People have a right to exercise prejudice when it comes to their personal choices wether a sister prefers her own "people" or "another people" and vice versa. Racism is in the taboo of communities and creation of a institution of normalized resentment and racism for those who choose other than their own or a people who lower themselves before others.
I don't think the issue of racism rests in the hands of individuals who have personal preferences. It exists in the minds of parents and wali's who force their preferences on their children! Making the halal difficult, this is why so many of your children commit zina.
I'm sorry Arabs, Pakistanis and Somali brothers but I am a white revert that, had your fathers not been racist, your daughters would have chose me over you. Deal with it!
One Ummah no more munafiq culture superseding religion.
Are you denying that racism and classism is a problem among our community? Do you think dividing the Ummah and spreading fitnah is a small offense?
Am I arrogant for wanting to be dealt with fairly? I would like to be judged based upon a the criteria put forward by the sunnah of rasool Allah not by some ignorant mans backward man-made culture.
Arrogant maybe, fed up most definitely! No ones perfect.
@MujahidBolshevik racism and nationalism and tribalism have always been there among st the Ummah you have to get over that and move on you as an individual are not going to solve the ummahs problems. Maybe the issue is your attitude, you certainly wont do yourself any favours by calling someones culture backward... is that opposed to your western culture being progressive? Anyway If you are a pious person why not marry another revert
I personally prefer to marry withn my own race and culture. I have nothing against other races, but I am not interested in marrying other cultures. Inshallah I will meet a nice black or african brother. May ALLAH(SWT) grant us all great spouses. Ameen!
...arab countries from syria to bahrain. If anyone calls you a racist tell them u have a right to choose whatever makes u happy, and it is none of their business! Do you live in the uk as well?
...are taught to prefer reverts over others. They do this by insulting our culture and then telling the youth that if you marry a revert you will get alot of reward etc etc. I think reverts should be encouraged and loved, but if someone doesnt want to marry a revert they shouldnt be insulted for it...its personal preference. Yes brother I agree with u its not racist....I think arabs should only marry arabs their culture is very different to other ppl I say this as I have travelled to many arab..
...because they think marrying someone outside their culture is better. In reality marriage is difficult regardless of who you marry. Like I said brother they are brainwashed by the mosques, I know an arab girl who just wants to marry a revert. I have tried to talk to girls about this issue but they are blinded, unfortunately there are now bad examples everywhere of these sorts of marriages that women are thinking. Generally Pakistanis like to marry pakistanis....its just salafis in the uk who..
walykum asalam wa rahmatullah....yes brother I am originally Pakistani alhamdulillah. I am proud of my hertiage and culture but I do not completely disagree with interacial marriages, I`ve seen white and black people marry in the uk and they have successful marriages largely because they have a similar lifestyle. I think the problem is not interacial marriages the problem is when people think interacial marriages are better. For example some girls avoid marrying someone of their own background..
yes my brother your right by meeting the man the girl is making herself vulgnerable....i also want to marry someone with the same background as me so I can speak to my in laws in our language, and cook nice food for them inshaAllah...i love cooking sooo much!...and parent support is important when things go wrong and u need them to help resolve certain issues or u need their advice.
A person like yourself should consider talking to are sisters in Islam about intercultural marriages, because girls will always listen to girls. As for me, when the marriage subject comes out, I always talk about how bad intercultural marriages are. Are you south asian by the way? If so, we are proof that Muslims can respect each other without beleiving in intercultural marriages. Some narrow minded muslims may see us as racist, may Allah guide them to the right path.
...for whatever reason its better for them to get married as soon as possible rather than commit zina, and even rasoolAllah (saw) recommended this. i do agree with u when u get into a haraam relationship u have to suffer the consequences afterwards.
Here's an example: A guy is interested in knowing a girl, he will ask about her through people who know well (there is nothing wrong with that) if the guy believes that things might click between him and the girl, then he'll make the people who know the girl talk to her and tell her that there's a guy who would like to know you. If the girl is interested in him as well then she'll go tell her parents about it.
She will tell her parents that there's a guy and he's this this and that.... (remember the biy and the girl never spoke to one another) If the parents think that he might a compatible match for their daughter, then he may present himself for engagement. If the guardian approves of the guy then the boy and the girl may talk to one another under supervision. Now a lot of times what happens is that two people will know each other through friends and then they'll sit and talk to one another
without the awarness of the girl's guardian, just because it was done through friends it does not make it lawfulm in fact it is still considered secret because the parents are not aware. Inshallah as a future father, if a guy met my daughter through friends spoke to her, got to know personal things about then presents himself for marriage, I ahve the right to refuse based on his religion and character. As you gree with me, there is no way to do this without the consent of are parents from day 1
As for me personally, I want my mother inshallah to find me someone. Since it's my mother thats gonna be involved then by default the girl will be Arab Palestinian, I really dont mind marrying a non-pali, but she has to be Arab, ARAB ARAB ARAB!!!!!!!
I ave to make sure that my parents are truly happy with the erson I'm getting married to and I have to make that her parents are hppy with me as well, having strong relations with your in-laws i very important.
....with each other for a long time and are dedicated to the relationship and support each other...that is real love. sometimes people get caught up in their emotions, anyway we are all human beings we make mistakes and we learn from them. i also dont want to know a man before getting married i think he will secretly loose respect for me as well. I know soo many ppl who know each other b4 marriage and still end up divorced....but also another point brother if two ppl do love each other.....
...are involved from the begining and if the guy and the woman want to talk they can do with their families present in order to discuss marriage arrangements etc. sometimes in my experience a man has been interested in me for marriage and i will give them the message go to my father/brother and then they seem to run away hahaha...thats when u know who is serious and who is just playing with u. also there is no love before marriage, that is just lust or infatuation. true love is when u live....
Good point! but please sometimes people find someone from another race through mutal friends well atleast thats what happened to me...my friends will tell me about their husbands/brothers friend etc. I agree when you go to the extent of talking everyday you fall in love and then you will never be able to evaluate the situation without involving emotions. Sometimes you love something or someone that is bad for u and everyone can see it except for urself. I think its better if the parents...
once a woman doesnt have the protection of her father and brother she becomes very vulnerable.....even if she has a career and lots of money. So family is important in the west family values are just declining even amongst muslims. On the side of the arguement some parents are very abusive and make it impossible for their children to feel safe and comfortable at home, so they rebel and marry anyone. Also some parents force their children to marry someone by force. Its soo sad
A very important point I forgot to mention about Muslim girls. As you there's a lot of Muslims today from are generation who have premarital relationships. When a Muslim girl marries outside her background, you gotta ask yourself how did they meet? A lot times what happens is that the boy and the girl will talk to each other secretly. It could be going out with each, msn, phone, facebook and other means of communication. Tehey keep talking to each other for a while then they fall in love
with each other. When the guy presents himself for marriage, the father has the absolute right to refuse him because he's not of a good religion and character. The fact that he spoke to his daughter, got to know personal things about her and fell in love with her without the consent or awarness of the girl's guardian then this in it self is not Islamic. Alhamdulillah, most parents form the boy's and the girl's side terminate those unislamic relationships.
Once this happens, the boy and the girl will feel depressed, sad and will always think about each other for a long time and this is their punishement from Allah for having this unlawful relationship. A god fearing Muslim man does not set with a girl talk to her get to know personal things about. Even if his enttention is to marry her, talks to her with respect and never shakes her hands, still he has no right to talk to a girl in order to get to know her without the consent of the girl's
guardian. If the boy claims that he did not know that premarital relationships are forbidden, still he has no excuse. It is are responsability for us Muslims to learn are religion. So this will show to the father that he's negligent. This will give the father an even better excuse to refuse him for Islamic reasons. As for me, I want my mother to find a nice Arab girl, I dont want to find a girl on my own, because I dont want to follow the foot steps of the shaitan.
Whenever I try to go straight to the father I'm immediately rejected and refused to be heard because I'm white. Countless sisters have approached me! And when I ask to speak to their fathers first, most refuse because they know he will reject it, so they seek to convince him slowly.
Islamic reasons are often a lame excuse that hides their true intentions. Allah swt knows your intentions and I hope these hypocrites pay for the alienation they inflict on their brothers. Ameen!
..islam. Sometimes you want to marry someone from a similar culture to you because of language. For example you dont mind marrying someone from any arab country because the language helps you come together. If you married a chinese muslim woman you would be soo bored when you sit with her family! However some people dont mind. Anyway brother good luck with finding ur wife, and whoever u find I hope she is good for u, ur family and children and my prayers on eid will be with falestine inshaAllah.
It's so sad to see people getting married without the consent of their guardians, I just dont understand how would kids disobey and betray their parents...subhanallah
In order for my marital life to be blessed, I must get the consent of my parents, there is no two ways around it.
Mashallah sister, because you only want to get married with the consent of your parents, inshllah you'll be blessed with ibn el halal.
....understand why, as I had taken my father`s permission and my cousin is quite old and a good woman mashaAllah. Later the iraqi told me women are not allowed to stay at anyones house in his culture/family. Also I was born in the UK and he was born in iraq. I agree with u as we grow up we want to learn about who we are...I love my culture and I love the history of our region, we have beautiful clothes and amazing food, beautiful poetry etc etc. I love to learn and read about it alongside......
Thank you my brother for the kind comments...I have discussed this issue with my family..infact I was engaged to an iraqi man once upon a time, and to be honest in the end I adviced him to marry an iraqi girl. He told me I have to walk in the straight line in the street and keep quiet hahaha. Also once I missed a bus back to my city when I was in london and it was very late so I stayed at my cousin`s house with my father`s permission,..and the iraqi guy became very angry I really couldnt.....
I`m soo happy you agree with because this problem is destroying people`s lives. I respect the intentions of the speaker in the video however he singled out the south asian community which is wrong....as arabianpali you are arab and you also agree with me. I`m sure african brothers and sisters will have similar views. No one is against reverts...but if they are not accepted for marriage they should think what the real reason is and not just shout racism. May Allah guide us all.
I was called racist, ethnocentric and norrow minded simply because I said "I want to marry an Arab girl." Some people are so paranoid about racism, they dont understand their religion properly. It is true that some intercultural marriages do workout, but in terms of probability it's not worth taking the risk. I know lots of them workout as in they didn't get divorced, they are not too too happy with their marital life, they feel some regret......
You see, part of growing up, we will want to lean towards are people and go back to are roots. I encourage you to ask your parents, you'd be interested to hear what they have to say. Marrying someone from a slighty different background is no problem. For example I'm Palestinian, I can marry a lebanese, syrian and I wont feel the difference.
You said: "no man is worth loosing your parents over"........I salute you for that.
...and no man is worth loosing your parents over. Some girls rebel and go to the point of leaving their homes and families. Then they find the husband is abusive or he has a second wife, and women is there crying. This is something I`ve witnessed alot. Like you said compatibility is very important....the cultures dont have to be the same they could be similar...i.e. someone with an eastern culture who speaks the same or similar language...and also someone who is intellectually equal to me.
.....because he was in the US army and said he loves the american army. I found that disgusting considering what that army has done in countries like iraq, afghanistan and now pakistan. So my family and I were accused of racism. I think some people just have an extreme way of thinking, probably due to a lack of education/experience. Also in our culture and offcourse in islam there is a deep respect for parents I dont like how parents are being mocked in this video. I love my parents alot......
thankyou for your kind commens arabianpali...i`m not against mixed marriages sometimes theyre very successful. I agree with you that it becomes harder if the marriage is mixed. Some emotional muslims believe that culture plays no part in their life and they just follow islam. Thats nonsense the way you are brought up defines who you are, and if people dont believe me they can just open a psychology book. Once I had a revert from america come to see me for marriage and I rejected him....
...very emotional and start thinking with emotions and not their mind. i wish the salafis would stop promoting hatred against south asians..and encouraging asians to hate themselves. if someone does not wish their daughter to marry u then its not necessarily racist. many africans i know wouldnt allow their daughters to marry a revert even if the revert is black. its often a case of compatiblity, young people are foolishly rushing into marriages and ending up divorced. PLEASE THINK.
Also what happens is that when the father refuses the man for his daughter, the daughter will right away think that he's racist. As you have mentioned before we have something in islam thats part of nikah it is called kafa'ah (compatibility), which applies only for the girl. Interenthnical marriages are hard to maintain, even the scholars with the marital breakdowns they've from interethnical marriages, they are encouraging the Muslims to get married form their own background.
Marrying someone from your own background minimises the probability of having marital problems and divorses. I dont understand why are some people are so paranoid about this racism thing, they are so narrow minded. As long as we respect one another, pray side by side and be there for each other than it's all good because at the end of the day thats what counts. We should listen to are parents, they know what we dont know and they see what we dont see. marriage is not for fun or experience!!!!
Of course you have to love the person whom you're getting married to, but love is not enough to make a marriage workout, other things must come into play. the other thing also problems in intercultural marriages start after long years of marriage (usually 15 to 20 years) because of growing up we will want to go back to are roots and lean towards are people. newlywedds and young couples should not be taken into consideration because their emotional towards each othe rather than rational. Salam
i think our parents generally know more than us, and generally have more experience. i have personally experienced cases where reverts of a certain ethnicity will start screaming racism whenever theyre rejected. if a man comes for my daughter who is not as educated as her and is living off benefits offcourse i will not allow her to marry him...especially if there is a man who is more compatible in terms of character/upbringing. there is always two sides to a story and young people can get...
Racism is an oxymoron to Islam. For all Muslims are brothers and nationality and race means nothing. Unfortunately nationalism and ignorance have given people racial and nationalistic tendencies. Also colonialism and western culture has portrayed white skin as being beautiful blah blah etc, its sad many people are fooled etc
assalaamualaikum and thanks for posting this, brother. i do have one small request. Can you please post the rest of the video because at the end, the sheikh is giving advice on how you should try and approach your parents with respect and i would like to hear the rest of this particular talk. do you have it? jazakamullahu kheir
So for us the next generation, we should have an open mind for marriage issues and stuff but for the older generations if they are racist, let them be. You can advise but you should never run away from home
brother mashALLAH!!!!!u totally said it exactly wat i was thinking,the older generation made a grave mistake by distinguishing by these superfitial reasons due to culture..unfortunately!!but now i belive that it's up us the next generation to inshALLAH bring bac ISLAM to it's fullest.AMEEEEEEEEEEEEN!!!!!!!!
People have a right to exercise prejudice when it comes to their personal choices wether a sister prefers her own "people" or "another people" and vice versa. Racism is in the taboo of communities and creation of a institution of normalized resentment and racism for those who choose other than their own or a people who lower themselves before others.
MujahidBolshevik 1 day ago
I don't think the issue of racism rests in the hands of individuals who have personal preferences. It exists in the minds of parents and wali's who force their preferences on their children! Making the halal difficult, this is why so many of your children commit zina.
I'm sorry Arabs, Pakistanis and Somali brothers but I am a white revert that, had your fathers not been racist, your daughters would have chose me over you. Deal with it!
One Ummah no more munafiq culture superseding religion.
MujahidBolshevik 1 day ago
@MujahidBolshevik So everyones parent is racist and your not arrogant
hummingbird975 1 day ago
@hummingbird975
Did I say everyone's parents or did you?
Are you denying that racism and classism is a problem among our community? Do you think dividing the Ummah and spreading fitnah is a small offense?
Am I arrogant for wanting to be dealt with fairly? I would like to be judged based upon a the criteria put forward by the sunnah of rasool Allah not by some ignorant mans backward man-made culture.
Arrogant maybe, fed up most definitely! No ones perfect.
MujahidBolshevik 1 day ago
@MujahidBolshevik racism and nationalism and tribalism have always been there among st the Ummah you have to get over that and move on you as an individual are not going to solve the ummahs problems. Maybe the issue is your attitude, you certainly wont do yourself any favours by calling someones culture backward... is that opposed to your western culture being progressive? Anyway If you are a pious person why not marry another revert
hummingbird975 17 hours ago
I personally prefer to marry withn my own race and culture. I have nothing against other races, but I am not interested in marrying other cultures. Inshallah I will meet a nice black or african brother. May ALLAH(SWT) grant us all great spouses. Ameen!
salamsabee 9 months ago
LOL its the white fornicator Yusuf Adams pretending to be a pious muslim!!
hummingbird975 1 year ago
@hummingbird975
It's the BROWN hypocrite that seeks to discredit people by mentioning their color.
MujahidBolshevik 1 day ago
@MujahidBolshevik If only you knew
hummingbird975 1 day ago
Mashallah this is a great video thanks for posting this.
Muslimiinah 1 year ago
Thank You For This Video!!!! Mashallah
sufyanah 2 years ago 2
...arab countries from syria to bahrain. If anyone calls you a racist tell them u have a right to choose whatever makes u happy, and it is none of their business! Do you live in the uk as well?
lub783 2 years ago
...are taught to prefer reverts over others. They do this by insulting our culture and then telling the youth that if you marry a revert you will get alot of reward etc etc. I think reverts should be encouraged and loved, but if someone doesnt want to marry a revert they shouldnt be insulted for it...its personal preference. Yes brother I agree with u its not racist....I think arabs should only marry arabs their culture is very different to other ppl I say this as I have travelled to many arab..
lub783 2 years ago
...because they think marrying someone outside their culture is better. In reality marriage is difficult regardless of who you marry. Like I said brother they are brainwashed by the mosques, I know an arab girl who just wants to marry a revert. I have tried to talk to girls about this issue but they are blinded, unfortunately there are now bad examples everywhere of these sorts of marriages that women are thinking. Generally Pakistanis like to marry pakistanis....its just salafis in the uk who..
lub783 2 years ago
walykum asalam wa rahmatullah....yes brother I am originally Pakistani alhamdulillah. I am proud of my hertiage and culture but I do not completely disagree with interacial marriages, I`ve seen white and black people marry in the uk and they have successful marriages largely because they have a similar lifestyle. I think the problem is not interacial marriages the problem is when people think interacial marriages are better. For example some girls avoid marrying someone of their own background..
lub783 2 years ago
yes my brother your right by meeting the man the girl is making herself vulgnerable....i also want to marry someone with the same background as me so I can speak to my in laws in our language, and cook nice food for them inshaAllah...i love cooking sooo much!...and parent support is important when things go wrong and u need them to help resolve certain issues or u need their advice.
lub783 2 years ago
Salamu alaikum,
A person like yourself should consider talking to are sisters in Islam about intercultural marriages, because girls will always listen to girls. As for me, when the marriage subject comes out, I always talk about how bad intercultural marriages are. Are you south asian by the way? If so, we are proof that Muslims can respect each other without beleiving in intercultural marriages. Some narrow minded muslims may see us as racist, may Allah guide them to the right path.
Salam
arabianpali 2 years ago
...for whatever reason its better for them to get married as soon as possible rather than commit zina, and even rasoolAllah (saw) recommended this. i do agree with u when u get into a haraam relationship u have to suffer the consequences afterwards.
lub783 2 years ago
It could happen through friends of course.
Here's an example: A guy is interested in knowing a girl, he will ask about her through people who know well (there is nothing wrong with that) if the guy believes that things might click between him and the girl, then he'll make the people who know the girl talk to her and tell her that there's a guy who would like to know you. If the girl is interested in him as well then she'll go tell her parents about it.
arabianpali 2 years ago
She will tell her parents that there's a guy and he's this this and that.... (remember the biy and the girl never spoke to one another) If the parents think that he might a compatible match for their daughter, then he may present himself for engagement. If the guardian approves of the guy then the boy and the girl may talk to one another under supervision. Now a lot of times what happens is that two people will know each other through friends and then they'll sit and talk to one another
arabianpali 2 years ago
without the awarness of the girl's guardian, just because it was done through friends it does not make it lawfulm in fact it is still considered secret because the parents are not aware. Inshallah as a future father, if a guy met my daughter through friends spoke to her, got to know personal things about then presents himself for marriage, I ahve the right to refuse based on his religion and character. As you gree with me, there is no way to do this without the consent of are parents from day 1
arabianpali 2 years ago
As for me personally, I want my mother inshallah to find me someone. Since it's my mother thats gonna be involved then by default the girl will be Arab Palestinian, I really dont mind marrying a non-pali, but she has to be Arab, ARAB ARAB ARAB!!!!!!!
I ave to make sure that my parents are truly happy with the erson I'm getting married to and I have to make that her parents are hppy with me as well, having strong relations with your in-laws i very important.
arabianpali 2 years ago
....with each other for a long time and are dedicated to the relationship and support each other...that is real love. sometimes people get caught up in their emotions, anyway we are all human beings we make mistakes and we learn from them. i also dont want to know a man before getting married i think he will secretly loose respect for me as well. I know soo many ppl who know each other b4 marriage and still end up divorced....but also another point brother if two ppl do love each other.....
lub783 2 years ago
...are involved from the begining and if the guy and the woman want to talk they can do with their families present in order to discuss marriage arrangements etc. sometimes in my experience a man has been interested in me for marriage and i will give them the message go to my father/brother and then they seem to run away hahaha...thats when u know who is serious and who is just playing with u. also there is no love before marriage, that is just lust or infatuation. true love is when u live....
lub783 2 years ago
Good point! but please sometimes people find someone from another race through mutal friends well atleast thats what happened to me...my friends will tell me about their husbands/brothers friend etc. I agree when you go to the extent of talking everyday you fall in love and then you will never be able to evaluate the situation without involving emotions. Sometimes you love something or someone that is bad for u and everyone can see it except for urself. I think its better if the parents...
lub783 2 years ago
once a woman doesnt have the protection of her father and brother she becomes very vulnerable.....even if she has a career and lots of money. So family is important in the west family values are just declining even amongst muslims. On the side of the arguement some parents are very abusive and make it impossible for their children to feel safe and comfortable at home, so they rebel and marry anyone. Also some parents force their children to marry someone by force. Its soo sad
lub783 2 years ago
A very important point I forgot to mention about Muslim girls. As you there's a lot of Muslims today from are generation who have premarital relationships. When a Muslim girl marries outside her background, you gotta ask yourself how did they meet? A lot times what happens is that the boy and the girl will talk to each other secretly. It could be going out with each, msn, phone, facebook and other means of communication. Tehey keep talking to each other for a while then they fall in love
arabianpali 2 years ago
with each other. When the guy presents himself for marriage, the father has the absolute right to refuse him because he's not of a good religion and character. The fact that he spoke to his daughter, got to know personal things about her and fell in love with her without the consent or awarness of the girl's guardian then this in it self is not Islamic. Alhamdulillah, most parents form the boy's and the girl's side terminate those unislamic relationships.
arabianpali 2 years ago
Once this happens, the boy and the girl will feel depressed, sad and will always think about each other for a long time and this is their punishement from Allah for having this unlawful relationship. A god fearing Muslim man does not set with a girl talk to her get to know personal things about. Even if his enttention is to marry her, talks to her with respect and never shakes her hands, still he has no right to talk to a girl in order to get to know her without the consent of the girl's
arabianpali 2 years ago
guardian. If the boy claims that he did not know that premarital relationships are forbidden, still he has no excuse. It is are responsability for us Muslims to learn are religion. So this will show to the father that he's negligent. This will give the father an even better excuse to refuse him for Islamic reasons. As for me, I want my mother to find a nice Arab girl, I dont want to find a girl on my own, because I dont want to follow the foot steps of the shaitan.
Salams
arabianpali 2 years ago
@arabianpali
Whenever I try to go straight to the father I'm immediately rejected and refused to be heard because I'm white. Countless sisters have approached me! And when I ask to speak to their fathers first, most refuse because they know he will reject it, so they seek to convince him slowly.
Islamic reasons are often a lame excuse that hides their true intentions. Allah swt knows your intentions and I hope these hypocrites pay for the alienation they inflict on their brothers. Ameen!
MujahidBolshevik 1 day ago
..islam. Sometimes you want to marry someone from a similar culture to you because of language. For example you dont mind marrying someone from any arab country because the language helps you come together. If you married a chinese muslim woman you would be soo bored when you sit with her family! However some people dont mind. Anyway brother good luck with finding ur wife, and whoever u find I hope she is good for u, ur family and children and my prayers on eid will be with falestine inshaAllah.
lub783 2 years ago
Thank you very much for your kind words.
It's so sad to see people getting married without the consent of their guardians, I just dont understand how would kids disobey and betray their parents...subhanallah
In order for my marital life to be blessed, I must get the consent of my parents, there is no two ways around it.
Mashallah sister, because you only want to get married with the consent of your parents, inshllah you'll be blessed with ibn el halal.
Feelestine is in all are hearts.
arabianpali 2 years ago
....understand why, as I had taken my father`s permission and my cousin is quite old and a good woman mashaAllah. Later the iraqi told me women are not allowed to stay at anyones house in his culture/family. Also I was born in the UK and he was born in iraq. I agree with u as we grow up we want to learn about who we are...I love my culture and I love the history of our region, we have beautiful clothes and amazing food, beautiful poetry etc etc. I love to learn and read about it alongside......
lub783 2 years ago
Thank you my brother for the kind comments...I have discussed this issue with my family..infact I was engaged to an iraqi man once upon a time, and to be honest in the end I adviced him to marry an iraqi girl. He told me I have to walk in the straight line in the street and keep quiet hahaha. Also once I missed a bus back to my city when I was in london and it was very late so I stayed at my cousin`s house with my father`s permission,..and the iraqi guy became very angry I really couldnt.....
lub783 2 years ago
I`m soo happy you agree with because this problem is destroying people`s lives. I respect the intentions of the speaker in the video however he singled out the south asian community which is wrong....as arabianpali you are arab and you also agree with me. I`m sure african brothers and sisters will have similar views. No one is against reverts...but if they are not accepted for marriage they should think what the real reason is and not just shout racism. May Allah guide us all.
lub783 2 years ago
Eid mubarak for yourself and your family!
I was called racist, ethnocentric and norrow minded simply because I said "I want to marry an Arab girl." Some people are so paranoid about racism, they dont understand their religion properly. It is true that some intercultural marriages do workout, but in terms of probability it's not worth taking the risk. I know lots of them workout as in they didn't get divorced, they are not too too happy with their marital life, they feel some regret......
arabianpali 2 years ago
You see, part of growing up, we will want to lean towards are people and go back to are roots. I encourage you to ask your parents, you'd be interested to hear what they have to say. Marrying someone from a slighty different background is no problem. For example I'm Palestinian, I can marry a lebanese, syrian and I wont feel the difference.
You said: "no man is worth loosing your parents over"........I salute you for that.
arabianpali 2 years ago
...and no man is worth loosing your parents over. Some girls rebel and go to the point of leaving their homes and families. Then they find the husband is abusive or he has a second wife, and women is there crying. This is something I`ve witnessed alot. Like you said compatibility is very important....the cultures dont have to be the same they could be similar...i.e. someone with an eastern culture who speaks the same or similar language...and also someone who is intellectually equal to me.
lub783 2 years ago
.....because he was in the US army and said he loves the american army. I found that disgusting considering what that army has done in countries like iraq, afghanistan and now pakistan. So my family and I were accused of racism. I think some people just have an extreme way of thinking, probably due to a lack of education/experience. Also in our culture and offcourse in islam there is a deep respect for parents I dont like how parents are being mocked in this video. I love my parents alot......
lub783 2 years ago
thankyou for your kind commens arabianpali...i`m not against mixed marriages sometimes theyre very successful. I agree with you that it becomes harder if the marriage is mixed. Some emotional muslims believe that culture plays no part in their life and they just follow islam. Thats nonsense the way you are brought up defines who you are, and if people dont believe me they can just open a psychology book. Once I had a revert from america come to see me for marriage and I rejected him....
lub783 2 years ago
...very emotional and start thinking with emotions and not their mind. i wish the salafis would stop promoting hatred against south asians..and encouraging asians to hate themselves. if someone does not wish their daughter to marry u then its not necessarily racist. many africans i know wouldnt allow their daughters to marry a revert even if the revert is black. its often a case of compatiblity, young people are foolishly rushing into marriages and ending up divorced. PLEASE THINK.
lub783 2 years ago
Salam,
Also what happens is that when the father refuses the man for his daughter, the daughter will right away think that he's racist. As you have mentioned before we have something in islam thats part of nikah it is called kafa'ah (compatibility), which applies only for the girl. Interenthnical marriages are hard to maintain, even the scholars with the marital breakdowns they've from interethnical marriages, they are encouraging the Muslims to get married form their own background.
arabianpali 2 years ago
Marrying someone from your own background minimises the probability of having marital problems and divorses. I dont understand why are some people are so paranoid about this racism thing, they are so narrow minded. As long as we respect one another, pray side by side and be there for each other than it's all good because at the end of the day thats what counts. We should listen to are parents, they know what we dont know and they see what we dont see. marriage is not for fun or experience!!!!
arabianpali 2 years ago
Of course you have to love the person whom you're getting married to, but love is not enough to make a marriage workout, other things must come into play. the other thing also problems in intercultural marriages start after long years of marriage (usually 15 to 20 years) because of growing up we will want to go back to are roots and lean towards are people. newlywedds and young couples should not be taken into consideration because their emotional towards each othe rather than rational. Salam
arabianpali 2 years ago
Mashallah brother or sister, you are wise with your thaughts...I wish more people were like you. Mashallah
arabianpali 2 years ago
i think our parents generally know more than us, and generally have more experience. i have personally experienced cases where reverts of a certain ethnicity will start screaming racism whenever theyre rejected. if a man comes for my daughter who is not as educated as her and is living off benefits offcourse i will not allow her to marry him...especially if there is a man who is more compatible in terms of character/upbringing. there is always two sides to a story and young people can get...
lub783 2 years ago
Assalamualikum, cousin and brother where ever u are, who ever u are.....we are cousin in islam and we should united in DAKWAH.. insyallah
roimuo69 2 years ago
Racism is an oxymoron to Islam. For all Muslims are brothers and nationality and race means nothing. Unfortunately nationalism and ignorance have given people racial and nationalistic tendencies. Also colonialism and western culture has portrayed white skin as being beautiful blah blah etc, its sad many people are fooled etc
mamoderawat 2 years ago
Jazakallah khairan,
Is there a Full version if this talk???
blackboo 3 years ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
Racism is most extreme and a priority with the Arabs.
A race that has black slaves today.
No hidden secret that the Arabs have be killing because of cultural bias for two thousand years.
Never peace in the society, the people are not free with liberty.
Under the rule of an iron fist of a dictator.
Call me ignorant even a bigot I am fine with it. I am happy in this civilized society I would never live there.
I would be killed or in prison for what I just stated here.
dalihendrix 3 years ago
lol...funny but nice
muminah18 3 years ago
jazak-allah, that was funny...
islamiContent 3 years ago 2
lol ha ha gori, kala, this bro killd it, thanks for the post akh, funny stuff but a good message also, the true menhaj OF ISLAM JAZAAKALLAH
imz1066 3 years ago
lol, salaam!
MyFutUrFace 4 years ago
assalaamualaikum and thanks for posting this, brother. i do have one small request. Can you please post the rest of the video because at the end, the sheikh is giving advice on how you should try and approach your parents with respect and i would like to hear the rest of this particular talk. do you have it? jazakamullahu kheir
jackshmo1 4 years ago
So for us the next generation, we should have an open mind for marriage issues and stuff but for the older generations if they are racist, let them be. You can advise but you should never run away from home
Saabiqoon 4 years ago
brother mashALLAH!!!!!u totally said it exactly wat i was thinking,the older generation made a grave mistake by distinguishing by these superfitial reasons due to culture..unfortunately!!but now i belive that it's up us the next generation to inshALLAH bring bac ISLAM to it's fullest.AMEEEEEEEEEEEEN!!!!!!!!
choorijamadar 4 years ago 2
jazakallah khair :)
hably 4 years ago 4
this was loooooved it walahi!!!! soooo informative!!!!may ALLAH(SWT)bless u wit his endless blesings.AMEEEEEEN
choorijamadar 4 years ago 2
ill put them up
handh4ever 4 years ago
where is the second half of this video? I can't seem to find it in your videos. wa salaams
theObscureObject 4 years ago
as salaamu alaikum warahmatullah. masha'allah amazing video brother
theObscureObject 4 years ago 3
thank you sis
handh4ever 4 years ago
Salam akhey, excellent, I love the way of the Salaf.
Almash 4 years ago
JAZAAK ALLAH KHAIR
JAALIUS 4 years ago 4