Its true. I didn't wait and it totally broke my heart. It's taken me two years to get over it. God didn't say wait because as my muma would say he likes the sound of his own voice, he said it for a reason. I would do anything to take it back I guess I learnt the hard way.
@biodomesan i have one qestion and its just well.One time me and party freind where going to the a night club well he said you could get hot chicks inn the bed room and stuff well im a guy and for me it sounds like fun but when we saw girls and stuff we saw aloot off perfboys and honry guys waiting to take advantes on girls when they got drunk. my point is that i dont see why girls should party and get drunk for fun and then get laid by sum stranger! inn the bed room for me it sounds like rape!
Great stuff my friend thanks for the encouragement always good to hear about the truth. Keep it up keep doing God's will man and He will bless you. Keep up the good work my friend and I am waiting for my wife as well. ~ Robbie P.S. Remember Jesus Loves You And So Do I!
Good one bro... Sometimes you just gt caught in a moment and u tend to forget everything else and do it.. maybe for fun or maybe for love.. for the rest of the people who had it before marriage like my self.. i regret it soo much... respect bro..!
Thank you Alec for being a true Man of God! I pray my sons will grow up to be like you...I saw your mum speak last night in Melbourne, Australia for the first time. I have hope to be a mum who leads her children into a personal relationship with Jesus and to lead a good life. God bless you!! Your future wife is one lucky gal *smile*
Woah, finally someone speaks the truth. I love how you brought up the divorce rate and your thought on why it might be so high. I completely agree with you on this. I don't want to be compared to other girls when I get married. I want to know that my husband waited for me. I don't want to have to look back and say to myself, "why didn't I wait?" I've met so many girls that didn't wait and have emotional scars because of it. Save yourself by saving sex for marriage.
I like the idea but depending on what kind of person you are if you wait then you might trigger the desire after the first. Then become overwhelmed with sexual lust for others and make things even worse for the one you chose I think that you should at least have sex 1 time before just to prepare plus its not really about sex to me its more about mental connection. I dunno just my thoughts no offense to anyone.
Keep a strong curb, however, on your youthful cravings; and strive for integrity, good faith, love, peace, in company with all who pray to the Lord with pure hearts.
Not about old school or new school...love in the sacred sense...religion or no shitty religion...loyalties to be committed in partnership will always be...
Praise God, I'm so uplifted to see that you are taking a stand showing this on youtube God bless you abundantly. I pray this will make a huge impact to this generation...
Let me tell you, nothing touches my heart more than seeing a young man truly living for God, it's awesome to me. I have two little boys and I pray they feel the same way you do in the future. Thank you for being so bold as to step out and share this with the YouTube world, you are putting yourself out there and glorifying God by example, which isn't always easy. Thank you Alec....
(P.S. - Saw your mom at a womens' retreat in MA and she raved about her boys - love your videos! :) )
great vid... thanks for posting.... Im 25 female christian, and i get pressured alot but i thank God for the values he has put in me to wait for my husband
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You stupid cunt.
You don't know what your saying. Your intellect is far to shallow to be able to compute with what your parents write in their books. But you preach it anyway.
You should look up microphallus, considering you haven't been diagnosed yet.
By the way, you have a stutter.
And you couldn't arouse a monkey if you felt like it.
@music0peace0love Ok, since you seem to know so much about Alec and his intellect and attractiveness etc. Let's have it, what middle school did he go to? Elementary? What is his nickname? how often does he shower!
Please don't show your own ignorance by attempting to quash someone elses free speech nor their right to an opinion, your the ignorant one!
Praise God for your life bro... allow me to share one of my favorite quotations when it comes in that matter, '' If love is great, sex can wait.'' Jesus set us an example how great a love can be. I really believed that if you really love the person, it is not the physical contact that really binds you together... but the genuine concern to his/her entire being. I mean if you really love this person, you would want to give him/her the best interest. I always wanted my first kiss on my wed. day
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Ok dude... first off, if you're not going to use it, cut it off and give it to somebody that will. You're entire video was about how you're waiting to give yourself to your wife, but yet you specifically say @1:41 "If you're having sex with whoever you want before you're married, whats the point of marriage?" To me that implies that you have no other reason to get married other than to get your virgin ass laid. Think about it dude. There is a difference between "sex" and "making love".
I have been told by some men I know (ones whom are now married but had sex with others before marriage) that there is an intimacy that is voided with their wifes because of their past decisions. My wife and I both do not know what it is like to have sex outside of marriage, but I do know my wife and I have a major blessing because we chose to save such a sacred thing for marriage. I encourage everyone to do the same. Great video xsbevere. Stay strong for your future wife and God.
I agree with you man, I've been with my girlfriend for 3 1/3 years and we are still pure. it is possible to stay pure but if you don't have a relationship with Jesus Christ I garentee its gonna be impossible to stay pure with your girlfriend. I know I wouldn't have been able to do it without Him in my life and my girlfriends life.
i totally agree with you and feel exactly the same, and i wish more guys felt this way.. its super cool that you are willing to be open about your thoughts on sex before marriage, idk that courage is the right word but it definitely takes something out of the ordinary to be able to share your beliefs openly not caring what others may say, and i respect that
ABSTINENCE is FREEDOM! The choices we make in our teens should not seen as only a time to have fun, we must see these choices (such as SEX) as choices that direct our lives, our future. i known many of my past classmates that have contracted STDs including AIDS, gotten pregnant, been raped, and have had abortions. For them SEX changed from "fun" to tragic. The choice i made in my teens has been a choice that has filled my 30s with so much joy! Leaving me with no regrets, only FREEDOM!
ABSTINENCE is FREEDOM! The choices we make in our teens should not seen as only a time to have fun, we must see these choices (such as SEX) as choices that direct our lives, our future. i known many of my past classmates that have contracted STDs including AIDS, gotten pregnant, been raped, and have had abortions. For them SEX changed from "fun" to tragic. The choice i made in my teens has been a choice that has filled my 30s with so much joy! Leaving me with no regrets, only FREEDOM!
ABSTINENCE is FREEDOM. The choices we make in our teens should not seen as only a time to have fun, we must see these choices (such as SEX) as choices that direct our lives, our future. i known many of my past classmates that have contracted STDs including AIDS, gotten pregnant, been raped, and have had abortions. For them SEX changed from "fun" to tragic. The choice i made in my teens has been a choice that has filled my 30s with so much joy! Leaving me with no regrets, only FREEDOM!
ABSTINENCE is FREEDOM. The choices we make in our teens should not seen as only a time to have fun, we must see these choices (such as SEX) as choices that direct our lives, our future. i known many of my past classmates that have contracted STDs including AIDS, gotten pregnant, been raped, and have had abortions. For them SEX changed from "fun" to tragic. The choice i made in my teens has been a choice that has filled my 30s with so much joy! Leaving me with no regrets, only FREEDOM!!
I completely agree! you have set high standards for your self and, your future wife. I wish others would think as you do. I my self am on the same boat im waiting till marriage.
i totally agree with you :) there's not very many people that have these values nowadays and i really admire that in you. me and my boyfriend are waiting till we get married, it's so much better that way. and there needs to be more guys like you. :)
I actually saw this on facebook by one of my friends that had shared it. I love your way of thinking and I wish that more people still thought this way. You are so right, sex before marriage can cause a huge problem in your marriage, especially when it was with other people. Sex was meant to be a special thing and to most people now it is not. Thanks for sharing!
this video is great :) as i've been reading other comments, to the world it is a shock if a young person hasn't kissed or slept with someone. but it is great that we, as christians, can set the examples by the way we live our lives. being completely set apart for God with every area of our lives. it is so great to see others who believe in abstinence and who stand strong in the foundations of truth. God bless you brother and i pray that this message will reach the multitudes :)
Thank you!! I am writing a book for teen girls right now on this very topic. I also talk to teen girls at purity conferences. I am so excited to let them know they don't need to give up because there really are a few "good men" left out there!!! Keep standing up for what is right! I was a virgin when I got married 11 years ago and we have not regrets!
I totally agree. I'm only 16 and even though I'm pretty young, I made the decision to save myself for my husband. Religion aside, I've always felt that I have an obligation to my future husband and my future children to stay pure in that aspect. I feel like whatever I do now, my husband and kids are one day going to have to live with the consequences & it's not fair to any of us.
Alex that took alot of courage and I applaud you. Your mom and Dad have done a beautiful job raising you kids and you will all make a significant impact in this world. Thank you for standing up for the truth. BTW your little face has not changed since I saw you in a stroller tooling around the O.C.C. campus with your mom ( smile)
I think you are right on my friend and I truly wish we all felt this way. I was one of those who had sex before I was married, many times with different people and I truly WISH I had waited. If I God hadn't forgiven me, that would be one area that I could never move past. That is something you can never get back. I do feel that people do not know how to give themselves compeletly. Ive been there, I married now and it was a battle. SO preach it brother, dont be ashamed, I love old school thinking
You are a wise man, and the fruit of your wisdom will be great and so sweet. My hearts desire is that many more young people would come to understand the truth of your message. Have you read "Sexual Revolution" by Kris Vallotton? If not you should check it out. You are of like mind.
That is soooo cool that you put this on YouTube. This is stuff people need to hear. Oh, and my mom (Shannon Schilling...your mom knows who she is) put this vid on her facebook. :)
I admire your honesty and commitment. I know that there are many times I regret not waiting for my husband. That experience is something that you should only share with one other person, otherwise what makes it special?
you can't tell anymore if it's six o'clock or sex o' clock. sex is a primal drive and because it is so readily available we are a people who are preoccupied with sex as a way of life. it is said that you can find a sexual encounter before you can find something to eat! we need to be more focused on living life and being complete instead of going from one person to another. there is more to life than just that!
We face multiple challenges now in our world and unfortunately God's values are not reinforced by our governments or society... or even more importantly, in our familes. I believe that one of our struggles today is that we actually have 'freedom' to decide what sex, marriage and homosexuality means to us as individuals. Therefore one can never say to the other that their thinking is wrong, otherwise it is a breach of one's liberty. We must therefore stand strong in our faith
Soo true! I wish I wouldve waited but got confused on the thought of love. In the end it only hurts you. That is why it is soo important to wait. Because when you do that person will never forsake you or leave you. Your only supposed to share yourself with onee person in this world and that is your soulmate. Great video glad to see someone standing up.
Totally respect your feelings, but i have to disagree! For me, this is making a huge deal out of sex, but it's really not that important a part of life. it's only one aspect of a relationship and not the most important! marriage is about love and commitment. building sex up as if it's a huge deal puts more focus on sex in a relationship than there needs to be. not to mention pressure and probable disappointment on the wedding night because of how much it's built up as a big deal before hand!
At its core, marriage is a means to assure that each parent is confident in the paternity of a child. Generally speaking however, marriage is and has been different culture to culture and has changed in meaning over time—a business deal in European history to an act of 'love' in modern cultures. The idea that one shouldn't have sex before marriage is in my opinion antiquated and nothing to do with 'love', but instead religiously motivated.
You make very good points, and I enjoyed your video. However, you say, "What's the point of marriage if you have sex before you're married?" But the point of marriage is not so you can have sex. It is a sacrament, and you make a vow before God that you want to spend the rest of your life with the person you love.
awesome :) i would love whoever i'm going to marry to feel that way too. people call me innocent and stuff because i don't do stuff with guys. but i think they are missing out. thanks for sharing :)
To hear a guy say that is so refreshing. Thank you for standing up for what you believe in. You're an amazing example to boys and men everywhere. Stay strong and thank you for letting me know there are good guys out there who feel the way that I do. :) I just started a channel on Purity ministry for girls, I'm definitely going to direct them to this video when I get some followers.
You're awesome Alec. This is a topic that needs to be discussed. I think half the reason people give in is because we just don't talk about sex in a light other than immediate satisfaction and numbers. I love this. Keep rockin it!
You're awesome Alec. This is a topic that needs to be discussed. I think half the reason people give in is because we just don't talk about sex in a light other than immediate satisfaction and numbers. I love this. Keep rockin it!
You're awesome Alec. This is a topic that needs to be discussed. I think half the reason people give in is because we just don't talk about sex in a light other than immediate satisfaction and numbers. I love this. Keep rockin it!
Good msg. You're awesome for sharing that. I believe this msg will influence other people and especially boys/men. I think in this society sex is so out there that boys especially are ashamed to wait or admit that they're waiting, but I believe this msg will reach the youth :)
the world needs more people like you....our world would be totally different if we all thought that way....and i feel the same way you do about the subject...
amen it really is good to know there are people who share the same beliefs, sometimes i look around and i just wonder if i'm the only one. thank you for sharing, this was great.
I think this is awesome, it's great that you are so honest and have spoken out about this. I feel very strongly about this also, I'm 21 and not embarrassed to say that I am waiting for my husband, I know it's one of the best decisions I have ever made and will not regret it. Thank you so much for sharing this.
Amen, keep speaking wisdom like this. We need to create a culture where THIS kind of thinking is the NORM, and the worldly way of thinking is admonished justly and fairly as it should.
I totally agree with you and I'm so glad you feel this way. I am now living a wonderful marriage with a wonderful man. Both of us had had sex before marriage. Both of us would go back and change that if we could, we wish we had waited. We wish we didn't have ANY memories whatsoever of anyone else, they just pollute the mind and bring confusion. How wonderful to have no knowledge or memories of anyone but your spouse for the whole of your life. Beautiful and praiseworthy. Yeah.
...you are saving yourself and others from much heartbreak. And instead, storing up treasures for yourself. I waited until my wedding night & it was the most beautiful experience. My husband hadnt waited, and it was a painful fact of life that I had to accept. May you be blessed & remember to keep your wife and her purity in your prayers. The world sets so many traps...
Amen! We have a teen age daughter and we've prayed since her birth for her husband! Stay strong! and keep using your voice for purity! True love waits! God bless you!
stop bringing god into this. it's a matter of common sense. If you have sex before you're married to someone you feel like you love, there is nothing wrong with that. If you're running around having sex with random girls, then you are probably not going to have a successful marriage anyway.
@MrOkokonoko God is brought into it because there are very few people that can think this way on their own having this clear, deep and coherent thinking. Only simple minded people don't understand the ideas behind it. Every relationship you have, every experience you share with someone else, it takes away what you are able to offer to the person you eventually marry. You always have baggage, even if mental baggage, memories of intimate moments with others that when you find The One you'll
@MrOkokonoko ...really wish u didn't have but it's only when u* meet someone that your relationship is special enough, that they mean that much 2 u that u'll understand why it's so important to be untainted. (*Not u specifically but everyone). Can't u see all the messages here of people that didn't wait & eventually found that special person & really regretted having slept wth other people? Relationships are so much stronger when its just about the 2 people & doesn't involve people from the past
Respect. Love it. It's nice to hear from mouths of the youth that it is worth waiting for. I am in the same boat. Waiting (29 years). So much is focused on the sexual aspect of humanity that distracts from realizing what it's doing to people's self worth. It changes perceptions, perspectives, and devalues something that was created to be beautiful. Giving yourself away to just anybody will tear you apart inside. Hold out, it'll be worth it. Thanks Alec.
I hope that my future husband has the guts and the conviction to save himself for me! Props to you for having the bravery to post this and live it in your own life! Not enough people are willing to these days..
wow alec. Great post. That takes real courage to post something like this. You're a champion. I toally agree, sex after marriage is such a better way to go. When I tell people that they laugh but in the end it doesnt matter. Doing a great job :)
I had sex before marriage, i have a 7 year old child and still dont have a husband. Its tough. I wish I never went there before I was married to the one God had for me.
Great Post. It's a great reminder to our generation! We should never settle for less than God's best for our lives. 23 and I've never been kissed. I'm so excited to give myself completely to my husband when God's timing is right. Until then... { Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life} Proverbs 4:23 ( Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires) Song of Songs 8:4
@MrOkokonoko The 50% divorce rate is as a result of people not waiting. Divorce is at an all-time high, when promiscuity was rife, when it was NORMAL to wait, divorce was low. It's no coincidence. Love is purer, stronger and longer lasting when both people are whole, not having given themselves emotionally and physically to many people. People that have abstained and people who have dated and slept with many people have very different behaviour in relationships.
THANK YOU FOR BEING MAN ENOUGH TO DEMONSTRATE THE COURAGE TO CALL OUT THOSE WHO PROMOTE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. IT IS OK TO BE OLD SCHOOL, AND GOD BLESSES THAT KIND OF THINKING. YOUR DETERMINATION TO REMAIN PURE FOR MARRIAGE PROVIDES FOR THE GREATEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE YOUR FUTURE WIFE. GOD MADE SEX, AND HE MADE IT GREAT, BUT HE ALSO MADE IT EXCLUSIVELY FOR MARRIAGE. PART OF THE PROBLEM IS YOUTH YOUNGER THAN YOU ENGAGE IN MANUAL, ORAL, AND ANAL SEX SAYING THAT THAT IS NOT "SEX. SEX IS SEX!
I wish i had believed that earlier. i gave in, i didn't wait. and i've never regretted anything more in my life. giving yourself to someone means giving a piece of your heart away that you can never get back. like taking a bite out of a cookie. it's never the same. I've now dedicated myself to my future husband and set myself apart for him, but i know that at one point i'll have to have that conversation with him, and that tears me apart. please learn from my mistake. wait. it's worth it.
I have been married 2 times. the first time I had 2 children and then divorced. I met a young man who was just out of high school 18 years old I was 23, He was a virgin, I wasnt. He stole my heart. we have been married 18 years now and I still love him like I did the first day I met him. I am so happy he waited for me, but sad I wasnt a virgin too. but he now just has a bigger family. We are happy and yes it does make a difference if u wait. Only my opinion. God Bless! keep it going
couldn't agree more man, it gets tough for us males.. thats for sure, but being reminded of the promises of God and the meaning behind a loving and pure relationship, well that gives off more than enough reasons to wait!
Wow, I feel like the Lord placed on my heart a very similar thing I feel like the Lord wants me to wait to date until the HE places my future husband in front of me, whoever he is, and that I don't need to date alot of different guys until I find the right one, because when your intimate whether it's physical or emotionally you give parts of yourself to that person. and when I marry I want to completely give myself to my husband in every posible way.
Wow, I feel like the Lord placed on my heart a very similar thing I feel like the Lord wants me to wait to date until the HE places my future husband in front of me, whoever he is, and that I don't need to date alot of different guys until I find the right one, because when your intimate whether it's physical or emotionally you give parts of yourself to that person. and when I marry I want to completely give myself to my husband in every posible way.
@journeyGhlover I feel God is calling me to the same, but its so hard when most girls my age seem to be dating even those in my church. It is so encouraging to hear someone who feels the same
I'm so posting this on my fb wall...Every Girl and Guy should hear this...This really spoke to me because you are from our generation...I think we as the young youth/adults of this world really need to start taking action and getting these types of messages out. two thumbs up....You are going to have a really lucky wife.
Way to go! As a mother of teenagers and a former teenager with regrets...thank you! My husband was a virgin when we were married 18 years ago. I wish I could have given him the same gift!
I totally agree with you. I wouldn't want the man I was meant to marry out having sex with other girls. I will def share this video. thank you for speaking bout it. :)
I'm married and I can tell you that everything you said is absolutely true. Marriage before sex affects your marital relationship HUGELY. As you said, why do we feel it's so necessary to have sex before we get married? I agree with you that it's quite possibly contributing to high divorce rates (here in Australia we're hurtling towards a 50% divorce rate too).
Good on you for being so honest! I'm going to tweet this.
This is the most awesome-st thing I have seen in a long time... You get mad respect from me... Keeping your virginity until you get married is an awesome thing.. Please don't get discouraged.. It's not what people say it is.. and if you wait and pray whether people acknowledge it or not God will bless you with a woman after his own heart one that he has predestined for you.. Who is pure and holy... Stay strong and be blessed!!
Amen!!! Thanks for posting this!!! I am a college student and I get sad with the conversations that I hear in the halls and classroom. I am saving myself for my Husband and I pray he is doing the same for me!!
I have to say, though, that my opinion on the waiting until marriage bit differs a bit. For me, marriage is insanely serious. If I ever marry, I will never divorce. If I take that step, I want to know for certain that it's with the right person. If that means being with someone for 10 years before I feel ready to marry them, so be it.
I agree a bit with the idea that divorce rates might be higher because of the effect of having shared yourself with someone else. But mostly I would say divorce rates are higher because of how america views divorce, today. Before, divorce meant shame. Now it just means freedom. And I guess that can be good; if someone is abused, for example, they won't feel pressured to stay. But then someone enters marriage expecting it to be easy, and surprise! Instead of working to make it better, divorce.
that means it didnt mean anything to him and neither would I mean anything to him if i gave in to what he wanted.
But anyway that's all I have to say. I agree with everything you said in your video.
And anyone reading all the comments I've posted, I encourage you to remain pure because when the right moment comes it will be something worth waiting for. Read the book Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry by Lisa Bevere (Alec's mother). It was the best book I have ever read about this topic.
and not be like, "well i did this a million times so its no big deal."
There is no need to be experienced in having sex. Really. There isn't. Besides it's not really a good subject topic and one will build up an reputation that soon no one will want to have anything to do with. Its not like you'd say, "So yesterday I did it with her, her and her and her but the first her was better than the third her but then they're just the ones i've did this week." When a guy says that ugh it turns me off..
do want to say to someone someday that like you, I waited to share it with them. God created it to be a beautiful thing, an intimate thing and not a "shoot the gun" kind of agreement with someone that could leave you in the next half an hour...
Thank you so much for reminding me that there are guys like you that are waiting for girls like me who are choosing to remain pure. I am worth waiting for. When I am married to the man that God has for me, it will be something that we will both cherish..
Save sex for marriage. Thank you for that great reminder. For me, I've been asked and pressured to have sex often but I always say no. I have never thought about having sex until I was married. A lot of guys have tried so many tactics into making me want to but still I say no. Now that I'm older and guys are so pushy more than ever saying that it's "fun" and "okay" it's really not fun because it can cause dangerous things such as STDs or motherhood too early and it's not okay because I ...
The world needs more guys that feel that think the way you do. I'm sick and tired of all my guy friends telling that there is something wrong with a 17 year old who has never been kissed. XP
@GoAllOutOrGoHome STAY STRONG! I'm 23 and never been kissed. It's going to be worth the wait. You're telling your future wife that she was worth the wait.
Its true. I didn't wait and it totally broke my heart. It's taken me two years to get over it. God didn't say wait because as my muma would say he likes the sound of his own voice, he said it for a reason. I would do anything to take it back I guess I learnt the hard way.
nomesbirdy 1 week ago
Its the filthy ZioNazi Jew media trying to pervert the Goyim children.
GDogOnaFlyTip 3 weeks ago
I find guys 10 times hotter when they have such awesome values and mindsets than those douches that even have sex with strangers.
biodomesan 3 months ago 2
@biodomesan i have one qestion and its just well.One time me and party freind where going to the a night club well he said you could get hot chicks inn the bed room and stuff well im a guy and for me it sounds like fun but when we saw girls and stuff we saw aloot off perfboys and honry guys waiting to take advantes on girls when they got drunk. my point is that i dont see why girls should party and get drunk for fun and then get laid by sum stranger! inn the bed room for me it sounds like rape!
557011 2 months ago
Great stuff my friend thanks for the encouragement always good to hear about the truth. Keep it up keep doing God's will man and He will bless you. Keep up the good work my friend and I am waiting for my wife as well. ~ Robbie P.S. Remember Jesus Loves You And So Do I!
Rbstr778 4 months ago
1:22-1:40 That's my favorite part :)
photogracieable 4 months ago
Yeap that True. Your Father's Driven By Eternity Encouraged my to wait until Marriage because in hour 5 I really understood the fear of the Lord.
ddamos00 4 months ago
amen! i agree 100%.
korimere 4 months ago
Good one bro... Sometimes you just gt caught in a moment and u tend to forget everything else and do it.. maybe for fun or maybe for love.. for the rest of the people who had it before marriage like my self.. i regret it soo much... respect bro..!
mikorox 4 months ago
you ARE set apart for her and she will love and cherish you even more for it :)
I hope God blesses you with a truly amazing woman!
sehmj 6 months ago
I'm glad people still have these principles!!! Good on you! Love it!
oconnercrap 6 months ago
Thank you Alec for being a true Man of God! I pray my sons will grow up to be like you...I saw your mum speak last night in Melbourne, Australia for the first time. I have hope to be a mum who leads her children into a personal relationship with Jesus and to lead a good life. God bless you!! Your future wife is one lucky gal *smile*
curveeangel 6 months ago 2
Woah, finally someone speaks the truth. I love how you brought up the divorce rate and your thought on why it might be so high. I completely agree with you on this. I don't want to be compared to other girls when I get married. I want to know that my husband waited for me. I don't want to have to look back and say to myself, "why didn't I wait?" I've met so many girls that didn't wait and have emotional scars because of it. Save yourself by saving sex for marriage.
perfectblueskies 8 months ago 4
I like the idea but depending on what kind of person you are if you wait then you might trigger the desire after the first. Then become overwhelmed with sexual lust for others and make things even worse for the one you chose I think that you should at least have sex 1 time before just to prepare plus its not really about sex to me its more about mental connection. I dunno just my thoughts no offense to anyone.
prdoomsday 8 months ago
I posted this on my blog :)
emilyruth4god 8 months ago
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2 Tim 2:22 (Weymouth New Testament)
Keep a strong curb, however, on your youthful cravings; and strive for integrity, good faith, love, peace, in company with all who pray to the Lord with pure hearts.
DareToWaitAbstain 9 months ago
his wife,who evr she is going to be...he made that vid be faith?awesome!!!
DareToWaitAbstain 9 months ago
Awesome! Way to speak for this generation. Me and my husband waited and it was soooooo worth it! :)
anjali2270 10 months ago
Christian. :)
TheBallerOnee 1 year ago
Thats a true man, a gentlemen. Glad to see that I'm not the only one standing up for true manhood. Well said, keep it up bud!
4Udiehard 1 year ago 3
Not about old school or new school...love in the sacred sense...religion or no shitty religion...loyalties to be committed in partnership will always be...
ROCK ON
KEEP SHARING...you message is needed
Thx
wingfjin 1 year ago
speak it bro, Amen
SuperFiona28 1 year ago
Praise God, I'm so uplifted to see that you are taking a stand showing this on youtube God bless you abundantly. I pray this will make a huge impact to this generation...
Rachelle
crazymarcca 1 year ago
Let me tell you, nothing touches my heart more than seeing a young man truly living for God, it's awesome to me. I have two little boys and I pray they feel the same way you do in the future. Thank you for being so bold as to step out and share this with the YouTube world, you are putting yourself out there and glorifying God by example, which isn't always easy. Thank you Alec....
(P.S. - Saw your mom at a womens' retreat in MA and she raved about her boys - love your videos! :) )
SuzyMGriff 1 year ago
Veryy much respect what you said.
Like your mentality..
thisrevolution77 1 year ago
great vid... thanks for posting.... Im 25 female christian, and i get pressured alot but i thank God for the values he has put in me to wait for my husband
jesusANme 1 year ago
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blossomrhex 1 year ago
awwesomeee!!
It's nice to hear someone speaking out about it! =D
blossomrhex 1 year ago 12
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You stupid cunt.
You don't know what your saying. Your intellect is far to shallow to be able to compute with what your parents write in their books. But you preach it anyway.
You should look up microphallus, considering you haven't been diagnosed yet.
By the way, you have a stutter.
And you couldn't arouse a monkey if you felt like it.
You uneducated fuck.
music0peace0love 1 year ago
@music0peace0love Shame on you.
1matthewung 1 year ago
@music0peace0love Ok, since you seem to know so much about Alec and his intellect and attractiveness etc. Let's have it, what middle school did he go to? Elementary? What is his nickname? how often does he shower!
Please don't show your own ignorance by attempting to quash someone elses free speech nor their right to an opinion, your the ignorant one!
lizziedavidson1987 1 year ago
Praise God for your life bro... allow me to share one of my favorite quotations when it comes in that matter, '' If love is great, sex can wait.'' Jesus set us an example how great a love can be. I really believed that if you really love the person, it is not the physical contact that really binds you together... but the genuine concern to his/her entire being. I mean if you really love this person, you would want to give him/her the best interest. I always wanted my first kiss on my wed. day
SHANNAnheia14 1 year ago 2
I like ure wordss badd thing is that theres few men left like u and actually ur right
ggnarvaez12 1 year ago 2
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Ok dude... first off, if you're not going to use it, cut it off and give it to somebody that will. You're entire video was about how you're waiting to give yourself to your wife, but yet you specifically say @1:41 "If you're having sex with whoever you want before you're married, whats the point of marriage?" To me that implies that you have no other reason to get married other than to get your virgin ass laid. Think about it dude. There is a difference between "sex" and "making love".
joshmorris5 1 year ago
Amen!!
Littlebits232 1 year ago
I could agree with this for hours and hours, lovin it mate.
zelkirb 1 year ago 2
I have been told by some men I know (ones whom are now married but had sex with others before marriage) that there is an intimacy that is voided with their wifes because of their past decisions. My wife and I both do not know what it is like to have sex outside of marriage, but I do know my wife and I have a major blessing because we chose to save such a sacred thing for marriage. I encourage everyone to do the same. Great video xsbevere. Stay strong for your future wife and God.
RefinersFire298 1 year ago
I agree with you man, I've been with my girlfriend for 3 1/3 years and we are still pure. it is possible to stay pure but if you don't have a relationship with Jesus Christ I garentee its gonna be impossible to stay pure with your girlfriend. I know I wouldn't have been able to do it without Him in my life and my girlfriends life.
Sadmonster 1 year ago
Amen brother
Sadmonster 1 year ago
i totally agree with you and feel exactly the same, and i wish more guys felt this way.. its super cool that you are willing to be open about your thoughts on sex before marriage, idk that courage is the right word but it definitely takes something out of the ordinary to be able to share your beliefs openly not caring what others may say, and i respect that
lsulogan0423 1 year ago
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ABSTINENCE is FREEDOM! The choices we make in our teens should not seen as only a time to have fun, we must see these choices (such as SEX) as choices that direct our lives, our future. i known many of my past classmates that have contracted STDs including AIDS, gotten pregnant, been raped, and have had abortions. For them SEX changed from "fun" to tragic. The choice i made in my teens has been a choice that has filled my 30s with so much joy! Leaving me with no regrets, only FREEDOM!
SARLIZLU 1 year ago
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ABSTINENCE is FREEDOM! The choices we make in our teens should not seen as only a time to have fun, we must see these choices (such as SEX) as choices that direct our lives, our future. i known many of my past classmates that have contracted STDs including AIDS, gotten pregnant, been raped, and have had abortions. For them SEX changed from "fun" to tragic. The choice i made in my teens has been a choice that has filled my 30s with so much joy! Leaving me with no regrets, only FREEDOM!
SARLIZLU 1 year ago
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ABSTINENCE is FREEDOM. The choices we make in our teens should not seen as only a time to have fun, we must see these choices (such as SEX) as choices that direct our lives, our future. i known many of my past classmates that have contracted STDs including AIDS, gotten pregnant, been raped, and have had abortions. For them SEX changed from "fun" to tragic. The choice i made in my teens has been a choice that has filled my 30s with so much joy! Leaving me with no regrets, only FREEDOM!
SARLIZLU 1 year ago
ABSTINENCE is FREEDOM. The choices we make in our teens should not seen as only a time to have fun, we must see these choices (such as SEX) as choices that direct our lives, our future. i known many of my past classmates that have contracted STDs including AIDS, gotten pregnant, been raped, and have had abortions. For them SEX changed from "fun" to tragic. The choice i made in my teens has been a choice that has filled my 30s with so much joy! Leaving me with no regrets, only FREEDOM!!
SARLIZLU 1 year ago
I completely agree! you have set high standards for your self and, your future wife. I wish others would think as you do. I my self am on the same boat im waiting till marriage.
TheHarleysteele 1 year ago
i totally agree with you :) there's not very many people that have these values nowadays and i really admire that in you. me and my boyfriend are waiting till we get married, it's so much better that way. and there needs to be more guys like you. :)
Baby6att 1 year ago
I actually saw this on facebook by one of my friends that had shared it. I love your way of thinking and I wish that more people still thought this way. You are so right, sex before marriage can cause a huge problem in your marriage, especially when it was with other people. Sex was meant to be a special thing and to most people now it is not. Thanks for sharing!
savannahrobison1 1 year ago
this video is great :) as i've been reading other comments, to the world it is a shock if a young person hasn't kissed or slept with someone. but it is great that we, as christians, can set the examples by the way we live our lives. being completely set apart for God with every area of our lives. it is so great to see others who believe in abstinence and who stand strong in the foundations of truth. God bless you brother and i pray that this message will reach the multitudes :)
God bless
Daniela
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xOxDaNiiELa 1 year ago
Thank you!! I am writing a book for teen girls right now on this very topic. I also talk to teen girls at purity conferences. I am so excited to let them know they don't need to give up because there really are a few "good men" left out there!!! Keep standing up for what is right! I was a virgin when I got married 11 years ago and we have not regrets!
jerandrach 1 year ago
I totally agree. I'm only 16 and even though I'm pretty young, I made the decision to save myself for my husband. Religion aside, I've always felt that I have an obligation to my future husband and my future children to stay pure in that aspect. I feel like whatever I do now, my husband and kids are one day going to have to live with the consequences & it's not fair to any of us.
I really do love this video. :)
NAtBO0tY 1 year ago
Alex that took alot of courage and I applaud you. Your mom and Dad have done a beautiful job raising you kids and you will all make a significant impact in this world. Thank you for standing up for the truth. BTW your little face has not changed since I saw you in a stroller tooling around the O.C.C. campus with your mom ( smile)
God BLess you!
Lauriewong0327 1 year ago
This is great! Thank you for taking a stand! i will certainly pass around.
thirstymoon77 1 year ago
I think you are right on my friend and I truly wish we all felt this way. I was one of those who had sex before I was married, many times with different people and I truly WISH I had waited. If I God hadn't forgiven me, that would be one area that I could never move past. That is something you can never get back. I do feel that people do not know how to give themselves compeletly. Ive been there, I married now and it was a battle. SO preach it brother, dont be ashamed, I love old school thinking
JoyHolliday 1 year ago
You are a wise man, and the fruit of your wisdom will be great and so sweet. My hearts desire is that many more young people would come to understand the truth of your message. Have you read "Sexual Revolution" by Kris Vallotton? If not you should check it out. You are of like mind.
dejahmocabee 1 year ago
That is soooo cool that you put this on YouTube. This is stuff people need to hear. Oh, and my mom (Shannon Schilling...your mom knows who she is) put this vid on her facebook. :)
zenithhourrox 1 year ago
I admire your honesty and commitment. I know that there are many times I regret not waiting for my husband. That experience is something that you should only share with one other person, otherwise what makes it special?
kkenyon86 1 year ago
you can't tell anymore if it's six o'clock or sex o' clock. sex is a primal drive and because it is so readily available we are a people who are preoccupied with sex as a way of life. it is said that you can find a sexual encounter before you can find something to eat! we need to be more focused on living life and being complete instead of going from one person to another. there is more to life than just that!
29psalm 1 year ago
We face multiple challenges now in our world and unfortunately God's values are not reinforced by our governments or society... or even more importantly, in our familes. I believe that one of our struggles today is that we actually have 'freedom' to decide what sex, marriage and homosexuality means to us as individuals. Therefore one can never say to the other that their thinking is wrong, otherwise it is a breach of one's liberty. We must therefore stand strong in our faith
ann4rain 1 year ago
oh my God...i wish i could get a guy like you... may God help u to find someone with same ideas like u.
zysa1 1 year ago
That's very very True ;) I agree with you ... thank you for sharing ... God Bless you
kinguci2 1 year ago
Soo true! I wish I wouldve waited but got confused on the thought of love. In the end it only hurts you. That is why it is soo important to wait. Because when you do that person will never forsake you or leave you. Your only supposed to share yourself with onee person in this world and that is your soulmate. Great video glad to see someone standing up.
KristinaThamilton08 1 year ago
I completely agree. Thank you for sharing this. Awesome!
lovingonly1 1 year ago 2
Totally respect your feelings, but i have to disagree! For me, this is making a huge deal out of sex, but it's really not that important a part of life. it's only one aspect of a relationship and not the most important! marriage is about love and commitment. building sex up as if it's a huge deal puts more focus on sex in a relationship than there needs to be. not to mention pressure and probable disappointment on the wedding night because of how much it's built up as a big deal before hand!
ferriswheeljunkie 1 year ago
I appreciate this so much.. I pray my boys will stand for this when they grow up
sarahredscarf 1 year ago
At its core, marriage is a means to assure that each parent is confident in the paternity of a child. Generally speaking however, marriage is and has been different culture to culture and has changed in meaning over time—a business deal in European history to an act of 'love' in modern cultures. The idea that one shouldn't have sex before marriage is in my opinion antiquated and nothing to do with 'love', but instead religiously motivated.
Roundlay 1 year ago
why you ask? because of pleasure not because of TV.
You don`t marry because of sex, you marry to settle down and found a family.
BashFeri1 1 year ago
You make very good points, and I enjoyed your video. However, you say, "What's the point of marriage if you have sex before you're married?" But the point of marriage is not so you can have sex. It is a sacrament, and you make a vow before God that you want to spend the rest of your life with the person you love.
princess9834 1 year ago
awesome :) i would love whoever i'm going to marry to feel that way too. people call me innocent and stuff because i don't do stuff with guys. but i think they are missing out. thanks for sharing :)
tahiriveilax 1 year ago 2
I shared this video buddy..I am a mom of three boys and highly respect your family and you for sharing this and taking the time to do it.
sarahredscarf 1 year ago
To hear a guy say that is so refreshing. Thank you for standing up for what you believe in. You're an amazing example to boys and men everywhere. Stay strong and thank you for letting me know there are good guys out there who feel the way that I do. :) I just started a channel on Purity ministry for girls, I'm definitely going to direct them to this video when I get some followers.
TheGenerationPure 1 year ago
You're awesome Alec. This is a topic that needs to be discussed. I think half the reason people give in is because we just don't talk about sex in a light other than immediate satisfaction and numbers. I love this. Keep rockin it!
o6waverider9o 1 year ago
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You're awesome Alec. This is a topic that needs to be discussed. I think half the reason people give in is because we just don't talk about sex in a light other than immediate satisfaction and numbers. I love this. Keep rockin it!
o6waverider9o 1 year ago
You're awesome Alec. This is a topic that needs to be discussed. I think half the reason people give in is because we just don't talk about sex in a light other than immediate satisfaction and numbers. I love this. Keep rockin it!
o6waverider9o 1 year ago
Thats the right mentality! Thanks for being bold enough to say this publicly! Stay blessed!
setfree4 1 year ago 2
With more youngsters who have the courage and control to say NO, thew world would definitely be a better place. Stand up for what you believe!!
solpria 1 year ago 2
way to go Alec!!
lindsayraquelmay 1 year ago
Very true. Thank you, your words of wisdom are very much appreciated.
JuJu8892 1 year ago
Good msg. You're awesome for sharing that. I believe this msg will influence other people and especially boys/men. I think in this society sex is so out there that boys especially are ashamed to wait or admit that they're waiting, but I believe this msg will reach the youth :)
siniyeglaza 1 year ago
the world needs more people like you....our world would be totally different if we all thought that way....and i feel the same way you do about the subject...
lim3gr33nkk 1 year ago
This is so true. Its amazing that a young adult feels this way.
jnp010 1 year ago
Amen! God bless you
MariRTym 1 year ago
amen it really is good to know there are people who share the same beliefs, sometimes i look around and i just wonder if i'm the only one. thank you for sharing, this was great.
rambunctiousdaffodil 1 year ago
I think this is awesome, it's great that you are so honest and have spoken out about this. I feel very strongly about this also, I'm 21 and not embarrassed to say that I am waiting for my husband, I know it's one of the best decisions I have ever made and will not regret it. Thank you so much for sharing this.
biro89 1 year ago
Amen, keep speaking wisdom like this. We need to create a culture where THIS kind of thinking is the NORM, and the worldly way of thinking is admonished justly and fairly as it should.
novanleon 1 year ago
This message is awesome. Thank you for proving to me that there are still guys out there who are waiting.
AprilDanell88 1 year ago
I totally agree with you and I'm so glad you feel this way. I am now living a wonderful marriage with a wonderful man. Both of us had had sex before marriage. Both of us would go back and change that if we could, we wish we had waited. We wish we didn't have ANY memories whatsoever of anyone else, they just pollute the mind and bring confusion. How wonderful to have no knowledge or memories of anyone but your spouse for the whole of your life. Beautiful and praiseworthy. Yeah.
TheGospelAction 1 year ago
...you are saving yourself and others from much heartbreak. And instead, storing up treasures for yourself. I waited until my wedding night & it was the most beautiful experience. My husband hadnt waited, and it was a painful fact of life that I had to accept. May you be blessed & remember to keep your wife and her purity in your prayers. The world sets so many traps...
scovert06 1 year ago 2
Amen brother. I pray you continue to renew your mind daily and stay on the path of integrity. y
scovert06 1 year ago
Amen! We have a teen age daughter and we've prayed since her birth for her husband! Stay strong! and keep using your voice for purity! True love waits! God bless you!
TodaysScripture 1 year ago
stop bringing god into this. it's a matter of common sense. If you have sex before you're married to someone you feel like you love, there is nothing wrong with that. If you're running around having sex with random girls, then you are probably not going to have a successful marriage anyway.
MrOkokonoko 1 year ago
@MrOkokonoko It is this mentality that leads to a 50 percent divorce rate.
A misunderstanding of what true "LOVE" is and what it means to declare that love in a God honoring way.
ajoy2smile 1 year ago
@MrOkokonoko God is brought into it because there are very few people that can think this way on their own having this clear, deep and coherent thinking. Only simple minded people don't understand the ideas behind it. Every relationship you have, every experience you share with someone else, it takes away what you are able to offer to the person you eventually marry. You always have baggage, even if mental baggage, memories of intimate moments with others that when you find The One you'll
sweetbutdaring 1 year ago
@MrOkokonoko ...really wish u didn't have but it's only when u* meet someone that your relationship is special enough, that they mean that much 2 u that u'll understand why it's so important to be untainted. (*Not u specifically but everyone). Can't u see all the messages here of people that didn't wait & eventually found that special person & really regretted having slept wth other people? Relationships are so much stronger when its just about the 2 people & doesn't involve people from the past
sweetbutdaring 1 year ago
Respect. Love it. It's nice to hear from mouths of the youth that it is worth waiting for. I am in the same boat. Waiting (29 years). So much is focused on the sexual aspect of humanity that distracts from realizing what it's doing to people's self worth. It changes perceptions, perspectives, and devalues something that was created to be beautiful. Giving yourself away to just anybody will tear you apart inside. Hold out, it'll be worth it. Thanks Alec.
MaryAdaCookie 1 year ago
Bless you Alec for sharing this! I pray that your message is heard by all the youth our there and changes lives!
frozentatertot 1 year ago
I wish there were more guys like you
SaruhLorraine92 1 year ago 26
I hope that my future husband has the guts and the conviction to save himself for me! Props to you for having the bravery to post this and live it in your own life! Not enough people are willing to these days..
jessface777 1 year ago
wow alec. Great post. That takes real courage to post something like this. You're a champion. I toally agree, sex after marriage is such a better way to go. When I tell people that they laugh but in the end it doesnt matter. Doing a great job :)
Maddddy95 1 year ago
Sorry to break the mood... But I didn't wait and I'm living a completely happy life
sperry1458 1 year ago
I had sex before marriage, i have a 7 year old child and still dont have a husband. Its tough. I wish I never went there before I was married to the one God had for me.
SpiritfilledDaughter 1 year ago
Great Post. It's a great reminder to our generation! We should never settle for less than God's best for our lives. 23 and I've never been kissed. I'm so excited to give myself completely to my husband when God's timing is right. Until then... { Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life} Proverbs 4:23 ( Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires) Song of Songs 8:4
ajoy2smile 1 year ago
@ajoy2smile obviously "god's best" isn't a very good choice since there is a 50 percent divorce rate.
MrOkokonoko 1 year ago
@MrOkokonoko The 50% divorce rate is as a result of people not waiting. Divorce is at an all-time high, when promiscuity was rife, when it was NORMAL to wait, divorce was low. It's no coincidence. Love is purer, stronger and longer lasting when both people are whole, not having given themselves emotionally and physically to many people. People that have abstained and people who have dated and slept with many people have very different behaviour in relationships.
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ajoy2smile 1 year ago
THANK YOU FOR BEING MAN ENOUGH TO DEMONSTRATE THE COURAGE TO CALL OUT THOSE WHO PROMOTE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. IT IS OK TO BE OLD SCHOOL, AND GOD BLESSES THAT KIND OF THINKING. YOUR DETERMINATION TO REMAIN PURE FOR MARRIAGE PROVIDES FOR THE GREATEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE YOUR FUTURE WIFE. GOD MADE SEX, AND HE MADE IT GREAT, BUT HE ALSO MADE IT EXCLUSIVELY FOR MARRIAGE. PART OF THE PROBLEM IS YOUTH YOUNGER THAN YOU ENGAGE IN MANUAL, ORAL, AND ANAL SEX SAYING THAT THAT IS NOT "SEX. SEX IS SEX!
raymeo888 1 year ago 2
I wish i had believed that earlier. i gave in, i didn't wait. and i've never regretted anything more in my life. giving yourself to someone means giving a piece of your heart away that you can never get back. like taking a bite out of a cookie. it's never the same. I've now dedicated myself to my future husband and set myself apart for him, but i know that at one point i'll have to have that conversation with him, and that tears me apart. please learn from my mistake. wait. it's worth it.
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ThePainterofwords 1 year ago
I have been married 2 times. the first time I had 2 children and then divorced. I met a young man who was just out of high school 18 years old I was 23, He was a virgin, I wasnt. He stole my heart. we have been married 18 years now and I still love him like I did the first day I met him. I am so happy he waited for me, but sad I wasnt a virgin too. but he now just has a bigger family. We are happy and yes it does make a difference if u wait. Only my opinion. God Bless! keep it going
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couldn't agree more man, it gets tough for us males.. thats for sure, but being reminded of the promises of God and the meaning behind a loving and pure relationship, well that gives off more than enough reasons to wait!
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supernickismyname 1 year ago
Wow, I feel like the Lord placed on my heart a very similar thing I feel like the Lord wants me to wait to date until the HE places my future husband in front of me, whoever he is, and that I don't need to date alot of different guys until I find the right one, because when your intimate whether it's physical or emotionally you give parts of yourself to that person. and when I marry I want to completely give myself to my husband in every posible way.
journeyGhlover 1 year ago
Wow, I feel like the Lord placed on my heart a very similar thing I feel like the Lord wants me to wait to date until the HE places my future husband in front of me, whoever he is, and that I don't need to date alot of different guys until I find the right one, because when your intimate whether it's physical or emotionally you give parts of yourself to that person. and when I marry I want to completely give myself to my husband in every posible way.
journeyGhlover 1 year ago
@journeyGhlover I feel God is calling me to the same, but its so hard when most girls my age seem to be dating even those in my church. It is so encouraging to hear someone who feels the same
xXxPureSunshinexXx 1 year ago 2
I'm so posting this on my fb wall...Every Girl and Guy should hear this...This really spoke to me because you are from our generation...I think we as the young youth/adults of this world really need to start taking action and getting these types of messages out. two thumbs up....You are going to have a really lucky wife.
Babyrufus123456 1 year ago
Way to go! As a mother of teenagers and a former teenager with regrets...thank you! My husband was a virgin when we were married 18 years ago. I wish I could have given him the same gift!
TheNikkernoo 1 year ago
Alec, you rock!! What a gift this video will be to your future wife! Love ya man!
BarronTribe 1 year ago
I totally agree with you. I wouldn't want the man I was meant to marry out having sex with other girls. I will def share this video. thank you for speaking bout it. :)
deaSongbird 1 year ago
Brilliant Alex, keep posting.
mummachocolatte 1 year ago
Amen!!! That was GREAT : ) I completely agree.
irad0704 1 year ago
Absolutely brilliant, I totally agree, keep preaching we need to understand more on why God made His covenant with us - Thank you Alec - Jane
JaneNeike 1 year ago
This is fantastic.
I'm married and I can tell you that everything you said is absolutely true. Marriage before sex affects your marital relationship HUGELY. As you said, why do we feel it's so necessary to have sex before we get married? I agree with you that it's quite possibly contributing to high divorce rates (here in Australia we're hurtling towards a 50% divorce rate too).
Good on you for being so honest! I'm going to tweet this.
MrsLeimgruber 1 year ago
This is the most awesome-st thing I have seen in a long time... You get mad respect from me... Keeping your virginity until you get married is an awesome thing.. Please don't get discouraged.. It's not what people say it is.. and if you wait and pray whether people acknowledge it or not God will bless you with a woman after his own heart one that he has predestined for you.. Who is pure and holy... Stay strong and be blessed!!
peachiechick2000 1 year ago
Amen!!! Thanks for posting this!!! I am a college student and I get sad with the conversations that I hear in the halls and classroom. I am saving myself for my Husband and I pray he is doing the same for me!!
tellab06 1 year ago 2
I have to say, though, that my opinion on the waiting until marriage bit differs a bit. For me, marriage is insanely serious. If I ever marry, I will never divorce. If I take that step, I want to know for certain that it's with the right person. If that means being with someone for 10 years before I feel ready to marry them, so be it.
PseudoKitsch 1 year ago
I agree a bit with the idea that divorce rates might be higher because of the effect of having shared yourself with someone else. But mostly I would say divorce rates are higher because of how america views divorce, today. Before, divorce meant shame. Now it just means freedom. And I guess that can be good; if someone is abused, for example, they won't feel pressured to stay. But then someone enters marriage expecting it to be easy, and surprise! Instead of working to make it better, divorce.
PseudoKitsch 1 year ago
that means it didnt mean anything to him and neither would I mean anything to him if i gave in to what he wanted.
But anyway that's all I have to say. I agree with everything you said in your video.
And anyone reading all the comments I've posted, I encourage you to remain pure because when the right moment comes it will be something worth waiting for. Read the book Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry by Lisa Bevere (Alec's mother). It was the best book I have ever read about this topic.
okayumbye 1 year ago
and not be like, "well i did this a million times so its no big deal."
There is no need to be experienced in having sex. Really. There isn't. Besides it's not really a good subject topic and one will build up an reputation that soon no one will want to have anything to do with. Its not like you'd say, "So yesterday I did it with her, her and her and her but the first her was better than the third her but then they're just the ones i've did this week." When a guy says that ugh it turns me off..
okayumbye 1 year ago
do want to say to someone someday that like you, I waited to share it with them. God created it to be a beautiful thing, an intimate thing and not a "shoot the gun" kind of agreement with someone that could leave you in the next half an hour...
Thank you so much for reminding me that there are guys like you that are waiting for girls like me who are choosing to remain pure. I am worth waiting for. When I am married to the man that God has for me, it will be something that we will both cherish..
okayumbye 1 year ago
Save sex for marriage. Thank you for that great reminder. For me, I've been asked and pressured to have sex often but I always say no. I have never thought about having sex until I was married. A lot of guys have tried so many tactics into making me want to but still I say no. Now that I'm older and guys are so pushy more than ever saying that it's "fun" and "okay" it's really not fun because it can cause dangerous things such as STDs or motherhood too early and it's not okay because I ...
okayumbye 1 year ago
thats the cutest thing ever. finally a guy who isn't all about sex. I'm really amazed! good job. :)
spcalover1 1 year ago 2
awwwwwwwww that was amazing!!!!! :)
cuzimabeauty 1 year ago
The world needs more guys that feel that think the way you do. I'm sick and tired of all my guy friends telling that there is something wrong with a 17 year old who has never been kissed. XP
GoAllOutOrGoHome 1 year ago 12
@GoAllOutOrGoHome , I hear the same thing but I am 22. It doesnt get to me any more though.
tellab06 1 year ago
@tellab06 Yeah I'm slowly but surely learning to ignore it
GoAllOutOrGoHome 1 year ago
@GoAllOutOrGoHome STAY STRONG! I'm 23 and never been kissed. It's going to be worth the wait. You're telling your future wife that she was worth the wait.
TheGenerationPure 1 year ago 2
you rock bro.
Keep being a light.
That woman is waiting for you man.
thekennethgoodwin 1 year ago