Text Tonic - Abusive Relationships: The Warning Signs (A female perspective)

[MultiSunflower2]

You are beautiful..

[TextTonicUK]

@MultiSunflower2 Thank you !!! :)

[holyspiritgirl111]

Right now I am devestated because I left my abusive ex. I am so emotionally drained. I need support right now.

[serenecelene]

@holyspiritgirl111 Don't go back to him. Ever. Give it a couple months to sink in...you'll realize just how screwed up he was.

[prettipnkdiamond004]

Ms. Mandy please I need your advice. My ex bff started dating this guy. He stated he doesn't want her around anyone but him. I am in town visiting and he has been doing everything to break up our friendship. He will call every five minutes. We went walking and guess what he called again. Then he broke up our all girls night. He is possessive and I told her and broke off our friendship bc she don't want to listen. So now she is really being possessed. He is younger but my ex did the same.

[TextTonicUK]

@prettipnkdiamond004 It's a sad state of affairs...but you just need to let her learn her lessons. Hopefully she will learn them quickly and return to the friend you knew.

[suchafool990]

I am offended that you imply in this video or maybe you just failed to mention, but you imply that women can only be the victims and its always men who are the abusers. It can and does go both ways. it can even go from parent to child or from boss to employee. its not always some mean oppressive man who is the abuser

[TextTonicUK]

@suchafool990 Dear "Suchafool".Perhaps that is your perception that I "imply that women can only be the victims" but that is not my intention. It is well known that women are in the majority when it comes to being victims of abuse but I would never imply that men are never victims. I regularly support a charity in the UK called "Mankind" that supports male victims of abuse.This video has helped men and women and I am offended by your response!! Mandy

[PublicAwarenessMedia]

Thank you for recording & sharing this on video for us to learn & share!

[TheMeditationlover]

I can't believe that I have 'YES' for almost every questions you mention here. I am constantly put up with his silent treatment & now he forced me to sign the divorce paper. He said that I could choose to take 1 kid (we have 2kids together during 14 years of marriage) and he would keep 1. If I wouldn't be agree on that, he would fight until he has no money in the bank just to win. I recently learn that he has all symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He never loves anybody .Please help.

[TheMeditationlover]

I can't believe that I have 'YES' for almost every questions you mention here. I am constantly put up with his silent treatment and now he forced me to sign the divorce paper. He said that I could choose to take 1 kid (we have 2kids together during 14 years of marriage) and he would keep 1. If I wouldn't be agree on that, he would fight until he has no money in the bank just to win. I recently learn that he has all symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He never loves anybodyPlease help.

[Mark10Fischer]

Longing For Freedom is a 90-minute feature film

which tells the story of a young woman who liberates herself from an

ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP.

Please have a look at the trailer and let us know what you think.

Thanks,

[stardarkstar]

omg my relationship fits into all these things that i'm going through right now! :(

[TextTonicUK]

@stardarkstar Sending you hugs M xx

[chrisbartley88]

iv grew up feeling really REALLY depressd.. cause sum guy emoitionally abused me but he was forcing his abusefull ways and beliefs on me and making me feel bad about myself... and i felt like i was to blame for his loss of watever... i felt bullied and supressd my real feelings and emotions because anytime i talkd or spoke as myself happy, he used to start slagging me off bigtime.. stole my best friend and i felt like i was just givin my power away to him alowing him to wreck my life n feelings?

[coffeelover225]

this is all SO true. really well done

[brandell1976]

last time i talk to you you told me to get out of that abusive relationship and now that am out i would like to say thinks you a very smart women.and are you singel or do you have smart frends like you you a very smart and heplful women

[zelda75231]

thank you for that honest talk on abusive relations. 

[idontfkinknow1234]

The first sign that you're about to be in an abusive relationship is if you're not in the kitchen making a sammich.

[l0lipop1]

i need counseling so bad..

ive been going threw such a bad relationship..

but i just hate rejection..

and thats what keeps me going with him..

and he thinks he can say anything and do anything i dont like on purpose cause he knows i dont have the guts to go anywhere!

help please!

[bedllama]

@l0lipop1 Get out now! My ex (child's mom) was very abusive. Physical and mental, she was jealous of my appearance and would always try to put me down for being in shape and for keeping myself up. She told me it was my fault when I spoke up to defend myself I didn't feel safe. I had to get rid of her before I wasn't able to control my anger in response to it. I suggest you google a counselor in your area or talk to your friends or family. If you live together spend night at friend or fam.

[TextTonicUK]

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[FormalStudiesCZ]

@TextTonicUK REMEMBER WOMAN ABUSE MEN TOO ! MAYBE EVEN MORE LATELY IN THIS ODD SICK AND SAD SOCIETY WE LIVE IN !

[kos66t]

What a slave mentality.

[brandonhornsby]

I have contacted everyone I can and no one is wanting to help me in my abusive relation. No matter how hard I smack her the bitch still won't make my sandwich just right and spills my beer when bring to me while watching a ball game!

[TextTonicUK]

@brandonhornsby Maybe it's just because you don't have adequate equipment to satisfy her with?

[brandonhornsby]

@TextTonicUK since its an issue with you, you can find out yourself, but obviously I do being the dumb bitch dont leave... and I been trying to get her to :)

[stonedNcreepy]

okay fuck, i'm definitely in.

[2ksandy10]

women can be evil as wel..im 23 just outa relationship wit 20 yr old girl..she used 2 wreck my head bout goin out wit the lads drinkin nd all that shit,shed throw stuf scream nd shout and ya after a few drinks i used 2 push her outa my way..never hit her tho..nw i cant even walk my own town cos im gettin acused of bein a woman beeter

[Lachance8]

This is awesome! I needed to hear this, not for my marriage, which is great, but for the way I have allowed others to treat me.Very eye opening! Thank you. I am a firm believe that rejection from some people is actually a good thing! Liz

[TextTonicUK]

@Lachance8 Thank you for the feedback Liz :)

[AlienBeauty1]

One more tip that I have is... I tend to think you can avoid them altogether if you look at how the relationship itself started, many times the abusive relationship starts with the man going after the woman in a a very aggressive way and while the woman did not feel attraction initially she however felt flattered and her low self esteem feels better in a way because HE "wants her so much" so she in a sense "gives in" and then falls for him, I have seen this dynamic happen a (cont)

[EpicAmerasian]

great vid

[lalastransmission]

Do abusive people ever change? Ever take responsibility?

[TextTonicUK]

@lalastransmission Yes, it is possible but it takes a lot of dedication and real motivation to change. I wish it was easy! Regards Mandy

[rmg101081]

out of a lot of videos, this one helped a lot. but i have a question that i havnt been able to find the answer. I have been in an abusive relationship, and i recently called him up and tried to work things out, but he only wanted to be friends, and not have a commited romantic relationship with me. So all i felt was how much he was rejecting me and felt unloved. Why was he doing this, is this just another way to control me and hurt me? I find the only way to let go is to understand. pls help.

[TextTonicUK]

@rmg101081 I can't say for sure as I have never met him, but it could just be a game to 'test' you.The main thing to remember is that abusive people tend not to think in the same, rational way as balanced individuals-difficult to try understand their 'logic'.Write via my website for more support/info Kind regards Mandy

PS. Please stay strong - don't go back to an abusive relationship. Instead - open yourself up to allow a more loving person into your life

[MagicalSunrise1984]

I have been in a connection where both me and the other person were abusive (both had problems, insecurities, self esteem etc)

The first I was quite rude to him because I was very suspicious and not trusting but when i opened up to him he began to abuse me and put me down, in all forms of assults (also sexual)

Then, instead of cutting for myself i began to put him down back etc

Now I seek help to better myself so that I will not land in an abusive rsp again with someone

[megamatt53]

@RihannaRecord  maybe you deserve it ? you ever think of that ?

[megamatt53]

i just got stabbed in my hand from my bf is he abusive ?

[TextTonicUK]

@megamatt53 I'm concerned that you even need to ask that question.Being stabbed is a pure act of aggression. Do not tolerate this, please seek help.

[glamcam23]

thx for this vid really helps.. i deal with name calling can't wait til i'm stabled n can leave

[herby9ml]

how can u tell when the boarder between insecure and abusive is crossed?

also, do ALL "abusive" relationships have to be related with a partner WANTING to feel 'superior'?

...my friend is in a relationship with a guy who feels like she's to good to be with some1 like him, and that she can always leave him for somebody 'better.' he's constantly jumping to conclusions, and his 'temper-tantuams' can be quite annoying and cause him to shut-you-out.

their relationship is bothersome to me...

[TextTonicUK]

@herby9ml Behaviour becomes abusive when one person's needs/wants are forced upon another. Guilt, emotional blackmail...these are forms of emotional abuse. A person can be insecure and need reassurance but that does not give them the right to have their needs of insecurity met over the needs of the other person.The bottom line is: You CANNOT change others, only yourself and your reactions/attitudes. All relationships are about constant compromise, negotiation and communication.

[brandell1976]

what if you a man in and abusive relationship?what do you do

[TextTonicUK]

@brandell1976 The same as a female would do. Seek help. Evaluate whether the relationship is meeting your needs and whether you are being treated well and loved with the respect you deserve.

Regards

Mandy

[geltvaha]

My wife is everything you say. I am mentally abused and aggressively controlled all the time. I just want an easy life and to be with nice friendly down to earth people. I don't have the strength anymore to go through any more hell. I am dying on the inside. I don't know what way to turn. I love in Ireland and would gladly livevelsewhere to get some peace. I'm 44 .

Any advice welcome. Liam

[geltvaha]

My wife is everything you said. My confidence is going down the pan and I feel trapped and unhappy. We don't have kids. To leave her would cause so much aggravation and abuse I can't face it. I just want a peaceful life. My job is also gone quiet and we have a big mortgage. She controls the money and I am sure I will end ip on the street penniless if I try to leave. She has me over a barrell every way. We are like chalk and cheese. I'm sociable she is not. I have considered suicide but I don't

[Phelpswife91]

I just left an abusive relationship and i wish i woud have seen this video at the start. At first he was sweet, loving, caring but as soon as he had me he flipped a switch. He took me away from my friends & family, not allowing me to go out with the girls for a few drinks, limiting who i could and couldnt text. That turned into saying nobody but him would want me and if i left he woud kill himself and then he got phyical, the day i left he held me by my neck to a wall.

[MagicalSunrise1984]

@Phelpswife91

Probably he was so afraid to lose you... that he lost you

[cynic150]

In addition: I want to say that I do not totally blame my wife for all my suffering. It was because I was unfaithful 28 yrs ago that she became so manipulating and resentful. However, her consistent badgering and condescension has worn me down to such an extent that it is beginning to affect my health adversely. Heart palpitations, heightened nervousness, negativeness and depression. I have almost no other support from anyone. She is obsessed with her dead parents, sister and their glorification

[devadasi]

(continued) he would just tell her that she deserved to be told those things because she was a b***h, and unless she changed she would continue to be talked to that way. When she told me of this, I made her realize that it was ABUSE. However, she recently decided to try to get him back. Me and our other best friend were just completely disgusted. We don't even know what to say to her anymore.

[TextTonicUK]

@devadasi Sadly,this is quite common and it can take several attempts before someone has the courage to leave for good. Abusive individuals tend to have a skill at knowing how to get their partner dependent on them.They seem to sense the weakness in others more easily. I just hope that your friend values herself enough to realise she deserves so much better. Thank you for your comment! **Mandy - Text Tonic **

[devadasi]

One of my best friends was in an emotionally abusive relationship. She became a pathetic being. He left her, and she begged him to come back, much to all of our frustration. We couldn't understand why she would put up with it. But, she's very co-dependent. He left her again, and this time I was relieved. Even though it caused her a lot of pain to lose him, we both knew that it was an extremely toxic relationship. He would do things like verbally abuse her, and when she told him to stop,

[cynic150]

Thanks you so much. So many things you say are happening to me. I see myself deeply in your descriptions. It has taken me so long to realise what was happening to me. I have wasted so much time. You are so right. You are not only beautiful on the outside, but on the inside too. I am a man and 62 years of age. Talking to my wife is like talking to a brick wall. she never listens, only gives orders. Totally manipulating.

[TextTonicUK]

@cynic150 Thank you for your comment as it highlights that this can happen to men and women.

[KkBeAr15]

God, please help me not kill my cousin's boyfriend who shows these signs!

[katinasvenska]

I was in an abusive relationship that was a 2 way street.9 months only.Women have to be culperable for their own behaviour and stop playing the victim sometimes.Mine turned out to be a latent homo.Do not blame yourself for other people's behavipour.There may be other underlying factors at play you would not even dream of.

[Stevensolo1]

Women love dating assholes and in some cases this is the outcome....

[LifeNJesus]

Thankyou for posting this video for women out there. I had an ex-boyfriend like this but thank God (literally) I got out of it before it got physical. I had to heal emotionally though. I am in a happy and healthy marriage now.

[chutubeme]

im in this type of relationship my boyfriend has been getting jealous lately....

[Geszelda]

I really need help with this. My mother is in an abusive relationship she is so beaten down and its gone on for so long she is just stuck! Worse of all i still live with my parents its my dad thats the worst though. Ive tried leaving following the advice but i get dragged back, he doesnt want us leaving. She is my mom i cant leave her in that house. Id have to move out of state so he wouldnt get his claws in me. If i left my mom i wouldnt even be able to talk to her again. Help what can i do?

[mizzkleva516]

i need help................ :(

[katinasvenska]

@mizzkleva516 

[jeannieh39]

Thank you for taking the time in making this video to educate and help others.

[NoFearCSX]

Its true I have seen how much couples fight over financial matters, I think our society promotes abusive behaviors and women allow it. Taking time to see what people are about before even thinking about stepping up the friendship is a must but people want things fast and this leads to disaster abuse or not. Good video any people that want to discuss this further can post on my channel. Ms. TextTonikUK is an attractive woman who does a good job with this touchy topic.

[thefightingirishman]

what about abusive relationship with family? like brothers ,that's pretty hard to avoid because they're under the same roof 365 days a year

[FireCrackersROCK1]

@thefightingirishman my brother is like that. he took a bat to me! and im the older one but hes strong im stronger but i was fighting with him and then turned around and turned back arouund and he had a bat and i was crying and trying to run out but my hands were to shaky to open the door. i was scared.

[artbyregan]

my husband abused in every way mentioned here and then also , abusive to the point of disabling me and financially until I was bankrupt, then when I called the police on him .he punished me by abandoning me with no electricity , no food , no money and no car.............I then got an order of protection and will never be with him again

[SuperNewhorizon]

yeah men like this make me so mad , they suffer from lack of self esteem insecurity issues, or men who werent close to there mothers, or growing up with abusive parents, you have some ppl do the opposite and treat women right because of the abuse they seen as a child , but all we can do for these ppl is pray for them,

[SuperNewhorizon]

ive experienced all those things you just spoke on, but one thing about me is im confident, so he couldnt get to me like he wanted

[TextTonicUK]

@SuperNewhorizon Thank you for your message. I think it's important as it shows other women that it can happen to all of us no matter what our background, confident, not confident, abused women come from all spheres of life. I love reading about women like yourself that have seen through the bad behaviour and done something about it : )

[umiumil]

I love beating my women and she's been with with me for 5  years now if she does something i don't like i just punch her in her eye that keeps the broad in line.

[TextTonicUK]

@umiumil Wow - so you're really proud of the fact that you're a "human-rights violater" and can hit a woman?

Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent.

Salvor Hardin

All violence, all that is dreary and repels, is not power, but the absence of power.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

[Kniteblade89]

@TextTonicUK

With all due respect.... don't even dignify this gentleman's crap with a response.

I wouldn't be surprised if he's just some internet troll out to start a flame war going. If he's being genuine, than I'm right there with you.... it's a shame some people will openly act that way.

I applaud your video, ma'am, and I love your quoting of Emerson's passage.

Keep up the good work. Brilliant video.

[TextTonicUK]

@Kniteblade89 Thank you for your comments! M.

[KkBeAr15]

@umiumil ~ i hope she leaves your pussy ass

[Samalamaaax3]

I've been going through one and I'm dying inside:[

[cheeseeo]

Mandy, I've been in a abusive relationship for the past year and a half. I feel like I need freedom not only because he will not let me talk to any guy friends but because none of my friends and my family approve of the relationship for various reasons. He at one point has cheated, and I took him back, I on the other hand began falling for my best guy friend because I felt so alone and now he prohibts me from speaking to him. I did not cheat though, and we were "broken up" at that point. Help me

[hope200815]

I just got out of a relationship with everything just said...I love him, Im in love with him but shes rite its my life. I want a good life. Someone out there can treat me how I know I want to feel about someone.

[rickdarko]

No need to complain or whine....women wanted a badboy, now you got one. Women use to try to play me and still do until I stepped my game up. Now if I even sense that I might be getting played, the relationship is over simply because a woman should not be doing things that allow me to feel that way in the first place. Women, I suggest you use the same logic in this matter.

[gabriellefreedom2001]

Just recently I found out my bf has been talking to this other girl and trying to meet up with her. She has sent him naked pics of herself. I even talked to the girl and she got an attitude with me. Well when I confronted him, especially about why he said he didn't have a gf, he said its cuz i don't act like one and that I'm driving him to do what he's doing. So its my fault that he's planning to cheat. And you said they will turn everything on you and he does.

[serenecelene]

@gabriellefreedom2001 im sorry...he sounds like a jerk. :(

[serenecelene]

@gabriellefreedom2001 im sorry...he sounds like a jerk. :(

[109876543210ignition]

I was in a verbally emotionally abusive marriage for nineteen years and in another abusive relationship for eleven and a half years. I pulled free. However, I've been second-guessing myself wondering if I had been different that they would have been different. But, listening to you has cemented in me that it really wasn't me.... And, the thing is, the two abusive relationships I was in mirrored, in many ways, the relationship I had with my mother, which was abusive on all levels...thank you..

[TextTonicUK]

@109876543210ignition So glad that you managed to break out of the negative cycle!! Hopefully others will read your message and be inspired!!

Mandy x

[109876543210ignition]

@TextTonicUK

To be honest, my son and daughter pointed out that I had lost my respect, n my last relationship and my daughter refused to have a relationship with me until I got out of the relationship I was in. Happily, we are great, again, and enjoyed a day of shopping, lunch and a movie this week!!! By the way, she won't have anything to do with my mother because of Mom's behaviours. For me, thisbroken the toxic mother/daughter relationship chain, as well. I thank God for this.

[cutieface2007]

im crying right now because just hearing the word abuse brings back all the hitting memories no one believes me that my ex hit me but im staying strong but my heart and mind will never be the same ever again

[yoyozippy]

i strongly believe you my bf has started hitting me calling the police because he fefused to let me in to get somthing of mine i had to get it when he chose to give me my things bk n when i took no for an answer he called the cops as he decided that i was breaking an entry i have brusies on my arms i cant cope i am not happy i dunno wo to du it isn tht easy to jus say get owt of tht relationship i hope you are better now love and tht you are happy XxX

[jbojangles2008]

yes Mandy I am in a VERY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP,SHE PUSHED THE

ENGAGEMENT ON ME,SHE IS PSYCHOTIC AND DANGEROUS!HOW

CAN I LOVE HER?SHE FORCES ME TO HAVE SEX,SHES ATTACKED ME AND

PUNCHED ME!THE BENEFIT IS THAT

SHE IS MY MINDER !AND WILL FIGHT

OFF PEOPLE WHO WILL HARM ME!

WITHOUT HER I WILL BE ALONE AND

VULNERABLE!DO WE JUST NEED SPACE FROM EACH OTHER?

[snow680]

Thank you so much you shined some light on a dark alley on me... now i know i'm in an abusive relationship but there isn't much about women abusing men out there is there?

[DiligentSabrina]

Anyone comment me back with advice. I just jumped back into a relationship with a person who has mental abused me, cheated on me, called me names, I don't even want to say what names. I went bk wit him cuz i lov him so much&he finally came bk. Now the relationship is horrible I cry everynight. I want to leave him. How do i do it for good with out him crying and me taken him back. I want him to leave because I can't take it anymore with him and our bad relationship and him not being loyal.

[TextTonicUK]

Remind yourself of all his negative characteristics and how unhappy the relationship makes you - write these down in one column and in another column, write down what you want out of a healthy, happy relationship - you'll find that what you are getting now is mostly not what you want. Be strong - you deserve happiness, love and respect!

Regards

Mandy

[lub783]

ur spot on my ex was abusive and he was exactly as u`ve described.

[TheTwilight4eva]

im 16 and my boyfriend always cums over my house over my house and makes me wanna do it ,but i dont then he got me on the bedroom floor then he said i want it its fun and i want a son so i said i dont becuz it hurts and us girls are the one who has to give birth not boys so its not fare bye plz help me by commenting back plz byee

[TextTonicUK]

This doesn't sound like a happy, respectful relationship.Ask yourself why it is you stay.You deserve to have your needs met and should not be forced into anything that you do not want to do.

[vduke]

tell your parents and dont have a kid...

you need an education before anything else

[artbyregan]

or it could be EVERYTHING you mentioned

[bellspirit]

Thank you so much for making this video. It was very helpful.

[richassuzy]

why the hell are so many men like this...God im going to start up romance school...geez men are dumb!!!!!!

[WeThePeopleRleaders]

omg this is my story. my ex does all of these and i feel guilty afterwards when i explode on him bc I dont feel loved anymore, but as his experiment. the truth is that ive tried breaking up with him for 2 years already but hes so manipulative and NOW im pregnant. i just want to get away from him!

[ImDBatty1]

do you know of a good place to go for those of us not in the UK? or do you help everyone? :]

[TextTonicUK]

You are welcome to email me and I will see if I can offer you any advice.

Kind regards

Mandy

[AprilDawnFletcher]

thank you for this video!

[NovemberRain888]

I don't know why, but why is it mostly men who do this? Yes women do the same, but it seems to be more common in men.

Why?!

[TextTonicUK]

Perhaps because men are more conditioned to suppress their emotions?There's so many theories - wish I had all the answers!

Regards

Mandy

[jwardmagic07]

I dont think it is just men...I think women are equally as abusive...but I think it takes two to create the whole situation.

I think your videos are very helpful though, especialy in helping me sort through my thoughts in my own relationship.

[americathefree2000]

For all you women out there with abusive husbands, tell them to type americathefree2000 in the youtube search box and ask them to try & beat me like that. In fact I beg them to try that mess with me. Then we will see how tough they are.

[OpheliaMist]

Wow... Watched this whole video and have checked off all the above in regards to someone I know who's in an abusive relationship. =\

[lennceberus]

I was in an abusive for five years, and the reason why I left him was because I felt he didn't love me anymore. He was not sexually interested in me, wouldn't touch me but it didn't take me until he was out of my life to realize how abusive he was to me. It brings me to tears to realize how pushed down and beaten I was for being with him so long. It has been six months and I still feel dirty, alone and damaged by him and trust is so hard for me. I still really don't know what to do.

[TextTonicUK]

Thank you so much for sharing your story - You are definitely survivor and the really hard part of leaving has been done. It will take time but I promised you that things will only get better and that you will eventually look back and be so proud of yourself for getting away from an abusive situation. Now you are open to wonderful opportunities that might never have been possible if you had stayed.

Well done for being brave and having courage. I commend you!!

Mandy x

[woahmimi]

:( Im not even married yet but this is happening to me.. except the money part at the beggining..

ive been with him for 2 years now and its been happening.. i just dont know how to end it.

[TextTonicUK]

Have you looked for as support group in your area?Plse take action as it won't get better if you carry on as is

Mandy

[NEANEA72]

this is my life...your video....but i have no where to go and have a child.  i just graduated with my bachelor's degree and am looking for a full time job. until i have a substantial income....can't leave. i've asked him to leave and he won't. my therapist has told me that i am in an abusive relationsip and listening to your video and others has helped me realize she is correct.

[TextTonicUK]

Plse stay focused on what you need to do to get out.

Sending you a 'virtual' hug

Mandy x

[CarolinaCutie09]

I thinks its time for the women to start the abusing! LOL

[chernobyl2964]

@CarolinaCutie09 Women have started abusing. I myself was in an abusive relationship with a woman, exhibiting many of the same signs discussed in this video. And I personally find your joke in poor taste.

[chernobyl2964]

@CarolinaCutie09 Women have started abusing. I myself was in an abusive relationship with a woman, exhibiting many of the same signs discussed in this video. And I personally find your joke in poor taste.

[SpankyMcLaaLaa]

I cant trust my husband with money becuase he ends up blowing it on cigarettes and scratch tickets...so I hold the card. He's put us in the whole several times...is it wrong for me to hold the money still?

[TextTonicUK]

It depends on how long ago your husband last spent money irresponsibly.If it was a while ago perhaps you need to review the situation.Has anything changed since then?Is he happy for you to keep charge of the money/card? Many factors need to be considered. If it works for both of you the fact that you control the money then that's fine. However, if one of you doesn't like the staus quo then compromise will be in order

Regards

Mandy Text-Tonic

[SpankyMcLaaLaa]

he says that he knows why i keep the money, and as long as the bills are paid he's ok. I gave him control of the money after it had been a while since his last buying spree and after the bills were paid, the grocerys were bought and everything that needed to be done was done, he had barely $25. He then told me he doesn't want to handle the money.

[KarelVredenburg]

Great advice! Thanks for sharing it on YouTube.

[morgantaff]

Excellent advice! Quick and effective ways to spot the signs of an abusive relationships and what to do about it.