I have OCD and I look completely normal and I see "normal" as having various definitions depending on personal belief of what is "normal" I consider myself to look like everyone else and just because I have a mental illness it does not mean I suddenly sprout horns or have a constant psychotic look to me. xsullengirlx I aplaud you for making videos such as this as an outlet for people and to bring awareness to the fact that people that have a mental illness are not freaks :)
... that friend of hers was diagnosed a long time ago while I found out I have it just recently. So when I told her this was it she just said no, that's not it, you two are not the same at all. So yeah I guess she thought mental disorders are visible with everyone. They're not, specially the kind of psychosis I suffer from. Most people who know me have absolutely no idea I'm psychotic.
That's the thing specially with BPD. My best friend knows 2 people with BPD - me and another friend she has. And we experience these things differently, for example she has extremely visible mood swings, yells at people and stuff and she doesn't suffer from psychosis, and I'm more of a 'silent' borderline - I have episodes of extreme persecutory delusions (especially in the evenings and nights), and even though I have a pretty big irritability problem I tend to just walk away from it. So ...
I am totally with you on this. People also saying "You don't seeeeeem unwell"! They don't get that it's INSIDE us... it's our EMOTIONS that are unstable. Just coz we don't bob around looking rubbish and making groaning noises, they can't accept it.
Thank you for this! I think alot of us try so so hard to not fit the "coo-coo" look, therefore are looked past even though there is something very wrong. I feel outward apperences will always get wayyy to much credit.
I have the exact same problem, a lot of people look at me and say that there's nothing wrong with me because I look "fine". When I was applying for disability benefits I was afraid that they would think the same thing and I dressed down, so I sacrificed my appearance to "look the part" I'm really glad that you spoke about this, because I'm sure a lot of people have this issue and hearing it from another person really helps.
Sadly my mental illness shows. There is no shine to my hair, no glow to my skin, Ive gained weight, I have dark shadows under my eyes and just a general look of illness. Not to mention the fact the illness has been such a long term thing I'm neglectful of self care like hygiene, makeup, clean clothing, three meals a day. It's very hurtful for me because no one is there to care for me. I'm 19 but people think I'm 30. I'm a one off. Thank god most people CAN look normal while still being ill.
from severe disorders or who are criminally insane, do NOT behave or act "crazy". I have dysthymia, panic attacks, anxiety and agoraphobia, and most people just think that I'm shy or quiet. I am a very nice, polite, respectable person who probably seems quite unassuming and average to most people. I don't run around yelling gibberish, or run to the rooftops saying a can fly or anything of that nature. Also most people are surprised when they find out I suffer from all these things.
Also, in relation to your video, which you might have discussed in another video, or may consider making a video about, is also that many people think that people with mental disorders ACT or behave a certain way. They expect people with disorders to behave crazy, or neurotic or to act like a wild animal or to be completely delusional and irrational and so off the wall weird, which is a total misjudgment and ridiculous misconception. Most people, apart from certain individuals or are suffering
I think that people have this misconception that people with mental disorders have to look like they're straight out of "one flew over the coocoo's nest" or "girl, interrupted", which is ridiculous. People with mental illness come from ALL walks of life. Rich, poor, young, old, male, female.
I think that there has been a lot of portrayal of people with mental disorders in movies and media fitting this stereotype of appearing disheveled and unkempt and looking haggard and appearing very scary or unapproachable. We look just like everyone else, if not even MORE "normal" than average people who don't deal with these disorders like we do.
No, people with mental illness don't look crazy. Some Psychologists misdiagnose people as okay even though they are not. My sisters psychologist told her that she looks and seems okay even though she has severe depression going 6 years now. Whats up with that? How did they get their degree, when they are so damn ignorant.
@666ThaScarecro666 LOL and your whole channel is you trolling. I have thousands of people who care about what I have to say, and they relate to me... sorry you're so desperate. Get well soon. :)
Hey guys. I'm battling from schizophrenia. I'm not asking for money or views or anything, but just for support and for people to hear me out. My psychiatrist said to let people know about your problem, but everyone thinks I'm weird and my family cannot understand or take me seriously. I made a blog about my problems, and I hope we can talk on there. My blog is battlingschizophrenia.blogspot.com . Fellow schizophrenics, you should also come. We can fight the battle together.
Nice video. I'm here because the girl I love has bpd and I have no idea what to do. We've been apart for about a month now. I've tried empathy, love, understanding everything I could. I've always prided myself on my abilities to relate but bpd puts things in another realm. I curse all those responsible for creating these problems. I would kill them if I could.
--I seem not to be able to please anyone i feel. one minute ( well less than most becaus ei haven't been at school for what 11 months now)- one minute i'm too quiet to be normal, one minuite i'm too confident to ahve a pfroblem, whatt the actual fuckk
--I explauiedn how , i'm soo used to going to school and trying to control my anxiety disorder. yeh ofcourse so i can actually do stuff. but if i showed how upset i felt people would think iw as a freak. and now when i go to my therapest, it seems that she was saying she thought, you can't act confident and have a massive problem. ofcourse you can. when i asked her she denied it but i'm not conviced she really agreed. you know..it made me just think, how am i ment to act . read next comment---
okay. the thing that most annoyed me is. i had a meeting a doctor i'd met before, so i wasn'treally sure how to act. and after, my therapest said. thats the most flat i've seen you so i explained that i was aprehences because i don't know him. then my mum was cring down the phone to her saying i need help so we had another meeting. My theraqpest said. from how i carriesd my self last time , didn't make it clear to her and the doctor how crap i really felt. read to next coment--
urgh..i don't even have words or the energy to describe how annoyed i feel when people ( even people close to me) say you look fine so whats wrong. YOU CAN NOT SEE ANXIETY DISORDERS. i feel so oppressed by the stigme, even though no ones actuaklly saying it directly to me, i'm just getting better from being hosuebound and i think about it every day. its the - the core of my unconfidence. i can't stop putting myself down i swear :(
In the field of psychiatry there is a term "self-care." It means exactly that - the ability of the patient to take care of his or herself. This includes not just ability to have good hygiene and things like that, but pay bills on time and such.The ability of the patient to do self-care depends on the illness itself and the severity of the disease. There is so much ignorance when it comes to mental health, hope this cleared it up for someone out there.
So now that me wanting to dress nice and keep clean means Im better and not disabled by social security standards then I guess they can let there kids ride with total strangers cause in social securitys eyes a guy wearing a nice suit and drives a viper CANT BE A PEDO or a SERIAL KILLER oh no WAY cause in social securitys eyes this guy is OK hes presentable he cant do no harm or he cant be a criminal AT ALL. Hes presentable. Give me a BREAK! Judgemental people are dipshits!
Anyways social security wanted me to get a job in 07 and try it. I was fired 4 months in and then I get a letter by christmas my disability was stopping cause I was better??? I freaked out and appealed it and fought appeal after appeal untill I saw the judge and did that twice and finally WON my disability back. They tricked me to use that to say I was better to try stopping my check. Social security was saying in court Im a hansom presentable young man and didnt LOOK disablled!
Continued, anyways I even worked in 2007 doing night stocking and hated it but I stuck in there even while sweating 24/7 with the anxiety trying to hit everyday. I outlasted normal people that quit but I stuck it out and was fired 4 months in cause I complained I cant handle the 6 days a week they had me on. Then they said my box counts werent up to par but I was fastest there but anyways, I was fired. It took 4 months to fix my SSI the ridiculous 674 a month check I get.
I know how you feel. I never could hold a job growing up as a teen due to freaking out over crowds in public and my IQ of focuse under pressure in a public job went from 100% to 0 in seconds from feeling overwhelmed when Im near crowded places I FREAK OUT. So After losing job after job I was declared disabled when I was 19. I worked from the time I was 14 to 19 a LOT. Im 29 now and now I stay in my car when we go places and the wife does the shopping I cant handle it and Zombie MEDS dont help!
I completely agree with you about how there is no "look" for someone with a mental illness. Although you look great in appearance on your videos, I understand that you have been suffering with mental issues. Like you, I also feel like people are looking at me when I leave the house. I will never leave the house unless I feel like I did my very best to "look" the best I can so that people won't think I am a slob or have mental issues. I have severe panic disorder, and it rules my life...:-(
Im in canada, any secrets when applying to the "suits" for disability coverage? My wife has artheritis bad in hand, fybromyalgia, etc, back problems and is wondering how you fill out forms without messing it up to get "Dissaproved" sent back to ya? I know they do that to see who appeal, then they figure they are serious....know what I mean?
everyone is crazy; social acceptance is a whole different issue, and in that respect, most people are mindless sheep. If you let them define who you are and harass you with whatever reputation you build up -bipolar, grumpy, strange, crazy- they will actually try to prove themselves right and kill you softly, ostracize you and reject you. But that's what happens when you're weak. Crazy people of the world:
I really relate to you when you say that when you go out you feel that everyone is watching you even though you know they don't and that it makes you feel better to know that you've tried to look your best. I've been diagnosed with bpd and social anxiety and people often say I am pretty and that I dress well. Like you say don't judge the book by it's cover. Thank you for talking about this :)
I really relate to you when you say that when you go out you feel that everyone is watching you even though you know they don't and that it makes you feel better to know that you've tried to look your best. I've been diagnosed with bpd and social anxiety and people often say I am pretty and that I dress well. Thank yo for talking about this :)
My Mother has chronic depression, and she doesn't ever do her hair, wear make-up or bother with things like that but she loves clothes and spends any spear cash she does on them.
I don't know if thats related to her depression at all but just a thought. x
well i have SAD and the dr said i just imagine that people think i look like a crazy person. but i dont imagine women looking at me and grabbing their purses or their little kids or whatever. i think people do look at me and think i am crazy but maybe they are getting the vibe that i dont want human beings anywhere near me. luckily i am on disability now and dont have to go out around human beings unless it is absolutely necessary
Hey I`m waiting for a responds from S.S about my disability case.....do you know how long it takes for them to send you a letter in the mail. I had a doctors appointment on March 1st and I haven`t heard anything yet.
Hello Christine Stewart, I found this video very useful and i agree dont judge the book by the cover same to with people, I always been your friend from day one and support you though the problems you have, I am always here for you if you need me hon Hugs Kisses Love Gizmo xxx
thank you for this video. It confirms things for me. Medical professionals all say you to me 'you look well', because i have make up one and i dress smartly, not in sweats! I wear comfy clothes, sweats and pjs at home, but when out I like to look tidy. It feels like when i wear messy home clothes people look at me and think i look ill, but really i no people don't care really. When I'm not well I won't wear make up, but then sometimes I will dress up and put make up on to help my mood. xx
Thanks for this Video, I know that a lot of the time when I am feeling bad and I have to go out I tend to dress up a bit more. It is like the worse i feel the better I have to look so that people don't think I'm having a bad day.
This is an excellent video and I very much agree and I find that with myself when the spark of self doubt invades me it's usually about my looks, the thoughts in my mind tell me I'm not pretty enough and that I have the wrong hair colour and I have to tell myself what I have acheived with my youtube videos. I don't feel that good about myself really but I enjoy talking to the world through youtube but when I do beauty videos I often feel a fraud because I don't care as much as gurus do about it.
I work Abercrombie & Fitch, usually a person who works there is beautiful and oh so perfect. NOT me, my anxiety took over my life, caused me to stop going to a public school. People see my beautiful outside and not all my pain on my inside. I could write 20 pages about what I've been through. But I'll just say this, BEFORE you judge someone, get to know them, just talk to them, you'd be surprised about what people hide. Thank you for your videos, you're beautiful inside and out <3
a, and one last thing, i promise:))....people judge me through the prism of my drawnings...this is hylarious....a person who had schizophrenia, told me that i`m really crazy beacuse i draw crazy things and i would never get better. how crazy is that?...so what i was trying to say....not only normal people judge.
also, i think that some of the people that told you that you don`t have any problem beacuse you look normal, are afraid that a person who look normal and have a normal life like them( even if they don`t know how your life really is) can have a mental illness. so they deny that possibility. they need to be secure about them, and unfortunately, their security comes by putting to you the stamp of ,, normal person", like them. they need to feel that they are safe.
people in general are not informed about what mental illness is, they see the patologycal example on the streets. they associate mental illness with schizophrenia, especially in my country. if you are not completely dissociated from reality, you don`t have any mental problem so they judge by how you look and what you say. if you are coherent, you`re not crazy. what means to be crazy is very complicated. i don`t have space to talk more about that.
This may be OT, but I am always fascinated at evals. They ask you a series of questions that are super simple. They'll say something like "rain, tapestry, window, car, elephant. Can you remember those words in that order?" Then they'll ask you a couple simple addition/subtraction things. Then ask you to repeat te words they asked you to remember. I can always do this, and they write "Highly Intelligent" on the paper work. I find that odd. I avoid reading what they think about how I look though.
Hi I just wanted to tell you I agree i agree with you and I gotten that before. There's really nothing you can say to those people because they don't understand what it's like to have a mental illness. I wish more people would educate themselves on it and stop making rude comments. Miss talking to you.. Hope we can become close friends again.
only if you go to Goodwill or Biglot's at the 1st of the month on check cashing days or you watch the Walmart greeters to closely , but hey everybody's got their Quirks ,Seen & Unseen ,
but hey some people thought John Wayne Gacey & Ted Bundy were great Guy's before the Sh*t hit the fan ..
You are a beautiful person. I am BPD. I am a 38 yr. old mom to four and full scholarship at college with a 3.85 GPA. It is VERY common for BPD patients to be very high functioning (for awhile, not long term) in our work/school life. I know for me, work and school are what I am best at. It took this long for me to realize that I suck at relationships and "real life". Glad to see your posts! Keep 'em comin'!!!
Dont worry what people think about you i wish i was as pretty as you xx u inspire me u reali do xx i know how much people stero type people who self harm and bordaline personality disorder and mental illness and i agree with you u shouldnt juge people how you look xx
I used to work with people with mental health problems. They pretty much never "looked crazy", outward apperence didn't tell you much. But that's pretty much what everyone goes by these days unfortunaterly.
You look really great by the way, one of my pet peeves is attractive women who find it hard to see how beautiful they are.
I can totally relate to this. I still do my hair and makeup because it helps me to feel better...I think people have to realize that mental illness, like so many other things, affects us no matter what our socio-economic status is, no matter what we look like...thanks for speaking up! By the way, I just started a vlog on BPD. :)
I agree with you completely. People have been telling me I look fine but not because I dress good... But because of the way I act. When I meet someone I will be respectful, nice and I will look happy. And they autimatically think im fine. They think that I really DONT have depression and bpd. of course im not gonna act depressed just to prove to them I am. When I meet someone I dont let those things show, its only when I really know them and then they get tired of me
Sweetie your're beautiful inside and out :) don't let styreotypical people get to you. Thank you for putting this message out into our society, it will help many others out there with mental illnesses :) Stay strong!
I believe that disability can be as simple as your an adult age and dont have a occupation or education level able to support an independant lifestyle.
I think the system tries to label this as mental illness but its really a measure of your abilty to survive as an adult.
Some people do have depression and other problems but some are just un motived and poor.
Be yourself and do what you like to do and have the people in your life you like and want to be around. And frankly fuck everyone else who doesn't like you because they don't care. Why should you? Most are just trying to make you feel bad about yourself because they get rise out of it. Say if someone said something to you about how you look, just don't even recognize they said anything, then they will feel stupid for something they said. Most of the time they won't say anything else.
iv been reading some of the comments. Looks matter to an extent, but its how you deal with the people that it matters to. Like I know myself and I know that I'm not the most attractive female around. When I am dressed up I get people open doors for me and nice to me vs when I'm not I get treated rather crudely. Looks do matter when you are out in society and that is just a sad fact of life. But you are pretty and attractive and i'm straight. But you can't please everyone, be yourself.
Most people base everything on looks. Just because you look ok doesn't mean you are. Looks can be deceiving. There have been many times Iv been surprised by this, someone who has had cancer and they don't even look sick. I would say its a lot of the media and stereotyping. A lot of people don't think I have anything wrong with me and usually when I tell them im on disability they think there is something physically wrong. I guess they think I should be in a wheelchair or be hobbling LOL
I only spoke out about this recently and my Mum said I was a very quiet child and didnt want to be left alone at play school and didnt speak to anyone so I can only assume its a condition thats in the fabnric of my being and not something that can be treated. I love life and have tons of hobbies but cant shake the anxiety. What a shitty way to live. I feel sorry for everyone with this anxiety bollocks.
My anxiety has progressed to a state where having an anxiety attack and then looking visibly stressed and uncomfortable has reversed itself, after 37 years of this I now always appear visibly stressed and uncomfortable even on my own and its when I go to work etc the anxiety kicks in cos im concious of the fact I dont look well. I fear ridicule every day even though I dont care what people think deep down. It doesn't make sense.
I don't know what your deal is, but you are very pretty and people must tell you that all the time. You look like you have a fascination with a certain pop star or two. One road out is to let go of that because all of that imagery is 100% fake. You ask why people are focused on appearance while explaining that you look the way you do because you are focused on appearance. Taking pride in your appearance is fine, but the other side of it is that people will notice it. Just roll with it.
@AnotherCompartment Her deal? Didn't you understand anything she said? Of course she is pretty. Okay she looks like a certain pop star or two, who cares? Its not like she wants to be like them. Thats beside the point. You've got to understand that when you don't have self-confidence and you don't feel good in your skin, you will try to look your best because when you arent, you feel like people look at you to judge you. it makes her feel better about herself.
I was lmao through most of this video, but NOT because the stuff you said was actually funny. It's just the sarcastic tone you had when you were saying it all. Yeah, people are beyond stupid 90% of the time. I just found your channel & it's really cool that you're so open. Sub'd!!
I have a few thoughts on this. One is people like to think in black & white. There are perfectly sane, normal, 100% functioning people, and there are complete lunatics. It's easier to think if there are 2 kinds of people, no shades of gray. And it's scary that a disorder can be hidden in a normal-looking person. If you have one, maybe someone else has one, maybe everybody else, maybe even oneself!
@Posthuman7 Ok, my comment was very harsh and I've taken it down, but....you don't know the history. Christie OWES me one hell of an explanation, and I've been waiting for about 9 months.
I can kind of totally relate to what you're talking about; When I went back to school after the first time I was hospitalized, people were completely confused as to how I was dealing with a mental disorder when I didn't really look like anything was wrong with me. I think some of my teachers thought I was just trying to get out of school for some time because they thought the same thing as my peers. Anyway, your video helped me to think about this a bit more, so thanks=]
The first time I went to my therapy group, I saw someone and just knew they had issues. Sallow skin, tired eyes, pursed mouth. It's not so much about the way they dress than their face.
I'm not trying to be mean but you have been getting fatter and fatter :| if u look back on your old videos and is it true you are a alcoholic? And you smoke?
Do your life suck so much to the point where you like to take shots at people randomly? Post a picture of yourself and I can promise you that I can make you cry.
@nickintp Oh my god really? Why the heck dont you stop Responding before you know the truth about this person here lets c Eating disorter,Alcoholic,Smoker, C'mon i used to look up to her but she isnt even trying
Honestly I think you look very beautiful and pretty the way you are right here. Without any makeup. I dont wear makeup and i think natural is very pretty.
It was thought that Marilyn Monroe and Princess Diana had Borderline Personality Disorder, and both of them seem to be very well dressed and attractive. I like this video.
You look like Courtney love! I think mental issues do effect the outward apperanice. Not being ugly just maybe with your style. I have deppresion and anxity I dress punk and goth most of the time to deal with it.
Oh i wanted to add tho- i do understand why appearance is part of a psych. eval. they (the person w/clipboard) uses self care as an indicator of depression etc. and there is also to much hygene (spelling?- sorry it's late I'm babbling mania anyone??;) -compulsive handwashing etc.
I hate that society has been... trained?.. to think the mentally ill all look like we live on the streets. Just like any other illnesses there are degrees & differences. I am Bi-polar sometimes I am the great unwashed (depressed) with dishez piled high & giant dust bunnies waiting to eat the cat, at other times you could eat off the floors, etc. (hello mania!) but in either state I can put on a helluva front for the "outside world" & look like any other wife/mum.
Your too "good looking" to have any mental problems? Ignore! all comments like that P.S I brought and read that book you recomended in your video"tipsy update-handheld style" Lost in the mirror, A informative read, But... a little bit "jennifer yellow hat" for me, If you understand what I mean, A few patients story`s And a brief drugs review. I guess I thought it would be one person`s story, Right though like most books, Still I belive I know more about bpd for reading it! thanks.
@RichellesNana I knew a family who had bugs crawling all over inside their home, it FREAKED me OUT. I was like 'WTH is this?' and they had children. Never did figure out what was going on, but one of the parents displayed deep signs of Depression.
i do totally believe that ALL people give off vibes. Those are reflected in how people react to us and how we react to other people. Bad vibes, also called bad first impressions, can really turn someone off someone else or even make them afraid. Weird? We're all human. Guess that's what we have to deal with in this world.
@DeepWater92 whats your blog? id love to read it. Either you could let me know here or send me a message and if you'd like I could link it on my blog at xsullengirlx . com
The one with the beautifull mask lies. Politicians as beautifull and eloquent as they come over are those who lie allot.
Really some of the worst people "Well he looked like an ordinary person, had a few odd hobbies. Like that time he was moving trashbags.. you wouldn't say those we're bodies right?"
Actually some of the most sane are broken on the outside :) Sorry to say but.. Syndrome from Down.. look at them. Their heart is so big.. there is a purity there!
@DeepWater92 People are very visual creatures, other things like animals & insects usually focus on only 1or maybe 2 of their senses to survive. Yet we are so visual! How we react to people is based more on first impressions & body language than anything else. What do you think of that?
I don't understand why people are focusing on what you look like compared to a few of the things you are going through. I don't even know where to begin in processing that. It honest to god makes no sense to me... =/ sorry...
thats pretty amazing...i feel the same fuckiing way..like in the morning if i dont do my hair and makeup i feel like i dont deserve anyone, or like in gonna have a bad day, or like bad things deserve to come my way when my hairs not done or my makeups not right...its really odd, and also very new too me..im like killing my social..but honestly i dont care...as long as i look good...i dont really know about myself now, but this video was great! it made me feel like i wasnt the only one out there
Sorry if this comment isn't related to the video, but I was just wandering, I'm only 13, and think I may have depression - not on a massive scale like, but I feel down alot and I also self harm. I do cry lots too and can't tell anyone, what do you think I should do??? Thankyou , Luv Zo3 x
@Zo3Holt I was in the same situation some years ago. I didn't have anybody to talk to, I didn't trust anybody at all. But a year ago I started on a new school and I got a new teacher which I really liked. I told him how I felt and I ended up having at least one conversation a week with him, and that really helped. Now, a year later, I don't feel so much down anymore, actually I hardly ever feel that anymore. Before I used to self harm like every day, and now I only do it maybe once a week .
@Zo3Holt And that is not because I am depressed, I'm just kind of addicted I guess... Anyway, I think you should talk to somebody you feel safe with. I trust my teacher more than my own parents and friends. You may not have a teacher to talk to, but anybody would do, but I think you should talk to a grown up tho. Young people may act like your therapist or something, and they are NOT! So to say this short, I really think you should talk to somebody about how you feel, and figure out a way to
I think the word you might be looking for is "insulted". That people would have the naivety and audacity to make a comment as uneducated as "you don't look ill so you must not be." Does a diabetic have a certain look? Does a Cancer patient? What makes us any different? Nothing. I think, if there is a difference, it is between the educated and willingness to learn and those that are ignorant and unwilling to learn.
You are doing an awesome job and I am proud to say that I know you.
Thanx for your videos. I think you're a really strong and kind person that you can come on here and open up about your personal issues and struggles in order to help others. Stay just the way you are and don't let any of these ignorant people get you down. :)
Am I supposed to walk around smelly, no makeup, and be angry and frown all the time? I for one would never take my frustrations out on others and I'm always smiling because that's just what I do to deal with everything...I laugh it off and always hide my real feelings. I also would never go out looking like a bum even if I was going out just to hurl myself off a bridge. I never went back to this dr. and haven't gone for help since. Never again...I can't trust anyone with my feelings anymore.
I completely understand where you're coming from! This drives me nuts. You can't ever know a person by how they look but for some reason people always seem to do so. I went to a psychologist for depression (among other things.. si and abuse) and she rolled her eyes and was like: "You don't look depressed". Basically implying that I'm just lying or something. Honestly what does a depressed person look like?...............
Thank you SO much for making this video. This is a reality in the mental health field and I've experienced it many times when trying to get help. I don't know how many times supposed mental health 'professionals' told me I didn't have any real problems because I 'looked good' on a particular day.... I find it's worse with male clinicians, though. I have severe anxiety and BPD and dressing nice and putting makeup on makes me feel a bit better... what's wrong with that?
I applaud you for having the guts to do this videos. Your actually the only interesting person with a personality disorder on YouTube. Even thought the bad comments may sting you dont let them bother you and if a thought of those comments come to mind just forget them from your mind. I often feel so different from people. I'm also so petrified of going out to crowds of people because I feel they're watching and laughing at me. I guess people don't get our way of thinking. I just think sometimes
i think that is a great point because everyone I talked to a psychiatrist she chose to commented on me not wearing make up there. which doesn't make all that much scene because why would I want to go to any effort to look half descent for someone I don't want to see, the funniest thing was that I came straight out of skwl to see her and your not so post to were it. since then I feel a need to were make up more often just so people wont comment on that again
I have ainxiety and I wear makeup esspecaly when I go to the hospital place so ppl don't think that about me. And I belive that u do have the issues that u say u do no matter what u look like. And anyone who said that bs about her on that vid can go f@$# themselves !
I totally understand about going out and feeling less anxiety when you look your best. I am the same way, I even have days when if I feel really bad about my appearence I cannot go out at all.
I hope you don't dwell too much on those stupid comments. You are totally gorgeous (makeup or not) but that doesn't mean you have a perfect life. People are quick to judge, I guess it makes them feel superior to do that.
you are beautiful but that indeed doesnt say how you are inside, I tink that people who think you are "normal" if you look "normal" arent really smart!
I've had that happen to me to, some people are just childish in a way where their naive. u can't understand unless u go through it yourself. I'm one of those people who like to hide how "crazy" I am and not draw that type of attention to myself. so I can understand how hurtful those type of comments are. just like to say thank you very much for your posts and updates, you have no idea how much you help me or even keep me sane, just knowing your not alone really helps.
People who make comments like that are just plain stupid. Chalk it up to the failing educational system--if one of their graduates can come out and spew such nonsensical diarrhea and believe there's any truth in it.
u cant win either way. if u dress up u dnt look crazy. if u dress down u might look 2 crazy. my clothes dont reflect my mood/state of mind. if i'm feelin really depressed i wil jst throw on wot ever. but on my better days i'll put more thought in2 it. i used 2 think i cant go out the house a dressed a certain way cos ppl wil think i'm a tramp! but now i dnt care. if i'm comfortable thats my business. even if i dress nice that doesnt mean i dnt feel sad. i feel conscious either way so i cant win!
I really appreciated this video. I experience the same sort of "vibe" from people when they find out I've been diagnosed with a mental disorder. It's so hard to be taken seriously just because of my "together" appearance. "You don't judge a book by it's cover" is one of the oldest and most cliche quotes but also the most valuable.
Anyway, thanks again for posting this and take care.
I cant believe you got such comments. Thats really sad. Especially when you feel bad you try to hide it and to look good! I often get judged, too. And if its wearing an Elvis-T-Shirt, which isn´t "crazy" in my opinion. Or for doing my hair in certain ways... I feel comfortable with it and I don´t want to be watched or something. Even if I dress "normal" people would look at me (I think) - why can´t they just ignore or accept it?
I just want to say that in the medical world, even though it's not true for everybody, mental illness can affect one's hygiene and appearance (like you said in the vid). But there is a connection between the two sometimes, so that's probably why it's in the reports. Seeing as medicine and psychology are sciences, they have to be thourough. (and I totally spelled that wrong..sorry).
I also want to mention that I was glad that you brought up SI. The subject has been going around the community.
i know this is kinda contradictory to what you were saying but I couldnt help thinking throughout this vid that you would look sooo much better without a fringe!! Sorry! just my opinion!! :p With or without a fringe you are still beautiful anyways! :)
However, i totally agree with what you're saying- you can't judge a book by its cover!! Don't worry about what other people think anyway, everyone has a different idea of the ideal so as long as you are happy thats all that matters in then end.
I'm complety obesessed with my cloths.Not the cost, my cloths are not expensive but their not that cheap either. I'm obsessed with how clean my cloths are. I can't wear any item of clothing more than once before washing it and I am super picky about what detergent I use, I'll only use cheer or tide and I always smell like clean laundry
Xsullengirlx you weren’t rambling you were speaking the truth. As someone with BPD and depression I agree with and can relate to what you said. Personally, I use my appearance to mask my low moods as the fear of ‘looking crazy’ is always on my mind. I work hard to make sure I look ‘normal’ so people will think I am feeling okay. So I just want to second your statement, its true when it comes to the mentally ill you can’t really know how mentally healthy a person is just by looking at them.
and AMen on the people are staring at me thing
TheMirrorholic 3 days ago
I have OCD and I look completely normal and I see "normal" as having various definitions depending on personal belief of what is "normal" I consider myself to look like everyone else and just because I have a mental illness it does not mean I suddenly sprout horns or have a constant psychotic look to me. xsullengirlx I aplaud you for making videos such as this as an outlet for people and to bring awareness to the fact that people that have a mental illness are not freaks :)
TheMirrorholic 3 days ago
... that friend of hers was diagnosed a long time ago while I found out I have it just recently. So when I told her this was it she just said no, that's not it, you two are not the same at all. So yeah I guess she thought mental disorders are visible with everyone. They're not, specially the kind of psychosis I suffer from. Most people who know me have absolutely no idea I'm psychotic.
LoonaLuna20 2 weeks ago
That's the thing specially with BPD. My best friend knows 2 people with BPD - me and another friend she has. And we experience these things differently, for example she has extremely visible mood swings, yells at people and stuff and she doesn't suffer from psychosis, and I'm more of a 'silent' borderline - I have episodes of extreme persecutory delusions (especially in the evenings and nights), and even though I have a pretty big irritability problem I tend to just walk away from it. So ...
LoonaLuna20 2 weeks ago
I am totally with you on this. People also saying "You don't seeeeeem unwell"! They don't get that it's INSIDE us... it's our EMOTIONS that are unstable. Just coz we don't bob around looking rubbish and making groaning noises, they can't accept it.
groovypsychchick 1 month ago
Funny when you people say your very pretty , there's nothing wrong you should love yourself, hmmmm wish it was that easy
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morganjamison1 1 month ago
Thank you for this! I think alot of us try so so hard to not fit the "coo-coo" look, therefore are looked past even though there is something very wrong. I feel outward apperences will always get wayyy to much credit.
KeepHope0821 1 month ago
I have the exact same problem, a lot of people look at me and say that there's nothing wrong with me because I look "fine". When I was applying for disability benefits I was afraid that they would think the same thing and I dressed down, so I sacrificed my appearance to "look the part" I'm really glad that you spoke about this, because I'm sure a lot of people have this issue and hearing it from another person really helps.
vskramstad 1 month ago
this video is SOOO true but you have to be going through it to understand
zaazi123 1 month ago
Sadly my mental illness shows. There is no shine to my hair, no glow to my skin, Ive gained weight, I have dark shadows under my eyes and just a general look of illness. Not to mention the fact the illness has been such a long term thing I'm neglectful of self care like hygiene, makeup, clean clothing, three meals a day. It's very hurtful for me because no one is there to care for me. I'm 19 but people think I'm 30. I'm a one off. Thank god most people CAN look normal while still being ill.
TheThreeWeavers 1 month ago
@TheThreeWeavers for me its exactly the same dont worry
zaazi123 1 month ago
from severe disorders or who are criminally insane, do NOT behave or act "crazy". I have dysthymia, panic attacks, anxiety and agoraphobia, and most people just think that I'm shy or quiet. I am a very nice, polite, respectable person who probably seems quite unassuming and average to most people. I don't run around yelling gibberish, or run to the rooftops saying a can fly or anything of that nature. Also most people are surprised when they find out I suffer from all these things.
Goldfrappe 1 month ago 2
Also, in relation to your video, which you might have discussed in another video, or may consider making a video about, is also that many people think that people with mental disorders ACT or behave a certain way. They expect people with disorders to behave crazy, or neurotic or to act like a wild animal or to be completely delusional and irrational and so off the wall weird, which is a total misjudgment and ridiculous misconception. Most people, apart from certain individuals or are suffering
Goldfrappe 1 month ago
I think that people have this misconception that people with mental disorders have to look like they're straight out of "one flew over the coocoo's nest" or "girl, interrupted", which is ridiculous. People with mental illness come from ALL walks of life. Rich, poor, young, old, male, female.
Goldfrappe 1 month ago
I think that there has been a lot of portrayal of people with mental disorders in movies and media fitting this stereotype of appearing disheveled and unkempt and looking haggard and appearing very scary or unapproachable. We look just like everyone else, if not even MORE "normal" than average people who don't deal with these disorders like we do.
Goldfrappe 1 month ago
No, people with mental illness don't look crazy. Some Psychologists misdiagnose people as okay even though they are not. My sisters psychologist told her that she looks and seems okay even though she has severe depression going 6 years now. Whats up with that? How did they get their degree, when they are so damn ignorant.
kalkeikuu 1 month ago
@kalkeikuu my doctor told me i am the only one who thinks i am suffering from depression
zaazi123 1 month ago
LOL. Your whole channel is you complaining.
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@666ThaScarecro666 LOL and your whole channel is you trolling. I have thousands of people who care about what I have to say, and they relate to me... sorry you're so desperate. Get well soon. :)
xsullengirlx 1 month ago 11
@666ThaScarecro666 You know what Mr dude? No one cares what you have to say because your just RUDE. yayayayay...I feel better now!
agrl20 1 month ago
i hate the way ppl judge ppl on their looks to say they are or not mental. i dont look crazy but i am. so haha
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jaco0bx 3 months ago
What should I wear for mental exam
BlackstarTVi 3 months ago
Because beautiful people aren't supposed to have problems. >.> [/sarcasm]
savvywoza 4 months ago
Nice video. I'm here because the girl I love has bpd and I have no idea what to do. We've been apart for about a month now. I've tried empathy, love, understanding everything I could. I've always prided myself on my abilities to relate but bpd puts things in another realm. I curse all those responsible for creating these problems. I would kill them if I could.
aufheben5 4 months ago
--I seem not to be able to please anyone i feel. one minute ( well less than most becaus ei haven't been at school for what 11 months now)- one minute i'm too quiet to be normal, one minuite i'm too confident to ahve a pfroblem, whatt the actual fuckk
Sillilesshells 6 months ago
--I explauiedn how , i'm soo used to going to school and trying to control my anxiety disorder. yeh ofcourse so i can actually do stuff. but if i showed how upset i felt people would think iw as a freak. and now when i go to my therapest, it seems that she was saying she thought, you can't act confident and have a massive problem. ofcourse you can. when i asked her she denied it but i'm not conviced she really agreed. you know..it made me just think, how am i ment to act . read next comment---
Sillilesshells 6 months ago
okay. the thing that most annoyed me is. i had a meeting a doctor i'd met before, so i wasn'treally sure how to act. and after, my therapest said. thats the most flat i've seen you so i explained that i was aprehences because i don't know him. then my mum was cring down the phone to her saying i need help so we had another meeting. My theraqpest said. from how i carriesd my self last time , didn't make it clear to her and the doctor how crap i really felt. read to next coment--
Sillilesshells 6 months ago
urgh..i don't even have words or the energy to describe how annoyed i feel when people ( even people close to me) say you look fine so whats wrong. YOU CAN NOT SEE ANXIETY DISORDERS. i feel so oppressed by the stigme, even though no ones actuaklly saying it directly to me, i'm just getting better from being hosuebound and i think about it every day. its the - the core of my unconfidence. i can't stop putting myself down i swear :(
Sillilesshells 6 months ago
In the field of psychiatry there is a term "self-care." It means exactly that - the ability of the patient to take care of his or herself. This includes not just ability to have good hygiene and things like that, but pay bills on time and such.The ability of the patient to do self-care depends on the illness itself and the severity of the disease. There is so much ignorance when it comes to mental health, hope this cleared it up for someone out there.
ktdsound 6 months ago 10
@ktdsound Awesome comment, well said! Thank you for posting this and I hope lots of people see it.
xsullengirlx 6 months ago 4
So now that me wanting to dress nice and keep clean means Im better and not disabled by social security standards then I guess they can let there kids ride with total strangers cause in social securitys eyes a guy wearing a nice suit and drives a viper CANT BE A PEDO or a SERIAL KILLER oh no WAY cause in social securitys eyes this guy is OK hes presentable he cant do no harm or he cant be a criminal AT ALL. Hes presentable. Give me a BREAK! Judgemental people are dipshits!
BLUExEYEDxSLICKT 6 months ago
Anyways social security wanted me to get a job in 07 and try it. I was fired 4 months in and then I get a letter by christmas my disability was stopping cause I was better??? I freaked out and appealed it and fought appeal after appeal untill I saw the judge and did that twice and finally WON my disability back. They tricked me to use that to say I was better to try stopping my check. Social security was saying in court Im a hansom presentable young man and didnt LOOK disablled!
BLUExEYEDxSLICKT 6 months ago
Continued, anyways I even worked in 2007 doing night stocking and hated it but I stuck in there even while sweating 24/7 with the anxiety trying to hit everyday. I outlasted normal people that quit but I stuck it out and was fired 4 months in cause I complained I cant handle the 6 days a week they had me on. Then they said my box counts werent up to par but I was fastest there but anyways, I was fired. It took 4 months to fix my SSI the ridiculous 674 a month check I get.
BLUExEYEDxSLICKT 6 months ago
I know how you feel. I never could hold a job growing up as a teen due to freaking out over crowds in public and my IQ of focuse under pressure in a public job went from 100% to 0 in seconds from feeling overwhelmed when Im near crowded places I FREAK OUT. So After losing job after job I was declared disabled when I was 19. I worked from the time I was 14 to 19 a LOT. Im 29 now and now I stay in my car when we go places and the wife does the shopping I cant handle it and Zombie MEDS dont help!
BLUExEYEDxSLICKT 6 months ago
I completely agree with you about how there is no "look" for someone with a mental illness. Although you look great in appearance on your videos, I understand that you have been suffering with mental issues. Like you, I also feel like people are looking at me when I leave the house. I will never leave the house unless I feel like I did my very best to "look" the best I can so that people won't think I am a slob or have mental issues. I have severe panic disorder, and it rules my life...:-(
OZRIC1985 7 months ago
Im in canada, any secrets when applying to the "suits" for disability coverage? My wife has artheritis bad in hand, fybromyalgia, etc, back problems and is wondering how you fill out forms without messing it up to get "Dissaproved" sent back to ya? I know they do that to see who appeal, then they figure they are serious....know what I mean?
ellonylj 7 months ago
everyone is crazy; social acceptance is a whole different issue, and in that respect, most people are mindless sheep. If you let them define who you are and harass you with whatever reputation you build up -bipolar, grumpy, strange, crazy- they will actually try to prove themselves right and kill you softly, ostracize you and reject you. But that's what happens when you're weak. Crazy people of the world:
Be strong.
moderjoker 7 months ago
i think the comment 'you're too pretty to cut' comment is the worst
it's like what? if a person is pretty, then they don't have feelings or a reason to cut?
it's stupid because in fact, some mental illness' revolve around looks like EDs and BDD so their points are completely invalid!
Downtownpatrol 8 months ago
I really relate to you when you say that when you go out you feel that everyone is watching you even though you know they don't and that it makes you feel better to know that you've tried to look your best. I've been diagnosed with bpd and social anxiety and people often say I am pretty and that I dress well. Like you say don't judge the book by it's cover. Thank you for talking about this :)
TheMissaquaalex 8 months ago
I really relate to you when you say that when you go out you feel that everyone is watching you even though you know they don't and that it makes you feel better to know that you've tried to look your best. I've been diagnosed with bpd and social anxiety and people often say I am pretty and that I dress well. Thank yo for talking about this :)
TheMissaquaalex 8 months ago
@MrCombatveteran you should have your own show yeah.
Writteninmyheart 8 months ago
This video makes so much sense.
My Mother has chronic depression, and she doesn't ever do her hair, wear make-up or bother with things like that but she loves clothes and spends any spear cash she does on them.
I don't know if thats related to her depression at all but just a thought. x
MPLUVMJ 8 months ago
I can feel your energy. I thought you were bipolar at first.
synchromorph 8 months ago
Look up the healing power of Neurofeedback....please spread the word it seems to be a secret and it is an answer to unlock the brain
Diane9773 9 months ago
Your video is nice. I rated like. But I know too, we don't talk about it. We can't. I know too. I'm a man.
Allen8625 10 months ago
well i have SAD and the dr said i just imagine that people think i look like a crazy person. but i dont imagine women looking at me and grabbing their purses or their little kids or whatever. i think people do look at me and think i am crazy but maybe they are getting the vibe that i dont want human beings anywhere near me. luckily i am on disability now and dont have to go out around human beings unless it is absolutely necessary
BeingNobody1956 10 months ago
marry meeeee!!!!?
snotnoseclimber 10 months ago
Hey I`m waiting for a responds from S.S about my disability case.....do you know how long it takes for them to send you a letter in the mail. I had a doctors appointment on March 1st and I haven`t heard anything yet.
delacerdaa 10 months ago
Hello Christine Stewart, I found this video very useful and i agree dont judge the book by the cover same to with people, I always been your friend from day one and support you though the problems you have, I am always here for you if you need me hon Hugs Kisses Love Gizmo xxx
darlingtester1982 11 months ago
thank you for this video. It confirms things for me. Medical professionals all say you to me 'you look well', because i have make up one and i dress smartly, not in sweats! I wear comfy clothes, sweats and pjs at home, but when out I like to look tidy. It feels like when i wear messy home clothes people look at me and think i look ill, but really i no people don't care really. When I'm not well I won't wear make up, but then sometimes I will dress up and put make up on to help my mood. xx
lauraMay24 11 months ago
Thanks for this Video, I know that a lot of the time when I am feeling bad and I have to go out I tend to dress up a bit more. It is like the worse i feel the better I have to look so that people don't think I'm having a bad day.
kbb9966 1 year ago
i know what you are talking about.. people are afraid and dont understand..
elinaalfredsson90 1 year ago
I'm so glad you take the time to make these videos. I really DO care about what you have to say :]
MickeyChick17 1 year ago
you're beautiful by the way
Portishead8us 1 year ago
i can relate to you in soooo many ways!
Portishead8us 1 year ago
does depression count as a mental disorder? i know it has to do with mentality, but im not sure if its classified as a mental disorder.
anywherebuthere333 1 year ago
This is an excellent video and I very much agree and I find that with myself when the spark of self doubt invades me it's usually about my looks, the thoughts in my mind tell me I'm not pretty enough and that I have the wrong hair colour and I have to tell myself what I have acheived with my youtube videos. I don't feel that good about myself really but I enjoy talking to the world through youtube but when I do beauty videos I often feel a fraud because I don't care as much as gurus do about it.
CuriosityRocks 1 year ago
I work Abercrombie & Fitch, usually a person who works there is beautiful and oh so perfect. NOT me, my anxiety took over my life, caused me to stop going to a public school. People see my beautiful outside and not all my pain on my inside. I could write 20 pages about what I've been through. But I'll just say this, BEFORE you judge someone, get to know them, just talk to them, you'd be surprised about what people hide. Thank you for your videos, you're beautiful inside and out <3
jessfashion1 1 year ago 2
a, and one last thing, i promise:))....people judge me through the prism of my drawnings...this is hylarious....a person who had schizophrenia, told me that i`m really crazy beacuse i draw crazy things and i would never get better. how crazy is that?...so what i was trying to say....not only normal people judge.
i wish you a great day
seroquel77 1 year ago
also, i think that some of the people that told you that you don`t have any problem beacuse you look normal, are afraid that a person who look normal and have a normal life like them( even if they don`t know how your life really is) can have a mental illness. so they deny that possibility. they need to be secure about them, and unfortunately, their security comes by putting to you the stamp of ,, normal person", like them. they need to feel that they are safe.
seroquel77 1 year ago
people in general are not informed about what mental illness is, they see the patologycal example on the streets. they associate mental illness with schizophrenia, especially in my country. if you are not completely dissociated from reality, you don`t have any mental problem so they judge by how you look and what you say. if you are coherent, you`re not crazy. what means to be crazy is very complicated. i don`t have space to talk more about that.
seroquel77 1 year ago
Really interesting topic. Thanks for the vid
ShiresAndStags 1 year ago
This may be OT, but I am always fascinated at evals. They ask you a series of questions that are super simple. They'll say something like "rain, tapestry, window, car, elephant. Can you remember those words in that order?" Then they'll ask you a couple simple addition/subtraction things. Then ask you to repeat te words they asked you to remember. I can always do this, and they write "Highly Intelligent" on the paper work. I find that odd. I avoid reading what they think about how I look though.
Hlejames 1 year ago
Hi I just wanted to tell you I agree i agree with you and I gotten that before. There's really nothing you can say to those people because they don't understand what it's like to have a mental illness. I wish more people would educate themselves on it and stop making rude comments. Miss talking to you.. Hope we can become close friends again.
darkbeauty101 1 year ago
only if you go to Goodwill or Biglot's at the 1st of the month on check cashing days or you watch the Walmart greeters to closely , but hey everybody's got their Quirks ,Seen & Unseen ,
but hey some people thought John Wayne Gacey & Ted Bundy were great Guy's before the Sh*t hit the fan ..
SOLIE6226 1 year ago
People ALWAYS judge you on your outward appearance. Its a never ending cycle! :(
WhatevaSheCUTE 1 year ago
its funny how ppl got the nurve to talk when they have no idea what they are talking about... no you dont have to look crazy to get s.s
twixx069 1 year ago
You are a beautiful person. I am BPD. I am a 38 yr. old mom to four and full scholarship at college with a 3.85 GPA. It is VERY common for BPD patients to be very high functioning (for awhile, not long term) in our work/school life. I know for me, work and school are what I am best at. It took this long for me to realize that I suck at relationships and "real life". Glad to see your posts! Keep 'em comin'!!!
CajunsCheri 1 year ago
Dont worry what people think about you i wish i was as pretty as you xx u inspire me u reali do xx i know how much people stero type people who self harm and bordaline personality disorder and mental illness and i agree with you u shouldnt juge people how you look xx
christiex96 1 year ago
i guess they want us to paint ourselfs blue and dye our hair purple and run around saying"omg omg its azreel the cat..run for your lifesss"
derek5555555 1 year ago
I used to work with people with mental health problems. They pretty much never "looked crazy", outward apperence didn't tell you much. But that's pretty much what everyone goes by these days unfortunaterly.
You look really great by the way, one of my pet peeves is attractive women who find it hard to see how beautiful they are.
MikamiPro 1 year ago
I can totally relate to this. I still do my hair and makeup because it helps me to feel better...I think people have to realize that mental illness, like so many other things, affects us no matter what our socio-economic status is, no matter what we look like...thanks for speaking up! By the way, I just started a vlog on BPD. :)
BPDHealing 1 year ago
I agree with you completely. People have been telling me I look fine but not because I dress good... But because of the way I act. When I meet someone I will be respectful, nice and I will look happy. And they autimatically think im fine. They think that I really DONT have depression and bpd. of course im not gonna act depressed just to prove to them I am. When I meet someone I dont let those things show, its only when I really know them and then they get tired of me
michelleluzemo 1 year ago
I'm 345 pounds at 5'9 and 18 years old. NOBODY wants to hang out with me, they know that at first glance.
wollclark 1 year ago
Sweetie your're beautiful inside and out :) don't let styreotypical people get to you. Thank you for putting this message out into our society, it will help many others out there with mental illnesses :) Stay strong!
MyFictionIsReality 1 year ago
I believe that disability can be as simple as your an adult age and dont have a occupation or education level able to support an independant lifestyle.
I think the system tries to label this as mental illness but its really a measure of your abilty to survive as an adult.
Some people do have depression and other problems but some are just un motived and poor.
JTPNYC95 1 year ago
Be yourself and do what you like to do and have the people in your life you like and want to be around. And frankly fuck everyone else who doesn't like you because they don't care. Why should you? Most are just trying to make you feel bad about yourself because they get rise out of it. Say if someone said something to you about how you look, just don't even recognize they said anything, then they will feel stupid for something they said. Most of the time they won't say anything else.
realmofoz 1 year ago
iv been reading some of the comments. Looks matter to an extent, but its how you deal with the people that it matters to. Like I know myself and I know that I'm not the most attractive female around. When I am dressed up I get people open doors for me and nice to me vs when I'm not I get treated rather crudely. Looks do matter when you are out in society and that is just a sad fact of life. But you are pretty and attractive and i'm straight. But you can't please everyone, be yourself.
realmofoz 1 year ago
Most people base everything on looks. Just because you look ok doesn't mean you are. Looks can be deceiving. There have been many times Iv been surprised by this, someone who has had cancer and they don't even look sick. I would say its a lot of the media and stereotyping. A lot of people don't think I have anything wrong with me and usually when I tell them im on disability they think there is something physically wrong. I guess they think I should be in a wheelchair or be hobbling LOL
realmofoz 1 year ago
I only spoke out about this recently and my Mum said I was a very quiet child and didnt want to be left alone at play school and didnt speak to anyone so I can only assume its a condition thats in the fabnric of my being and not something that can be treated. I love life and have tons of hobbies but cant shake the anxiety. What a shitty way to live. I feel sorry for everyone with this anxiety bollocks.
lespaulicetea 1 year ago
My anxiety has progressed to a state where having an anxiety attack and then looking visibly stressed and uncomfortable has reversed itself, after 37 years of this I now always appear visibly stressed and uncomfortable even on my own and its when I go to work etc the anxiety kicks in cos im concious of the fact I dont look well. I fear ridicule every day even though I dont care what people think deep down. It doesn't make sense.
lespaulicetea 1 year ago
I don't know what your deal is, but you are very pretty and people must tell you that all the time. You look like you have a fascination with a certain pop star or two. One road out is to let go of that because all of that imagery is 100% fake. You ask why people are focused on appearance while explaining that you look the way you do because you are focused on appearance. Taking pride in your appearance is fine, but the other side of it is that people will notice it. Just roll with it.
AnotherCompartment 1 year ago
@AnotherCompartment Her deal? Didn't you understand anything she said? Of course she is pretty. Okay she looks like a certain pop star or two, who cares? Its not like she wants to be like them. Thats beside the point. You've got to understand that when you don't have self-confidence and you don't feel good in your skin, you will try to look your best because when you arent, you feel like people look at you to judge you. it makes her feel better about herself.
michelleluzemo 1 year ago
I was lmao through most of this video, but NOT because the stuff you said was actually funny. It's just the sarcastic tone you had when you were saying it all. Yeah, people are beyond stupid 90% of the time. I just found your channel & it's really cool that you're so open. Sub'd!!
madeyes4u 1 year ago
I have a few thoughts on this. One is people like to think in black & white. There are perfectly sane, normal, 100% functioning people, and there are complete lunatics. It's easier to think if there are 2 kinds of people, no shades of gray. And it's scary that a disorder can be hidden in a normal-looking person. If you have one, maybe someone else has one, maybe everybody else, maybe even oneself!
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Posthuman7 1 year ago
@Posthuman7 Ok, my comment was very harsh and I've taken it down, but....you don't know the history. Christie OWES me one hell of an explanation, and I've been waiting for about 9 months.
88ran08 1 year ago
I can kind of totally relate to what you're talking about; When I went back to school after the first time I was hospitalized, people were completely confused as to how I was dealing with a mental disorder when I didn't really look like anything was wrong with me. I think some of my teachers thought I was just trying to get out of school for some time because they thought the same thing as my peers. Anyway, your video helped me to think about this a bit more, so thanks=]
CoraInTheDoldrums 1 year ago
You are so pretty.
SmileyStrawberry 1 year ago 2
We don't need haters. Keep the violience to a minimum.
Shoes454 1 year ago
The first time I went to my therapy group, I saw someone and just knew they had issues. Sallow skin, tired eyes, pursed mouth. It's not so much about the way they dress than their face.
DZrache 1 year ago
You have beautiful eyes.
nickintp 1 year ago 2
I'm not trying to be mean but you have been getting fatter and fatter :| if u look back on your old videos and is it true you are a alcoholic? And you smoke?
ViperVenomify 1 year ago
@ViperVenomify
Do your life suck so much to the point where you like to take shots at people randomly? Post a picture of yourself and I can promise you that I can make you cry.
nickintp 1 year ago
@nickintp Oh my god really? Why the heck dont you stop Responding before you know the truth about this person here lets c Eating disorter,Alcoholic,Smoker, C'mon i used to look up to her but she isnt even trying
ViperVenomify 1 year ago
Honestly I think you look very beautiful and pretty the way you are right here. Without any makeup. I dont wear makeup and i think natural is very pretty.
mhs2007 1 year ago
Hey!
I like to watch your videos, you are interesting! :D
I got BPD myself, so keep it up!! :)
Mirabell90 1 year ago
It was thought that Marilyn Monroe and Princess Diana had Borderline Personality Disorder, and both of them seem to be very well dressed and attractive. I like this video.
ajnachakraguy 1 year ago
If one needs mental help, and one can not pay for the therapy, then one usually ends up in a mental hospital, for i did.
LadyMary6996 1 year ago
You look like Courtney love! I think mental issues do effect the outward apperanice. Not being ugly just maybe with your style. I have deppresion and anxity I dress punk and goth most of the time to deal with it.
XxmychemheartxX 1 year ago
your teeth are very sexy. but your hair...
CunningTrickster 1 year ago
Oh i wanted to add tho- i do understand why appearance is part of a psych. eval. they (the person w/clipboard) uses self care as an indicator of depression etc. and there is also to much hygene (spelling?- sorry it's late I'm babbling mania anyone??;) -compulsive handwashing etc.
HeatherLeigh97023 1 year ago
I hate that society has been... trained?.. to think the mentally ill all look like we live on the streets. Just like any other illnesses there are degrees & differences. I am Bi-polar sometimes I am the great unwashed (depressed) with dishez piled high & giant dust bunnies waiting to eat the cat, at other times you could eat off the floors, etc. (hello mania!) but in either state I can put on a helluva front for the "outside world" & look like any other wife/mum.
HeatherLeigh97023 1 year ago
Your too "good looking" to have any mental problems? Ignore! all comments like that P.S I brought and read that book you recomended in your video"tipsy update-handheld style" Lost in the mirror, A informative read, But... a little bit "jennifer yellow hat" for me, If you understand what I mean, A few patients story`s And a brief drugs review. I guess I thought it would be one person`s story, Right though like most books, Still I belive I know more about bpd for reading it! thanks.
xmoroseguyx 1 year ago
I totally get this. I deal with severe Panic disorder and Its a shock to people when I tell them that I suffer from this mental disability.
I have a vlog dealing with it, Check em out. =)
92kohleen 1 year ago
Amen!
lyrintruth 1 year ago
I agree with you completely and wholeheartedly. Thanks for this video =D
squantay 1 year ago
@RichellesNana I knew a family who had bugs crawling all over inside their home, it FREAKED me OUT. I was like 'WTH is this?' and they had children. Never did figure out what was going on, but one of the parents displayed deep signs of Depression.
ConservativeUncleSam 1 year ago
i do totally believe that ALL people give off vibes. Those are reflected in how people react to us and how we react to other people. Bad vibes, also called bad first impressions, can really turn someone off someone else or even make them afraid. Weird? We're all human. Guess that's what we have to deal with in this world.
ConservativeUncleSam 1 year ago
thxs you really helped me with my blog on how the media see people like us
DeepWater92 1 year ago
@DeepWater92 whats your blog? id love to read it. Either you could let me know here or send me a message and if you'd like I could link it on my blog at xsullengirlx . com
xsullengirlx 1 year ago
@xsullengirlx
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Posthuman7 1 year ago
The one with the beautifull mask lies. Politicians as beautifull and eloquent as they come over are those who lie allot.
Really some of the worst people "Well he looked like an ordinary person, had a few odd hobbies. Like that time he was moving trashbags.. you wouldn't say those we're bodies right?"
Actually some of the most sane are broken on the outside :) Sorry to say but.. Syndrome from Down.. look at them. Their heart is so big.. there is a purity there!
masticina 1 year ago
So true I can shower n put makeup on and get dresses means I am perfectly normal n theres nothing wrong wit me-
slushpuppy777 1 year ago
this video made my eyes water
DeepWater92 1 year ago
@DeepWater92 People are very visual creatures, other things like animals & insects usually focus on only 1or maybe 2 of their senses to survive. Yet we are so visual! How we react to people is based more on first impressions & body language than anything else. What do you think of that?
ConservativeUncleSam 1 year ago
@ConservativeUncleSam
I think your right and its hard to change a first impression, but our perspective is also based on the media of how we see certain peope
DeepWater92 1 year ago
I don't understand why people are focusing on what you look like compared to a few of the things you are going through. I don't even know where to begin in processing that. It honest to god makes no sense to me... =/ sorry...
AdrienChaos 1 year ago
very very very very good video! thank you!
greatweick 1 year ago
thats pretty amazing...i feel the same fuckiing way..like in the morning if i dont do my hair and makeup i feel like i dont deserve anyone, or like in gonna have a bad day, or like bad things deserve to come my way when my hairs not done or my makeups not right...its really odd, and also very new too me..im like killing my social..but honestly i dont care...as long as i look good...i dont really know about myself now, but this video was great! it made me feel like i wasnt the only one out there
KITTYXKHAOTIC 1 year ago
I sent you a message. Good video!
jlt1984 1 year ago
I agree. I actually knew someone who thought they could tell if a kid was autistic by "their eyes". Some of them look quite normal.
BrainDeadIntellect 1 year ago
are you still taking the wellbutrin?
TheJuicyBarbi3 1 year ago
Sorry if this comment isn't related to the video, but I was just wandering, I'm only 13, and think I may have depression - not on a massive scale like, but I feel down alot and I also self harm. I do cry lots too and can't tell anyone, what do you think I should do??? Thankyou , Luv Zo3 x
Zo3Holt 1 year ago
@Zo3Holt I was in the same situation some years ago. I didn't have anybody to talk to, I didn't trust anybody at all. But a year ago I started on a new school and I got a new teacher which I really liked. I told him how I felt and I ended up having at least one conversation a week with him, and that really helped. Now, a year later, I don't feel so much down anymore, actually I hardly ever feel that anymore. Before I used to self harm like every day, and now I only do it maybe once a week .
oOxXMiraXxOo 1 year ago
@Zo3Holt And that is not because I am depressed, I'm just kind of addicted I guess... Anyway, I think you should talk to somebody you feel safe with. I trust my teacher more than my own parents and friends. You may not have a teacher to talk to, but anybody would do, but I think you should talk to a grown up tho. Young people may act like your therapist or something, and they are NOT! So to say this short, I really think you should talk to somebody about how you feel, and figure out a way to
oOxXMiraXxOo 1 year ago
@Zo3Holt handle your times when you feel down :) I really hope this helped, and good luck :)
oOxXMiraXxOo 1 year ago
@oOxXMiraXxOo It really did thankyou. I'm also very happy for you , you're doing great by cutting down !! keep going ;] x
Zo3Holt 1 year ago
I think the word you might be looking for is "insulted". That people would have the naivety and audacity to make a comment as uneducated as "you don't look ill so you must not be." Does a diabetic have a certain look? Does a Cancer patient? What makes us any different? Nothing. I think, if there is a difference, it is between the educated and willingness to learn and those that are ignorant and unwilling to learn.
You are doing an awesome job and I am proud to say that I know you.
Phoenixavalone 1 year ago
Thanx for your videos. I think you're a really strong and kind person that you can come on here and open up about your personal issues and struggles in order to help others. Stay just the way you are and don't let any of these ignorant people get you down. :)
karaokegirlk 1 year ago
Am I supposed to walk around smelly, no makeup, and be angry and frown all the time? I for one would never take my frustrations out on others and I'm always smiling because that's just what I do to deal with everything...I laugh it off and always hide my real feelings. I also would never go out looking like a bum even if I was going out just to hurl myself off a bridge. I never went back to this dr. and haven't gone for help since. Never again...I can't trust anyone with my feelings anymore.
karaokegirlk 1 year ago
I completely understand where you're coming from! This drives me nuts. You can't ever know a person by how they look but for some reason people always seem to do so. I went to a psychologist for depression (among other things.. si and abuse) and she rolled her eyes and was like: "You don't look depressed". Basically implying that I'm just lying or something. Honestly what does a depressed person look like?...............
karaokegirlk 1 year ago
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I absolutely agree. Putting the effort in means one less thing to worry about.
yuffduf 1 year ago
Thank you SO much for making this video. This is a reality in the mental health field and I've experienced it many times when trying to get help. I don't know how many times supposed mental health 'professionals' told me I didn't have any real problems because I 'looked good' on a particular day.... I find it's worse with male clinicians, though. I have severe anxiety and BPD and dressing nice and putting makeup on makes me feel a bit better... what's wrong with that?
Annywn19 1 year ago
I applaud you for having the guts to do this videos. Your actually the only interesting person with a personality disorder on YouTube. Even thought the bad comments may sting you dont let them bother you and if a thought of those comments come to mind just forget them from your mind. I often feel so different from people. I'm also so petrified of going out to crowds of people because I feel they're watching and laughing at me. I guess people don't get our way of thinking. I just think sometimes
Everlastingev 1 year ago
i think that is a great point because everyone I talked to a psychiatrist she chose to commented on me not wearing make up there. which doesn't make all that much scene because why would I want to go to any effort to look half descent for someone I don't want to see, the funniest thing was that I came straight out of skwl to see her and your not so post to were it. since then I feel a need to were make up more often just so people wont comment on that again
deadyeeeyyy 1 year ago
I feel like people are staring at me too..
but i dont feel good. :/
yellow224 1 year ago
I have ainxiety and I wear makeup esspecaly when I go to the hospital place so ppl don't think that about me. And I belive that u do have the issues that u say u do no matter what u look like. And anyone who said that bs about her on that vid can go f@$# themselves !
chrissicat12 1 year ago
I totally understand about going out and feeling less anxiety when you look your best. I am the same way, I even have days when if I feel really bad about my appearence I cannot go out at all.
sweetcitybaby22 1 year ago
I hope you don't dwell too much on those stupid comments. You are totally gorgeous (makeup or not) but that doesn't mean you have a perfect life. People are quick to judge, I guess it makes them feel superior to do that.
aptharsia 1 year ago
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you are beautiful but that indeed doesnt say how you are inside, I tink that people who think you are "normal" if you look "normal" arent really smart!
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marchovens 1 year ago
I've had that happen to me to, some people are just childish in a way where their naive. u can't understand unless u go through it yourself. I'm one of those people who like to hide how "crazy" I am and not draw that type of attention to myself. so I can understand how hurtful those type of comments are. just like to say thank you very much for your posts and updates, you have no idea how much you help me or even keep me sane, just knowing your not alone really helps.
meloncat1 1 year ago
I can´t believe people said that things to you, i mean that´s plain ignorance.
Like you said, some people with mental dissorders don´t care at all about how they look, but they are usually psychotics.
Great video, i also thing i get judged on how i look and it really bothers me, i´m insecure enough without opinions from others..
Take care
nobodynoticed 1 year ago
People who make comments like that are just plain stupid. Chalk it up to the failing educational system--if one of their graduates can come out and spew such nonsensical diarrhea and believe there's any truth in it.
LondonFalling 1 year ago
NO THEY DONT
1996yazzy 1 year ago
u cant win either way. if u dress up u dnt look crazy. if u dress down u might look 2 crazy. my clothes dont reflect my mood/state of mind. if i'm feelin really depressed i wil jst throw on wot ever. but on my better days i'll put more thought in2 it. i used 2 think i cant go out the house a dressed a certain way cos ppl wil think i'm a tramp! but now i dnt care. if i'm comfortable thats my business. even if i dress nice that doesnt mean i dnt feel sad. i feel conscious either way so i cant win!
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haileeraye 1 year ago
I really appreciated this video. I experience the same sort of "vibe" from people when they find out I've been diagnosed with a mental disorder. It's so hard to be taken seriously just because of my "together" appearance. "You don't judge a book by it's cover" is one of the oldest and most cliche quotes but also the most valuable.
Anyway, thanks again for posting this and take care.
haileeraye 1 year ago
I cant believe you got such comments. Thats really sad. Especially when you feel bad you try to hide it and to look good! I often get judged, too. And if its wearing an Elvis-T-Shirt, which isn´t "crazy" in my opinion. Or for doing my hair in certain ways... I feel comfortable with it and I don´t want to be watched or something. Even if I dress "normal" people would look at me (I think) - why can´t they just ignore or accept it?
pointtop123 1 year ago
love it!!! i concure so much it isn't funny!
aLilSumfinSumfin 1 year ago
i get judged alot, coz i dress "emo" people always assume im depressed.. it pisses me off...
XxcandystarxX 1 year ago
love this vid :)
you're soo right!
breezyboo07 1 year ago
I just want to say that in the medical world, even though it's not true for everybody, mental illness can affect one's hygiene and appearance (like you said in the vid). But there is a connection between the two sometimes, so that's probably why it's in the reports. Seeing as medicine and psychology are sciences, they have to be thourough. (and I totally spelled that wrong..sorry).
I also want to mention that I was glad that you brought up SI. The subject has been going around the community.
jdStarlight 1 year ago
i know this is kinda contradictory to what you were saying but I couldnt help thinking throughout this vid that you would look sooo much better without a fringe!! Sorry! just my opinion!! :p With or without a fringe you are still beautiful anyways! :)
However, i totally agree with what you're saying- you can't judge a book by its cover!! Don't worry about what other people think anyway, everyone has a different idea of the ideal so as long as you are happy thats all that matters in then end.
Frantabulous 1 year ago
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thats the thing with mental illness it IS mental not physical. everyone can smile but not everyone can mean it.
dodont1991 1 year ago
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dodont1991 1 year ago
you complaining people judge how you look your on youtube this is were people come to be judge even if they dont want to
HaveNoFearTomIsHere 1 year ago
You have really pretty skin.
Just thought you would like to know. :)
rockthebassoon 1 year ago
I'm complety obesessed with my cloths.Not the cost, my cloths are not expensive but their not that cheap either. I'm obsessed with how clean my cloths are. I can't wear any item of clothing more than once before washing it and I am super picky about what detergent I use, I'll only use cheer or tide and I always smell like clean laundry
mexicanmayhem07 1 year ago
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Xsullengirlx you weren’t rambling you were speaking the truth. As someone with BPD and depression I agree with and can relate to what you said. Personally, I use my appearance to mask my low moods as the fear of ‘looking crazy’ is always on my mind. I work hard to make sure I look ‘normal’ so people will think I am feeling okay. So I just want to second your statement, its true when it comes to the mentally ill you can’t really know how mentally healthy a person is just by looking at them.
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