Hey long time no talk lol. You gotta do what you gotta do and if that means tell someone like it is then so be it. They'll either take it or get mad just cause your tellin the truth.
Ive never been one for getting back together with an ex but I have been dating a guy for a while now and got quite close to him and now we have split due to his own probs. Any way.... I must admit if he came to his sences and asked for me back I would prob say YES. And this is so not my style :/
Being open to all your feelings (which you seem to have a good handle on) and just living life so that time will pass are the two best ways to get over past crap. So, basically, I got nothin'. Give yourself a break and maybe give others a wee bit of an easier time, too. You seem pretty gosh-darn healthy to me.
Maybe I should have watched this video before commenting on the last one. However, I didn't say anything negative about Devon, and neither would I. It is entirely the business of you two alone. I hope that you can find a level that you can both happily operate on with mutual respect and love for each other. My best wishes go to you both. x
As for your opinion that you may be becoming 'power obsessed', I disagree. You are simply experiencing life, and becoming more confident and mature because of it. There is nothing wrong with standing your ground when defending your right to be yourself.
I wonder, do you think your change in view on the subject of getting back with someone who left you to be hypocritical or just a revelation. Like when people are really against drugs or smoking until they themselves part take, then is the best thing since sliced bread.
I don't think you're power obsessed. You're just growing and maturing. When you leave home and come back, your parents don't experience all of the things that you do nor do they see how you've grown. They tend to just pick up where you left off. It's gonna happen for a while longer, so just be ready. It eventually goes away though. Side note...I'm loving this new found confidence. You wear it well.
sounds like you have some anger issues to resolve. Or maybe you r standing up for urself finally. You are a man now, nothing wrong with insisting on a lil respect
I definitely know how you're feeling. Went through a breakup, moved out, and I have definitely noticed I've changed. I think it's because I've realized that not everyone is going to take my side or back me up - I need to take care of myself first and foremost. It's important to not be stepped on, but there's a fine line between defending yourself from being stepped on and stepping on others, right? It's tricky. Happy to hear you're back with your boyfriend though, hope all is well :)
From what it sounds like, it seems like you've realized its time to defend yourself. There will be tons of people in this world (including parents) that will question your judgement and you just have to put them in their place. So your change of attitude is normal by 100%. As far as getting back together with an ex, no one can tell you what to do. You just have to go with the flow and if your heart tells you that something isn't right, most likely it isnt. Good luck :-) Subscribed <3
@SceneGirlBarbie Being on the defensive doesn't seem natural to me, hmm. But I guess it's naive to assume nobody will challenge my choices. Thanks so much <3
@colmonhs That's an interesting way of looking at it. I guess it depends on the circumstances, but I do agree and think that it's much harder to work through your negative emotions towards someone, rather than dwelling on them or letting them continue.
Hey! Im a huge fan! Ive been suscribed too ur videos since last october. Thanks for what ur doin in the community! This comment was A LOT longer but youtube mobile sucks and the whole thing wouldnt post...PLEASE inbox me!!
sometimes the changes are like an avalanche. there is one point that start a whole bunch of changes in life and sometimes the changes take a lot of time and work. do not worry about that, i have noticed this a lot of times and all of this experiences make you the man you are.
in fact one of my nephews is in nearly the same situation (we talk a lot because his father (my brother) is an idiot)
It means learning from your mistakes, giving your all, holding on when you need to and letting go when neccessary. Receiving gratefully, giving unconditionally . Loving fully and forgiving totally. These are some of the ways that you can tame the beasts.
@BIGBALLSSEESALL oh? lol. I actually hated that song when it was released, but hearing it in the club so much afterwards has brainwashed me into liking it :-)
I got back together with 2 exes and it didn't end well. Things are just different the second time around for me. However to be fair in both cases we got back together without really dealing with what broke us up the first time so that kept coming back up in arguments. It's definitely not something I think I can do again but maybe for the right person and under the right circumstances I can.
@dustinthewind2u Thanks for your perspective! I definitely think being open and dealing with issues before they balloon is a good thing to handle as soon as possible, and I actively try to do that. I hope all is well with you!
@shabbesgoj I've just never noticed a change so sudden, it's all usually gradual. And it freaks me out that it's almost all affected by my interactions with one person.
And yes, my boyfriend has NEVER disrespected me. :-) He's a great guy.
Life can be a beast and it does change from moment to moment , but i beleive that you have what it takes to conquer the beast and win at life challenges.
So he breaks up with you so he can "find himself" aka be a slut & sleep around....and then comes rushing back when things aint as rosey as he was hoping & you let him?...as he leaves you again once his hormones start a raging...hm, and u think ur grown huh cus u can pay a few bills? payin bills dont make u a man!! u feelin that puss i see!
and being blunt & rude is not cute,just saying w/e u want cus u feel like it gon get u slapped,i guess u dont like having friends...glad i dont do that...
@BarrettTV mmm, puttin' all that business from my drunken phone conversation out there, lol. We'll see what happens. I told you a very emotionally charged version of what happened, but yeah we'll see.
@xypowerpop lmao oh i just assumed you had mentioned all of that in a previous video...but thats right,i heard it from you on the phone,whoops...we dont talk that often so i just figured thats why i knew that...
@xypowerpop You handled the rude comments from BarrettTV very well. That shows that you're more mature than he is. If nothing else shows it, that certainly does. You're awesome, keep rocking on and don't be too hard on yourself.
@NIstrumone what an interesting claim. I'm always thinking about and rethinking aspects of myself, so I guess this can be considered "confusion." My sexuality itself is something that I'm definitely secure with, haha. I've been out for about half a decade now.
I can't recall precisely when I realised I was a fully grown adult living in my parents' house. I guess it must've been around 20 [at Uni, first proper job], and I'm newly 25.
And I can't say at all about your relationship question as 1) I've never gotten back with someone whose dumped me as of yet. My ex in question just completely shut me out over 3 weeks ago now [didn't respond to calls, txts, unfriended us on FB etc.] - and other than a letter
@Chosenoneknuckles describing how hurt I felt [but balanced with some positives of what I felt we had] that he couldn't be honest with me [whatever that truth is, I don't know - and my mind can't settle on one] about 2 weeks back, I've done [and heard] nothing else.
I pulled my head out of the sand the last [and first] time we had a tiff. Tis only fair... And I know that forcing a meet would make him run, so, yeah. Just glad I didn't tell him that I [felt] I was falling in love with him.
@xypowerpop Yeah. If he'd just said he didn't feel the same [or was drawn to someone else] then, yes, I would've been hurt - but I would've let him go. I only wanted us to be happy, and if that's not together then, well, I'll deal with that [eventually].
I'm not 'over him' yet. But I think about him less now. And what comes is more of a numb feeling when I do [than feeling like I've been stabbed in the stomach]. So I'm getting there mate... Getting there. :)
Your situation is perfectly normal. It's just a matter of being put under severe stress, and your mind has gone into an aggressive state to keep you from feeling as though you've lost in life. Everyone has a set way of doing things in life, and if it seems as though it's suddenly starting to fail, one feels as though they've lost control, and some would try to regain control, often in an aggressive or semi-aggressive manner. I've been there, so I know for sure what you're enduring.
@1AlexWagner That's a really interesting way of looking at things. I've read over this comment three times already, and probably will do it a few more times. Hmm. Not sure how to reply yet, because my thoughts haven't fully formed.
it's so hard with family because even when we are on our own and work hard and everything...to them....we are still kids. ya know? i totally relate to how you feel. i'm glad you and the bf are back together and i hope it works out :)
@andypulido Yep, I do know, all too well D: I'm glad you can relate to my experience, Andy!! Sometimes I feel so alone in this. I hope things work out too. :)
@BIGBALLSSEESALL Oh gosh, I suppose I'll keep trucking. I feel like my younger self was much nicer and warmer, haha. I still want to be a nice & warm person!! D:
You are growing up and coming into your the adult person you're going to be. I hope your boyfriend is feels about you the way you feel about him.yuo seem like a sincere and cool young man and i wish you well on your relationship and your life.
@carmelious111 Aghhh, this is another part of "growing up" that I've never before experienced. haha. I feel like "growing up" is a beast that changes shape every other moment.
iv REALLY been there myself! real power struggles with ppl who think there something MORE than u... but there nobodies just like u and i lmao
chrisbartley88 1 month ago
I love your videos ^_^
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your growing up. . .thats all it is.
MrGuylaugher 2 months ago
Hey long time no talk lol. You gotta do what you gotta do and if that means tell someone like it is then so be it. They'll either take it or get mad just cause your tellin the truth.
4realjimmy 2 months ago
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Ive never been one for getting back together with an ex but I have been dating a guy for a while now and got quite close to him and now we have split due to his own probs. Any way.... I must admit if he came to his sences and asked for me back I would prob say YES. And this is so not my style :/
whiteandfluffy701d 2 months ago
Being open to all your feelings (which you seem to have a good handle on) and just living life so that time will pass are the two best ways to get over past crap. So, basically, I got nothin'. Give yourself a break and maybe give others a wee bit of an easier time, too. You seem pretty gosh-darn healthy to me.
Elaina43 2 months ago
Maybe I should have watched this video before commenting on the last one. However, I didn't say anything negative about Devon, and neither would I. It is entirely the business of you two alone. I hope that you can find a level that you can both happily operate on with mutual respect and love for each other. My best wishes go to you both. x
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As for your opinion that you may be becoming 'power obsessed', I disagree. You are simply experiencing life, and becoming more confident and mature because of it. There is nothing wrong with standing your ground when defending your right to be yourself.
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I wonder, do you think your change in view on the subject of getting back with someone who left you to be hypocritical or just a revelation. Like when people are really against drugs or smoking until they themselves part take, then is the best thing since sliced bread.
ShawnNotFiction 2 months ago
nice background and good to see you have you own place. I need to get my own place and soon.
LogicalSanity 2 months ago
My boy is growing up. You will go threw stages in life. I went threw the Fukitol stage in life. It will evolve again. Good luck on your studies.
aajunior 2 months ago
Hmmmm...
tosheatower 2 months ago
I don't think you're power obsessed. You're just growing and maturing. When you leave home and come back, your parents don't experience all of the things that you do nor do they see how you've grown. They tend to just pick up where you left off. It's gonna happen for a while longer, so just be ready. It eventually goes away though. Side note...I'm loving this new found confidence. You wear it well.
luckeeleeyeo 2 months ago 2
Glad u think so, hope it works for u, nothing to it ,but to do it!!!!
carmelious111 2 months ago
I so admire your ability to always be down to earth and to analyze yourself even when surrounded by bullshit. What a level head. You can do it! :)
sheisverylooloo 2 months ago
Great video!!!You are growing up...enjoy it...have fun @ school...Hi to Shawn..
LEEP1948 2 months ago
Love is the strongest magnet in the world unless your pulled far apart you'll always come back together.
drdantepereirea 2 months ago
sounds like you have some anger issues to resolve. Or maybe you r standing up for urself finally. You are a man now, nothing wrong with insisting on a lil respect
sleekcartim 2 months ago
hehe, certainly an interesting time in life.
tattooskin72 2 months ago
Awesome vid sir. It's awesome to watch you grow & develop over all these years. Much love Darien.
sfcalvinaz 2 months ago
I have to admit I don't always really listen to what you say on your videos. You are just so fucking cute and I just can't stop looking at you.
MrBisteve 2 months ago
I definitely know how you're feeling. Went through a breakup, moved out, and I have definitely noticed I've changed. I think it's because I've realized that not everyone is going to take my side or back me up - I need to take care of myself first and foremost. It's important to not be stepped on, but there's a fine line between defending yourself from being stepped on and stepping on others, right? It's tricky. Happy to hear you're back with your boyfriend though, hope all is well :)
MyDadsASpymusic 2 months ago
Speak a little Japanese for us. Please? :D
And good luck with your relationship.
Leadman1989 2 months ago
Congrats :)
gsxellence 2 months ago
From what it sounds like, it seems like you've realized its time to defend yourself. There will be tons of people in this world (including parents) that will question your judgement and you just have to put them in their place. So your change of attitude is normal by 100%. As far as getting back together with an ex, no one can tell you what to do. You just have to go with the flow and if your heart tells you that something isn't right, most likely it isnt. Good luck :-) Subscribed <3
SceneGirlBarbie 2 months ago 2
@SceneGirlBarbie Being on the defensive doesn't seem natural to me, hmm. But I guess it's naive to assume nobody will challenge my choices. Thanks so much <3
xypowerpop 2 months ago 2
Look at you being bitchy. Welcome to my world.
ATFierce 2 months ago
@ATFierce LOL. Oh nooo. We must strive to be wonderful & kind people - yeah?
xypowerpop 2 months ago 2
@xypowerpop umm.... on occasion. LOL
ATFierce 2 months ago
Ehh, you're just flexing your adult ego and emotional muscle. Good hearing from you again.
JCJasion 2 months ago 2
@JCJasion I guess so, lol. I'm always glad to have you in my circle, Jim. I hope all is well with you
xypowerpop 2 months ago
As long as no one cheated because once a cheater always a cheater
drdantepereirea 2 months ago
@drdantepereirea No one cheated :) heh. But do you really think so? Why is that?
xypowerpop 2 months ago
Oh I know how you feel but going back to someone isn't a bad thing if your in love it will always happen you will always be drawn to the person
drdantepereirea 2 months ago
I think getting back to an ex in a mature relationship is manly.Unlike childish " I'll hate them forever! WAaaaaa" relationships.
Good luck with your test.
colmonhs 2 months ago
@colmonhs That's an interesting way of looking at it. I guess it depends on the circumstances, but I do agree and think that it's much harder to work through your negative emotions towards someone, rather than dwelling on them or letting them continue.
xypowerpop 2 months ago
In the words of RuPaul: Let these bitches have it!
BIGBALLSSEESALL 2 months ago
@BIGBALLSSEESALL LOL. that's a good phrase to live by.
xypowerpop 2 months ago
Hey! Im a huge fan! Ive been suscribed too ur videos since last october. Thanks for what ur doin in the community! This comment was A LOT longer but youtube mobile sucks and the whole thing wouldnt post...PLEASE inbox me!!
Kiddblu9 2 months ago
@Kiddblu9 D'awww, thanks :D check your inbox. :P
xypowerpop 2 months ago
sometimes the changes are like an avalanche. there is one point that start a whole bunch of changes in life and sometimes the changes take a lot of time and work. do not worry about that, i have noticed this a lot of times and all of this experiences make you the man you are.
in fact one of my nephews is in nearly the same situation (we talk a lot because his father (my brother) is an idiot)
shabbesgoj 2 months ago
@shabbesgoj I'm used to life changing like an avalanche, just unfamiliar with my own personality changing like that. Hmm.
That's interesting about your nephew. I hope he's faring well!
xypowerpop 2 months ago
It means learning from your mistakes, giving your all, holding on when you need to and letting go when neccessary. Receiving gratefully, giving unconditionally . Loving fully and forgiving totally. These are some of the ways that you can tame the beasts.
carmelious111 2 months ago
@carmelious111 That's a good summation of it, i guess haha
xypowerpop 2 months ago
will you ever do a vid with your bf?? it's no fair that we don't get to see him :(
XforeverlongingX 2 months ago
@XforeverlongingX he's on this channel and my alternate channel, as you've already seen :)
xypowerpop 2 months ago
You need to make Rihanna's S&M your mantra. lol
BIGBALLSSEESALL 2 months ago
@BIGBALLSSEESALL oh? lol. I actually hated that song when it was released, but hearing it in the club so much afterwards has brainwashed me into liking it :-)
xypowerpop 2 months ago
I got back together with 2 exes and it didn't end well. Things are just different the second time around for me. However to be fair in both cases we got back together without really dealing with what broke us up the first time so that kept coming back up in arguments. It's definitely not something I think I can do again but maybe for the right person and under the right circumstances I can.
dustinthewind2u 2 months ago
@dustinthewind2u Thanks for your perspective! I definitely think being open and dealing with issues before they balloon is a good thing to handle as soon as possible, and I actively try to do that. I hope all is well with you!
xypowerpop 2 months ago
you change your attitude, that is ok, it is normal, you are becomming an adult, you call for the respect that you deserve.
but does your boyfreind give you the respect you deserve?
(bad english - hope you understand)
shabbesgoj 2 months ago
@shabbesgoj I've just never noticed a change so sudden, it's all usually gradual. And it freaks me out that it's almost all affected by my interactions with one person.
And yes, my boyfriend has NEVER disrespected me. :-) He's a great guy.
xypowerpop 2 months ago
Life can be a beast and it does change from moment to moment , but i beleive that you have what it takes to conquer the beast and win at life challenges.
carmelious111 2 months ago
@carmelious111 True that. I hope you're right. I wonder what "conquering" the beat entails..
xypowerpop 2 months ago
GOOD LUCK WITH THE EXAM & IM STARTING 2 GET POWER CONTROL MORE OR LESS GAINING POWER OVER MY LIFE
Pryceless1988 2 months ago
@Pryceless1988 thanks!! :D and I'm happy for you!!
xypowerpop 2 months ago
@xypowerpop welcomes and thanxs
Pryceless1988 2 months ago
hm,how nice that these sacred relics for some people are your Tchotchkes...
hmmmm,look @ u cheesin it up just by mentioning him, "love" huh?...oh how nice
"my fuckin journal" ....that the whole world can see...hope u dont regret puttin ur bidness out later...
BarrettTV 2 months ago
@BarrettTV i hope i don't, either :-/
xypowerpop 2 months ago
So he breaks up with you so he can "find himself" aka be a slut & sleep around....and then comes rushing back when things aint as rosey as he was hoping & you let him?...as he leaves you again once his hormones start a raging...hm, and u think ur grown huh cus u can pay a few bills? payin bills dont make u a man!! u feelin that puss i see!
and being blunt & rude is not cute,just saying w/e u want cus u feel like it gon get u slapped,i guess u dont like having friends...glad i dont do that...
BarrettTV 2 months ago
@BarrettTV mmm, puttin' all that business from my drunken phone conversation out there, lol. We'll see what happens. I told you a very emotionally charged version of what happened, but yeah we'll see.
and yas gurl I'm grown.
xypowerpop 2 months ago
@xypowerpop lmao oh i just assumed you had mentioned all of that in a previous video...but thats right,i heard it from you on the phone,whoops...we dont talk that often so i just figured thats why i knew that...
BarrettTV 2 months ago
@xypowerpop You handled the rude comments from BarrettTV very well. That shows that you're more mature than he is. If nothing else shows it, that certainly does. You're awesome, keep rocking on and don't be too hard on yourself.
XforeverlongingX 2 months ago
Much Love ...Travis
XlaviathanX 2 months ago
@XlaviathanX I love you Travis!! I hope you're doing well
xypowerpop 2 months ago
you seem like you have a lot of confusion regarding yourself…and its more than the gay thing…
NIstrumone 2 months ago
@NIstrumone what an interesting claim. I'm always thinking about and rethinking aspects of myself, so I guess this can be considered "confusion." My sexuality itself is something that I'm definitely secure with, haha. I've been out for about half a decade now.
xypowerpop 2 months ago
Kudos to that, I know I ain't doing it, so much respect to having your own place & paying your own bills.
LifeisMusic07 2 months ago
@LifeisMusic07 Aww, thanks :)
xypowerpop 2 months ago
@xypowerpop You're welcome.
LifeisMusic07 2 months ago
Nice to hear you and your bf made up man.
I can't recall precisely when I realised I was a fully grown adult living in my parents' house. I guess it must've been around 20 [at Uni, first proper job], and I'm newly 25.
And I can't say at all about your relationship question as 1) I've never gotten back with someone whose dumped me as of yet. My ex in question just completely shut me out over 3 weeks ago now [didn't respond to calls, txts, unfriended us on FB etc.] - and other than a letter
Chosenoneknuckles 2 months ago
@Chosenoneknuckles describing how hurt I felt [but balanced with some positives of what I felt we had] that he couldn't be honest with me [whatever that truth is, I don't know - and my mind can't settle on one] about 2 weeks back, I've done [and heard] nothing else.
I pulled my head out of the sand the last [and first] time we had a tiff. Tis only fair... And I know that forcing a meet would make him run, so, yeah. Just glad I didn't tell him that I [felt] I was falling in love with him.
Chosenoneknuckles 2 months ago
@Chosenoneknuckles Thanks. And ugh, your ex treated you so terribly. Do you feel "over it" at all?
xypowerpop 2 months ago
@xypowerpop Yeah. If he'd just said he didn't feel the same [or was drawn to someone else] then, yes, I would've been hurt - but I would've let him go. I only wanted us to be happy, and if that's not together then, well, I'll deal with that [eventually].
I'm not 'over him' yet. But I think about him less now. And what comes is more of a numb feeling when I do [than feeling like I've been stabbed in the stomach]. So I'm getting there mate... Getting there. :)
Chosenoneknuckles 2 months ago
Your situation is perfectly normal. It's just a matter of being put under severe stress, and your mind has gone into an aggressive state to keep you from feeling as though you've lost in life. Everyone has a set way of doing things in life, and if it seems as though it's suddenly starting to fail, one feels as though they've lost control, and some would try to regain control, often in an aggressive or semi-aggressive manner. I've been there, so I know for sure what you're enduring.
1AlexWagner 2 months ago
@1AlexWagner That's a really interesting way of looking at things. I've read over this comment three times already, and probably will do it a few more times. Hmm. Not sure how to reply yet, because my thoughts haven't fully formed.
xypowerpop 2 months ago
@xypowerpop Take your time, dear. I'm no psychologist, so if you find a flaw in my statement, don't kill me. lol
1AlexWagner 2 months ago
it's so hard with family because even when we are on our own and work hard and everything...to them....we are still kids. ya know? i totally relate to how you feel. i'm glad you and the bf are back together and i hope it works out :)
andypulido 2 months ago
@andypulido Yep, I do know, all too well D: I'm glad you can relate to my experience, Andy!! Sometimes I feel so alone in this. I hope things work out too. :)
xypowerpop 2 months ago
gambatte!
Gliese0 2 months ago
@Gliese0 ありがとう <3
xypowerpop 2 months ago
You're on the road to individuation. It looks a lot like this in the rear view mirror, just keep trucking and follow the signs. :)
BIGBALLSSEESALL 2 months ago
@BIGBALLSSEESALL Oh gosh, I suppose I'll keep trucking. I feel like my younger self was much nicer and warmer, haha. I still want to be a nice & warm person!! D:
xypowerpop 2 months ago
You are growing up and coming into your the adult person you're going to be. I hope your boyfriend is feels about you the way you feel about him.yuo seem like a sincere and cool young man and i wish you well on your relationship and your life.
carmelious111 2 months ago
@carmelious111 Aghhh, this is another part of "growing up" that I've never before experienced. haha. I feel like "growing up" is a beast that changes shape every other moment.
xypowerpop 2 months ago
thats great that you guys are back together! : )
CuddleBunE 2 months ago
@CuddleBunE I'm certainly happy about it. :-)
xypowerpop 2 months ago