with their opinion. Its only an opinion. Perm it, loc it, cut it off...its your hair and your choice.
UnrulyIndividual 11 months ago
@UnrulyIndividual
"It sounds like you're upset because other people are trying to influence you with their opinion."
No, the upsetness is because I'm talking about my hair. I have been natural 10 years. I made this video to address the natural hair nazis here on YT mostly so this video isn't about anyone trying to influence me. I was just addressing some of the arguments they use to try to shame other black women into going natural.
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago
why did u make this video... u seem to have real issues...
no1stunnindiva 11 months ago
@no1stunnindiva
" u seem to have real issues"
"Seem" to have issues. No, I do have hair issues. Everybody some kind of issues. I choose to be open about one of my issues & you try to slam me for it so it seems you have issues, too. Coming on a video & attempting to insult a person for no reason isn't normal behavior.
A lot of black women have issues with their hair & we're talking about it on this video & that's why I made. Join the discussion or bounce.
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago 2
Whoever came up with the term 'natural nazi' should be put in a gas chamber (joking) sort of, and no i didn't 'dislike' I actually like this video.
ladyinthewood 11 months ago
all i did was ask a question ... on a public forum ... where asking questions and posting comments are encouraged ... and you respond by getting defensive? are you just combative by nature?
dnboland 11 months ago
@dnboland
You posted a comment. I answered it. What are you complaining about?
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago 2
@UHeardMe1stTime now you have shown your combative personality. i feel sorry for you, as you must get into a lot of debates or arguments in your everyday life. not to mention you must have days where you cry a lone to yourself due to your hostility issues. its also possible you may feel as if no one loves you and you werent shown enough love as a child by your mother since she wasnt interested in doing your hair or lacked the patience to deal with you. good luck, i wish you the best.
dnboland 11 months ago
@dnboland
Remember those starving kids you brought up before? They're dying & you're STILL here talking to me. Get off the computer & go help the kids. You're wasting time. They're dying.
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago 2
Mom has a very thin head of hair but it's still beautiful because it's curly? Haha what a fucking joke! Gtfoh, better to have a full thick kinky head of hair with a non-receding hair line than damn near alopecia from all the sodium hydroxide applying which basically erodes your damn scalp overtime & the extraneous weave wearing eating away at your hair line. There is a mental sickness running rampant i tell you!
ifeani 11 months ago
@ifeani
Yes, her hair is beautiful. She gets compliments on it all the time. Am I not suppose to say that it's beautiful just because it's curly?
UHeardMe1stTime 11 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime ahh yes I'm sure it's absolutely beautiful with patches of her scalp peaking through! SO cyuuute!
ifeani 11 months ago