[Eng sub] Why Super Junior Eunhyuk doesn't want to reveal if he is dating

[TheSuperelf15]

well, i prefer it announcing though, because in that way we fans can accept it and move on easier and also we can also protect our oppa at the same time. once that girl broke his heart. OH NO! she'll be dead in a minute

[t3hyan3s3]

to completely honest i would absolutely HATE it if they had girlfriends BUT........as much as i want them for my self i want them to be happy even more.

[farah6734]

who is the person sitting next to hyukjae?

[jane1996n]

Is shindong really married??

[beul4h]

so cute

[onebigmess253]

how do you date if you dont make it public

ummmmm hes dating Donghae...its alredy unofficially public!!!!! gah some peoples kids.

[CherryButterfly1]

As much as I love Kpop & it's amazing talented idols & culture,

It has some of the worst standards in the world T///T

Oddly, I think us American/international ELFs have our head in the right place, but good lord K-ELFs.....LET THEM LIVE! I can't imagine what my life would be like if I had to live in secret :/

This might sound extreme....but I would rather never meet them if it meant they would have a happy life ^-^ instead of having them be sad&hiding from fans.

That's how much we love them :)

[bibicoco87]

@HeeroWithAGun

You know,you wrote what I think. I see the idol Eunhyuk and the real Lee Hyukjae too. But it's same with other idols too. Their job is called 'idol'&part of this job is making fans satisfied in every aspect. So, it would be dangerous to reveal that they're dating. It would result less popularity and attacks again him and his girlfriend. I hate fans who say things like 'oppa,if you have a gf,i will hate you&your gf too.' God,they're adults with needs, like love&sex.

[Cloe900311]

(2/2) However, I do agree with that woman who asked, "How do you date without the public knowing?" Fans are scary & there are times when they catch an idol with a girl (who's their girlfriend). If this happens, many ELF will get hurt that he didn't tell them before. Also, what happens if they get married? That'll be a huge surprise! They'll probably not make the marriage news private... x]

[Cloe900311]

(1/2)

I totally understand what Hyukjae's saying. If he announces the relationship, the girl could get hurt by fans and if Hyukjae sees or knows about it, he'll be sad about it too. So, he's protecting the girl by doing this. Also, Hyukjae loves ELF and knows that most or some of them will get hurt if he announces it, so he's also not harming ELF.

[04thebluesky22]

yeah, it's good to keep it SECRET but if they're having a SERIOUS and BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIP why not make it on PUBLIC? Also it can be that they want other people to know how HAPPY they are being together and be happy for them TOO. I bet everyone wants to be happy with their LIVES or LOVE LIFE right? we're humans and so THEY are. Let's just CONTINUE to support them in everything they will DO. They will still remember us (FANS) because if we are NOT here they won't REACH what they have NOW.

[sorry395]

YEAH,everyone here seems like 'no, idols deserve to dating too' and don't really agree with EUNHYUK. BUT PLEASE, recently EUNHYUK just had a kissing scene with just an actress, BUT FANS with their over reacted reactions, like Eunhyuk just announce HE GOT A GF. -,-' MAYBE you think what Eunhyuk said not necessary, BUT WHAT'S HAPPEN IS REAL. THAT'S WHAT EUNHYUK TRYING TO SAY. This is about being an artist. A kpop idol.

*sorry for the broken english.

[BlingzDiamond]

eunhyuk we won't hate you if you announce that you are dating with donghae ^^ hahahahahaha xD

[808SuperJunior]

Eunhyuk is respecting the person he love, by keeping her a secret

[ilkhj]

EUNHAE IS REAL <333 FOREVER EUNHAE <333

[JuReLle10321]

i'll agree with hyukie..

he was using his privacy not only to protect himself but also to protect his loved ones whose around him..

haaay...he is such a kindhearted person..

[JuReLle10321]

i'll agree with hyukie..

it's PRIVACY i guess..

but it's not just "PRIVACY" FOR HIM..

he uses this "PRIVACY" TO PROTECT HIS LOVED ONES..

neh??

[confessa]

I feel sad that these people can't even date properly without worrying their other half might get attacked by fans. It's their life.

[katecabs]

I understand Eunhyuk. The girl will only suffer with all the haters and threats that she will receive. There are SOME fans who have a delusional mind that their idols and them will end up together. And besides, being a celebrity, they are owned by the fans and the public, though they have the rights to do it. After all, they are only human and they are still young.

[lexilovesTRS]

"Hey, what are you doing here?" Lmao. xD

Bwaha, there's so many EunHae shippers here. EunHae is probably the most popular SuJu couple... because they're REAL. ;D

[xxtsubasaforeverxx]

@lexilovesTRS EunHae is probably the most popular boy/boy couple in k-pop. it's because they ship themselves almost as hard as the fans :)..... and because they're real.

[aulae]

the only thing I DON'T wish to happen is:

A) Idols get married too fast after they retire from their career and end up in unhappy/unsatisfying marriages

B) Idols get married late in life because they want to find the "one" because they weren't allowed to date earlier

C) Idols don't marry at all because they have given up on finding the right girl/guy and give up on romance

Either way, die-hard fans should calm down because they are affecting their idol's future life, not only their present!

[xBabyPandu]

Kpop is too strict...to me if SJ be honst like Dong then i wudnt be dat hyrtful dat they lie to us

[Sammiwammi65]

I do understand and respect Eunhyuk's choice. I mean he's protecting the girl. She could be hated, hurt and abused. I think it's fair that they don't tell us every little detail in their lives. Eunhyuk try spending a stardom life here in America. Here you can't do ANYTHING without people knowing. You should be happy you have more privacy.

[jinayafer]

for me, there's nothing wrong about announcing it, if they are dating, but to be detailed about the realtionship, they should just keep it private... i think because of the culture, i think korean fans are more possessive i guess, so, korean idols tend to not reveal if they are in a relationship... that's why i salute SHINDONG for being brave to say it on public...

[HeeroWithAGun]

(6/6)

There has to be a line between these two men. If that line isn't there, he and other pop idols probably wouldn't be able to keep their sanity and deal with all the pressure of being in the limelight every second of every day. They need to have this disconnect between The Man and The Celebrity so they can come home after a hard day's work, take the mask off and kick back a few beers with the boys. Keeping their private lives secret is a way of doing this.

[superjuniorself]

@HeeroWithAGun yeah, i really agree with you.

[CherryButterfly1]

@HeeroWithAGun I read all your responses and I agree you 10000% :O lol but I do find it sad that fans tend to forget they are humans and won't let them live freely -.-

[HeeroWithAGun]

(5/6)

Lee Hyukjae, on the other hand, is a man like anyone else. This is the man that the other members of SuJu know. A family member, a son, a best friend. Fans don't know this man, not really. This is the man that has sex, falls in love, dates and will eventually get married and start a family (presumably).

[GrayceDreamer]

@HeeroWithAGun well said! I agree that knowing Eunhyuk the celebrity and knowing Lee Hyukjae the man are two completely different things. It's one reason that I kind of like the stage names. :)

[HeeroWithAGun]

(4/6)

I think, the best way to put it is like this:

Eunhyuk is a pop idol. He is a celebrity. Women and young girls all over the world are in love with him and he loves them in return. He holds the bar between being "unattainable" and "attainable" in his hands. He reciprocates fans love for him in his performances and tweets and everything he does in his career.

[HeeroWithAGun]

(3/more than 5, oops)

Enticing them. Serenading them. Flirting with them. Loving them. If you look at it that way, it's almost a betrayal to announce you're dating someone. It makes everything you've done thus far in your career seem fake and forced.

[HeeroWithAGun]

(2/5)

But it's an illusion that comes with being any kind of pop idol/sex symbol where there is a heavy focus on attracting young girls and women. The industry makes us fall in love with them. It's how they make money and get fans. I think that what Hyukjae was trying to get across was that the illusion needs to be there. Not because they will lose fans if they announce they are dating someone, but because part of their job is romancing fans.

[namilovesluffy]

whoever she was... she's lucky to have hyukkie......

[sorry395]

donghae donghae donghae.... -,-'

[MbAkChIe1]

aahh~~ i miss this show :(

[Superkpopfangirl]

lol

[Superkpopfangirl]

ummm.............EUNHYUK u dont need 2 hide tht u r dating DONGHAE..*smirk*

[Superkpopfangirl]

saraghe EunHyuk...^.^

[Oo2Ticha2oO]

I will be sad If he announced a girlfriend... because it will mean he was forgeting not the fans but Donghae xD

[Kappalessthan3]

Q: Why doesn't Hyukkie want to reveal if he is dating?

A: Donghae

[R3si123]

the one thing i never understand about kpop...why they are not allowed to date openly...i mean they are humans, too

When this person makes my fav group member happy, then i should be happy, too.

After all it's just very unlikely that he/she will ever date a fan

[TheSelenagomez4lyf]

@R3si123 i think it's because if Idols that we love date another person,us fans might feel upset and jealous.You know how jealousy goes around..But there are some 'rumours' stating that idols are dating so and so..but if it goes out on article,it may be just a SCANDAL or a TRUE STORY.Kyu confessed that he fell in love at first sight with a fan..BUT,i think in kpop industry,the rating of jealousy is high as we can't do anything about it.

[HeeroWithAGun]

(1/5)

@R3si123 this is the logical and mature way of looking at it.

but unfortunately, when it comes to pop idols, particularly members of boy bands, their fans don't look at it that way. I like to think that deep down, we all know that our ships are just fanservice/brotherhood and that our biases and "loves" really are going to one day get married and have a family (for the most part). I mean, come on now, they're not virgins. They're in their mid-to-late 20s for god's sake.

[superjuniorself]

@HeeroWithAGun wow! bow down to that. i really agree w/ u and i get ur point. u must be looking at it n a mature way.

[jinayafer]

that is the SAD PART in KOREAN SHOWBIZ, they can't reveal that they are dating because of possessive korean fans, which is sad... i'd rather see them happy with their career and love life as well... they will not be in SHOWBIZ forever right??

[Oo2Ticha2oO]

@jinayafer the point is. they will anounce if they have a wife or a really serious relation that will turn into marriage. But those dates of young people that only last some months... I dont think the fans have anything to do with it. They want private relations either...

[94babylozzi]

Eunhyuk give over, why dont you just admit your dating Donghae ;) its obv by now! hahaha

[B2STKW]

I hate that Eunhyuk thinks this way. It's good that he cares about his fans, but doesn't he know he is allowed to have a LIFE OUTSIDE OF WORK? What he said doesn't make me feel happy, it just makes me feel guilty.

I know it is a different culture where work is the top priority, but it still bothers me. ALL KPOP idols need to admit they date. The Korean public can't hate idols who date if ALL of them admit to it. It's better to be honest and open instead of hiding and pretending -_-'

[MellowSweetie]

@B2STKW Roger that! :)

[yoona3906]

if i go to korea again next time, i will definetly go to Han River at 11 pm. LOL! hope to see SuJu boys there LOL

[haivami]

I think the one Hyukie is dating with is DongHae, PMS said in the end about celebrities dating near Han River (Eunhyuk) "maybe they dressed up as MEN", I am 100% sure that PMS bumped to Eunhae secret date at Han River LOL

[94babylozzi]

Yeah i agree with eunhyuk fair enough there stars and the fans wont to know everything about them. But some things are best kept secrets they probley dont wont the world knowing who they or dating? im not sure.

[triangle483]

It's really cool that EunHyuk thinks like that about fans... I mean, he loves them so much that care about their feelings and know the importance of all of them.. That's cute... but it's really sad that even EunHyuk knows that fans would be mad if they dated somebody~

[MuSiquAh13]

LLLOOOLLL~ haha~ hyuk-oppa is really .. aish~ i can't explain it .. keke~

ahm .. as we all know .. being a celebrity is really hard regarding dating .. specially when your partner is also an idol .. but as for me .. though i really love this man and i would love to be his girl .. still .. it's not an enough reason to punish them by not letting them date the one they love .. and i'd still be happy seeing him happy with the blessed girl he'll choose .. specially if that would be me .. haha~

[SuperJunior1231]

but sometime I overreacted too.. not because he married, but because he abandoned donghae and married someone else! lol..

[SuperJunior1231]

he had already spare a thought for us, so we should think about his feelings too.. I wouldn't want eunhyuk to be lonely until

he grows old, he should have a girlfriend to accompany him.. sometime fans are so crazy, whenever their idol have a gf/bf, they went crazy and said all those bad things, some fans just cried saying "oppa, can you break up with her, oppa, blah blah blah...." fans who truely bless them are the fans who truely love and respect their idols.. let the idols pursue their marria

[MasculineClam]

He grasp the obsessive fangirl concept well. :) when is this? Is it recent?

[ary247]

@MasculineClam i think it is few months ago...if i'm not mistaken this is the cut from oh my school and that show has started not too long ago....(and already and though T_T)

[siewlee461]

I, sometimes don't understand why fans overreacted. They are human, they need or they will dating someone, as a fan you should support and give them your bless. They sure having rough time to hide their secret.

[fingertips13]

i think being a celebrity whose being observed 24/7 be it by the paparazzi, fans or antis, dating someone MIGHT be the only thing that he can keep it to himself. Many if not all idols have experienced invasion of their privacy. its just they should have something that only them that know about the thing that they want to keep private. its really hard to share everything with the public.

[TheSelenagomez4lyf]

we even know who's dating hyukkie anyway,rite?keke~~(Donghae)

[iLUVphelps]

@20cutieangel777 It is a very irrational thing, to not like someone just because they start dating our favorite idol, I realize that, but it's not really something I can change. If EunHyuk ever started dating a girl, and the public found out, I would be happy for him if he is happy with her, but it would still be hard for me to like her and accept their relationship, because it's like "He has her, so he doesn't need us anymore." I hope that makes some sense, that's how it is for me anyway.

[yuurigurlz]

i am agree with Eunhyuk <3

he is really understand ELF's feeling if we know that he is dating or having a girlfriend...of course we have a heart-beaker!!!!

so, i prefer SuJu keep this 'thing' a secret.....

[20cutieangel777]

~This is just my own opinion~

They shouldn't hide their secret that they are dating someone.

Reasons:

1. If they get caught by some paparazzi they will make issues. If they will make issues, they might get harmed from many reporters who are surrounding them.

2. If that idol really loves the person he or she is dating, he or she shouldn't be shy or afraid to tell the world.

3. They shouldn't worry about the fans. Us fans, have a job and that is to support our idols and respect and love them.

[xkams]

@20cutieangel777 No, but you don't understand how harsh fans can be. They can hurt the girl. I remember when KANGIN took a photo with a FAN at a St@rK!ng recording, & that girl's cyworld was bombarded with hate--that much to the point she did SUICIDE. Never underestimate fans or antis- you have no idea how scary they can be. With Suju's popularity worldwide, they should have privacy. And it's hard to have freedom if the secret is let out to the public. It's better kept hidden. Less complication.

[iLUVphelps]

@20cutieangel777 Korean fandom/Being an Idol in Korea is VERY different from being a celebrity in other parts of the world. The fans of the Korean idols(including myself), I think we feel a much stronger attachment to our idols, in a sense that they are OURS. They love US, we are what make them happy. If our favorite idol got a girlfriend, it's not just that we won't like her because she "stole" him from us, but also because it's like he's turning away from us. We can't keep him happy anymore.

[5005LUNA]

He's right , I mean , did you see what a mess caused the announcement of Jonghyun and Shin sekyung ?

I remember TVXQ confessing to have dated girls after debut and not having said anything for the sake of their fans ,believe it or not it's very common for idols to hide their relationships .

[mehrnaz98]

@elenapotato2010

What country do you live in? Would luv to live THERE!

[notjustanyshoujo]

its sad how Eunhyuk will probably never get to take his gf out on a normal date without the two of them wearing disguises etc.

I hope fans change their minds about their oppas dating :\

[elenapotato2010]

waahh.. i think it depends in the idol's country mentality. Koreans think that way...

but in my country, fans don't really give a fuss over celebrity relationships. you're dating... it's fine.. you're getting married... fine you broke up, ok~

In any way, idols are human too. they deserve a love life.

[violentcomedyfan]

Honestly, if he's really dating someone, and if that someone's not Donghae tho I ship Eunhae, I'll still be okay with it because he has his priorities right and I'm sure that the girl he picks will be the right person for him :) But....I think he should still go with Donghae xD

[eunhaelova]

ah my hyukkie!! you really understand our feelings..

[CANDYMeOwNSTER]

so oppa~ you are telling us you are dating someone? :(

[RoyalPiratesRock]

@CANDYMeOwNSTER of course he is dating some one. DONGHAE!!

[Deathnote12334]

EunHyuk so cute

Eunhyuk: But announcing.... I mean not announcing... xDDDD