I'm In A Sexless Marriage... What Happened?

[CuteCatFaith]

OMG, talk should never happen in bed! Bed is for sex or sleeping! Egad. I am Pennsy Dutch. This is so, so obvious, people.

[literoad]

If all else fails and your spouse is a cold fish and divorce is out, find a special person but don't hide it. Tell your spouse you love them but you need love too. Marriage vows are not juso a promise to not have sex with anyone else but also to ensure that you ARE having sex with eachother. If your spouse is cheating you out of love it's selfish for them to expect you to be celibate too. Think of your new friend as a marital surrogate. Be compassionate, honest and open but never hide anything!

[MrOptimumHealth]

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[maigono2010]

if you are a guy and this happens to you..run! get a divorce!

[AGoodBaldheadedMan]

@maigono2010 you will be running to get a second job my friend. as the saying goes if you stay in a marriage your wife may or may not screw you but she definitely will in divorce court.

[vaina001]

Crap sister, if a married couple does'nt have sex it because they no longer want each other.

[pukejunkie]

me and my wife are down to once a month for sex once every two months for oral sex its really hard no pun intended

[cultofedward]

Its pure and simple selfish selfserving women

[jfsttp]

sleep naked? Both of us have been sleeping naked from the beginning.....trust me it doesn't help.

[YiuTeub]

I wanted sex more in my prime so when she hits hers I do not want to hear all the bitching and whining that I dont find her attractive anymore when the simple fact is that I gave up on asking and trying. If anyone is curious how to become Asexual the answer is get married.

[TugOwar]

@YiuTeub Yeah I got sick of asking and being turned down repeatedly, eventually I developed resentment toward her and now I don't even want her at all.

[YiuTeub]

I wanted sex more in my prime so when she hits hers I do not want to hear all the bitching and whining that I dont find her attractive anymore when the simple fact is that I gave up on asking and trying. If anyone is curious how to become Asexual the answer is get married.

[geekforlifevandc]

the - rapist

[superoriginalname]

why does dan look like such a pussy?

[GZ1LH2]

Ok it starts with women using sex to control the guy (Im upset so no sex, why dont you stay home, if you go i will be mad= no sex etc) So the Guy has needs so the logical conter is to Masturbate or cheat shrinking the womens control over him. Womens counter is to with hold sex longer until he begs. His move is to rely on other options more, the results is NO SEX.

[brooklynlulu]

This sounds like a bunch of useless advice. When you don't want to fuck, ya just don't. Marriage is a rare success. Many men do not realize that when they have the problem, it can be low hormone level's. If they don't tell their doc, then they are not going to look for it, it's not just mental stuff and silly ideas' of going to bed early, silly.

[WHollabaugh]

There's no excuse for the selfishness required to allow the person you apparently love to go through the most difficult pain in their life alone. Realize that sexless relationships cause extraordinary pain to the person who's constantly asking themselves what they did wrong or how they've changed to become so unattractive to the one person in their life that's supposed to be there for them.

It really is simply unacceptable behavior when you boil away all the excuses and justifications.

[genericmeatunit]

@Tephladon - well, if you're set on this course, I wish you the best of luck. But let me leave you with this piece of advice, for what it's worth: just remember, every single human being who has ever interacted with another .... has DIED.

Yes, every one. Unlike smoking and juggling spent uranium rods bare-handed, human-to-human interaction is always and completely 100% fatal.

Sure, some people survived for eighty years after marriage.. but in the end, dead. There's no surviving interaction.

[WHollabaugh]

@genericmeatunit Don't worry, I seriously doubt that you have anything to worry about in that regard.

[genericmeatunit]

The thing that bugs me most about this is not the lack of sex - it's the lack of my wife's ability to understand a most basic concept: guys like sex; more than that - guys, and girls, need sex - it's part of our biology.

Studies have shown that having it has great physical and psychological benefits, and not having enough creates adverse psychological and physical effects, like depression.

And yet, my wife laughs at this. And wonders why I'm despondent.

[genericmeatunit]

@Tephladon - it's worse than that. Marriage is just the tip of the sham-iceberg. After over decade of my own marriage, I've come to realise the core problem is human interaction - ANY human interaction. Whenever two people attempt to communicate or interact in any way, it always leads to trouble. Sure, it may be fun at first (like an affair), it may take years (like a marriage) but sooner or later.... *BAM* there's trouble.

Do as I'm doing. Become a hermit. It's the only way to live. Your way.

[genericmeatunit]

My wife thinks two or three times a year is too much. I have to wait another six to eight months before I can tell if my marriage is sexless... ;)

[nEWwORLDhOARDER]

@genericmeatunit That's not a wife, over on the Eperience Project that's called a "refuser."

[William82oct]

I've never been married but if I was to get into a marriage that was sexless then you better believe that I'm gonna go and fuck other women. You have to satisfy each other's needs.

[arshdeep125]

Laying together naked with your life partner, Even though, Stress does count in to this...But Honestly...Sleeping naked is the best way for soulmates to love each other more..the bond increases ^_^

[cyjhong]

how about when partners love each other but they didnt have sex. bec. the guy r bucy and tired always. how to deal with that?

[nEWwORLDhOARDER]

@cyjhong That's not love, that bullshit.

[nEWwORLDhOARDER]

@cyjhong That's not love, that bullshit.

[nEWwORLDhOARDER]

@cyjhong That's not love, that bullshit.

[nEWwORLDhOARDER]

@cyjhong That's not love, that bullsh_t.

[nEWwORLDhOARDER]

@cyjhong That's not love, that's b u l l s h i t .

[nEWwORLDhOARDER]

@cyjhong That's not love, that's b u l l s h i t .

[nEWwORLDhOARDER]

@cyjhong That's not love!

[Mus1cGurl]

oxycotton would be better, lol

[MrROCKNBLUES79]

in my case, my wife has become cold and angry, for no reason. but if she dose not make love with me soon, there will be a problem, due to this im starting to become a flirt, and enjoy attention of other ladies. it becomes a matter of if a woman puts her husband in the dog house, then soon she will find him in the cat house.

[AnimeRaider9493]

um never get married it only benefits a women

[comebigarestayathome]

there is some truth to that statement, but if you can find the right mate

[Dynaflash48]

if you are in a sexless marriage, see if it's medical/psychological...if it's not that, leave. end of story

[shivsakti666]

Hi guys tell me please, my partner and I have sex only 2 or 3 times in a month, can I go after interesting girls? I tried to tell her and she seems like the same and no proper response from her side...she makes me angry..and make me go for a fuck outside..is it OK to go for a shot out side the relationship??? I am worried!

[Sonamy87]

Break up with her if you really feell so strongly...you'd be cheating if you just slept with some girl and that would be plain retarded. -.-

[SimoBruno]

The "Sexless Marriage thing"

Its just so well open...I have sex with my wife once a fortnight, I'm happy. Are you bothered çause I aint bothered. I is also 40.

[SimoBruno]

The comment, sleep naked with your partner, made me smile, I think I actually slept in the same bed with my wife about a month after we got married. That was 10 years ago.

[dhg4983]

I would say if both partners are ok with being in a sexless marriage, then more power to them. I know it is beyond belief for the mainstream to believe, but some people dont like or enjoy sex. They dont need to be cured, they dont need therapy. Me and my wife just arent really interested in sex outside of having kids (we have 2, planning one more). We both are busy and its just not a priority.

[PicklesRTasty]

Doesn't Oxytocin also promote Labour?

[DChatc]

What's wrong with a sexless marriage? Obvioussly you're relationship is built upon a strong-enough foundation that sex is only perytheral and decorative, correct?

If anything sex is dangerous to relationships.

[darklavender71]

You have a right to be bitter!  Not getting sex when you want some hurts your very soul! No sex has ruined my married life.

[hallnoats4ever]

Most women are horny as hell when they are single. They love to have frequent sex with boyfriends who don't commit or care much. But suggest to a woman that she have sex more than a few times a year with her husband, who rubs her feet every day, does more than half the housework and child care, and who pays most of the bills, and she becomes furious! Yes, I am a bitter victim of the marriage scam, but I am not an exception. THE MAJORITY of my married guy friends are in the same situation.

[genericmeatunit]

@hallnoats4ever - that's it in a nutshell. Mine, likewise, was like that with previous boyfriends, but on marrying me... forget it. And the reason? Our relationship was "built on love", not physicality. And, likewise, I was a kind and caring husband who, in the early years, massaged her every day, tried to give her everything she wanted, etc, etc.

It reminds me of those MasterCard commercials:

"expecting to get sex after marriage, only to be denied. Priceless!"

[WHollabaugh]

@hallnoats4ever I feel your pain brother.

[hallnoats4ever]

@WHollabaugh well, i left in Sep. and if i can leave anymone can leave

[WHollabaugh]

@hallnoats4ever

I do not want to leave, I just want things to be good again.

My children don't deserve this, I don't deserve this, but I can't just leave her. I still love her with all her flaws, which is the problem.

She can't understand that, I must not really know her, or I must be manipulating her or deluding myself into thinking I'm a good guy, etc. All turn offs.

In truth, I'm the only one that knows who she it down to her core(dirty laundry included)and still respects and loves her.

[hallnoats4ever]

@WHollabaugh well, just stay then. Marriage doen't have to be based on love or sex, i can also be a partnership to get though life, and have kids. best thing is to READ! read book on improving communication, love making, child rearing, even how to argue. The way I got more sex is I bought a book on g-spot stimulation with toys, she read it as did I and I laied her down and gave her the best orgasim ever, she is really into sex now, ever night actually.

[WHollabaugh]

@hallnoats4ever

That's the plan. I've been reading about what I can do to fix this for 3 years, I've approached the situation form 6 different methods suggested by Men's Health Magazine, a multitude of relationship and sex books and even daytime TV. I signed up for college for my BA in psychology over this.

I've broken up with over this her 3 times now, but I can't stay away because I still love her.

I'll fix this yet though... I mean she's a mom, she can't stay a child forever... right?

[hallnoats4ever]

@WHollabaugh right

[WHollabaugh]

@hallnoats4ever Oh and uh,

Sex is never a good idea to base a relationship, especially a marriage, on but as just about everyone with a college education will agree, it's vital to all the other aspects of the relationship.

Sex is like a daily vitamin need. You can survive without it, but nobody should, you'll never be as healthy physically or psychologically without it, you'll snap like a twig when things get rough and you'll never ever reach self-actualization.

[ia2ca1984]

My wife started losing her libido in her late 30s and we haven't had sex in six and a half years (I'm 51 now) and I am to the point now where I don't want to have sex with her anyway. She's not happy unless she has something about which to overreact and bitch about and that's hardly attractive. Believe me, I've lived your life.

[hallnoats4ever]

@ia2ca1984 I've got 5 words for you my friend "Sue Johanson Super Head Honcho" feels like the real thing. Soak it in warm water and oh my god "boom goes the dynamite"

[CuteCatFaith]

@hallnoats4ever I'm a female of Germanic blood, and I need sex daily. I have had three husbands who lost interest very quickly. I'm really easy to please. If I get it daily, it takes like five minutes. I was a sex industry worker and it was great for me. A lot of Aryan women are this way. I am in my 50s now and need it even more, and it's even more intense.

[darklavender71]

I love and enjoy sex but my husband just has no interest in sex. Every 6-8 weeks maybe on his terms only.

[hallnoats4ever]

during sex i olny got myself oof for three years and now after reading books on love making my wife is not into sex no matter what i do, is she scared for life?

[123perrin]

sex once a year????? OMFG ur kidding me..

[p1gta1p]

I'm a man and I wouldn't mind a sexless marriage.

[ursaucie]

Then you must not like the sex you were getting from your partner. If it isn't any good why are you going to want it.

[p1gta1p]

I don't want kids.

[ursaucie]

Then get yourself taken care of or talk to her about that and figure out a plan for birth control. I have an IUD and they are very safe and you only have to have it replaced every 5 years. I did that without telling my husband because I was 40 and he was 30 and I already had 4 kids and he wanted more. I was not having anymore and told him that several times so I did what I felt I needed to do. If you get the birth contol or have yourself taken care of then sex could start getting better.

[ferociouspokemachine]

answer: go to vegas.

[ManaWill]

Well i agree with the woman at yelow. It might be as Trauma or ilness or as psycholgical. How ever you cant forget that his to begin is a man, he acts as to hi developed him self. It might be he dosnt feel a need for it the love of his life is around, or he can feel depressed because of work, or have some other problemes and not feeling like talking. Not all man are like Bam-bam-bam and you know what,where,how. Some try to be the hard type. I'm the man till end or so. Well thats my thouts :)

[ryderipper]

i didnt hav secs for about...... 15 and 2 months

[solodude45]

fag

[ryderipper]

oh.... i'm 15....

[500019579]

No way this is happening to me... EVER.

[SensualNurse]

I'm not married, but my bf and I sleep naked, but still sexless... I need it at least 2 or 3 times a week - everyday would be great! but we only have sex like once every 2-3 weeks. I feel unwanted and hurt but everything else is great. I don't know how to tell him about this.

[CarMoves]

2-3weeks for a guy -- this is way abnormal.

If it was always like this, it probably won't change.

If it is new, then figure out what happened around that time -- also could another woman be the reason?

[apocalypse105]

just dont marrie then you can kiss secks good by

just stay single and you can depent self when you have sex easy

[assad4ever]

Right on! Nothing spells and end to sex than marriage. Why do so many married couples avoid sex? One word: Monogamy. Sex with the same person,over and over, and over...

[apocalypse105]

whi do you married than damn fuckers

[Brilyantee]

Thats the reason, they say spice up your life!

[Turandil]

No, no, no. Sex is not overrated at all. I dare say it's pretty perfectly rated. People who dislike it, haven't had good sex.

Oh and 14 year old kid remember two things. 14 is young, and young people lie a lot about sex.(Actually, many do anyhow.)

And sleeping naked is awesome.

[themuben]

im 13 (almost 14) basicy, i dont wanna have sex yet and i dont really lie about it and all that and sleeping naked ftw!

[AidSta666]

i hate sleeping naked,

[apocalypse105]

yeah me to i cant sleap

[Hamish356]

haha, Dan and Jenn are both drinking water...the therapist chick in yellow is drinking cola

[njwes06]

u can have certain operations to help have sex even with mrkh. ur only 14 when ur hormones kick in u'll find out why sex is a big part of life

[bundleHastings]

What  you are not taking into account it maybe one or both are simply BORED sexually with the other. You seem quite ignorant to me, by not even discussion the possibility. You talk about people needing to feel safe, well inside marriage they feel sex has become TOO safe and they need a little excitement!

[sarahthemaniac]

Sex is stupid.

I'm 14 and a lot of my classmates are wasting themselves on it. I have MRKH and I'll never be able to have sex. I don't see why people make such a big deal about it, you can have a good, strong relationship without sex.

[dgtl]

14 is too young anyway.

sex is a big deal in relationships because its about more than just in-and-out.

[beurksman]

sarah: 0

god: 1

[fakinpwned]

i feel really bad for you. i hope you can find someone that can appreciate your personality enough to not get physcial

[HungerKnight]

Sex is not stupid.

its like the meaning of life

(kinda) to live and reproduce

its pretty big tho

but 14 is too young

[davehiggod]

My perspective has changed by watching Hidden Camera Footage of a Chick who claims that she's non-sexual, but then, she's caught doing all sorts of weird, kinky stuff with herself.

[99minerkc]

2 years now without sex and I'm liking it!! Sex is sooooooo over rated!! If I go the rest of my life without sex it's fine with me!

[censor48]

try prostitutes, the man says?

most are crack heads, ugly or have a drug addiction and hiv problem.

no thanks.

I AM ON STIKE. I WILL NOT ACCEPT ANY MORE PUSSY, LET THEM BEG

[TheFutureMrs01]

Dan and jen what are you drinking? I always notice you are drinking blue colored liquad.

[shady965]

not solo , alone share don't count !! this is really good idea and awesome advice (WHEN I GROW UP) ^^

[lilradford]

mm, I do believe he said "and long showers don't count" not "alone share don't count"... either way, I agree: Naked it is!!

[shady965]

thnx for clearing my confusion ! sorry about my English !I'm trying to emprove it. but still graet Advice !

[CloudValentineskunk]

i think ure english is pretty damn good and im giving you a thumbs up for it :) (if i havent used it up already)

[shady965]

thank you , that's really sweat of you ! ^.^

[censor48]

i have not had sex in 6 years. i have no wife and i am sick of looking. it is like not being able to find a job after a while you stop looking. a lot of woman who turned me down are still single when i checked back later.

woman should take care of their bodies more. lose the weight. join a gym and build your body

[Forthewin0oo]

Have you traveled anywhere like Europe or Russia, the girls really take care of themselves there, really hot.

[torchkit]

Try prostitutes. They'll fix you right up.

[elvaliente]

I think Dan is buzzed here lol.

[tlndofa]

i miss morning treats...

[typevx]

my friend is in a sexless marriage.. how do peeps expectvthe other to stay faithful w/o sex?

[lavinder11]

Who would oppose to sleeping naked?

[DanAndJenn]

Right on, golden advice there!

[relicutelorna]

jen is so pretty

[NabilRU]

Yeah, that'll never happen to me.

[idgirl97]

sexless marriage just doesn't sound like a helluva lot of fun. 0_o

[halo2994]

It's not

[Imaginativeone]

halo2994 is right. It's not.

[ondjima]

my wife remembers our honeymoon as 'not alot of sex' but i remember it as LOTS of sex. her expectations are sex 7-10 times a week, but i'm not always in the mood. usually its the guy who wants more sex but in my case its her.

[xtremchris87]

You r a lucky man

[Kcirdlab]

What's wrong with you?

[griebel11]

dan do you want me to take my in my ass?

[nickpkes]

first view/comment/rating + good vid