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  • Needed this tonight!:) thanks

  • I have had a relationship for 8 years&an additional last 2 broken up from her but for some reason I keep on in the back of my mind/heart that she will change or she needs me.But after the couple days or even a nighy out to dinner. It hurts & I would miss her. This advice is on point & "the list"-"read the list" your emphasist on remembering "the list" is crucial. Hoo-Rahhh..lol

    You are on a roll I think that is 3 for 3 on loving your vids!!!

    You Rock with talent,beauty,style,morals..Go­od stuff

  • Sorry but that friends thing in the beginning, screw friends. One thing I found about friends for both girls and guys is that they can have their own motives. They can be very selfish and catty. They themselves can destroy a great thing because they don't want you to have better than what they have. There was 3 relationships I could of had but didn't because of "friends" once because of my friends and twice because of her friends.

  • @michelovando31

    Since you are without sin, and assume someone you don’t even know is guilty of your so called purity values, why not cast the first stone.

    On second thought, maybe since you live in a glass house, and everyone can see right through you, I wouldn’t advice you to be throwing stones at anyone. They may be returned to you.

    Look in the glass mirror, and examine your own heart. You may learn to do the right thing, and be more kind to others.

  • @noahsstarship maybe i say the wrong things to the wrong person, after looking at more videos she does sound like a great person to be with lol. and by the way i dont have a mirror sorry

  • you are so beautiful! you kinda remind me of Elizabeth Taylor (may she rest in peace). your hair kinda looks like it... except better. haha i'm sorry, I had to say that. :)

  • I was worried until you got to number 3. At least I'm only 2/3 a loser boyfriend and not full loser boyfriend.

  • You do not even know how much you just helped me. I was so lost and confused and distressed over whether or not to stay with my boyfriend. I felt like I should break up wit him but kept reminding myself how much I liked him in the beginning. Even though my heart is breaking, I know without a shadow of a doubt that I need to end this and soon. I haven't been happy for a long time and I can't wait to be happy again. Thanks again <3

  • Has anyone said you favor Mira Sorvino?

  • @VvmagancommercevV

    i don't think there's anyone left that hasn't been mentioned.

  • thank you, i needed that

  • Me.... never broke up with a girl . Never get passed the crying stage . Then ....I come full circle and fall in love ..........then they break up with me ! So ........ am I challange to conquered ............. only to be dismissed once I surrender ? Just curiuos.

  • @frankg3rd

    It's normal to get broken up with. I'd say if it's happened 5 times in a row you might need to check things out.

  • Oh, even better...I just had to add this I am so joyful now, he was so furious and suspected I was cheating. I wasn't, but through searching through my stuff, he discovered my fetish for Japanese guys with glasses :D

    FAREWELL XUXANDO WN!!! XUPALO KN MAYO TONY!!! XUPALO CON FNG MAYO FEO MOMON MOFO! xD

    I feel so free finally :D I can't wait to enjoy my fetish!!! :D I will be able to study, go out, do whatever.......date a hott Japanese man :D Also, I am happy for my beautiful pigeon! Thank u!

  • @serenecelene

    GOOD FOR YOU WOOHOOOO :D hugs!

  • you are very pretty!!!

    I just dumped my a**hole boyfriend two days ago...and already feel better. :D

    He was verbally and emotionally abusive and PUNCHED my loving pet pigeon while I was gone! I told him to gtfo and to take his loser ass back to China hahahaha!

    He was so furious he started crying. I hate his guts and the best part is: I'm leaving him for a Japanese guy with a thin face! He hates Japanese, and he hates his round face!

  • @brute360

    I don't think it's easy for anyone, I agree! I think you should let her know you feel overly pressured here - her insecurity resulting from her own actions are NOT your responsibility!

  • @brute360

    I do not think Im "the best". This is stuff learned the hard way from lots of folks, including myself.

  • "Who are they fighting for?"

  • I'm a nice guy & i'm still single, dont understand the reason why? Woman always fall for the assholes or the bad guys who dump them after using them. Why dont they fall for guys like me who is decent, educated and well mannered. Dejected over this, i lost all the happiness and i dont even remember the last time i smiled. May be im destined to be single forever, I pity my life seriously.

  • @predatorinstincts A lot of Women, for some reason, love/like the bad-boy attitude. I guess they think it is "cool". I think this is lame & pathetic and I it confuses me as well. You are not destined for "being single" forever. Forever is a strong word, besides...god will return before forever ever happens so don't worry about it. Things tend to take care of themselves...if you work at them.

  • @predatorinstincts dont give up mate just u have to show u are strong secure and full of life with women,they need to be intrigued,surprised and wowed,charm and personality ,i've been true your faze but now im back to shine :)) dont give up on your good qualities dow ,cos those will make her fall in love with you ;)

  • @predatorinstincts Not all girls are like that. Maybe you are interested in the wrong girls? Try going for girls who are educated and like some of the same things? Bad guys are pathetic and no one wants to be used. I guess I just got lucky falling for a nice guy but I don't get why women like bad boys either. :/

  • i have found to look over thouse things that bug me i know it is big of me to do so cause no one can be what i would like them to be cause i might not be that way to them it is good to love then to judge cause i too have things that dont please others but life gose on and if you realy do love someone then you will over look it

  • i just wanna give you a BIG hug for all of your advices. they have helped me a lot!! ur awesome that's all. xoxo

  • I just discovered you, I love your advice!!! you seem like a very pleasant person :)

  • @shonyshoshony

    aw thank you :D

  • i broke up with my boyfriend to go out with a guy who was a pirate in a school play with me

  • I keep getting these rashes from dead girls I "date." Is there a cream, or like a salve maybe, that I can apply to the area in question to clear up the redness and get rid of the worm eggs in my hair too?

  • omg, thank you, ill try it and see how it plays out

  • "if they are mainly just interested in their selves, KEEP that in mind......."

  • awww...you're great! Thanks! 

  • i wisshh

  • you are so gorgeous! This video hit a soft spot in me.

  • I really don't understand how jobless men can get a girlfriend and keep them. it is something that is very hard for me to comprehend.

  • aww.. he would always fight for me, but he had bad behavior, and nobody liked him.

  • Amazing addvise!

    do you think you may know how to make my best friend brake up with her "louser" boyfriend? thanks youverry muchh<3

  • First of i just want to say that you are very beautifull!!! Im not going through really good times  at the moment so i found your advice really helpful........ thank you soooo soooo much. i wish i could ask you for advice i know it would really help me...

  • I love your advice...I'm currenting dating the typical loser & your words really helped me. BTW...I love your hair brown!!

  • i did a list b4 and it helped me a lot .. deep inside i know hat he doesnt care for me but i dont know y i still confess myself that he still loves me. i wanna get rid of him sooner

  • This is a wonderful video. One of the most important reasons to break off a dead-end relationship is to give yourself the self-love that comes with freedom. That self-love can lead to someone who really appreciates you.

    Thanks again for your wonderful work and channel

    Dr. Diana

  • muahhhhhhhhhh**

    ur angel :)

  • 1. This was one of the biggest factors in my decision to break it off with him.

    2. Many annoying behaviours I could not tolerate for very long, let alone the rest of my life.

    3. So true. Mostly himself.

    Ultimately, we weren't a match and I wish he would leave me alone but so far it seems he is going to drag this on and on and try and drag my name through the mud. Advice anyone?

  • any tips for helping a good friend break up with a abusive boyfriend? anything would help.

  • Does she want to leave him?

  • The heart side of her says to stay but her mind tells her to leave.

  • good advice for men, in reverse

  • Wow, I wish I could find someone as intelligent and insightful as you. (Not to mention pretty). God bless and you're in my thoughts

  • I like you Isabela. To have a friend like you would be...purifying.

  • I've enjoyed your videos, today and plan to watch more.  I've subscribed, favorited and shared....and I LOVE your dark, brown hair. It makes you eyes pop! JMHO.

  • I could care less about this topic, however, having seen another of your videos I'd like to weigh in and say that you look much better with dark hair.

    You have an ambiguously ethnic look about you and, IMO, the blond hair clashed with it.

  • Nah the blonde was great very bombshell pretty

  • lol ambiguously ethnic look, brother you have got to be kidding. I look how I look and God gave me blonde hair. Come on now. What I look like does not change my background and I was supposed to look how I do for a reason.

  • Whatever, I'm just calling 'em like I see 'em. You have a wide nose, fullish lips, dark eyes. You look like you're mixed with... something. Moreover, the blond hair makes you look old.

  • For one who claims to be so much smarter than absurdly ignorant adults, you expose your own ignorance. Be careful how you judge and insult others whom you know very little.

    Your superiority complex has blinded you. See the good in others. You are revealing to the world your foolish understanding of what life is really all about.

    With every act, you leave an attitudinal imprint. Your true intentions are expressed by invisible forces. To heal your mind, free all, surrender all, love all.

  • I AM mixed, I'm like the United Nations in one woman. I'm Black, Red, and almost everything else. And if I look old, you must be livin in a preschool, son!

  • @Hoopermazing Why would being a mix be a bad thing? Are you one of those morons, who still believe there is such a thing as a pure, undiluted race? Genetically, no such thing exists, except perhaps in a few isolated valleys in Papua-New Guinea, where no influx of new genes has occurred for thousands of years. Also, Ysabella is obviously beautiful with hair or without, which must mean you are either visually impaired, stupid or or very uncertain of your supposed heterosexual identity.

  • Whatever your "ethnic" makeup, you are still very attractive! The dark hair I prefer better but the blonde was/is pretty, too! In this vid, you remind me of Liz Taylor a lot.

  • @ysabellabravetalk So you're a NATURAL blonde? I had no idea. Either way, blonde or brunette, you are adorable, Ysabella.

  • @southpaw2k1

    thanks!

  • Iwas with a girl that i truly love but she thought i was to short so i had to let it go but i am focusing on my education and staying focus on those who truly do appreciates me for me. I am 5 ft9 but thats my height sorry:)

  • Some of us like men that aren't too tall :D

  • @williambrown007 Thats isn't short at all. I'm 5 ft on the dot. Although I am a girl but still I'd trade heights anyday.

  • um... Number 3 is excellent advice... um.. it should be painted on the sides of buildings.

  • Hey it's ok, you didn't offend "US", it's great to talk about relationships and express feelings and ect. don't worry about it =)

  • It's sad how she suggests to critisize everything about your significant other. It makes us sad that there is always something that our PARTNER DOESN'T LIKE ABOUT US.

  • I'm sorry if I offended.. all of you.

  • lol.  love your deadpan wit.

  • Oh my good what great advice. Im in a middle of moving from my husband and this is great and its going to help me :-D Thank you

  • I'm going to use this video to keep myself in check. I'm with an amazing woman, we're taking a HUGE step right now, and I don't want to grow complacent in my relationship over time~

  • Stay strong

  • Great video there and I have to say it works as well!

  • Right on! Now I know where my ex-boyfriend got the "List " idea he wrote to me when he dumped me!!! Now I have to do the same.

  • god you're amazing... wow, you are so right. the list... YES! wonderful. wonderful. wonderful advice. if all you have left is love, you don't really have anything at all.. so right.

  • You should be a counselor :]

  • wooow. very beautiful. I love her face. <3

  • this is like amazing advice!

  • Stop being a loser that was words I heard 15 years ago from a woman I really loved. I remember a fear in her eyes because we were doing not very well and she thought she chose a wrong man. But things changed my work started to have a demand an now I am definitely not a loser. Think she is. I know get rid of a loser is a natural instinct of women. But please don't call men losers and HAVE A COURAGE TO BELIEVE IN A MAN YOU ONCE CHOSE.

  • I think you look MORE beautiful with dark hair (it might be because I am Latin), but I would encourage you to show your natural hair color.

    great vids!

  • you have a great laugh :)

  • i don't like people who kick puppies either :(

  • Such good advice.

    I had a therapist who suggested the list.

    It worked wonders.

    But your father is a wise man.

    "Who are they fighting for?"

    I have never thought of that before.

    You seem like you truly care for people.

    As cheesy as this sounds, you made me feel less alone. Thank you dear.

  • It is my honor thank you so much!

  • You look nicer with blonde hair.

  • really good advice

  • nice background music too!

  • THanks for the pratical tips and comedy!

  • Boo this video is rong ysabella im a loser boy friend what if my girl friend were to see this

    she would bump me im a loser all i got is her!!!!

  • Then stop being a loser, dude!

  • OMG~ This guy needs attention! There!! You have attention! Got it? gooood....

  • hahaha...you're a WUSS.

  • I had a loser girl friend... and all the things on list thing applied... although it was hard, I so learned from it became stronger throught it... and a better person came along who is so kind and is so cool and Godly. I realized I deserved much better... "gone" and "suddenly" by Tobymac are great songs for this... they will also help with this issue... If the person doesnt treat you as well as you deserve get rid of him/her cuz theres someone better who will treat you better...

  • YES

  • May my Lord Jesus Christ bless you and be with you always!

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  • Love doesnt suck, its the best thing ever...just cuz it doesnt work out for you dont mean it sucks, grow up.

  • man wtf, I appologise that I wrote that, If I could turn back time I would delete that, but.. shit happends, how the hell did you find that specific comment !?!? I wrote that 3 months ago! WOW !!! ~ Have a cool day Dadee3 :) and.. watch out for the clouds ;) ~ Me.

  • Lolz!!!

  • You can remove your comment though!! =)

  • haha, that one is cool :) ok- i'm deleting now.. greetings from mars..

  • nice choker honkey,lol jk,ur great mam.

  • a donkey or a jackass?

    should we say what me mean, or lubricate our communications?

  • you are quite cool .... cooooel ¬¬¬!!!!

  • I wish I watched this sooner

  • BUT DATS so mean u should lov him for him not for who ppl think about him :(

  • i think u look better with black hair !!! but i still love you ...

  • smells like carrots lol

  • how do you curl your hair?

  • i love you.

  • Dresses like a pirate? Smells like carrots? LMAO! (Actually smelling like carrots wouldn't be so bad.) We all need to examine ourselves, as well (at least i do), and consider how we'd feel about our own behaviour, and tweak accordingly.

    Surely you could have all the ler-ler you want. [runs and hides] ;) (Ok finding the right candidate can be an issue.)

  • HAHA ur soo cute and funni esablallaaaaaaaaaa

  • okay 1 ur bloopers are funny an unbelievably adorable! ^^ and secondly i find it strange you have enough time to make these videos i would think you would be dating a lot of the time. anywho, i enjoyed this vid, thanks :). x

  • Thanks! Those 3 signs were all for my Ex. After 2 years and a ring, I realized that his lies, cheating, drinking, and arguments weren't making me happy at all. It finally took an act of God and him accusing ME of cheating for me to say goodbye, but my life is amazing now... I wish I had had this list last fall :)

  • Not about expectations, eh?

  • If I wasn't a loser boyfriend myself,

    you'd be the perfect girl for me.

    I fell hard for you the first time I heard "Love will be waiting at home..."

    You're one in 7 billion.....

  • two words, Duck tape.

  • fockUtubesucks~

    Two words: Please empathize.

    Two more words: Have respect

    Please, please, and please do not ever post comments like this that tell people to stop supporting others with advice.

    Thank you.

    :)

  • If Duck tape was offensive to you i don't even wanna imagine how electrical tape must offend you..

    odd very odd and btw it was called a joke, Wiki it sometime.

  • Here's one more for your list.Listen to what they say.If they(man,woman) say I,me,mine,my,every time they open their mouth,RUN,don't walk away from them.

  • your vids really make me feel better:)

  • this video is so great it helped me get over that looser boyfriend naota83 showed me this because he thought i was one. but actually it back fired. Thanks buddy.

    ngmster

  • I just photoshopped a picture of a donkey with my friend's ex on it and sent it to her...

    and she agrees it helps lol

  • 1 I praise individuality Maybe theyre just misunderstood but yes it is a possibility

    2 not a big enough reason to break up work it out like civilized human beings people

    3 I like this one noone be selfish if it really comes down to desperate make a pros and cons list

    The Rest- the but I love them part I think could go either way. in time everyone will heal so take the easy road and stay with them and be a bit unhappy, or take the hard road and in time end up in a new better/worse relationship.

  • Whoaa. I'd just like to point out that it seems as if you're basing the whole "no body likes them" thing on popularity. You don't have to be popular to be a very very good person, you know.

  • the popular people can be more likely to have bad personalities in my opinion. They can become more self-centered. why do you think bullies are bullies? it's not because of the crap "they feel bad about themselves" it's because their friends egg them on! Duh everyone! it's all about shock value!

  • I love the "who is he fighting for?" advice.

    :) Thank you so much for sharing all of this. It really has helped me, no joke, (not this in particular as I'm too young to be dating haha, but the others have come in SO much handy, and I deeply cherish it.)

    I love the necklace!!!!!!!

  • who said you were too young to be dating? I don't put an age limit on dating myself. I want what I want when I want it! hehehe. I'm not that selfish tho... but if you feel you are too young then that's fine and dandy with me. :)

  • :D Ha, I say that to myself because it's just what my opinion is right now, but I'm sure I'll feel ready very soon :)

  • If a girl asks a guy to stop something and he doesn't, don't mean he's no good. A relationship is a two way street. Compromise. Girls can't have it all and if you ask him to curb a behavior, then be willing to curb a behavior you're doing. My last GF asked me not to go out to bars without her, when she went to bars without me? Should she have dumped me if I went out to a bar without her? It's not fair.

  • I don't see this as an argument that the two of you should have stayed together.

  • I agree! you know a lot of my friends think I'm weird because I tend to side with their BFs more than them. but then again, my one friend believes STRONGELY in loyalty blah blah blah. Poor Zach... oh that's her BF...

  • This is bad advice. For one, if on one likes them, just means they are unpopular, not a bad person. I've known plenty of guys that have no social skills/shy and were unliked who were good people.

  • i like you alot!

  • Thank you thank you thank you for this post.

    I'm in this exact situation with my boyfriend. I love him to death and although he continues to hurt me, I keep wanting to look past that cause I feel I love him so much...

    anyway, thank you again.

  • Speaking for all the loser boyfriends out there whose girlfriends watched your video and then promptly dumped them, -we should have seen your video before rather than after the breakup. Hindsight's 20/20.

    It might have saved us the embarrassment of not living up to expectations. I hope you find someone who disappoints you in all the right ways.

    Zero expectations, zero disappointments.

  • This is a video for those who want to break up with the partner but are hesitant, and frustrated at that hesitancy.

    It has nothing to do with 'expectations'.

  • I'm pretty sure signs like "she asks you repeatedly to stop a certain behavior and you don't" means that you had forewarning and chose to ignore it. If you don't know what your girlfriend's expectations of a relationship are, and you never bothered asking, whose fault is that? I doubt most people go through relationships without ever sharing any concerns and then break up with someone by surprise. Something tells me "losers" have had plenty of warning and just chose not to listen.

  • Brunettes rock. I wonder what was up with that blonde look, damn that turned me off. But i'm glad i watched this one

  • Alzuberkhan ,  MaryAnne is a natural blond. You're looking at a $9 bottle of black hair dye. Sorry to burst your bubble.

  • why haven't I been subscribed to you..for the past 18 years of my life.

    LOL

    your videos help a lot, thank you.

  • i hope you dont mind me sayin,but you remind me of patsy cline

  • My sister just dyed her hair brown. lol.... I thought it was a bit dark for her. Oh well! I don't know what you do for a living and didn't bother looking at your bio. Your clip speaks for itself. Your voice carries well, how 'bout a radio talk show? Great advice! Dr. Brothers, Doctor Ruth, watch out!!

  • if you dont like your partner why did you get hitched with them in the first place, when you realise this truth there will be less people crying about nothing

    p.s. sto calling yourself losers e.g. 'cracktober'

  • wow i started to cry when i watched this.

    i cannot believe how inspiring you are.

    i just recently got out of an abusive and controling relationship.

    i admire you so much and i just thought i would let you know. Thank you!!!

  • Currently, I am having an issue with my bf (i am not sure if we are wvwn going out) and when i wrote that list, it made me feel damn good. I am still hoping that he will come back, however, it makes me feel good that I can be strong during this time and not have to be the one to chase him. Thank you for your videos, they are helping me a lot!

  • hey thanks for this, i thought it was good advice! and it came at a good time for me!!

  • also, your not telling me that women dont go for nice guys because there not making there intentions clear enough.. I dont think so

  • As a guy that some might be cosidered 'nice' by a girl, I find the opposite sex tend to be more attracted to the bad boy or outspoken jerk.. and I have often become the 'friend' of girls instead of something more. something about a bad boy that sparks attraction and the romantic desire to tame etc.. I understand the psychology. To this end though I have little sympathy when reality hits home and the bastard is being abusive. The nice guy was there all along and you didnt see it..

  • 'There all along'... well, either the man is good enough to be her friend, accepting her non-romantic interest in him and then changing his mind, or has been in love with her without telling her and expects her to figure it out while he pretends to be a friend. I find neither of these 'nice'.

  • wow.. youve made a lot of assumptions there. Im just talking about certain characteristics a lot of women find attractive.. its a generalisation I know, but quite a well accepted one. I know girls who do this again and again

  • I'm wondering why you become someone's friend if that's not what you want? And if it is what you want - why are you complaining, being bitter or jealous? I have never understood this.

  • I'm pretty sure you made yourself clear when you said you have become "friends" with girls "instead of something more"... which implies you wanted more but had to settle for being a friend, and you have "little sympathy" for your "friends" when they are abused? Why? because they didn't find you more attractive? So she deserves abuse? That's pretty damn low by any standards. and this is "an accepted standard." How nice for you, jackass.

  • Well, just to point out the double standard, men and women are supposedly equal, right? So just leaving it for the woman to "figure out?" Women seem to expect men to figure out when they are dropping hints...

    Thinking that one can "tame" the bad boy is flawed thinking...it can be better to go out of your way to date someone you wouldn't normally date...you could be surprised.

  • Equality of value and importance does not denote sameness.

  • kick puppies??

    =[

  • what do you mean "fighting for?"

    like, who are they in this for?

  • This was pretty cool (and I am a very skeptical person). You definitely have a great personality and you are naturally comfortable with yourself and this helps with the funny, funny, original stuff like "smells like carrots, etc." Keep it up!

  • A sincere message! I felt like it was just for me! Thanks!

  • great advice! thank you

  • What do you do when you love their imperfections just as much as the things you really like.

  • THANK YOU SO MUCH! My boyfriend is so stupid and I wanna get rid of him!

  • My spouse smells like carrots lol.

  • Grounds for divorce in 47 states, plus Guam

  • you are so wise! (at the risk of sounding like a dork) I wanna be just like you when i grow up

  • lol!! kicks pumppies!!! hahaha your hilarous!!! I love this advce it was awesome.... :) THank you or always making me happy :)

  • you remind me of ani difranco 'cept hotter.

  • ysabella, this is like really helpful.. but for some reason i cant state out all of the bad things cause i keep remembering all the good things about him.. make it stop please. its been 3 weeks without contact with my ex and i just cant seem to break away and missing him is all i do. weve been together for 2 years but ive known him for 3 years but its sooo long! and i cant believe its offically over. i need more advice. =((

  • She is so pretty she looks like Marilyn Monroe!

  • I love your advice. I agree on the big list.. when my first bf n i broke up i did the big list .. i titled it "THE BIG LIST WHY WE ARENT' A MATCH"... it works after awhile

  • LoL! "dresses like a pirate- smells like carrots- kicks puppies" Highlight of my day

    :-P.

    ~luis

  • Once again i would like to ad something. :) Maby (i would say most often) the person complaining about a "looser" girlfriend/boyfriend is a "losser" him/her self? Wouldnt it be for the best that they stuck together and dont encurage them to end it all so the ones not being "loosers" (there are few enough as it is) could find each other easier? Or was the vid